LOVE
YOURSELF
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YOUR	LIFE
WORKBOOK	
ALSO	BY	LOUISE	L.	HAY
	
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Printed	in	the	United	States	of	AmericaTable	of	Contents
DEDICATION
PART	I	INTRODUCTION
1	BASIC	TECHNIQUES
2	WHO	ARE	YOU? WHAT	DO	YOU	BELIEVE? PART	II	THE	PROCESS
3	HEALTH
4	FEELING	GOOD
5	FEARS	AND	PHOBIAS
6	ANGER
7	CRITICISM	AND	JUDGMENT
8	ADDICTIONS
9	FORGIVENESS
10	WORK
11	MONEY	AND	PROSPERITY
12	FRIENDS
13	SEXUALITY
14	LOVE	AND	INTIMACY
PART	III	YOUR	NEW	LIFE
15	YOUR	NEW	PICTUREDEDICATION
W
orkbook
	is	such	a	strong	word,	and	many	of	us	feel	that	hard	work	is
exactly	what	we	must	do	in	order	to	eradicate	old,	embedded	thought	patterns. I	don’t	believe	that	making	inner	changes	has	to	be	“work,”	or	difficult	or
painful	either. I	believe	that	it	can	be	an	adventure. So,	I	would	like	to	dedicate	this	book	to	the	adventurer	in	
you. You	are	on	a
treasure	hunt. Each	old	negative	pattern	that	you	discover	is	only	something
to	be	examined	and	released. Beneath	each	pattern	is	a	storehouse	of	treasure
within. Seek	your	own	gold. Create	your	own	good	health. Fill	your	life	with	love. Find	your	own	freedom. You	are	worthy. You	do	deserve. I	will	help	you. You	are	on	a	pathway	to	inner	enlightenment. As	you	free	yourself,	you
help	to	heal	the	planet.PART	I
INTRODUCTION1
BASIC	TECHNIQUES
“I	am	willing	to	change.”
T
his	is	a	book	about	change. I	know,	you	want	everybody	and	everything
else	to	change. Your	mother,	father,	boss,	friend,	sister,	lover,	landlord,
neighbor,	minister,	or	government	official	must	change	so	that	your	life	can
be	perfect. It	doesn’t	work	that	way. If	you	want	change	in	your	life,	then	you
are	the	one	who	must	do	the	changing. When	you	change,	then	all	the	other
people	in	your	world	will	change	in	relation	to	you. Are	you	willing	to	change? If	you	are	willing,	then	together	we	can	create	the	life	you	say	you	want. All	you	have	to	do	is	change	some	thoughts	and	release	some	beliefs. Sounds
simple? It	is. However,	it	is	not	always	easy. We	will	explore	some	of	the
things	you	may	believe	in	different	areas	of	your	life. If	you	have	positive
beliefs,	then	I	urge	you	to	keep	them	and	expand	upon	them. And	if	we	find
negative	beliefs,	then	I	will	help	you	let	them	go. My	life	is	a	good	example	of	what	can	happen	when	you	change	your
thinking. I	went	from	being	a	battered	and	abused	child	who	grew	up	in
poverty,	with	little	self-esteem	and	many	problems,	to	a	well-known	woman
who	is	able	to	help	others. I	no	longer	live	in	pain	and	suffering. I	have
created	a	wonderful	life	for	myself. You	can	do	it,	too. I	encourage	you	to	be	gentle	with	yourself	as	you	embark	on	the	exercises
in	this	workbook. Change	can	be	difficult,	or	it	can	be	easy. Acknowledge
every	effort	that	you	make. Know	that	there	may	be	a	transitional	period
between	your	old	and	new	belief	systems. You	may	vacillate	between	former
behavior	and	thinking	patterns. Do	not	be	discouraged. Be	loving	with
yourself	in	the	way	you	would	be	to	a	dear	friend. Give	yourself	every
encouragement	as	you	go	through	this	new	experience.You	will	get	the	quickest	results	if	you	can	be	consistent	with	the	exercises
in	this	book. And	yet,	even	if	you	can	only	do	one	exercise	per	month,	it	will
still	be	helpful. Do	what	you	can. The	exercises	will	give	you	new
information	about	yourself. You	will	be	able	to	make	new	choices. Every	new
choice	you	make	is	like	planting	a	seed	in	your	new	mental	garden. The	seeds
may	take	time	to	germinate	and	grow. Remember,	when	you	plant	a	seed,	you
do	not	produce	an	instant	apple	tree. Similarly,	you	may	not	always	get	instant
results	from	doing	this	work. I	advise	you	to	use	this	workbook	in	sections. Try	to	do	a	segment	of	your
life	at	a	time. Really	examine	your	feelings	as	you	do	each	exercise. Read
through	the	book	once. Allow	thoughts	and	memories	to	come	up. Then	go
back	and	do	all	the	exercises. Do	the	exercises	even	if	you	have	no	problems	in	that	area. You	may	be
surprised	at	what	comes	up. Do	the	exercises	several	times	if	it	is	an	area	of
difficulty	for	you. Create	exercises	of	your	own. Sometimes	it	is	good	to	have	a	box	of	tissues	nearby. Give	yourself
permission	to	explore	the	past	and	cry	if	necessary. Tears	are	the	river	of	life
and	are	very	cleansing. I	would	like	to	review	the	basic	beliefs	that	support	my	philosophy. You
may	remember	them	from	
You	Can	Heal	Your	Life. WHAT	I	BELIEVE
Life	is	very	simple. What	we	give	out,	we	get	back. I	believe	that	all	of	us
are	responsible	for	every	experience	in	our	lives,	the	best	and	the	worst. Every
thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. Each	one	of	us	creates	our
experiences	by	the	thoughts	we	think	and	the	words	we	speak. Beliefs	are	ideas	and	thoughts	that	we	accept	as	truth. What	we	think	about
ourselves	and	the	world	becomes	true	for	us. What	we	choose	to	believe	can
expand	and	enrich	our	world. Each	day	can	be	an	exciting,	joyous,	hopeful
experience,	or	a	sorrowful,	limiting,	and	painful	one. Two	people	living	in	the
same	world,	with	the	same	set	of	circumstances,	can	experience	life	so
differently. What	can	transport	us	from	one	world	to	another? I	am	convinced
that	it	is	our	beliefs	that	do	so. When	we	are	willing	to	change	our	primary
belief	structures,	then	we	may	experience	a	true	change	in	our	lives. Whatever	your	beliefs	may	be	about	yourself	and	the	world,	remember	that
they	are	only	thoughts,	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. You	may	not	agree	with
some	of	the	ideas	that	I	am	about	to	explore. Some	of	them	may	be	unfamiliarand	frightening. Do	not	worry. Only	those	ideas	that	are	right	for	you	will
become	part	of	you. You	may	think	that	some	of	the	techniques	are	too	simple
or	foolish	and	could	not	possibly	work	for	you. I	am	only	asking	you	to	try
them. Our	subconscious	mind	accepts	whatever	we	choose	to	believe. The
Universal	Power	never	judges	or	criticizes	us. It	only	accepts	us	at	our	own
value. If	you	accept	a	limiting	belief,	then	it	will	become	the	truth	for	you. If
you	believe	that	you	are	too	short,	too	fat,	too	thin,	too	tall,	too	smart,	not
smart	enough,	too	rich,	too	poor,	or	incapable	of	forming	relationships,	then
those	beliefs	will	become	true	for	you. Remember	that	we	are	dealing	with	thoughts,	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. We	have	unlimited	choices	about	what	we	can	think,	and	the	point	of	power	is
always	in	the	present	moment. What	are	you	thinking	in	the	present	moment? Is	it	positive	or	negative? Do	you	want	this	thought	to	be	creating	your	future? When	we	were	children,	we	learned	about	ourselves	and	about	life	from	the
reactions	of	the	adults	around	us. Therefore,	most	of	us	have	ideas	about	who
we	are	that	we	do	not	own,	and	many	rules	about	how	life	ought	to	be	lived. If
you	lived	with	people	who	were	unhappy,	frightened,	guilty,	or	angry,	then
you	learned	a	lot	of	negative	things	about	yourself	and	your	world. When	we	grow	up,	we	have	a	tendency	to	recreate	the	emotional
environment	of	our	early	home	life. We	also	tend	to	recreate	in	our	personal
relationships,	those	we	had	with	our	mother	and	father. If	we	were	highly
criticized	as	children,	then	we	will	seek	out	those	in	our	adult	life	who	will
duplicate	this	behavior. If	we	were	praised,	loved,	and	encouraged	as	children,
then	we	will	recreate	this	behavior. I	do	not	encourage	you	to	blame	your	parents. We	are	all	victims	of
victims,	and	they	could	not	teach	you	something	that	they	did	not	know. If
your	mother	or	father	did	not	know	how	to	love	themselves,	it	would	have
been	impossible	for	them	to	teach	you	how	to	love	yourself. They	were
coping	as	best	they	could	with	the	information	they	had. Think	for	a	minute
about	how	they	were	raised. If	you	want	to	understand	your	parents	more,	I
suggest	that	you	ask	them	about	their	childhoods. Listen	to	not	only	
what
	they	are	telling	you,	but	notice	what	happens	to
them	
while
	they	are	speaking. What	is	their	body	language	like? Can	they
make	
eye
	contact	with	you? Look	into	their	eyes	and	
see
	if	you	can	find	their
inner	child. You	may	only	see	it	for	a	split	second,	but	it	may	reveal	somevaluable	information. I	believe	that	we	choose	our	parents. I	believe	that	we	have	decided	to
incarnate	on	this	earth	in	a	particular	time	and	space. We	have	come	here	to
learn	specific	lessons	that	will	advance	us	on	our	spiritual,	evolutionary
pathway. I	believe	that	we	choose	our	sex,	color,	and	country,	and	then	we
search	for	the	particular	set	of	parents	who	will	enhance	our	spiritual	work	in
this	lifetime. All	that	we	are	ever	dealing	with	is	a	thought,	and	a	thought	can	be
changed. No	matter	what	the	problem	is,	your	experiences	are	outer	effects	of
inner	thoughts. Even	self-hatred	is	a	thought	you	have	about	yourself. This
thought	produces	a	feeling,	and	you	buy	into	that	feeling. However,	if	you
don’t	have	the	thought,	you	won’t	have	the	feeling. Thoughts	can	be	changed. Change	the	thought,	and	the	feeling	must	go. The	past	has	no	power	over	us. It	does	not	matter	how	long	we	have	been
in	a	negative	pattern. We	can	be	free	in	this	moment. Believe	it	or	not,	we	do	choose	our	thoughts. We	may	habitually	think	the
same	thought	over	and	over	so	that	it	does	not	seem	as	if	we	are	choosing	the
thought. But	we	did	make	the	original	choice. We	can	refuse	to	think	certain
thoughts. How	often	have	you	refused	to	think	a	positive	thought	about
yourself? You	can	also	refuse	to	think	a	negative	thought	about	yourself. The	innermost	belief	for	everyone	that	I	have	worked	with	is	always,	“I	am
not	good	enough!”
