After the  sexual  energ y has been  raised  to a high  intensit y by
thrusting  and drawing it up  the spine  on the route  of the  Micr ocosmic
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Orbit  with the Orgas mic Dra w and the Big Draw , the Yin-Yang
exchange  can begin  to happe n in many different  ways. Fig. 8.43  Fusion  of the Microcosmic  Orbits
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(1) Joining  the Two Microcosmic  Orbits
    In the begin ning the energy  exchang e between lovers  may seem
to be  chaotic  and occurrin g between any two points  of bodily  contact. As yo u grow more accusto med to the ener gy gained  by stopping
the man’s e jaculation,  you will begin  to discri minate  the clearly
defined  channels  of the Microcosmic Orbit  rising  up the spine  and
descendin g the front  of the body . During  the plateau  phase  of
lovemaking  you may feel a warm flowing curre nt passing  betw een
your vagina  and his penis  and betw een your lips. These  are two individual  Micr ocosmic Orbits  joined  into one larger
flow circling  your two bodies. (Fig. 8.43)  This experienc e will greatly
enhance  the balance  of energ y in both  lovers  and deepe n the bond
of loving  in their life. The Chi flo w is increased  in am plitude;  you
may even  feel like  a warm electric  current  is passing  between you. This effect often  occurs  in lovers  in good  health,  who have  practiced
the Orgas mic Dra w and the Big Draw , after  only a few love making
sessions. Both  the man’s and  woman‘s  Microc osmic circuits  can be joined
in a number  of differen t ways. The most common is the  intersectio n
of their  two circular  Orbits  at the  mouths and genitals,  form ing a
Figure  eight. The Figure  eight  can cross  as the Micr ocosmic energ y
drawn by the man up his spine is passed  into the woman  through
his tongue,  which acts like an  electrical  switch. The male energ y
then enters  her Microcosmic Orbit  and travels  down her front,  or
Functional  Channel,  and dow n through  her vagina,  into his penis
and back  up his  spine. The w oman  circulates  her Orbit  in a parallel  fashion,  up her
back channel  and down his front channel,  before  it reent ers her
body  at the  vagina  and proceeds  back to  her perineum and  spine. This is the sim plest w ay to direct  this level of  exchange  of Yin and
Yang energy . Each  couple  can play  with different  Figure  eight  patter ns of
exchange. At first y ou may verbally  tell y our lover  what you are
concentrati ng on. Later  as y ou become m ore sensitive  to your own
and your lover’s  energ y, the Chi exchange  itself w ill beco me a silent
languag e, punctua ted by the pleasure  of sending  a tingling  warm
current  into y our lover  the Figure  eight  may  cross  at your mouths
only, or at your genitals. It may snake  arou nd your Governor
Channels,  up your spine  and down his, or vice  versa. - 274  -Chapter  VIII
   At this level  many couples  experie nce spontane ous openi ngs
of som e of the eight  special  psychic chann els taught  in the  Fusion
of the  Five  Elements Me ditatio n of theUniversal  Tao. (Fig. 8.44)
These channels  include  the positive  and negative  arm and  leg
routes,  the Belt Routes  spiraling  around  the body  and the Thrusting
Route  up the center  of the  body. Do not be alarmed if your energy
begins  moving in wa ys you are not accusto med to. Man y lovers
experience  a column of energ y rising  on a line  midway betw een
their bodies. If this is yo ur experienc e, simply relax  and enjoy the
interplay  of these  subtle  energi es. Som e couples  report  the Chi
shooting  up to  the top of  their  heads  and show ering down a fountain
of “necta r”. Others  feel as though  wrapped in a cocoon  with their
lover  with lines  of invisible  energ y being  spun  aroun d them . Fig. 8.44  Spontaneous  Opening  of the Nine Belt  Routes during
            Heightened  State s of Energy  Arousal
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   When you have  opened  all your psychic  channels  and you know
what is possible  in term s of energy  exchanges,  you will then  be
free to choose  the path  of expressin g your love  at w ill. It is interesti ng
that lovers  who know nothing  of these  esoteric  methods  sometimes
have  similar experiences  during  normal sex. Althoug h unable  to
exchange  energy  at will, they  do kno w the sensations  first- hand
from the  spontane ous opening  of their  subtle  ener gy channels. The
Taoist practices  of Healing  Love  are designe d to focus your
awareness on the  infinite  possibilities  that lie within you. This
concentrat ed awareness is wh at sponta neously sparks  these
experiences  of divine  ener gy exchange . In this sense  love  is
universally  the path  to the greatest  freedom: thus,  the more y ou
share  with your lover;  the more choices  are open  to you. 5. Cultivating the  Valley Orgasm
   The Valle y Orgas m is a true fusion  of two lovers’ beings,  shared
in an  intensified  and balanced  way. As an even  higher  experie nce
of Yin Yang exchang e that goes  beyond the Microcosmic, it may
occur  spontane ously in any  couple  dedicate d to expanding  their
love and  spiritual  awareness. No techniqu e can guaran tee it will
happen,  but the methods taught  here  vastly  increase  the prob ability
