You’ll See It When You Believe It
 
The Way to Your Personal Transformation
 
OceanofPDF .comWayne W. Dyer
 
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To my wife, Mar cie, my soulmate,
 
who walks this glorious path with me and
 
to our son, Sands Jay , who after five exquisitely beautiful
 
daughters is living pr oof of the theme of this book:
 
Believing Is Seeing
 
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John Quincy Adams is well but the house in which he lives at the
present time is becoming dilapidated. It’s tottering on its
foundations. Time and the seasons have nearly destroyed it. Its
roof is pretty worn out. Its walls are much shattered and tremb le
with every wind. I think John Quincy Adams will have to move
out of it soon. But he himself is quite well, quite well. —JOHN QUINCY  ADAMS
OceanofPDF .comContents
 
Epigraph
Introduction
 
1 Transformation
Why You May Be Resisting This Principle
Some Suggestions for  Personal Transformation
 
2 Thought
The How and Why of Visualization
You Are the Dr eamer  of Dr eams
Why We Resist
Your Way Out of the Cage
 
3 Oneness
A New Perspective on Our  Place in This Onesong
My First Contact with Oneness
Getting a Clear  Refer ence to the Whole
A Very Brief Look at the History of the Human Being
Cultivating a Refer ence to the Whole
Oneness and the Dr eam
Why You May Resist the Principle of Oneness
Some Suggestions for  Applying the Universal Principle of
Oneness in Your Own Life
 
4 Abundance
Transcending a Scar city Consciousness
Whatever  You Focus Your Thoughts on Expands
You Are It All Already
You Cannot Own Anything!Tuning In to Abundance
Freedom and Abundance
How I Made the Major  Decisions in My Life
Abundance and Doing What You Love
Putting It into Practice
Why You May Be Resisting the Principle of Abundance
Some Ideas for  Bringing Abundance into Your Life
 
5 Detachment
Understanding What Detachment Means
Flowing As a Means to Detachment
How Your Form Functions in the Universe
How I Learned to Apply This Principle
Our Most Common Attachments
Networking: A Helpful Means to Detachment
Why You May Resist Detachment
Implementing Detachment in Your Life
 
6 Synchronicity
Synchr onicity in All Our  Lives
The Easiest Connectors to Believe In
More Difficult Connections: Form to Hidden Form
Even Mor e Difficult Connections: Form to Invisible Form
Invisible Connections: Human Form to Human Form
Our Own Connections: Our  Thought to Our  Form
Incompr ehensible Connections: Human Thought to Another
Human Form
Your Own Connections: Thought to Thought
Synchr onicity: Human Thought to Other  Human Thought
The Formless Connections Between Human Beings
What Are These Connectors Made Of? The Awakening Pr ocessMiracles? Everything That Has Happened Had to Happen; Everything
That Must Happen Cannot Be Stopped
Why You May Find It Difficult to Embrace Synchr onicity
Some Ideas for  Putting Synchr onicity to Work
 
7 For giveness
The Universe Does Not Forgive Because It Does Not Blame
Ridding Yourself of Blame, Revenge, Judgment
Forgiveness
My Own Voyage of Forgiveness
Putting Forgiveness into Action
Giving Is the Key to Forgiving
Forgiving Yourself: And Why Not? Surr endering: The Ultimate Act
 
