Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 1 
 It’s not what happens around us, or to us, but within us that really count s, but 
when it comes to applying it. Problems arise in communication when; p eople do not communicate  truthfully . I observed that most p eople:  
1. Live in either past or future. 2. Take a pill to cure things  
3. Dissatisfied with themselves  
4. Chase success but seem never satisfied  
5. Always wanting more of this or that : possessions  
6. Suffer from unnatural fears called phobias  
7. Do not love self  
8. Cannot love others  
 
Why do so many go to therapists for help? 1. Anger  
2. Procrastination  
3. Anxiety  
4. Self contempt  
a. All are neurotic behaviors  
 
Why do we use up our precious moments for living by worrying about something 
which we cannot do anything about? It is pointless. Guilt :  if you do something that you disli ke, such as use bad language to your 
parents, you close your eyes and just feel guilty for one minute and then release  it 
and go about your day. Guilt is a sign to change your behavior and thinking process. A good solution: Live only in the present momen t! When people are living fully in the moment there is no need to cause hurt or pain 
to others. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 2 
 You become obsessed by what you have done or have not yet done, this guilt is 
not reality. It is your mental state. There is no guilt. Learn from your mistakes 
and avoid bad or negative behavior and vow to make a mental note to change it. All the guil t does is STOP  you from correcting your behavior. Guilt thoughts are:  
• Should have  
• Would have  
• Could have  
o thoughts but they are only thoughts  
 
By saying you should have -people are telling other people that they did not do 
something as well as they might have. What purpose is served by rehashing what 
you should or shouldn’t have done? It’s over, done with! Forgive yourself and 
others and move ahead. Why are people afr aid of elevators? It is the attitude people have towards small, 
closed spaces. But in reality elevators scare me is  not true, it’s your thoughts 
that create that reality. What is acrophobia?? It is the fear of heights or high places. First you chos e to think anxiously, and then you blame the results on anxiety 
itself, rather than on your own choices . This thought process behind saying I am 
having this or that attack…  
 
When people assign responsibility for their anxiety to some mythical anxiety 
attack, they need a second myth to correct the original. The second myth is the 
antidote, such as a tranquilizer, will rid them or their imagined anxiety. You have power over what you decide to think. This is your reality. Most people have learned to ma ke an incorrect choice  because it’s easier to 
blame someone else  for their anxiety than to accept responsibility  for it and rid 
themselves of it. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 3 
 People want to avoid taking responsibility for their problems including th eir 
anxiety. This gives them a n excuse when it comes to doing what is necessary to 
change. Wrong way reality  
 
Incorrect choices  
You chose unhappin ess by blaming someone or some thing else for your 
problems, circumstances, etc. HINT:  blame account /Blame bank:  Just take the blame and put it into the blame 
bank or account and leave it there. Let it go. Blaming others let s you avoid having to take risks. It makes it easy to explain why 
they are unfulfilled, and it reduces the options they have t o change. Blaming the poison, rather than themselves for the ill effects. It’s like blaming the 
mirror for what it reflects. How can the stock market control a person’s emotions? I checked into the stock 
market and I found that it has no connection wi th human emotional conditions, 
yet I heard many, many people blaming the market for their unhappiness. People in fact, elect t heir _______________ through self -defeating choices, and 
then blame others for their conditions. Everything seems to be in the blame category. It all seems to boil down to self  
responsibility vs. blaming others. Obviously those who accept responsibility for themselves and live 
their lives are few and far between. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 4 
 Sayings like, “my father’s alcoholism made me what I am today ” are not correct -it 
is an excuse and it is incorrect. Your parent’s where doing what they knew best at 
that time. Excuses are not the answer. People blame everything else so they do not have to change their incorrect 
thinking, which is really the cause of their fears and incorrect thinking. Schools, colleges, parents, etc… tell people to learn to think for themselves, but 
you rarely allow them to do it. Instead you provide them with an education that 
discourages decision making at every turn. You give them lessons on becoming 
self confident and then take away the very experiences that would lead to that 
end. At night homes have TV programs that show them how to pursue th e exact 
opposite of self -esteem . Conforming is instilled rather than be ing independent or creative. You make 
being an independent thinker extremely difficult, particularly for young people. In order to be progressive in life you have to be independent . Thinking and have new ideas. You make such a big thing about progress and then 
do everything possible to stand in the way of the only people who can bring it 
about those how think for themselves and are not afraid of new ideas. You cannot  ever grow into a self respecting adult if you are learning to co nform  
and fit in. If you are just like everyone else, then what do you have to offer? If you want young people to be disciplined you  must teach t hem from the earliest 
moment of their lives to become their own person. Stop trying to please everyone else. Finally , the idea o f respecting your elder 
makes no more sense than the reverse that  is, respecting your juniors. Respect is 
earned, and being older or younger  is not relevant. It’s as if the ads; media, TV etc have  a conspiracy  to keep people neurotic in  order 
to maintain the economy . When people think  like conformist, they all go out and 
buy the right things so they can be just like everyone else. It helps the economy 
when people are con vinced  that they can purchase  sex a ppeal  and many people 
benefit when dependency  and self --depreciation are encouraged . Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 5 
  
