These were rare therapists, lar gely because you must
believe this about yourself and be living this philosophy each day in order
to help others to do the same. Only a knower of self can help a seeker of
self to find self-knowledge. And psychology , like all other professions, hasfew knowers of self, since its practitioners come from the same externally
thinking population pool into which other professions dip as well.”
There was so much to ask and yet I knew that whether we spent another
day or a hundred years together , I would always feel that way . She would
answer any question, discuss any subject, and she always revealed the depth
of her reality-only thinking. I wanted to ask her how she felt about me,
though I almost trembled at the thought of hearing someone talk to me,
about me, without the ability to be even mildly dishonest. I wanted to know
what she thought of Earthly love and sex, but again I decided to wait. I tried
thinking as “correctly” as I knew how , and everything I felt for her said, “I
love her .” Yet I still doubted myself. How does one love someone who can
only say and feel what is? What about the little white lies, or the occasional
exaggeration to smooth things over? I began to see myself in a new light. W as I afraid of her? Or was I afraid
of myself? Since meeting Eykis I’d learned much about fear . When you
elect to avoid anything because of fear , you choose to avoid life itself. Fear
is a thinking process and it is based on believing that things are fearsome. But in reality , in Eykis’ special reality , things on Earth just are. People don’ t
possess little fear bugs as they might on Uranus. I was still afraid of being
rejected by Eykis, but I was moving toward that inner road that she had
defined earlier in the day . I wanted to take the time for myself. I knew that
she had more gifts to give. Still, I was going to ask her to share her unique
knowledge and just present her secrets of the universe, without any
interference from anyone, including myself. Then, perhaps, I’d ask how she
felt about me. If there was time. OceanofPDF .com9 
 The Secrets of the Universe
“You mentioned something about secrets in our earlier discussions, Eykis. Do you want these secrets to remain clouded over , or are you willing to
share them here on film with us?” I asked. “I’d be happy to share my observations with you. But first I would like to
say that the only reason I refer to what follows as ‘secrets’ is that they
appear to have eluded so many of you here on Earth. Originally I called
them secrets because I thought no one knew them. I’ve since discovered
that all these so-called secrets are available to everyone on Earth, and have
been as long as you’ve had recorded history . I will still refer to them as
secrets, however , because their actual use continues to remain obscure,” she
said. “Fine. If you have no objections, I’m going to sit back and let you tell us,
uninterrupted, what these universal secrets are,” I replied, knowing full well
that Eykis had no objections to anything I asked, since this was my format
and she was the willing participant in this day-long encounter that was
drawing to an end. Eykis began…
“You must first learn to cultivate your own gar den. I’ve noticed that most
of your problems, your dif ficulties, your pain, and your self-defeating
behaviors stem from ignoring this clearly necessary advice. Cultivating
your own garden means that, as individuals, you focus first on the only
thing over which you have absolute control, yourselves. Then, when you
have your own life in order , you can assist others who need and seek your
help. Y our reality prohibits you from being anyone else, yet all of you seem
to look critically into everyone else’ s gardens. Since all of you have the free
will to grow what you please, it is really senseless to be concerned about
what others grow in their gardens, unless they are interfering with someone
else’s right to self-determination. If your neighbors prefer green beans to
your squash, then so be it. If your children choose to fertilize and you optfor crop rotation, then let it alone. If your spouse wants to grow flowers and
leave the weeds where they sprout, and you prefer neat rows of alternate-
colored vegetables, then that is how you ought to arrange your separate
gardens. If you get your own garden in shape, growing what you choose, by
methods that appeal to you, you will be so busy being and living that you
won’ t have any time left over to criticize your neighbors’ gardens. Y ou will
have time to admire and accept what they have created, and to assist those
who ask your help or to help insure that no one grows crops that interfere in
any way with the right of others to tend their own gardens. Cultivating your
own garden means accepting others as perfect, not wanting to alter or edit
those you love, and putting your life ener gy into being the happiest, most
fulfilled and moral human being possible. After all, your reality prohibits
you from entering the gardens of others. So why not align your thinking to
your reality , regardless of how much you dislike how others manicure their
gardens? Liking or not liking the activities and life styles of others will only
upset you and ruin your relationships. Moreover , you must have your own
life in order before you can help others or work constructively at changing
your world for the better . If all Earth people would remember this little
secret, unhappiness in most forms would soon be eliminated. “The kingdom of heaven is within. This secret, which I discussed earlier ,
is basic to your survival, and yet most of your people ignore it. The wording
has a religious orientation, but the concept is not limited to religion. It
applies to all human beings and their behavior . As a people, you resist
looking inward. Y ou’ve allowed yourselves to become external in almost all
your human activities. Y ou constantly seek pills to eliminate pain, drugs to
get high, approval to feel loved, money to achieve happiness, psychologists
to cope with life, and on and on you go on this external merry-go-round. Yet your reality allows you the wonderful privilege of having all you’ll ever
want or need by looking inward. Y ou teach external thinking in all walks of
life. Y ou discourage reliance on self and trust of your inner signals almost
as if they were a plague. Y ou chastise and punish those who think for
themselves and refuse to conform. Y ou ask people to think like the herd and
imprison those who refuse. “From what I’ve noted, happiness, fulfillment, and purpose in life are all
inner concepts. If you don’ t have inner peace and serenity , you have
nothing, and still you scorn those who ask you to look inward and banish
those who do so as a way of life. This simple secret is overlooked on yourplanet in all phases of life. Y ou should reexamine your resistance to this fact
of your reality . The kingdom of heaven symbolizes the ultimate perfection. It is not a place to arrive, nor a reward for being a conformist. It is within
you to have this wonderful ef fortless perfection. It is yours for the taking. Looking inward will bring about serenity in all its luxurious forms on your
planet. “Everything in the universe is exactly as it should be. I’ve noticed that
most of you on Earth absolutely refuse to accept what is, and instead opt for
using up the precious currency of your lives, your present moments, in
judging what is, and then choosing to be upset because you dislike your
own judgments. Y ou need to learn to look at the universe and say to
yourselves, ‘This is what I get. I’ll accept it and enjoy it as it is. I’ll work at
changing what I dislike, and then that will be what is. I’ll refuse to become
immobilized by anything I encounter .’