	Everyone	that	I	know	or	have	worked	with	is	suffering
from	self-hatred	or	guilt	to	one	degree	or	another. “I	am	not	good	enough,	I
don’t	do	enough,	or	I	don’t	deserve	this,”	are	common	complaints. But	for
whom	are	you	not	good	enough? And	by	whose	standards? I	find	that	resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	fear	cause	the	most	problems	in
ourselves	and	our	lives. These	feelings	come	from	blaming	others	and	not
taking	responsibility	for	our	own	experiences. If	we	are	all	responsible	for
everything	in	our	lives,	then	there	is	no	one	to	blame. Whatever	is	happening
“out	there”	is	only	a	mirror	of	our	own	inner	thinking. I	do	not	condone	other	people’s	poor	behavior,	but	it	is	our	belief	system
that	attracts	this	behavior. There	is	some	thought	in	you	that	attracts	people
who	exhibit	poor	behavior. If	you	find	that	people	are	constantly	abusing	or
mistreating	you,	then	this	is	your	pattern. When	you	change	the	thought	that
attracts	this	behavior,	it	will	stop. We	can	change	our	attitude	toward	the	past. It	is	over	and	done	and	cannotbe	changed. Yet	we	
can
	change	our	thoughts	about	the	past. How	foolish	for
us	to	punish	ourselves	in	the	present	moment	because	someone	hurt	us	long
ago. If	we	choose	to	believe	that	we	are	helpless	victims	and	that	all	is	hopeless,
then	the	universe	will	support	us	in	that	belief. Our	worst	opinions	of
ourselves	will	be	confirmed. If	we	choose	to	believe	that	we	are	responsible	for	our	experiences,	the
good	and	the	so-called	bad,	then	we	have	the	opportunity	to	outgrow	the
effects	of	the	past. We	can	change. We	can	be	free. The	road	to	freedom
	is	
through	the	doorway	to	forgiveness. We	may	not
know	how	to	forgive,	and	we	may	not	want	to	forgive;	but	if	we	are	
willing
	to
forgive,	we	may	begin	the	healing	process. It	is	imperative	for	our	own
healing	that	
we
	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone. This	does	not	mean	that	I	condone	poor	behavior. I	want	to	encourage	the
process	of	setting	
you
	free. Forgiveness	means	giving	up,	letting	go. We
understand	our	own	pain	so	well. Yet,	it	is	hard	for	most	of	us	to	understand
someone’s	pain	who	treated	us	badly. That	person	we	need	to	forgive	was	also
in	pain. And	they	were	only	mirroring	what	
we
	believed	about	ourselves. They	were	doing	the	best	they	could	given	the	knowledge,	understanding,	and
awareness	they	possessed	at	the	time. When	people	come	to	me	with	a	problem-I	don’t	care	what	it	is-poor
health,	lack	of	money,	unfulfilling	relationships,	or	stifled	creativity-there	is
only	one	thing	that	I	ever	work	on,	and	that	is	
loving	the	self. I	find	that	when	we	really	love,	accept,	and	approve	of	ourselves	exactly	as
we	are,	everything	in	life	flows. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	here	and
now	are	the	keys	to	positive	changes	in	every	area	of	our	lives. Loving	the	self,	to	me,	means	to	never,	ever	criticize	ourselves	for	anything. Criticism	locks	us	into	the	very	pattern	we	are	trying	to	change. Try	approving	of	yourself	and	see	what	happens. You’ve	been	criticizing
yourself	for	years. Has	it	worked? WORKBOOK	TERMINOLOGY
Affirmations
We	will	be	using	affirmations	throughout	this	book. Affirmations	are	anystatements	that	we	make-either	positive	or	negative. Too	often	we	think	in
negative	affirmations. Negative	affirmations	only	create	more	of	what	we
don’t	want. Saying,	“I	hate	this	old	car,”	will	get	us	nowhere. Declaring,	“I
bless	my	old	car	and	release	it	with	love. I	now	accept	and	deserve	a
beautiful,	new	car,”	will	open	the	channels	in	our	consciousness	to	create	that. Make	positive	statements	about	how	you	want	your	life	to	be. One
important	point	is:	
Always	make	your	statements	in	the	PRESENT	TENSE,
such	as	“I	am”	or	“I	have.”	Your	subconscious	mind	is	such	an	obedient
servant	that	if	you	declare	in	the	future	tense,	“I	want,”	or	“I	will	have,”	then
that	is	where	it	will	always	stay-just	out	of	your	reach	in	the	future	Dr.	Bernie
Siegel,	bestselling	author	of	
Love,	Medicine,
	&	
Miracles,
	says	that
“affirmations	are	not	a	denial	of	the	present,	but	a	hope	for	the	future. As	you
allow	them	to	permeate	your	consciousness,	they	will	become	more	and	more
believable	until	eventually	they	may	become	real	for	you.”
Mirror	Work
Mirror	work	is	another	valuable	tool. Mirrors	reflect	the	feelings	we	have
about	ourselves. They	clearly	show	us	the	areas	that	need	to	be	changed	if	we
want	a	joyous,	fulfilling	life. I	ask	people	to	look	in	their	own	eyes	and	say	something	positive	about
themselves	every	time	they	pass	a	mirror. The	most	powerful	way	to	do
affirmations	is	to	look	in	the	mirror	and	say	them	out	loud. You	are
immediately	aware	of	the	resistance	and	can	move	through	it	quicker. Keep	a	hand	mirror	near	you	as	you	read	this	book. Use	a	larger	mirror	for
some	of	the	deeper	exercises. Visualization
Visualization	is	the	process	of	using	the	imagination	to	achieve	a	desired
result. Put	most	simply,	you	see	what	you	want	to	happen,	before	it	actually
does	happen. For	example,	if	what	you	want	is	a	new	place	to	live,	picture	a	house	or	an
apartment	that	you	want,	being	as	specific	as	possible. Then	see	it	as	if	it	were
already	true. Affirm	that	you	deserve	it. See	your	new	home	with	you	in	it,
going	about	your	daily	routine. Imagine	as	clearly	as	you	can,	knowing	that
there	is	no	wrong	way	to	visualize. Practice	your	visualization	frequently;
turning	all	results	over	to	the	Universal	Mind,	and	asking	for	your	highestgood. Combined	with	positive	affirmations,	visualization	is	a	most	powerful
tool. Deservability
Sometimes,	we	refuse	to	put	any	effort	into	creating	a	good	life	for
ourselves	because	we	believe	that	we	don’t	deserve	it. The	belief	that	we	are
not	deserving	may	come	from	our	early	childhood	experiences. Maybe	the
belief	came	from	our	early	toilet	training. Perhaps	we	were	told	that	we	could
not	have	what	we	wanted	if	we	did	not	eat	all	of	our	food,	clean	our	room,	or
put	our	toys	away. We	could	be	buying	into	another	person’s	concept	or
opinion	that	has	nothing	to	do	with	our	own	reality. Deserving	has	nothing	to	do	with	having	good. It	is	our	unwillingness	to
accept	that	gets	in	the	way. Allow	yourself	to	accept	good,	whether	you	think
you	deserve	it	or	not. EXERCISE:	
Deservability
Answer	the	following	questions
	as	
best	you	can. They	will	help	you
understand	the	power	of	deservability. 1. What	do	you	want	that	you	are	not	having? Be	clear	and	specific	about	it. 2. What	were	the	laws/rules	in	your	home	about	deserving? What	did	they	tell	you? “You	don’t	deserve.”	Or	“You	deserve	a	good
smack.”	Did	your	parents	feel	deserving? Did	you	always	have	to	earn	in
order	to	deserve? Did	earning	work	for	you? Were	things	taken	away	from
you	when	you	did	something	wrong?3. Do	you	feel	that	you	deserve? What	is	the	image	that	comes	up? “Later,	when	I	earn	it?”	“I	have	to	work
for	it	first.”	Are	you	good	enough? Will	you	ever	be	good	enough? 4. Do	you	deserve	to	live? Why? Why	not? Did	they	ever	tell	you,	“You	deserve	to	die"? If	so,	was	this
part	of	your	religious	upbringing? 5. What	do	you	have	to	live	for? What	is	the	purpose	in	your	life? What	meaning	have	you	created? 6. What	do	you	deserve? “I	deserve	love	and	joy	and	all	good.”
