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Printed in the United States of AmericaT o all those who ar e r eady to
experience the joy of Mirr or Magic.C O N T E N T S
W elcome
WEEK ONE
Day 1 Loving Y ourself
Day 2 Making Y our Mirror Y our Friend
Day 3 Monitoring Y our Self-T alk
Day 4 Letting Go of Y our Past
Day 5 Building Y our Self-Esteem
Day 6 Releasing Y our Inner Critic
Day 7 Loving Y ourself: A Review of Y our First W eek
WEEK TWO
Day 8 Loving Y our Inner Child—Part One
Day 9 Loving Y our Inner Child—Part T wo
Day 10 Loving Y our Body , Healing Y our Pain
Day 1 1 Feeling Good, Releasing Y our Anger
Day 12 Overcoming Y our Fear
Day 13 Starting Y our Day with Love
Day 14 Loving Y ourself: A Review of Y our Second W eek
WEEK THREEDay 15 For giving Y ourself and Those Who Have Hurt Y ou
Day 16 Healing Y our Relationships
Day 17 Living Stress Free
Day 18 Receiving Y our Prosperity
Day 19 Living Y our Attitude of Gratitude
Day 20 T eaching Mirror W ork to Children
Day 21 Loving Y ourself Now
Afterwor d:
12 W ays Y ou Can Love Y ourself Now—and Always
About the AuthorW E L C O M E
W elcome, dear ones, to my 21-d ay course on mirror work. It is based on
my popular video course Loving Y ourself. O ver the next three weeks you
will learn how to transform your life simply by looking into a mirror . Mirror work—looking deeply into your eyes and repeating af firmations
—is the most ef fective method I’ve found for learning to love yourself and
see the world as a safe and loving place. I have been teaching people how to
do mirror work for as long as I have been teaching af firmations. Put simply ,
whatever we say or think is an af firmation. All of your self-talk, the
dialogue in your head, is a stream of af firmations. These af fir mations are
messages to your subconscious that establish habitual ways of thinking and
behaving. Positive af firmations plant healing thoughts and ideas that
support you in developing self-confidence and self-esteem, and creating
peace of mind and inner joy . The mos t power ful af firmations  are those you say out loud whe n you are
in front of your mirror . The m irror reflects back to you the feelings you
have about yourself. It makes you immediately aware of wh ere you are
resisting and where you are open and flowing. It clearly shows you what
thoughts you will need to change if you want to have a joyous, fulfilling
life. As you learn to do mirror work , you will become much more aware of
the words you say and the things you do. Y ou will learn to take care of
yourself on a deeper level than  you have done before. When something
good happens in your life, you can go to the mirror and say , “Thank you,
thank you. That’ s terrific! Thank you for doing this.”  If som ething bad
happens to you, you can go to the mirror and say , “Okay , I love you. This
thing that just happened will pass, but I love you, and that’ s for ever .”
For mos t of us, sitting in front o f a mirror and facing ourselves is dif ficult
at first, so we call this process mirror work. Bu t as you continue, youbecome less self-critical, and t he work turns into mirror play . V ery soon
your mirror becomes your companion, a dear friend instead of an enemy . Doing mirror work is one of the  most loving gifts you can give yourself. It takes only a second to say , “Hi, kid,”  or “Looking good,”  or “Isn’ t this
fun?”  It’ s so  important to give yourself little positive messages throughout
the d ay . The mo re you use mirrors for complimenting yourself, approving
of yours elf, and supporting yourself during dif ficult times, the deeper and
more enjoyable your relationship with yourself will become. Y ou may  be wondering, why 21 days for the program? Can yo u totally
transform your life in just three weeks? Maybe not totally , but you can plant
the seed s. As you continue to do  your mirror work, these seeds develop into
new , hea lthy ha bits of mind that open the door to a joyous and fulfilling
life. So let’ s begin. HOW T O DOWNLOAD THE DAIL Y MEDIT A TIONS
For each of the  21 days of the Mirror W ork program, there  is a
guided meditation. T o acc ess the audio meditations,  visit
www .hayhouse.com/download  a nd enter Product ID: 1516 and
Download Cod e: ebook. If you have any problem accessing the
meditation audio, please contact Hay House Customer Care by
phone—US (800) 654-5126 or INTL CC+ (760) 431-7695—or visit
www .hayhouse.com/contact .D A Y  1
L o v i n g  Y o u r s e l f
It’ s so important to love yourself. Mirr or work can help you build the
most important r elationship of your life: your r elationship with
yourself. When you begin your mirror w ork, you may think it’ s too easy or even
silly . A lot of things I suggest th at you do over the next 21 days  may at first
appear too simple to make a dif f erence. But I have learned that the simplest
actions a re often  the most impor tant. One small change in your thinking can
lead to huge changes in your life. Each day we w ill address a d if ferent theme. I will begin w ith some
thoughts on the theme and then  give you a Mirror W ork Exercise I would
like you  to practice throughout the day . Y ou can begin in the morning by
doing th is exerc ise in front of your bathroom mirror , and then  during the
day you can rep eat it whenever you pass a mirror or see your reflection in a
window . Y ou can also carry a pocket mirror with you and use it to do mirror
work whenever you have a few minutes to spare. I ur g e y ou to keep a journal as you do your mirror work. Jot d own your
thoughts and feelings so you can see how you are progressing. Each day I
will give  you a J ournaling Exerc ise, suggesting a few questions to help you
get started. I be lieve that each of us has a power within us, a higher self
connected to the Universal Power that loves and sustains us and brings us
prosperity of every kind. Journa ling will help you connect with this force. Y ou will see that you have within you all that you need to grow and change.Each day I will also provide you with a Heart Thought to support your
mirror w ork and  an af firmation to help you put the day’ s theme into action. Finally , I of fer a guided meditati on. I suggest that you sit quietly before you
go t o bed and reflect on how these ideas can make your life a  little easier
and a lot better . Y ou can read the meditation in the book or , if  you prefer ,
listen to the audio version from which it was adapted. Y our Day 1 Mirror W ork Exercise
1 . Stand or sit in front of your bathroom mirror . 2 . Look into your eyes. 3 . T ake a deep breath and say this af firmation: I want to like you. I
want to r eally learn to love you. Let’ s go for it and r eally have
some fun. 4 . T ake another deep breath and say , I’m learning to r eally like you. I’m learning to r eally love you. 5 . This is the first exercise, and I know it can be a little challenging,
but please stay with it. Keep taking deep breaths. Look into your
eyes. Use your own name as you say , I’m willing to learn to love
you, [Name]. I’m willing to learn to love you. 6 . Throughout the day , each time you pass a mirror or see your
reflection, please repeat these af firmations, even if you have to
do it silently . At first when you do your mi rror work, you may feel silly or stupid
repeating the af firmations. Y ou may even be angry or want to cr y . That’ s all
right—in fact, it’ s quite normal. And you’re not alone. Remem ber that I’m
right here with you. I’ve been through this, too. And tomorro w is a new
day . The Power Is W ithin Y ou: Y our Day 1 Journaling Exercise1 . After you finish your morning mirror work, write down your
feelings and observations. Did you feel angry or upset or silly? 2 . Six hours after finishing your morning mirror work, again write
down your feelings and observations. As you continued to
practice your mirror work formally and informally , did you start
to believe what you were saying to yourself? 3 . Keep track of any changes in your behavior or your beliefs over
the course of the day . Did the exercise get easier , or did you
continue to find it dif ficult after doing it awhile? 4 . At the end of the day , before you go to bed, write down what you
learned from doing your mirror work. Y our Heart Thought for Day 1: I Am Open and Receptive