Those with little or no confidence in themselves, and no 
innovative ideas, become servants to those who give the 
orders. Then those in charge, who are equally afflicted with self -doubt, 
conspire to create an entire society of unhappy conformists. Victimized by others and they defended their actions with “it’s only my job” or 
“everyone else does it” so you create jobs of conformism and the systems seems 
to work. We must stop thinking about what is not working and why. In the little time left 
we have on earth we should always seek solutions. All problems stem from the way you teach your children to think. If you are ev er 
going to achieve true evolution as people, you must somehow break the “thinking 
chain” that keeps you in behavioral bonds. Three types of people exsist:  
1. Let’s make it happen? 2. It can’t happen? 3. What happened? 4. If you change your thinking then you can imp rove your world and make it 
really work for everyone. The problems that arise in:  
politics, religion, education, families, business, the military, society, medicine , and 
every form of human enterprise are due to self - programmed unreal thinking. • Thinking incorrectly  
• Un correct thinking  
• Thinking is out of focus, or blurred thinking which lead to self destructive 
thoughts. • Out of focus. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 6 
 A rule thinker  is one who does what they are told, regardless of the situatio n.   
Rules oriented thinking places the responsibility for behavior on the rule, rather 
than the individual. When rules, laws, and policies are held accountable as the 
cause of human thinking, ethics must take a back seat. When people base their behavio r on what others tell t hem is correct, ethical 
thinking is almost impossible and the opportunity for fulfillment and happiness is 
taken away. Happiness is an inner experience,  rules are outer experiences . Ethics are inner 
rules which never allow a perso n to behave in a way that would be harmful to  
others. Ethical thinking -would teach people how to think for themselves. The need for so many rules for almost every facet of your lives would be 
eliminated. You have  rules  for virtually everything, including when you can have a 
beer, what god will do to you if you are not obeying the laws, and even what  
courses you must take in schools . How can people learn to become decision makers if all 
decisions are already make for t hem by the rules and policies 
that you seem to rely upon so heavily? Domination thinking  involves victimizing or controlling others. Muc h of the 
thinking I have noted is directed toward the defeat of others, whether it is nation 
defeat  nation, parents th eir offspring , or sp ouses each other . Ther e is almost a 
universal  obsession here  with attempts to control and dominate. When thinking  
is directed at seeing how much one can control others, it  cannot be focused on 
personal happiness and self direction. The solution is to try to learn from others rather than control or manipulate them. Knowledge thinking  says that anything you learn can benefit you and enrich your 
life. Achievement thinking  says that you must be able to measure, weigh, or 
spend what you study and that it will be manifested later when the fruits of your 
study of behavior are  to be picked. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 7 
 Physical and mental illnesses are almost nonexistent  when a person  learns  to 
think in in ner serenity ways. Your highest achievers , your most fulfilled people , 
your most pioneering minds  in all fields seem to share this inner peace thinking, 
and yet so few emulate it. Instead, they substitute for it the pursuit of things, 
achievements, award s, trophies, or the approval of others. The solution is to “Transform your thinking!”  
 