of a couple  enjoyi ng regular  Valley Orgas ms durin g lovem aking. It
is a state  of prolonge d orgasm, the  balancing  of Yin and Yang, a
function  of opposites,  a me lting. However do not  be disappoint ed if
you learn  to block  ejaculation  and master the Orgasmic Draw  and
Big Draw , but do not soon  have  a Valle y Orgas m. This happe ns
frequentl y and should  be expected,  especially  in a stressful  urban
setting  where there  are so ma ny distractin g forces  working against
the sustained  balance  of subtle  energies. A.Cultivation in  the Three  Tan Tiens
   During  a Valley  Orgasm the lovers  simultaneousl y experience
an opening  of a specific  energ y center. This releases  a tremendous
energy  that is trul y thrilling  as it radiates  to fill ever y cell of  your
body  and joins y ou with your lover. The Hindus  call these  centers
“chakras”. The Taoists refer  to them  as low er middle and  upper
Tan T iens,  and locate  them  in the  abdo men,  heart,  and head. (Fig. 8-45)
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Fig. 8.45  Taoist Practices of Healing  Love open  the Wa y to experience
                        the Greatest Freedom. - 277  -Dual Cultivation
    In truth,  the entire  body is one  Tan Tien, or ener gy center  but in
practice  it is easier  to learn  with smaller vortexes  of energ y until
you can handle  the greater  pow er. The seque nce of opening  them
is generall y to start  with the lowest center  and move up. If  the highe r
centers  open  before  the lo wer ones,  the energ y may be unstable
and short- lived. In that  case  the lovers  should  direct  their  highe r
energy  into the  lower centers  to create  a more grou nded polarit y. Filling  the lo wer body with higher  energi es will lend  greate r fullness
to the  feeling  of intimacy  and create  a greate r founda tion for future
exploration  of the  spiritual  world of the two lovers. By  opening  these  energ y centers  you transform y our sexual
essence  into spirit. The Valley  Orgasm is actually  a fusion  of Ching,
Chi and  Shen  (sexual,  life-force  and spiritual  energ y) in two lovers. (Fig. 8.46)  All three  are normally prese nt in every one, but in a divided
and weakened state. The tw o lovers  can suppl y energies  missing
in their  partne r and bring  out recessive  energies  with the simple
presence  of the  opposite  subtle  polar  ener gy. When you open  a
new ener gy center  your mind m akes a leap  in awareness by fusing
these  three  in a spontan eous  alchem ical process. Your own spirit
is purified  and is one step closer  to beco ming  centere d in your
body . It is im portant  to know  that these  centers  cannot  be forced
open,  any more than a child  can sudde nly be forced  to grow up. There  are natural  stages. That is wh y you must relax  to entice  the
Tan T iens to open;  then  you will experience  a Valle y Orgas m as a
spontane ous gift, a  sparkling  jewel bestow ed upon  you by the Tao. This state has  been  described  as one  of profoun d clarit y and
serenity  but even  these  phrases  are insufficient  to conve y its deep
beauty  and truth. B. Cultivati on of Deep Relaxation
    The mo re deeply  you learn  to relax during  the Yin-Yang exchang e,
the more deepl y you can surrend er yourself to your lover  the more
likely  you are to reach  the balance  of polar  forces  neede d to open
each  center. This process  happens  in a split  second,  but can take
months or  years of subtle  fine tuning  of ener gy between lovers. That is w hy a commitment is usuall y neede d to get to  the higher
levels of  Dual Cultivation- -it requir es a great  deal  of time to
understa nd the pla y of subtle  forces,  and to refine  your more gross
physical and emotional  energies. - 278  -Chapter  VIII
Fig. 8.46 Bringing  Sexu al Energy to  the Kidneys
C. Develo pment of a Strong Nervous System
   Your nervous  system must also  be strong  enou gh to handle  the
increased  flow of Chi experience d during  a Valle y Orgas m. An y Tai
Chi, Y oga, Chi Kung  or other  purif ying meditative  work is invaluabl e
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in developin g this kind of  strength  as it speeds  up and clarifies the
process. D. Mental Sp iraling of the Energy
    The Valle y Orgas m can  happen  when both  lovers  have
harmonized  their will power and their  breathin g during  the Yin-Yang
exchange. The energ y is flow ing betw een the man and  woman  as
they collectively  focus  their  attentio ns on each  center. It helps  to
mentally  spiral  the energ y in a three -inch diameter  circle  (male
clockw ise, female counter  clockw ise) at a point  about  three  inches
inside  the body  near  each  center  You should  experiment  with the
location  of the point  you focus  on, as som e people  find the energy
is more po werful a little  closer  to the  spine. The Chi energy  likes to mo ve in a spiraling  motion; therefo re, by
mentally  spiraling  at ke y points,  you may trigge r the release  of a far
more po werful Valley  Orgasm. This spiraling  movement of  the Chi
itself is caused  by the interaction  of ma le and female energi es. This can be  seen  geometrically  in the symbol  of the  female--the
circle, and  that of  the male--a  straight  line with an arrowhead. The