	Or	
do	you	feel	deep	down	that	you
deserve	nothing? Why? Where	did	the	message	come	from? Are	you	willing
to	let	it	go? What	are	you	willing	to	put	in	its	place? Remember,	these	are
thoughts,	and	thoughts	can	be	changed.You	can	see	that	personal	power	is	affected	by	the	way	we	perceive	our
deservability. Try	this	treatment. Put	most	simply,	treatments	are	positive
statements	made	in	any	given	situation	to	establish	new	thought	patterns,	and
dissolve	old	ones. DESERVABILITY	TREATMENT
I	am	deserving. I	deserve	all	good. Not	some,	not	a	little	bit,	but	all	good. I
now	move	past	all	negative,	restricting	thoughts. I	release	and	let	go	of	the
limitations	of	my	parents. I	love	them,	and	I	go	beyond	them. I	am	not	their
negative	opinions,	nor	their	limiting	beliefs. I	am	not	bound	by	any	of	the
fears	or	prejudices	of	the	current	society	I	live	in. I	no	longer	identify	with
limitation	of	any	kind. In	my	mind,	I	have	total	freedom. I	now	move	into	a	new	space	of
consciousness,	where	I	am	willing	to	see	myself	differently. I	am	willing	to
create	new	thoughts	about	myself	and	about	my	life. My	new	thinking
becomes	new	experiences. I	now	know	and	affirm	that	I	am	at	one	with	the	Prospering	Power	of	the
Universe. As	such,	I	now	prosper	in	a	number	of	ways. The	totality	of
possibilities	lies	before	me. I	deserve	life,	a	good	life. I	deserve	love,	an
abundance	of	love. I	deserve	good	health. I	deserve	to	live	comfortably	and	to
prosper. I	deserve	joy	and	happiness. I	deserve	freedom	to	be	all	that	I	can	be. I	deserve	more	than	that. I	deserve	all	good. The	Universe	is	more	than	willing	to	manifest	my	new	beliefs. And	I	accept
this	abundant	life	with	joy,	pleasure,	and	gratitude. For	I	am	deserving. I
accept	it;	I	know	it	to	be	true.2
WHO	ARE	YOU? WHAT	DO	YOU	BELIEVE? “I	see	myself	with	eyes	of	love	and	I	am	safe.”
I
n	this	section	I	would	like	us	to	look	at	ourselves	and	at	our	beliefs. We	all
have	many	positive	things	we	believe,	and	we	want	to	continue	to	reinforce
these. And	many	of	our	beliefs	are	negative	and	continue	to	contribute	to
uncomfortable	experiences. It	is	impossible	for	us	to	change	any	limiting
beliefs	unless	we	know	what	they	are. Look	at	this	list	of	words. Write	down
what	they	mean	to	you. For	example,	do	you	believe	that:
MEN...
Men	are	strong. Men	are	bossy. Men	are	smart. WOMEN...
Women	get	paid	less. Women	have	to	clean	the	house. Women	are	soft	and	tender. LOVE...
Love
	is	
for	the	birds. I	love	to	be	loved. Love	equals	loss	and	heartbreak. SEX... Sex	is	fun. Sex	is	only	for	marriage. Sex	is	painful.WORK...
Work	is	boring. Bosses	are	mean. Other	people	have	good	jobs. MONEY... There	is	never	enough. I’m	afraid	of	money. Money	is	for	spending. SUCCESS... Success
	is	
out	of	my	reach. Only	the	rich	are	successful. I	can	succeed	in	little	things. FAILURE... When	I	make	a	mistake,	I	am	a	failure. Failure	means	doing	it	wrong. Failure	is	something	to	learn	from. GOD...
God	loves	me. I	am	one	with	God. I’m	afraid	of	God. Now	it’s	your	turn. Think	of	all	the	things	these	words	mean	to	you. Make
the	list	as	long	as	you	like. MEN...
WOMEN...LOVE... SEX...
WORK...MONEY... SUCCESS...
FAILURE...GOD...
Now,	notice	the	areas	that	are	difficult	for	you. Do	you	have	conflicting
beliefs? How	many	of	your	answers	are	negative? Put	a	star	beside	these
answers. Do	you	really	want	to	continue	to	build	your	life	on	these
convictions? Be	aware	that	someone	taught	you	these	ideas. Now	that	you
have	seen	them,	you	can	choose	to	let	them	go. EXERCISE:	Your	
Story
This	might	be	the	time	for	you	to	write	a	brief	story	of	your	life. Begin	with
your	childhood. Use	more	paper	if	you	need	to.What	other	negative	beliefs	could	you	have	rattling	around	in	your
subconscious	mind? Allow	them	to	come	up. You	may	be	surprised	at	what
you	find. How	many	negative	messages	did	you	notice	when	you	wrote	your
story? Each	negative	belief	that	surfaces	is	a	treasure. “Ah	ha! I	have
found	you. You	are	the	one	that	has	been	causing	me	all	this	trouble. Now	I
can	eliminate	you:’
Other	negative	beliefs:
This	would	be	a	good	time	to	pick	up	your	hand	mirror	and	to	look	in	your
eyes	and	affirm	your	“willingness”	to	release	all	these	old	negative	messages
and	beliefs. Breathe	deeply	as	you	do	this	and	speak	aloud	if	you	can. “I	amwilling	to	release	all	old	negative	concepts	and	beliefs	that	are	no	longer
nourishing	me.”	Repeat	it	several	times. Inner	Child
Many	of	us	have	an	inner	child	who	is	lost	and	lonely	and	feels	so	rejected. Perhaps	the	only	contact	we	have	had	with	our	inner	child	for	a	long	times	is
to	scold	it	and	criticize	it. Then	we	wonder	why	we	are	unhappy. We	cannot
reject	a	part	of	us	and	still	be	in	harmony	within. Part	of	healing	is	to	gather
all	the	parts	of	ourselves	so	we	may	be	whole	and	complete. Let’s	do	some
work	to	connect	with	these	neglected	inner	parts	of	ourselves. Find	a	Photo
Find	a	photo	of	yourself	as	a	child. If	you	don’t	have	one,	ask	your
parents	to	send	you	one. Study	this	picture	closely. What	do	you	see? It	may
be	joy,	pain,	sorrow,	anger,	or	fear. Do	
you	love	this	child? Can	you	relate
to	it? I	took	a	small	photo	of	myself	at	the	age	of	five	and	had	it	blown	up	to
12	
by
	15	
so	that	I	could	really	see	my	little	girl. Write	a	few	words	about	your	inner	child. Draw	a	Picture
Take	several	crayons,	felt-tipped	pens,
	or	
colored	pencils. You	
can	use	the
paper	in	this	workbook
	or	
get	a	larger	piece	of	your	own. Use	your
nondominant	hand	(the	one	you	don’t	write	with),	and	draw	a	picture	of
yourself	as	a	child.What	does	this	picture	tell	you? What	colors	did	you	use? What	is	the
child	doing? Describe	this	picture. Talk	to	Your	Inner	Child
Take	a	little	time	now	to	talk	to	your	inner	child. Discover	more	about
this	child. Ask	questions. 1. What	do	you	like? 2. What	do	you	dislike? 3. What	frightens	you? 4. How	do	you	feel?5. What	do	you	need? 6. How	can	I	help	you	feel	safe? 7. How	can	I	make	you	happy? Have	a	good	conversation	with	your	inner	child. Be	there	for	that	child. Embrace	it	and	love	it,	and	do	what	you	can	to	take	care	of	its	needs. Be	sure
to	let	it	know	that	no	matter	what	happens,	you	will	always	be	there. You	can
begin	to	create	a	happy	childhood. This	exercise	works	best	with	your	eyes
closed. POWER	POINTS
“I	believe	in	my	own	power	to	change.”