“What you often for get is that everything and everyone on your planet
exists as they are, independent of your opinions. Y ou must learn to
transcend judgment if you want to be happy . I’ve noticed that your older
people judge the young, who judge them right back. Y our whites judge your
blacks and vice versa. Y our males judge your females and females judge in
turn. It is a lar ge thinking sickness, since judgments begin with your minds. Instead of walking through life being mad at what is and what people
choose to be, you might consider acceptance as an alternative. Instead of
wishing that your reality were dif ferent, you might try treating it as a
miracle worthy of being cherished. Freeing yourself of judgments would
give you those moments you previously spent in judging for enjoying and
being happy , and for working to improve what you dislike. T rue inner
security will always elude those who sit in judgment, since they use up their
life ener gy in anger at what is. Y ou must first accept people and things for
precisely what they are, before you can help to bring about positive change. “Unfortunately , most humans see the world as they are themselves and
therefore are almost always disappointed when the world fails to measure
up to what they would like it to be. Y our highest functioning people
understand this secret. They use their common sense to accept what they
can’t change, their strength to tackle what they can change, and their
wisdom to always know the dif ference. But first and foremost, they learn to
accept everything and everyone in the universe as being exactly as they
should be.“I hear: I for get. I see: I r emember . I do: I understand. This simple little
secret seems to me to be ignored by most of you here on Earth. Y our unique
reality system prohibits you from understanding without internalizing and
experiencing. No one on your planet can understand swimming, bicycle
riding, dancing, making love, or anything else, without experiencing it. Y et
you spend much of your ener gy on lecturing others, explaining endlessly
how to do something, showing pictures and even telling each other how
easy it was for ME to learn. Y our educators provide far more ‘hearing’ and
‘seeing’ activities than ‘doing’ experiences, and then wonder why students
understand so little. Earthly parents constantly criticize their children. They
tell them how to think, how to feel, and how to behave, and then wonder
why they are misunderstood. Y our older people want your younger people
to benefit from their experiences and so they lecture away , never seeming to
grasp this basic secret. Individuals must experience their own reality their
own way in order to understand. No one, regardless of how much he wishes
it, can put understanding into another human being. Understanding can
come only from doing, and on Earth, in sharp contrast to Uranus, no one
can provide understanding for anyone else. “‘If one advances confidently in the dir ection of his dr eams and
endeavors, to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a
success unexpected in common hours.’  This is a direct quotation from
Henry David Thoreau, one of your own well-known philosophers. I include
it as one of the secrets, because no one seems to understand it. Chasing
success is like trying to squeeze a handful of water . The tighter you
squeeze, the less water you get. W ith success, when you chase it, your life
becomes the chase, and you never arrive at a place called successful. Y ou
become the victim of wanting more. I’ve noted that when you lead your
lives in such a way that you personally feel fulfilled, doing what makes
sense and feels right for you as a person, success will chase after you. “One of the great ironies of Earth life seems to be that those who don’ t
become consumed with chasing anything, including love, money ,
possessions, and approval, are the only ones who get these things in
amounts suf ficient to meet their needs. Those who don’ t care about being
approved receive the most approval. Those who refuse to chase love seem
to have plenty of it in their lives. Those who chase money may have enough
of it, but they don’ t believe it, so they are still inwardly poverty-stricken.You can have success if you make it an inner rather than an outer process,
and begin directing your ener gies toward living a fulfilled life. “Life itself is miraculous, ther efore you need never seek miracles. Everything in your life is a miracle to be cherished. A grain of sand, a bee
on a flower , a sailboat, a cup of cof fee, a wet diaper , a caterpillar , are all
miracles. Those who see life as a miracle don’ t have time for despair or
self-pity . When you learn to view life and everything in it as a miracle, you
soon see that complaining is a waste of the miracle that you are. A
complainer seldom stops to consider the alternative to his problems, which
is, having no life. Life presents itself to you and asks nothing of you. Y ou
can take life and swim deliriously through it, or you can fight it. But when
you elect to spend your time fighting it, you can’ t use the same time to
enjoy it. T oo many of you fail to appreciate what a gift life is. Y ou bemoan
your fate instead of realizing what a miracle it is that you are even here in
the first place. Y ou spend your time seeking miracles anywhere, from
anyone, instead of seeing everything and everyone as a miracle in and of
itself. When you cultivate a sense of appreciation for just being alive, you
will have no time left for carping about this or that injustice. Y ou will love
life rather than fight it. “It’s never too late to have a happy childhood . So many of your people
spend inordinate amounts of time complaining about their childhood
experiences and blaming them for their empty adult lives. Since you don’ t
have the benefits of rewind and re-do as we do on Uranus, it is literally a
waste of your precious present moments. “This too appears in my catalogue of ‘secrets’ because Earthlings don’ t
seem to realize that they can have anything they missed as a child by simply
opting to get it now . If you felt ignored as a child, then seek attention now . If you weren’ t allowed to ride a bicycle, or go to the amusement park, or
dance, why not have the experiences today and leave the whining and
blame behind? I’ve been perplexed by all this ‘poor me’ talk about
childhoods here on Earth, since the remedy is so apparent. Since you can’ t
go backward, complaining about the past will only make the present more
unpleasant. And why choose to be miserable, when you can have whatever
you missed out on… NOW! “Relationships that work, work because ther e is no work. All of you
spend so much of your precious life moments analyzing your relationships
to death, literally to death. Y ou want to talk about why you are happy orunhappy , what you like and dislike, where you are heading in your
relationships, and so on. T alking about the relationship seems to be your
way of covering up the fact that it isn’ t working. There is really only one
sure way to make your relationships work, and that is to recognize each
other ’s right to be separate, unique human beings without any ‘ownership’
expectations from each other . I have observed that the relationships in
which this simple principle was respected by both people flourished. In
relationships that ignored it, I noted constant haranguing, endless dull
conversations, and ultimately a breakup. Relationships do not require work,
they cry for and demand nothing more than mutual respect. “This is my way: What is your way? The way doesn’ t exist. Another of
your famous philosophers gave you this secret, which is almost universally
ignored. V irtually everyone in a position of authority for gets this simple
little secret. If you would stop trying to impose your way on others, and
begin listening to what they might of fer as alternatives, you could eliminate
all your battles, from family fights to world wars. More listening and less
demanding would eliminate the need to be right. Y our separate beliefs that
there is only one right way  is, of course, an error , since there is no ‘right’
way. Once you stop trying to prove that you’re right, you will eliminate the
reactions that your wrong thinking engenders. A corollary of this secret is
that nobody likes being told what to do. When you tell a child, a co-worker ,
a spouse, or a stranger what to do, that other person will almost always
rebel and do something to the contrary . You all see this, yet you still
continue telling,  even though it rarely works. Being told what to do violates
one’s free will. It is an insult to the free thinking that is such a vital part of
your reality . Stop trying to show people the right way , and begin asking
about their way . You might just learn something, and you’ll be helping to
eliminate the hostility that always accompanies being told what to do. “You get tr eated in life the way you teach people to tr eat you. You have
no reason to blame anyone for how you are treated, and yet most of you
think that the problems you face and the treatment you receive is the result
of other people’ s lack of consideration. Y ou have the inherent power to
teach anyone how you want to be treated. When you simply sit back and
accept being abused, you are responsible for permitting that abuse to be
heaped on you. This is one of the ‘secrets’ because most of you seem to feel
that other people cause your problems, hurt your feelings. I’ve noted that
those people who refuse to be abused, insist on respectful treatment, andreact swiftly and firmly when they are mistreated receive the respect that so
many ‘blamers’ never see in their lives. Again, self-responsibility for all of
your life experiences, rather than blame, is the key to a full, happy life. Teach those around you through behavior , not empty ar guments, that you
will tolerate nothing less than respect. This is never dif ficult for those who
have self-respect, since a person with high self-esteem expects the same
kind of treatment from others that they expect of themselves. Respect
yourself, and you’ll receive respect. If you receive disrespect, look to
yourself and ask that most important question, ‘Why have I allowed myself
to be treated this way?’ instead of, ‘Why are they doing this to me again?’
