The	point	of	power
is	in	the	present	moment,	and	you	can	begin	to	make	a	shift	today. Once	again,	be	willing	to	release	the	need. Say:
“I	am	willing	to	release	the	need	for	———————————	in	my
life. I	release	it	now	and	trust	in	the	process	of	life	to	meet	my	needs.”
Say	it	every	morning	in	your	daily	meditation	and	prayers. You	have
taken	another	step	to	freedom.EXERCISE:	
Your	Secret	Addiction
List	10	secrets	that	you	have	never	shared	with	anyone	regarding	your
addiction. If	you	are	an	overeater,	maybe	you	have	eaten	out	of	a	garbage
can. If	you	are	an	alcoholic,	you	may	have	kept	alcohol	in	the	car	so	you
could	drink	while	driving. If	you	are	a	compulsive	gambler,	perhaps	you	put
your	family	into	jeopardy
	in	
order	to	borrow	money	to	continue	your
addiction. How	do	you	feel	now? Look	at	your	“worst”	secret. Visualize	yourself	at
this	period	in	your	life	and	
love
	that	person. Tell	them	how	much	you	love
and	forgive. Look	into	the	mirror	and	say:	“I	forgive	you	and	I	love	you
exactly	as	you	are.”	Breathe. EXERCISE:	
Ask	Your	Family
Let’s
	go	
back	to	our	childhood	for	a	moment	and	ask	a	few	questions. 1. My	mother	always	made	me...
2. What	I	really	wanted	her	to	say	was...3. What	my	mother	really	didn’t	know	was...
4. My	father	told	me	I	shouldn’t...
5. If	my	father	only	knew...
6. I	wish	I	could	have	told	my	father...
7. Mother,	I	forgive	you	for...8. Father,	I	forgive	you	for...
9. What	would	you	still	like	to	tell	your	parents	about	yourself? What	is
the	unfinished	business	that	you	still	have? Many	people	come	to	me	and	say	that	they	cannot	enjoy	today	because	of
something	that	happened	in	the	past. Holding	on	to	the	past	
ONLY	HURTS
US. We	are	refusing	to	live	in	the	moment. The	past	is	over	and	cannot	be
changed. This	is	the	only	moment	we	can	experience. EXERCISE:	
Releasing	the	Past
Let	us	now	clean	up	the	past
	in	our	
minds. Release	the	emotional
attachment	to	it. Allow	the	memories	to	be	just	memories. If	you	remember	what	you	wore	at	the	age	of	10,	there
	is	
usually
	no
attachment. It
	is	
just	a	memory. That	can
	be	
the	same	for	all	of	the	past	events
	in	
our	lives. As	
we	let	go,
we	become	free	to	use	all	of	our	mental	power	to	enjoy	this	moment	and	to
create	a	bright	future. We	don’t	have	to	keep	punishing	ourselves	for	the	past. 1. List	all	of	the	things	you	are	willing	to	let	go	of.2. How	willing	are	you	to	let	go? Notice	your	reactions,	and	write	them
down. 3. What	will	you	have	to	do	to	let	these	things	go? How	willing	are	you	to
do	so? EXERCISE:	
Self-Approval
Since	self-hatred	plays	such	an	important	role	in	addictive	behavior,	we
will	now	do	one	of	my	favorite	and	often-used	exercises. I	have	given	this
exercise	to	thousands	of	people,	and	the	results	are	phenomenal. Every	time	that	you	think	about	your	addiction	for	the	next	month,	say
over	and	over	to	yourself,
	“I	
APPROVE	OF	MYSELF,”
Do	
this	three	or	four	hundred	times	a	day. No,	it’s	not	too	many	times. When	you	are	worrying,	you	will
	go	
over	your	problem	at	least	that	many
times	in	a	day. Let
	“I	
approve	of	myself’	become	a	walking	mantra,
something	that	you	say	over	and	over	to	yourself,	almost	nonstop. Saying	“I	approve	of	myself”	is	guaranteed	to	bring	up	everything	in	your
consciousness	that	is	in	opposition. When	a	negative	thought	like,	“How	can
you	approve	of	yourself-you	spent	all	of	your	money”	or	“You	just	ate	twopieces	of	cake”	or	“You”ll	never	amount	to	anything,”	or	whatever	your
negative	babble	may	be,	
this
	is	the	time	to	take	mental	control. Give	it	no
importance. Just	see	the	thought	for	what	it	is,	another	way	to	keep	you	stuck
in	the	past. Gently	say	to	this	thought,	“Thank	you	for	sharing. I	let	you	go,	I
approve	of	myself.”	These	thoughts	of	resistance	will	have	no	power	over	you
unless	you	choose	to	believe	them. Refer	to	the	checklist	on	the	next	page,	taken	from	page	81. Find	the
affirmation	corresponding	to	each	belief. Make	these	affirmations	part	of	your
daily	schedule. Say	them	at	work,	in	the	car,	or	while	brushing	your	teeth	in
the	morning.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
I	want	to	feel	better	now. I	am	at	peace. Smoking	cigarettes	reduces	my	stress. I	release	my	stress	with	ease. Having	a	lot	of	sex	helps	me	to
escape. I	have	the	power,	strength,	and
knowledge	to	handle	everything	in	my
life. I	can’t	stop	eating. Love	surrounds	me	and	protects	me
and	nourishes	me. Drinking	makes	me	popular. I	radiate	acceptance	and	I	am	deeply
loved	by	others. I	need	perfection. I	allow	and	welcome	change. I	gamble	too	much. I	am	open	to	the	wisdom	within. I	need	my	tranquilizers. I	relax	into	the	flow	of	life	and	let	life
provide	all	that	I	need	easily	and
comfortably. I	can’t	stop	buying	things. I	am	willing	to	create	new	thoughts
about	myself	and	my	life. I	can’t	get	away	from	abusive
relationships. I	am	powerful	and	capable. I	love	and	appreciate	all	of	myself
. “I	give	myself	permission	to	change.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.9
FORGIVENESS
“I	am	forgiven	and	I	am	free.”
Forgiveness	Checklist
	I’ll	never	forgive	them. What	they	did	was	unforgivable. They	ruined	my	life. They	did	it	on	purpose. I	was	so	little,	and	they	hurt	me	so	much. They	have	to	apologize	first. My	resentment	keeps	me	safe. Only	weak	people	forgive. I’m	right	and	they	are	wrong. It’s	all	my	parents’	fault. I	don’t	have	to	forgive	anyone. D
o	you	resonate	to	several	of	these	statements? Forgiveness	is	a	difficult
area	for	most	of	
us. We	all	need	to	do	forgiveness	work. Anyone	who	has	a	problem	with
loving	themselves	is	stuck	in	this	area. Forgiveness	opens	our	hearts	to	self-
love. Many	of	us	carry	grudges	for	years	and	years. We	feel	self-righteousbecause	of	what	
they
	did	to	us. I	call	this	being	stuck	in	the	prison	of	self-
righteous	resentment. We	get	to	be	right. We	never	get	to	be	happy. I	can	hear	you	saying,	“But	you	don’t	know	what	they	did	to	me,	it’s
unforgivable.”	Being	unwilling	to	forgive	is	a	terrible	thing	to	do	to	ourselves. Bitterness	is	like	swallowing	a	teaspoon	of	poison	every	day. It	accumulates
and	harms	us. It	is	impossible	to	be	healthy	and	free	when	we	keep	ourselves
bound	to	the	past. The	incident	is	long	over. Yes,	they	did	not	behave	well. However,	it	is	over. Sometimes	we	feel	that	if	we	forgive	them,	then	we	are
saying	that	what	they	did	to	us	was	okay. One	of	our	biggest	spiritual	lessons	is	to	understand	that	“everyone”	is
doing	the	best	they	can	at	any	given	moment. People	can	only	do	so	much
with	the	understanding,	awareness,	and	knowledge	that	they	have. Invariably,
anyone	who	mistreats	someone	was	mistreated	as	a	child. The	greater	the
violence,	the	greater	their	own	inner	pain. This	is	not	to	condone	poor
behavior. However,	for	our	own	spiritual	growth,	we	must	be	aware	of	their
pain. The	incident	is	over. Perhaps	long	over. Let	it	go. Allow	yourself	to	be	free. Come	out	of	prison	and	step	into	the	sunshine	of	life. If	the	incident	is	still
going	on,	then	ask	yourself	why	you	think	so	little	of	yourself	that	you	still
put	up	with	it. Why	do	you	stay	in	such	a	situation? The	purpose	of	this	book
is	to	help	you	raise	your	self-esteem	to	such	a	level	that	you	only	allow	loving
experiences	in	your	life. Don’t	waste	time	trying	to	“get	even.”	It	doesn’t
work. What	we	give	out	always	comes	back	to	us. So	let’s	drop	the	past	and
work	on	loving	ourselves	in	the	now. Then	we	shall	have	a	wonderful	future. That	person	who	is	the	hardest	to	forgive	is	the	one	who	can	teach	you	the
greatest	lessons. When	you	love	yourself	enough	to	rise	above	the	old
situation,	then	understanding	and	forgiveness	will	be	easy. And	you	will	be
free. Does	freedom	frighten	you? Does	it	feel	safer	to	be	stuck	in	your	old
resentment	and	bitterness? MIRROR	WORK
Time	to	go	back	to	our	friend,	the	mirror. Look	into	your	eyes	and	say	with
feeling,	“I	am	willing	to	forgive!”	Repeat	this	several	times. What	are	you	feeling? Do	you	feel	stubborn	and	stuck? Or,	do	you	feel
open	and	willing? Just	notice	your	feelings. Don’t	judge	them. Breathe	deeply	a	few	times
and	repeat	the	exercise. Does	it	feel	any	different?EXERCISE:	
Family	Attitudes
1. Was	your	mother	a	forgiving	person? 2. Was	your	father	a	forgiving	person? 3. Was	bitterness	a	family	way	of	handling	hurts? 4. How	did	your	mother	get	even? 5. How	did	your	father	get	even? 6. How	do	you	get	even?7. Do	you	feel	good	when	you	get	revenge? 8. Why? An	interesting	phenomenon	is	that	when	we	do	our	own	forgiveness	work,
other	people	often	respond	to	it. It	is	not	necessary	to	go	to	the	person
involved	and	tell	them	that	you	forgive	them. Sometimes	you	want	to	do	this. You	do	not	have	to. The	major	work	of	forgiveness	is	done	in	your	own	heart. Forgiveness	is	seldom	for	“them.”	It	is	for	us. The	person	you	need	to	forgive
may	even	be	dead. I	have	heard	from	many	people	that	when	they	have	truly	forgiven,	a	month
or	two	later,	they	may	receive	a	phone	call	or	a	letter	from	the	other	person,
asking	to	be	forgiven. This	seems	to	be	particularly	true	for	forgiveness	done
in	front	of	a	mirror. As	you	do	this	exercise,	notice	how	deep	your	feelings
might	be. MIRROR	WORK
Mirror	work	is	often	uncomfortable	and	something	we	want	to	run	from. If
you	are	standing	in	the	bathroom	doing	mirror	work,	it	is	far	too	easy	to	run
out	the	door. I	believe	that	you	receive	the	most	benefits	if	you	sit	in	front	of	a
mirror. I	like	to	use	the	big	dressing	mirror	on	the	back	of	the	bedroom	door. I
settle	in	with	a	box	of	tissues. My	dog	often	sits	beside	me	to	comfort	me	as	I
do	mirror	work.Give	yourself	time	to	do	this	exercise,	or	you	can	do	it	over	and	over. We
all	have	lots	of	people	to	forgive. Sit	in	front	of	your	mirror. Close	your	eyes
and	breathe	deeply	several	times. Think	of	the	many	people	who	have	hurt
you	in	your	life. Let	them	pass	through	your	mind. Now	open	your	eyes	and
begin	talking	to	one	of	them. Say	something	like,	“You	have	hurt	me	deeply. However,	I	won’t	stay	stuck
in	the	past	any	longer. I	am	willing	to	forgive	you:”	Take	a	breath	and	say,	“I
forgive	you	and	I	set	you	free:”	Breathe	again	and	say,	“You	are	free	and	I	am
free.”