• Quality instead of Appearance thinking. • Ethics instead of Rules thinking. • Knowledge instead of Achievement thinking  
• Integrity instead of Domination thinking  
• Serenity  instead of Acquisitions thinking. Getting religious services “over with ” is not a healthy signal when you are trying 
to cultivate individual integrity and morality. What you have done with religion on your planet is to completely turn around 
what started out as an  opportunity to  help mankind to look inward an d by so 
doing develop personal standards of conduct that would make the world a better 
place. Religion has become a catechism of guilt, worry, rear and anxiety . Man 
has used religious affilia tion to act out his own wrong, self destructive , power 
hungry thinking, and then called the conforming behavior that follows such 
dogmas “religion.”  
You cannot read a newspaper anywhere without seeing the evidence. You see 
wars and executions in the name  of God  ! You see murder and stealing, 
skyjacking and terr orism, all in the name of God! What do you see as a benefit of religion? It provides people with areas for self - examination. It provides stimulation for the 
soul and helps people examine their l ife choices. It helps them see how they can 
improve the quality of life on earth. Religion can be an avenue for human 
expression that encourages self development and appreciation for the because of 
your marvelous universe. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 8 
 Instead of forcing people to practice religion that tells them how to think, 
encourage them to think for themselves. That is the most religiously freeing 
experience possible on earth. Rather than imposing rules, laws and dogma on 
your parishioners, you should be asking them to begin  taking moral responsibility 
for their own lives. Instead of measuring religious behavior in terms of eternal 
symbols, I would measure it by how well each person is able to realize his own 
potential for individual morality. The kingdom of heaven is withi n, that is the 
message. I see that it is possible to live happily and fully with or without profits and money 
on your planet. I feel that working for money itself - is self defeating because it 
teaches  that acquisi tions, achievement and appearances  are the reasons  for 
working. These things can never bring about fulfillment. Work is the only way to feel purposeful and fulfilled. Work provides a stimulating 
avenue for actualizing yourself . By working for money, or even for what it can buy, is another dead end 
proposition. A mistaken assumption is that business minded people would love everyone to 
believe is that money provides you with a better avenue for achieving inner 
happiness. People sacrifice  by doing things they dislike, such as staying in a routine job, or  
living in a city they do not like, in the name of responsibility or the pursuit of 
happiness. Money has nothing to do with it. People believe that success came from the job, mon ey, luck, the lack of a 
recession, or something else that is external. They look outside themselves, and 
that is not right. If you pursue your own ideals and enjoy what you do because that is how you 
choose to think, success will come to you in ways and abundance beyond your 
dreams. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 9 
 Success will arrive in your life in whatever form you need it. All your creative 
geniuses, i ncluding, a rtists, musicians, architects,  writers, actors, chefs, designers, 
mechanics do not do what they do  for money , even though it may appear that 
way to you. The actual act of doing whatever it is that you do should provide 
satisfaction to you inde pendently of any external reward. The pay is a  
 bonus. The bonuses arrive when you stop focusing on them and turn your 
thoughts to enjoying your life and what you are doing in the moment. I would  encourage management to focus on what they can do to mak e all work 
personally fulfilling. The secret is to  try to find jo y and seren ity within themselves 
and ta ke that energy into everything they do. Most have the “disease of more…”  
More is the sickness that keeps people from ever arriving at now. Once yo u believe your values derive from what you accomplish, then it must also 
follow that when you fail to accomplish, then you have no value. Hence you see 
people all over who when their profit pictures turn sour, become depressed, even 
to the point of needin g treatment from others who are suffering from “more ”. I 
have observed human’s feelings useless when they retire because they believe 
they are what they do. You only grow when you fail. Many  businessmen say that the most important things in the lives are their 
family, loved ones…yet spent almost no time with them . They were busy 
accumulating money, which they must have believe d would provide that 
happiness. Still their marriages were breaking up and they were clearly strange to 
their own children. I ronically, they had no time to be with the very people they 
described as most important to them. You see their thinking is in error. This “money lust ” seems to run rampant, all for nothing. People just think 
incorrectly and raise their children to do the same exact thing. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 10 
 Children in schools:  it is a known fact that most individuals who display any 
creativity or free thinking seem to be perceived as threats and trouble makers. It’s like the people who conform the best, to those who please their teache rs or 
do their assignments quickly and neatly are rewarded and praised. There are few 
rewards for independent thinking and in fact in most instances it appears; 
punishment follows. A child who is truly independent of the need for approval, 
who shows no signs of guilt or anxiety about it, is considered a troublemaker. A child who refuses to be just like everybody else is signaled out and asked to feel 
guilty and repent. Yet these qualities of being guilt free, independent, and free 
thinking are what yo u label as no limit or self actualized behaviors. Again, it just 
seems unreal to me to find you stating one thing as an educational objective and 
doing exactly the opposite. The problems start when as children the students are told to sit in their assig ned 
seats and quietly do as they are told. This leads straight to the incorrect, neurotic 
thinking . It is not a question of proper or improper environment. It simply is not a learning 
environment. You know each person is unique and special. How can you tap that uniqueness when each child is treated the same exact way? Here, society teaches students the same way; the same amount of time, and call 
those who can learn exactly that way the fastest the smartest. In my reality, 
being able to assimilate something faster than someone else has to do with one 
thing, speed. The educational logic guarantees there will always be average and 
below average students. Our society insists that everyone conform to a standard 
norm. You teach all your young people to think and act alike. But what do you 
have to offer your world if you a re just like everybody else? You insure this 
through the insane pursuit of grades; those educational merit badges you 
dispense on report cards and transcripts. These are the real obsessions of 
educators here, not knowledge and self -discovery, but the pur suit of those 
external rewards called grads. These grades have been elevated to the biggest 
status and have nothing to do with being educated in reality. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 11 
 A grade is an external mark. It signifies for an individual that he or she has 
participated in the  game of education. Knowledge is an inner mark. It is reflected 
in: 
1) How you feel about what you have learned. 2) How it aids you in pursuing your ideas . 3) What you as a person can do with that knowledge. Knowledge breeds self awareness : grades b reed self deception. A grade on a 
transcript has nothing to do with reality. It is a symbol of having conformed, and 
even here where people misperceive their  reality so regularly, grads still have  very 
little relation  to reality. Nobody  looks a t a transcript two years after college , and 
certainly you wouldn’t want to assess grownup  person’s  ability on the basis OF AN 
ACADEMIC TRANSCRIPT. The person who receives  all As only a year ago might fail 
every one of those same examinations today. Today it is h ow well you currently 
produce that earns you respect and personal advancement. It is known that even 
if you have great grades you can fail in the real world today. It is often the ones 
who do not do well in grades that do so well in the world today. When you place a person in a system in which the reward is the grade it is 
unrelated to the actual learning activity, motivation is lowered. For example, if 
you give an A to a person who read five books, or completes fifty pushups, a B for 
four books and f orty pushups  and so o down the line, who do you think will ever 
want to read a hundred books or do a thousand pushups? Almost no one -that is 
who! The system says, strive for the reward and work only when you are being 
rewarded, since the reward for an A has nothing to do in reality with either; 
reading or pushups, then motivation will cease when the reward is achieved. SO how could it be changed? First, the rewards for learning must be aligned with the actual activity of learning. The reward for read ing is not located on a transcript, it’s within a person. It’s the 
joy of being able to comprehend life through writers, the thrill of getting lost in a 
novel or discovering and applying a new idea; the freedom one achieves by being 
able to experience wha t others have thought; the inner glow and self - satisfaction 
of reading for personal growth. These are the rewards of reading. Similarly, the Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 12 
 personal sense of accomplishment one feels when they are in good physical 
condition, the glorious feeling that c omes from being physically fit, the ability to 
climb stairs without pausing to catch your breath, to run without feeling 
exhausted, to eat and sleep peacefully, to bask in your own self pride at being 
superbly healthy these are the rewards for doing push -ups. When you begin to 
align your rewards in education with the actual educational activity, motivation 
will increase and apathy will decline, and no one moment before. What about the role of teachers>? No One can teach you anything, you make a 
decision to know what you know, and any experienced teacher will tell you that 
when confronted with a student who has decided not to know something, such as 
algebra, no amount of teaching is going to get that algebra across. That is your 
reality. When a student d ecided to learn algebra, no amount of teacher 
interference will alter that decision. It seems to me that all people have the inner 
capacity to learn anything either with the aid of, of in spite of, teachers. Truly 
great teachers understand this, and deli berately go about their business of 
providing a unique environment for individuals to make chooses to learn. Furthermore, they emphasize learning for mastery, rather than striving for 
grades. See in mastery the goad of education is to mater the curricul um. How 
long it takes is quite irrelevant. It means s that individuals take test when they 
are ready to see how much they have mastered, rather than on a test day set 
aside for everyone. Mastery means no punishment for being slower or faster at 
masteri ng a subject. Mastery means that when you acquire knowledge, you get 
inner satisfaction , plus the A if you need the grade for record keeping purposes. The results are personal satisfaction and inner pride, and one receives a grade of 
Mastery when they de monstrated mastery of the material. In a mastery system, 
people want to help each other, rather than compete for the few trophies that 
educators make available in for of grades, honor societies and so on. Students 
have freedom to develop in areas of pers onal interest and explore challenging 
subject without fear of railing. Cooperation rather than competition is the style of 
learning and cheating is impossible. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 13 
  