“Wher ever I go, ther e I am! You cannot escape yourself. On Earth you
cannot run away to a distant place and solve your problems. The cause of
your dif ficulties is within yourself. You must get you  straightened out first,
then it won’ t matter where you are. I’ve seen people take refuge in liquor
but they still have to face themselves. I’ve seen people try to escape
problems in exotic vacation lands, and still the problems persist. Y ou can
change marriage partners and repeat the same patterns of ownership and
mutual disrespect. Y ou Earthlings fail to see your problems as internal. Thus you make every attempt to run away from them. But it never works. Thus I include this in the itemization of ‘secrets.’ Y ou just don’ t seem to be
aware of your inability to run away from dif ficulties and problems. Anything that bothers you is a problem only within. Y our world doesn’ t
care about it, nor do the people in it. Only you experience it and only you
can correct it. Running away only provides you with a new setting to
experience the same old inner churning. On Earth, ‘Wherever I go, there I
am’ is indeed worth remembering. “Keep it simple. You want to make life complicated. Y ou endorse big
fancy words that no one understands over simple language and call it
intelligence. Y ou use mumbo-jumbo in your legal systems, your contracts,
insurance policies, tax laws, mortgages, and on and on. Then you hire
‘experts’ to wade through the mazes you’ve created. In religion, philosophy ,
psychology , medicine, law , education, economics, and almost every form of
human enterprise, you attempt to keep things complicated and somehow
maintain that simplicity means simple-minded. Y et your best writers,
composers, artists, and educators are those who use clear , precise language
and style to convey their meaning.“None of you wants anything you touch to be fuzzy and complicated, yet
all of you seem to strive for more befuddlement as a way of showing that
you have arrived at a higher plateau than your neighbors. Y ou give status to
those whom you can’ t understand, believing them to be more intelligent
because they are more confusing. Keep it simple! This simple advice will
help you to enjoy your lives. Y ou humans are not really that complex, and
enjoying life is quite a simple matter , if you eliminate the confusion and just
do it. The more obtuse you make your language, the more confusing you
make your policies, the more you lose sight of the simple beauty of being
alive. If you want to accomplish anything on Earth, the best advice is to do
it, as opposed to making it a hugely dif ficult mental process. “These ar e the good old days . So many of you are tied up in the senseless
frenzy of pursuing the future and reliving the past. Y our thinking becomes
so clouded that it erodes the present moment, which is all you have on
Earth. Now seems to be scorned in favor of planning. Y ou reward
‘futurizing’—planning ahead, saving for your old age, and postponement of
gratification—while punishing those who live fully with such labels as
irresponsible and hedonistic. Y ou are constantly in the unreal position of
never living fully today . I say unreal because it is impossible for you here to
live in any moment other than this one, yet you elect to expend your present
moments futurizing and reliving, while deluding yourselves into thinking
this is really happening. Now is it! You have no rewind and no fast-forward
on Earth. When you begin to use up your present moments living them,
instead of reliving or planning for a future moment in which you can relive
them, you will have a hold on living in the only possibility that your reality
allows, NOW. “You ar e perfect. For some reason you’ve chosen to believe that
perfection is anathema in people, and consequently you are doomed to a
lifetime of striving for something you can never attain. Y ou’ve confused
being perfect with being flawless, and cannot see the perfection of
yourselves as constantly changing beings. Y ou feel that it is somehow
imperfect to be perfect. Most of you know that all of nature is perfect. Y our
roses and sunsets are perfect. Y ou allow for your pets, trees, and mountain
ranges to be perfect, and yet when it comes to your most magnificent
creations—your people—your assignment for them is to be perpetually
striving, but never arriving. Y ou’re perfect! Of course you are ever
changing. Certainly you can grow and evolve. But you are still perfectcreations who can be fulfilled only when you stop seeing yourselves as
always having to deny your full perfection. Y our lives are never finished
and completed the way you think they ought to be. When you die, you all
have half-empty bottles of shampoo, and some canned food left in the
cupboard. Y ou are given a limited amount of time to live, and while you are
doing it, you might like to know that everything on your planet that is
natural is also perfect. Y our life is here for a while. It constantly changes
shape, form, and even substance, and all of it is perfect even if you decide
to call it by another name, such as imperfect. “There is no way to happiness: happiness is the way! This is the message
of all my gifts. If you haven’ t figured out this secret, happiness will always
elude you. “These are my so-called secrets,” Eykis said. “Use them as you see fit. They are based on firsthand observations by an outsider—a unique outsider ,
in that I must operate from a ‘what-is’ reality . You all have such an
advantage here on Earth: Y our reality permits you to live in total harmony
with your world. Y et up to now you’ve chosen disharmony at almost every
turn. Why not take these gifts, apply them, and just attempt to experience a
new reality?” she concluded. I was stunned by her ability to state her observations with such clarity . But I didn’ t want the day to end. I had one more selfish task to attend to
before she left. “I haven’ t asked you about love yet,” I said, adding, “As you are no
doubt aware, this is a subject that has been written about by authors, poets,
composers, and artists of all stripes since we’ve had people on our planet. You haven’ t addressed yourself to this specific subject, even though you’ve
touched on it in your gifts to us today ,” I said. “You’re asking me about this now because you believe that you are in
love with me and you’re afraid of my leaving you. Isn’ t that correct?” she
asked. “Yes, that is true, and much, much more. I’ve loved you since the first
moment I saw you on that television screen. It is a unique love for me. It
has nothing to do with your appearance; in fact as I dozed of f to sleep last
night, I was thinking of you and I couldn’ t for the life of me remember what
you looked like. I am, for the only time in my life, in love with a being
rather than a body . With a soul instead of an appearance. I’ve wrestled with
your leaving me today , and while I want to be noble and strong, I mustconfess that the thought of your disappearing from my life is painful. I need
to know how you see this love, your feelings for me, and then perhaps the
inner torture that I know I’ll experience when I must face life without you
will ease,” I concluded. “You speak of love like most people here. Somehow you’ve convinced
yourself that love itself requires the object of your love to be in your
presence for you to be fulfilled. Again, ‘incorrect thinking’ takes over for
you. By your definition of love, you can never  be happy in love. Y our love
is an ‘I need you here’ love. It requires me, or someone, or even something,
external to yourself to satisfy your love desires. But love isn’ t really like
that here on Earth from what I’ve learned. Love, too, is an inner concept. It
is located within you. It is yours to experience for whomever or whatever
you choose. It requires no reciprocity . Indeed, when you ask for anything in
return, you no longer have love. Y ou have then sullied it with expectations
and demands, no matter how slight they may be. “It is precisely because of these expectations that there is so little genuine
love on your planet. Most of you are jealous and possessive in your love. When your love turns to possessiveness it makes demands. The demands
then alienate the loved one and you incorporate anger and fear into the
relationship. W ith these come bitterness and aggression, and whether we
speak of individual love relationships or global interactions, what you call
love, but is in fact ownership and manipulation, takes over and the
problems to which I’ve addressed myself today then flow ,” she stated. “But can we really have love without expectations? Certainly people
want their love returned, otherwise it would be a one-way proposition,” I
countered. “Your love is located within you. It is yours to nurture and savor , to give
to others in any way you choose. This is true for others as well. If someone
you love fails to return the love the way you would like it returned, that is
the other person’ s choice. It doesn’ t at all detract from your love. While you
may wish that your love were reciprocated, to insist upon reciprocation is to
place your ability to love in the hands of others. This notion, while dif ficult
for you to accept, is the very foundation of love. Love must be without
qualifications or demands. I know you would like me to say something
quite dif ferent right now , but your love must not depend on being loved. You must learn to find ecstasy in other people’ s happiness. Y ou must ask
nothing of your love. In fact, love as I define it can be experienced only bythose who know themselves and have no fear of a detached love. Once you
feel love for yourself, it is quite normal to give it away . And giving it away
without any expectations can lead to a resolution of most of your Earthly
problems. W ith no expectations, you will find it quite easy to love those
who refuse to love you. In fact, you will stop looking for antagonisms and
enemies and will give love instead. Love is your perfection. Every one of
you wants love. Few of you know that love for yourself  provides you with
the ability to love others, that only a person who experiences love within is
capable of genuine detached love,” she stated. “You mean that a person who loves others by your definition of detached
nonexpectations is someone who loves himself first? Isn’ t that a selfish and
conceited kind of love?” I wondered. “It’s quite simple, my friend. Y ou can’ t give away what you don’ t have. Those who love, love without qualification. They love their assigned
enemies and those who would do them what you call “harm,” and if
everyone learned to love in this way , there would be no assigned enemies,
and people would practice a kind of love heretofore limited to only a few of
you here on Earth. Love is really the solution, but only when it’ s used in the
sense I’ve just described. The true test of love is loving those who refuse to
return it as you would prefer ,” she said. “I assume that this too means that you’ll be leaving me here, and that if
my love is genuine, it will be within me and that will be enough?” I asked. “How could anything you feel be anywhere but within you?” she asked
right back. “It can’ t, but it would be nicer for me if you stayed here and shared that
love as well,” I countered. “But that wouldn’ t be love you’re talking about. It might indeed be nicer ,
but it would still need my presence here in order for you to love, and that is
at the core of all that ‘incorrect thinking’ I’ve been talking about since we
first met two weeks ago.”