Notice	how	you	feel. You	may	feel	resistance,	or	you	may	feel	clear. If	you
feel	resistance,	just	breathe	and	say,	‘I	am	willing	to	release	all	resistance:’
This	may	be	a	day	when	you	can	forgive	several	people. It	may	be	a	day
when	you	can	forgive	only	one. It	doesn’t	matter. However	you	are	doing	this
exercise	is	perfect	for	you. Forgiveness	can	be	like	peeling	away	the	layers	of
an	onion. If	there	are	too	many	tears,	put	the	onion	away	for	a	day. You	can
always	come	back	and	peel	another	layer. Acknowledge	yourself	for	being
willing	to	even	begin	this	exercise. As	you	continue	to	do	this	exercise,	today	or	another	day,	expand	your	list
of	those	to	forgive. Remember:
Family
Teachers
Kids	at	school
Lovers
Friends
The	work	environment
Government	agencies	or	figures
Church	personnel
Hospital	personnel
Other	authority	figures
God
Myself
Most	of	all,	forgive	yourself. Stop	being	hard	on	yourself. Self-punishment
isn’t	necessary. You	were	doing	the	very	best	you	could. Sit	in	front	of	the	mirror	once	again	with	your	list. Say	to	each	person	on
your	list,	“I	forgive	you	for	————————.”	Breathe. “I	forgive	you	andI	set	you	free,”
Continue	to	go	down	your	list,	if	you	feel	free	from	anger	with	a	person,
cross	them	off. If	you	are	not	free	of	anger,	put	them	aside	and	come	back	to
the	work	later. As	you	continue	to	do	this	exercise,	you	will	find	burdens	melting	off	your
shoulders. You	may	be	surprised	to	notice	how	much	old	baggage	you	have
been	carrying. Be	gentle	with	yourself	as	you	go	through	the	cleansing
process. MAKE	A	LIST
Put	on	some	soft	music-something	that	will	make	you	feel	relaxed	and
peaceful. Now	take	a	pad	and	pen,	and	let	your	mind	drift. Go	back	into	the
past,	and	think	of	all	the	things	that	you	are	angry	with	yourself	over. Write
them	down. Write	them	all	down. You	may	discover	that	you	have	never
forgiven	yourself	for	wetting	your	pants	and	being	embarrassed	in	the	first
grade. What	a	long	time	to	carry	
that
	burden! Sometimes	it	is	easier	to	forgive	others	than	to	forgive	ourselves. We	are
often	hard	on	ourselves,	and	demand	perfection. Any	mistakes	we	make	are
severely	punished. It’s	time	to	go	beyond	that	old	attitude. Mistakes	are	the	way	we	learn. If	we	were	perfect,	there	wouldn’t	be
anything	to	learn. We	wouldn’t	need	to	be	on	the	planet. Being	“perfect”	will
not	even	get	your	parents’	love	and	approval-it	will	only	make	you	feel
“wrong”	and	not	good	enough. Lighten	up	and	stop	treating	yourself	that	way. Forgive	yourself. Let	it	go. Give	yourself	the	space	to	be	spontaneous	and
free. There	is	no	need	for	shame	and	guilt. Remember	how	wonderful	it	was	to	run	free	when	you	were	a	child. Go	outside	to	a	beach,	a	park,	or	even	an	empty	lot,	and	let	yourself	run. Do	not	jog,	Run	wild	and	free-turn	somersaults-skip-and	laugh	while	you	are
doing	it! Take	your	inner	child	with	you	and	have	some	fun. So	what	if
someone	sees	you? This	is	for	your	freedom! Review	the	checklist	below,	taken	from	page	91. Find	the	corresponding
affirmation	below	for	each	negative	belief.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
I’ll	never	forgive	them. This	is	a	new	moment. I	am	free	to	let
go. They	don’t	deserve	to	be	forgiven. I	forgive	whether	they	deserve	it	or
not. What	they	did	to	me	was
unforgivable. I	am	willing	to	go	beyond	my	own
limitations. They	ruined	my	life. I	take	responsibility	for	my	own	life. I
am	free. They	did	it	on	purpose. They	were	doing	the	best	they	could
with	the	knowledge,	understanding,
and	awareness	that	they	had	at	the
time. I	was	so	little	and	they	hurt	me	so
much. I	am	grown	up	now	and	I	take	loving
care	of	my	inner	child. They	have	to	apologize	first. My	spiritual	growth	is	not	dependent
on	others. My	resentment	keeps	me	safe. I	release	myself	from	prison. I	am	safe	and	free. Only	weak	people	forgive. It	is	strong	to	forgive	and	let	go. I’m	right	and	they	are	wrong. There	is	no	right	or	wrong. I	move	beyond	my	judgment. It’s	all	my	parents’	fault. My	parents	treated	me	the	way	they
had	been	treated. I	forgive	them	and
their	parents,	too. I	don’t	have	to	forgive	anyone. I	refuse	to	limit	myself. I	am	always
willing	to	take	the	next	step. “I	give	myself	permission	to	let	go.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.10
WORK
“It	is	a	joy	to	express	my	creativity	and	be	appreciated.”