 
Sear chable Terms
 
Acknowledgments
 
About the Author
 
Other  Books by Wayne W. Dyer
 
Copyright
 
About the publisher
OceanofPDF .comINTRODUCTION
 
You cannot drink the word “water .” The formula H2O cannot float a ship. The word “rain” cannot get you wet. You must experience water or rain to
truly know what the words mean. Words themselves keep you several steps
removed from the experience. And so it is with everything that I write about in this book. These are
words that are meant to lead to the direct experience. If the words that I
write ring true, it is very likely that you will take the ideas presented here
and create your experience of them. I believe these principles and see them
working all the time and want to share my experience of how they have
worked for me. You too see, in your own life, essentially what you believe. If, for
example, you believe strongly in scarcity , think about it regularl y, and make
it the focus of your conversations, I am quite certain that you see a great
deal of it in your life. On the other hand, if you believe in happiness and
abundance, think only about them, talk about them with others, and act on
your belief in them, it is a very good bet that you are seeing what you
believe. Oliver Wendell Holmes once said, “Man’ s mind, stretched to a new idea,
never goes back  to its original dimension.” The principles that I write about
in this book may require you to stretch to new ideas. Should you take these
words and apply them to your life, you will feel the stretch marks in your
mind, and you will never again return to the being that you were before. The word “it” appears twice in the title of this book and refers both times
to what could be called personal  transformation. That transformation comes
with knowing deep within you that each and every human being is far more
than a physical body , and that the essence of being human includes the
ability to think and feel, to posse ss a higher consciousness, and to know that
there is an intell igence suffusing  all form in the universe. You are able to tap
into that invisibl e part of you, to use your mind in any way that you choose,
and to recognize that this is your essential humanity . Your humanness is not
a form or a body at all, but something much more divine, guide d by forces
that are always at work in the universe. The principles in this book start with the premise that you are a soul with
a body , rather than a body with a soul. That you are not a human beinghaving a spiritual experience, but rather a spiritual being having a human
experience. I have illustrated these principles with many experiences that
are a part of my own personal transformational journey to bring the
essential messag es home to you. I know that these principles are working in
the universe even as you sit and read these words. They are working
independent of your opinion about them, very much like the principles of
digestion and pulmonary circulation are working within your body right
now without your help. Whether  you believe in these universal principles or
not, they are going to work. But should you decide to tune in to them, you
may find yourse lf living at an entirely new level and enjoying a higher kind
of awareness—an awakening, if you will. As long as you resist, you will not see the benefits. By this I mean you
will stay with your old ways, live the “I’ll believe it when I see it”
mentality . Hoard your toys and work even harder to accumulate more
money . Continue  to make appearances more important than quality . Live by
rules rather than ethics. If you are only slightly wavering, then stay with
what you are familiar with, until you can no longer resist. Because once you
start to make the transformational awakening journey , there is no going
back. You devel op a knowledge that is so powerful that you will wonder
how you could have lived any other way. The awakened life begins to own
you, and then you simply know  within that you are on the right path, and
you don’t even hear the protestations of those who have chosen something
quite dif ferent for themselves. I never imagined myself needing to change. I did not have a plan to
change my old ways, or a set of goals to improve anything in my life. I felt
confident that I had my life running the way I wanted it to. I was extremely
successful profe ssionally , and nothing seemed to me to be missing. Yet I
have undergone a major transformation that has added a luste r to each of
my days that I never even contemplated a few years ago. I was born in 1940, the youngest of three boys, all under the age of four. My father , whom I have never seen, abandoned this family when I was two. From all accounts, he was a troubled man who avoided honest work, drank
excessively , physically abused my mother , and had run-ins with the law and
spent some time in prison. My mother worked as a candy girl at a dime
store on the east side of Detroit, and her weekly wages of seventeen dollars
barely covered her streetcar and baby-sitting expenses. There was no aid to
dependent children or welfare then.I spent many of my early years in foster homes, where my mother visited
me whenever possible. All I knew of my father was what I heard from
others, particularly my two brothers. I pictured an abusive, noncaring
person who wanted nothing to do with me or my brothers. The more I
heard, the more I hated. The more I hated, the angrier I became. My anger
turned to curiosity , and I dreamed constantly about meeting my father and
confronting him directly . I became fixated on my hatred and on my desire
to meet this man and get the answers firsthand. By 1949 my mother had remar ried and reunited our family . Neither of
my brothers ever voluntarily mentioned my father , and my inquiries were
met with a look that implied, “He’s no damn good. Why do you want to
know any more about him?” But my curiosity and my bad dreams persisted. Often I would wake up sweating and crying after a particularly intense
dreaming sequence about him. As I grew into adulthood my determination to meet this man became
even fiercer . I became obsessed with finding him. His side of the family
protected him, because they felt that my mother would have him arrested
for years of non-support. Yet I still asked questions, made phone calls to
relatives I didn’ t even know , and made trips to meet his ex-wives in distant
cities to discover what this man was like. Always, my search ended in
frustration. I would run out of funds to chase down a lead, or I would have
