Discovering the nature of consciousness itself and 
looking into the nature of that consciousness in our 
own introspection reveals that everything we have 
believed in during our whole life has happened out of 
innocence. Compassion and uIiderstanding develop, 
and because of that compassion, we can now see that, 
through our own innocence, we have come to believe 
what we believe.The willingness to forgive then allows 
us to see into the hearts ofothers. Out ofour own com­
passion, we can see the innocence of the child over 
and over. No matter what the age of the body, the con­
sciousness has remained unchanged. We can still hear 
the heart of the child within the adult saying "won't," 
"don't,"and so forth; it is the innocence ofthe child still 
speaking. We need to keep an eye on that to prevent 
spiritual crises. It heals conflicts as they arise. The reaffirmation of our innocence consists of 
never buying that anything is 'just' ego; there is no such 
thing as 'just' ego. Ego, the software, social conscious­
ness, ~nd the programming have been superimposed 
on that which is not ego but on truth itself and con­
sciousness itself.All spiritual crises come from context, 169 SPIRITUAL FIRST AID 
meaning, and the way in which a thing is held. If we 
think: our diet is an unspiritual diet, or our lifestyle or 
what we do for a living are unspiritual, they are merely 
reflecting a certain level of consciousness. Those who have reached very high levels of con­
sciousness condemn nothing.They will affIrm, however, 
that certain levels of consciousness will have conse-· 
quences, and that a certain lifestyle, one of selling out 
the truth about oneself, will bring inner pain and griev­
ance. It is left up to the individual to continue the 
process, and there is no attempt to control anyone. Certain behaviors or self-eondemnation will activate 
energy fields that will be experienced as painfuLAgain, 
it is left to the individual to continue or not. However, 
it is then not seen as a threat but as merely a fact of 
human consciousness that inner agony can become 
greater than what it already is if one violates certain 
principles. The teaching still holds up that it can be a 
very high teaching even though it may warn us that 
very agonizing, painful states of consciousness can 
come about as a result of certain behaViors. All the experience within human consciousness, 
including all spiritual work, represents a position, a way 
ofbeing with, and a way ofholding what weare always 
talking about. Even though we think: we are talking 
about the external world, it is really an inner position 
as a consequence ofa certain level ofconsciousness, of 
how we choose to be with something, and the pains 
and agonies that come about as a result of our clinging 
onto putting our survival on something that is not the 
truth. Pain tells us that we have put our survival onto 
something that is a violation of some principle of 170 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
consciousness. That is really what spiritual work is 
about. The progressive pain of these positions tells us that 
they are far from the truth, not that they are 'wrong'.As 
we get closer to the experience of the Presence of 
God, the inner experience is one of increasing joy and 
happiness. As we get farther from it, it tells us that we 
are far removed from the truth. Therefore, it is not a 
'make wrong'. It is not right or wrong, it is just that it 
is painful and does not work. The Buddha said that all pain and suffering are 
based on attachment and desire. A greater elaboration 
is that desire arises out of fear, which is a consequence 
of a sense of lack and the belief that one is separated 
from God. Desire itself leads to progressive frustration 
and a feeling of being separated from the truth. Constant wanting and craving lead to entrapment and 
bondage. There is no'right'or'wrong'about it.The con­
sequences of this endless frustration lead to anger. Acquisition or desire leads to pridefulness and fear of 
loss. Failure of ambition may lead to apathy or guilt.The 
consequences of ego positions do not support moving 
toward the truth. Noticeable is that negative energy fields tend to 
bring forth all the ego positions so that desire does not 
remain pure. It tends to bring with it anger, pride, fear, 
grief, and apathy. Grief tends to be accompanied by 
fearful, angry desire, and each of these tends to attract 
the other. The critical point in all spiritual work is the capac­
ity to be willing to tell the truth. Very often that truth 
is "I don't know," and out of the "I don't know" comes 171 SPIRITUAL FIRST AID 
the willingness to surrender to God. The truth comes 
about through the act of surrender. The truth is not 
'causing'the pain, and it is a mistake to worship the 
pain and think that suffering is therefore the royal road 
to Enlightenment. It is by realizing that the suffering 
within oneself is not due to the truth but to the unwill­
ingness to let falsehood go. It is by surrender to God 
that the truth is revealed. By remembering our inner innocence when we 
begin spiritual work, we ask to have that which is not 
the truth brought to our awareness. The process is 
therefore the evidence of success.As a result, there may 
be a somewhat chaotic appearance to the lives ofpeo­
ple who are labeled spiritual seekers.The inner person 
is pleased because it says, "I have been asked to see 
what stands between me and the truth, and that has 
been brought up from my awareness to be recognized, 
re-owned, recontextualized, and healed:' We provide a 
safe space and context about our spiritual work by 
being centered in the Heart-not the physical heart, 
but from the ultimate compassion, the owning of our­
self from this level, the joy of the spiritual work, and 
the saying "thank you" to all the things that come up 
outofgratitude. The crisisis theveryeventofthe spir­
itual healing. It is out of the crises that the healing 
occurs. CHAPTER 6 
Sexuality 
Applying the knowledge derived from the study of the 
nature of consciousness to common human problems, 
we will now focus on the area of sexuality, including 
the difference between sex and making love, between 
high-energy and low-energy sex, how to transcend feel­
ing guilty, and the effect of social programming about 
sexuality. We will learn how to experience it from the 
heart instead of from just the body; how to make it an 
uplifting and grand experience rather than one of 
manipulation and control; and how to get out of the 
energy interactions that result in impotence, frigidity, 
and sexual dysfunction. We will explore questions like "Does God approve 
of sex? ""Is sex all over with advancing age? ""Does 'mid­
dle age' mean that we're 'over the hill'? "The answers 
will be addressed from the viewpoint of consciousness 
itself and from the position of 'body, mind, and spirit' 
about which one hears so much in the field of holistic 
health. What does 'body, mind, and spirit' mean? Is it a slo­
gan or just a catch phrase? What is 'spirit,' anyway? Is it 
something we can experience? Is there an energy to it 
that we can discover through our own research into 
our inner experiences? The focus will be on inner 
experiences, on subtle states of inner awareness and 
the part they play in this important area of human 
behavior. Initially, we will again review the nature of the rela­
tionship between body,mind, and spirit.We will review 
173 174 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
where that human experience is experienced, and dis­
cuss and demystify consciousness itself, making it 
understandable. Reference will be made to the Map of 
Consciousness, which will be very helpful in under­
standing the nature of the relationship between body, 
mind, and spirit. What is that relationship? First, as noted previously, 
is the fact that the body cannot experience itself. When talking about sexuality, everyone automatically 
thinks of the body and its allure, physicality, and form. Astonishingly enough, when one looks at it, there is 
the realization that the body is insentient in that it 
cannot experience itself. The arm cannot experience 
its armness, and the leg cannot experience its legness. Something greater than that has to take place before 
experience happens. The body is experienced through 
sensations. One experiences not the body but the sen­
sations of the body-where it is in space and motion. The sensations themselves cannot, of their own, really 
experience themselves. They, too, have to be experi­
enced in something larger, which is in mind. When looked at carefully, one realizes they are not 
experiencing the body or the sensations of the body 
but instead are experiencing what is going on in mind 
about the body. Even mind itself, curiously enough, 
cannot experience itself. A thought does not experi­
ence its thoughtness; a feeling does not experience its 
feelingness. Something larger than mind has to be 
present, something that is unchanging in itself. The 
reason we become aware ofwhat is going on in mind 
is because of consciousness, which is a much larger 
energy field than that of mind. Mind tells us what is 175 SEXUALITY 
going on in emotions, thoughts, and sensations. Sensations tell us what is going on in the body. Therefore, what we experience is always going on in 
the field of consciousness itself, which is like an invis­
ible screen that is really located everywhere. Consciousness itself is unaware of what is happen­
ing within itself. This is due to something infinitely 
larger than even consciousness, which is the nature of 
awareness-that which has no dimension or locality. We experience experience within the field of con­
sciousness itself in handling human and behaVioral. problems and in understanding human behavior. We 
can address it directly by going to its experience with­
in consciousness because consciousness itself is more 
powerful and dominant. We can handle problems that 
seem to be arising in the body by handling them on the 
level of consciousness and also on the level of mind. When looking at human experiences and events, 
we see that events are one thing, but how we choose 
to be with them is something else.We may not be able 
to determine, control, or choose the events that occur 
in our lives, but we can determine how we wish to be 
with them. Therefore, the experience of how to be 
with them is perhaps more important than the events 
themselves. We all know that when we are in a certain 
mood, a minor irritation may be trivial. However, when 
in another mood, that same event can be aggravating or 
even send us into a rage.Therefore, how we contextu­
alize events brings up the whole concept of energy 
fields. The energy field or the position from which we 
perceive a situation, the way we are holding our own 176 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
existence, and the importance of all events are arising 
out ofthe context created by our position.We will refer 
again to the Map of Consciousness, which shows the 
levels of consciousness, their calibrations relative to 
their energy fields, and the power of each energy field 
calibrated mathematically.11tis gives us an understand­
ing in our left-brain way of comprehending things. Each level has a direction ofan energy field, either pos­
itive or negative. The emotions arise from these energy 
fields, along with a way of viewing the world and of 
relating to that which is greater than our individual 
selves.The entire process is going on in consciousness. All of this will come together in addressing the 
question of high-energy sex, that which arises out of 
the heart, and our way of being in the world as com­
pared to low-energy sex, which is localized in a physi­
cal experience about which society has had so much 
to say over the ages. It can be seen that man's conflict 
about sexuality is consequent to the energy field of his 
position about the subject, how it is perceived, and 
what it means.. Problems are best solved not on the 
level where they appear to occur but on the next level 
above them. We are not going to discuss philosophy but instead, 
clinical experience-that which we can verify through 
our own experience, through human experience-and 
look at it from a level that is above the problems. Problems are best solved by transcending them and 
looking at them from a higher viewpoint.At the higher 
level, the problems automatically resolve themselves 
because of that shift in point of view, or one might see 
there was no problem at all. We are going to look at 177 SEXUALITY 
what appear to be sexual problems that are actually 
arising from an energy field, and about which we can 
change our position. In general, when people talk about sex, they are 
referring to a type of experience, but they are also talk­
ing considerably about an energy field, the one that 
everybody presumes to be and the media focus on, 
called Desire.They are talking about a certain percep­
tion or way of looking at things; a certain wantingness; 
the overcoming of frustration or lack; the withholding 
of this or the manipulation of that; the gratification of 
it or using it as a trade in relationships; the allure, the 
price, and the value added to the allure; and, in general, 
they are talking about the physicality. Morality is related 
to physicality and the view or holding ofsexuality from 
the physical level, or the lower energy field. There is the story what happened in the Garden of 
Eden. Man and woman were in a state of innocence in 
a very high nonlinear energy field where they ate of 
the linear tree of knowledge, the tree of good and evil. They bought into a world of duality. In contrast, in the 
world of Love, there is no duality. In lOVingness, loving­
ness just is.The heart does not say anything; the heart 
just 'knows'.The heart is with life. In eating of the tree 
of right and wrong, of good and evil, what happened? They then saw themselves as mentalized bodies and 
came down into Guilt, which is at the bottom of the 
scale. From a high state of joy; a state of lovingness; a 
state of innocent, inftnite being with life; from joy that 
is beyond right and wrong, they fell into a field in 
which they were looking at the body as an identity. They then became conscious of its naked bodyness, 178 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
and out of that arose shame and mankind's sexual 
problems. Whether it is an historical event or primarily merely 
allegorical is immaterial. Psychologically, it is an event 
that has happened to mankind, so the problems that 
man has called sexual are really due to a point of view 
about physicality and seeing sexuality as a physical 
phenomenon being run by desire. In contrast to desire 
is aversion, so sexuality is then characterized by desir­
ingness, aversion, avoiding the field, wanting nothing to 
do with it, and taking the moralistic position that one 
is superior by seeing it as a physical, animal function. It 
even degrades that which is termed 'animal,' calling it 
'carnal' as though the animal world, which was created 
by God, is somehow immoral. Therefore, the difficulty 
is not in sexuality at all, but constantly within con­
sciousness.The view is arising out of how, in conscious­
ness, the mind is seeing sexuality and defining these 
relationships. In studying these fields of consciousness, we have 
learned that the level called Courage is the energy field 
of 200; the arrow is neutral and no longer negative. Everything below 200 is a position of victim and lack. Guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger, and pride all come 
from positions of lack, of not having wholeness, of not 
being at one with life. Holding sexuality from the phys­
icallevel of Desire (calibration level 125) and dividing 
it according to gender into maleness and femaleness 
create a feeling of separation. Out of that separation 
comes craving; out of desire comes frustration; out of 
frustration come anger and resentment; and out of all 
that come fear, grief, and apathy.As a result, people are 179 SEXUALITY 
prone to guilt about sexuality; some are also limited by 
apathy, hopelessness, and lack of desire; others associ­
ate sexuality with grief; and some are fearful. Frustration is associated with desiringness, wanti­
ngness, and then anger and pridefulness about sexuali­
ty.This is demonstrated by strutting one's macho image 