fusion  of these  two signs is a spiral:  a circular  energy  containin g a
linear  energ y moving toward the center  of the  circle. When a ma n
and woma n make love,  the same thing  occurs:  the Yang Chi enters
the circle of  the Yin Chi. The Chi fuses,  and the circle  of energ y
expands  and spirals  upward throug h both  bodies. The energ y will
naturall y travel  in a sequenc e, spiraling  throug h the follow ing centers. (1) Navel Center,  or Lower  Tan Tien
   Man y routes  of the  body  join at  the navel  center  or lower Tan
Tien. When the  navel  is open,  all routes  in the  body will be joined. You will regain  something  of the  terrific  vitalit y of the  new born baby
for its energy  has been  fed to  it by the mother throug h the navel. (2) So lar Plexus
    The solar  plexus  controls  the digestive  system, sto mach, spleen
and liver. This w ill greatly  strengt hen your health  and will. At the
solar  plexus  center  the pow er is mu ch strong er purer  and
widespread. However you must first open  the navel  for the  power
to flo w up. - 280  -Chapter  VIII
(3) Heart Center,  or Mid dle Tan Tien
   Important  to strength ening the heart,  lungs and thymus  gland
and to am plify your power of love,  sympath y and rejuvenatio n is
your heart  center. This is the center  of the mi ddle Tan Tien, and
extends  into the areas  immediately above  and below  it. Fig. 8.47  The Vallrey  Orgasm is actu ally the fusion  of Ching  (Essential
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(4) Throat
   The throat  energy  center  is the  thyroid gland  and is the energy ’s
doorway between man and  heaven . Since it controls  speech,  it is
also kno wn as the center. (5) Yin- Tang,  or Third  Eye
   The Y in-Yang, or third  eye, is located  betw een the eyebrows,
and controls  the nervous  system and  soul. Its development  calms
the person  and lessens  the influence  of stress  and fear. (6) Pai-Hui  (Crown)  or Upper Tan  Tien
   Finall y direct  the pow er to the Pai- Hui, the  crow n, the center  of
spiritual  knowledge, and the door way to higher  spiritual  evolution. 6. Valley Orgasm Su mmary
   a. First ma ke love activel y using  three  or six shallo w strokes  for
each  deep  one,  or nine  shallo w and one deep. b. Stop thrusting  when you feel y ou are appro achin g orgasm. Use the  Orgas mic Up ward Draw , or your male partne r the Big Dra w,
to bring  pow er up to the  Pai- Hui  (crow n). c. Em brace  and synchronize  the breathin g. Place  yourselv es in
comfortable  positions  without undue  stress  on the limbs. d. Open  the Microcosmic Orbit  by directing  your Chi arou nd the
circuit w ith the power of thoug ht. e. Exchange  pow er by circulatin g your energ y in and  arou nd
your entw ined bodies  using  meditation. Focus  your attentio n on
the polar  balance  of energ y in your lower Tan Tien. W hen the  power
builds,  move it up ward in a w ave toward your middle and upper
Tan T ien. f. W hen your energ y has been  transformed  up, or you feel the
loss of  50 perce nt of your arousal,  start to  thrust  again  if you wish
and build  up more energ y, keeping  the urog enital  diaphragm closed,
and stopping  before  ejaculation. g. Exchange  pow er several  times. Each  time try  to bring  the
energy  up to  increasingl y higher  centers,  meditating  on each  Tan
Tien for as long  as you feel com fortable. The exchangin g practice  is a me ntal and spiritual  operati on. The
higher  ener gy in woman  is different  from ma n, a study  that mer its
a com plete  undert aking  and is projected  for a later  volume. - 282  -Chapter  VIII
E. Helpful Hints
   Man y women  who have  partne rs will want to share  the techniqu es
learned  here  with their  partners  to enhanc e their  mutual
experiences. The follo wing are som e helpful  hints  in sharing  the
practice. 1. For Lesbian Couple s
    Women who share  these  techniques  with their  wome n partn ers
will find it eas y to communicate  the infor mation,  since they both
practice  the sam e exercises. One  area  that the Taoists  claim is
important  is the  polarity  of Yin and Yang. For Valley  Orgasm to be
experience d, the Taoists sa y that the polarity  of Yin and Yang work
together  to produce  a synthesis of their  opposing  qualities. If both
partners  are women,  theref ore Yin in natur e, there  may not be
enough  tension,  or magnetic  energ y available  to “lift off:  ‘ as it w ere. One way to increase  the polarizatio n is for  one partne r to acquire
more Y ang energ y. Since the  most Yang source  in our environment
is the  sun, one  partner  can take  more sun,  the absor ption  of w hich
will increas e her Yang energ y. If possible,  she can take  the solar
energy  into her  ovaries  via the  genitals,  if she  has the privacy  to do
this. Other wise, she can  sit in  the sun  and “think,”  or mentally  direct,
the energy  into her ovaries. 2. In Teaching  your Man
   Once  a woman  masters these  techniq ues, she can  more easily
share  the information with her partner . The best  way would be for
him to carefull y read  the instructions  in the companion  volu me,
Taoist Secrets  Of Love: Cultivating Male S exual  Energy. Short  of
that, a woman  should  know  that when teaching  a man, there  are
some essential  differe nces  that must be  considere d.