to return to my own personal responsibilities of being on active  duty in the
military , or going to college, or raising my family . In 1970 I received a call from a cousin I had never met, who had heard a
rumor that my father had died in New Orleans. But I was in no position to
investigate it. At the time I was completing my doctoral studies , moving to
New York to become an associate professor at St. John’ s University , going
through a painful divorce, and “stuck in place” when it came to my writing. In the next few years I co-authored several texts on counseling and
psychotherapy . I knew that I did not want to continue writing  for strictly
professional audiences, and yet nothing else would come to me. I was stuck,
personally (divorce), physically (overweight and out of shape), and
spiritually (a pure pragmatist with no thoughts about metaphysics). My
dreams about my father intensified. I would awaken in a fit of anger , having
been dreaming about beating my father while he smiled back at me. Then
came the turning point in my life.In 1974 a colle ague of mine at the university invited me to take an
assignment in the South. She was the coordinator of a federally financed
program that was looking into the compliance rate of Southern colleges to
the civil rights legislation of the 1960s. She wanted me to make a visit to
the Mississippi State College for Women in Columbus, Mississippi. When I
decided to go, I telephoned the infirmary in New Orleans where my cousin
had reported my father to have been, and I learned that Melvin  Lyle Dyer
had died there  ten years earlier of cirrhosis of the liver and other
complications, and that his body had been shipped to Biloxi, Mississippi. Columbus, Mississippi, is about  two hundred miles from Biloxi. I decided
that this was it—when I finished my visit at the college, I was going to
complete my journey and do whatever it took to close out this chapter in my
life. I contem plated bringing this unresolved relationship to some  kind of
resolution. I was curious to know  if my father had told the hosp ital officials
that he had three sons and if our names would be on the death certificate. I
wanted to talk to his friends in Biloxi to see if he had ever mentioned us. Did he ever secretly try to find out how his ex-wife and children were
doing? Did he care? Did he have a capacity for love that perhaps he had
hidden from everyone? Mostly I wanted to know how he could have turned
his back on his family for a lifetime. I always looked for a loving reason
that he might have left, and yet my anger at his behavior in those years still
haunted me. At thirty-four years  of age I was controlled by a man who had
been dead for almost a decade. I rented a brand-new car in Columbus to make the drive to Biloxi. I mean
brand -new! The odometer read 00000.8 miles. As I settled in behind the
wheel I reached  for the lap belt and discovered that the right-hand belt was
missing. I got out of the car, took out the entire bench seat, and there was
the belt, attached to the floorboa rd of the car with masking tape, the buckle
encased in plastic wrapping, and a rubber band around the plastic wrapping. When I ripped off the tape and the plastic, I found a business card tucked
inside the buckle. It read: “Cand lelight Inn…Biloxi, Mississippi,” and had a
series of arrows leading to the inn. I thought it was odd, since  the car had
not been used before I rented it, but I stuck the card in my shirt pocket. I arrived at the outskirts of Biloxi at 4:50 P.M. on Friday and pulled into
the first gas station I saw to call the cemeteries in Biloxi. There  were three
listed, and after a busy signal at the first and no answer at the second, Idialed the third and least impressive listing. In response to my inquiry , an
elderly-sounding male voice said he would check to see if my father was
buried there. He was gone for a full ten minutes, and just as I was about to
give up and wait for Monday morning to do more research, he came back
with the words to end a lifetime journey . “Yes,” he said, “your father is
buried here,” and he gave me the date of his interment. My heart pounded with the emotion of this powerful moment. I asked
him if it would be all right if I visited the grave right away . “Certainly , if you will just put the chain up across the driveway when you
leave, you are welcome to come now,” he said. Before I could ask for
directions, he continued, “Your father is buried adjacent to the grounds of
the Candlelight Inn. Just ask someone at the station how to get there.”
Shivering, I reached into my shirt pocket and looked at the business card
and the arrows on it. I was three blocks from the cemetery . When I finally stood looking at the marker on the grass, MEL VIN LYLE
DYER , I was transfixe d. During the next two and a half hours I conversed
with my father for the very first time. I cried out loud, obliv ious to my
surroundings. And I talked out loud, demanding answers from a grave. As
the hours passed, I began to feel a deep sense of relief, and I became very
quiet. The calmn ess was overwhelming. I was almost certain that my father
was right there with me. I was no longer talking to a gravesto ne, but was
somehow in the presence of something which I could not, and still cannot,
explain. When I resumed  my one-way conversation, I said, “I somehow feel as if I
were sent here today and that you had something to do with it. I don’t know
what your role is, or even if you have one, but I am certain that the time has
come to abandon this anger and hatred that I have carried around so
painfully for so long. I want you to know that as of this momen t, right now,
all of that is gone. I forgive you. I don’t know what motivated  you to run
your life as you did. I am sure that you must have felt many forlorn
moments know ing that you had three children you would never see. Whatever it was that was going on inside of you, I want you to know that I
can no longer think hateful thoughts about you. When I think of you it will
be with compas sion and love. I am letting go of all this disorder that is
inside me. I know in my heart that you were simply doing what you knew
how to do given  the conditions of your life at the time. Even though I have
no mem ory of ever having seen you, and even though it was my fondestdream to someday meet you face to face and hear your side, I will not let
those thoughts ever hold me back from also feeling the love I have for you.”
As I stood at that lonely grave marker in southern Mississippi I said words