“Then you must go,” I said solemnly . “In reality , I am going at this moment by way of molecular transport.”
“But wait! One more thing. What can I say to people who feel empty , as I
do now , when things don’ t go as they would like them to go? T o those who
feel trapped as I do now , by the circumstances of their lives? T o those who
feel cheated? I can’ t just say , ‘Think correctly .’ They would laugh at me. They really believe they are thinking properly . They believe their problemsare real and don’ t feel that they can send them away by just changing their
thinking and attitudes.” I was talking faster , hoping for a reprieve. I knew
the inevitable was upon me. Eykis was on her way . I just didn’ t want to
muster up the inner courage to say farewell in a noble way . I still wanted to
hang on, but I knew it was useless, and I knew that she was correct. “Well, what do I tell them, and myself as well?” I almost begged. Her voice and form begin to fade. “W ere you not called the Learner? The
lessons are complete, and you can celebrate your graduation by accepting
my gifts and assuming your new role. In reality , the gifts I gave you were
always yours. I merely unwrapped them and revealed them to you. Did you
not notice the shining container? The gifts were enclosed in my love. Y ou
have that, too, my friend. Now give your gifts, T eacher . Your world of
learners awaits you…”
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Inspired, I determined not to let any time slip by before I made the world
aware of the gifts from Eykis. My contacts with the television industry and
other international media were minimal, so my approaches to them were
futile. Producers in char ge of programing said the tapes were obviously a
fake, or at least a sci-fi docudrama which could not be aired without being
censored, edited, rewritten. The more adamant I became, the more they
looked upon me as a mad scientist, too close to the edge for comfort, too
great a risk as far as advertisers were concerned. I refused to be defeated. Back at the campus, my student days were over , but I had become an
assistant professor in physics and biochemistry . This gave me access to the
laboratories and libraries where I had studied the Urantian Formulas. Although my initial work, and the successful experimental flight to Uranus,
had been secret, the teaching position provided a public audience for the
ideas of Eykis and the basic concepts of molecular transport. It would have
to do. If I could not begin on the broad base that Eykis had imagined would
be available (as it would have been on Uranus), at least I could begin with
the fertile open minds of young men and women in pursuit of knowledge in
pure science. I lived the reality-only  gifts I had been given. Let them learn
from a role model. And I taught what they would need as a basis for
understanding the molecular -transport equations. After several years during which I published articles in physics journals
on the most rudimentary preliminaries, there began to be excitement about
my work. Students who had no intention of specializing in science enrolled
in my classes just to hear the “common sense” that came through in my
lectures. I was annually chosen the most popular teacher at the university . My lectures filled the lar gest auditorium. Complaints abounded from my
colleagues because I was “not teaching physics but running a sideshow .”
The dean of the college firmly reminded me that I was not to have so many
uninvited guests in my classrooms, since they were depriving the paying
students of parking spaces in the student parking lots. However , thedepartment chairman, who was seeking a way to get rid of me, was told in
no uncertain terms that I was not to be interfered with, since I was single-
handedly keeping the physics department alive by luring students into my
classes. I knew I was popular with the young people, but I didn’ t want them to
follow my lead like groupies or cult worshipers. I wanted them to
understand how I had first learned about reality and then simply decided to
live in it. Because of my reputation on campus, I persuaded the manager of
the campus cinema, a student-operated business that showed movie classics,
to present my tapes of Eykis. There was very little advance publicity , but many of my students and
their friends attended. I expected them to be skeptical, as the media
professionals had been, but kinder because of their regard for me. As the tapes were shown I became oblivious to the audience. My eyes
streamed with tears as I saw her beauty and nobility again. She was alive
and as lovely as ever . Her truth beamed down like sunlight between the
gray cloud of Earthly pettiness and neuroses. It was painful to see the tapes
ending, but as I had lived their creation, I was prepared for their final
moments. I was not prepared for the audience reaction. First there was silence. Not a calm stillness, but the electric, utter silence
before the storm. Then, like a human cyclone, the audience began to rise
and roar , clapping, shouting, whistling, shaking each other , laughing,
screaming, weeping, jumping on the rattling folding chairs, tearing their
programs to confetti. Gradually a chant for the “author” began. I stepped
forward, simply to calm them. In seconds the students raised me on their shoulders and carried me
around the theater like a hero. I was stunned, but joyous that Eykis had been
welcomed at last. T o clear the building the manager said the tape show
would be repeated the following evening, but only if the patrons left the
place immediately . We left, but could not disband. A lar ge crowd descended
on the nearby pizza shop. Filled to capacity , the place throbbed with the
quickened beat of debate and delight. Every table was the scene of young
people ar guing about the meaning, the impact, the clarity of the film. I
couldn’ t sit still for any one conversation. I zigzagged about the restaurant
drinking in the scene, devouring the triumph of Eykis. Who needed beer
and pizza!Again and again I was asked, “Who is Eykis really? Is she from
Hollywood? What accent was that? W ould she come back for interviews?”