If we do mirror work to create good in our lives but there’ s a part of us
that doesn’ t believe we are worth it, we are not going to believe the words
we are saying as we look in the mirror . W e will reach a point at which we
start thinking, Mirr or work doesn’ t work. The truth is, the perception that mirror work doesn’ t work has nothing to
do with the mirror work itself or the af firmations we say . The  problem is
that we don’ t believe we deserve all the good that life has to of fer . If that’ s your belief, then af firm: I am open and r eceptive. Y our Day 1 Meditation: Loving Y ourself
(Day 1 of the audio download)
Each on e of us has the ability to love ourselves more. Each o ne of us
deserves to be lo ved. W e deserve to live well, to be healthy , to be loved and
loving, and to p rosper . And that little child within each of us deserves to
grow up into a wonderful adult.So see yourself surrounded by love. See yourself happy and healthy and
whole. And see your life as you would like it to be, putting in all the details. Know that you deserve it. And then take the love from your heart and let it begin to flow , filling
your body and then moving out from you. V isualize the people you love
sitting on either side of you. Let the love flow to those on your left and send
them co mforting thoughts. Surro und them with love and support, and wish
them well. And then let the love  from your heart flow to the peo ple on your
right. Su rround them with healing ener gies and love and peace and light. Let you r love flow around the room until you are sitting in an enormous
circle of love. F eel the love cir culating as it goes out from you and then
comes back to you multiplied. Love is the mos t powerful healing force there is. Y ou can take this love
out into the wo rld and silently share it with everyone you meet. Love
yourself. Love one another . Love the planet and know that we are all one. And so it is.D A Y  2
M a k i n g  Y o u r  M i r r o r  Y o u r  F r i e n d
T oday you begin to practice basic mirr or work exer cises, learning to
look closely at yourself and beyond your old beliefs. It is  only the second day of mi rror work, and you are just beginning to
learn to love and  adore yourself. Hang in there. Each day that y ou practice
this new  way of thinking about  yourself and about life will help erase the
old, neg ative me ssages you have been carrying for so long. Soon you will
be smiling more and finding it easier to look in the mirror . Soon the
af firmations will start to feel true. Now I would lik e you to take out a pocket mirror or go to your bathroom
mirror . J ust rela x and breathe. L ook at yourself in the mirror . Then, using
your name, say , [Name], I love you. I r eally , r eally love you. Let’ s say it agai n, two more tim es: I love you. I r eally , r eally love you. I
LOVE you. I r eally , r eally LOVE YOU. How does that feel? Y ou can be honest and say that it feels strange or
stupid. B ecause it does  f eel  strange and stupid at first. O r maybe you find it
hard to do. It’ s okay to feel this way . Loving yourself unconditionally is
something you haven’ t done before. Let yourself feel the se feelings. Whatever you’re feeling, it’ s a beginning, a very good place to start. I k now that telli ng yourself I love you  is dif ficult for many of you. I also
know th at you can do it, and I’m very proud of you for hanging in. Mirror
work will get easier , I promise. Still, if you fin d it too hard to say I love you , you can start with
something a little easier . Maybe  try: I am  wil ling to learn to like you . I amlearning to love you. When you look in your mirror , I’d like you to imagine that  you are
talking to a child in kinder garten. Picture yourself as that young
kinder gartner . N ow , using your name, tell this inner child, [Name], I love
you. I r eally , r eally love you. The more you practice your mirror work, the easier it will get. But
remember that it is going to take time. That’ s why I’d like you to get into
the h abit of doing your mirror work frequently . Do it when you first get up
in the morning. Carry a pocket mirror wherever you go, so you can take it
out often and say a loving af firmation to yourself. Let’ s af firm: I am beautiful. I am amazing. I am easy to love. Y our Day 2 Mirror W ork Exercise
1 . Stand in front of your bathroom mirror . 2 . Look into your eyes. 3 . Using your name, say this af firmation: [Name], I love you. I
r eally , r eally love you . 4 . T ake a few moments now to say it two or three more times: I
r eally , r eally love you, [Name]. 5 . Keep repeating this af firmation over and over . I want you to be
able to say it at least 100 times a day . Y es, that’ s right: 100 times
a day . I know that seems like a lot, but honestly , 100 times a day
is easy once you get into the swing of it. 6 . So each time you pass a mirror or see your reflection just repeat
this af firmation: [Name], I love you. I r eally , r eally love you. When you find it dif ficult to tell yourself I love you,  it is most likely
because you are judging yourse lf, repeating those old, negative messages. Don’ t ad d to your discomfort b y judging yourself for making judgments. Just relax and commit to saying the af firmation. Remember: you are
committing to an af firmation that’ s true. The truth is, we do  love ourselves,
when we are not judging ourselves.It’ s a  good idea to have a tissue at hand when you are doing mir ror work,
because this work can be very e vocative. Often it brings up em otions from
the deep . The fact is, we may ha ve been very unkind to ourselv es. So when
we s tart to love ourselves again,  we become aware of the unloving attitudes
we’ve been carrying for a long time, and that causes a certain amount of
grief. But the grief is being released. So let yourself feel what you feel and
accept those feelings. Don’ t judge them. Mirror work is all about self-love
and self-acceptance. I’ve encouraged you to practice your mirror work first thin g in the
morning. Sometimes that’ s the hardest time of day to do it beca use we feel
that we don’ t look our best in the morning. But that is just a judgment, and
what we are d oing in mirror work is looking into the mir ror without
judgment so we can see who we really are. The Power Is W ithin Y ou: Y our Day 2 Journaling Exercise
Life is very simp le. What we giv e out, we get back. In your jour nal, write
down your responses to the following questions:
1 . What do you want that you are not getting? 2 . When you were growing up, what were the rules about
deserving? Did you always have to earn in order to deserve? W ere things taken away from you when you did something
wrong? 3 . Do you feel that you deserve to live? T o have joy? If not, why
not? As you answer  these questions, notice the emotions you are feeling. W rite them down in your journal. Y our Heart Thought for Day 2: I Am DeservingSometimes we refuse to put any ef fort into creating a good life for
ourselves becau se we believe th at we don’ t deserve it. The belief that we
don’ t deserve it may come from  our early-childhood experience s. W e might
be buying into someone else’ s concept or opinion that has nothing to do
with our own reality . Deserving has nothing to do with being good. It is our unwillingness to
receive the good in life that ge ts in the way . Allow yourself to accept the
good, whether you think you deserve it or not. Y our Day 2 Meditation: A Circle of Love
(Day 2 of the audio download)
See your self stan ding in a very safe space. Release your burdens  and pain
and fear . Release old, negative patterns and addictions. See them falling
away fro m you. Then see your self standing in your safe plac e with your
arms wide open, saying, I am open and r eceptive —willing to declare for
yourself what you want, not what you don’ t want. See yourself whole and
healthy and at peace. See yourself filled with love. And in this space, feel your co nnection with other people in t he world. Let the love in you go from heart to heart. And as your love goes out, know
that it comes back to you multiplied. Send comforting thoughts to everyone
and know that these comforting thoughts are returning to you. On this planet, we can be in a circle of hate, or we can be in a circle of