This world is composed of people competing against each other. While 
competition without scorn on a playground is fun and healthy, in the real worked 
it breed s antagonisms, hatreds, nationalism, and theories of racial superiority. The schools are the one place where you can begin to foster a sense of working 
together. The purpose of an exam  is not to reward or punish, but to help young 
people assess their personal progress. These would be replaced by a healthy 
atmosphere of cooperation and helping. If this same quality were transferred to 
governments, you would end most of the petty squabb les and power plays that 
create wars and bitter hatreds. As an example, I was raised Catholic, Irish and went to Private schools. I was told 
to obey my parents, do what I was told. I was told to listen to the teachers and all 
authority figures (all ad ults older than I). When I grew up I learned to despise all 
learning activities because they are associated with rigid authoritarian thinking. In the end, yes I obeyed AND did very well in schools. I hated to learn and 
memorize anything. When I grew up  I rebelled for awhile; (that is for another 
story). Then I made up my own mind that I wanted to pay for my own college and 
attend and get all A’s. I did just that. I went into the Paralegal field and loved 
every class and gave 110%. It does make a dif ference when you pay for your own 
education. I did follow protocol in schools, and in the employment industry and what I find is 
that too many people are following a “system.”  There is no creativity or 
independent thinking. This is where the world or  corporations lack. This is why 
so many open their own businesses. I have never been one, to be told what to 
do. I am sure none of those reading this want to be told what to do! This is my 
rebellion in play. In my opinion, rules did not make me who I am today. It is 
important to follow them but not let the “systems” of today “take control of your 
life.”   
 