This	small	section	may	be	the	most	important	part	of	this	book. Continually
refer	to	it	as	you	explore	the	various	areas	of	your	life. Make	several	lists	of
these	seven	points. Place	these	lists	where	you	can	
see
	them. Read	them	often.Memorize	them. When	these	concepts	become	part	of	your	belief	system,
you	will	have	a	different	perspective	on	life. 1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment. As	you	do	the	exercises	in	this	workbook,	keep	coming	back	to	these	seven
points. Do	not	just	get	stuck	in	your	specific	problems. When	you	really
accept	these	ideas	and	make	them	a	part	of	your	belief	system,	you	become
‘powerful;’	and	the	problems	will	often	solve	themselves. The	object	is	to
change	what	you	believe	about	yourself	and	the	world	you	live	in. It	is	not	the	people,	places,	and	things	that	are	creating	a	problem	for	you;	it
is	how	you	are	“perceiving	and	reacting”	to	these	life	experiences. Take
responsibility	for	your	own	life. Do	not	give	your	power	away. Learn	to
understand	more	of	your	inner,	spiritual-self,	and	operate	under	that	power
that	created	only	good	for	you. “I	give	myself	permission	to	learn.”PART	II
THE	PROCESS3
HEALTH
“I	restore	and	maintain	my	body	at	optimum	health.”
Health	Checklist
	I	get	three	colds	every	year. My	energy	level	is	low. I	heal	slowly. My	allergies	act	up	constantly. Heart	dis-ease	runs	in	my	family. I	get	one	illness	after	another. My	back	gives	me	constant	pain. These	headaches	never	go	away. I’m	always	constipated. I	have	sore	feet. I’m	always	hurting	my	body. H
ow	many	of	these	sound	like	you? Let’s	look	at	our	beliefs	about	health. I	believe	that	we	contribute	to	every	“illness”	in	our	body. The	body,	as
with	everything	else	in	life,	is	a	mirror	of	our	inner	thoughts	and	beliefs. Our
body	is	always	talking	to	us,	if	we	will	only	take	the	time	to	listen. Every	cell
within	our	bodies	responds	to	every	single	thought	we	think. When	we	discover	what	the	mental	pattern	is	behind	an	illness,	we	have	a
chance	to	change	the	pattern	and,	therefore,	the	dis-ease. Most	people	do	not
want	to	be	sick	on	a	conscious	level,	yet	every	dis-ease	that	we	have	is	ateacher. Illness	is	the	body’s	way	of	telling	us	that	there	is	a	false	idea	in	our
consciousness. Something	that	we	are	believing,	saying,	doing,	or	thinking	is
not	for	our	highest	good. I	always	picture	the	body	tugging	at	us	saying,
“Please-pay	attention!”
Sometimes	people	
do
	want	to	be	sick. In	our	society,	we’ve	made	illness	a
legitimate	way	to	avoid	responsibility	or	unpleasant	situations. If	we	can’t
learn	to	say	“no,”	then	we	may	have	to	invent	a	dis-ease	to	say	“no”	for	us. I	read	an	interesting	report	a	few	years	back. It	stated	that	only	30	percent
of	patients	follow	their	doctor’s	instructions. According	to	Dr.	John	Harrison,
author	of	the	fascinating	book	
Love	Your	Disease,
	many	people	go	to	doctors
only	to	have	their	acute	symptoms	relieved,	so	that	they	can	tolerate	their	dis-
ease. It	is	as	if	an	unwritten,	subconscious	agreement	exists	between	doctor
and	patient:	the	doctor	agrees	not	to	cure	the	patient	if	the	patient	pretends	to
do	something	about	his	or	her	condition. Also	in	this	agreement,	one	person
gets	to	pay,	and	the	other	becomes	the	authority	figure,	and	so,	both	parties
are	satisfied. True	healing	involves	body,	mind,	and	spirit. I	believe	that	if	we	“cure”	an
illness,	yet	do	not	address	the	emotional	and	spiritual	issues	that	surround	that
illness,	it	will	only	manifest	itself	again. EXERCISE:	
Releasing	Your	Health	Problems
Are	you	willing	to	release	the	need	that	has	contributed	to	your	health
problems? Once	again,	when	we	have	a	condition	that	we	want
	to	
change,
the	first	thing	that	we	have	to	do	is	to	say	so. Say:
	“I	
am	willing	to	release
the	need	in	me	that	has	created	this	condition.”	Say	it	again. Say	it	looking
in	
the	mirror. Say	it	every	time	that	you	think	about	your	condition. It
	is	
the
first	step	in	creating	a	change. 1. List	all	of	your	mother’s	illnesses. 2. List	all	of	your	father’s	illnesses.3. List	all	of	your	illnesses. 4. Do	you	see	a	connection? EXERCISE:	
Health	and	Dis-ease
Let’s	examine	some	of	your	beliefs	about	health	and	dis-ease. Answer	the
following	questions. Be	as	open	and	honest	as	you	can. 1. What	do	you	remember	about	your	childhood	illnesses? 2. What	did	you	learn	from	your	parents	about	illness? 3. What,	if	anything,	did	you	enjoy	about	being	sick	as	a	child? 4. Is	there	a	belief	about	illness	from	your	childhood	that	you	are	still
acting	on	today? 5. How	have	you	contributed	to	the	state	of	your	health? 6. Would	you	like	your	condition	to	change? If	so,	in	what	way? EXERCISE:	
Your	Beliefs	About	Sickness
Complete	the	following	statements	as	honestly	as	you	can. 1. The	way	I	make	myself	sick	is...
2. I	get	sick	when	I	try	to	avoid...
3. When	I	get	sick,	I	always	want	to...
4. When	I	was	sick	as	a	child,	my	mother	always...
5. My	greatest	fear	when	I	am	sick	is
EXERCISE:	
The	Power	of	Affirmations
Let’s	discover	the	power	of	written	affirmations! Writing	an	affirmation
can	intensify
	its	
power. In	the	space	below,	write	a	positive	affirmation
about	your	health
	25	
times. You	may	create	your	own,	or	use	one	of	the
following:
1. My	healing	is	already	in	process. 2. I	listen	with	love	to	my	body’s	messages.3. My	health	is	radiant,	vibrant	and	dynamic	now. 4. I	am	grateful	for	my	perfect	health. 5. I	deserve	good	health. EXERCISE:	
Self-WorthLet’s	examine	the	issue	of	self-worth. Answer	the	following	questions,
and	after	each	one,	create	a	positive	affirmation. 1. Do	I	deserve	good	health? Example:
No. Illness	runs	in	my	family. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	accept	and	deserve	perfect	health	now. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
2. What	do	I	fear	most	about	my	health? Example:
I	am	afraid	that	I	will	get	sick. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
It	
is	safe	to	be	well	now. I	am	always	loved. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
3. What	am	I	“getting”	from	this	belief? Example:
I	don’t	have	to	be	responsible. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	am	confident	and	secure. Life	is	easy	for	me. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
4. What	do	I	fear	would	happen	if	I	let	go	of	this	belief? Example:
I	would	have	to	grow	up.YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
It	
is	safe	to	be	an	adult. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
Review	the	belief	checklist	taken	from	page	27,	then	study	the	affirmations
corresponding	to	each	belief. Make	these	affirmations	part	of	your	daily
routine. Say	them	often	in	the	car,	at	work,	in	the	mirror,	or	any	time	you	feel
your	negative	beliefs	surfacing.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
I	get	three	colds	every	year. I	am	safe	and	secure	at	all	times. Love
surrounds	me	and	protects	me. My	energy	level	is	low. I	am	filled	with	energy	and
enthusiasm. I	heal	slowly. My	body	heals	rapidly. My	allergies	act	up	constantly. The	world	is	safe. I	am	safe. I	am	at	peace	with	life. Heart	dis-ease	runs	in	my	family. I	am	healthy	and	whole. I	get	one	illness	after	another. Good	health	is	mine	now. I	release	the	past. My	back	gives	me	constant	pain. Life	loves	and	supports	me. I	am	safe. These	headaches	never	go	away. My	mind	is	at	peace	and	all	is	well. I’m	always	constipated. I	allow	life	to	flow	through	me. I	have	sore	feet. I	am	willing	to	move	forward	with
ease. I’m	always	hurting	my	body. I	am	gentle	with	my	body. I	love	myself. “I	give	myself	permission	to	be	well.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.4
FEELING	GOOD
“It	is	my	divine	right	to	be	comfortable.”