or sticking out one's feminine attributes in a prideful, 
tantalizing, seductive kind of controlling, manipulating, 
and exploiting way, a la Hollywood. The marketing industry utilizes this-the desiring­
ness, frustration, lack, and feeling of separation-and 
attempts to control and manipulate people. There is a 
pretty girl sitting on the hood of a car, but what does a 
car have to do with a pretty girl? The advertisement is 
trying to connect the two. IfI get this car, or shampoo, 
or hair-do, or if I wear this perfume, then I will over­
come this separation between me and what I desire. That point of view then creates an endless painfulness 
and source of suffering. The suffering takes various 
forms, such as impotence, frigidity, sadism, or even vio­
lence.They arise from holding sexuality from the view 
of its physicalness, desiringness, and lustful wanting­
ness. One can see why many people are run by that. Because of the nature of this energy field of Desire, 
the accompanying emotions are those of wantingness, 
greed, and cravingness, leading to an addiction to sex. Sexuality runs the sexually obsessed. Sexual obses­
sion/compulsion results in the endless promiscuity of 
going to bed with anyone who is available and arises 
from the need to prove one's desirability. On the right side of the Map of Consciousness, one 
can see that the process going on in consciousness at 180 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
this energy level is that of entrapment. Within con­
sciousness at this level, once a person wants some­
thing, that wanting begins to dominate. The desiring­
ness and wantingness run the person.Temporary grati­
fication fails to suffice because of the negativity of the 
field, and leads to endless frustration, wanting, and crav­
ing. There is no completion, no feeling of finality, and 
no feeling of happiness; there are only enslavement 
and sexual addiction. True happiness does not prevail until one reaches 
the higher energy fields; therefore, trying to find happi­
ness through the endless creation of satisfaction and 
the cycling of desire creates frustration. Frustration 
feels good when it is temporarily satisfied. It feels good 
when one stops banging one's head against the wall, 
but that is not the same thing as happiness. The desir­
ingness and cravingness continue. It is because of this 
physicality and the energy field that all the moral ques­
tions arise. Why do religion and morality address this kind of 
energy field, and why is it called 'carnal'? Lower-energy 
sexuality is held in mind in a lower viewpoint, and 
therefore the whole question of morality then address­
es itself to that which is carnal. Carnality arises from 
looking down on one's animal nature instead of accept­
ing it, being happy with it, being grateful for it, and say­
ing it is intrinsically beautiful when it is not judged or 
held in a degrading manner. How does one get out of this cycle to experience 
sexuality from a much different energy field and get 
relief from it? How does one let go of being 'at the 
effect of' or controlled or dominated by this instinct 181 SEXUALITY 
and run by the repetitive recycling of it? How can one 
view sexuality from a different energy field so that it is 
experienced as a totally positive experience?When it is 
held and viewed from a different level of conscious­
ness, all the questions and problems begin to disap­
pear. Then there are no such things as manipulation, 
withholding, frustration, or being run by desire, danger, 
and resentment. There is no feeling of lack if the desire 
is not fulfilled. Desire creates the fear that it will not be 
fulfilled, or grief that is has not been, or apathy, anger, 
frustration, or self-blame. The bottom of the Map shows that guilt is accom­
panied by self-hatred. Holding sexuality from this level 
links to a view of the world of sin and suffering, of 
hopelessness and sadness. From a lower viewpoint, the 
whole subject of sexuality becomes frightening. Sex becomes competitive when it is used in a 
seductive manner, or.in a manipulative energy field of 
competition. Used as a symbol of status, sexual attrac­
tion becomes an illusory 'power' symbol, and the 
adornment of the human also becomes a symbol ofsta­
tus and another way of controlling, manipulating, and 
trying to influence one's sense of self-worth. Worry, 
anxiety, shame,wantingness, and resentment arise from 
this energy field, which often leads to hatred. Thus, 
there are stabbings, violent murders, and suicides based 
on the infatuation, seduction, and manipulation of one 
by another, along with the triangulations of the situa­
tions and the unconscious exploitations that occur 
based on this desiringness and attractiveness. The 
denial about this is visible, along with the contempt 
(e.g.,'trollop', 'whore','bitch',etc., or carnal rap music). 182 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
There is also pridefulness about sexual morality, 
which is seen as contempt, denial, or religious conflict. Prideful people often hold all sexuality from a con­
temptuous 'looking down their nose' viewpoint and 
see anyone who indulges in that kind of activity as 
being debased by a low animal nature. They presume 
that everyone else is run by it in the same way they are. People who hold contempt for sexuality are projecting 
their own way of being with it onto others and saying, 
"Aren't they carnal? Aren't they animal?" In contrast with such views, high-energy sex, with a 
different energy field and a different way of being with 
it, then transcends all these problems-competition, 
frustration, fright, guilt, regret, worry, and anxiety. How 
can we imagine enjoying ourselves in a human endeavor 
that is taking place in this whole energy field while 
secretly feeling that God is probably going to pUnish us 
for it because the view of God that emerges out of this 
field is punitive? We are certainly separated from Him, 
and if we get any enjoyment or happiness, very likely 
there is expectation or retaliation in the end. Some people cannot stand the intensity of this con­
flict between a driving biological urge, a psychological 
need, and religion, so they just avoid it altogether and 
via atheism, which just eliminates the guilt.They have 
to either let go of their view of God and religion, or let 
go of their sexuality. For some people, this is an impos­
sible conflict to resolve, and many of them end up as 
atheists because there is no way for them to handle 
their humanness and their views of God. How does one move out of being run by that con­
flict in order to experience these experiences from a 183 SEXUALITY 
different energy field? We will contrast it with an energy 
field of lovingness, with sexuality as an expression of 
lovingness, as a sense of aliveness, and of being with 
the truth of that which one is. In order to have that 
kind ofexperience, one has to let go of the lower energy 
field in which sex is really experienced as a local phys­
ical phenomenon. Then there are all kinds of preoccu­
pation with anatomy, such as men's preoccupation 
with their fitness as a sexual partner, and women's 
focus on the physical attributes of the body. Along with the physicality, there are emotionality 
and sentimentality. Emotionality plus physicality is the 
expression of love-the 'mad, passionate' embrace 
and the expression of the emotionality of wanting­
ness and desiringness. "Oh, how I want you! ""Oh, how 
I crave you! ''''Oh, how I must have you," and the thrill 
ofall that is what the movies and the media often por­
tray. Ifone lets go of those perceptions, what kind of 
experience is possible? What kind of experience 
would happen if sex were no longer just local or a 
negativity? How would it be perceived ifit happened 
out of the heart, out of an energy field of 500, out of 
the space of being with the reality and the truth of 
that which one is? First, it is necessary to talk about how to let go of 
this driven energy field, how to avoid being run by it, 
how to experience sex without conflict, and how to 
transcend the cravingness ofthis energy field that causes 
all the problems. How can we experience it from a 
much higher level? There is a technique that has worked with weight 
problems, with pain, and with a great variety ofillnesses. 184 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
The basic principle works the same no matter what the 
situation is. When the energy, feeling, expression, or 
desire comes up, first, let go of labeling it or calling it 
anything. Let go of the fantasies, images, and pictures, 
and instead, allow the experience of what it is and the 
sensations of it to occur. By letting go of resisting them, 
they progressively diminish. The solar plexus energy 
fields of desiringness, cravingness, and wantingness 
eventually run out. When looking at wantingness, it is apparent that it 
is not really a pleasurable bxperience. It is not pleas­
ant to stand in front of the store window, looking at 
what is inside with a feeling of wanting, desire, and 
frustrated craving. Ifwe look at it and cancel the con­
tent of the 'what', whether it is diamonds, a fur coat, 
or someone else's body, we realize that the experi­
ence itself is unpleasant. To want and not have, espe­
cially at this moment, is unpleasant. To want a steak: 
and smell it cooking but not be able to eat it is really 
frustrating. If a steak is held in front of a dog's nose 
and he is not allowed to eat it, what is he experienc­
ing? Is he experiencing happiness? Is he glad to be 
alive? Ifthis continues long enough, the dog will end 
up with anger and rage at the frustration of his desir­
ingness. It is not a pleasant feeling. The illusion is that it is the desire itself that brings 
sex into our life.Actually, the opposite is true.The want­
ingness and desiringness are blocking sex from coming 
into our life, as well as the full enjoyment of it when it 
is present.With the letting go of resisting this craving, 
all the desiringess that has been repressed and sup­
pressed comes up. If it is allowed t{) just be released 185 SEXUALITY 
and flow without doing anything about it, without 
opposing or resisting the experience of it, it begins to 
decompress. Eventually, because there is a limited 
quantity of it, it finally stops altogether. When the crav­
ingness, desiringness, obsession, compulsion, and 
addiction to the wantingness and cravingness of this 
physicality dissipate, we are at peace.What a shocking 
thought! Where there were desiringness, cravingness, 
wantingness, and frustration; where there was a feeling 
of lack, of 'not havingness,' and of low self-esteem 
because this was not being gratified, there is now 
instead a state of peace. The same thing happens when we let go of resist­
ing food cravings and the desire and appetite for food 
all the time. That greediness finally lets go. These are 
merely varieties of greed. There can be greed for any 
external thing. What the world calls sexuality is often 
really a greediness, a wantingness, a forever desiring­
ness that runs and dominates people and their lives. Instead of that, there is an inner state of peace and 
serenity. It is as though the whole question has been 
handled and is no longer a problem. What is the prob­
lem now? There is no problem. It no longer drives us 
crazy or ins1.ilts our integrity or us. We no longer have 
to sell ourselfout or feel that we have to barter or trade 
our body or our sexual expression in the endless bar­
gaining that goes on between men and women.There 
is no longer the tantalizing with it, the Withholding, the 
gift of it, the "Now you owe me," or the "Now you have 
paid me," or the "I have paid for your dinner, now give 
me your body:' The endless trade-offs and bargaining 
come to an end. We are now free of manipulation by 186 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
that. Remember that when we manipulate others, we 
are equally manipul~ted in return. When we let go of manipulating through this vari­
ety of sexuality, it means that we cannot be manipulated 
by it either.We become freer once we are unattached 
and move into the field of facing and coping with this 
problem. When we face and cope with it, we become 
unattached and released instead of entrapped. What is the released state? It means to be so free 
that ifsomething happens in our life, it is terrific, and if 
it does not happen, it is okay also.To be free means to 
be at the level of choice. Then we are not run by the 
world or manipulation. Every billboard does not send 
us to the store to buy cheWing gum or whatever the 
pretty girl is selling.Willingness to transcend limitation 
moves us up to acceptance and allows us to feel ade­
quate and confident. Feeling adequate arises from an 
inner knowing that somehow a question has fmally 
been answered by life. Where there was frustration, there is now freedom, 
and with it the feeling of being adequate as a human 
being and having far more confidence. There is the will­
ingness to begin to move into a lovingness. The world 
begins to seem friendlier. Ifsex is desired and frustrated, 
it hardly looks like a friendly world. Upon surrendering 
desire and its associated mental images and fantasies, 
the world begins to look more friendly and harmo­
nious, allowing the freedom to enjoy the opportunities 
for sexual expression. As we move out of desire to acceptance, we move 
into an energy field where we begin to approach hap­
piness. There is the beginning of happiness and a 187 SEXUALITY 
sense of mellowness and feeling really good about 
our behavior and ourself.This lovingness is the begin­
ning of nurturance to support the willingness to for­
give. There is the capacity to experience our being 
with this field of behavior from a different point of 
view. The energy field then resolves all the problems 
that arise in the lower energy fields. As said previously, everything is experienced in 
consciousness. For example, if our consciousness 
were colored blue, then everything would be experi­
enced as blueness. Ifour consciousness were colored 
pink:, then all of our experiences would be experi­
enced as pinkness. Likewise, negativity also colors the 
entire experience of our sexual life. Coming from lack 
is characteristic of lower energy fields; therefore, 
everything is experienced as giving and getting. Wanting means the exchange of giving and getting, so 
we hear expressions about sexual life by adolescent 
boys when they get together in the locker room, such 
as, "Did you get any last night?" As we move up out of the lower energy fields of 
giving and getting, there appears the middle energy 
field of 'doing.' In this case people are preoccupied 
with the doingness of sex. "Let's 'do' it" is the expres­
sion. Therefore, the style of 'doing it' becomes the 
preoccupation. As a result, there are the endless sex 
manuals that talk about doingness. Some of the more 
modern ones even throw in some love. That is often 
considered to be just romanticism and something that 
women require to have happy sex. The energy field of doingness has to do with how 
well one 'does' it. As a result, people become anxious 188 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
about their performance. If sex is something we 'do', 
then we should do it well in our society. Therefore, 
there is the whole idea of competitiveness and per­
formance. Out of performance anxiety come frigidity, 
lack ofdesire, and various forms ofimpotence in which 
there is the anxiety about 'doing it'. "Will he like the 
way I do it? ""Will she like the way I do it? ""Have I sat­
isfied the other person?" It becomes somewhat rede­
fined as a form of athletics. Eventually, sexuality becomes a way of how to be 
with someone. It is a way of sharing our being with 
that person. It is not what we give and get; it is not how 
we perform as though it were a rating scale. Instead, it 
becomes a way of being with the person in which the 
whole barter system falls away.When no longer viewed 
from a lower position, the whole question of guilt falls 
and disappears, and the moralistic questions are 
answered. Lovingness means a connection within the 
heart, the opening up of a space and a way of being 
with that person. The fear arises that ifwe let go of our desiringness 
and wantingness, it will mean that it will disappear 