love and  healing. I choose to be in a circle of love. I realize that we all want
the same things: to be peaceful and safe, and to express ourselves creatively
in ways that are fulfilling. See the world becoming an incredible circle of love. And so it is.D A Y  3
M o n i t o r i n g  Y o u r  S e l f - T a l k
T oday you learn mor e about changing the messages you give yourself,
clearing out negative thoughts fr om the past so you can live in the
pr esent moment. Now that you’re on Day 3  of your  mirror work, are you f eeling a closer
bond wi th your friend, your mirror? Each day that you practice mirror work
you may fall in love with yourself a little bit more. Each day it becomes
easier to say your positive af firmations and truly believe them. The best way to love yourself is to release all the negative messa ges from
your past and live in the present moment. So today , I’d like to  work with
you on changing what I call y our self-talk —what you say to yourself in
your head. T oo often we ac cept the early messages from our parents, our  teachers,
and other authority figures. Y ou  were probably told things like “Stop crying
like a baby ,” “Y o u never clean y our room,” and “Why won’ t you  make your
bed?” And you did what people told you to do, in order to be loved. When
you were young, you might have gotten the idea that you were acceptable
only if you did  certain things. Acceptance and love were conditional. However , it bears remembering  that others’ approval was based on their
ideas of what was worthwhile and had nothing to do with your self-worth. These e arly messages contribute to our self-talk. The way w e talk to
ourselves inward ly is really important because it becomes the basis of our
spoken words. It sets up the m ental atmosphere in which we operate and
attracts our experiences to us. If  we belittle ourselves, life is going to meanvery little to us. However , if we love and appreciate ourselves, then life can
be a wonderful, joyous gift. If yo ur life is unhappy or you are feeling unfulfilled, it is ver y easy to
blame your parents—or the alm ighty Them— and say it is all their  fault. However , if you do that, you will stay stuck in your conditions, your
problems, and your frustration s. W ords of blame will not bring you
freedom. Y our words have great power . So start listening closely to what you say . If you hear yourself using negative or limiting words, you can change them. If I hear  a negative story , I don’ t go around repeating it to everyone. I think
that it has gone far enough, and I let it pass. However , if I hear a positive
story , I tell everyone! When yo u are out with other people, really listen to what they are saying
and how they ar e saying it. See if you can connect what they say with what
they are  experie ncing in their li ves. Many , many people live th eir lives in
shoulds. Should  is a word that my ear is very attuned to. It is as if a bell
goes of f  every time I hear it. I have heard people say it as many as a dozen
times in  a single paragraph. These same people wonder why their lives are
so rigid, or why they can’ t leave a situation. They want to have a lot of
control over things they cann ot control. They are busy eit her making
someone else wrong or making themselves wrong. Y ou can practice positive self-ta lk during your mirror work, ma king only
positive statements about yourself and repeating only positive af firmations. If an y of the negative self-talk from your childhood comes up, you can turn
it ar ound into a positive statem ent. For example, “Y ou never do anything
right!” c ould become the af firmation I am a capable person, and I can
handle anything that comes my way . A s you listen to yourself and others,
you can become more aware of what you say and how and why you say it. This awareness will help you change your self-talk into af firmations that
will nurture and heal you in bod y and mind. What a wonderful way to love
yourself! Let’ s af firm: I r elease  all the negative messages fr om the past. I live in
the pr esent moment. Y our Day 3 Mirror W ork Exercise1 . Stand or sit in front of your bathroom mirror . 2 . Look into your eyes. 3 . Say this af firmation: Whatever I say to myself, I will say it with
love. 4 . Keep repeating it: Whatever I say to myself in this mirr or , I will
say it with love. 5 . Is there a statement that you heard as a child that still sticks in
your head? Maybe something like “Y ou’re stupid” or “Y ou’re not
good enough,” or whatever else comes to mind. T ake time to
work with negative statements and turn them into positive
af firmations: I am smart. I am mor e intelligent than I r ealize. I
am a genius with an abundance of cr eative ideas. I am a
magnificent person. I am lovable. I am worth loving. 6 . Choose one or two of these new , positive af firmations and say
them over and over again. Keep saying them until you feel
comfortable with them. 7 . Each time you pass a mirror or see your reflection in a window
throughout the day , stop and repeat these loving af firmations. The Power Is W ithin Y ou: Y our Day 3 Journaling Exercise
1 . Did you repeat a negative story today? W rite down how many
times you repeated it and how many people you told it to. Now
write down something positive you can tell those people
tomorrow that will help them feel better about themselves and
everyone around them. 2 . W rite down the word should . Next to it, make a list of words to
use instead. Y ou might start with the word could. 3 . Post several of the new , positive af firmations you learned today
on your mirror so you can practice them whenever you see them.Y our Heart Thought for Day 3: I Always Have a Choice
Most of us have foolish ideas about who we are and many rigid rules
about how life should be lived . Let’ s remove the word should  from our
vocabulary forever . Should  i s a wor d that makes prisoners of us. Every time
we use should,  we are making ourselves wrong or someone else wrong. W e
are, in ef fect, saying: not good enough. What ca n be dropped now from your should  list? Replace the word
should  with the word could. Could  lets you know that you have a choice,
and choice is fre edom. W e need to be aware that everything we do in life is
done by choice. There is really nothing we have  to do. W e always have a
choice. Y our Day 3 Meditation: Y ou Deserve Love
(Day 3 of the audio download)
See yourself surrounded by lov e. See yourself happy and he althy and
whole. See your life as you wo uld like it to be, putting in all the details. Know that you deserve it. Then take the love from your heart and let it
begin to flow , filling your body with healing ener gies. Let your love flow
around the room and around you r home until you are in an enormous circle
of love. Feel the love circulating so that as it goes out from you, it returns to
you. Love is the most powerful healing force there is. Let it wash  through
your body . Y ou ar e  love. And so it is.D A Y  4
L e t t i n g  G o  o f  Y o u r  P a s t
T oday you start to let go, r elease blame, for give, and move on. How did you do  yesterday? Do you feel that you are learning to  let go of
some of your past hurts and tune your self-talk to a more positive channel? I
am s o proud of you for loving yourself enough to do these lessons every
day and to use your mirror work to reprogram all the old tape s you have
been playing in your head. Ever since we were little child ren, every message we have received,
everything we have said, every thing we have done, everything we have
experienced has  been recorded and stored in the filing cabinet in our core,
our gut, our solar plexus. I like t o imagine that there are little messengers in
there and that all our thoughts and experiences are recorded on tapes that
the messengers put in the appropriate files. Many of  us have been accumul ating files with labels like I’m not good
enough. I’ll never make it. I don’ t do anything right. W e are buried under
piles of old, negative tapes. T oday we’re going to surprise the little messengers. W e’re go ing to do
our mirror work and send new messages to our core: I am  wil ling to let go. I
r elease blame. I am r eady to for give. T he messenger s will pick up these
new me ssages and say , “What’ s this? Where does this get filed? W e’ve
never seen this one before.”