Work	Checklist
	I	hate	my	job. My	job	is	too	stressful. No	one	appreciates	me	at	work. I	always	get	dead-end	jobs. My	boss	is	abusive. Everyone	expects	too	much	of	me. My	co-workers	drive	me	crazy. My	job	offers	no	creativity. I’ll	never	be	successful. There	is	no	chance	for	advancement. My	job	doesn’t	pay	well. H
ow	many	of	these	sound	like	you? Let’s	explore	your	thinking	in	the
work	area. Our	jobs	and	the	work	that	we	do	are	a	reflection	of	our	own	self-worth	and
our	value	to	the	world. On	one	level,	work	is	an	exchange	of	time	and
services	for	money. As	long	as	we	are	doing	an	honest	day’s	work,	our	self-esteem	can	be	in	order. However,	the	
kind
	of	work	we	do	is	important	to	us	because	we	are	unique
individuals. We	want	to	feel	that	we	are	making	a	contribution	to	the	world. We	need	to	use	our	own	talents,	intelligence,	and	creative	ability. There	are	problems	that	can	occur	in	the	workplace,	though. You	may	not
get	along	with	your	boss	or	your	co-workers. You	may	not	feel	appreciated	or
recognized	for	the	work	that	you	do. Promotional	opportunities	or	a	specific
job	may	elude	you. Remember	that	whatever	position	you	may	find	yourself	in	...	your	thinking
got	you	there. The	people	around	you	are	only	mirroring	what	
you
	believe
you	deserve. Thoughts	can	be	changed. Situations	can	be	changed	as	well. That	boss	that
we	find	intolerable	could	become	our	champion. That	dead-end	position	with
no	hope	of	advancement	may	open	up	to	a	new	career	full	of	possibilities. The
co-worker	who	is	so	annoying	might	turn	out	to	be,	if	not	a	friend,	at	least
someone	who	is	easier	to	get	along	with. The	salary	that	we	find	insufficient
can	increase	in	the	twinkle	of	an	eye. We	could	find	a	wonderful	new	job. There	are	an	infinite	number	of	channels	if	we	can	change	
our
	thinking. Let’s	open	ourselves	up	to	them. We	must	accept	in	consciousness	that
abundance	and	fulfillment	can	come	from	anywhere. The	change	may	be
small	at	first	such	as	an	added	assignment	from	your	boss	in	which	you	could
demonstrate	your	intelligence	and	creativity. You	may	treat	a	co-worker	as	if
they	were	not	the	enemy	and	as	a	result,	experience	a	notable	change	in
behavior. Whatever	the	change	may	be,	accept	and	rejoice	in	it. You	are	not
alone. You	
are
	the	change. The	power	that	created	you	has	given	
you
	the
power	to	create	your	own	experiences! EXERCISE:	
Center	Yourself
Let’s	take	a	moment	to	center	ourselves. Take	your	right	hand	and	place
it	over	your	lower	stomach	area. Think	of	this	area	as	the	center	of	your
being. Breathe. Look	into	your	mirror	again	and	say,	“I	am	willing	to
release	the	need	to	be	so	unhappy	at	work.”	Say	it	two	more	times. Each
time	say	it	a	different	way. You	leant	to	increase	your	commitment	to
change. EXERCISE:	
Describe	the	People	in	Your	LifeUse	10	adjectives	to	describe	your:
EXERCISE:	
Think	About	Your	Work	Life
1. If	you	could	become	anything,	what	would	you	be? 2. If	you	could	have	any	job	that	you	wanted,	what	would	it	be? 3. What	would	you	like	to	change	about	your	present	job? 4. How	would	you	change	your	employer? 5. Do	you	work	in	a	pleasant	environment? 6. Whom	do	you	need	to	forgive	the	most	at	work? MIRROR	WORK
Sit	in	front	of	your	mirror. Breathe	deeply. Center	yourself. Now	talk	to	the
person	at	work	you	are	most	angry	with. Tell	them	why	you	are	angry. Tell
them	how	much	they	have	hurt	you	or	threatened	you,	or	violated	your	space
and	boundaries. Tell	them	everything-don’t	hold	back! Tell	them	the	kind	of
behavior	you	want	from	them	in	the	future. Tell	them	that	you	forgive	them
for	not	being	who	you	wanted	them	to	be. Take	a	breath. Ask	them	to	give	you	respect	and	offer	the	same	to	them. Affirm	that	you	can	both	have	a	harmonious	working	relationship. Blessing	With	Love
Blessing	with	love	is	a	powerful	tool	to	use	in	any	work	environment. Send
it	ahead	of	you	before	you	arrive. Bless	every	person,	place,	or	thing	there
with	love. If	you	have	a	problem	with	a	co-worker,	a	boss,	a	supplier,	or	even
the	temperature,	bless	it	with	love. Affirm	that	you	and	the	person	or	situationare	in	agreement	and	in	perfect	harmony. “I	am	in	perfect	harmony	with	my	work	environment	and	everyone	in	it.”
“I	always	work	in	harmonious	surroundings.”
“I	honor	and	respect	each	person,	and	they,	in	turn,	honor	and	respect	me.”
“I	bless	this	situation	with	love,	and	know	that	it	works	out	the	best	for
everyone	concerned.”
“I	bless	you	with	love	and	release	you	to	your	highest	good.”
“I	bless	this	job	and	release	it	to	someone	who	will	love	it,	and	I	am	free	to
accept	a	wonderful	new	opportunity.”
Select	or	adapt	one	of	these	affirmations	to	fit	a	situation	in	your
workplace,	and	repeat	it	over	and	over.”	Every	time	the	person	or	situation
comes	into	mind,	repeat	the	affirmation. Eliminate	the	negative	energy	in
your	mind	regarding	this	situation. You	can,	just	by	thinking,	change	the
experience. EXERCISE:	
Self-Worth	in	Your	Job
Let’s	examine	your	feelings	of	self-worth	in	the	area	of	employment. After	answering	the	following	questions,	write	an	affirmation	(in	the
present	tense). 1. Do	I	feel	worthy	of	having	a	good	job? Example:
Sometimes	I	feel	worthy. But	when	I	don’t	I	feel	like	hiding. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	am	totally	adequate	for	all	situations. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:2. What	do	I	fear	most	in	this	area? Example:
That	my	employer	will	find	out	that	I	am	no	good,	fire	me	and	I	won’t	find
another	job. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	center	myself	in	safety	and	accept	the	perfection	of	my	life. All
	is	
well. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
3. What	am	I	“getting”	from	this	belief? Example:
I	people-please	at	work,	and	turn	my	employer	into	a	parent. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
It	is	my	mind	that	creates	my	experiences. I	am	unlimited	in	my	ability	to
create	the	good	in	my	life. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
4. What	do	I	fear	would	happen	if	I	let	go	of	this	belief? Example:
I	would	have	to	grow	up. I	would	have	to	be	responsible. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	know	that	I	am	worthwhile. It
	is	
safe	for	me	to	succeed. Life	loves	me. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
VISUALIZATION
What	would	the	perfect	job	be? Take	a	moment	to	see	yourself	in	that	job. See	yourself	in	the	environment,	see	your	co-workers,	and	feel	what	it	would
be	like	to	do	work	that	was	completely	fulfilling,	while	you	earn	a	good
salary. Hold	that	vision	for	yourself	and	know	that	it	has	been	completed	inconsciousness. Refer	to	the	checklist	on	the	next	page,	taken	from	page	99. Find	the
affirmation	corresponding	to	each	belief. Make	these	affirmations	part	of	your
daily	schedule. Say	them	at	work,	in	the	car,	or	when	brushing	your	teeth	in
the	morning.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
My	job	is	too	stressful. I	am	always	relaxed	at	work. No	one	appreciates	me	at	work. My	work	is	recognized	by	everyone. I	always	get	dead-end	jobs. I	turn	every	experience	into	an
opportunity. My	boss	is	abusive. I	respect	myself	and	so	do	others. Everyone	expects	too	much	of	me. I	am	in	the	perfect	place,	and	I	am
safe	at	all	times. My	co-workers	drive	me	crazy. I	see	the	best	in	everyone	and	help
them	to	bring	out	their	most	joyous
qualities. My	job	offers	no	creativity. My	thoughts	are	creative. I’ll	never	be	successful. Everything	I	touch	is	a	success. There	is	no	chance	for	advancement. New	doors	are	opening	all	the	time. My	job	doesn’t	pay	well. I	am	open	and	receptive	to	new
avenues	of	income. “I	give	myself	permission	to	be	creatively	fulfilled.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now’	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.11
MONEY	AND	PROSPERITY
“Infinite	prosperity	is	mine	to	share;	I	am	blessed.”
Money	and	Prosperity	Checklist
	I	can’t	save	money. I	don’t	earn	enough. My	credit	rating	is	bad. Money	slips	through	my	fingers. Everything	is	so	expensive. Why	does	everyone	else	have	money? I	can’t	pay	my	bills. Bankruptcy	is	around	the	corner. I	can’t	save	for	retirement. I	can’t	let	go	of	money. H
ow	many	of	these	sound	like	you? If	you	have	checked	off	three	or
more,	work	on	your	money	issues. What	do	you	believe	about	money? Do	you	believe	that	there	is	enough? Do	you	attach	your	self-worth	to	it? Do	you	think	that	it	will	bring	your
heart’s	desire? Are	you	friends	with	money	or	is	it	an	enemy? Having	more
money	is	not	enough. We	need	to	learn	how	to	deserve	and	enjoy	the	money
that	we	have. Large	amounts	of	money	do	not	guarantee	prosperity. People	who	have	a
lot	of	money	can	be	engulfed	in	poverty	consciousness. They	can	be	morefearful	about	not	having	money	than	someone	who	lives	on	the	streets. The
ability	to	enjoy	their	money	and	to	live	in	a	world	of	abundance	may	elude
them. Socrates,	the	great	philosopher,	once	said	that	“contentment	is	natural
wealth,	luxury	is	artificial	poverty.”