from our life. Research, experience, and clinical experi­
ence show that the opposite is true. Desiringness and 
wantingness set up a resistance. That which we want 
and desire also sets up a resistance in the other person. When a salesman addresses people in his· salesman 
style, the people know he is going to want to sell some­
thing.When we get that he wants to sell us something, 
resistance comes up that counterbalances what is 
going on in the lower energy fields. Surrender of wantingness creates the space for the 189 SEXUALITY 
energy field of life itself to enter the body and open up 
the heart. The letting go of the lower energy field 
opens the way for the higher energy field to express 
itselfthrougl;J. the opening up of joy, joyfulness, and lov­
ingness.There is then the desire in the relationship to 
bring happiness and pleasure and to support the other 
person's experience. There is compassion in lovemak­
ing. There is no longer worry about performance or 
morality. From the energy field of lovingness, the loving 
of sex replaces the desiring and wanting it. Love is nonjudgmental. It is aware of intrinsic inno­
cence and naturalness. It now watches even the ani­
mals from a different viewpoint, seeing the expression 
of the grace of the animalness. When relieved of the 
negative, condemning, moralistic energy field, it is pos­
sible to experience the incredible beauty, perfection, 
and, indeed, the sacredness of the expression of our 
aliveness-the thrill, joy, and experience of the energy 
field of our aliveness. It is experienced as the sexuality 
ofloveand the loveofsexuality as an expression oflove. In contrast, desiringness seems to bring with it a 
whole energy field that includes guilt, apathy, or grief, 
and then frustration, fear, anger, pridefulness, and 
anxiety about performance. When we are free of the 
cravingness of desire, we are then released from guilt 
and remorse, from anticipating that maybe it will not 
happen, and from all these energies that arise almost 
en masse, almost as a unit.With maturity, the integrity 
of the relationship becomes progressively more 
important, with increasing appreciation for the other 
person's happiness. At lower levels of consciousness, people do not 190 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
experience the other person's energy; they experience 
their own energy. Sexual attractiveness, as amazing as it 
may seem, does not originate in the outer world. It is 
something that one projects onto the world. In one 
society, being extremely slim is attractive. In another 
society, being plump is attractive, or being brunette or 
blond, or having a bone through one's nose, or many 
rings around one's neck, or ear lobes that are pulled 
long, or symbols painted on one's head, or hair piled 
up. All these kinds of decorations of the human body 
are only projections of one's own images that are being 
held within. People are the source oftheir own sexuality. Out oflovingness emerges the desire to experience 
the other person's energy. In that clear space, masculin­
ity and femininity are mutually attractive. It is as though 
universal man is with universal woman, transcending 
the personality. Instead of a localized physical experi­
ence, now there are quite different feelings of expan­
siveness and oneness that arise out of being with the 
energy of that other person. Perhaps a second before, 
there was no thought of sex in the mind of either one. The couple is waiting for the toast to pop up out of the 
toaster.Then there is an embrace that is done in a field 
that is clear. In other words, the partners have let go of 
any withholds, resentments, or things that were 
obstructing their being with each other. Out of the 
embrace itself arises the desire that is now of a totally 
different nature. It is the desire to be with and experi­
ence that person and their energy.The spontaneity ofit 
arises not out of desiringness but out of the space of 
the essential aliveness and energy of being with the 
other person. It is a diffuse, overall experience, and 191 SEXUALITY 
there is joy and gratefulness for the opportunity to be 
with that energy. The high joy and pleasure of that 
brings a sense of allness of completeness. At the very moment that this desiringness arises in 
this type of energy field, it is already simultaneously 
complete. For example, if the phone rings and the 
whole setting is interrupted, it can be dropped instantly 
with no feeling of loss. There is no feeling of loss 
because the sense of completion within the heart-the 
oneness, the unification-has already occurred. Wonderful phenomena happen in life when we let go 
of being run by any particular appetite.When that hap­
pens, it is as though the experience is complete at any 
moment, at all times. With weight reduction, if we let go of and disap­
pear the hungriness, the wanting of food, and being 
run by hunger, the sense of wanting and desiring to eat 
now arises out of the eating itself. When we sit down 
to eat, there is still no feeling of hunger or appetite, but 
as we begin to eat, the enjoyment is enormous. If, how­
ever, the doorbell rings right in the middle of eating a 
steak, we can leave the meal and go to be with a friend 
without a feeling of loss or lack. It is as though the 
completion accompanies the enjoyment. Instead of 
coming from a wantingness, it is almost as though we 
are just this side of the experience and trying to push 
to the next second. We know how that is in sex, how 
that is in eating-we are always anticipating the next 
bite, the next sensation.We are always anticipating. It is 
like we are reaching, so there is always an internal 
stream between what is happening right this second 
and what we desire, want, and crave to happen in the 192 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
next second. When wanting, craving, and desiring are released, 
there emerges the feeling of being with the exact 
moment so that each moment is complete and total in 
itself. Because of its completeness, it can be stopped 
at any second with no feeling of loss. In a very high­
energy state of joyfulness and blissfulness, there is no 
feeling of loss. Someone can turn off the television 
program we are watching without a feeling of loss. That is because we are experiencing, without control 
of anticipation. The nature of experiencing arises 
from completeness in every moment. To be with that 
person now, to feel at one with their energy, to feel 
acceptance, to feel the aliveness of that oneness, is 
already complete at the very moment of its experi­
ence.There is no 'have to' to continue the experience 
as a consequence of projecting completion in the 
anticipated future. The pleasure of eating is perfect 
without the anticipation ofthe next bite. In the energy 
fields of lower consciousness, life is experienced as 
going from incomplete to complete. In the higher levels 
ofconsciousness, life moves from complete to complete. . The letting go of desiringness allows the experi­
ence to be completely a state of oneness and content­
ment. Each moment seems to be arising spontaneously 
of its own.Within the embrace, the experience is hap­
pening spontaneously. It is like we are a participant in 
the unfolding of a movie. This happens because one 
has owned oneself back as source. Instead of putting 
the experience outside of ourself as something to get, 
we have owned it as something that we are. It is our 
way of being with that way about ourself.The experi­193 SEXUALITY 
ence comes from within; therefore, there is no gap 
between what we are and the experience. From a lower energy field, we experience ourselves 
as separately 'here', and that which is desired is over 
'there'.The desire is then pictured as somehow coming 
across, reducing the distance and the space, but there 
is always that feeling of space between what we think: 
we are and what we want. Our desiringness and what 
we want are dualistically separated as the subject and 
the object. As we let go and become free of that, we 
then begin to experience life as spontaneously unfold­
ing of its own. We begin to have reverence for the 
nature of this experience. It becomes like the state 
described by the mystics. What is a mystic? It is a person who has really let go 
of that desiringness and is experiencing completeness 
and totality from second to second, and within it, the 
exquisite beauty, reverence, and sacredness. Now the 
relationship becomes an expression of that which is 
sacred, and there is the enjoyment of the exquisite 
sense of aliveness. It is as though we have transcended 
the world. How has it done that? It could be said that 
the world is that which is constantly changing, that 
which begins and ends, that which is limited, and that 
which limits us. Ifwe identify with it, it then limits our 
experience to that local wanting and craving. Ifwe let 
go of that, then the energy field that begins to come 
through the heart and unite us with that other person 
in this spontaneous joyfulness means that we have really 
transcended the world because now the energy that 
we are experiencing is infinite. Experientially, the sexual experience now expands. 194 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
Instead of a local genital phenomenon, the experience 
expands throughout the entire body. From the entire 
body, it now begins to expand into a space around the 
body. It seems like the whole room is having an 
orgasm. It seems as though some kind of an infmite 
space is the source, and the body is merely what is 
happening in that space. The body becomes like the 
marionette that is acting out what is going on in an 
invisible realm that is infmite.The energy being experi­
enced is unlimited because love is unlimited. Ifwe look around, we see the expression of loving­
ness everywhere. It has no beginning and no end. It has 
no limitation. The only thing that limits it is our willing­
ness to experience it and be open to it. It is like an 
infinite ocean, so when we become open to it by letting 
go of that which opposes it, we become an expression 
of that lovingness. It is then experienced as an infmite 
space that transcends the personality as well as time 
and space. The greatest aphrodisiac is that inner sense ofalive­
ness, and as that aliveness intensifies, it is as though it 
awakens the totality of all of us.That feeling of loving­
ness and goodness is the greatest aphrodisiac of all.We 
are talking about the eroticism of the heart instead of 
the sexuality ofthe body.The heart is all encompassing, 
diffuse, and all inclusive, and it generates an intense 
sense of aliveness. There is that exquisite pleasure in 
the experience of our own existence expressed now 
within the energy field of being with someone whose 
energy matches, yet is its polar opposite. This allows 
the man to experience his own feminine side. He then 
owns it in the experience of the embrace. The woman 195 SEXUALITY 
experiences his energy field within herself, coming 
back to her through the man, and there is that sense of 
oneness and completeness in the magic of that 
embrace. The magic is the joining of these two energy 
fields, the masculine and the feminine, as an expression 
of their oneness out of that intense feeling of aliveness 
and joy. Recontextualization settles the problems that man 
has talked about having to do with sexuality because, 
in the subtlety of that inner experience is the recon­
nection with the joy ofour innocence.The whole ques­
tion of whether God approves of sex disappears. In the experience of that aliveness, oneness, and 
joy, as one moves up to an infinite state of inner peace 
and completion (because completion is peace), it is 
found that peace is that sense of absolute oneness and 
the rejoining with oneness. Within the sexuality that 
arises out of the heart is the return to the experience 
of being complete. It is the mystical quality oftranscen­
dence, a sense of unlimited everywhereness. When that sense of oneness occurs, it is as though 
we transcend all of time, as ifwe have been all of men 
forever and all of women forever. We own the source; 
we arethatoutofwhichtheexperience arises.We are 
no longer at the effect of it but the expression of it, 
with its incredible sacredness and beauty.There is the 
subtlety of that inner experience as we look ~ithin. How can this be made practical? Does it sound 
like fantasy, like the mystical or the unreal? Does it 
sound mythical, perhaps, and not really of men and 
women? .There are certain practical ways in which 
one can move into it.A way to unfocus from the local­196 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
ized physicality of the body arises out of the ancient 
traditional meditative technique of focusing your 
attention on the pOint one inch below your navel and 
keeping it there throughout the entire experience. Just 
try it. That is a point the Japanese call the 'hara'. It is 
used in martial arts where one's foc'us or centeredness 
is. Instead of paying attention to the movements of the 
body, the manipulations, and the endless anxieties, con­
centrate and fix the attention on that spot one inch 
below the navel. Hold your attention there no matter 
what is happening, and you will fmd that you are some­
what removed now. In this state, one becomes the 
autonomous participant/observer. The entire experi­
ence now takes on a whole different dimension. It is 
now spontaneously happening within you, but instead 
of being focused on the local, you are now experienc­
ing from a more generalized energy field. Try this as a 
way to move from that local experience on up to the 
heart.Just move into that point called ohara' and notice 
the change in the quality of the experience. When we move out of the localization, we move 
into a different energy field. The entire experience is 
then one of expansion, an expanded experience 
much greater in intensity, much more fulfIlling and 
gratifying, subsequent to which we feel joyful and 
grateful instead of satisfied. The difference is grati­
tude, which is akin to joy. Instead ofthe satisfaction of 
desire, which often leaves people with a sense ofloss, 
there is sadness.Why does it leave one with a sense of 
sadness, loss, incompletion, and lack? It is the result of 
putting the source of our sexuality out there some­
place in the world instead of re-owning it as part of SEXUALITY 
that which we are.The sense of innocence that arises 
then puts us back in the Garden of Eden as though 
we have not eaten the apple from the tree of good 
and evil. It is as though it takes us out of the field of 
carnality and puts us back into the field of inno­
cence and the awareness of the truth of that which 
we truly are. It is, therefore, one of the greatest of 
human experiences. This demonstrates the principle that it is not the 
events of life or what is happening but how we con­
textualize them that determines the nature of the 
experience, whether it is a guilt-inducing, frustrating, 
anxiety-provoking, neurotic type of dysfunction, or it 
is one of the greatest human experiences. CHAPTER 7 
The Aging Process 
How does the relationship between body, mind, and 
spirit correlate with the aging process? We will learn 
how to identify with the aspect of ourselves that is real 
and to let go ofthose identifications with that which is 
unreal. Where is it that a human experiences experience? When our research addressed that area, it was found 
that we are not subject to many things that the world 
holds to be inevitable. Aging is a series of identifications as well as pro­
grams, stereotypes, behavioral patterns, and scripts. That which experiences life has no age and is not 
subject to aging.We have to ask ourselves ifwe are that 
which we are experiencing or if we are the experi­
encers. There are the middle-age myths, health pat­
terns, sexual patterns, and weight problems that 
supposedly occur in middle age to consider, as well as 
the statement that the body does what the mind 
believes, along with the physics relating to that. Several 
facts and ideas will be considered, such as the fact that 
the body is really the effect and not the cause and is 
subject to what one holds in mind.There is freedom of 
choice to elect these various patterns. There is the 
adopting of family and social patterns and the influ­
ence they have on one's thoughts and beliefs about 