I am going to submit this to a few things and see if anyone agrees or talks to me 
about this document. I have much more to say if anyone is inte rested. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 14
Wayne_Dyer_Notes.txt
Summarize the following text section accurately and concisely. Maintain specific details and numerical information, and use anti-repetition mechanisms:

        Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 1 
 It’s not what happens around us, or to us, but within us that really count s, but 
when it comes to applying it. Problems arise in communication when; p eople do not communicate  truthfully. I observed that most p eople:  
1. Live in either past or future. 2. Take a pill to cure things  
3. Dissatisfied with themselves  
4. Chase success but seem never satisfied  
5. Always wanting more of this or that : possessions  
6. Suffer from unnatural fears called phobias  
7. Do not love self  
8. Cannot love others  
 
Why do so many go to therapists for help. 1. Anger  
2. Procrastination  
3. Anxiety  
4. Self contempt  
a. All are neurotic behaviors  
 
Why do we use up our precious moments for living by worrying about something 
which we cannot do anything about. It is pointless. Guilt :  if you do something that you disli ke, such as use bad language to your 
parents, you close your eyes and just feel guilty for one minute and then release  it 
and go about your day. Guilt is a sign to change your behavior and thinking process. A good solution: Live only in the present momen t. When people are living fully in the moment there is no need to cause hurt or pain 
to others. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 2 
 You become obsessed by what you have done or have not yet done, this guilt is 
not reality. It is your mental state. There is no guilt. Learn from your mistakes 
and avoid bad or negative behavior and vow to make a mental note to change it. All the guil t does is STOP  you from correcting your behavior. Guilt thoughts are:  
• Should have  
• Would have  
• Could have  
o thoughts but they are only thoughts  
 
By saying you should have -people are telling other people that they did not do 
something as well as they might have. What purpose is served by rehashing what 
you should or shouldn’t have done. It’s over, done with. Forgive yourself and 
others and move ahead. Why are people afr aid of elevators. It is the attitude people have towards small, 
closed spaces. But in reality elevators scare me is  not true, it’s your thoughts 
that create that reality. What is acrophobia. It is the fear of heights or high places. First you chos e to think anxiously, and then you blame the results on anxiety 
itself, rather than on your own choices. This thought process behind saying I am 
having this or that attack…  
 
When people assign responsibility for their anxiety to some mythical anxiety 
attack, they need a second myth to correct the original. The second myth is the 
antidote, such as a tranquilizer, will rid them or their imagined anxiety. You have power over what you decide to think. This is your reality. Most people have learned to ma ke an incorrect choice  because it’s easier to 
blame someone else  for their anxiety than to accept responsibility  for it and rid 
themselves of it. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 3 
 People want to avoid taking responsibility for their problems including th eir 
anxiety. This gives them a n excuse when it comes to doing what is necessary to 
change. Wrong way reality  
 