No one accepted the most obvious—she was what she said she was—a
Urantian. The films were shown the following night to a packed house. While the
tapes were playing, the manager tried to persuade me to allow copies of the
tapes to be made and shown on other campuses through the intercollegiate
film network. I saw an opportunity to reach a receptive audience on a wide
scale, but I wanted to protect Eykis from misuse of the films. I told him he
could continue presenting the films locally but the originals would remain
with me after each showing. Until I had a copyright, there would be no
exporting, and with a copyright, no exploiting. At the end of the second
night’ s program the reaction was much the same—reverent silence
exploding into wild delight or fierce denial. There were no neutral reactions
in the house. For several weeks the tapes were viewed by students and faculty . Word
spread and students from other universities appeared on campus hoping to
get in. Local newspapers reported the reaction of viewers and sent reporters
to get the “real story” from me. Everyone wanted to meet the actress who
had played the role of Eykis. No one believed my “foolish publicity stunt”
of insisting that she could not be found on Earth. Years before, just after my return from Uranus, I’d had several copies
made of the Urantian Formulas  and put them in safekeeping in various
places, including my memory . I was glad they were not readily available,
because not long after the Eykis tapes were duplicated and released for
national campus distribution, both my apartment and my laboratory were
ransacked. Someone was taking interplanetary travel very seriously . The
police said that whatever the bur glars were after was not found, so they very
well might go after the source—me! Most people, including the scientific community , regarded the tapes as
science fiction as far as Eykis’ role was concerned. I did not try to change
their minds while the fear of kidnaping haunted me. But I continued my
lectures in class and wrote more bits about the formulas, adding pieces to
the puzzle to entice physicists all over the world to speculate in the correct
direction. In a remarkably short time there were tremendous changes. First on
campus and then everywhere I went people were wearing buttonsproclaiming, “Eykis lives!” or “I like Eyk!” There were pins with an
enameled eye in the center circumscribed by the slogan, “Keep an Eye on
Reality!” Bumper stickers announced “Happiness Is the W ay” and “Keep It
Simple!” A landscaping service advertised with a drawing of Eykis holding
a bouquet: “Cultivating your own garden? See us for ideas!” An art student
hung a banner over the campus chapel door , “The kingdom of heaven is
within. Please enter .” I was afraid Eykis’ message was being taken too
lightly . Students were “zapping” imaginary lasers of guilt and hurt feelings
by aiming their index fingers like pistols. Did they get the real message
along with the amusement? Our Earthly problems were serious and Eykis had been sincere. W as all
this levity and casual quotation really the way to make an impact? Apparently yes. Over a matter of months the films became the source of
much discussion. In schools, classes in psychology , sociology , medicine,
religion, philosophy , political science, and business administration
discussed the films. Politicians at all levels were seen wearing Eykis
buttons and voting on legislation dealing with health care, defense budgets,
education, and all the vital issues Eykis had discussed. Their consciousness
was raised and their constituents were aware. Holistic medical clinics
developed overnight. Corporations held seminars on how Eykis’ ideas
applied to business. T ranscripts of the tapes were presented on stages across
the country by the most talented performers. Ecumenical conclaves issued
declarations of support for the philosophy . While I gloried in the evidence of impact on the emotional, spiritual, and
physical health of the people of my country , I was not really aware of how
quickly the Eykis influence would spread. The films were subtitled in forty
languages and distributed all over the world. Even where the tapes were
censored, uncut copies were smuggled in, causing an uproar impossible to
suppress. Then came the telegram: I had been awarded the Nobel Prize for
physics for my research in molecular transport! After much thought, I decided that the Urantian Formulas  were a gift to
the Earth, not to me, and that as the teacher , I must now convey the full
knowledge of the Formulas as well as the gifts of Eykis. Eykis had wanted a
worldwide audience initially , and I could not then provide it. Now , because
of the bur glary scare, I dared not draw international attention in any
sensational way . But once the Formulas were shared, there would be nothreat to them or me, and the solemn presentations of the Nobel Prizes
would create the distinguished audience Eykis had sought. In great happiness and haste, I asked for and received a week’ s leave
from the university , prior to the Nobel ceremonies. My friends thought I
traveled to Sweden, but my actual round trip was of considerably greater
distance. However , I arrived in Stockholm on the proper day , thrilled to
meet with the giants of the Earth in the civilized cordiality of that sparkling
capital city . That evening, the presentations were made in formal glory . The subdued
elegance could not diminish the excitement. The atmosphere was a fine
combination of proud self-esteem and deepest respect for the assembled
masters. When it was my turn to receive my prize, my heart raced. The
bright lights of glowing chandeliers and popping cameras blinded me, yet
lit the path to the podium. Before speaking, I breathed deeply . I began: “The reward I accept for my work in physics is that tonight I
may stand before you, the great of all nations, and walk among you, as a
true friend. Y et the prize which you bestow cannot rightfully be mine alone,
for the information was a gift from the masters of another world. Internationally , there are talented physicists and scientists of many fields
who are close enough to the solution to the transport puzzle to enable me to
feel safe in completing the missing segments. I have the Urantian Formulas
with me tonight to distribute to you all. And I bring proof of their validity in
the presence of the lady Eykis of whom many of you have heard. “She left Uranus a short while ago and I must move over slightly so she
can comfortably materialize on this platform. Ah! I feel her ener gy beside
me. Eykis! Please come among us. W elcome to a better planet than you
visited before!”
The shimmering flecks of her dancing molecules began to swirl beside
me. I could hear the gasps of the audience. I could see those smiling honest eyes again…
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        These were rare therapists, lar gely because you must
believe this about yourself and be living this philosophy each day in order
to help others to do the same. Only a knower of self can help a seeker of
self to find self-knowledge. And psychology, like all other professions, hasfew knowers of self, since its practitioners come from the same externally
thinking population pool into which other professions dip as well. ”
There was so much to ask and yet I knew that whether we spent another
day or a hundred years together, I would always feel that way. She would
answer any question, discuss any subject, and she always revealed the depth
of her reality-only thinking. I wanted to ask her how she felt about me,
though I almost trembled at the thought of hearing someone talk to me,
about me, without the ability to be even mildly dishonest. I wanted to know
what she thought of Earthly love and sex, but again I decided to wait. I tried
thinking as “correctly” as I knew how, and everything I felt for her said, “I
love her. ” Yet I still doubted myself. How does one love someone who can
only say and feel what is. What about the little white lies, or the occasional
exaggeration to smooth things over. I began to see myself in a new light. W as I afraid of her. Or was I afraid
of myself. Since meeting Eykis I’d learned much about fear. When you
elect to avoid anything because of fear, you choose to avoid life itself. Fear
is a thinking process and it is based on believing that things are fearsome. But in reality, in Eykis’ special reality, things on Earth just are. People don’ t
possess little fear bugs as they might on Uranus. I was still afraid of being
rejected by Eykis, but I was moving toward that inner road that she had
defined earlier in the day. I wanted to take the time for myself. I knew that
she had more gifts to give. Still, I was going to ask her to share her unique
knowledge and just present her secrets of the universe, without any
interference from anyone, including myself. Then, perhaps, I’d ask how she
felt about me. If there was time. OceanofPDF. com9 
 The Secrets of the Universe
“You mentioned something about secrets in our earlier discussions, Eykis. Do you want these secrets to remain clouded over, or are you willing to
share them here on film with us. ” I asked. “I’d be happy to share my observations with you. But first I would like to