longevity. Feeling that one's life is a contribution or a sharing 
makes a difference and is of value. There are some 
hypnosis experiments to review; along with some odd 
199 200 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
things that have occurred in science, including a clini­
cal example called 'progeria', and what that means to 
us.Aging will be considered asa class phenomenon. We 
will also look at sex and age.The whole field of aging 
preoccupies everyone as they grow older, and the facts 
and fantasies can be examined and redefmed utilizing 
the knowledge of the nature of consciousness itself. The Map of Consciousness again provides an orien­
tation to the subject of human behavior and 'who I 
am'.To review, the chart is a numerical model showing 
the relative strengths, directions of the energy fields of 
the levels of consciousness, and their relative power, 
starting with death at zero and Bliss at 600, for exam­
pie. Apathy at 50 is weaker than fear at 100. Fear has 
much less energy than that of Courage at 200. At Neutral, everything is okay yet has less energy 
than Love at 500. Below the level of Courage, or the 
capacity to tell the truth, all the energy fields are in a 
negative direction, and above this critical level, all 
the energy fields go upward. In other words, positive 
energy fields are those that nurture, support, and value 
life, and hold it as sacred. The energy fields below 200 are opposed to life, do 
not support life, and in fact, at the bottom of the chart, 
they become very destructive. Loss of energy, loss of 
spirit, deflation, entrapment, inflation, and expansion 
are all negative· processes and lead to viewing the 
world in a negative way. They also lead to seeing God 
in a very negative way or even denying Divinity. It is necessary to restate the relationship between 
body, mind, and spirit to see what this really means 
because it is very important in looking at the aging 201 THE AGING PROCESS 
process. It is necessary to know and realize through 
one's inner reflection and contemplation that the body 
is unable to experience itself.This cannot be repeated 
too often. The body has no capacity to experience 
itself. Knowledge about the body and what is going on 
with it arises from its sensations, but sensations in and 
of themselves have no capacity to experience them­
selves.That experience has to occur in something that 
is greater than the body and its sensations, its sensory 
mechanism, and that is mind itself. It is because ofmind 
that one is aware of what is going on within the sensa­
tions. The sensations reveal what is happening within 
the body. Mind alone, as curious as it may seem, has no capac­
ity to experience itself.A thought cannot experience its 
own thoughtness; a feeling cannot experience its own 
feelingness; a memory cannot experience its own 
memoryness. In order for mind to be experienced, it 
has to be experienced by something that is greater 
than itself, and that is the energy field of 
Consciousness, which is greater than mind and more 
inclusive. Consciousness itself, and how we know what we 
are conscious of, comes from an infinite field with no 
limitations, which is called awareness. It is because of 
awareness that we know what is going on in con­
sciousness. It is because of consciousness that we 
know what is going on in mind. Because of mind, we 
are aware of what is going on with sensations. Because 
of sensations, we are aware of what is going on with 
the body. Consequently, that which we are-that which 
is aware, that which we really mean by the ultimate 'I' 202 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
and the infmite Self, and that which is consciousness­
is operationally many levels removed from the body. The interesting thing is that the body expresses ~nd 
does what the minds holds. One is subject to what the 
mind believes. In other words, the body, being like a 
puppet, is controlled by mind, both consciously and 
unconsciously. Few people realize the power of mind 
overbod~ , 
When looking at the Map of Consciousness, we can 
see that the physical body has a relative energy of 200 
(the same as the earth).The levels of mind are energies 
up to and including the 400s. The energy field ofthe body is neutral-:-it is neither 
positive nor negative. In looking at the physics of it, a 
thought held in mind from an energy field of 400 then 
dominates the body, which has an energy field of only 
200. Consequently, the beliefs, ideas, thoughts, configu­
rations, patterns, and scripts that are held in mind are 
adopted by the body and begin to reflect in the body's 
physical appearance. This has been covered in our 
discussions on health, illness, and giving up the various 
diseases.This principle is important to consider further. Later in this chapter are physical examples and 
ways to verify the principle for oneself, for example, 
how to undo the middle-age myth, the whole of idea of 
decrepit old age, the idea of failing health, and the 
belief system that all these things are inevitable and 
must be part and parcel of the body process itself, little 
realizing that they are actually coming from mind.This 
can be demonstrated with very simple clinical exam­
ples, such as hypnosis. In hypnosis, for instance, an old person who is quite 203 THE AGING PROCESS 
feeble walks into the office and says, "Would you like 
me to sit here? Can I sit in this chair here?" And he sits 
down as though he barely has the strength and power 
to sit in the chair. Then he is put under hypnosis and 
told that he is thirty-five years old. Then amnesia is 
induced so he will not remember what the suggestion 
was. When awakened from the hypnotic state, he is 
asked, "Would you like a glass of water?" and he 
answers, "Yes, I would like a glass of water." He then 
walks over to the fountain, takes a glass, fills it, sits 
down, and the feeble old man is gone.Where are all the 
shaking and the trembling? Where are the weakness 
and decrepitude? What has happened to the feeble old 
man? He seems to have disappeared! Through this clinical example, it can be seen that 
through the hypnotic state, the body is reflecting exactly 
what the mind believes-the way it stands, the way it 
holds itself, and its attitude toward the body. The old 
man is looking at the body as though it is frail. He is 
preoccupied with the thought that he might fall and 
break his hip.As a result, holding that in mind might 
bring it into his life experience. Another example is in the case of the multiple per­
sonality where one of the personalities has totally dif­
ferent views about health, life, and aging than the other 
one has.The body reflects the beliefs ofthe personality 
that is dominant at the time. If one personality believes 
in asthma while in the body, the body literally has asth­
ma. But when that personality is replaced by a more 
pleasant personality that does not have abelief in psy­
chosomatic illnesses, then the asthma is not present 
and the person has no allergies. Consequently, the 204 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
physical body reflects one's unconscious belief systems 
as well. In looking at how these belief systems arise, the 
. mind fIrst erroneously concludes that it does not have 
any options and thus thinks it is at the effect of the 
body and the ongoingness of time. In this case, the 
mind is giving away its power to the calendar. It pic­
tures that the body must of necessity get older as the 
years go by. A very interesting clinical example is 'progeria', a 
genetic condition in which the person progressively 
ages and becomes an extremely old, old person by the 
age offIve, six, seven, eight, and nine years, and is often 
dead by the age of ten from literally decrepit old age. Death can actually occur from old age in a span of only 
ten calendar years. If calendar years were the cause and the physical 
body was at the effect of the calendar, no such thing 
could occur.This information is provided to begin to 
open the mind to see that there are options and that 
what we believe, buy into, and allow ourselves to be 
programmed by now becomes the source, the pro­
gram, and the script, and that this script begins to 
express itself on the physical l~vel. When seeing it 
occurring on the physical level, the mind, due to its 
naiVete, concludes that the cause is happening on the 
physical level. The naIve mind sees causality on the 
physical level as 'A causes B causes C' within the 
physical realm, the turning of the calendar, and the 
seasons. Thus, it is causing the aging process of the 
body on the physical level. In truth, something from a higher level is sequen­205 THE AGING PROCESS 
tially causing both A, B, and C. Ifwe hold the concept 
in mind that goes A ... B ... C, then within the physical 
world, we ftrst seeA, then B, then C.Therefore, the left 
brain, because it thinks linearly and projects its con­
cept onto the phenomena of the world, holds that A 
must cause B must cause C. It never suspects that the 
causality ofABC is simultaneously arising from a differ­
ent level altogether. The level of cause, where the power is, is the level 
of mind. The world of the physical is the world of 
effect. It creates ABC. Ifwe hold a pattern in mind of 
what agmg looks like and think that is what must be 
and happen, we create on the physical level ABC-the 
decrepit people-because that is what old people 
looked like in our childhood. We were convinced that 
is what someone looks like when they are eighty; thus 
we will look like that when we are eighty years old. If 
we were to look back into that person's mind and see 
their pictures ofwhat an old man looks like, we would 
see that he looks exactly like the person standing in 
front ofus because that was his picture ofwhat it looks 
like to get old. An experiment demonstrating what the mind 
believed was done with the menstrual periods in 
women in which they were given an injection and told 
that it would result in their skipping their next men­
strual period.They were given an injection ofa placebo, 
and about eighty-ftve percent skipped the next period 
and about ftfteen percent experienced a lengthy delay 
in its onset. These examples are not exceptions. Our interest is 
in the basic principle, which is that this is going on all 206 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
the time. The mind continuously reflects the patterns 
and beliefs ofwhat is being held in mind.These clinical 
examples from hypnosis and research experiments are 
merely isolated ones to demonstrate it clearly. We can 
see that under hypnosis, the body will do exactly what 
the mind believes. For instance, a patient can be hypno­
tized and told he is allergic to roses, and when he 
wakes up, his nose will become stuffy. He will develop 
hay fever and have an asthma attack right there in the 
office. This experiment has historically been done 
many times and recorded in the annals ofpsychoanaly­
sis.This is always going on; now you can become aware 
of the constant programming affecting us.The expecta­
tions of middle and old age and what they are sup­
posed to mean are brought on by the mind out of its 
naIvete. As mentioned previously, one of the basic princi­
ples of consciousness itself is its intrinsic innocence. Because the mind is innocent, we have to begin to care­
fully watch and guard it. We have to become like its 
mother. The mind is like an innocent child who goes 
out in the world and believes everything it hears. It 
believes every billboard, every commercial, and every 
remark that people make. It believes what it sees. It has 
no way to evaluate it and has no sense of discrimina­
tion.We have to begin to take responSibility and say, "I 
can see that my mind is intrinsically innocent, and 
because the innocence of the mind of the child is still 
with me throughout life, I should start looking into 
what it has been buying." In looking at the lives of many who are very 
creative, one can see that they characteristically live 207 THE AGING PROCESS 
well into their nineties, frequently getting married at 
eighty-five, and even having children at ninety. Dr.John 
Diamond wrote an entire chapter about that and the 
energy of life in one of his books, Behavioral 
Kinesiology. He studied the life patterns ofthose people 
who were devoted to classical music as conductors, 
composers, and performers, and found that they all 
characteristically lived and remained productive to a 
very old age. It is accepted that an eighty-six-year-old 
conductor can lead a whole symphony orchestra and 
have a thirty-four-year-old wife and a young baby at 
home. It is a somewhat accepted occurrence with that 
lifestyle. Many humorists and writers live to very 
advanced ages, as do many people who do research 
and study physics. Performers such as George Burns 
and FredAstaire also lived long lives. In other words, the numerical, chronological age 
has no power within itself. It is our beliefs about it, 
how we hold it in mind, and how we genuflect to all 
the belief systems that go with it and that we have 
bought into throughout the years that have power. How is it that some people are dancing and performing 
at age eighty, and other people at age fIfty-nine are 
ready for the grave? I have a friend who, at age fIfty-nine, looks like he is 
seventy-five. It is as if life is all over for him. He has 
already had two coronary bypass operations. The way 
he holds himself-the weakness and his whole body 
stance-shows what he believes old age must entail. The first thing to realize is that we have options.We 
can choose to be different and to let go of the belief 
systems in our family. We can look back and begin to 208 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
find where the belief systems about middle age and the 
aging process came from. "What constitutes them? We 
can look at our own childhood and see what the rela­
tionship was with our parents, and also look at the time 
when their parents were middle-aged. "When looking at 
our middle-aged parents, we can remember the pat­
tern, which can be seen like a photograph. To some people, middle age means haVing a beer 
belly, sitting at home feeling tired and discouraged, 
watching television, and complaining about life with 
remarks such as, "I don't have the energy for that any­
more." Or getting the thought, "Well, you are over the 
hill," and the men start to wink at each other. "Hey, 
George, what? Are you a little over the hill there?" meaning middle age and forgetting about a sex life.All 
these programs go into the impressionable mind of the 
naive child who is creating a picture of what mother 
looks like-tired and bedraggled. She no longer cares 
for her appearance and does not bother going to the 
beautician anymore because middle age to her now 
means sort of retiring from life. Then we see people looking forward to retirement 
and their views of that, including retiring from life.The 
whole attitude is, "We'h go to Sunset Hills now and 
slowly wait for the sun to set.We'll join the old people's 
fadeout club, get progressively weaker, and watch each 
other go." That is an option. However, George Bums 
did not buy that option, nor did Alan Greenspan, or 
FredAstaire.Think of all the great composers and writ­
ers, the politicians, and the powers that run this world 
who are well into their sixties, seventies, and even 
eighties. As they got older, their power, wisdom, and 209 THE AGING PROCESS 
ability in the world grew ever stronger, not weaker. Look at all the thought systems and beliefs about what 
is supposed to happen to the body, all the thoughts 
about what we think aging must entail. We can look at our pictures and the relationship 
with our parents. Did we love our parents? Interestingly, that love can be the very reason for that 
identification. It is because we love them that we 
pattern ourselves after them. If we admire our father 
who. then develops this middle-aged pattern, we identify 
with and pick up the pattern, not for negative reasons, 
but out of admiration, innocence, and love for him, 
along with family loyalty.The same is true of the rela­
tionship with grandparents. We get an idea ofwhat old 
age looks like: 
Interestingly, I had a relatively negative view ofmid­
dle age, but I also had a relatively positive view of old 
age; therefore, I looked forward to that time.