Feeling	Good	Checklist
	I’m	anxious	all	of	the	time. I’m	frightened	of	people. My	loneliness	is	intense. I	have	difficulty	expressing	my	feelings. My	temper	is	out	of	control. I	can’t	focus	on	anything. Everyone	is	against	me. I	can’t	assert	myself. I	feel	like	a	failure. I	want	to	hide	under	the	covers. C
an	you	identify	with	any	of	these	feelings? You	may	need	to	work	on
your	emotional	well-being. Emotional	problems	are	among	the	most	painful	of	all. Occasionally	we
may	feel	angry,	sad,	lonely,	guilty,	anxious,	or	frightened. When	these
feelings	take	over	and	become	predominant,	our	life	can	become	an	emotional
battleground. What	we	
do
	with	our	feelings	is	important. Are	we	going	to	act	them	out? Will	we	punish	others	or	force	our	will	upon	them? Will	we	abuse	ourselves
in	some	way?The	belief	that	we	are	
not	good	enough
	is	often	at	the	root	of	these
problems. Good	mental	health	begins	with	
loving	the	self. When	we	love	and
approve	of	ourselves	
completely,
	the	good	and	the	so-called	bad,	we	can	begin
to	change. Part	of	self-acceptance	is	releasing	other	people’s	opinions. Many	of	the
things	we	have	chosen	to	believe	about	ourselves	have	absolutely	no	basis	in
truth. For	example,	a	young	man	named	Eric	was	a	client	of	mine	several	years
ago	when	I	was	seeing	people	privately. He	was	devastatingly	handsome	and
made	a	good	living	as	a	model. He	told	me	what	a	hard	time	he	had	going	to
the	gym	because	he	felt	ugly. As	we	worked	together,	we	discovered	that	a	neighborhood	bully	from	his
childhood	used	to	call	him	“ugly.”	This	person	would	also	beat	him	up	and
constantly	threaten	him. In	order	to	be	left	alone	and	to	feel	safe,	Eric	began
to	hide,	He	bought	into	the	fact	that	he	was	not	good	enough. In	his	mind,	he
was	ugly. Through	mirror	work,	self-love,	and	positive	affirmations,	Eric	has
improved	tremendously. His	feelings	of	anxiety	may	come	and	go,	but	he	now
has	some	tools	to	work	with. Remember,	feelings	of	inadequacy	start	with	negative	thoughts	that	we
have	about	ourselves. However,	these	thoughts	have	no	power	over	us	unless
we
	act	upon	them. Thoughts	are	only	words	strung	together. They	have	
no
meaning	whatsoever. Only	WE	give	meaning	to	them. We	give	meaning	to
them	by	focusing	on	the	negative	messages	over	and	over	again	in	our	minds. We	believe	the	worst	about	ourselves. And	
we
	choose	what	
kind
	of	meaning
we	give	to	them. Whatever	pain	we	might	be	in,	let’s	choose	thoughts	that	nourish	and
support
	us. MIRROR	WORK
Do	you	believe	that	you	deserve	peace	and	serenity	in	your	emotional	life? If	you	don’t,	you	won’t	allow	yourself	to	have	it. Look	into	your	mirror	again
and	say,	“I	deserve	inner	peace,	and	I	accept	it	now.”	Say	it	a	few	times. 1. What	kind	of	feelings	come	up	for	you?2. How	does	your	body	feel? 3. Does	it	feel	true,	or	do	you	still	feel	unworthy? If	you	have	any	negative	feelings	in	your	body,	then	affirm:	“I	release	the
pattern	in	my	consciousness	that	is	creating	resistance	to	my	good. I	deserve
to	feel	good.”
Repeat	this	until	you	feel	acceptance. Do	this	several	days	in	a	row. You
may	feel	funny	doing	some	of	these	exercises. You	may	wonder	how	they
might	possibly	change	you. I	have	seen	them	work	for	many	people. Taking
one	step	at	a	time	will	accomplish	wonders. EXERCISE:	
Have	Fun	With	Your	Inner	Child
When	you	are
	in	
a	state	of	anxiety	or	fear	that	keeps	you	from
functioning,	you	may	have	abandoned	your	inner	child. Think	of	some
ways	in	which	you	can	reconnect	with	your	inner	child. What	could	you	do
for	fun? What	could	you	do	that	is	JUST	FOR	YOU? List
	15	
ways
	in	
which	you	could	have	fun	with	your	inner	child. You	
may
enjoy	reading	good	books,	going	to	the	movies,	gardening,	keeping	a
journal,
	or	
taking	a	hot	bath. How	about	some
	"child-like”	
activities? Really	take	the	time	to	think. You	
could
	run	on	
the	beach,
	go	
to	a
playground	and	swing
	on	
a	swing,	you	could	draw	pictures	with	crayons,	orclimb	a	tree. Once	you	have	made	your	list,	try	doing	at	least	one	activity
each	day. Let	the	healing	begin! Look	at	all	you	have	discovered! Keep	going-you	can	create	such	fun	for
you	and	your	child! Feel	the	relationship	between	the	two	of	you	healing. EXERCISE:	
Your	Thankful	List
What	are	you	grateful	for? How	do	you	begin	your	day? What	is	the	first
thing	that	you	say
	in	
the	morning? Is	it	positive
	or	
negative? I	spend	about
10	
minutes	being	thankful	for	all	of	the	good
	in	
my	life. List	at	least
	10
things	in	your	life	that	you	are	grateful	for. You	may	take	a	month	to	write
this	list. Don’t	worry-there
	is	
no	time
	limit. You	may	always	add	to	the	list. Close	your	eyes	and	really	think	before	you	write.EXERCISE:	
Positive	Feelings
Let’s	examine	your	feelings. In	the	space	below,	write
	50	
positive	things
about	yourself. Pay	attention
	to	
your	feelings	while	you	are	doing	the
exercise. Is	there	resistance? Is	it	
hard	for	you
	to	
see	yourself	in	a	positive
light? Continue	on! Remember	how	powerful	you	are! Refer	to	the	checklist	on	the	next	page	taken	from	page	39. Find	the
affirmation	corresponding	to	each	belief. Make	these	affirmations	part	of	your
daily	schedule.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
I’	am	anxious	all	of	the	time. I	am	at	peace. I’m	frightened	of	people. Loving	others	is	easy	when	I	love	and
accept	myself. My	loneliness	is	intense. I	am	safe,	it’s	only	change. I	have	difficulty	expressing	myself. It	is	safe	to	express	my	feelings. My	temper	is	out	of	control. I	am	at	peace	with	myself	and	life. I	can’t	focus	on	anything. My	inner	vision	is	clear	and
unclouded. Everyone	is	against	me. I	am	loveable	and	everybody	loves
me. I	can’t	assert	myself. I	love	who	I	am	and	I	assert	my	power
wisely. I	feel	like	a	failure. My	life	is	a	success. I	want	to	hide	under	the	covers. I	now	go	beyond	my	old	fears	and
limitations. “I	give	myself	permission	to	relax.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.5
FEARS	AND	PHOBIAS
“Fears	are	merely	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	released.”
Fears	and	Phobias	Checklist
	I	am	afraid	to	leave	the	house. It	wouldn’t	work	for	me. Growing	older	frightens	me. I	am	afraid	of	flying. People	scare	me. What	if	I	become	homeless? Driving	a	car	makes	me	claustrophobic. What	if	I	have	a	painful	death? I’m	afraid	of	being	alone. I’ll	never	be	able	to	face	old	age. H
ow	many	of	these	sound	like	you? Let’s	examine	our	mechanisms
behind	fear. In	any	given	situation,	I	believe	that	we	have	a	choice	between	love	and
fear. We	experience	fear	of	change,	fear	of	not	changing,	fear	of	the	future,
and	fear	of	taking	a	chance. We	fear	intimacy,	and	we	fear	being	alone. We
fear	letting	people	know	what	we	need	and	who	we	are,	and	we	fear	letting	go
of	the	past. At	the	other	end	of	the	spectrum	we	have	love. Love	is	the	miracle	we	areall	looking	for. Loving	ourselves	works	miracles	in	our	lives. I	am	not	talking
about	vanity	or	arrogance,	for	that	is	not	love. That	is	fear. I	am	talking	about
having	a	great	respect	for	ourselves	and	a	gratitude	for	the	miracle	of	our
body	and	our	mind. Remind	yourself	when	you	are	frightened	that	you	are	not	loving	and
trusting	yourself. Not	feeling	“good	enough”	interferes	with	the	decision-
making	process. How	can	you	make	a	good	decision	when	you	are	not	sure
about	yourself? Susan	Jeffers,	in	her	marvelous	book,	
Feel	the	Fear	and
	Do	
It	Anyway,
states	that	“if	everybody	feels	fear	when	approaching	something	totally	new
in	life,	yet	so	many	are	out	there	‘doing	it’	despite	the	fear,	then	we	must
conclude	that	
fear
	is	
not	the	problem.”