I’ve never forgotten, because they signified how I would be conducting my
life from then on: “I send you love…. I send you love…. Honestly , I send
you love.”
In one pure hone st moment I experienced feeling forgiveness for the man
who was my father and for the child I had been who wanted to know and
love him. I felt a kind of peace and cleansing that was entirely new for me. Though I was unaware of it at the time, that simple act of forgiveness was
the beginning of an entirely new level of experiencing life for me. I was on
the thres hold of a stage of my life that was to encompass worlds I could not
even imagine in those days. When I went back to New York, miracles began to appear everywhere. I
wrote Your Erroneous Zones  with ease. An agent arrived in my life through
a series of “strange” circumsta nces at exactly the right mome nt. I had a
meeting with an executive of T.Y. Crowell Publishers, and a few days later
he called to tell me that Crowell was going to publish my book. Every step along the way of the Your Erroneous Zones  story was another
miracle waiting to happen. Strange and wonderful events occurred with
delightful frequency . The exactly “right” person would be there when
needed. The perfect contact would materialize out of the strangest
coincidences. My speaking schedule increased, and my performances in
front of audienc es became effortless. I abandoned my notes, though often
talking for six and eight hours at seminars. Later , these seminars became a
series of successful tapes. My personal family life improved almost
immediately , and I made decisions that I previously had ponde red over for
years. In what seemed fast-forward, I had achieved what most authors
dream about. I had the top-selling book in the United States and was having
the time of my life appearing on the talk shows. In the years that followed,
my writing seemed to be taking me in new directions. I went from writing
about “How to” utilize specific strategies in self-understanding to “How to”
become a more assertive human being. I went from telling peopl e how to do
something to writing about the importance of being at transcendent levels as
a human being. Today , I am convinced that my experience of forgivenes s, while
emotionally draining at the moment it was occurring, was the beginning ofmy transformation. It was my first encounter with the power of my own
mind to go beyond what I previously considered the constr aints of the
physical world and my physical body . Pablo Picasso said, “While I work I leave my body outside the door, the
way Moslems take off their shoes before entering the mosque.” I did the
same thing as I wrote this book. I left my body outside the room. By that I
mean that I left outside the world of aches and intrusions which are
experienced in form, and allowed only my mind to enter my writing
domain. In this world of pure thought there are no limits. What  is the limit
to your imagination? This part of me that is my thoughts is pure energy
allowing the ideas to coalesce into words in my mind, and then into form on
my typewriter . No excuses, no fatigue, no fears, no anguish, simply energy
that is somehow flowing through me to you without any limitations. As I
create I know that these words and ideas are not mine to own. That I am the
conduit through which they flow, and that when I am open and unattached,
when I leave my body at the door as Picasso said, I am a part of the creative
process that is related to being awakened. This awakening process and the
rewards that go with being bitten by the transformational bug are precisely
what this book is about. To begin  the awakening process you must become very comfortable with
the concept of paradox. Why? Because you are one big walki ng, talking,
breathing parad ox at all mome nts of your life. It is simply the way of
things. The Bhagavad Gita, one of the most ancient spiritual books on our
planet, sums up paradox as follows:
By passion for the “pairs of opposites,”
By those twin snares of Like and Dislike, Prince,
All creatures live bewildered, save some few
Who, quit of sins, holy in act, informed,
Freed from the “opposites” and fixed in faith
Cleave unto Me.”
And bewildered you will continue to be until you can get very comfortable
with opposites like the following. You are simultaneously in form, with all
of the rules and laws that apply to form, and in nonform, with a completely
opposite set of rules and laws. You are both shy and aggressive within the
same body . You are lazy and hardworking. You get the most approval whenyou care the least about it. The tighter you squeeze the water , the less you
have. The things that upset us in others are the lessons we have to learn
ourselves. You cannot exclusively examine the north pole of a magnet. No
matter how thin you slice it, there is always a south pole to consider . The
dualism is always there. Rather than dismissing this concept with your left-
brain linear side, remember that you have, at the same time, a right-brain
intuitive side that can allow opposites to live comfortably with each other . I
delight in Ram Dass’ s description of paradox in Be Her e Now:
The most exquisite paradox…as soon as you give it all up, you
can have it all… . As long as you want power , you can’t have it. The minute you don’t want power, you’ll have more than you
ever dreamed possible. Until you are blissfully comfortable with this concept, and until you
come to grips with your own predicament of being in form and formless
simultaneously , you will be struggling with this paradox. After listening to my tapes on transformation, a woman wrote to me,
“Wow, this stuff really works when you truly let it in.” I couldn’ t say it any
better than that. But William James, writing back in 1926, put it this way:
The further limits of our being plunge, it seems to me, into an
altogether other dimension of existence from the visible world. Name it the mystical region, or the supernatural region,
whichever you choose…we belong to it in a more visible world. When we commune with it, work is actually done upon our finite
personality , for we are turned into new men. One thing I know for certain: by communing with all of these universal
principles, by writing about them, by living them every day, I have been
transformed into a new man, a happier , more purposeful, more fully alive
man than I ever dreamed possible for myself. Now I hope that my efforts
and energy are visible in this book and will help to make a positive, loving
difference in your life as well. In love and light,
Wayne W. Dyer1989
 