As	I	have	said	many	times,	your	prosperity	consciousness	is	not	dependent
upon	money;	your	flow	of	money	is	dependent	upon	your	prosperity
consciousness. Our	pursuit	of	money	
must
	contribute	to	the	quality	of	our	lives. If	it	does
not,	that	is,	if	we	hate	what	we	do	in	order	to	get	money,	then	money	will	be
useless. Prosperity	involves	the	
quality
	of	our	lives	as	well	as	any	amount	of
money	that	we	possess. Prosperity	is	not	defined	by	money	alone;	it	encompasses	time,	love,
success,	joy,	comfort,	beauty,	and	wisdom. For	example,	you	can	be	poor	with
respect	to	time. If	you	feel	rushed,	pressured,	and	harried,	then	your	time	is
steeped	in	poverty. But,	if	you	feel	you	have	all	of	the	time	you	need	to	finish
any	task	at	hand,	and	you	are	confident	that	you	can	finish	any	job,	then	you
are	prosperous	when	it	comes	to	time. Or	what	about	success? Do	you	feel	that	it’s	beyond	your	reach	and
completely	unattainable? Or	do	you	feel	that	you	can	be	a	success	in	your
own	right? If	you	do,	then	you	are	rich	with	respect	to	success. Know	that	whatever	your	beliefs	are,	they	can	be	changed	in	
this
	moment. The	power	that	created	you	has	given	
you
	the	power	to	create	your	own
experiences. You	can	change! MIRROR	WORK
Stand	up	with	your	arms	outstretched	and	say,	“I	am	open	and	receptive	to
all	good.”	How	does	that	feel? Now,	look	into	the	mirror	and	say	it	again	with	more	feeling. What	kinds	of	feelings	come	up	for	you? Does	it	feel	liberating	and	joyous? Or	do	you	feel	like	hiding? Breathe	deeply—say	again—“I	am	open	and	receptive	to
——————————	(you	fill	in	the	blank). Do	this	exercise	every
morning. It	is	a	wonderfully	symbolic	gesture	that	may	increase	your
prosperity	consciousness	and	bring	more	good	into	your	life. EXERCISE:	
Your	Feelings	About	MoneyLet’s	examine	your	feelings	of	self-worth
	in	
this	area. Answer	the
following	questions	as	best	you	can. 1. Go	back	to	the	mirror. Look	into	your	eyes	and	say:	“My	biggest	fear
about	money	is.”	Write	down	your	answer. 2. What	did	you	learn	about	money	as	a	child? 3. Did	your	parents	grow	up	during	the	Depression	era? What	were	their
thoughts	about	money? 4. How	were	finances	handled	in	your	family? 5. How	do	you	handle	money	now?6. What	would	you	like	to	change	about	your	money	consciousness? EXERCISE:	
Your	Money	Consciousness
Let’s	examine	the	feelings	of	self-worth	in	the	money	area. Answer	the
following	questions	as	best	you	can. After	each	negative	belief,	construct	a
positive	affirmation	in	the	present	tense	to	take	its	place. 1. Do	I	feel	worthy	of	having	and	enjoying	money? Example:
Not	really. I	get	rid	of	money	as	soon	as	I	get	it. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	bless	the	money	I	have. It	is	
safe	to	save	money	and	let	my	money	work
for	me. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
2. What	is	my	greatest	fear	regarding	money? Example:
I	am	afraid	that	I’ll	always	be	broke. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	now	accept	limitless	abundance	from	a	limitless	universe. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
3. What	am	I	“getting”	from	this	belief? Example:
I	stay	poor	and	I	get	to	be	taken	care	of	by	others. YOUR	EXAMPLE;
Sample	Affirmation:
I	claim	my	own	power	and	lovingly	create	my	own	reality. I	trust	the
process	of	life. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:4. What	do	I	fear	would	happen	to	me	if	I	let	go	of	this	belief? Example:
No	one	would	love	and	take	care	of	me. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	am	safe	in	the	Universe,	and	all	life	loves	and	supports	me. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
EXERCISE:	
Your	Use	of	Money
Write	down	three	ways	in	which	you	criticize	your	use	of	money. Maybe
you	are	constantly
	in	
debt,	you	can’t	save	money,	or	you	cannot	enjoy	your
money. Think	of	one	way	in	each	of	these	instances	where	you
	have	not	
acted
out	the	undesired	behavior. Examples:
I	Criticize	Myself	for:
	
compulsively	spending	money	and	being	in
constant	debt. I	can’t	seem	to	hold	down	my	spending.I	Praise	Myself	for:
	
paying	the	rent	on	time	today. It	
is	the	first	of	the
month,	and	I	paid	the	rent. I	Criticize	Myself	for:
	
saving	every	penny	that	I	make. I	can’t	let	go	of	my
money. I	Praise	Myself	for:
	
buying	a	shirt	that	was
	not	
on	sale. I	let	myself	have
what	I	really	wanted	today. 1. I	criticize	myself	for:
I	praise	myself	for:
2. I	criticize	myself	for:
I	praise	myself	for:
3. I	criticize	myself	for:
I	praise	myself	for:
VISUALIZATION-1
Place	your	hand	over	your	heart,	take	a	few	deep	breaths,	and	relax. See
yourself	acting	out	your	worst	scenario	with	money. Perhaps	you	borrowed
money	that	you	couldn’t	return,	bought	something	you	knew	you	could	not
afford,	or	declared	bankruptcy. See	yourself	acting	out	the	
behavior-love	that
person. Know	that	you	were	doing	the	very	best	you	could	with	the
knowledge	understanding,	and	capability	that	you	had. Love	that	person. See
yourself	acting	out	behavior	that	might	embarrass	you	today	and	
love	that
person. VISUALIZATION-2
What	would	it	be	like	to	have	all	of	the	things	you’ve	always	wanted? What	would	they	look	like? Where	would	you	go? What	would	you	do? Feel
it. Enjoy	it. Be	creative	and	HAVE	FUN. Refer	to	the	checklist	on	the	next	page,	taken	from	page	109. Find	the
affirmation	corresponding	to	each	belief. Make	these	affirmations	part	of	your
daily	schedule. Say	them	at	work,	in	the	car,	in	the	mirror,	or	while	brushing
your	teeth	in	the	morning.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
I	can’t	save	money. I	always	have	a	savings	account. I	don’t	earn	enough	money. My	income	is	constantly	increasing. My	credit	rating	is	bad. My	credit	rating	is	getting	better	all
the	time. Money	slips	through	my	fingers. I	spend	money	wisely. Everything	is	so	expensive. I	always	have	as	much	as	I	need. Why	does	everyone	else	have	money? I	have	as	much	money	as	I	can
accept. I	can’t	pay	my	bills. I	bless	all	of	my	bills. I	pay	them	on
time. Bankruptcy	is	around	the	corner. I	am	financially	solvent. I	can’t	save	for	retirement. I	am	providing	for	my	retirement. Your	Affirmation	Is:
I	enjoy	every	penny	that	I	spend. “I	give	myself	permission	to	prosper.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.12
FRIENDS
“I	am	a	friend	to	myself.”
Friendship	Checklist
	My	friends	don’t	support	me. Everyone	is	so	judgmental. Nobody	sees	it	my	way. My	boundaries	are	not	respected. I	can’t	keep	friends	for	too	long. I	can’t	let	my	friends	really	know	me. I	give	my	friends	advice	for	their	own	good. I	don’t	know	how	to	be	a	friend. I	don’t	know	how	to	ask	for	help	from	my	friends. I	don’t	know	how	to	tell	a	friend	‘no:’
H
ow	many	of	these	sound	like	you? Let’s	see	if	we	can	improve	the
quality	of	your	friendships. Friendships	can	be	our	most	enduring	and	important	relationships. We	can
live	without	lovers	or	spouses. We	can	live	without	our	primary	families,	but
most	of	us	cannot	live	happily	without	friends. I	believe	that	we	choose	our
parents	before	we	are	born	into	this	planet,	but	we	choose	our	friends	on	a
more	conscious	level. Ralph	Waldo	Emerson,	the	great	American	philosopher	and	writer,	wrote
an	essay	on	friendship,	calling	it	the	“nectar	of	the	gods.”	He	explained	that	inromantic	relationships,	one	person	is	always	trying	to	change	the	other,	but
friends	can	stand	back	and	look	at	one	another	with	appreciation	and	respect. Friends	can	be	an	extension	or	a	substitute	for	the	nuclear	family. There	is	a
great	need	in	most	of	us	to	share	life	experiences	with	others. Not	only	do	we
learn	more	about	others	when	we	engage	in	friendship,	but	we	can	also	learn
more	about	ourselves. These	relationships	are	mirrors	of	our	self-worth	and
esteem. They	afford	us	the	perfect	opportunity	to	look	at	ourselves,	and	the
areas	where	we	might	need	to	grow. When	the	bond	between	friends	becomes	strained,	we	can	look	to	the
negative	messages	of	childhood. It	may	be	time	for	mental	housecleaning. Cleaning	the	mental	house	after	a	lifetime	of	negative	messages	is	a	bit	like
going	on	a	good	nutritional	program	after	a	lifetime	of	eating	junk	foods. As
you	change	your	diet,	the	body	will	throw	off	a	toxic	residue,	and	you	may
feel	worse	for	a	day	or	two. So	it	is	when	you	make	a	decision	to	change	mental	thought	patterns. Your
circumstances	may	worsen	for	a	while. But	remember! You	may	have	to	dig
through	a	lot	of	dry	weed	to	get	to	the	rich	soil	below. But	you	can	do	it! I
know	you	can! EXERCISE:	
Your	Friendships
In	the	space	provided	below,	write	out	the	following	affirmation	three
times:
“I	am	willing	to	release	the	pattern	in	me	that	creates	troubled
friendships.”