Can you imagine how wonderfu l it would be if every day you learned a
new wa y to let go of the past and create harmony in your life? My dear
ones, yo u have already started by doing your daily mirror work. Each dayyou are clearing out the layers, t he blocks of the past. Each time you say an
af firmation in front of the mirror , you are removing another layer . What are
the laye rs of your past that a re keeping you from living a happy and
fulfilling life? What are the blocks preventing you from for giving yourself
and your past? I thi nk we have  trouble identifying these blocks because we honestly
don’ t know what we want to let go of. W e know what is not working in our
life and we know what we wa nt to have in our life, yet we don’ t know
what’ s holding us back. Everything in your life is a mirror of who you are. Just as a mirror
reflects your image, your experiences reflect your inner beliefs. Y ou can
literally look at your experiences and determine what your be liefs are. If
you look at the people in your life, you will see that they are a ll mirroring
some be lief you  have about you rself. If you are always being criticized at
work, it  is probably because you are critical and have become the parent
who criticized you as a child. Remember: When something th at’ s happening in your life does not feel
comfortable for you, you have the opportunity to look inside and ask, How
am I  contributing to this experience? What is it within me that believes I
deserve this? How can I change this belief? How can I for give  myself and
my past and learn to let go and move on? Let’ s af firm: I let go of old limitations and beliefs. I let go, and I am at
peace. Y our Day 4 Mirror W ork Exercise
1 . Stand in front of your bathroom mirror . 2 . T ake a deep breath and, as you exhale, allow all the tension to
leave your body . 3 . Look at your forehead and imagine that you are pressing a button
that ejects a disk of all the old beliefs and negative thoughts that
have been playing in your head. Reach up and imagine that you
are pulling this recording out of your head and throwing it away .4 . Now look deeply into your eyes and tell yourself, Let’ s make a
new r ecor ding of positive beliefs and affirmations. 5 . Say these af firmations aloud: I am willing to let go. I r elease . I let
go. I r elease all tension. I r elease all fear . I r elease all anger . I
r elease all guilt. I r elease all sadness. I let go of old limitations
and beliefs. I let go, and I am at peace. I am at peace with myself. I am at peace with the pr ocess of life. I am safe. 6 . Repeat these af firmations two or three times. 7 . Throughout the day , whenever any dif ficult thoughts arise, take
out your pocket mirror and repeat these af firmations. Become
familiar with them so that repeating them becomes a part of your
daily routine. The Power Is W ithin Y ou: Y our Day 4 Journaling Exercise
1 . I find that most of the problems in our lives are caused by what I
call the Big Four: Criticism, Fear , Guilt, and Resentment. In your
journal, create four columns, heading each with one of the Big
Four categories. Think about what role they play in your life. W rite your thoughts and feelings about each category in the
appropriate column. 2 . From Step 1, take the two categories you wrote the most about
and write down ten positive af firmations in each category . For
example, if one of the categories is Resentment, you might write
af firmations like I now choose to r elease all hurt and r esentment. The mor e r esentment I r elease, the mor e love I have to give. 3 . Everything in our lives is a mirror of who we are. Think of the
people in your life who are the most challenging for you. What
are the traits that bother you most about them? W rite those down. 4 . Look at the traits that you listed in Step 3. W rite down how each
of these traits mirrors a belief that you have about yourself. Y oumight also want to jot down what you have learned about
yourself in doing today’ s exercises. Y our Heart Thought for Day 4: I Can Let Go
W e create habits and patterns because they serve us in some way . It is
amazing how many illnesses we  create because we want to punish a parent. W e may not be  doing this consciously—in fact, in most cas es it is not
conscious. But when we start looking within, we find the pattern. W e often
create ne gativity because we do not know how to handle some area of life. If that’ s the case, ask yourself: What am I feeling sorry about? Who am I
angry at? What am I trying to avoid? How do I think this will this save me? If yo u are not ready to let something go—you really want to hol d on to it
because it serves you—it doesn’ t matter what you do; you will not be able
to let it go. However , when you are ready to let something go, it is amazing
how easy it is to release it. Y our Day 4 Meditation: A New Decade
(Day 4 of the audio download)
See a new door opening to a decade of great healing—healing that we
have not understood in the past. W e are in the process of learning about all
the i ncredible abilities that we h ave within ourselves. And we are learning
to get in touch with those parts of ourselves that have the answers and are
there to lead us and guide us in ways that are for our highest good. See this  new door opening wide and imagine stepping through  it to find
healing in many , many dif ferent  forms, for healing means dif ferent things to
dif ferent people. Some of us have bodies that need healing; some of us have
hearts that need healing; some of us have minds that need healing. So we
are o pen and receptive to the healing that each person needs. W e open the
door wide for personal grow th, and we move through th is doorway
knowing we are safe. And so it is.D A Y  5
B u i l d i n g  Y o u r  S e l f - E s t e e m
T oday you learn mor e about loving yourself with r espect, gratitude,
and the r ealization that your body , mind, and soul ar e miracles to be
appr eciated. How did  you feel when you woke up this morning? Did you sm ile when
you look ed in the mirror and sai d, I love you, darling, I r eally love you ? Are
you starting to believe it? After just a few days of mirror work, you may see
that it has alrea dy started making a dif ference in your life. Y ou may be
smiling a little m ore today . Y ou may be feeling much better wh en you look
in the mirror and see your beautiful face. Y ou may be feeling much better
about yo urself. Are you beginning to love and approve of the person you
see in the mirror? Love is the grea t miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracl es in our
lives. I have disc overed that no matter what the problem is, the best way to
resolve it is to start loving yourself. Loving yourself means having great respect for everything about you,
inside and out. It is deep gratit ude for the miracle of your body and your
mind and your soul. Loving you rself is appreciation to such a degree that it
fills your heart until it bursts, overflowing with the joy of being YOU. It is impossible to really love yo urself unless you have self-approval and
self-acceptance. Do you scold and criticize yourself endlessl y? Do you
believe you are unlovable? Do  you live in chaos and disorder? Do you
attract lo vers an d mates who be little you? Do you mistreat you r body with
unhealthy food choices and stressful thoughts?If you deny your good in any way , it is an act of not loving yourself. I