A. Testicle  Breathing
     Testicle Breathin g is performed  similarly to Ovarian  Breathing. A man has a visible testimony  of his testicles  lifting  up with a
contraction  of the  pubococc ygeal muscle (PC Muscle ). Also,
temperatur e-wise, the ener gy for the man is cool  or cold  (reme mber
the ovarian  energ y during  Ovarian  Breathing  is wa rm). Therefor e,
it is not  necessary  to emphasize  bringing  dow n this energ y into the
navel- -the cool  energ y in his head  will not harm the brain. He is
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welcome, of  course,  to bring  the energy  down to the navel  and
circulate  it in the Micr ocosmic Orbit. B. Big Draw for Men
    Having  a partn er who believes  that withholdin g ejaculation  is an
acceptable  idea  removes  one major obstacle. The will to want to
try this method  is already  a step in the  right  direction,  and you will
soon  have  a partn er with whom to practice  and with whom to
escalate  the pleasure  of sexual contact. Teaching  the Big Draw  to
a ma n is a  matter of  great  magnitude  since  men have  a hard  time
controlling  ejaculation. First of  all, it w ill take  a lot  of solo  practice
before  he feels  com fortable  with his control  over  his ejaculation. With you the additional  excitement ma kes it more difficult  to control. The role  of coach  and trainer,  willing to guide  him throu gh the steps
of the  Big Dra w, will serve  you both  best. We have  received  varying repo rts from  women  students  who
have  helped  to cultivate  the practice  in their  partners. One  described
her experience  as if she w ere at a sporting  event,  rooting  him on,
which made her feel involved  in his Big Draw  and gave  her
something  to do  as she w aited. Another  woma n felt neglected,
noting  that all the  emphasis  was on his Big Dra w. In her  workshop
training  it was emphasized  that the woma n had to be patient  for a
time in order  to help  him. Therefore,  attitude  play s a large  role in
your success. C. Stopping Ejaculation
   The Brauers,  in their  book  ESO: Extended Sexual Orgasm, offer
several  techniqu es for dela ying ejaculation  and orgas m. One  simple
way is for  both  men and  women  to push  down, as though  having  a
bowel movement, and  feel the genitals  bulge. Holding  the breat h
naturall y accompanies  this ma neuver. It seem s to work very
temporarily  however: while you are actuall y bearin g down the sexual
sensations  do not  exist, then  when you inhale  and relax y ou are
almost back  where you started. It is, though,  a chance  to switch
gears  to a different  kind  of stim ulation. Another  technique  to dela y ejaculation  described  in the  Brauers’
book  is called  the “scrotal  pull.”  Its effectiven ess is based  on the
fact that  ejaculation  will not occur  when the testicles  are low rathe r
than being  pressed  against  the body. You can both  learn  how to do
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this. The Bauers  instruct  the man to “grasp  the scrotu m bet ween
your testicles  with the thumb and  forefin ger of your left hand. When
you are near  orgasm, pull firmly down.” Another  way is to  “make a
ring with your left thumb and  forefin ger betw een your testicles and
body  and pull downward.”‘
   The com panion  book  for men, Taoist Secrets  of Love: Cultivating
Male Se xual Energy,  describes  other  helpful  techniques  to dela y
ejaculation  in m en. The “Cold  Water Skinny -Dip” is one  method:
that is, having  a bowl of cold w ater by the bed  for him  to stick his
penis  in if he  wishes to take  a breath er to get  more control  over
himself. Another  technique  is the “Centu ry Count,”  which is counting
to 100  very slowly. Sharing  the techniqu es of the practice  of Healing  Love  promotes
kindness,  underst anding, selflessness,  pleasur e and happin ess in
you and your partner  and is we ll worth the time spent  in learnin g.
Fig. 8.48 Vallrey  Orgasmic  Couple
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Chapter 9
         Inte rview:
Ovarian Kung Fu Pract itione r
The follow ing intervie w with a 43-year-old Ovarian  Kung  Fu
Practitioner  and movement teacher  was conducte d by a Taoist
teacher:  Michael  Winn. Question:  How long  have  you been  practicing  Ovarian  Kung  Fu? Answer:  For three  years. Question:  Did y ou find the techniq ues difficult  to learn? Answer:  I found  them eas y to learn,  especially  since  from the
very beginning  the benefits  were so im mediately  obvious. I was
motivated  to practice,  but it did requir e a certain  amount of time to
completely  embody  them and  make the m a part of my  life. Question:  Did y ou learn  them  alone  or w ith a partne r? Answer:  Initiall y I practiced  alone  having  just ended  a relationshi p.
I immediatel y found  they empowered me with control  of my own
sexual  energy , and rediscovere d sexualit y as a  resource  for
cultivating  myself. Question:  What do you mean b y resource ? Answer:  In the sense  that the Taoists  speak  of cultivating  one’s
nature,  refining  ener gy for personal  and spiritual  development,  with
sexual  energy  being  one raw material  from  which that refinement
is acco mplished. I actuall y had the experie nce of being  able  to direct
my sexual  energ y within my body , and watch it transform my  body
and my em otions. Question:  Did y ou have  a sense  of sexual  energy  as a resourc e
before  you bega n Taoist practices? Answer:  No, not specifically  as a resourc e. I felt confused  after
growing up in this  Western culture  which perpet uates  a sense  of
separatio n of body  and spirit. I am naturally  a very  sensuo us person
and totally  enjoy the ph ysical aspects  of sex. I al ways had a sense
of the  mystical  quality  or spiritual  communion possible  in a sexuall y
and emotionally  intimate relations hip. I longed  for inner  union  and
knew  I would need  to experie nce that union  within myself  before  I
would be able  to experience  it with a partner. This longing  fueled
my spiritual  quest,  leading  me to meditation  and eventuall y to the
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Taoist sexual  practices. Learni ng the Taoist sexual  practices  helped  grou nd my
meditations  in my  body  and in my  daily  relations hips. I wa s attracte d
to them  because  of the value  placed  on harmonizing  heave n and
earth,  spirit  and body. Sexual  energ y beca me for  me a valuable
resource  as a  fuel for  my spiritual  journey . I discovered  I could
enjoy sex and  transform it into  spiritual  ener gy at the same ti me. The pleasure  of sex  actually  beca me more intense  and exquisite. Pleasur e became ecstas y and ecstasy  grew into bliss. Question:  Does this  mean that  sex is now som ething  that you
can have  with yourself? Answer:  Yes. Almost like a  twenty-four-hour- a-day experie nce
of my  being  alive  as a sexual being. That energ y is now  there  and
available  to me constantly . Before  I was stuck in  a bit of a polarit y:
I was either  blocking  the sexual energy  if I wasn’t in a relationshi p in
which I could  express  it, or  feeling  impelled to get  involved  in a
relationship  in orde r to experience  it. Now  I feel  more sexually
aroused  and alive. I feel my energ y is at its fullest  potential,  and are
more “turn ed on” by life all the tim e. No w I don’t  feel that  I always
have  to interact  with a man in order  to express  it. Because  my
sexual  energy  flows in clearer  channels,  I can tolerat e a higher
level of  energ y without feeling  an urgency  to discharge  it. Question:  What happ ens with the sexual ener gy when you are
not interacting  and making love? Answer:  When I first  began  doing  Ovarian  Breathin g, I discovere d
immediatel y that I could  move the  sexual  energy  easily  from  my
genitals  throug hout my whole body. It’s very  simple, but ver y
powerful. I can increase  my ability  to be connect ed and present  in
life. Over  time I have  been  able to refine  it so that  I can  share  more
energy  with other  people  in my  work and daily relationshi ps. It
doesn’t  com e across  necessa rily as purel y sexual,  but I know  it is
my sexual  energ y that I have  transformed  into healing  and loving
energy . Question:  Do you think  that men are  more attracte d to you now
that you do the Ovarian  practice ? Answer:  They seem to be. Question:  Has it change d the kind  of me n that  you attract? Answer:  I would say that I see m to be  more attractive  to people
in gener al. Although  I see m to be mo re attractive  to men, judging
by the feedback  that I get,  I am  attracting  in a way that feels
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comfortable. I do not  feel that men are  leering  at me . I used  to feel
that whenever I wa s strongl y in touch  with the full po wer of my
sexual  energy  that I was somehow  putting  out a strong  sexual
message,  inviting  a kind  of respons e that I reall y didn’t  want. Now I
feel that peopl e are intereste d in me as a w hole person. Question:  Would you call this a perso nal magnetism? Answer:  Yes. A perso nal magnetism. Question:  Have y ou ever  practiced  Ovarian  Kung  Fu with a man? Answer:  Yes. I practiced  by myself  for about  three  months, and
then I was very fortuna te in attracting  a ma n who had been  doing
the Taoist  sexual  practices  for a period  of tim e.