1. What	were	your	first	childhood	friendships	like? 2. How	are	your	friendships	today	like	those	childhood	friendships?Example:
I	always	allowed	myself	to	be	bossed	around	by	my	friends. I	still	look	for
friends	who	are	bossy. 3. What	did	you	learn	about	friendships	from	your	parents? 4. What	kind	of	friends	did	your	parents	have? 5. What	kind	of	friends	would	you	like	to	have	in	the	future? Be	specific. Let’s	examine	our	self-worth	in	the	area	of	friendships. Answer	each	of	the
following	questions	below. After	each	answer	write	a	positive	affirmation	(in
the	present	tense)	to	replace	the	old	belief. 1. Do	I	feel	worthy	in	the	area	of	friendship? Example:No. Why	would	anyone	want	to	be	around	me? YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	love	and	accept	myself,	and	I	am	a	magnet	for	friends. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
2. What	do	I	fear	most	in	the	area	of	friendships? Example:
I	am	afraid	of	betrayal. I	don’t	feel	I	can	trust	anyone. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	trust	myself,	I	trust	life,	and	I	trust	my	friends. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
3. What	am	I	“getting”	from	this	belief? Example:
I	get	to	be	judgmental. I	wait	for	my	friends	to	make	one	false	move	so	that
I	can	make	them	wrong. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
All	of	my	friendships	are	successful. I	am	a	loving	and	nurturing	friend. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
4. What	do	I	fear	would	happen	if	I	let	go	of	this	belief? Example:
I	would	lose	control. I	would	have	to	let	people	really	know	me. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
Loving	others	is	easy	when	I	love	and	accept	myself. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:If	we	are	all	responsible	for	the	events	in	our	lives,	then	there	is	no	one	to
blame. Whatever	is	happening	“out	there”	is	only	a	reflection	of	our	own
inner	thinking. EXERCISE:	
Think	About	Your	Friends
Think	of	three	events
	in	
your	life
	in	
which	you	feel	you	were	mistreated
or	
abused	by	friends. Perhaps	a	friend	betrayed	a	confidence,
	or	
abandoned
you
	in	
time	of	need. Maybe	they	interfered	with	a	spouse
	or	
mate. In	each	case,	name	the	event	and	write	down	some	of	the	thoughts	IN
YOUR	MIND	that	preceded	each	event. Example:
When	I	was	16	years	old,	my	best	friend	Susie	turned	on	me	and	started	to
spread	vicious	rumors. When	I	tried	to	confront	her,	she	lied	to	me. I	was
friendless	for	my	whole	senior	year. My	deepest	thoughts	were:
	
I	did	not	deserve	friends. I	was	drawn	to	my
friend	Susie	because	she	was	cold	and	judgmental. I	was	used	to	being	judged
and	criticized. 1. The	event:
My	deepest	thoughts	were:
2. The	event:
My	deepest	thoughts	were:
3. The	event:
My	deepest	thoughts	were:
EXERCISE:	
The	Support	of	Your	Friends
Think	of	three	events
	in	
your	life	where	you	were	supported	by	friends. Perhaps	a	good	friend	stood	up	for	you,
	or	
gave	you	money	when	you
needed	it. Maybe	they	helped	you	to	resolve	a	difficult	situation. In	each	case,	name	the	event	and	write	down	some	of	the	thoughts	“in
your	mind”	that	preceded	each	event. Example:
I	will	always	remember	Helen. When	people	at	my	first	job	were	making	funof	me	because	I	said	something	stupid	at	a	meeting,	Helen	stood	beside	me. She	helped	me	through	my	embarrassment	and	saved	my	job. My	deepest	thoughts	were:
	
Even	if	I	make	a	mistake,	someone	will	always
help	me	through. I	deserve	to	be	supported. Women	support	me. 1. The	event:
My	deepest	thoughts	were:
2. The	event:
My	deepest	thoughts	were:
3. The	event:My	deepest	thoughts	were:
PRAISE	AND	ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
Which	friends	do	I	need	to	acknowledge? Take	a	moment	to	visualize	them. Look	at	that	person	in	the	eye	and	say:
“I	thank	you	and	bless	you	with	love	for	being	there	for	me	when	I	needed
you. May	your	life	be	filled	with	joy.”
ANGER-RELEASING	VISUALIZATION
Which	friends	do	you	need	to	forgive? Take	a	moment	to	visualize	them. Now	look	that	person	in	the	eye	and	say,
“I	forgive	you	for	not	acting	the	way	I	wanted	you	to. I	forgive	you	and	I	set
you	free.”
Read	the	list	of	negative	beliefs	on	the	next	page,	taken	from	page	121. Find	the	corresponding	affirmations	next	to	them. Make	these	affirmations
part	of	your	daily	prayer. Say	them	in	the	car,	at	work,	or	in	the	bathroom
mirror	each	morning.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
My	friends	don’t	support	me. My	friends	are	loving	and	supportive. Everyone	is	so	judgmental. I	am	safe	in	the	world	and	all	life
loves	and	supports	me. Nobody	sees	it	my	way. I	am	open	and	receptive	to	all	points
of	view. My	boundaries	are	not	respected. I	respect	others	and	they	respect	me. I	can’t	keep	friends	for	too	long. My	love	and	acceptance	of	others
creates	lasting	friendships. I	can’t	let	my	friends	really	know	me. It	is	safe	for	me	to	be	open. I	give	my	friends	advice	for	their	own
good. My	friends	and	I	have	total	freedom	to
be	ourselves. I	don’t	know	how	to	be	a	friend. I	trust	my	inner	wisdom	to	guide	me. I	don’t	know	how	to	ask	for	help	from
my	friends. I	move	beyond	limitations	and	express
myself	freely. “I	give	myself	permission	to	be	a	friend.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.13
SEXUALITY
“I	am	at	peace	with	my	own	sexuality.”
Sexuality	Checklist
	I	am	afraid	of	sex. Sex	is	dirty. Genitals	frighten	me. I	don’t	get	what	I	want. I	am	the	wrong	size	or	shape. I	am	ashamed	of	my	sexuality. I	can’t	ask	for	what	I	want. God	doesn’t	want	me	to	be	sexual. My	partner	won’t	like	my	body. I	am	afraid	of	dis-ease. I	am	not	good	enough. Sex	is	painful. H
ow	many	of	these	sound	like	you? If	you	have	checked	off	three	or
more,	concentrate	on	this	area. Sex	is	a	difficult	area	for	a	lot	of	people. Many	complain	that	they	are
getting	too	much	or	too	little. Sex	threatens	them,	motivates	them,	maddens
them,	and	offers	escape. It	can	be	tender,	loving,	joyful,	painful,	explosive,wondrous,	fulfilling,	or	humiliating. People	often	equate	sex	with	love,	or	they	need	to	be	in	love	to	have	sex. Many	of	us	grew	up	believing	that	sex	was	sinful	unless	we	were	married,	or
that	sex	was	for	procreation	and	not	for	pleasure. Some	people	have	rebelled
against	this	concept	and	feel	that	sex	has	nothing	to	do	with	love. Most	of	our	beliefs	about	sex	can	be	traced	to	our	childhood	and	our	ideas
about	God	and	religion. Most	of	us	were	raised	with	the	idea	of	what	I	call
“Mama’s	God,”	which	is	what	your	mother	taught	you	about	God	when	you
were	very	little. It	is	often	the	image	of	God	as	an	old	man	with	a	beard. This
old	man	sits	on	a	cloud	and	stares	at	people’s	genitals,	waiting	to	catch
someone	sinning. Think	for	a	moment	about	the	vastness	of	the	universe. How	perfect	it	all
is! Think	about	the	level	of	intelligence	that	created	it. I	have	a	difficult	time
believing	that	this	same	divine	intelligence	could	resemble	a	judgmental	old
man	watching	
my
	genitals. When	we	were	babies,	we	knew	how	perfect	our	bodies	were,	and	we	loved
our	sexuality. Babies	are	never	ashamed	of	themselves. No	baby	ever
measures	its	hips	to	find	its	self-worth. We	must	let	go	of	images	and	beliefs	that	do	not	nourish	and	support	us. I
believe	that	the	sexual	revolution,	which	occurred	in	the	late	’60s,	was	a	good
thing	in	many	ways. We	were	freed	from	Victorian	ideas	and	hypocrisy. Of
course,	when	people	are	
freed	from	oppression,	they	go	wild	for	a	while. Eventually,	the	pendulum	will	swing	back	until	it	reaches	a	balance	point-
neither	too	wild	nor	too	oppressed. I	believe	that	sex	is	meant	to	be	a	joyful,
loving	act,	and	as	long	as	our	hearts	are	open,	and	we	really	care	about
ourselves,	we	will	not	harm	ourselves	or	others. However,	sex	can	be	another
form	of	abuse	and	express	low	self-worth. If	we	constantly	need	a	new
partner	to	make	us	feel	worthy,	or	allow	infidelity	to	be	a	way	of	life,	we	need
to	examine	our	thinking. VISUALIZATION
Before	you	answer	the	following	questions,	lie	down	or	sit	in	a	comfortable
position. Close	your	eyes	and	put	both	hands	over	your	heart. Picture	a	stream
of	brilliant	white	light	entering	your	heart. Focus	on	the	vision	of	light	and
say	out	loud:	“I	am	willing	to	let	the	love	in.”	Feel	the	energy	flowing	into
your	heart. After	a	few	minutes,	repeat	this	several	times,	open	your	eyes	and
say:	“All	is	well.”Answer	the	following	questions	as	best	you	can. 1. What	did	you	learn	about	sex	as	a	child? 2. What	did	your	parents	teach	you	about	the	human	body? Was	it
beautiful,	or	was	it	something	to	be	ashamed	of? 3. What	did	teachers	or	your	church	say	about	sex? Was	it	a	sin	to	be
punished	for? 4. What	were	your	genitals	called? Or	were	they	just	something	“down
there?" 5. Do	you	think	that	your	parents	had	a	fulfilling	sex	life?6. How	are	your	ideas	about	sex	similar	to	those	of	your	parents? 7. How	are	they	different? 8. What	did	God	“think”	about	sex	when	you	were	little? 9. Do	you	equate	sex	with	love? 10. How	do	you	feel	during	the	sex	act	itself? Do	you	feel	loving	and
tender? Do	you	feel	powerful? Are	you	guilty?11. Have	you	ever	abused	yourself	or	another	sexually? 12. Have	you	ever	been	abused	sexually? 13. If	you	could	change	anything	about	sex	in	your	life,	what	would	it	be? MIRROR	WORK
Now	look	in	the	mirror,	into	your	own	eyes,	and	say:
	“I	
am	willing	to	love
my	body	and	my	sexuality.”	Say	it	three	times,	with	more	meaning	and
feeling	each	time. Then,	answer	these	questions. 1. What	are	your	most	negative	thoughts	about	your	body? 2. Where	did	these	thoughts	come	from? 3. Are	you	willing	to	release	them? Yes	
	No
Now,	let’s	examine	the	issue	of	self-worth. Answer	the	questions	on	the
next	page,	and	after	each	one,	create	a	corresponding	affirmation. 1. Do	I	deserve	to	enjoy	my	sexuality? Example:
No. I	hate	the	shape	of	my	body. I	want	to	hurry	up	and	get	sex	over	with. I
feel	ugly. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	love	and	appreciate	my	beautiful	body. It	
is	the	perfect	size	and	shape	for
me. I	rejoice	in	my	sexuality. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
2. What	do	I	fear	most	about	my	sexuality? Example:
I	fear	being	laughed	at. I	am	afraid	of	doing	it	wrong,	or	not	knowing	whatto	do. I	am	afraid	of	feeling	dirty. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
My	sexuality
	is	
a	wonderful	gift. I	love	being	creative. I	am	safe. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
3. What	am	I	“getting”	from	this	belief? Example:
I	get	protection. I	get	to	feel	safe. I	don’t	want	anyone	coming	close	to	me
with	their	genitals. Genitals	scare	me. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
It	is	safe	to	be	myself. I	love	all	of	my	body. I	trust	in	the	life	process	to
keep	me	safe. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:4. What	do	I	fear	would	happen	if	I	let	go	of	this	belief? Example:
I	am	afraid	that	I	would	lose	control. I	am	afraid	that	I	would	get	lost. There	would	be	no	more	“me.”
YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	am	safe	to	be	me	in	all	situations. I	rejoice	in	my	individuality. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
Review	the	belief	checklist	on	the	next	page,	taken	from	page	133,	then
study	the	affirmations	corresponding	to	each	belief. Make	these	affirmations
part	of	your	daily	routine. Say	them	often	in	the	car,	at	work,	or	any	time	you
feel	your	negative	beliefs	surfacing.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
I	am	afraid	of	sex. It	is	safe	for	me	to	explore	my
sexuality. Sex	is	dirty. Sex	is	tender,	loving	and	joyful. Genitals	frighten	me. Genitals	are	normal	and	natural	and
beautiful. I	don’t	get	what	I	want. I	am	always	fulfilled	and	satisfied
sexually. I	am	the	wrong	size	or	shape. My	genitals	are	perfect	for	me. I	am	ashamed	of	my	sexuality. I	go	beyond	limiting	beliefs	and
accept	myself	totally. I	can’t	ask	for	what	I	want. I	express	my	desires	with	joy	and
freedom. God	doesn’t	want	me	to	be	sexual. God	created	and	approves	of	my
sexuality. My	partner	won’t	like	my	body. My	partner	reflects	the	love	I	have	for
my	body. I’m	afraid	of	disease. I	am	divinely	protected	and	guided. I’m	not	good	enough. I	love	myself	and	my	sexuality. I	am	at	peace. Sex	is	painful. I	am	gentle	with	my	body	and	so	is	my
partner. “I	give	myself	permission
	to	
enjoy	my	body.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.14
LOVE	AND	INTIMACY
“Love	surrounds	me. I	am	loving,	loveable,	and	loved.”
Love	and	Intimacy	Checklist
	I’m	afraid	of	rejection. Love	never	lasts. I	feel	trapped. Love	scares	me. I	have	to	do	everything	
their
	way. If	I	take	care	of	myself,	they	will	leave	me. I’m	jealous. I	can’t	be	myself. I	am	not	good	enough. I	don’t	want	a	marriage	like	my	parents	had. I	don’t	know	how	to	love. I	can’t	say	no	to	someone	I	love. Everybody	leaves	me. H
ow	many	of	these	sound	like	you? You	may	need	to	dissolve	the	love
and	intimacy	fears.How	did	you	experience	love	as	a	child? In	your	family	was	love	expressed
through	fighting,	yelling,	crying,	door-slamming,	manipulation,	control,
silence,	or	revenge? If	it	was,	then	you	will	seek	out	similar	experiences	as	an
adult. You	will	find	the	people	who	will	reinforce	those	ideas. If,	as	a	child,
you	looked	for	love	and	found	pain,	then	as	an	adult	you	will	find	pain	instead
of	love	until	you	release	your	old	family	pattern. 1. How	did	your	last	relationship	end? 2. How	did	the	one	before	that	end? Perhaps	all	of	your	relationships	ended	as	a	result	of	your	partner	leaving
you. The	need	in	you	to	be	left	could	come	from	a	family	divorce,	a	parent
withdrawing	from	you	because	you	weren’t	what	they	wanted	you	to	be,	or	a
death	in	the	family. To	change	the	pattern,	you	need	to	forgive	your	parent	AND	understand
that	you	don’t	have	to	repeat	this	old	behavior. You	free	them	and	yourself. For	every	habit	or	pattern	we	repeat	over	and	over	again,	there	is	a	NEED
WITHIN	US	for	such	repetition. The	need	corresponds	to	some	belief	that	we
have. If	there	was	no	need,	we	would	not	have	to	have	it,	do	it,	or	be	it. Self-
criticism	does	not	break	the	pattern:	letting	go	of	the	need	does. MIRROR	WORK
Using	your	mirror,	look	into	your	eyes,	breathe,	and	say:	“I	am	willing	to
release	the	need	for	relationships	that	do	not	nourish	and	support	me.”
Say	this	five	times	in	the	mirror;	each	time	you	say	it,	give	it	more
meaning. Think	of	some	of	your	relationships	as	you	say	it.EXERCISE:	
Your	Relationships
In	the	space	below,	answer	the	following	questions	as	best
	you	
can. 1. What	did	you	learn	about	love	as	a	child? 2. Did	you	ever	have	a	boss	who	was	“just	like”	one	of	your	parents? How? 3. Is	your	partner/spouse	like	one	of	your	parents? How? 4. How	were	they	alike? 5. What	would	you	have	to	forgive	in	order	to	change	this	pattern? 6. From	your	new	understanding,	what	would	you	like	your	relationship
to	be	like? Your	old	thoughts	and	beliefs	continue	to	form	your	experiences	until	you
let	them	go. Your	future	thoughts	have	not	been	formed,	and	you	do	not	know
what	they	will	be. Your	current	thought,	the	one	you	are	thinking	right	now,	is
totally	under	your	control. We	are	the	only	ones	who	choose	our	thoughts. We	may	habitually	think
the	same	thought	over	and	over	so	that	it	does	not	seem	as	if	we	are	choosing
the	thought. But,	we	did	make	the	original	choice. We	can	refuse	to	think
certain	thoughts. How	often	have	you	refused	to	think	a	positive	thought
about	yourself? You	can	also	refuse	to	think	a	negative	thought	about
yourself. It	just	takes	practice. EXERCISE:	
Love	and	Intimacy
Let’s	examine	these	beliefs. Answer	each	of	the	questions	below. After
each	answer	write	a	positive	affirmation
	(in	
the	present	tense)	to	replace	the
old	belief
1. Do	I	feel	worthy	to	have	an	intimate	relationship? Example:
No. Another	person	would	run	if	they	really	knew	me. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	am	lovable	and	worth	knowing.YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
2. Am	I	afraid	to	love? Example:
Yes-I’m	afraid	that	they	won’t	be	faithful. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
I	am	always	secure	in	love. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
3. What	am	I	“getting”	from	this	belief? Example:
I	don’t	let	romance	in	my	life. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
It	is	safe	for	me	to	open	my	heart	to	let	love	in. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
4. What	do	I	fear	would	happen	if	I	let	go	of	this	belief? Example:
I	would	be	taken	advantage	of	and	be	hurt. YOUR	EXAMPLE:
Sample	Affirmation:
It	is	safe	for	me	to	share	my	innermost	self	with	others. YOUR	AFFIRMATION:
EXERCISE:	
Your	Critical	Self
Criticism	breaks	down	the	inner	spirit,	and	never	changes	a	thing. Praise
builds	up	the	spirit	and	can	bring	positive	changes. Write	down	two	ways	in
which	you	criticize	yourself	in	the	area	of	love	and	intimacy. Perhaps	you
are	not	able	to	tell	people	how	you	feel,
	or	
what	you	need. Maybe	you	have
an	fear	of	relationships,
	or	
attract	partners	that	will	hurt	you. Then,	think	of	a	way	in	which	you
	have	not	
been	acting	out	thisbehavior. Examples:
I	criticize	myself	for:
	
choosing	people	who	are	not	able	to	give	me	what	I
need. I	praise	myself	for:
	
telling	someone	that	I	liked	them. It	scared	me,	yet	I
did	it	anyway. 1. I	criticize	myself	for:
I	praise	myself	for:
2. I	criticize	myself	for:
I	praise	myself	for:
Congratulations! You	have	just	begun	to	break	another	old	habit! You	are
learning	to	praise	yourself-in	this	moment. And	the	point	of	power	is	always
in	the	present	moment.Review	the	checklist	of	negative	beliefs	on	the	next	page,	taken	from	page
145,	and	find	the	corresponding	affirmations	next	to	them. Make	these
affirmations	part	of	your	daily	routine. Say	them	often	in	the	car,	at	work,	or
any	time	you	feel	your	negative	beliefs	surfacing.If	You	Believe:
Your	Affirmation	Is:
I	am	afraid	of	rejection. I	love	and	accept	myself	and	I	am
safe. Love	never	lasts	for	me. Love	is	eternal. I	feel	trapped. Love	makes	me	feel	free. Love	scares	me. It	is	safe	for	me	to	be	in	love. I	have	to	do	everything	
their
	way
We	are	always	equal	partners. If	I	take	care	of	myself,	they	will
leave	me. We	each	take	care	of	ourselves. I	can’t	be	myself. People	love	me	when	I	am	myself. I’m	not	good	enough. I	am	worthy	of	love. I	don’t	want	a	marriage	like	my
parents	had. I	go	beyond	my	parents’	limitations. I	don’t	know	how	to	love. Loving	myself	and	others	gets	easier
every	day. I’ll	get	hurt. The	more	I	love,	the	safer	I	am. I	can’t	say	no	to	someone	I	love. My	partner	and	I	respect	each	other’s
decisions. Everybody	leaves	me. I	now	create	a	long-lasting,	loving
relationship. “I	give	myself	permission	to	experience	intimate	love.”POWER	POINTS
1. We	are	each	responsible	for	our	experiences. 2. Every	thought	we	think	is	creating	our	future. 3. Everyone	is	dealing	with	the	damaging	patterns	of
resentment,	criticism,	guilt,	and	self-hatred. 4. These	are	only	thoughts	and	thoughts	can	be	changed. 5. We	need	to	release	the	past	and	forgive	everyone,	including
ourselves. 6. Self-approval	and	self-acceptance	in	the	“now”	are	the	keys
to	positive	changes. 7. The	point	of	power	is	always	in	the	present	moment.PART	III
YOUR
	NEW	
LIFE15
YOUR	NEW	PICTURE
“I	see	myself	in	a	new	light.”