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        Discovering the nature of consciousness itself and 
looking into the nature of that consciousness in our 
own introspection reveals that everything we have 
believed in during our whole life has happened out of 
innocence. Compassion and uIiderstanding develop, 
and because of that compassion, we can now see that, 
through our own innocence, we have come to believe 
what we believe. The willingness to forgive then allows 
us to see into the hearts ofothers. Out ofour own com­
passion, we can see the innocence of the child over 
and over. No matter what the age of the body, the con­
sciousness has remained unchanged. We can still hear 
the heart of the child within the adult saying "won't," 
"don't,"and so forth; it is the innocence ofthe child still 
speaking. We need to keep an eye on that to prevent 
spiritual crises. It heals conflicts as they arise. The reaffirmation of our innocence consists of 
never buying that anything is 'just' ego; there is no such 
thing as 'just' ego. Ego, the software, social conscious­
ness, ~nd the programming have been superimposed 
on that which is not ego but on truth itself and con­
sciousness itself. All spiritual crises come from context, 169 SPIRITUAL FIRST AID 
meaning, and the way in which a thing is held. If we 
think: our diet is an unspiritual diet, or our lifestyle or 
what we do for a living are unspiritual, they are merely 
reflecting a certain level of consciousness. Those who have reached very high levels of con­
sciousness condemn nothing. They will affIrm, however, 
that certain levels of consciousness will have conse-· 
quences, and that a certain lifestyle, one of selling out 
the truth about oneself, will bring inner pain and griev­
ance. It is left up to the individual to continue the 
process, and there is no attempt to control anyone. Certain behaviors or self-eondemnation will activate 
energy fields that will be experienced as painfuLAgain, 
it is left to the individual to continue or not. However, 
it is then not seen as a threat but as merely a fact of 
human consciousness that inner agony can become 
greater than what it already is if one violates certain 
principles. The teaching still holds up that it can be a 
very high teaching even though it may warn us that 
very agonizing, painful states of consciousness can 
come about as a result of certain behaViors. All the experience within human consciousness, 
including all spiritual work, represents a position, a way 
ofbeing with, and a way ofholding what weare always 
talking about. Even though we think: we are talking 
about the external world, it is really an inner position 
as a consequence ofa certain level ofconsciousness, of 
how we choose to be with something, and the pains 
and agonies that come about as a result of our clinging 
onto putting our survival on something that is not the 
truth. Pain tells us that we have put our survival onto 
something that is a violation of some principle of 170 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
consciousness. That is really what spiritual work is 
about. The progressive pain of these positions tells us that 
they are far from the truth, not that they are 'wrong'. As 
we get closer to the experience of the Presence of 
God, the inner experience is one of increasing joy and 
happiness. As we get farther from it, it tells us that we 
are far removed from the truth. Therefore, it is not a 
'make wrong'. It is not right or wrong, it is just that it 
is painful and does not work. The Buddha said that all pain and suffering are 
based on attachment and desire. A greater elaboration 
is that desire arises out of fear, which is a consequence 
of a sense of lack and the belief that one is separated 
from God. Desire itself leads to progressive frustration 
and a feeling of being separated from the truth. Constant wanting and craving lead to entrapment and 
bondage. There is no'right'or'wrong'about it. The con­
sequences of this endless frustration lead to anger. Acquisition or desire leads to pridefulness and fear of 
loss. Failure of ambition may lead to apathy or guilt. The 
consequences of ego positions do not support moving 
toward the truth. Noticeable is that negative energy fields tend to 
bring forth all the ego positions so that desire does not 
remain pure. It tends to bring with it anger, pride, fear, 
grief, and apathy. Grief tends to be accompanied by 
fearful, angry desire, and each of these tends to attract 
the other. The critical point in all spiritual work is the capac­
ity to be willing to tell the truth. Very often that truth 
is "I don't know," and out of the "I don't know" comes 171 SPIRITUAL FIRST AID 
the willingness to surrender to God. The truth comes 
about through the act of surrender. The truth is not 
'causing'the pain, and it is a mistake to worship the 
pain and think that suffering is therefore the royal road 
to Enlightenment. It is by realizing that the suffering 
within oneself is not due to the truth but to the unwill­
ingness to let falsehood go. It is by surrender to God 
that the truth is revealed. By remembering our inner innocence when we 
begin spiritual work, we ask to have that which is not 
the truth brought to our awareness. The process is 
therefore the evidence of success. As a result, there may 
be a somewhat chaotic appearance to the lives ofpeo­
ple who are labeled spiritual seekers. The inner person 
is pleased because it says, "I have been asked to see 
what stands between me and the truth, and that has 
been brought up from my awareness to be recognized, 
re-owned, recontextualized, and healed:' We provide a 
safe space and context about our spiritual work by 
being centered in the Heart-not the physical heart, 
but from the ultimate compassion, the owning of our­
self from this level, the joy of the spiritual work, and 
the saying "thank you" to all the things that come up 
outofgratitude. The crisisis theveryeventofthe spir­
itual healing. It is out of the crises that the healing 
occurs. CHAPTER 6 
Sexuality 
Applying the knowledge derived from the study of the 
nature of consciousness to common human problems, 
we will now focus on the area of sexuality, including 
the difference between sex and making love, between 
high-energy and low-energy sex, how to transcend feel­
ing guilty, and the effect of social programming about 
sexuality. We will learn how to experience it from the 
heart instead of from just the body; how to make it an 
uplifting and grand experience rather than one of 
manipulation and control; and how to get out of the 
energy interactions that result in impotence, frigidity, 
and sexual dysfunction. We will explore questions like "Does God approve 
of sex. ""Is sex all over with advancing age. ""Does'mid­
dle age' mean that we're 'over the hill'. "The answers 
will be addressed from the viewpoint of consciousness 
itself and from the position of 'body, mind, and spirit' 
about which one hears so much in the field of holistic 
health. What does 'body, mind, and spirit' mean. Is it a slo­
gan or just a catch phrase. What is'spirit,' anyway. Is it 
something we can experience. Is there an energy to it 
that we can discover through our own research into 
our inner experiences. The focus will be on inner 
experiences, on subtle states of inner awareness and 
the part they play in this important area of human 
behavior. Initially, we will again review the nature of the rela­
tionship between body,mind, and spirit. We will review 
173 174 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
where that human experience is experienced, and dis­
cuss and demystify consciousness itself, making it 
understandable. Reference will be made to the Map of 
Consciousness, which will be very helpful in under­
standing the nature of the relationship between body, 
mind, and spirit. What is that relationship. First, as noted previously, 
is the fact that the body cannot experience itself. When talking about sexuality, everyone automatically 
thinks of the body and its allure, physicality, and form. Astonishingly enough, when one looks at it, there is 
the realization that the body is insentient in that it 
cannot experience itself. The arm cannot experience 
its armness, and the leg cannot experience its legness. Something greater than that has to take place before 
experience happens. The body is experienced through 
sensations. One experiences not the body but the sen­
sations of the body-where it is in space and motion. The sensations themselves cannot, of their own, really 
experience themselves. They, too, have to be experi­
enced in something larger, which is in mind. When looked at carefully, one realizes they are not 
experiencing the body or the sensations of the body 
but instead are experiencing what is going on in mind 
about the body. Even mind itself, curiously enough, 
cannot experience itself. A thought does not experi­
ence its thoughtness; a feeling does not experience its 
feelingness. Something larger than mind has to be 
present, something that is unchanging in itself. The 
reason we become aware ofwhat is going on in mind 
is because of consciousness, which is a much larger 
energy field than that of mind. Mind tells us what is 175 SEXUALITY 
going on in emotions, thoughts, and sensations. Sensations tell us what is going on in the body. Therefore, what we experience is always going on in 
the field of consciousness itself, which is like an invis­
ible screen that is really located everywhere. Consciousness itself is unaware of what is happen­
ing within itself. This is due to something infinitely 
larger than even consciousness, which is the nature of 
awareness-that which has no dimension or locality. We experience experience within the field of con­
sciousness itself in handling human and behaVioral. problems and in understanding human behavior. We 
can address it directly by going to its experience with­
in consciousness because consciousness itself is more 
powerful and dominant. We can handle problems that 
seem to be arising in the body by handling them on the 
level of consciousness and also on the level of mind. When looking at human experiences and events, 
we see that events are one thing, but how we choose 
to be with them is something else. We may not be able 
to determine, control, or choose the events that occur 
in our lives, but we can determine how we wish to be 
with them. Therefore, the experience of how to be 
with them is perhaps more important than the events 
themselves. We all know that when we are in a certain 
mood, a minor irritation may be trivial. However, when 
in another mood, that same event can be aggravating or 
even send us into a rage. Therefore, how we contextu­
alize events brings up the whole concept of energy 
fields. The energy field or the position from which we 
perceive a situation, the way we are holding our own 176 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
existence, and the importance of all events are arising 
out ofthe context created by our position. We will refer 
again to the Map of Consciousness, which shows the 
levels of consciousness, their calibrations relative to 
their energy fields, and the power of each energy field 
calibrated mathematically. 11tis gives us an understand­
ing in our left-brain way of comprehending things. Each level has a direction ofan energy field, either pos­
itive or negative. The emotions arise from these energy 
fields, along with a way of viewing the world and of 
relating to that which is greater than our individual 
selves. The entire process is going on in consciousness. All of this will come together in addressing the 
question of high-energy sex, that which arises out of 
the heart, and our way of being in the world as com­
pared to low-energy sex, which is localized in a physi­
cal experience about which society has had so much 
to say over the ages. It can be seen that man's conflict 
about sexuality is consequent to the energy field of his 
position about the subject, how it is perceived, and 
what it means. Problems are best solved not on the 
level where they appear to occur but on the next level 
above them. We are not going to discuss philosophy but instead, 
clinical experience-that which we can verify through 
our own experience, through human experience-and 
look at it from a level that is above the problems. Problems are best solved by transcending them and 
looking at them from a higher viewpoint. At the higher 
level, the problems automatically resolve themselves 
because of that shift in point of view, or one might see 
there was no problem at all. We are going to look at 177 SEXUALITY 
what appear to be sexual problems that are actually 
arising from an energy field, and about which we can 
change our position. In general, when people talk about sex, they are 
referring to a type of experience, but they are also talk­
ing considerably about an energy field, the one that 
everybody presumes to be and the media focus on, 
called Desire. They are talking about a certain percep­
tion or way of looking at things; a certain wantingness; 
the overcoming of frustration or lack; the withholding 
of this or the manipulation of that; the gratification of 
it or using it as a trade in relationships; the allure, the 
price, and the value added to the allure; and, in general, 
they are talking about the physicality. Morality is related 
to physicality and the view or holding ofsexuality from 
the physical level, or the lower energy field. There is the story what happened in the Garden of 
Eden. Man and woman were in a state of innocence in 
a very high nonlinear energy field where they ate of 
the linear tree of knowledge, the tree of good and evil. They bought into a world of duality. In contrast, in the 
world of Love, there is no duality. In lOVingness, loving­
ness just is. The heart does not say anything; the heart 
just 'knows'. The heart is with life. In eating of the tree 
of right and wrong, of good and evil, what happened. They then saw themselves as mentalized bodies and 
came down into Guilt, which is at the bottom of the 
scale. From a high state of joy; a state of lovingness; a 
state of innocent, inftnite being with life; from joy that 
is beyond right and wrong, they fell into a field in 
which they were looking at the body as an identity. They then became conscious of its naked bodyness, 178 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
and out of that arose shame and mankind's sexual 
problems. Whether it is an historical event or primarily merely 
allegorical is immaterial. Psychologically, it is an event 
that has happened to mankind, so the problems that 
man has called sexual are really due to a point of view 
about physicality and seeing sexuality as a physical 
phenomenon being run by desire. In contrast to desire 
is aversion, so sexuality is then characterized by desir­
ingness, aversion, avoiding the field, wanting nothing to 
do with it, and taking the moralistic position that one 
is superior by seeing it as a physical, animal function. It 
even degrades that which is termed 'animal,' calling it 
'carnal' as though the animal world, which was created 
by God, is somehow immoral. Therefore, the difficulty 
is not in sexuality at all, but constantly within con­
sciousness. The view is arising out of how, in conscious­
ness, the mind is seeing sexuality and defining these 
relationships. In studying these fields of consciousness, we have 
learned that the level called Courage is the energy field 
of 200; the arrow is neutral and no longer negative. Everything below 200 is a position of victim and lack. Guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger, and pride all come 
from positions of lack, of not having wholeness, of not 
being at one with life. Holding sexuality from the phys­
icallevel of Desire (calibration level 125) and dividing 
it according to gender into maleness and femaleness 
create a feeling of separation. Out of that separation 
comes craving; out of desire comes frustration; out of 
frustration come anger and resentment; and out of all 
that come fear, grief, and apathy. As a result, people are 179 SEXUALITY 
prone to guilt about sexuality; some are also limited by 
apathy, hopelessness, and lack of desire; others associ­
ate sexuality with grief; and some are fearful. Frustration is associated with desiringness, wanti­
ngness, and then anger and pridefulness about sexuali­
ty. This is demonstrated by strutting one's macho image 
or sticking out one's feminine attributes in a prideful, 
tantalizing, seductive kind of controlling, manipulating, 
and exploiting way, a la Hollywood. The marketing industry utilizes this-the desiring­
ness, frustration, lack, and feeling of separation-and 
attempts to control and manipulate people. There is a 
pretty girl sitting on the hood of a car, but what does a 
car have to do with a pretty girl. The advertisement is 
trying to connect the two. IfI get this car, or shampoo, 