    Question:  During  those  first three  months,  did you see any
changes  in yo ur menstrual  period,  or did y ou experienc e any other
physical changes? Answer:  My periods  had been  healthy  and trouble -free so I reall y
didn’t  notice  any change. But friends  who have  begun  the practice
who have  had any kind  of difficult y before  have  experienc ed dramatic
improve ment  in term s of a relief  of menstrual  cramps, a  shorter
flow, and fewer pre-menstrual  symptom s.
    Question:  What about  emotions? Sexuality  is supposed  to be
linked  with emotions  in ma ny differe nt ways. Once y ou began  this
practice,  did change  your connection  to your emotions? Answer:  Yes. Since at the  time I began  Ovarian  Kung  Fu I was
already  involved  with other  Taoist  practices,  it’s difficult  to
differentiat e which was having  the effect  on my emotions. I  know
that the Fusion  of the  Five  Elements, Part  I. had  a profoun d effect
on my em otional  state  since  it involved  recycling negative  emotions
into a purer  form of ener gy. Com bining  that with the Taoist sexual
practice,  I gaine d a tremendous  sense  of person al responsibilit y of
being  in charg e of and able  to direct  both  my sexual  and emotional
energy
    Question:  Do you feel the Fusion  and Ovarian  Kung  Fu practices
go together ? Answer:  Yes. It is wo nderful to do  the Taoist sexual  practice  with
a partne r but it is extremely  helpful  to do the Fusion  practice  because
it keeps  the emotional  energ y so clear. It puts  a relationship  on a
wholly differen t level  without the normal kind  of emotional confusion
that often  comes into  a ma le-female relations hip. Question:  Do you feel it is danger ous for som eone  to do just the
sexual  practice  if it is not  balanced  by clearing  out all the  negative
emotions? - 288  -Chapter  IX
    Answer:  I would say that really  depends  upon  the person. If tw o
people  are very responsi ble about  their  emotions,  ackno wledging
them so that  they are able  to let them  go, then  they will probabl y do
well with just the  sexual  practices. But they  would still benefit  from
doing  the rest of the  meditation  practices  as w ell. For couples  who
have  any emotional  confusion,  I would say it is essential  to do Fusion
at the  sam e tim e as the regula r sexual  practices. Question:  Do you know  of anyone who is doing  these  practices
who has had problems w ith them? Answer:  No, I don’t. Every one I know  who has practiced  them
has been  quite  enthusiastic  about  the benefits. Question:  And there  are no side effects? Answer:  I have  never  know n anyone, male or female, w ho has
had any side effects. This practice  allow s sexual  energy  to be
trans muted  and not just conserved. It also  refines  and spreads  it
through out the body , revitalizing  the whole body  in mi nd and  spirit. So the  practice  itself  removes the  negative  side  effects  of sexual
desire,  which for most peopl e appea rs as sexual frustra tion. Sexual
frustration  is simply  blocked  sexual  energ y. Question:  Once  you became involved  with your lover;  did you
find a big  difference  betw een the other  lovers  you’ve had who were
not doing  these  practices? Answer:  Yes. It wa s quite  dramatically  and wonderfully different. This relationship,  which continu es happil y, has all the  elements
that had been  wonderful in my  other  relatio nships  in term s of
closeness  and pleasur e, but goes  far beyond anything that I  have
ever experience d befor e. The w hole qualit y of the relationship  is
very clear. We experie nce very clear  com munication,  a flow, and a true
bonding  on many, many levels that I  hadn’t  experienc ed before. We are connecte d emotionall y, mentally and psychicall y, and are
often  able  to know  what the other  is thinking. We feel that  even  at
long distances  we are able to ma ke love. We have  a feeling  of the
spiritual  connectio n that is ver y, very  satisfyi ng. Question:  What about  wome n who learned  the practices  but
who have  been  unable  to find  a ma n who would do these  practices? Do you have  any friends  like that? Answer:  I think  ever yone I have  know n who has learned  the
practices  has wanted to find a partne r. It is interesti ng to me  that
people  I speak  with about  the benefits  of the  practice  are all initially
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cynical and suspicious. Most  of us experie nce a lot of  our greatest
pleasure  in life sexuall y, so we do not really  want to give up  the
know n for the unkno wn. Since this  practice  has spiritual  benefits,
most people  think  that it won’t feel quite  as good  on the physical
level. People  are often  a little  reluctant  initiall y to try. But ever yone I
know , once  they learn  the practices,  wants to find  a partn er with
whom to practice  because  they find the quality  of their  sexual
experience  far more pleasur able and satisfy ing, and they want to
find someone  with whom to share. Question:  What problems exist  for the w oman  who does  the
practice,  while her partner  does  not? Answer:  The qualit y of these  relations hips is prob ably better  than
previous  relatio nships. Some of the  refined  sexual  energy  spills
over and the partner  probabl y picks up  on it on  subconscious  levels. Question:  Do you think  there  is dange r of abuse,  of someone
drawing the energ y out from the  other  person , som ething  like
“sexual  vampiris m”? Answer:  A me thod can always be abused. It is ver y important
for anyone plannin g to do these  practices  with a partner  to have  a
clear  commitment to  sharing  fully to attain  mutual spiritual  growth. Question:  Can y ou describe  your experienc e of orgas m with
your partner ? Answer:  The orgasm is a  Valley  Orgasm, rather  than a Peak