say that the only reason I refer to what follows as ‘secrets’ is that they
appear to have eluded so many of you here on Earth. Originally I called
them secrets because I thought no one knew them. I’ve since discovered
that all these so-called secrets are available to everyone on Earth, and have
been as long as you’ve had recorded history. I will still refer to them as
secrets, however, because their actual use continues to remain obscure,” she
said. “Fine. If you have no objections, I’m going to sit back and let you tell us,
uninterrupted, what these universal secrets are,” I replied, knowing full well
that Eykis had no objections to anything I asked, since this was my format
and she was the willing participant in this day-long encounter that was
drawing to an end. Eykis began…
“You must first learn to cultivate your own gar den. I’ve noticed that most
of your problems, your dif ficulties, your pain, and your self-defeating
behaviors stem from ignoring this clearly necessary advice. Cultivating
your own garden means that, as individuals, you focus first on the only
thing over which you have absolute control, yourselves. Then, when you
have your own life in order, you can assist others who need and seek your
help. Y our reality prohibits you from being anyone else, yet all of you seem
to look critically into everyone else’ s gardens. Since all of you have the free
will to grow what you please, it is really senseless to be concerned about
what others grow in their gardens, unless they are interfering with someone
else’s right to self-determination. If your neighbors prefer green beans to
your squash, then so be it. If your children choose to fertilize and you optfor crop rotation, then let it alone. If your spouse wants to grow flowers and
leave the weeds where they sprout, and you prefer neat rows of alternate-
colored vegetables, then that is how you ought to arrange your separate
gardens. If you get your own garden in shape, growing what you choose, by
methods that appeal to you, you will be so busy being and living that you
won’ t have any time left over to criticize your neighbors’ gardens. Y ou will
have time to admire and accept what they have created, and to assist those
who ask your help or to help insure that no one grows crops that interfere in
any way with the right of others to tend their own gardens. Cultivating your
own garden means accepting others as perfect, not wanting to alter or edit
those you love, and putting your life ener gy into being the happiest, most
fulfilled and moral human being possible. After all, your reality prohibits
you from entering the gardens of others. So why not align your thinking to
your reality, regardless of how much you dislike how others manicure their
gardens. Liking or not liking the activities and life styles of others will only
upset you and ruin your relationships. Moreover, you must have your own
life in order before you can help others or work constructively at changing
your world for the better. If all Earth people would remember this little
secret, unhappiness in most forms would soon be eliminated. “The kingdom of heaven is within. This secret, which I discussed earlier,
is basic to your survival, and yet most of your people ignore it. The wording
has a religious orientation, but the concept is not limited to religion. It
applies to all human beings and their behavior. As a people, you resist
looking inward. Y ou’ve allowed yourselves to become external in almost all
your human activities. Y ou constantly seek pills to eliminate pain, drugs to
get high, approval to feel loved, money to achieve happiness, psychologists
to cope with life, and on and on you go on this external merry-go-round. Yet your reality allows you the wonderful privilege of having all you’ll ever
want or need by looking inward. Y ou teach external thinking in all walks of
life. Y ou discourage reliance on self and trust of your inner signals almost
as if they were a plague. Y ou chastise and punish those who think for
themselves and refuse to conform. Y ou ask people to think like the herd and
imprison those who refuse. “From what I’ve noted, happiness, fulfillment, and purpose in life are all
inner concepts. If you don’ t have inner peace and serenity, you have
nothing, and still you scorn those who ask you to look inward and banish
those who do so as a way of life. This simple secret is overlooked on yourplanet in all phases of life. Y ou should reexamine your resistance to this fact
of your reality. The kingdom of heaven symbolizes the ultimate perfection. It is not a place to arrive, nor a reward for being a conformist. It is within
you to have this wonderful ef fortless perfection. It is yours for the taking. Looking inward will bring about serenity in all its luxurious forms on your
planet. “Everything in the universe is exactly as it should be. I’ve noticed that
most of you on Earth absolutely refuse to accept what is, and instead opt for
using up the precious currency of your lives, your present moments, in
judging what is, and then choosing to be upset because you dislike your
own judgments. Y ou need to learn to look at the universe and say to
yourselves, ‘This is what I get. I’ll accept it and enjoy it as it is. I’ll work at
changing what I dislike, and then that will be what is. I’ll refuse to become
immobilized by anything I encounter. ’
“What you often for get is that everything and everyone on your planet
exists as they are, independent of your opinions. Y ou must learn to
transcend judgment if you want to be happy. I’ve noticed that your older
people judge the young, who judge them right back. Y our whites judge your
blacks and vice versa. Y our males judge your females and females judge in
turn. It is a lar ge thinking sickness, since judgments begin with your minds. Instead of walking through life being mad at what is and what people
choose to be, you might consider acceptance as an alternative. Instead of
wishing that your reality were dif ferent, you might try treating it as a
miracle worthy of being cherished. Freeing yourself of judgments would
give you those moments you previously spent in judging for enjoying and
being happy, and for working to improve what you dislike. T rue inner
security will always elude those who sit in judgment, since they use up their
life ener gy in anger at what is. Y ou must first accept people and things for
precisely what they are, before you can help to bring about positive change. “Unfortunately, most humans see the world as they are themselves and
therefore are almost always disappointed when the world fails to measure
up to what they would like it to be. Y our highest functioning people
understand this secret. They use their common sense to accept what they
can’t change, their strength to tackle what they can change, and their
wisdom to always know the dif ference. But first and foremost, they learn to
accept everything and everyone in the universe as being exactly as they
should be. “I hear: I for get. I see: I r emember. I do: I understand. This simple little
secret seems to me to be ignored by most of you here on Earth. Y our unique
reality system prohibits you from understanding without internalizing and
experiencing. No one on your planet can understand swimming, bicycle
riding, dancing, making love, or anything else, without experiencing it. Y et
you spend much of your ener gy on lecturing others, explaining endlessly
how to do something, showing pictures and even telling each other how
easy it was for ME to learn. Y our educators provide far more ‘hearing’ and
‘seeing’ activities than ‘doing’ experiences, and then wonder why students
understand so little. Earthly parents constantly criticize their children. They
tell them how to think, how to feel, and how to behave, and then wonder
why they are misunderstood. Y our older people want your younger people
to benefit from their experiences and so they lecture away, never seeming to
grasp this basic secret. Individuals must experience their own reality their
own way in order to understand. No one, regardless of how much he wishes
it, can put understanding into another human being. Understanding can
come only from doing, and on Earth, in sharp contrast to Uranus, no one
can provide understanding for anyone else. “‘If one advances confidently in the dir ection of his dr eams and
endeavors, to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a
success unexpected in common hours. ’  This is a direct quotation from
Henry David Thoreau, one of your own well-known philosophers. I include
it as one of the secrets, because no one seems to understand it. Chasing
success is like trying to squeeze a handful of water. The tighter you
squeeze, the less water you get. W ith success, when you chase it, your life
becomes the chase, and you never arrive at a place called successful. Y ou
become the victim of wanting more. I’ve noted that when you lead your
lives in such a way that you personally feel fulfilled, doing what makes
sense and feels right for you as a person, success will chase after you. “One of the great ironies of Earth life seems to be that those who don’ t
become consumed with chasing anything, including love, money,
possessions, and approval, are the only ones who get these things in