	She	goes	on	to	say	that	the	real	issue	is
not	the	fear,	but	how	we	
hold
	the	fear. We	can	approach	it	from	a	position	of
power	or	helplessness. The	fact	that	we	have	the	fear	becomes	irrelevant. We	see	what	we	
think
	the	problem	is,	and	then	we	find	out	what	the	
real
problem	is. Not	feeling	“good	enough”	and	a	lack	of	self-love	is	the	real
problem. We	are	always	perfect,	always	beautiful,	and	ever-changing. We	are	doing
the	best	we	can	with	the	understanding,	knowledge,	and	awareness	that	we
have. As	we	grow	and	change	more	and	more,	our	“best”	will	only	get	better
and	better. EXERCISE:	
Letting
	Go
As	you	read	this	exercise,	take	a	deep	breath	and,	as	you	exhale,	allow
the	tension	to	leave	your	body. Let	your	scalp	and	your	forehead	and	your
face	relax. Your	head	need	not	be	tense	in	order	for	you	to	read. Let	your
tongue	and	your	throat	and	your	shoulders	relax. You	can	hold	a	book	with
relaxed	arms	and	hands. Do	that	now. Let	your	back	and	your	abdomen
and	your	pelvis	relax. Let	your	breathing	be	at	peace	as	you	relax	your	legs
and	feet. Do	you	feel	a	noticeable	change	in	your	body	since	you	started	reading
the	previous	paragraph? Notice	how	much	you	hold	on. If	you	are	holding
on	with	your	body,	you	are	holding	on	with	your	mind. In	this	relaxed,	comfortable	position,	say	to	yourself,	“I	am	willing	to	let
go. I	release. I	let	go. I	release	all	tension. I	release	all	fear. I	release	all
anger. I	release	all	guilt. I	release	all	sadness. I	let	go	of	old	limitations. I	let
go	and	I	am	at	peace. I	am	at	peace	with	myself. I	am	at	peace	with	theprocess	of	life. I	am	safe.”
Go	
over	this	exercise	two	or	three	times. Feel	the	ease	of	letting	go. Repeat	it	whenever	thoughts	of	difficulty	come	up. It	takes	a	little	practice
for	the	routine	to	become	a	part	of	you. Once	you	are	familiar	with	this
exercise,	you	can	do	it	anywhere	at	any	time. You	will	be	able	to	relax
completely	in	any	situation. EXERCISE:	
Fears	and	Affirmations
After	each	category	listed	below,	write	down	your	greatest	fear. Then,
think	of	a	positive	affirmation	that	would	correspond	to	it. 1. Career
Example:
I	am	afraid	that	no	one	will	ever	see	my	value. YOUR	FEAR:
Sample	Affirmation:
Everybody	at	work	appreciates	me. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
2. Living	Situation
Example:
I’ll	never	have	a	place	of	my	own. YOUR	FEAR:Sample	Affirmation:
There
	is	a	
perfect	home	for	me	and	I	accept	it	now. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
3. Family	Relations
Example:
My	parents	won’t	accept	me	the	way	I	am. YOUR	FEAR:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	accept	my	parents	and	they	in	turn	accept	and	love	me. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
4. Money
Example:I	am	afraid	of	being	poor. YOUR	FEAR:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	trust	that	all	my	needs	will	be	taken	care	of. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
5. Physical	appearance
Example:
I	think	that	I’m	fat	and	unattractive. YOUR	FEAR:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	release	the	need	to	criticize	my	body. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
6. Sex
Example:
I	am	afraid	that	I	will	have	to	“perform.”
YOUR	FEAR:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	am	relaxed	and	I	flow	with	life	easily	and	effortlessly. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
7. Health
Example:
I	am	afraid	of	being	sick	and	unable	to	take	care	of	myself. YOUR	FEAR:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	will	always	attract	all	the	help	I	need. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:8. Relationships
Example:
I	don’t	think	that	anyone	will	ever	love	me. YOUR	FEAR:
Sample	Affirmation:
Love	and	acceptance	are	mine. I	love	myself. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
9. Old
	Age
Example:
I	am	afraid	of	getting	old. YOUR	FEAR:
Sample	Affirmation:Every	age	has	its	infinite	possibilities. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
10. Death	and	Dying
Example:
What	if	there	is	no	life	after	death? YOUR	FEAR:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	trust	the	process	of	life. I	am
	on	
an	endless	journey	through	eternity. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
EXERCISE:	
Positive	Affirmations
Choose	an	area	of	fear	from	the	last	exercise	that	is	most	immediate	for
you. Using	visualization,	see	yourself	going	through	the	fear,	with	a	positive
outcome. See	yourself	feeling	free	and	at	peace. Write	down	a	positive
affirmation
	25	
times. Remember	the	power	you	are	tapping	into!Review	the	belief	checklist	below	taken	from	page	49,	then	study	the
affirmations	corresponding	to	each	belief. Make	these	affirmations	part	of
your	daily	routine. Say	them	often	in	the	car,	at	work,	in	the	mirror,	or	any
time	you	feel	your	negative	beliefs	surfacing.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
I	am	afraid	to	leave	the	house. I	am	always	safe	and	protected. It	wouldn’t	work	for	me. My	decisions	are	always	perfect	for
me. Growing	older	frightens	me. My	age	is	perfect	and	I	enjoy	each
new	moment. I	am	afraid	of	flying. I	center	myself	in	safety	and	accept
the	perfection	of	my	life. People	scare	me. I	am	loved	and	safe	wherever	I	go. What	if	I	become	homeless? I	am	at	home	in	the	universe. Driving	a	car	makes	me
claustrophobic. I	relax	and	move	with	joy,	ease,	and
comfort. What	if	I	have	a	painful	death? I	will	die	peacefully	and	comfortably
at	the	right	time. I’m	afraid	of	being	alone. I	express	love	and	I	will	always
attract	love	wherever	I	go. “I	give	myself	permission	to	be	at	peace.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.6
ANGER
“I	accept	all	my	emotions	with	love.”
Anger	Checklist
	I	am	afraid	of	anger. If	I	get	angry,	I	will	lose	control. I	have	no	right	to	be	angry. Anger	is	bad. When	someone	is	angry,	I	get	scared. It’s	not	safe	to	be	angry. My	parents	won’t	allow	me	to	express	anger. I	won’t	be	loved	if	I	get	angry. I	have	to	hide	my	anger. Stuffing	anger	makes	me	sick. I	have	never	been	angry. If	I	get	angry,	I	will	hurt	someone. D
o	you	recognize	any	of	these	feelings? Anger	may	be	one	of	your	big
barriers. Anger	is	a	natural	and	normal	emotion. Babies	get	furious,	express	their
fury	and	then	it’s	over. Many	of	us	have	learned	that	it’s	not	nice,	or	polite,	or
acceptable	for	us	to	be	angry. We	learn	to	swallow	our	angry	feelings. Theysettle	in	our	bodies,	in	the	joints	and	muscles. They	accumulate	and	become
resentment. Layer	upon	layer	of	buried	anger	turned	into	resentment	can
contribute	to	dis-eases	like	arthritis,	assorted	pains,	and	even	cancer. We	need	to	acknowledge	all	our	feelings,	including	anger,	and	find	positive
ways	to	express	these	feelings. We	don’t	have	to	hit	people	or	dump	on	them,
yet	we	can	say	simply	and	clearly,	“This	makes	me	angry.”	Or	“I	am	angry	at
what	you	did.”	If	it	is	not	appropriate	to	say	this,	we	still	have	many	options:
we	can	scream	into	a	pillow. Beat	the	bed. Kick	pillows. Run. Yell	in	the	car
with	the	windows	rolled	up. Play	tennis. These	are	all	healthy	outlets. 1. What	was	the	pattern	of	anger	in	your	family? 2. What	did	your	father	do	with	his	anger? 3. What	did	your	mother	do	with	her	anger? 4. What	did	your	brothers	or	sisters	do	with	their	anger?5. Was	there	a	family	scapegoat? 6. What	did	you	do	with	your	anger	as	a	child? 7. Did	you	express	your	anger	or	did	you	stuff	it? 8. What	method	did	you	use	to	hold	it	in? 9. Were	you:an	overeater? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Yes
	N0
always	sick? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Yes	
	N0
accident	prone? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Yes	
	N0