remember a woman I worked with who wore contact lenses. When she did
her mirror work, she began to release an old fear from her chil dhood. In a
few days, she complained that her contact lenses were bothering her to the
point tha t she couldn’ t wear them anymore. When she took them out, she
looked around and found that her eyesight was almost perfectly clear . Still,
she spen t the entire day saying, “I don’ t believe it. I don’ t belie ve it.” That
was her  af firma tion. The next d ay , she was back to wearing her contacts. She wou ldn’ t allow herself to believe she had created perfect eyesight, and
her disb elief wa s confirmed. The Universe gave her exactly what she asked
for . This is how powerful our thoughts are. Think h ow perfect you were when you were a tiny baby! Babi es do not
have to do anyt hing to become perfect; they already ar e  perfect, and they
act as if they know it. They kno w they are the center of the Universe. They
are not afraid to ask for what the y want. They freely express their emotions. Y ou know when a baby is angry—in fact, the whole neighborh ood knows. Y ou also know when babies are happy—their smiles light up a room. They
are full of love. T iny babies will die if they do not get love. Once we are older ,  we learn
to li ve without l ove—or try to—but babies will not stand for it. Babies love
every part of their bodies. Y ou were like that at one time. W e were all  l ike  tha t. Then we began to
listen to  adults around us who had learned to be fearful, and w e began to
deny our own magnificence. T oday , p ut all criticism and negative self-talk aside. Let go of your old
mind-set—the o ne that berates you and resists change. Release other
people’ s opinions of you. Af firm: I am good enough. I am worth loving. Y our Day 5 Mirror W ork Exercise
1 . Stand in front of your bathroom mirror . 2 . Look into your eyes. 3 . Say this af firmation: I love and appr ove of myself.4 . Keep saying it over and over again: I love and appr ove of myself. 5 . Repeat this af firmation at least 100 times a day . Y es, that’ s right:
100 times. Let I love and appr ove of myself  become your mantra. 6 . Each time you pass a mirror or see your reflection, repeat this
af firmation. This is an exerci se I have given to hundreds and hundreds of pe ople over
the year s. The results are absolutely phenomenal when people s tick with it. Remember: mirror work doesn’ t work in theory; it only works in practice. If
you do it, it really will make a dif ference. If any negative thoughts come u p—such as How can  I appr ove of myself
when I am fat?,  or It’ s silly  to think that I can think this way ,  or I am no
good —don’ t resist them, don’ t fight them, don’ t judge them. Let them just
be there . Stay focused on what you really want to experience, which is to
love and  approv e of yourself. Y ou can gently let go of other thoughts that
intrude and stay focused on I love myself and appr ove of myself . What w e are doing in mirror w ork is trying to get back to the  heart of
who we really are. W e want to experience who we are when we are not
judging ourselves. The Power Is W ithin Y ou: Y our Day 5 Journaling Exercise
1 . W rite down some of the ways you don’ t love yourself or ways
you express your lack of self-worth. Do you criticize your body? Do you talk down to yourself? 2 . W rite down some of the negative opinions you think others have
of you. For each of these negative opinions, write down an
af firmation to turn it into a positive statement. For example, you
could change My mother thinks I’m fat  to I am beautiful exactly
as I am. 3 . Make a list of all the reasons why you love yourself. Make
another list of why people love to spend time with you. 4 . Post these loving lists where you can see them every day .Y our Heart Thought for Day 5: I Love Being Me
Can you imagine how wonderful it would be if you could live your life
without ever being criticized by anyone? W ouldn’ t it be wonderful to feel
totally a t ease, totally comforta ble? Y ou would get up in the m orning and
know you were going to have a wonderful day , because everybody would
love you and nobody would put you down. Y ou would feel just great. Y ou know what? Y ou can give this to yourself. Y ou can m ake the
experience of living with yourself the most wonderful experience
imaginable. Y ou  can wake up in the morning and feel the joy of spending
another day with you. Y our Day 5 Meditation: Affirmations for Self-Esteem
(Day 5 of the audio download)
I am totally adequate for all situations. I choose to feel good about myself. I am worthy of my own love. I stand on my own two feet. I accept and use my own power . It is safe for me to speak up for myself. I am loved and accepted exactly as I am, right her e and right now . My self-esteem is high because I honor who I am. My life gets mor e fabulous every day . I look forwar d to what each new hour
brings. I am neither too little nor too much, and I do not have to pr ove myself to
anyone. Life supports me in every possible way . My consciousness is filled with loving, positive, healthy thoughts that ar e
r eflected in my experience. The gr eatest gift I can give myself is unconditional love. I love myself
exactly as I am. I no longer wait to be perfect in or der to love myself.D A Y  6
R e l e a s i n g  Y o u r  I n n e r  C r i t i c
T oday you learn to br eak the habit of judgment and self-criticism, and
to go beyond the need to put yourself down. Look in  your mirror today and take a few moments to con gratulate
yourself! Y ou are beginning to love and approve of yourself—or at least to
be willing to do so. Wherever you are in the process, celebrate the progress
you have made so far . I celebrate you  and your commitment to your mirror
work. The more mirror work you do, the more aware of your self -talk you
become. If I asked you to play a tape of your inner dialogue today , what
would it sound like? W ould you be listening to negative af firmations like I
am s o st upid. I’m  such a klutz. Nobody asks me what I think. Why ar e ther e
so m any inconsiderate people? Is your inner voice constantly picking,
picking, picking  at everything? Are you seeing the world thro ugh critical
eyes? Do you judge everything? Do you stand in self-righteousness? So many of us have such a stron g habit of judgment and criticism that we
cannot easily break it. I used to be a constant complainer , full o f self-pity . I
loved to  wallow  in the pits. I didn’ t know that I was perpetuating situations
in which to pity myself. I didn’ t know any better in those days. It is  so importan t to do your mirror work, because it makes you acutely
aware of judgments and negative self-talk and allows you to release your
inner critic as so on as you can. Y ou will never be able to love y ourself until
you go beyond the need to put yourself down and make life wrong.As a  little baby ,  you were so open to life. Y ou looked at the w orld with
eyes of wonder . Unless something was scary or someone harmed you, you
accepted life just as it was. Later , as you grew up, you began to accept the
opinions of others and make them your own. Y ou learned how to criticize. What he lped m e eventually was that I started to listen to what I was
saying. I became aware of my inner critic, and I worked to st op my self-