OceanofPDF .comTRANSFORMA TION
 
Transformation is the ability and willingness to live beyond your
form. I feel as if I have  gone through a gate which will not allow me to go back
to the place where I used to live. To me, going through the gate symbolizes
transformation. But what do I mean by that? Start with the word “form,” the center of transformation. It is a term that
describes the physical you. It includes all of the physiological properties
that you have come to associate with the human being that is you. Form
includes the total weight of your bones, arteries, blood vessels, skin,
eyeballs, toenails, heart, lungs,  kidneys, and anything else that you can
name in your physiology . Yet certainly you are much more than a pile of
bones, skin, and component parts. Everything that you would see in that
pile of form you will also find in a pig or a horse. The real you, the unique
you, is 99 percent invisible, untouchable, unsmellable, and impervious to
the physical senses, which know  only form. The largest chunk of who you
really are is something beyond form. It has been called your mind, or your
feelings, or your thoughts, or your higher consciousness, but whatever it is,
it certain ly is not form. All of your thought and your spiritual awareness are
in this other formless dimension. Now consider the prefix “trans,” which means “beyond,” “above,” or in
literal terms, “over .” When we place that prefix in front of “form,” we get
“transform.” We now add the suffix “ation,” which means “action” or
“result,” and we have the word  “transformation.” To me this word means
the result or action of going beyond one’s form . And it is literally the
challenge of this book: to help you to see yourself as someone much more
advanced and divine than a mere form. Your form must follow the rules of form. It will change many times
during your lifetime. In fact, every single cell of your entire form will
change every seven years or so, and yet you will still exist. You were
already in a tiny little baby body, a preadolescent, a teenager body , and
depending on the current age of your form, in other bodies as well. The
form has completely changed many times, and yet the real you hasremained consta nt. Once you understand this concept you will be on your
way to going through the gate. Every man-mad e creation starts with a thought, an idea, a vision, a
mental image. The thought is then applied in some way to form a new
product. At this moment I am taking my thoughts, applying them to a
typewriter , and creating a new product called a book. We all go through this
process thousands of times every day. The ultimate in becoming a
transformed person is seeing ourselves as unlimited by our form. When you live exclusively in form, you live in a world of limitations. Think about all of the limits that are placed on your form. Limits are
boundaries that dictate things. You can only lift so much weight. You can
only run so fast. You can only work so hard. But limits are all in the
dimension of form. Now consider the part of you without physical limits, the dimension of
thought. There are no limits to your ability to think. You can imagine
yourself doing anything. You can have a perfect relationship with your mate
in pure thought. You can be anything, go anywhere, experience  all that you
want, in this dimension of thought, exclusive of form. I am suggesting that you can experience a major portion of your life in
this dimension of transcending your form, that is, in transforma tion. At the
same time you will be able to maintain your form and honor its
requirements and lovingly understand its signals, while still knowing it is
serving you, the real you. The emphasis in our culture is on the value of the
external, the physical appearan ce. I am suggesting that the emphasis be
shifted to a concern for the formless self, being ever mindful that the form
houses the real you. With enough practice in this dimension, you will
eliminate virtual ly all limitations in your life. You will get past your form,
and do as Paul suggests in Romans 12:2:
And be not conformed to this world: But be ye transformed  by
the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good,
and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. This is the place of transformatio n. This is the place where you can not only
live a miracle, but create miracles as well. You can make higher and higher levels of living a regular part of your
daily regimen without going to a guru or mastering courses in metaphysics.How? By believing you are a soul with a body rather than a body with a
soul. You will create for yourself a life that is literally without  limitations. You will begin to see miracles occurring simply because you believe in
them and expect them to mater ialize for you. In fact, you will become a
miracle worker yourself. You will begin to see the phenomenal miracle that you are when  it comes
to healing your own body . You will begin to change self-defeating habits
such as overeat ing and avoiding exercise, without having to set goals or
work at self-discipline. Your new habits will automatically follow your new
sense of appreciation for all that you are, even though you cannot define it
in physical terminology . Your belief in your body’ s ability to heal itself will
begin to reflect how you take care of the precious temple that houses you. Fear of death will dissolve as you come closer to an awareness that thought,
thinking, your essential self, never dies. Thought cannot die. It is the energy
that composes the very existence of the universe, and once you believe this
within your being, you will never need to fear death again. A beautiful woman by the name of Peace Pilgrim walked across this
country a few years back, spreading her message of peace and love and
personal transformation. She described the characteristics of personal
transformation in this short list. SOME SIGNS AND SYMPT OMS OF  INNER  PEACE
 