or hair-do, or if I wear this perfume, then I will over­
come this separation between me and what I desire. That point of view then creates an endless painfulness 
and source of suffering. The suffering takes various 
forms, such as impotence, frigidity, sadism, or even vio­
lence. They arise from holding sexuality from the view 
of its physicalness, desiringness, and lustful wanting­
ness. One can see why many people are run by that. Because of the nature of this energy field of Desire, 
the accompanying emotions are those of wantingness, 
greed, and cravingness, leading to an addiction to sex. Sexuality runs the sexually obsessed. Sexual obses­
sion/compulsion results in the endless promiscuity of 
going to bed with anyone who is available and arises 
from the need to prove one's desirability. On the right side of the Map of Consciousness, one 
can see that the process going on in consciousness at 180 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
this energy level is that of entrapment. Within con­
sciousness at this level, once a person wants some­
thing, that wanting begins to dominate. The desiring­
ness and wantingness run the person. Temporary grati­
fication fails to suffice because of the negativity of the 
field, and leads to endless frustration, wanting, and crav­
ing. There is no completion, no feeling of finality, and 
no feeling of happiness; there are only enslavement 
and sexual addiction. True happiness does not prevail until one reaches 
the higher energy fields; therefore, trying to find happi­
ness through the endless creation of satisfaction and 
the cycling of desire creates frustration. Frustration 
feels good when it is temporarily satisfied. It feels good 
when one stops banging one's head against the wall, 
but that is not the same thing as happiness. The desir­
ingness and cravingness continue. It is because of this 
physicality and the energy field that all the moral ques­
tions arise. Why do religion and morality address this kind of 
energy field, and why is it called 'carnal'. Lower-energy 
sexuality is held in mind in a lower viewpoint, and 
therefore the whole question of morality then address­
es itself to that which is carnal. Carnality arises from 
looking down on one's animal nature instead of accept­
ing it, being happy with it, being grateful for it, and say­
ing it is intrinsically beautiful when it is not judged or 
held in a degrading manner. How does one get out of this cycle to experience 
sexuality from a much different energy field and get 
relief from it. How does one let go of being 'at the 
effect of' or controlled or dominated by this instinct 181 SEXUALITY 
and run by the repetitive recycling of it. How can one 
view sexuality from a different energy field so that it is 
experienced as a totally positive experience. When it is 
held and viewed from a different level of conscious­
ness, all the questions and problems begin to disap­
pear. Then there are no such things as manipulation, 
withholding, frustration, or being run by desire, danger, 
and resentment. There is no feeling of lack if the desire 
is not fulfilled. Desire creates the fear that it will not be 
fulfilled, or grief that is has not been, or apathy, anger, 
frustration, or self-blame. The bottom of the Map shows that guilt is accom­
panied by self-hatred. Holding sexuality from this level 
links to a view of the world of sin and suffering, of 
hopelessness and sadness. From a lower viewpoint, the 
whole subject of sexuality becomes frightening. Sex becomes competitive when it is used in a 
seductive manner, or. in a manipulative energy field of 
competition. Used as a symbol of status, sexual attrac­
tion becomes an illusory 'power' symbol, and the 
adornment of the human also becomes a symbol ofsta­
tus and another way of controlling, manipulating, and 
trying to influence one's sense of self-worth. Worry, 
anxiety, shame,wantingness, and resentment arise from 
this energy field, which often leads to hatred. Thus, 
there are stabbings, violent murders, and suicides based 
on the infatuation, seduction, and manipulation of one 
by another, along with the triangulations of the situa­
tions and the unconscious exploitations that occur 
based on this desiringness and attractiveness. The 
denial about this is visible, along with the contempt 
(e. g. ,'trollop', 'whore','bitch',etc. , or carnal rap music). 182 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
There is also pridefulness about sexual morality, 
which is seen as contempt, denial, or religious conflict. Prideful people often hold all sexuality from a con­
temptuous 'looking down their nose' viewpoint and 
see anyone who indulges in that kind of activity as 
being debased by a low animal nature. They presume 
that everyone else is run by it in the same way they are. People who hold contempt for sexuality are projecting 
their own way of being with it onto others and saying, 
"Aren't they carnal. Aren't they animal. " In contrast with such views, high-energy sex, with a 
different energy field and a different way of being with 
it, then transcends all these problems-competition, 
frustration, fright, guilt, regret, worry, and anxiety. How 
can we imagine enjoying ourselves in a human endeavor 
that is taking place in this whole energy field while 
secretly feeling that God is probably going to pUnish us 
for it because the view of God that emerges out of this 
field is punitive. We are certainly separated from Him, 
and if we get any enjoyment or happiness, very likely 
there is expectation or retaliation in the end. Some people cannot stand the intensity of this con­
flict between a driving biological urge, a psychological 
need, and religion, so they just avoid it altogether and 
via atheism, which just eliminates the guilt. They have 
to either let go of their view of God and religion, or let 
go of their sexuality. For some people, this is an impos­
sible conflict to resolve, and many of them end up as 
atheists because there is no way for them to handle 
their humanness and their views of God. How does one move out of being run by that con­
flict in order to experience these experiences from a 183 SEXUALITY 
different energy field. We will contrast it with an energy 
field of lovingness, with sexuality as an expression of 
lovingness, as a sense of aliveness, and of being with 
the truth of that which one is. In order to have that 
kind ofexperience, one has to let go of the lower energy 
field in which sex is really experienced as a local phys­
ical phenomenon. Then there are all kinds of preoccu­
pation with anatomy, such as men's preoccupation 
with their fitness as a sexual partner, and women's 
focus on the physical attributes of the body. Along with the physicality, there are emotionality 
and sentimentality. Emotionality plus physicality is the 
expression of love-the'mad, passionate' embrace 
and the expression of the emotionality of wanting­
ness and desiringness. "Oh, how I want you. ""Oh, how 
I crave you. ''''Oh, how I must have you," and the thrill 
ofall that is what the movies and the media often por­
tray. Ifone lets go of those perceptions, what kind of 
experience is possible. What kind of experience 
would happen if sex were no longer just local or a 
negativity. How would it be perceived ifit happened 
out of the heart, out of an energy field of 500, out of 
the space of being with the reality and the truth of 
that which one is. First, it is necessary to talk about how to let go of 
this driven energy field, how to avoid being run by it, 
how to experience sex without conflict, and how to 
transcend the cravingness ofthis energy field that causes 
all the problems. How can we experience it from a 
much higher level. There is a technique that has worked with weight 
problems, with pain, and with a great variety ofillnesses. 184 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
The basic principle works the same no matter what the 
situation is. When the energy, feeling, expression, or 
desire comes up, first, let go of labeling it or calling it 
anything. Let go of the fantasies, images, and pictures, 
and instead, allow the experience of what it is and the 
sensations of it to occur. By letting go of resisting them, 
they progressively diminish. The solar plexus energy 
fields of desiringness, cravingness, and wantingness 
eventually run out. When looking at wantingness, it is apparent that it 
is not really a pleasurable bxperience. It is not pleas­
ant to stand in front of the store window, looking at 
what is inside with a feeling of wanting, desire, and 
frustrated craving. Ifwe look at it and cancel the con­
tent of the 'what', whether it is diamonds, a fur coat, 
or someone else's body, we realize that the experi­
ence itself is unpleasant. To want and not have, espe­
cially at this moment, is unpleasant. To want a steak: 
and smell it cooking but not be able to eat it is really 
frustrating. If a steak is held in front of a dog's nose 
and he is not allowed to eat it, what is he experienc­
ing. Is he experiencing happiness. Is he glad to be 
alive. Ifthis continues long enough, the dog will end 
up with anger and rage at the frustration of his desir­
ingness. It is not a pleasant feeling. The illusion is that it is the desire itself that brings 
sex into our life. Actually, the opposite is true. The want­
ingness and desiringness are blocking sex from coming 
into our life, as well as the full enjoyment of it when it 
is present. With the letting go of resisting this craving, 
all the desiringess that has been repressed and sup­
pressed comes up. If it is allowed t{) just be released 185 SEXUALITY 
and flow without doing anything about it, without 
opposing or resisting the experience of it, it begins to 
decompress. Eventually, because there is a limited 
quantity of it, it finally stops altogether. When the crav­
ingness, desiringness, obsession, compulsion, and 
addiction to the wantingness and cravingness of this 
physicality dissipate, we are at peace. What a shocking 
thought. Where there were desiringness, cravingness, 
wantingness, and frustration; where there was a feeling 
of lack, of 'not havingness,' and of low self-esteem 
because this was not being gratified, there is now 
instead a state of peace. The same thing happens when we let go of resist­
ing food cravings and the desire and appetite for food 
all the time. That greediness finally lets go. These are 
merely varieties of greed. There can be greed for any 
external thing. What the world calls sexuality is often 
really a greediness, a wantingness, a forever desiring­
ness that runs and dominates people and their lives. Instead of that, there is an inner state of peace and 
serenity. It is as though the whole question has been 
handled and is no longer a problem. What is the prob­
lem now. There is no problem. It no longer drives us 
crazy or ins1. ilts our integrity or us. We no longer have 
to sell ourselfout or feel that we have to barter or trade 
our body or our sexual expression in the endless bar­
gaining that goes on between men and women. There 
is no longer the tantalizing with it, the Withholding, the 
gift of it, the "Now you owe me," or the "Now you have 
paid me," or the "I have paid for your dinner, now give 
me your body:' The endless trade-offs and bargaining 
come to an end. We are now free of manipulation by 186 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
that. Remember that when we manipulate others, we 
are equally manipul~ted in return. When we let go of manipulating through this vari­
ety of sexuality, it means that we cannot be manipulated 
by it either. We become freer once we are unattached 
and move into the field of facing and coping with this 
problem. When we face and cope with it, we become 
unattached and released instead of entrapped. What is the released state. It means to be so free 
that ifsomething happens in our life, it is terrific, and if 
it does not happen, it is okay also. To be free means to 
be at the level of choice. Then we are not run by the 
world or manipulation. Every billboard does not send 
us to the store to buy cheWing gum or whatever the 
pretty girl is selling. Willingness to transcend limitation 
moves us up to acceptance and allows us to feel ade­
quate and confident. Feeling adequate arises from an 
inner knowing that somehow a question has fmally 
been answered by life. Where there was frustration, there is now freedom, 
and with it the feeling of being adequate as a human 
being and having far more confidence. There is the will­
ingness to begin to move into a lovingness. The world 
begins to seem friendlier. Ifsex is desired and frustrated, 
it hardly looks like a friendly world. Upon surrendering 
desire and its associated mental images and fantasies, 
the world begins to look more friendly and harmo­
nious, allowing the freedom to enjoy the opportunities 
for sexual expression. As we move out of desire to acceptance, we move 
into an energy field where we begin to approach hap­
piness. There is the beginning of happiness and a 187 SEXUALITY 
sense of mellowness and feeling really good about 
our behavior and ourself. This lovingness is the begin­
ning of nurturance to support the willingness to for­
give. There is the capacity to experience our being 
with this field of behavior from a different point of 
view. The energy field then resolves all the problems 
that arise in the lower energy fields. As said previously, everything is experienced in 
consciousness. For example, if our consciousness 
were colored blue, then everything would be experi­
enced as blueness. Ifour consciousness were colored 
pink:, then all of our experiences would be experi­
enced as pinkness. Likewise, negativity also colors the 
entire experience of our sexual life. Coming from lack 
is characteristic of lower energy fields; therefore, 
everything is experienced as giving and getting. Wanting means the exchange of giving and getting, so 
we hear expressions about sexual life by adolescent 
boys when they get together in the locker room, such 
as, "Did you get any last night. " As we move up out of the lower energy fields of 
giving and getting, there appears the middle energy 
field of 'doing. ' In this case people are preoccupied 
with the doingness of sex. "Let's 'do' it" is the expres­
sion. Therefore, the style of 'doing it' becomes the 
preoccupation. As a result, there are the endless sex 
manuals that talk about doingness. Some of the more 
modern ones even throw in some love. That is often 
considered to be just romanticism and something that 
women require to have happy sex. The energy field of doingness has to do with how 
well one 'does' it. As a result, people become anxious 188 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
about their performance. If sex is something we 'do', 
then we should do it well in our society. Therefore, 
there is the whole idea of competitiveness and per­
formance. Out of performance anxiety come frigidity, 
lack ofdesire, and various forms ofimpotence in which 
there is the anxiety about 'doing it'. "Will he like the 
way I do it. ""Will she like the way I do it. ""Have I sat­
isfied the other person. " It becomes somewhat rede­
fined as a form of athletics. Eventually, sexuality becomes a way of how to be 
with someone. It is a way of sharing our being with 
that person. It is not what we give and get; it is not how 
we perform as though it were a rating scale. Instead, it 
becomes a way of being with the person in which the 
whole barter system falls away. When no longer viewed 
from a lower position, the whole question of guilt falls 
and disappears, and the moralistic questions are 
answered. Lovingness means a connection within the 
heart, the opening up of a space and a way of being 
with that person. The fear arises that ifwe let go of our desiringness 
and wantingness, it will mean that it will disappear 
from our life. Research, experience, and clinical experi­
ence show that the opposite is true. Desiringness and 
wantingness set up a resistance. That which we want 
and desire also sets up a resistance in the other person. When a salesman addresses people in his· salesman 
style, the people know he is going to want to sell some­
thing. When we get that he wants to sell us something, 
resistance comes up that counterbalances what is 
going on in the lower energy fields. Surrender of wantingness creates the space for the 189 SEXUALITY 
energy field of life itself to enter the body and open up 
the heart. The letting go of the lower energy field 
opens the way for the higher energy field to express 
itselfthrougl;J. the opening up of joy, joyfulness, and lov­
ingness. There is then the desire in the relationship to 
bring happiness and pleasure and to support the other 
person's experience. There is compassion in lovemak­
ing. There is no longer worry about performance or 
morality. From the energy field of lovingness, the loving 