criticism. I began to say positive af firmations in front of my mirror without
quite knowing what they meant. I just kept saying them over and over
again. I started with the easy one s: I lov e m yself. I appr ove of myself. Then I
graduated to these: My opin ions ar e valued. I r elease the need to criticize
myself. I r elease the need to criticize others. After a while I started noticing that positive changes were beginning to
take pla ce. Whe n you work on  releasing your inner critic, yo u, too, will
begin to notice changes. I believe that criticism shrivels our spirits. It
reinforces the belief I am not good enough. I t certai nly does n’ t bring out th e
best in us. But when you release the inner critic, you get in touch with your
higher self. So l et’ s check: Are you learning to play a tape of positive af firmations in
your mind? Are you paying attention to your thoughts and replacing
negative thoughts with positive af firmations? By d oing mirror work, you will become more aware of your in ner voice
and what you say to yourself. Then you’ll be able to release the need to pick
on your self all the time. And when you do, you will notice that you no
longer criticize others so much. When you make it okay to be  yourself, then you automatically allow
others to be themselves. Their little habits no longer bother you as much. Y ou release the need to change o thers as you want them to be. T hen, as you
stop jud ging oth ers, they release the need to judge you. Everybody gets to
be free. Our feelings are thoughts in action. There is no need to feel any guilt or
shame a bout them. They serve a purpose, and when you release negative
thoughts from your mind and body , you allow space inside for other , more
positive feelings and experiences. Let’ s af firm: It is now safe for me to r elease my inner critic and move
into love.Y our Day 6 Mirror W ork Exercise
1 . Find a quiet place with a mirror where you will feel safe and
where you won’ t be disturbed. 2 . Look into the mirror . Look straight into your eyes. If you are still
uncomfortable doing this, then concentrate on your mouth or
your nose. T alk to your inner child. Y our inner child wants to
grow and blossom, and needs love, acceptance, and praise. 3 . Now say these af firmations: I love you. I love you, and I know
you ar e doing the best you can. Y ou ar e perfect just as you ar e. I
appr ove of you. 4 . Y ou may want to do this exercise several times before you truly
feel that your inner voice is less critical. Do what feels right for
you. The Power Is W ithin Y ou: Y our Day 6 Journaling Exercise
1 . Make a list of five things you criticize yourself for . 2 . Go down the list, and beside each item write the date on which
you began to criticize yourself for this particular thing. If you
can’ t remember the exact date, approximate. 3 . Are you amazed at how long you’ve been picking on yourself? This habit of self-criticism has not produced any positive
changes, has it? Criticism doesn’ t work! It only makes you feel
bad. So be willing to stop it. 4 . Change each of the five criticisms on your list to a positive
af firmation. 5 . Carry this list with you. When you notice yourself being
judgmental, take out the list of af firmations and read it a few
times. Better yet, read it aloud in front of your mirror .Y our Heart Thought for Day 6: I Love and Accept Myself
Exactly as I Am
W e all have areas of our lives that we think are unacceptable and
unlovable. If we are really angry  with parts of ourselves, we often engage in
self-abuse. W e abuse alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes. W e overe at. W e beat
ourselves up emotionally . One of the worst things we do, which causes
more damage than anything else, is criticize ourselves. W e need to stop all
criticism. Once we get into the habit of not criticizing ourselves, it is
amazing how we stop criticizing other people. W e realize that everyone is a
reflection of us, and what we see in another person we can see in ourselves. When we complain about som eone, we are really complaining about
ourselves. When we can truly lo ve and accept who we are, there is nothing
to comp lain about. W e cannot h urt ourselves, and we cannot hurt another
person. Let’ s make a vow that we will no longer criticize o urselves for
anything. Y our Day 6 Meditation: W e Are Free to Be Ourselves
(Day 6 of the audio download)
In order to be whole, we must accept all of ourselves. So let your heart
open, an d make  plenty of room in there for all parts of yourself: the parts
you are proud of, the parts that embarrass you, the parts you rej ect, and the
parts you love. They are all you. Y ou’re beautiful. W e all are. When your
heart is full of love for yourself, then you have so much to share with
others. Let this love now fill your room and radiate out to all the people you
know . M entally put the people you care about in the center of your room, so
that they can receive the love from your overflowing heart. Now see  the child in each of these people dancing as children dance,
skipping and shouting and turn ing somersaults and cartwheels, filled with
exuberant joy , expressing all the  best of the child within. And let your inner
child go and pla y with the othe r children. Let your child dance. Let your
child feel safe and free. Let your child be all that it ever wanted to be.Y ou are perfect, whole, and complete, and all is well in your wonderful
world. And so it is.D A Y  7
L o v i n g  Y o u r s e l f :  A  R e v i e w  o f  Y o u r
F i r s t  W e e k
T oday you look at how far you’ve come and how much you’ve
accomplished towar d br eaking fr ee of your old beliefs and discovering
futur e possibilities. Congratulations, dear ones! Y ou have made it through your firs t week of
mirror work. I am so proud of you for sticking with this course and
practicing your mirror work these past seven days. Mirror w ork takes time, and I am so glad you have given yourself these
21 days to learn it. The more you practice, the easier it will get. It’ s okay if
you still feel a bit silly or uncomfortable when you look in y our mirror . Saying I l ove you, I r ea lly love you  to  ourselves is hard for most of us at
first. It may take  several weeks or even a month to be entirely comfortable
saying t hese lov ing words to y ourself. But once you can say  them with
more ease, you will see positive changes in your life. Over the past seven days, you have invited your mirror to become your
friend a nd constant companion . Y ou have learned how it will help you
become much more aware of what you say and do. Y ou have taken time to
listen to your self-talk and to practice your positive af firmations. Again, I want to emphasize that  doing mirror work is a true ac t of love,
one of the mos t loving gifts y ou can give yourself. Each day that you
practice your mirror work, you may fall in love with yourself a little bit
more. Th e best way to love your self is to release all the junk fro m your past—the se lf-judgments, the old stories that hold you back—so you  can live in
the present moment. W e have all gotten into the habit of believing negative
statements we have heard since childhood. When you can turn these
negative af firmations into positive statements and practice them looking
into your mirror , you can let go of some of these past hurts and move on. Each day that yo u do your mirro r work, you are clearing out the layers of