amounts suf ficient to meet their needs. Those who don’ t care about being
approved receive the most approval. Those who refuse to chase love seem
to have plenty of it in their lives. Those who chase money may have enough
of it, but they don’ t believe it, so they are still inwardly poverty-stricken. You can have success if you make it an inner rather than an outer process,
and begin directing your ener gies toward living a fulfilled life. “Life itself is miraculous, ther efore you need never seek miracles. Everything in your life is a miracle to be cherished. A grain of sand, a bee
on a flower, a sailboat, a cup of cof fee, a wet diaper, a caterpillar, are all
miracles. Those who see life as a miracle don’ t have time for despair or
self-pity. When you learn to view life and everything in it as a miracle, you
soon see that complaining is a waste of the miracle that you are. A
complainer seldom stops to consider the alternative to his problems, which
is, having no life. Life presents itself to you and asks nothing of you. Y ou
can take life and swim deliriously through it, or you can fight it. But when
you elect to spend your time fighting it, you can’ t use the same time to
enjoy it. T oo many of you fail to appreciate what a gift life is. Y ou bemoan
your fate instead of realizing what a miracle it is that you are even here in
the first place. Y ou spend your time seeking miracles anywhere, from
anyone, instead of seeing everything and everyone as a miracle in and of
itself. When you cultivate a sense of appreciation for just being alive, you
will have no time left for carping about this or that injustice. Y ou will love
life rather than fight it. “It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. So many of your people
spend inordinate amounts of time complaining about their childhood
experiences and blaming them for their empty adult lives. Since you don’ t
have the benefits of rewind and re-do as we do on Uranus, it is literally a
waste of your precious present moments. “This too appears in my catalogue of ‘secrets’ because Earthlings don’ t
seem to realize that they can have anything they missed as a child by simply
opting to get it now. If you felt ignored as a child, then seek attention now. If you weren’ t allowed to ride a bicycle, or go to the amusement park, or
dance, why not have the experiences today and leave the whining and
blame behind. I’ve been perplexed by all this ‘poor me’ talk about
childhoods here on Earth, since the remedy is so apparent. Since you can’ t
go backward, complaining about the past will only make the present more
unpleasant. And why choose to be miserable, when you can have whatever
you missed out on… NOW. “Relationships that work, work because ther e is no work. All of you
spend so much of your precious life moments analyzing your relationships
to death, literally to death. Y ou want to talk about why you are happy orunhappy, what you like and dislike, where you are heading in your
relationships, and so on. T alking about the relationship seems to be your
way of covering up the fact that it isn’ t working. There is really only one
sure way to make your relationships work, and that is to recognize each
other ’s right to be separate, unique human beings without any ‘ownership’
expectations from each other. I have observed that the relationships in
which this simple principle was respected by both people flourished. In
relationships that ignored it, I noted constant haranguing, endless dull
conversations, and ultimately a breakup. Relationships do not require work,
they cry for and demand nothing more than mutual respect. “This is my way: What is your way. The way doesn’ t exist. Another of
your famous philosophers gave you this secret, which is almost universally
ignored. V irtually everyone in a position of authority for gets this simple
little secret. If you would stop trying to impose your way on others, and
begin listening to what they might of fer as alternatives, you could eliminate
all your battles, from family fights to world wars. More listening and less
demanding would eliminate the need to be right. Y our separate beliefs that
there is only one right way  is, of course, an error, since there is no ‘right’
way. Once you stop trying to prove that you’re right, you will eliminate the
reactions that your wrong thinking engenders. A corollary of this secret is
that nobody likes being told what to do. When you tell a child, a co-worker,
a spouse, or a stranger what to do, that other person will almost always
rebel and do something to the contrary. You all see this, yet you still
continue telling,  even though it rarely works. Being told what to do violates
one’s free will. It is an insult to the free thinking that is such a vital part of
your reality. Stop trying to show people the right way, and begin asking
about their way. You might just learn something, and you’ll be helping to
eliminate the hostility that always accompanies being told what to do. “You get tr eated in life the way you teach people to tr eat you. You have
no reason to blame anyone for how you are treated, and yet most of you
think that the problems you face and the treatment you receive is the result
of other people’ s lack of consideration. Y ou have the inherent power to
teach anyone how you want to be treated. When you simply sit back and
accept being abused, you are responsible for permitting that abuse to be
heaped on you. This is one of the ‘secrets’ because most of you seem to feel
that other people cause your problems, hurt your feelings. I’ve noted that
those people who refuse to be abused, insist on respectful treatment, andreact swiftly and firmly when they are mistreated receive the respect that so
many ‘blamers’ never see in their lives. Again, self-responsibility for all of
your life experiences, rather than blame, is the key to a full, happy life. Teach those around you through behavior, not empty ar guments, that you
will tolerate nothing less than respect. This is never dif ficult for those who
have self-respect, since a person with high self-esteem expects the same
kind of treatment from others that they expect of themselves. Respect
yourself, and you’ll receive respect. If you receive disrespect, look to
yourself and ask that most important question, ‘Why have I allowed myself
to be treated this way. ’ instead of, ‘Why are they doing this to me again. ’
“Wher ever I go, ther e I am. You cannot escape yourself. On Earth you
cannot run away to a distant place and solve your problems. The cause of
your dif ficulties is within yourself. You must get you  straightened out first,
then it won’ t matter where you are. I’ve seen people take refuge in liquor
but they still have to face themselves. I’ve seen people try to escape
problems in exotic vacation lands, and still the problems persist. Y ou can
change marriage partners and repeat the same patterns of ownership and
mutual disrespect. Y ou Earthlings fail to see your problems as internal. Thus you make every attempt to run away from them. But it never works. Thus I include this in the itemization of ‘secrets. ’ Y ou just don’ t seem to be
aware of your inability to run away from dif ficulties and problems. Anything that bothers you is a problem only within. Y our world doesn’ t
care about it, nor do the people in it. Only you experience it and only you
can correct it. Running away only provides you with a new setting to
experience the same old inner churning. On Earth, ‘Wherever I go, there I
am’ is indeed worth remembering. “Keep it simple. You want to make life complicated. Y ou endorse big
fancy words that no one understands over simple language and call it
intelligence. Y ou use mumbo-jumbo in your legal systems, your contracts,
insurance policies, tax laws, mortgages, and on and on. Then you hire
‘experts’ to wade through the mazes you’ve created. In religion, philosophy,
psychology, medicine, law, education, economics, and almost every form of
human enterprise, you attempt to keep things complicated and somehow
maintain that simplicity means simple-minded. Y et your best writers,
composers, artists, and educators are those who use clear, precise language
and style to convey their meaning. “None of you wants anything you touch to be fuzzy and complicated, yet
all of you seem to strive for more befuddlement as a way of showing that
you have arrived at a higher plateau than your neighbors. Y ou give status to
those whom you can’ t understand, believing them to be more intelligent
because they are more confusing. Keep it simple. This simple advice will
help you to enjoy your lives. Y ou humans are not really that complex, and
enjoying life is quite a simple matter, if you eliminate the confusion and just
do it. The more obtuse you make your language, the more confusing you
make your policies, the more you lose sight of the simple beauty of being
alive. If you want to accomplish anything on Earth, the best advice is to do
it, as opposed to making it a hugely dif ficult mental process. “These ar e the good old days. So many of you are tied up in the senseless
frenzy of pursuing the future and reliving the past. Y our thinking becomes
so clouded that it erodes the present moment, which is all you have on
Earth. Now seems to be scorned in favor of planning. Y ou reward