of sex replaces the desiring and wanting it. Love is nonjudgmental. It is aware of intrinsic inno­
cence and naturalness. It now watches even the ani­
mals from a different viewpoint, seeing the expression 
of the grace of the animalness. When relieved of the 
negative, condemning, moralistic energy field, it is pos­
sible to experience the incredible beauty, perfection, 
and, indeed, the sacredness of the expression of our 
aliveness-the thrill, joy, and experience of the energy 
field of our aliveness. It is experienced as the sexuality 
ofloveand the loveofsexuality as an expression oflove. In contrast, desiringness seems to bring with it a 
whole energy field that includes guilt, apathy, or grief, 
and then frustration, fear, anger, pridefulness, and 
anxiety about performance. When we are free of the 
cravingness of desire, we are then released from guilt 
and remorse, from anticipating that maybe it will not 
happen, and from all these energies that arise almost 
en masse, almost as a unit. With maturity, the integrity 
of the relationship becomes progressively more 
important, with increasing appreciation for the other 
person's happiness. At lower levels of consciousness, people do not 190 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
experience the other person's energy; they experience 
their own energy. Sexual attractiveness, as amazing as it 
may seem, does not originate in the outer world. It is 
something that one projects onto the world. In one 
society, being extremely slim is attractive. In another 
society, being plump is attractive, or being brunette or 
blond, or having a bone through one's nose, or many 
rings around one's neck, or ear lobes that are pulled 
long, or symbols painted on one's head, or hair piled 
up. All these kinds of decorations of the human body 
are only projections of one's own images that are being 
held within. People are the source oftheir own sexuality. Out oflovingness emerges the desire to experience 
the other person's energy. In that clear space, masculin­
ity and femininity are mutually attractive. It is as though 
universal man is with universal woman, transcending 
the personality. Instead of a localized physical experi­
ence, now there are quite different feelings of expan­
siveness and oneness that arise out of being with the 
energy of that other person. Perhaps a second before, 
there was no thought of sex in the mind of either one. The couple is waiting for the toast to pop up out of the 
toaster. Then there is an embrace that is done in a field 
that is clear. In other words, the partners have let go of 
any withholds, resentments, or things that were 
obstructing their being with each other. Out of the 
embrace itself arises the desire that is now of a totally 
different nature. It is the desire to be with and experi­
ence that person and their energy. The spontaneity ofit 
arises not out of desiringness but out of the space of 
the essential aliveness and energy of being with the 
other person. It is a diffuse, overall experience, and 191 SEXUALITY 
there is joy and gratefulness for the opportunity to be 
with that energy. The high joy and pleasure of that 
brings a sense of allness of completeness. At the very moment that this desiringness arises in 
this type of energy field, it is already simultaneously 
complete. For example, if the phone rings and the 
whole setting is interrupted, it can be dropped instantly 
with no feeling of loss. There is no feeling of loss 
because the sense of completion within the heart-the 
oneness, the unification-has already occurred. Wonderful phenomena happen in life when we let go 
of being run by any particular appetite. When that hap­
pens, it is as though the experience is complete at any 
moment, at all times. With weight reduction, if we let go of and disap­
pear the hungriness, the wanting of food, and being 
run by hunger, the sense of wanting and desiring to eat 
now arises out of the eating itself. When we sit down 
to eat, there is still no feeling of hunger or appetite, but 
as we begin to eat, the enjoyment is enormous. If, how­
ever, the doorbell rings right in the middle of eating a 
steak, we can leave the meal and go to be with a friend 
without a feeling of loss or lack. It is as though the 
completion accompanies the enjoyment. Instead of 
coming from a wantingness, it is almost as though we 
are just this side of the experience and trying to push 
to the next second. We know how that is in sex, how 
that is in eating-we are always anticipating the next 
bite, the next sensation. We are always anticipating. It is 
like we are reaching, so there is always an internal 
stream between what is happening right this second 
and what we desire, want, and crave to happen in the 192 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
next second. When wanting, craving, and desiring are released, 
there emerges the feeling of being with the exact 
moment so that each moment is complete and total in 
itself. Because of its completeness, it can be stopped 
at any second with no feeling of loss. In a very high­
energy state of joyfulness and blissfulness, there is no 
feeling of loss. Someone can turn off the television 
program we are watching without a feeling of loss. That is because we are experiencing, without control 
of anticipation. The nature of experiencing arises 
from completeness in every moment. To be with that 
person now, to feel at one with their energy, to feel 
acceptance, to feel the aliveness of that oneness, is 
already complete at the very moment of its experi­
ence. There is no 'have to' to continue the experience 
as a consequence of projecting completion in the 
anticipated future. The pleasure of eating is perfect 
without the anticipation ofthe next bite. In the energy 
fields of lower consciousness, life is experienced as 
going from incomplete to complete. In the higher levels 
ofconsciousness, life moves from complete to complete. The letting go of desiringness allows the experi­
ence to be completely a state of oneness and content­
ment. Each moment seems to be arising spontaneously 
of its own. Within the embrace, the experience is hap­
pening spontaneously. It is like we are a participant in 
the unfolding of a movie. This happens because one 
has owned oneself back as source. Instead of putting 
the experience outside of ourself as something to get, 
we have owned it as something that we are. It is our 
way of being with that way about ourself. The experi­193 SEXUALITY 
ence comes from within; therefore, there is no gap 
between what we are and the experience. From a lower energy field, we experience ourselves 
as separately 'here', and that which is desired is over 
'there'. The desire is then pictured as somehow coming 
across, reducing the distance and the space, but there 
is always that feeling of space between what we think: 
we are and what we want. Our desiringness and what 
we want are dualistically separated as the subject and 
the object. As we let go and become free of that, we 
then begin to experience life as spontaneously unfold­
ing of its own. We begin to have reverence for the 
nature of this experience. It becomes like the state 
described by the mystics. What is a mystic. It is a person who has really let go 
of that desiringness and is experiencing completeness 
and totality from second to second, and within it, the 
exquisite beauty, reverence, and sacredness. Now the 
relationship becomes an expression of that which is 
sacred, and there is the enjoyment of the exquisite 
sense of aliveness. It is as though we have transcended 
the world. How has it done that. It could be said that 
the world is that which is constantly changing, that 
which begins and ends, that which is limited, and that 
which limits us. Ifwe identify with it, it then limits our 
experience to that local wanting and craving. Ifwe let 
go of that, then the energy field that begins to come 
through the heart and unite us with that other person 
in this spontaneous joyfulness means that we have really 
transcended the world because now the energy that 
we are experiencing is infinite. Experientially, the sexual experience now expands. 194 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
Instead of a local genital phenomenon, the experience 
expands throughout the entire body. From the entire 
body, it now begins to expand into a space around the 
body. It seems like the whole room is having an 
orgasm. It seems as though some kind of an infmite 
space is the source, and the body is merely what is 
happening in that space. The body becomes like the 
marionette that is acting out what is going on in an 
invisible realm that is infmite. The energy being experi­
enced is unlimited because love is unlimited. Ifwe look around, we see the expression of loving­
ness everywhere. It has no beginning and no end. It has 
no limitation. The only thing that limits it is our willing­
ness to experience it and be open to it. It is like an 
infinite ocean, so when we become open to it by letting 
go of that which opposes it, we become an expression 
of that lovingness. It is then experienced as an infmite 
space that transcends the personality as well as time 
and space. The greatest aphrodisiac is that inner sense ofalive­
ness, and as that aliveness intensifies, it is as though it 
awakens the totality of all of us. That feeling of loving­
ness and goodness is the greatest aphrodisiac of all. We 
are talking about the eroticism of the heart instead of 
the sexuality ofthe body. The heart is all encompassing, 
diffuse, and all inclusive, and it generates an intense 
sense of aliveness. There is that exquisite pleasure in 
the experience of our own existence expressed now 
within the energy field of being with someone whose 
energy matches, yet is its polar opposite. This allows 
the man to experience his own feminine side. He then 
owns it in the experience of the embrace. The woman 195 SEXUALITY 
experiences his energy field within herself, coming 
back to her through the man, and there is that sense of 
oneness and completeness in the magic of that 
embrace. The magic is the joining of these two energy 
fields, the masculine and the feminine, as an expression 
of their oneness out of that intense feeling of aliveness 
and joy. Recontextualization settles the problems that man 
has talked about having to do with sexuality because, 
in the subtlety of that inner experience is the recon­
nection with the joy ofour innocence. The whole ques­
tion of whether God approves of sex disappears. In the experience of that aliveness, oneness, and 
joy, as one moves up to an infinite state of inner peace 
and completion (because completion is peace), it is 
found that peace is that sense of absolute oneness and 
the rejoining with oneness. Within the sexuality that 
arises out of the heart is the return to the experience 
of being complete. It is the mystical quality oftranscen­
dence, a sense of unlimited everywhereness. When that sense of oneness occurs, it is as though 
we transcend all of time, as ifwe have been all of men 
forever and all of women forever. We own the source; 
we arethatoutofwhichtheexperience arises. We are 
no longer at the effect of it but the expression of it, 
with its incredible sacredness and beauty. There is the 
subtlety of that inner experience as we look ~ithin. How can this be made practical. Does it sound 
like fantasy, like the mystical or the unreal. Does it 
sound mythical, perhaps, and not really of men and 
women. There are certain practical ways in which 
one can move into it. A way to unfocus from the local­196 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
ized physicality of the body arises out of the ancient 
traditional meditative technique of focusing your 
attention on the pOint one inch below your navel and 
keeping it there throughout the entire experience. Just 
try it. That is a point the Japanese call the 'hara'. It is 
used in martial arts where one's foc'us or centeredness 
is. Instead of paying attention to the movements of the 
body, the manipulations, and the endless anxieties, con­
centrate and fix the attention on that spot one inch 
below the navel. Hold your attention there no matter 
what is happening, and you will fmd that you are some­
what removed now. In this state, one becomes the 
autonomous participant/observer. The entire experi­
ence now takes on a whole different dimension. It is 
now spontaneously happening within you, but instead 
of being focused on the local, you are now experienc­
ing from a more generalized energy field. Try this as a 
way to move from that local experience on up to the 
heart. Just move into that point called ohara' and notice 
the change in the quality of the experience. When we move out of the localization, we move 
into a different energy field. The entire experience is 
then one of expansion, an expanded experience 
much greater in intensity, much more fulfIlling and 
gratifying, subsequent to which we feel joyful and 
grateful instead of satisfied. The difference is grati­
tude, which is akin to joy. Instead ofthe satisfaction of 
desire, which often leaves people with a sense ofloss, 
there is sadness. Why does it leave one with a sense of 
sadness, loss, incompletion, and lack. It is the result of 
putting the source of our sexuality out there some­
place in the world instead of re-owning it as part of SEXUALITY 
that which we are. The sense of innocence that arises 
then puts us back in the Garden of Eden as though 
we have not eaten the apple from the tree of good 
and evil. It is as though it takes us out of the field of 
carnality and puts us back into the field of inno­
cence and the awareness of the truth of that which 
we truly are. It is, therefore, one of the greatest of 
human experiences. This demonstrates the principle that it is not the 
events of life or what is happening but how we con­
textualize them that determines the nature of the 
experience, whether it is a guilt-inducing, frustrating, 
anxiety-provoking, neurotic type of dysfunction, or it 
is one of the greatest human experiences. CHAPTER 7 
The Aging Process 
How does the relationship between body, mind, and 
spirit correlate with the aging process. We will learn 
how to identify with the aspect of ourselves that is real 
and to let go ofthose identifications with that which is 
unreal. Where is it that a human experiences experience. When our research addressed that area, it was found 
that we are not subject to many things that the world 
holds to be inevitable. Aging is a series of identifications as well as pro­
grams, stereotypes, behavioral patterns, and scripts. That which experiences life has no age and is not 
subject to aging. We have to ask ourselves ifwe are that 
which we are experiencing or if we are the experi­
encers. There are the middle-age myths, health pat­
terns, sexual patterns, and weight problems that 
supposedly occur in middle age to consider, as well as 
the statement that the body does what the mind 
believes, along with the physics relating to that. Several 
facts and ideas will be considered, such as the fact that 
the body is really the effect and not the cause and is 
subject to what one holds in mind. There is freedom of 
choice to elect these various patterns. There is the 
adopting of family and social patterns and the influ­
ence they have on one's thoughts and beliefs about 
longevity. Feeling that one's life is a contribution or a sharing 
makes a difference and is of value. There are some 
hypnosis experiments to review; along with some odd 
199 200 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
things that have occurred in science, including a clini­
cal example called 'progeria', and what that means to 
us. Aging will be considered asa class phenomenon. We 
will also look at sex and age. The whole field of aging 
preoccupies everyone as they grow older, and the facts 
and fantasies can be examined and redefmed utilizing 
the knowledge of the nature of consciousness itself. The Map of Consciousness again provides an orien­
tation to the subject of human behavior and 'who I 
am'. To review, the chart is a numerical model showing 
the relative strengths, directions of the energy fields of 
the levels of consciousness, and their relative power, 
starting with death at zero and Bliss at 600, for exam­
pie. Apathy at 50 is weaker than fear at 100. Fear has 
much less energy than that of Courage at 200. At Neutral, everything is okay yet has less energy 
than Love at 500. Below the level of Courage, or the 
capacity to tell the truth, all the energy fields are in a 
negative direction, and above this critical level, all 
the energy fields go upward. In other words, positive 
energy fields are those that nurture, support, and value 
life, and hold it as sacred. The energy fields below 200 are opposed to life, do 
not support life, and in fact, at the bottom of the chart, 
they become very destructive. Loss of energy, loss of 
spirit, deflation, entrapment, inflation, and expansion 