Orgas m. I experience  a slo w wave of ener gy rising  within me. This
actively  stim ulating  phase  rises to  a prolon ged peak  of excitement,
then I deepl y relax  in the “valle y” for a period. I repeat  this c ycle two,
three  or more times. Each  succeeding  peak  of excite ment is higher
and each  valley  is more deepl y relaxing  so that  more and more of
my w hole body-mind-spirit is at  the same ti me aroused  and deeply
surrend ering. The Valle y Orgas m occurs  spontan eousl y in the  state  of deep
relaxation,  and it is a ver y powerful experience  which I feel  in every
cell, ever y particle  of my being  as an  exquisite,  ecstatic  melting. The feeling  of connection  with my partner  is profoun d. My whole
being  is shared  with his, and his wi th mine, as  one flow that knows
no boundari es. Som etimes our  awareness expands  to include  the whole
cosmos, and  there  is a po werful sense  of being  omnipresent  and
a part  of all things. Som etimes the  orgasm has felt  like nuclear
fusion  and fusion  occurring  simultaneously  as though  I am both
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expanding  infinitely  and fusing  into a point  of nothingn ess. I have
experience d a tremendous  spectru m of sensations  each  time. In
the beginning  sometimes we  spent  the whole day making love  and
meditating  with the energ y we gener ated. I am  always in awe of the
tremendous  pow er residing  in male and  female. We are all closer
to being  gods  and goddesses  than  we think. Question:  Are y ou able  to distinguish  your energ y from his during
the cyclin g and sharing ? Answer:  I definitel y can distinguish  his ener gy and can also  feel
the quality  of the  merging. I had  been  practicing  the Micr ocosmic
Orbit  Meditati on for about  a year befor e I bega n doing  the sexual
practice,  and had practice d the Single  Cultivation  of Ovarian  Kung
Fu for several  months befor e actuall y being  with my partn er:
Because  my partn er was also experienced  in the  practice,  our
merging  was reall y spontan eous  without any need  to control  it. I
could  feel from our  first sharing  the energ y moving naturall y into
the Microcosmic, Belt and  Thrusting  Channels. If you meditate  in
these  channels  daily , your lovemaking ener gy will flow effortlessl y
into them. Question:  How long  do you make love during  this practice ? Answer:  Several  hours. Sometimes two hours,  som etimes three
or four. Quite  frequentl y we experienc e the peaks  and valle ys all
night,  but with naps  during  some of the  valle ys. There  is a sa ying
that in love  there  is no  sense  of time. This reall y describes  Taoist
lovemaking. There  is a sense  of all the  time in the  world, of being  in
eternity  and of having  more and more energ y available. Now  that
we have  created  so ma ny connections,  we don’t  reall y need  to
spend  as much ti me. Once we made love  for only  30 seconds
before  experiencing  a Valle y Orgas m, but  the polarit y between us
was so po werful that the Valley  Orgasm lasted  for hours. Now we
are much mo re tuned  to each  other  and feel that we are making
love all  the time. Question:  Are these  cycles  of the  peaks  and valle ys determined
by the male’s erection ? Answer:  I would say that the c ycles  of peaks  and valle ys is deter
mined b y both  people. Both partne rs move to  greate r and greate r
excite ment,  and when a partne r feels  he or she  is com ing to the
point  of no  return,  then  both  partn ers pull the  energ y up to  mingle it
and share  it in the quiet  valley  stage. It has al ways seemed
spontane ous when another  crest and wave begins,  draw ing both
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of us  into it. Question:  During  that resting  period  when you have  reached
the high  peak  of stim ulation  and have  allowed that Chi ener gy to
move up  the body  until the  whole body  feels  tingling,  warm and
vibrant,  is there  a dange r of feeling  unconscio us with this energy ? Answer:  If I’m extremely  fatigued  there  is a tende ncy to be more
unconscious  with it. M y experience  in gener al is of going  into a
totally  altered  state,  finding  a me lting point  with my partn er in which
I am very  aware and yet very at ease. Then I can  meditate  and
further  refine  our lovemak ing. Question:  The technique  of the Valle y Orgas m as  it is described
requires  you to me ditate  at differe nt levels,  or Tan T iens. Did y ou
find yourself  able  to med itate at specific centers  with this energy ? Answer:  It’s ver y hard  to gener alize becaus e ever y experienc e
is unique. I found  initiall y that the ener gy first moved in the
Microcosmic Orbit,  but I also  started  noticing  that it wo uld move
through  the whole body . It would tend  with each  valle y to mo ve up
through  anothe r center. There would be times in the  valle ys when it
would seem like a sho wering-up, som etimes mo re in the  center  or
in the  back,  while at other  times it w ould be like the  rush  of a rocket
taking  off, straight  up. Question:  Does this  feeling  linger  after  love making? Answer:  There  is the  sense  of being  a unique  male and  female
each  in our  respective  bodies,  and yet being  all man and  all w oman,
god and goddess. I have  clearly  experienc ed this before  in other
sexual  relationships,  but in this relationship  it exists all the  time. Question:  After practicin g in this  relationshi p for almost three
years, what has been  the evolution  of this practice? Answer:  I would say that one of the  aspects  of all the  Taoist
practices  is the  sense  of active a wareness of drawing energ y in
directly  from the  stars,  the sun, the  earth,  and from one’s  sexual
partner  What I feel is that  I have  been  able  to absorb,  be nourish ed