the past. Each time you say an af firmation in the mirror , you a re removing
another block in these layers. I t has taken years for these layers to form,
built of blocks like the bricks that make up a lar ge wall. It will take time to
break th rough these layers, but you can start with one block. Ea ch time you
remove one block or one layer , you allow more light and love to shine
through. As you begin to believe the positive af firmations you say in your
mirror , m ore of this beautiful lov e will break through the walls of your past. No matt er what the problem is, the best way to resolve it is by loving
yourself. If every now an d then you hear  the voice of your inner critic picking on
you for somethin g or making a negative remark, it is okay . Y ou a lways have
your frie nd and companion—your mirror—to turn to. Look you rself deeply
in the eyes and say , I am worth loving. And keep up the good work! Let’ s af firm: I celebrate this week of loving myself with mirr or work. I
now mo ve into a new space of consciousness in which I am w illing to see
myself differ ently . Y our Day 7 Mirror W ork Exercise
1 . Stand in front of your bathroom mirror . 2 . Look into your eyes. 3 . Say these af firmations: I love you. I r eally love you. And I’m so
pr oud of you for doing your mirr or work. 4 . Repeat these af firmations ten times, adding your name: I love
you, [Name]. I r eally love you. I love you, [Name]. I r eally love
you. And I’m so pr oud of you for doing your mirr or work.5 . Look at your forehead and imagine that you are pressing a button
there and ejecting a disk of your old beliefs and negative
thoughts that has been playing in your head. T ake your hand and
imagine that you are pulling that disk out of your head and
throwing it away . 6 . Now look deeply in your eyes and imagine that you are making a
new CD of positive af firmations: I am willing to let go. I am
worth loving. I am perfect just the way I am. The Power Is W ithin Y ou: Y our Day 7 Journaling Exercise
1 . T ake out your journal and open it to the first exercise you did, on
Day 1 . 2 . Read the feelings and observations you wrote down after your
mirror work on Day 1 . 3 . On a new page, write down your feelings and observations after
the first week of doing your mirror work. Are the exercises
getting easier? Are you feeling more comfortable looking in the
mirror? 4 . W rite down where you are having the most success with your
mirror work. W rite down where you are having the most
dif ficulty . 5 . Create new af firmations to help you in those areas where you are
having blocks. Y our Heart Thought for Day 7: All My Experiences Are
Right for Me
W e h ave been go ing through doors since the moment we were b orn. That
was a big door and a big chang e, and we have been through many doors
since then.W e cam e to this lifetime equipped with everything we need in order to
live full y and richly . W e have all the wisdom and knowledge w e need. W e
have all the abilities and talents we need. W e have all the love we need. Life
is he re to support us and take care of us. W e need to know and tr ust that this
is so. Doors are constantly closing and opening, and if we stay centered in
ourselves, then we will always be safe, no matter which doorway we pass
through. Even when we pass th rough the last doorway on this planet, it is
not the end. It is  simply the beg inning of another new adventure. T rust that
it is all right to experience change. T oday is a new day . W e will have many wonderful new experiences. W e
are loved. W e are safe. Y our Day 7 Meditation: Spirit Am I
(Day 7 of the audio download)
W e are the only ones who can save the world. As we band together for
the common cause, we find the answers. W e must always remember that
there is a part of us that is far more than our bodies, far more than our
personalities, far  more than our dis-eases, and far more than our past. There
is a part of us that is more than our relationships. The very core of us is pure
Spirit, eternal. It always has been and always will be. W e are here to love
ourselves and to love one another . By doing this, we will find the answers
so that we can heal ourselves and the planet. W e are going through extrao rdinary times. All sorts of things are
changing. W e may not even kn ow the depth of the problems,  yet we are
swimming as best we can. This,  too, shall pass, and we will fin d solutions. W e connect on a spiritual level , and on the level of Spirit, we are all one. W e are free. And so it is.D A Y  8
L o v i n g  Y o u r  I n n e r  C h i l d — P a r t  O n e
T oday you look beyond the adult you see in the mirr or and meet your
inner child. This is a very im portant day in y our mirror work. T ake my hand , and let’ s
walk over to your mirror . Look deeply into your eyes. Look beyond the
adult you see in your mirror and greet your inner child. It doesn’ t matter how old you a re; there is a little child within you who
needs lo ve and acceptance. If you are a woman, no matter how  self-reliant
you are,  you have a little girl inside who is very tender and needs help. If
you are a man, no matter how s elf-confident you are, you have a little boy
inside of you who craves warmth and af fection. When y ou look in the mirror , d o you see your inner child? Is this child
happy? What is this child trying to tell you? Every age you h ave been is within you—in your consciousness  and your
memory . As a c hild, when something went wrong, you tended  to believe
that there was something wrong with you. Children develop the idea that if
only the y could do everything right, then their parents would love them and
wouldn’ t punish them. Often we turn of f or tune out  around the age of five. W e make that
decision because  we think there  is something wrong with us, and we’re not
going to have anything to do with this child anymore. There is a pare nt inside of us as well. And for most of us, t his inner
parent is scolding the inner child almost nonstop. If you listen to your innerdialogue, you can hear the scolding. Y ou can hear the parent tell you what
you are doing wrong or that you are not good enough. So way back in childhood we began a war with ourselves and started
criticizing ourselves the way our parents criticized us: Y ou’r e stupid. Y ou’r e
not good enough. Y ou don’ t d o anything right. Th is constant criticism
became a habit. Now , as adults, most of us either totally ignore the child
within u s or belittle the child in the same way we were belittled  in the past. W e repeat this pattern over and over . Every time you feel scared, real ize that it is the child within yo u who is
scared. The adult isn’ t afraid, yet it has disconnected and isn’ t there for the
child. The adult and the child need to develop a relationship with each
other . How do you co nnect with your inner child? The first step is getting to
know th e child through your m irror work. Who is this child? Why is this
child un happy? What can you do to help this child feel safe and secure and
loved? T alk to your inner child about e verything you do. I know it may sound
silly , but it works. Let your inner child know that no matter wh at happens,
you will never turn away from it or leave it but will always be there for it
and love it. All your inner c hild really wants is to be noticed, to feel safe, and to be