‘futurizing’—planning ahead, saving for your old age, and postponement of
gratification—while punishing those who live fully with such labels as
irresponsible and hedonistic. Y ou are constantly in the unreal position of
never living fully today. I say unreal because it is impossible for you here to
live in any moment other than this one, yet you elect to expend your present
moments futurizing and reliving, while deluding yourselves into thinking
this is really happening. Now is it. You have no rewind and no fast-forward
on Earth. When you begin to use up your present moments living them,
instead of reliving or planning for a future moment in which you can relive
them, you will have a hold on living in the only possibility that your reality
allows, NOW. “You ar e perfect. For some reason you’ve chosen to believe that
perfection is anathema in people, and consequently you are doomed to a
lifetime of striving for something you can never attain. Y ou’ve confused
being perfect with being flawless, and cannot see the perfection of
yourselves as constantly changing beings. Y ou feel that it is somehow
imperfect to be perfect. Most of you know that all of nature is perfect. Y our
roses and sunsets are perfect. Y ou allow for your pets, trees, and mountain
ranges to be perfect, and yet when it comes to your most magnificent
creations—your people—your assignment for them is to be perpetually
striving, but never arriving. Y ou’re perfect. Of course you are ever
changing. Certainly you can grow and evolve. But you are still perfectcreations who can be fulfilled only when you stop seeing yourselves as
always having to deny your full perfection. Y our lives are never finished
and completed the way you think they ought to be. When you die, you all
have half-empty bottles of shampoo, and some canned food left in the
cupboard. Y ou are given a limited amount of time to live, and while you are
doing it, you might like to know that everything on your planet that is
natural is also perfect. Y our life is here for a while. It constantly changes
shape, form, and even substance, and all of it is perfect even if you decide
to call it by another name, such as imperfect. “There is no way to happiness: happiness is the way. This is the message
of all my gifts. If you haven’ t figured out this secret, happiness will always
elude you. “These are my so-called secrets,” Eykis said. “Use them as you see fit. They are based on firsthand observations by an outsider—a unique outsider,
in that I must operate from a ‘what-is’ reality. You all have such an
advantage here on Earth: Y our reality permits you to live in total harmony
with your world. Y et up to now you’ve chosen disharmony at almost every
turn. Why not take these gifts, apply them, and just attempt to experience a
new reality. ” she concluded. I was stunned by her ability to state her observations with such clarity. But I didn’ t want the day to end. I had one more selfish task to attend to
before she left. “I haven’ t asked you about love yet,” I said, adding, “As you are no
doubt aware, this is a subject that has been written about by authors, poets,
composers, and artists of all stripes since we’ve had people on our planet. You haven’ t addressed yourself to this specific subject, even though you’ve
touched on it in your gifts to us today,” I said. “You’re asking me about this now because you believe that you are in
love with me and you’re afraid of my leaving you. Isn’ t that correct. ” she
asked. “Yes, that is true, and much, much more. I’ve loved you since the first
moment I saw you on that television screen. It is a unique love for me. It
has nothing to do with your appearance; in fact as I dozed of f to sleep last
night, I was thinking of you and I couldn’ t for the life of me remember what
you looked like. I am, for the only time in my life, in love with a being
rather than a body. With a soul instead of an appearance. I’ve wrestled with
your leaving me today, and while I want to be noble and strong, I mustconfess that the thought of your disappearing from my life is painful. I need
to know how you see this love, your feelings for me, and then perhaps the
inner torture that I know I’ll experience when I must face life without you
will ease,” I concluded. “You speak of love like most people here. Somehow you’ve convinced
yourself that love itself requires the object of your love to be in your
presence for you to be fulfilled. Again, ‘incorrect thinking’ takes over for
you. By your definition of love, you can never  be happy in love. Y our love
is an ‘I need you here’ love. It requires me, or someone, or even something,
external to yourself to satisfy your love desires. But love isn’ t really like
that here on Earth from what I’ve learned. Love, too, is an inner concept. It
is located within you. It is yours to experience for whomever or whatever
you choose. It requires no reciprocity. Indeed, when you ask for anything in
return, you no longer have love. Y ou have then sullied it with expectations
and demands, no matter how slight they may be. “It is precisely because of these expectations that there is so little genuine
love on your planet. Most of you are jealous and possessive in your love. When your love turns to possessiveness it makes demands. The demands
then alienate the loved one and you incorporate anger and fear into the
relationship. W ith these come bitterness and aggression, and whether we
speak of individual love relationships or global interactions, what you call
love, but is in fact ownership and manipulation, takes over and the
problems to which I’ve addressed myself today then flow,” she stated. “But can we really have love without expectations. Certainly people
want their love returned, otherwise it would be a one-way proposition,” I
countered. “Your love is located within you. It is yours to nurture and savor, to give
to others in any way you choose. This is true for others as well. If someone
you love fails to return the love the way you would like it returned, that is
the other person’ s choice. It doesn’ t at all detract from your love. While you
may wish that your love were reciprocated, to insist upon reciprocation is to
place your ability to love in the hands of others. This notion, while dif ficult
for you to accept, is the very foundation of love. Love must be without
qualifications or demands. I know you would like me to say something
quite dif ferent right now, but your love must not depend on being loved. You must learn to find ecstasy in other people’ s happiness. Y ou must ask
nothing of your love. In fact, love as I define it can be experienced only bythose who know themselves and have no fear of a detached love. Once you
feel love for yourself, it is quite normal to give it away. And giving it away
without any expectations can lead to a resolution of most of your Earthly
problems. W ith no expectations, you will find it quite easy to love those
who refuse to love you. In fact, you will stop looking for antagonisms and
enemies and will give love instead. Love is your perfection. Every one of
you wants love. Few of you know that love for yourself  provides you with
the ability to love others, that only a person who experiences love within is
capable of genuine detached love,” she stated. “You mean that a person who loves others by your definition of detached
nonexpectations is someone who loves himself first. Isn’ t that a selfish and
conceited kind of love. ” I wondered. “It’s quite simple, my friend. Y ou can’ t give away what you don’ t have. Those who love, love without qualification. They love their assigned
enemies and those who would do them what you call “harm,” and if
everyone learned to love in this way, there would be no assigned enemies,
and people would practice a kind of love heretofore limited to only a few of
you here on Earth. Love is really the solution, but only when it’ s used in the
sense I’ve just described. The true test of love is loving those who refuse to
return it as you would prefer,” she said. “I assume that this too means that you’ll be leaving me here, and that if
my love is genuine, it will be within me and that will be enough.
The main theme of the conversation is about the importance of self-awareness, self-acceptance, and inner guidance, and how these concepts can lead to personal growth and fulfillment.
What is the main theme of the conversation with Eykis?
The author's intention is to share Eykis' insights and wisdom with the world, as a way to help people overcome their problems and find inner peace.
What is the author's intention in sharing Eykis' "secrets"?
According to Eykis, cultivating one's own garden means focusing on personal growth and self-improvement before trying to change or fix others.
What is the concept of "cultivating your own garden" according to Eykis?
The author is concerned that Eykis' gifts may be misused or exploited, which is why he is hesitant to share them with the world.
What is the author's concern about the potential misuse of Eykis' gifts?
The author's intention is to share Eykis' teachings with the world, but he is also concerned about the potential misuse of her gifts and wants to ensure that they are used responsibly.
What is the author's intention in publishing his book?