Incorrect choices  
You chose unhappin ess by blaming someone or some thing else for your 
problems, circumstances, etc. HINT:  blame account /Blame bank:  Just take the blame and put it into the blame 
bank or account and leave it there. Let it go. Blaming others let s you avoid having to take risks. It makes it easy to explain why 
they are unfulfilled, and it reduces the options they have t o change. Blaming the poison, rather than themselves for the ill effects. It’s like blaming the 
mirror for what it reflects. How can the stock market control a person’s emotions. I checked into the stock 
market and I found that it has no connection wi th human emotional conditions, 
yet I heard many, many people blaming the market for their unhappiness. People in fact, elect t heir _______________ through self -defeating choices, and 
then blame others for their conditions. Everything seems to be in the blame category. It all seems to boil down to self  
responsibility vs. blaming others. Obviously those who accept responsibility for themselves and live 
their lives are few and far between. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 4 
 Sayings like, “my father’s alcoholism made me what I am today ” are not correct -it 
is an excuse and it is incorrect. Your parent’s where doing what they knew best at 
that time. Excuses are not the answer. People blame everything else so they do not have to change their incorrect 
thinking, which is really the cause of their fears and incorrect thinking. Schools, colleges, parents, etc… tell people to learn to think for themselves, but 
you rarely allow them to do it. Instead you provide them with an education that 
discourages decision making at every turn. You give them lessons on becoming 
self confident and then take away the very experiences that would lead to that 
end. At night homes have TV programs that show them how to pursue th e exact 
opposite of self -esteem. Conforming is instilled rather than be ing independent or creative. You make 
being an independent thinker extremely difficult, particularly for young people. In order to be progressive in life you have to be independent. Thinking and have new ideas. You make such a big thing about progress and then 
do everything possible to stand in the way of the only people who can bring it 
about those how think for themselves and are not afraid of new ideas. You cannot  ever grow into a self respecting adult if you are learning to co nform  
and fit in. If you are just like everyone else, then what do you have to offer. If you want young people to be disciplined you  must teach t hem from the earliest 
moment of their lives to become their own person. Stop trying to please everyone else. Finally, the idea o f respecting your elder 
makes no more sense than the reverse that  is, respecting your juniors. Respect is 
earned, and being older or younger  is not relevant. It’s as if the ads; media, TV etc have  a conspiracy  to keep people neurotic in  order 
to maintain the economy. When people think  like conformist, they all go out and 
buy the right things so they can be just like everyone else. It helps the economy 
when people are con vinced  that they can purchase  sex a ppeal  and many people 
benefit when dependency  and self --depreciation are encouraged. Notes from Dr Wayne Dyer Gifts from Eykis  ©2009 Author Jackie Paulson  
 
Gifts from Eykis  Page 5 
  
Those with little or no confidence in themselves, and no 
innovative ideas, become servants to those who give the 
orders. Then those in charge, who are equally afflicted with self -doubt, 
conspire to create an entire society of unhappy conformists. Victimized by others and they defended their actions with “it’s only my job” or 
“everyone else does it” so you create jobs of conformism and the systems seems 
to work. We must stop thinking about what is not working and why. In the little time left 
we have on earth we should always seek solutions. All problems stem from the way you teach your children to think. If you are ev er 
going to achieve true evolution as people, you must somehow break the “thinking 
chain” that keeps you in behavioral bonds. Three types of people exsist:  
1. Let’s make it happen.
The importance of taking responsibility for one's own life, and not blaming others or external factors for one's problems.
What is the main theme of the author's message?
The author believes that religion has been misused to control people and promote conformity, rather than encouraging personal growth and self-discovery.
What is the author's stance on the role of religion in society?
The author criticizes the education system for promoting conformity, competition, and external rewards (grades), and suggests that it should focus on individualized learning and mastery, rather than grades and competition.
What is the author's view on the education system?
The author suggests that one should acknowledge and release guilt, rather than dwelling on it, and instead focus on personal growth and self-awareness.
What is the author's advice on dealing with guilt?
The author argues that external validation (grades, trophies, etc.) is not the key to fulfillment, and instead, one should focus on personal growth, self-awareness, and mastery, rather than external rewards.
What is the author's message on the concept of "achievement"?