by, and bring  into my  own life some of the real  masculine,  Yang,
qualities  of my partne r. With my partne r’s Yang energ y as a
resource  available  to me, I have  been  able  to be more assertive,
more creative,  and more outspok en. The exchange  with my partn er
of the  whole essence  of his being  has enable d me to amplify  my
own perso nality  and to include  his qualities. Question:  How has the male energy  you absorb ed affected  your
daily meditations? - 292  -Chapter IX
    Answer:  I want to be mo re integrate d, including  integratin g the
male and  female ener gies within myself. Beco ming mo re integrate d
and more balance d is one  of the benefits  of this practice. Being
able to exchang e with my partne r has really  enhance d my spiritual
growth. The sam e ener gy that could  have  been  lost at times in emotional
confusion  or throu gh miscommunication  has become an  energ y
resource  that is available  for my own growth. There is clarit y that is
illuminating  in ter ms of  my em otional  and spiritual  life. It is also
more refined  energ y. My partn er’s energy  is no w available  for my spiritual  growth,
and my ener gy is available  for him . Question:  What do you feel is the highest  level of  this
practice? Answer:  Refinement of  one’s  own sexual, emotional,  and mental
energies  into subtle  spiritual  energ y and into a  spiritual  body that
lives w ithin the ph ysical body yet is free  to move any where in time
and space  is the  highest  level. The sexual  practice  conserves  and
refines  the fuel,  but it is wi thin the Kan and Li me ditations  that the
real alche my occurs. The essence  of the  Kan and Li practice  is
fire and water male and  female energi es uniting  creatively  within
each  Tan Tien or  center  in the body . Through  the self- intercou rse of Kan and Li, one  impregnates
oneself,  nourish es the fetus,  and finall y gives birth  to a spiritual
child that  dwells within. Then  the challenge  is to nourish  the spiritual
child w ith strong,  refined  energ y and virtue  through  the ups and
downs of dail y living. And  how  does  my partne r fit into  this? I enhanc e
his self- generati on as he  helps  me with mine. Question:  You can be both  the mother  and father  of this spiritual
child b y having  the additional  help  of outside  masculine ener gy? Answer:  Yes. What I like so m uch about  the Taoist  practices  is
that in cultivating  our own nature,  we attain  our fullest  flowering and
give birth  to ourselves. With a partn er in Dual Cultivation,  there  is
obviously  an added  energy  and mutual support  in addition  to joy
and pleasure. I also  know  that I can  cultivate  my own sexual  energ y
myself,  and be creative  with it. Question:  Do you feel the sexual  cultivation  practice  is essential
to your spiritual  grow th? Answer:  Yes, but it is not  essential  to have  a partner. These
practices  can be done  by a woma n who has a com mitment to
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celibacy  as a way of utilizing  her sexual  energ y for her own spiritual
growth and directing  the transformed  energy  toward service  to
others. For a woma n who does  want a partne r eventuall y Single
Cultivation  allows her to take  her time to choose  her partner  well
without rushing  into a relationship  purely  to satisfy  sexual  needs. So I w ould say Single  Cultivation  is essential. Dual Cultivation  is
valuable,  but optional. There  is so mething  else  that I feel  is very  important  since w e
are talking  about  the benefits. From the  beginni ng these  practices
were very  tranfo rmative, enhancing  my sense  of being  in control  of
my o wn energ y and my o wn destiny . I have  grown more responsibl e
and able  to use  my energies  creatively . Question:  Is the  Tao all about  controlling  your emotions and
energies ? How does  this figure  in being  effortless  and flowing free? Answer:  I think  about  life as a  river. Before  I practice d Fusion
and Ovarian  Kung  Fu, I felt  in my emotional  and sexual life as if I
were a leaf  on a current,  and it was the current  of circumstance
that would sometimes direct  me. Now, know ing these  Taoist
practices,  I feel  that t am  more like a raft,  and I can use  the current
for the purp ose of follo wing the river. When I look  at my  past and all
the suffering  that I went throug h in some of my  emotional  and sexual
relationships , and I look  at friends  now , I see that the  Taoist practices
allow  us to be  in the  river  in a way that’s  harmonious  and flowing
without being  knocked  against  the rocks. We are the navigators. Question:  Let’s talk a little  about  the psychology of relations hips. How do you feel this practice  changes  the psyc hology of the battle
of the  sexes? Answer:  I think  it is essential  for both  partners  to enter  into a
relationship  with the intention  of mo ving the energy  up and fully
sharing,  because  it is an  exchange  of energy  designe d to be
redirecte d toward grow th. This gro wth will naturally  take  its o wn
direction,  emotionally  and spiritually . As the energy  moves up  during
the practice,  it takes  care  of itself. Every thing else w ill flow naturall y
from that. The po wer struggl e tends  to dissolve. When things  occur
that must be clarified,  the tools are  available. It seem s there  is a
harmony and a flo w that is present  that reall y extends  far be yond
the sexual act. There  is also the other  tremendous  benefit  of feeling
attuned  to the  other  person,  wherever he might be. Question:  Why do  you think  this happens? Answer:  My experience  is that  as the  energ y moves up  there
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are bondings,  at the  heart  level, and  the me ntal and spiritual  level,
and those  bondings  are very profoun d.