are all negative· processes and lead to viewing the 
world in a negative way. They also lead to seeing God 
in a very negative way or even denying Divinity. It is necessary to restate the relationship between 
body, mind, and spirit to see what this really means 
because it is very important in looking at the aging 201 THE AGING PROCESS 
process. It is necessary to know and realize through 
one's inner reflection and contemplation that the body 
is unable to experience itself. This cannot be repeated 
too often. The body has no capacity to experience 
itself. Knowledge about the body and what is going on 
with it arises from its sensations, but sensations in and 
of themselves have no capacity to experience them­
selves. That experience has to occur in something that 
is greater than the body and its sensations, its sensory 
mechanism, and that is mind itself. It is because ofmind 
that one is aware of what is going on within the sensa­
tions. The sensations reveal what is happening within 
the body. Mind alone, as curious as it may seem, has no capac­
ity to experience itself. A thought cannot experience its 
own thoughtness; a feeling cannot experience its own 
feelingness; a memory cannot experience its own 
memoryness. In order for mind to be experienced, it 
has to be experienced by something that is greater 
than itself, and that is the energy field of 
Consciousness, which is greater than mind and more 
inclusive. Consciousness itself, and how we know what we 
are conscious of, comes from an infinite field with no 
limitations, which is called awareness. It is because of 
awareness that we know what is going on in con­
sciousness. It is because of consciousness that we 
know what is going on in mind. Because of mind, we 
are aware of what is going on with sensations. Because 
of sensations, we are aware of what is going on with 
the body. Consequently, that which we are-that which 
is aware, that which we really mean by the ultimate 'I' 202 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
and the infmite Self, and that which is consciousness­
is operationally many levels removed from the body. The interesting thing is that the body expresses ~nd 
does what the minds holds. One is subject to what the 
mind believes. In other words, the body, being like a 
puppet, is controlled by mind, both consciously and 
unconsciously. Few people realize the power of mind 
overbod~, 
When looking at the Map of Consciousness, we can 
see that the physical body has a relative energy of 200 
(the same as the earth). The levels of mind are energies 
up to and including the 400s. The energy field ofthe body is neutral-:-it is neither 
positive nor negative. In looking at the physics of it, a 
thought held in mind from an energy field of 400 then 
dominates the body, which has an energy field of only 
200. Consequently, the beliefs, ideas, thoughts, configu­
rations, patterns, and scripts that are held in mind are 
adopted by the body and begin to reflect in the body's 
physical appearance. This has been covered in our 
discussions on health, illness, and giving up the various 
diseases. This principle is important to consider further. Later in this chapter are physical examples and 
ways to verify the principle for oneself, for example, 
how to undo the middle-age myth, the whole of idea of 
decrepit old age, the idea of failing health, and the 
belief system that all these things are inevitable and 
must be part and parcel of the body process itself, little 
realizing that they are actually coming from mind. This 
can be demonstrated with very simple clinical exam­
ples, such as hypnosis. In hypnosis, for instance, an old person who is quite 203 THE AGING PROCESS 
feeble walks into the office and says, "Would you like 
me to sit here. Can I sit in this chair here. " And he sits 
down as though he barely has the strength and power 
to sit in the chair. Then he is put under hypnosis and 
told that he is thirty-five years old. Then amnesia is 
induced so he will not remember what the suggestion 
was. When awakened from the hypnotic state, he is 
asked, "Would you like a glass of water. " and he 
answers, "Yes, I would like a glass of water. " He then 
walks over to the fountain, takes a glass, fills it, sits 
down, and the feeble old man is gone. Where are all the 
shaking and the trembling. Where are the weakness 
and decrepitude. What has happened to the feeble old 
man. He seems to have disappeared. Through this clinical example, it can be seen that 
through the hypnotic state, the body is reflecting exactly 
what the mind believes-the way it stands, the way it 
holds itself, and its attitude toward the body. The old 
man is looking at the body as though it is frail. He is 
preoccupied with the thought that he might fall and 
break his hip. As a result, holding that in mind might 
bring it into his life experience. Another example is in the case of the multiple per­
sonality where one of the personalities has totally dif­
ferent views about health, life, and aging than the other 
one has. The body reflects the beliefs ofthe personality 
that is dominant at the time. If one personality believes 
in asthma while in the body, the body literally has asth­
ma. But when that personality is replaced by a more 
pleasant personality that does not have abelief in psy­
chosomatic illnesses, then the asthma is not present 
and the person has no allergies. Consequently, the 204 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
physical body reflects one's unconscious belief systems 
as well. In looking at how these belief systems arise, the. mind fIrst erroneously concludes that it does not have 
any options and thus thinks it is at the effect of the 
body and the ongoingness of time. In this case, the 
mind is giving away its power to the calendar. It pic­
tures that the body must of necessity get older as the 
years go by. A very interesting clinical example is 'progeria', a 
genetic condition in which the person progressively 
ages and becomes an extremely old, old person by the 
age offIve, six, seven, eight, and nine years, and is often 
dead by the age of ten from literally decrepit old age. Death can actually occur from old age in a span of only 
ten calendar years. If calendar years were the cause and the physical 
body was at the effect of the calendar, no such thing 
could occur. This information is provided to begin to 
open the mind to see that there are options and that 
what we believe, buy into, and allow ourselves to be 
programmed by now becomes the source, the pro­
gram, and the script, and that this script begins to 
express itself on the physical l~vel. When seeing it 
occurring on the physical level, the mind, due to its 
naiVete, concludes that the cause is happening on the 
physical level. The naIve mind sees causality on the 
physical level as 'A causes B causes C' within the 
physical realm, the turning of the calendar, and the 
seasons. Thus, it is causing the aging process of the 
body on the physical level. In truth, something from a higher level is sequen­205 THE AGING PROCESS 
tially causing both A, B, and C. Ifwe hold the concept 
in mind that goes A. B. C, then within the physical 
world, we ftrst seeA, then B, then C. Therefore, the left 
brain, because it thinks linearly and projects its con­
cept onto the phenomena of the world, holds that A 
must cause B must cause C. It never suspects that the 
causality ofABC is simultaneously arising from a differ­
ent level altogether. The level of cause, where the power is, is the level 
of mind. The world of the physical is the world of 
effect. It creates ABC. Ifwe hold a pattern in mind of 
what agmg looks like and think that is what must be 
and happen, we create on the physical level ABC-the 
decrepit people-because that is what old people 
looked like in our childhood. We were convinced that 
is what someone looks like when they are eighty; thus 
we will look like that when we are eighty years old. If 
we were to look back into that person's mind and see 
their pictures ofwhat an old man looks like, we would 
see that he looks exactly like the person standing in 
front ofus because that was his picture ofwhat it looks 
like to get old. An experiment demonstrating what the mind 
believed was done with the menstrual periods in 
women in which they were given an injection and told 
that it would result in their skipping their next men­
strual period. They were given an injection ofa placebo, 
and about eighty-ftve percent skipped the next period 
and about ftfteen percent experienced a lengthy delay 
in its onset. These examples are not exceptions. Our interest is 
in the basic principle, which is that this is going on all 206 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
the time. The mind continuously reflects the patterns 
and beliefs ofwhat is being held in mind. These clinical 
examples from hypnosis and research experiments are 
merely isolated ones to demonstrate it clearly. We can 
see that under hypnosis, the body will do exactly what 
the mind believes. For instance, a patient can be hypno­
tized and told he is allergic to roses, and when he 
wakes up, his nose will become stuffy. He will develop 
hay fever and have an asthma attack right there in the 
office. This experiment has historically been done 
many times and recorded in the annals ofpsychoanaly­
sis. This is always going on; now you can become aware 
of the constant programming affecting us. The expecta­
tions of middle and old age and what they are sup­
posed to mean are brought on by the mind out of its 
naIvete. As mentioned previously, one of the basic princi­
ples of consciousness itself is its intrinsic innocence. Because the mind is innocent, we have to begin to care­
fully watch and guard it. We have to become like its 
mother. The mind is like an innocent child who goes 
out in the world and believes everything it hears. It 
believes every billboard, every commercial, and every 
remark that people make. It believes what it sees. It has 
no way to evaluate it and has no sense of discrimina­
tion. We have to begin to take responSibility and say, "I 
can see that my mind is intrinsically innocent, and 
because the innocence of the mind of the child is still 
with me throughout life, I should start looking into 
what it has been buying. " In looking at the lives of many who are very 
creative, one can see that they characteristically live 207 THE AGING PROCESS 
well into their nineties, frequently getting married at 
eighty-five, and even having children at ninety. Dr. John 
Diamond wrote an entire chapter about that and the 
energy of life in one of his books, Behavioral 
Kinesiology. He studied the life patterns ofthose people 
who were devoted to classical music as conductors, 
composers, and performers, and found that they all 
characteristically lived and remained productive to a 
very old age. It is accepted that an eighty-six-year-old 
conductor can lead a whole symphony orchestra and 
have a thirty-four-year-old wife and a young baby at 
home. It is a somewhat accepted occurrence with that 
lifestyle. Many humorists and writers live to very 
advanced ages, as do many people who do research 
and study physics. Performers such as George Burns 
and FredAstaire also lived long lives. In other words, the numerical, chronological age 
has no power within itself. It is our beliefs about it, 
how we hold it in mind, and how we genuflect to all 
the belief systems that go with it and that we have 
bought into throughout the years that have power. How is it that some people are dancing and performing 
at age eighty, and other people at age fIfty-nine are 
ready for the grave. I have a friend who, at age fIfty-nine, looks like he is 
seventy-five. It is as if life is all over for him. He has 
already had two coronary bypass operations. The way 
he holds himself-the weakness and his whole body 
stance-shows what he believes old age must entail. The first thing to realize is that we have options. We 
can choose to be different and to let go of the belief 
systems in our family. We can look back and begin to 208 HEALING AND RECOVERY 
find where the belief systems about middle age and the 
aging process came from. "What constitutes them. We 
can look at our own childhood and see what the rela­
tionship was with our parents, and also look at the time 
when their parents were middle-aged. "When looking at 
our middle-aged parents, we can remember the pat­
tern, which can be seen like a photograph. To some people, middle age means haVing a beer 
belly, sitting at home feeling tired and discouraged, 
watching television, and complaining about life with 
remarks such as, "I don't have the energy for that any­
more. " Or getting the thought, "Well, you are over the 
hill," and the men start to wink at each other. "Hey, 
George, what. Are you a little over the hill there. " meaning middle age and forgetting about a sex life. All 
these programs go into the impressionable mind of the 
naive child who is creating a picture of what mother 
looks like-tired and bedraggled. She no longer cares 
for her appearance and does not bother going to the 
beautician anymore because middle age to her now 
means sort of retiring from life. Then we see people looking forward to retirement 
and their views of that, including retiring from life. The 
whole attitude is, "We'h go to Sunset Hills now and 
slowly wait for the sun to set. We'll join the old people's 
fadeout club, get progressively weaker, and watch each 
other go. " That is an option. However, George Bums 
did not buy that option, nor did Alan Greenspan, or 
FredAstaire. Think of all the great composers and writ­
ers, the politicians, and the powers that run this world 
who are well into their sixties, seventies, and even 
eighties. As they got older, their power, wisdom, and 209 THE AGING PROCESS 
ability in the world grew ever stronger, not weaker. Look at all the thought systems and beliefs about what 
is supposed to happen to the body, all the thoughts 
about what we think aging must entail. We can look at our pictures and the relationship 
with our parents. Did we love our parents. Interestingly, that love can be the very reason for that 
identification. It is because we love them that we 
pattern ourselves after them. If we admire our father 
who. then develops this middle-aged pattern, we identify 
with and pick up the pattern, not for negative reasons, 
but out of admiration, innocence, and love for him, 
along with family loyalty. The same is true of the rela­
tionship with grandparents. We get an idea ofwhat old 
age looks like: 
Interestingly, I had a relatively negative view ofmid­
dle age, but I also had a relatively positive view of old 
age; therefore, I looked forward to that time. Section summary: 

This passage discusses spirituality-related topics, specifically dealing with issues surrounding humanity’s perception and misunderstanding regarding Christianity-based morals. It explains concepts concerning desires’ impact upon personal growth,
explains alternative viewpoints towards Christian teachings;
    emphasizes maintaining openness & trust amidst societal influences

Summary:
In essence, recognizing that ignorance prevails globally forces compassionate comprehension,

•   Recognizes vulnerability;

acknowledgments shared flaws amongst humans;

Emphasizes accepting truths amid worldly distractions


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Within discussions, individuals recognize genuine mistakes committed unknowingly ; embracing humility enables forgiveness. Further exploration highlights perspectives touching on religiosity. Revised Summary : 



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The author believes that everything we have believed in our whole life has happened out of innocence, and that our consciousness has remained unchanged since childhood.
What is the author's main point about the nature of consciousness?
The text states that all pain and suffering arise from attachment and desire, which is a consequence of a sense of lack and the belief in separation from God.
According to the text, what is the source of all pain and suffering?
The author suggests that we can transcend these energy fields by letting go of our desiringness and wantingness, and instead, focus on the energy field of lovingness and the heart.
How does the author suggest we can transcend the negative energy fields associated with sexuality?
The author emphasizes the importance of letting go of our ego and lower energy fields, and instead, embracing the energy field of lovingness and the heart.
What is the key to moving out of the lower energy fields and into a higher state of consciousness?
The author suggests that we must first recognize and let go of our negative beliefs and patterns about aging, and then focus on re-owning our innocence and embracing the truth of our existence.
How can we change our perception of aging and the aging process?