W
ith	your	nondominant	hand	(the	hand	you	don’t	usually	use)	draw	a	new
picture	of	yourself. Either	use	crayons	or	pens. Sit	quietly. Close	your	eyes. Breathe. Center	yourself. Who	are	you? Why	are	you	here? What	have	you	come	here	to	learn? What	have	you	come	here	to	teach? What	has	changed? PICTURE	YOURSELF	HERE
WHAT	MAKES	ME	HAPPY? “I	recognize	that	I	am	the	source	of	my	happiness.”
We	have	explored
	SO	
many	areas	of	our	lives. We	have	uncovered
negative	patterns	and	beliefs. We	have	relinquished	old	baggage. We	feel
freer	and	lighter. We	are	open	and	receptive	to	good. So	
the	next	question
is:	What	would	make	you	happy? This	is	not	time	to	talk	about	what	you
don’t	want. This	is	a	time	to	be	very	clear	about	what	you
	do	
want
	in	
your
life. List	everything	that	you	can	think	of	Cover	all	the	areas	of	your	life. List	at	least
	50	
things.Now	create	a	positive	affirmation	for	each	item. Be	aware	that	anyone
who	has	done	as	much	work	as	you	have	in	order	to	change,	deserves	to
have	a	wonderful	new	world.It	is	exciting	to	have	wonderful	people,	places,	and	things	in	our	lives. However,	we	must	be	clear	that	these	things	do	not	“make	us	happy.”	Only	
we
can	“make	us	happy.”	Only	we	can	think	the	thoughts	that	can	create	peace
and	joy. Never	give	power	to	an	outside	person	or	source. Make	yourself
happy,	and	all	good	will	flow	to	you	in	great	abundance. MIRROR	WORK
Look	into	the	mirror. Breathe. Smile. Say,	“I	deserve	to	have	a	wonderful
life.”	Breathe	again. “I	deserve	everything	on	my	list.”	Breathe. “I	deserve
and	accept	all	good	in	my	life.”	Breathe. “I	am	a	loving,	worthwhile	person,
and	I	love	myself.”	Breathe. “All	is	well	in	my	world.”
YOUR
	NEW	
STORY
“I	see	myself	in	a	new	light.”
Now	that	you	have	a	list	of	all	the	items	you	would	like	to	have	in	your
life-people,	places,	and	things	that	could	contribute	to	your	happiness,	let’s
put	them	into	a	story. Write	as	much	or	as	little	as	you	wish. I,	————————	,	now	have	a	wonderful	life...VISUALIZATION
Now	that	you	have	written	your	new	story,	see	yourself	living	it. What	does
you	new	life	feel	like? What	do	you	look	like	as	you	grow	older? See	your
harmonious	relationships. Breathe	in	your	newfound	freedom	and	happiness. RELAXATION	AND	MEDITATION
Relaxation	is	essential	to	the	healing	process. It	is	hard	to	allow	the	healing
energies	to	flow	within	us	if	we	are	tense	and	frightened. Dr.	Bernie	Siegelsaid,	“The	physical	benefits	of	meditation	have	been	well	documented. It
tends	to	lower	or	normalize	blood	pressure,	pulse	rate,	and	the	level	of	stress
hormones	in	the	blood. Its	benefits	are	also	multiplied	when	combined	with
regular	exercise. In	short,	it	reduces	wear	and	tear	on	both	body	and	mind,
helping	people	live	better	and	longer.”
It	only	takes	a	moment	or	two,	several	times	a	day,	to	allow	the	body	to	let
go	and	relax. At	any	moment,	you	can	close	your	eyes	and	take	two	or	three
deep	breaths	and	release	whatever	tension	you	may	be	carrying. If	you	have
more	time,	sit	or	lie	quietly,	and	talk	your	body	into	complete	relaxation. Say
silently	to	yourself,	“My	toes	are	relaxing,	my	feet	are	relaxing,	my	ankles	are
letting	go,”	etc.,	working	all	the	way	up	and	down	your	body,	or	you	may
begin	with	you	head	and	work	down. At	the	end	of	this	simple	exercise,	you	will	be	peaceful	and	calm	for	a
while. Repeating	this	often	can	create	a	peaceful	state	within	you,	most	of	the
time. This	is	a	very	positive,	physical	meditation	that	you	can	do	anywhere. As	a	society,	we	have	made	meditation	into	something	mysterious	and
difficult	to	achieve. Yet	meditation	is	one	of	the	oldest	and	simplest	processes
we	can	do. Yes,	we	can	make	it	complicated,	with	specialized	breathing	and
ritualized	mantras. Those	meditations	are	fine	for	advanced	students. Still,
everyone	can	meditate	now;	it	is	easy	to	do. All	we	have	to	do	is	to	sit	or	lie	quietly,	close	our	eyes,	and	take	a	few	deep
breaths. The	body	will	automatically	relax;	we	don’t	have	to	do	anything	to
force	it. We	can	repeat	the	words	“healing”	or	“peace”	or	“love”	or	anything
that	is	meaningful	to	us. We	could	even	say,	“I	love	myself.”	We	can	ask
silently,	“What	is	it	I	need	to	know?”	Or	“I	am	willing	to	learn.”	Then	just	be
there	quietly. Answers	may	come	immediately	or	in	a	day	or	two. Don’t	feel	rushed. Allow	things	to	happen. Remember	that	it	is	the	nature	of	the	mind	to	think;
you	will	never	completely	rid	yourself	of	dashing	thoughts. Allow	them	to
flow	through. You	might	notice,	“Oh,	now	I	am	thinking	fear	thoughts	or
anger	thoughts	or	disaster	thoughts	or	whatever.”	Don’t	give	these	thoughts
importance;	just	let	them	pass	through	like	soft	clouds	in	a	summer	sky. Some	say	that	uncrossing	your	legs	and	arms	and	sitting	upright	with	a
straight	spine,	will	improve	the	quality	of	the	meditation. Maybe	so. Do	it	if
you	can. What	is	important	is	to	meditate	on	a	regular	basis. The	practice	of
meditation	is	cumulative:	the	more	regularly	you	do	it,	the	more	your	body
and	mind	responds	to	the	benefits	of	relaxation,	and	the	quicker	you	may	get
your	answers. Another	easy	method	of	meditation	is	to	simply	count	your	breaths	as	yousit	quietly	with	your	eyes	closed. Count	one	on	the	inhale,	two	on	the	exhale,
three	on	the	inhale,	and	so	on,	counting	your	breath	from	one	to	ten. When
you	exhale	on	ten,	just	begin	again	at	one. If	your	mind	wanders	and	you	find
yourself	counting	up	to	eighteen	or	thirty,	merely	bring	yourself	back	to	one. If	you	find	your	mind	fretting	about	your	doctor	or	your	job	or	about	doing	a
shopping	list,	simply	bring	yourself	back	to	the	count	of	one. You	cannot	meditate	incorrectly. Any	starting	point	is	perfect	for	you. You
can	find	books	that	will	teach	you	several	methods. You	may	go	to	a	class	that
will	give	you	the	experience	of	meditating	with	others. Begin	anywhere. Allow	it	to	become	a	habit. If	you	are	new	to	meditation,	I	would	suggest	that	you	begin	with	only	five
minutes	at	a	time. People	who	immediately	do	twenty	or	thirty	minutes	can
get	bored	and	skip	it	entirely. Five	minutes	once	or	twice	a	day	is	a	good
beginning. If	you	can	do	it	at	the	same	time	every	day,	the	body	begins	to
look	forward	to	it. Meditation	gives	you	small	periods	of	rest	that	are
beneficial	to	the	healing	of	your	emotions	and	body. You	see,	we	all	have	tremendous	wisdom	within	us. Inside	of	us	lie	all	the
answers	to	all	the	questions	we	shall	ever	ask. You	have	no	idea	how	wise	you
are. You	can	take	care	of	yourself. You	do	have	the	answers	you	need. Get
connected. You	will	feel	safer	and	more	powerful. Know	that	my	support	is	always	with	you. I	love	you.CLOSING	TREATMENT
The	past
	is	
over	and	done. It	has	gone	back	to	the	nothingness
from	whence	it	came. I	am	free. I	have	a	new	sense	of	pride	and	self-
worth. I	am	confident	in	my	abilities	to	love	and	support	myself. I
have	learned	that	I	am	capable	of	positive	growth	and	change. I	am
strong. I	am	united	with	all	of	life. I	am	one	with	the	Universal
power	and	intelligence. Divine	wisdom	leads	me	and	guides	me	every
step	of	the	way. I	am	safe	and	secure	as	I	move	forward	to	my
highest	good. I	do	this	with	ease	and	with	joy. I	am	a	new	person,
living	in	a	world	of	my	choosing. I	am	deeply	grateful	jar	all	that	I
have	and	jar	all	that	I	am. I	am	blessed	and	prosperous	in	every	way. All	is	well	in	my	world.RECOMMENDED	READING
Ageless	Body,	Timeless	Mind—
Deepak	Chopra,	M.D. Aging	Parents	&	You—
Eugenia	Anderson-Ellis
Alternative	Medicine,	the	Definitive	Guide—
The	Burton	Goldberg	Group
Autobiography	of	a	Yogi—
Paramahansa	Yogananda
Between	Parent	and	Child—
Hiam	Ginott
The	Canary	and	Chronic	Fatigue—
Majid	Ali,	M.D. The	Celestine	Prophecy—
James	Redfield
The	Complete	Book	of	Essential	Oils	&	Aromatherapy—
Valerie	Ann
Worwood
Constant	Craving—
Doreen	Virtue,	Ph.D. Cooking	for	Healthy	Healing—
Linda	G.	Rector-Page,	N.D.,	Ph.D. The	Course	in	Miracles—
Foundation	for	Inner	Peace
Creative	Visualization—
Shakti	Gawain
Diet	for	a	New	America—
John	Robbins
Discovering	the	Child	Within—
John	Bradshaw
Do	What	You	Love,	the	Money	Will	Follow—
Marsha	Sinetar
Everyday	Wisdom—
Dr.	Wayne	W.	Dyer
Feel	the	Fear	and	Do	It	Anyway—
Susan	Jeffers,	Ph.D.