loved. If you can take just a few moments a day to begin to connect with the
little person inside of you, life is going to be a lot better . Let’ s af firm: I am willing to love and accept my inner child. Y our Day 8 Mirror W ork Exercise
1 . Find a photo of yourself when you were about five years old. T ape the photo to your bathroom mirror . 2 . Look at the photo for a few minutes. What do you see? Do you
see a happy child? A miserable child? 3 . T alk to your inner child in the mirror . Y ou can look at the photo
or even look into your own eyes—whichever feels more
comfortable for you. If you had a nickname as a child, use thisname as you speak to your inner child. What works really well is
to sit in front of the mirror , because if you are standing, as soon
as dif ficult feelings start to come up, you might be tempted to run
out the door . So sit down, grab a box of tissues, and start talking. 4 . Open your heart and share your innermost thoughts. 5 . When you are finished, say these af firmations: I love you, dear
one. I am her e for you. Y ou ar e safe. The Power Is W ithin Y ou: Y our Day 8 Journaling Exercise
1 . For this exercise, you will need crayons, colored pencils, or
colored felt-tip pens. 2 . Using your nondominant hand—the one you don’ t write with—
draw a picture of yourself as a child. Be creative! 3 . T ape the drawing to your bathroom mirror . 4 . Look at the picture and begin talking to your inner child. 5 . Ask your child the following questions and write down the
answers in your journal: What do you like? What do you dislike? What frightens you? What do you need? What can I do to make
you happy? 6 . Close your eyes and take a few minutes to reflect on what you’ve
learned about your inner child. Y our Heart Thought for Day 8: I Embrace My Inner Child
with Love
T ake care of your inner child. It is the child who is frightened . It is the
child who is hurting. It is the child who does not know what to do. Be there for you r child. Embrace it and love it and do whatever you can
to take care of its needs. Be sure to let your child know that no matter whathappens, you will always be the re for it. Y ou will never turn aw ay or desert
it. Y ou will always love this child. Y our Day 8 Meditation: Let Go and Relax
(Day 8 of the audio download)
T ake a nice, deep breath and cl ose your eyes. T ake another de ep breath
and allow your body to completely relax. Let your attention move to your
toes and  allow them to go com pletely limp. Now relax your in steps, your
heels, an d your ankles. Let your feet become heavy . Allow this r elaxation to
move up  your calves and into y our knees. Continue to move this warmth
and relaxation into your thighs, feeling them become heavier . Now let  your hips and your buttocks relax. Allow your waistline to
release a nd then  feel the peacef ulness move up into your chest, expanding
through your collarbone and into  your shoulders. Allow your upper arms to
let go. Let your elbows relax. Let your lower arms, wrists, and hands relax. Let the last of th e tension move out through your fingertips. Le t your neck
relax, an d then your jaw , your cheeks, and all the muscles around your eyes. Let your forehead and scalp relax. Let go, let go, let go. Relax.D A Y  9
L o v i n g  Y o u r  I n n e r  C h i l d — P a r t  T w o
T oday you use mirr or work to for give the past and begin to love the
beautiful child within. How are you an d your inner child doing today? Are you getting to know
each other a little better? I have found that working with the in ner child is
extremely valua ble in helping to heal the hurts of the past. W e are not
always in touch with the feelings of the frightened little child within us. If yo ur c hildhood was full of fear and physical or verbal battles,  you may
have a habit of mentally beatin g yourself up. When you do this, you are
continuing to treat your inner ch ild in much the same way . The child inside,
however , has no place to go. Many of us have  an inner child who is lost and lonely and feels  rejected. Perhaps the only contact we hav e had with our inner child for a long time is
to sc old and crit icize it. Then w e wonder why we are unhappy . W e cannot
reject a part of ourselves and still be in harmony within. T oday , l et’ s use our mirror work to move beyond our parents’ limitations
and conn ect with the little lost child inside. Let’ s for give the pas t and begin
to love this beautiful child within. This child needs to know that we care. Most of  us have buried many fe elings and hurts from the past. Learning
to lo ve your inner child is going to take time. T ake all the tim e you need. Return to these exercises again and again. Y ou will get there, I promise. Y our inn er child  still carries the  beliefs you developed early on . If your
parents had rigid ideas and you  are now very hard on yourself or you tend
to bu ild walls ar ound you, your inner child is probably still foll owing yourparents’ rules. If you continue to  pick on yourself for every mistake, it must
be very scary fo r your inner chil d to wake up in the morning thinking, What
is my par ent going to yell at me about today? What our parents did to us in the past was a product of their
consciousness. W e are the parents now . W e are using our consciousness
now . If you are still refusing to take care of your inner child, you are stuck
in y our own resentment. Invariably that means there is someo ne you still
need to for give. What resentment do you need to let go of? What haven’ t
you for given yourself for? For now , visualize that you are taking your inner child by the hand and
going everywhe re together for a few days. See what joyous experiences you
can have. This may sound silly , but please try it. It really wor ks. Create a
wonderful life for yourself and your inner child. The Universe will respond,
and you will find ways to heal your inner child and the adult you. No matt er what your early child hood was like—happy or sad—you and
only you  are in char ge of your life now . Y ou can spend your time blaming
your parents, or you can embrace love. Love is the biggest eraser I know .
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        ALSO BY LOUISE HA Y
BOOKS/KIT
All Is W ell  (with Mona Lisa Schulz, M. D. , Ph.
The main purpose of the 21-day mirror work program is to help you learn to love and accept yourself, and to reprogram your negative thoughts and beliefs.
What is the main purpose of the 21-day mirror work program?
The author advises not to resist or judge the negative thoughts, but to acknowledge them and let them pass, and then focus on positive affirmations.
What is the author's advice for dealing with negative self-talk?
The author emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and self-love, stating that it is the key to a fulfilling life.
What is the author's stance on the importance of self-acceptance?
The author believes that the concept of "should" is a limiting and negative force, and advises readers to replace it with the word "could" to promote positive change.
What is the author's view on the concept of "should"?
The author encourages those struggling to love themselves to be patient and persistent, and reminds them that it is okay to take their time and that they are not alone in their struggles.
What is the author's message to those who are struggling to love themselves?