getting	into	fights? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Yes	
	N0
a	poor	student? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Yes	
	N0
crying	all	of	the	time? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Yes	
	N0
10. How	do	you	handle	your	anger	now? 11. Do	you	see	a	family	pattern? 12. Which	family	member	are	you	like	when	it	comes	to	expressing
anger? 13. Do	you	have	a	“right”	to	be	angry? 14. Why	not? Who	said	so? 15. Can	you	give	yourself	permission	to	express	all	your	feelings	in
appropriate	ways? A	quick	and	simple	thing	to	do	when	you	are	overwhelmed	with	your
feelings	is	to	jump	up	and	down	several	times	saying	in	a	loud	voice,	“Yes! No! Get	off	my	back! Yes! No! Get	off	my	back!”	Try	it. It	works	wonders	for
a	quick	release. If	you	have	a	lot	of	buried	anger,	you	may	be	a	person	who	walks	around
being	angry	all	the	time. The	anger	is	smoldering	just	under	the	surface. The
smallest	thing	will	set	it	off. You	may	not	express	this	anger,	but	you	will
mutter	under	your	breath	and	have	lots	of	resentful,	judgmental	thoughts. You
may	be	a	person	who	criticizes	everyone	around	you. And	if	you	do,	you
certainly	will	criticize	yourself,	too. So	you	may	ask	yourself:
1. What	do	I	get	from	being	angry	all	the	time?2. What	happens	if	I	let	go	of	my	anger? 3. Am	I	willing	to	forgive	and	be	free? EXERCISE:	
Write	a	Letter
Think	of	someone	who	you	are	still	angry	with. Perhaps	it
	is	
an	old
anger. Write	this	person	a	letter. Tell	them	all	your	grievances	and	how	you
feel. Don’t	hold	back. Really	express	yourself. Use	additional	paper
	if	
you
need	it.When	you	have	finished	the	letter,	read	it	once. Then	fold	it	and	on	the
outside	write:	“What	I	really	want	is	your	love	and	approval.”	Then	burn	the
letter	and	release	it. MIRROR	WORK
Take	another	person,	or	the	same	person,	you	are	angry	with. Sit	down	in
front	of	a	mirror. Be	sure	to	have	some	tissues	nearby. Look	into	your	own
eyes	and	see	the	other	person. Tell	them	what	you	are	so	angry	about. When	you	are	finished,	tell	them,	“What	I	really	want	is	your	love	and
approval.”	We	are	all	seeking	love	and	approval. That’s	what	we	want	from
everyone,	and	that’s	what	everyone	wants	from	us. Love	and	approval	brings
harmony	into	our	lives. In	order	to	be	free,	we	need	to	release	the	old	ties	that	bind	us. So	once
again	look	into	the	mirror	and	affirm	to	yourself,	“I	am	willing	to	release	the
need	to	be	an	angry	person.”	Notice	if	you	are	really	willing	to	let	go	or	do
you	still	want	to	hang	on	to	the	past. Review	the	beliefs	checklist	below,	taken	from	page	61. Next	to	them	are
the	corresponding	affirmations. Practice	them	in	the	car,	while	brushing	your
teeth	in	the	morning,	in	the	mirror,	or	anytime	you	feel	your	negatives	coming
to	the	surface.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
I	am	afraid	of	anger. I	acknowledge	all	my	feelings. It	is	safe	for	me	to	recognize	my
anger. If	I	get	angry,	I	will	lose	control. I	express	my	anger	in	appropriate
places	and	ways. I	have	no	right	to	be	angry. All	my	emotions	are	acceptable. Anger	is	bad. Anger	is	normal	and	natural. When	someone	is	angry	I	get	scared. I	comfort	my	inner	child	and	we	are
safe. It’s	not	safe	to	be	angry. I	am	safe	with	all	my	emotions. My	parents	won’t	allow	me	to	express
anger. I	move	beyond	my	parents’
limitations. I	won’t	be	loved	if	I	get	angry. The	more	honest	I	am,	the	more	I	am
loved. I	have	to	hide	my	anger. I	express	my	anger	in	appropriate
ways. Stuffing	anger	makes	me	sick. I	allow	myself	freedom	with	all	my
emotions,	including	anger. I	have	never	been	angry. Healthy	expressions	of	anger	keep	me
healthy. If	I	get	angry	I	will	hurt	someone. Everyone	is	safe	with	me	when	I
express	my	emotions. "I	give	myself	permission	to	acknowledge	my	feelings.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.7
CRITICISM	AND	JUDGMENT
Criticism	and	Judgment	Checklist
	Why	are	there	so	many	bad	drivers? People	are	so	stupid. I’m	such	a	jerk. I’d	do	it	if	I	weren’t	so	fat. Those	are	the	ugliest	clothes	I’ve	ever	seen. They’ll	never	be	able	to	finish	the	job. I’m	such	a	klutz. The	people	around	here	are	such	slobs. My	neighbors	are	so	noisy. Nobody	asks	me	what	I	think. Can	you	believe	that	old	car	that	she	drives? I	hate	his	laugh. D
oes	your	inner	dialogue	sound	like	this? Is	your	inner	voice	constantly
picking,	picking,	picking? Are	you	seeing	the	world	through	critical	eyes? Do
you	judge	everything? Do	you	stand	in	self-righteousness? Most	of	us	have	such	a	strong	habit	of	judgment	and	criticism	that	we
cannot	easily	break	it. It	is	also	the	most	important	issue	to	work	on
immediately. We	will	never	be	able	to	really	love	ourselves	until	we	go
beyond	the	need	to	make	life	wrong. As	a	little	baby	you	were	so	open	to	life. You	looked	at	the	world	with	eyes
of	wonder. Unless	something	was	scary	or	someone	harmed	you,	youaccepted	life	just	as	it	was. Later,	as	you	grew	up,	you	began	to	accept	the
opinions	of	others	and	to	make	them	your	own. You	learned	how	to	criticize. 1. What	was	your	family	pattern? 2. What	did	you	learn	about	criticism	from	your	mother? 3. What	were	the	things	she	criticized? 4. Did	she	criticize	you? 5. What	for?6. When	was	your	father	judgmental? 7. Did	he	judge	himself? 8. How	did	your	father	judge	you? 9. Was	it	a	family	pattern	to	criticize	each	other? 10. How	and	when	did	they	do	this? 11. When	was	the	first	time	you	remember	being	criticized? 12. How	did	your	family	judge	the	neighbors? 13. Did	you	have	loving,	supportive	teachers	at	school? Or	were	they
always	telling	you	what	was	lacking	in	you? What	sort	of	things	
did
they	tell	you? 14. Can	you	begin	to	see	where	you	might	have	picked	up	this	pattern? Who	was	the	most	critical	person	in	your	childhood? Perhaps	you	were	led	to	believe	that	you	need	to	criticize	yourself	in	order
to	grow	and	change. I	do	not	agree	with	that	concept	at	all! I	believe	that	criticism	shrivels	our	spirits. It	only	enforces	the	belief	that
“we	are	not	good	enough.”	It	certainly	does	not	bring	out	the	best	in	us. EXERCISE:	
Replacing	Your	“Shoulds”
As	I	have	said	many	times,	I	believe	that	“should”	is	one	of	the	most
damaging	words	in	our	language. Every	time	we	use	it,	we	are,	in	effect,
saying	“wrong:”	Either	we	are	wrong,	or	we	were	wrong,	or	we	are	going	to
be	wrong. I	would	like	to	take	the	word	“should”	out	of	our	vocabulary
forever,	and	replace	it	with	the	word	“could:”	“Could”	gives	us	choice	and
we	are	never	wrong. Think	of	five	things	that	you	“should”	do. I	SHOULD:
Replace	SHOULD	with	COULD. I	
COULD:Now,	ask	yourself,	“Why	haven’t	I?”	You	may	find	that	you	have	been
berating	yourself	for	years	for	something	that	you	never	wanted	to	do	in	the
first	place,	or	for	something	that	was	never	your	idea. How	many	“shoulds”
can	you	drop	from	your	list? EXERCISE:	
Your	Critical	List
Make	a	list	of	five	things	you	criticize	yourself	for:
Now,	go	back	over	that	list	and	put	a	date	beside	each	one-the	date	that	you
began	to	add	that	item	to	your	“get	wrong”	list. Isn’t	it	amazing	how	long	you	have	been	picking	on	yourself	for	the	same
thing? This	habit	has	not	produced	any	positive	changes	has	it? Exactly. Criticism	doesn’t	work! It	only	makes	you	feel	bad. So,	be	willing	to	stop	it. In	order	for	a	child	to	grow	and	blossom,	it	needs	love,	acceptance,	and
praise. We	can	be	shown	“better”	ways	to	do	things	without	making	the	way
we	do	it	“wrong.”	The	child	inside	of	you	still	needs	that	love	and	approval. “I	love	you	and	know	that	you	are	doing	the	best	you	can.”
“You	are	perfect	just	as	you	are.”
“You	become	more	wonderful	every	day.”
“I	approve	of	you.”
“Let’s	see	if	we	can	find	a	better	way	to	do	this.”
“Growing	and	changing	is	fun,	and	we	can	do	it	together.”