Fire	in	the	Soul—
Joan	Borysenko,	Ph.D. Fit	for	Life—
Harvey	and	Marilyn	Diamond
The	Fountain	of	Age—
Betty	Friedan
Great	American	Cookbook—
Marilyn	Diamond
Handbook	to	Higher	Consciousness—
Ken	Keyes
Healthy	Healing,	An	Alternative	Healing	Reference—
Linda	G.	Rector-Page,
N.D.,	Ph.D.
How	to	Meditate—
Lawrence	LeShan
Instead	of	Therapy—
Tom	Rusk,	M.D. Learning	to	Love	Yourself—
Sharon	Wegscheider-Cruse
Life	After	Life—
Raymond	Moody,	M.D. Life! You	Wanna	Make	Something	of	It?—
Tom	Costa,	M.D. Losing	Your	Pounds	of	Pain—
Doreen	Virtue,	Ph.D.
Love	Is	Letting	Go	of	Fear—
Gerald	Jampolsky,	M.D. Love,	Medicine,	and	Miracles—
Bernie	Siegel,	M.D. Man’s	Search	for	Meaning—
Viktor	Frankl
Many	Lives,	Many	Masters—
Brian	Weiss,	M.D. The	Menopause	Industry—
Sandra	Coney
Minding	the	Body,	Mending	the	Mind—
Joan	Borysenko,	Ph.D.Mutant	Message,	Down	Under—
Marlo	Morgan
My	Mother	Made	Me	Do	It—
Nan	Kathryn	Fuchs
The	Nature	of	Personal	Reality—
Jane	Roberts
Opening	Our	Hearts	to	Men—
Susan	Jeffers,	Ph.D.
Parents’	Nutrition	Bible—
Dr.	Earl	Mindell,	R.Ph.,	Ph.D.
Passages—
Gail	Sheehy
Peace,	Love,	and	Healing—
Bernie	Siegel,	M.D. The	Power	of	the	Mind	to	Heal—
Joan	and	Miroslav	Borysenko,	Ph.D.’s
Prescription	for	Nutritional	Healing—
James	F.	Balch,	M.D.,	and	Phyllis	A.
Balch,	C.N.C. A	Promise	Is	a	Promise—
Dr.	Wayne	W.	Dyer
Real	Magic—
Dr.	Wayne	W.	Dyer
The	Relaxation	Response—
Benson	and	Klipper
A	Return	to	Love—
Marianne	Williamson
Revolution	from	Within—
Gloria	Steinem
The	Road	Less	Traveled—
M.	Scott	Peck,	M.D. Saved	by	the	Light—
Dannion	Brinkley
The	Science	of	Mind—
Ernest	Holmes
Self-Parenting—
John	Pollard	III
Staying	on	the	Path—
Dr.	Wayne	W.	Dyer
Super	Nutrition	Gardening—
Dr.	William	S.	Peavy	and	Warren	Peary
The	Tibetan	Book	of	Living	and	Dying—
Sogyal	Rinpoche
What	Do	You	Really	Want	for	Your	Children?—
Dr.	Wayne	W.	Dyer
What	Every	Woman	Needs	to	Know	Before	(and	After)	She	Gets	Involved
with	Men	and	Money—
Judge	Lois	Forer
Woman	Heal	Thyself—
Jeanne	Elizabeth	Blum
A	Woman’s	Worth—
Marianne	Williamson
Women	Who	Love	Too	Much—
Robin	Norwood
Women’s	Bodies,	Women’s	Wisdom—
Christiane	Northrup,	M.D. Your	Sacred	Self—
Dr.	Wayne	W.	Dyer
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Summarize the following text section accurately and concisely. Maintain specific details and numerical information, and use anti-repetition mechanisms:

        The	point	of	power
is	in	the	present	moment,	and	you	can	begin	to	make	a	shift	today. Once	again,	be	willing	to	release	the	need. Say:
“I	am	willing	to	release	the	need	for	———————————	in	my
life. I	release	it	now	and	trust	in	the	process	of	life	to	meet	my	needs. ”
Say	it	every	morning	in	your	daily	meditation	and	prayers. You	have
taken	another	step	to	freedom. EXERCISE:	
Your	Secret	Addiction
List	10	secrets	that	you	have	never	shared	with	anyone	regarding	your
addiction. If	you	are	an	overeater,	maybe	you	have	eaten	out	of	a	garbage
can. If	you	are	an	alcoholic,	you	may	have	kept	alcohol	in	the	car	so	you
could	drink	while	driving. If	you	are	a	compulsive	gambler,	perhaps	you	put
your	family	into	jeopardy
	in	
order	to	borrow	money	to	continue	your
addiction. How	do	you	feel	now. Look	at	your	“worst”	secret. Visualize	yourself	at
this	period	in	your	life	and	
love
	that	person. Tell	them	how	much	you	love
and	forgive. Look	into	the	mirror	and	say:	“I	forgive	you	and	I	love	you
exactly	as	you	are. ”	Breathe. EXERCISE:	
Ask	Your	Family
Let’s
	go	
back	to	our	childhood	for	a	moment	and	ask	a	few	questions. 1. My	mother	always	made	me. 2. What	I	really	wanted	her	to	say	was. 3. What	my	mother	really	didn’t	know	was. 4. My	father	told	me	I	shouldn’t. 5. If	my	father	only	knew. 6. I	wish	I	could	have	told	my	father. 7. Mother,	I	forgive	you	for. 8. Father,	I	forgive	you	for. 9. What	would	you	still	like	to	tell	your	parents	about	yourself. What	is
the	unfinished	business	that	you	still	have. Many	people	come	to	me	and	say	that	they	cannot	enjoy	today	because	of
something	that	happened	in	the	past. Holding	on	to	the	past	
ONLY	HURTS
US. We	are	refusing	to	live	in	the	moment. The	past	is	over	and	cannot	be
changed. This	is	the	only	moment	we	can	experience. EXERCISE:	
Releasing	the	Past
Let	us	now	clean	up	the	past
	in	our	
minds. Release	the	emotional
attachment	to	it. Allow	the	memories	to	be	just	memories. If	you	remember	what	you	wore	at	the	age	of	10,	there
	is	
usually
	no
attachment. It
	is	
just	a	memory. That	can
	be	
the	same	for	all	of	the	past	events
	in	
our	lives. As	
we	let	go,
we	become	free	to	use	all	of	our	mental	power	to	enjoy	this	moment	and	to
create	a	bright	future. We	don’t	have	to	keep	punishing	ourselves	for	the	past.
The point of power is always in the present moment.
What is the point of power, according to the author?
You can say "I am willing to release the need for [insert what you want to release].
What is the author's advice for releasing the need for something in life?
Forgiveness is a difficult area for most of us, and we need to release the past and forgive everyone, including ourselves.
What is the author's message about forgiveness?
The author emphasizes the importance of self-approval and self-acceptance in the present moment.
What is the author's advice on self-acceptance and self-approval?
The author encourages readers to say "I am willing to let go" to release negative thoughts and patterns in their life.
What is the author's message about the concept of "I am willing to let go"?