     Question:  I have  som e specific  questions  about  the actual
technique. Do y ou reall y feel the energy  flow up the  spine  in ver y
direct  path ways? It see ms wh en you are making love  these  energies
all get  mixed together : This is a little  confusing. Answer:  I think  there  is an interesti ng distinction  betw een
practicing  on my own, if I am stim ulating  myself,  my whole being  is
totally  involved  with anothe r person. More of my w hole body gets
aroused  when I am with my partner. So wh en the energies  move
up, they  are more likely  to expand  and to fill my w hole body. When
I am alone  I have  a clearer  sense  of the  energ y going  up my spine. If I’m  with my partn er I have  a sense  of the energy  moving up throu gh
my w hole body. Som etimes I have  the sense  of not onl y my own
energy  but also  of his, as one  column or  wave moving upw ard. Question:  Have y ou discovere d any additional  techniques  to aid
this sexual  practice? Answer:  My lover  and I have  discovered  certain  things
spontane ously. It requires  a great  deal  more discipline  for men to
cultivate  this practice  than  it does  for wome n. For women,  it is
really  control  of the pelvic- floor muscles. All I reall y need  to do is contract  my pelvic- floor muscles in the
direction  of my cocc yx and tilt my pelvis  slightly  and the ener gy will
just begin  to move up. Sometime I wi ll stroke  up my  partner’s  spine
with my hand  or he w ill stroke  up my back as  we are beginnin g to
go into the  resting  phase. This gives us  both  the clear  sense  that
we are directing  the energy  up. Som etimes we  touch  each  other’s
heads  on the crow n, and this helps  focus  the energ y there. The
energy  then begins  to show er dow n. One  of the  most delicious
and exquisite  qualities  of the Valley  Orgas m is that the  energ y moves
up the w hole body and throu gh the cro wn, som etimes mo ving out
of the  body and then  showers dow n like an exquisitely  delicious
nectar  showering down throug h all the  cells and all the  atoms of
the body . Question:  Have y ou found  the practice  has increased  or
decrease d your sexual  desire? Answer:  My sexual desire  is about  the sam e, but  I feel  much
more satisfied. Also,  my percepti on of sex and  sexual  relations hips
has continued  to expand. I feel  I am very  slowly moving toward my
goal of being  totally  alive,  making love  with the whole universe  in
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every  movement. I feel  immensely  grateful  to have  a partner  with
whom to practice  loving. We feel that we are always together  and whether we are
physicall y together  or apart,  we can make love  and share  our
energies. Our transformed  sexual and emotional  energies  nourish
our spirits and are shared  with others  as love. Fig. 9.1 Loving  Couple
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        After the  sexual  energ y has been  raised  to a high  intensit y by
thrusting  and drawing it up  the spine  on the route  of the  Micr ocosmic
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Orbit  with the Orgas mic Dra w and the Big Draw, the Yin-Yang
exchange  can begin  to happe n in many different  ways. Fig. 8. 43  Fusion  of the Microcosmic  Orbits
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(1) Joining  the Two Microcosmic  Orbits
    In the begin ning the energy  exchang e between lovers  may seem
to be  chaotic  and occurrin g between any two points  of bodily  contact. As yo u grow more accusto med to the ener gy gained  by stopping
the man’s e jaculation,  you will begin  to discri minate  the clearly
defined  channels  of the Microcosmic Orbit  rising  up the spine  and
descendin g the front  of the body. During  the plateau  phase  of
lovemaking  you may feel a warm flowing curre nt passing  betw een
your vagina  and his penis  and betw een your lips. These  are two individual  Micr ocosmic Orbits  joined  into one larger
flow circling  your two bodies. (Fig.
The Valley Orgasm is a true fusion of two lovers' beings, shared in an intensified and balanced way. It is a state of prolonged orgasm, the balancing of Yin and Yang, a function of opposites, a melting.
What is the Valley Orgasm, and what is its purpose?
The Tai Chi, Yoga, Chi Kung, or other purifying meditative work is invaluable in developing a strong nervous system, as it speeds up and clarifies the process.
What is the significance of the Tai Chi, Yoga, Chi Kung, or other purifying meditative work in developing a strong nervous system?
The Big Draw is a technique used to bring power up to the Pai-Hui, the crown, the center of spiritual knowledge and the doorway to higher spiritual evolution. It helps in the Valley Orgasm by allowing for the spiritual bonding and the transformation of sexual energy.
What is the purpose of the Big Draw, and how does it help in the Valley Orgasm?
The Valley Orgasm is typically achieved with a partner, but it is possible for a woman to cultivate her own sexual energy and use it for her own spiritual growth, without the need for a partner.
Can the Valley Orgasm be achieved by a single person, or is it necessary to have a partner?
Meditation is crucial in the Valley Orgasm, as it allows for the refinement of the energy and the attainment of a higher level of awareness.
What is the significance of meditation in the Valley Orgasm, and how does it help?