These	are	words	that	children	want	to	hear. It	makes	them	feel	good.When	they	feel	good,	they	do	their	best. They	unfold	beautifully. If	your	child,	or	your	inner	child,	is	used	to	constantly	being	“wrong,”	it
may	take	awhile	for	them	to	accept	the	new,	positive	words. If	you	make	a
definite	decision	to	release	criticism,	and	are	consistent,	you	can	work
miracles. Give	yourself	one	month	of	talking	to	your	inner	child	in	positive	ways. Use	the	affirmations	listed	above. Make	up	a	list	of	some	of	your	own. Carry
a	list	of	these	affirmations	with	you. When	you	notice	yourself	becoming
judgmental,	take	out	the	list	and	read	it	two	or	three	times. Better	yet,	do	it
aloud	in	front	of	a	mirror. EXERCISE:	
Who	Annoys	You? Who	else	do	you	belittle? List	five	of	their	names	and	what	you	find	most
annoying	about	them. Example:
George. He	never	smiles. Sally. Her	makeup
	is	
just	terrible. Now,	take	those	same	people	and	make	another	list. This	time,	find
something	positive	to	say	about	each	person-something	that	you	can	praise. Look	for	it. Even	a	small	thing	will	do. From	now	on,	every	time	you	think	of	these	people,	use	a	sentence	on	yourlist	to	praise	them. Keep	your	mind	filled	with	positive	thoughts. Make	a	habit
of	allowing	only	positive	comments	come	out	of	your	mouth. If	you	want	to
change	your	life,	you	need	to	control	your	mouth. EXERCISE:	
Listen	to	Yourself
This	exercise	requires	a	tape	recorder. Tape	your	telephone	conversations
for	a	week
	or	
so-just	your	voice. When	the	tape	is	filled	on	both	sides,	sit
down	and	listen	to	it. Listen	to	not	only	what	you	say,	but	the
	way	
you	say	it. What	are	your	beliefs? Who	
and	what	do	you	criticize? Which	parent,	if
any,	do	you	sound	like? As	you	release	the	need	to	pick	on	yourself	all	the	time,	you	will	notice	that
you	no	longer	criticize	others	so	much. When	you	make	it	okay	to	be	yourself,	then	you	automatically	allow	others
to	be	themselves. Their	little	habits	no	longer	bother	you	so	much. You
release	the	need	to	“change	them”	as	you	want	to	be. As	you	stop	judging
others,	they	release	the	need	to	judge	you. Everybody	gets	to	be	free. Review	the	checklist	below,	taken	from	page	71,	then	study	the	affirmation
corresponding	to	each	belief. Make	these	affirmations	part	of	your	daily
routine. Say	them	often	in	the	car,	in	the	mirror,	at	work,	or	anytime	you	feel
your	negative	beliefs	surfacing.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
Why	are	there	so	many	bad	drivers? I	lovingly	surround	myself	with
wonderful	drivers. People	are	so	stupid. Everybody	is	doing	the	best	they	can,
including	me. I’m	such	a	jerk. I	love	and	approve	of	myself. I’d	do	it	if	I	weren’t	so	fat. I	appreciate	the	wonder	of	my	body. Those	are	the	ugliest	clothes	I’ve	ever
seen. I	love	the	uniqueness	that	people
express	in	their	clothing. They’ll	never	be	able	to	finish	the	job. I	release	the	need	to	criticize	others. I’m	such	a	klutz. I	become	more	proficient	every	day. The	people	around	here	are	such
slobs. I	tidy	up	the	rooms	in	my	mind	and
this	is	reflected	in	everyone	around
me. My	neighbors	are	so	noisy. I	release	the	need	to	be	disturbed. Nobody	asks	me	what	I	think. My	opinions	are	valued. Can	you	believe	that	old	car	she
drives? I	lovingly	support	her	choice	of
transportation. I	hate	his	laugh. I	rejoice	in	laughter	whenever	I	hear
it.POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every
thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.8
ADDICTIONS
“No	person,	place,	or	thing	has
any	power	over	me. I	am	free,”
Addictions	Checklist
	I	want	to	feel	better	now. Smoking	cigarettes	reduces	my	stress. Having	a	lot	of	sex	helps	me	to	escape. I	can’t	stop	eating. Drinking	makes	me	popular. I	need	perfection. I	gamble	too	much. I	need	my	tranquilizers. I	can’t	stop	buying	things. I	can’t	get	away	from	abusive	relationships. H
ow	many	of	these	sound	like	you? Let’s	take	a	closer	look	at	this
behavior. Addictive	behavior	is	another	way	of	saying,	“I’m	not	good	enough.”
When	we	are	caught	in	this	type	of	behavior,	we	are	trying	to	run	away	from
ourselves. We	cannot	be	in	touch	with	our	feelings. Something	that	we	are
believing,	saying,	or	doing	is	too	painful	for	us	to	look	at,	so	we	overeat,drink,	act	out	compulsive	sexual	behavior,	take	pills,	spend	money	that	we
don’t	have,	and	create	abusive	love	relationships. There	are	12-step	programs	that	deal	with	most	of	these	addictions,	and
they	work	well	for	thousands	of	people. We	cannot	hope	to	duplicate,	in	this
chapter,	what	these	programs	have	done	for	people	with	addictive	behavior. I
believe	that	we	must	first	realize	that	there	is	a	need	in	ourselves	for	the
compulsive	behavior. That	need	must	be	released	before	the	behavior	can	be
changed. Loving	and	approving	of	yourself,	trusting	in	the	process	of	life,	and
feeling	safe	because	you	know	the	power	of	your	own	mind	are	extremely
important	issues	when	dealing	with	addictive	behavior. My	experiences	with
addicted	persons	have	shown	me	that	most	share	a	deep	self-hatred. They	are
very	unforgiving	of	themselves. Day	after	day,	they	punish	themselves. Why? Because	somewhere	along	the	line	as	children,	they	bought	the	idea	that	they
were	not	good	enough;	they	were	bad	and	in	need	of	punishment. Early
childhood	experiences	that	involve	physical,	emotional,	or	sexual	abuse
contribute	to	that	self-hatred. Honesty,	forgiveness,	self-love,	and	a
willingness	to	live	in	the	truth	can	help	to	heal	these	early	wounds	and	give
the	addictive	person	a	reprieve	from	their	behavior. I	also	find	the	addictive
personality	to	be	a	fearful	one. There	is	a	great	fear	of	letting	go	and	trusting
the	life	process. As	long	as	we	believe	that	the	world	is	an	unsafe	place	with
people	and	situations	waiting	to	“get”	us-then	that	belief	will	be	our	reality. Are	you	willing	to	let	go	of	ideas	and	beliefs	that	don’t	support	and	nurture
you? Then	you	are	ready	to	continue	our	journey. EXERCISE:	
Release	Your	Addictions
This	is	where	the	changes	take	place-right	here	and	now	in	our	own
minds! Take	some	deep	breaths,	close	your	eyes,	and	think	about	the
person,	place,
	or	
thing	that	you	are	addicted	to. Think	of	the	insanity
behind	the	addiction. You	are	trying	to	fix	what	you	think	is	wrong
	inside	
of
you	by	grabbing	onto	something	that	is
	outside	
of	you.
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        LOVE
YOURSELF
HEAL
YOUR	LIFE
WORKBOOK	
ALSO	BY	LOUISE	L. HAY
	
BOOKS
Colors	&	Numbers
Empowering	Women
A	Garden	of	Thoughts:	My	Affirmation	Journal
Gratitude:	A	Way	of	Life	(Louise	and	Friends)
Heal	Your	Body
Heal	Your	Body	A–Z
Heart	Thoughts
I	Can	Do	It®
Inner	Wisdom
Letters	to	Louise
Life. Reflections	on	Your	Journey
Love	Your	Body
Meditations	to	Heal	Your	Life	(also	in	a	gift	edition)
The	Power	Is	Within	You
The	Times	of	Our	Lives	(Louise	&	Friends)
You	Can	Heal	Your	Life	(also	in	a	gift	edition)
You	Can	Heal	Your	Life	Companion	Book
COLORING	BOOKS/AUDIOCASSETTES
FOR	CHILDREN
Lulu	and	the	Ant:	A	Message	of	Love
Lulu	and	the	Dark:	Conquering	Fears
Lulu	and	Willy	the	Duck:	Learning	Mirror	Work
AUDIOS/CD	PROGRAMS
Anger	Releasing
Cancer
Change	and	Transition
Dissolving	Barriers
Feeling	Fine	Affirmations
Forgiveness/Loving	the	Inner	ChildHeal	Your	Body	(audio	book)
How	to	Love	Yourself
Life. Reflections	on	Your	Journey	(audio	book)
Loving	Yourself
Meditations	for	Personal	Healing
Meditations	to	Heal	Your	Life	(audio	book)
Morning	and	Evening	Meditations
101	Power	Thoughts
Overcoming	Fears
The	Power	Is	Within	You	(audio	book)
The	Power	of	Your	Spoken	Word
Receiving	Prosperity
Self-Esteem	Affirmations	(subliminal)
Self	Healing
Stress-Free	Affirmations	(subliminal)
Totality	of	Possibilities
What	I	Believe/Deep	Relaxation
You	Can	Heal	Your	Life	(audio	book)
You	Can	Heal	Your	Life	Study	Course
Your	Thoughts	Create	Your	Life
VIDEO	PROGRAM
Dissolving	Barriers
CARD	DECKS
Healthy	Body	Cards
I	CAN	DO	IT®	Cards	(a	60-card	deck)
I	CAN	DO	IT®	Cards	for	
Creativity,	Forgiveness,
Health,	Job	Success,	Wealth,	Self-Esteem,	Romance
	(each	deck	has	12	cards)
Power	Thought	Cards
Power	Thought	Sticky	Cards
Power	Thoughts	for	Teens
Wisdom	CardsAll	of	the	above	are	available	at	your	local
bookstore,	or	may	be	ordered	by	visiting:
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®
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Louise L. Hay
Who is the author of the book "Love Yourself, Heal Your Life"?
The book emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and self-love in order to change one's life.
What is the main theme of the book "Love Yourself, Heal Your Life"?
The author encourages the reader to take responsibility for their own life and to release negative thoughts and beliefs.
What is the author's message to the reader in the introduction?
The author believes that we are responsible for our own experiences and that we should not judge ourselves or others, and instead focus on self-acceptance and self-love.
What is the author's view on the concept of "deserving"?
The author suggests that it is essential to recognize that addictive behavior is often a result of negative self-beliefs and that we must first release these beliefs in order to change and heal.
What is the author's approach to dealing with addictive behavior?