A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears
based on past experiences
 
An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment
 
A loss of interest in judging other people
 
A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others
 
A loss of interest in conflict
 
A loss of the ability to worry
 
Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation
 Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature
 
Frequent attacks of smiling
 
An increased susceptibility to the love extended by others as well
as the uncontrollable ur ge to extend it
This is what is in it for you. Life will become a fascinating journey , filled
with joy and awe. The part of you that resided for so long in the limitations
that you imposed  on yourself by living exclusively in form will become free
to see a whole new panorama…if and when you believe  it. You will find yourself slowing down and living in that quiet inner space
where you can appreciate what  comes your way. You will know in your
heart that you need not be threatened by the views or actions of anyone else. You will receive more joy and ease in your life, because that is what you
will be sending out. You will find it easier to accept contrary views,
knowing that you are not defined by anything or anyone external to
yourself. You will find great joy in the ease that replaces rancor and pain. You will elimina te conflict and confrontation as you find it unnecessary to
prove yourself to anyone. In effect, you will begin to tap the enormous
power of your mind. You will peacefully meditate though other s about you
may be in a frenzy . You will be the power of a quiet mind, and you will
choose to go there often. You will discover things about yourself that you
perhaps never considered before. You will be in that perfect intelligence that
is within all form, in that miraculous inner space where everything that you
can visualize is possible. I have come to know that there is an invisible, untouchable, odorless, and
yet very real intelligence in back of, or supporting, all form. This
intelligence has been labeled many things. Some call it God, others the life
force, higher consciousness, the divine spirit. The label is unimportant. The
living of it matte rs immensely . It is a feeling similar to what Carl Jung was
expressing when an interviewer asked him if he believed in God. His
startling answer was, “No.” After a thoughtful pause, he continu ed, “I know
there is a God.”
Observe a tree and contemplate the intelligence within or behind  that tree
that allows it to function perfect ly in form. The leaves come and go, the sap
drips out, it flowers when it is supposed to. It is much more than simpleform. It contains a life force that makes it alive. We cannot see that life
force, but it is very real. I look at the skin on the back of my hand quite often these days. When I
pinch it, it no longer snaps back as it once did; it sort of meanders back to
its origi nal position. There are wrinkles about my eyes that were never
there. I have taken to growing ear hairs, and losing head hairs. I see my
form changing all the time. If I thought that was all that I am, I would feel
distressed over my physical changes. But I know that I am much more than
this form that I occupy . I know that I am a soul with a body , rather than a
body with a soul. This thing that some call a soul and I call my being or my
self is the very essence of what we are. It is the intelligence behind the
form, and the biggest differenc e between me today and me several years
ago is that I now live the fact that I am not exclusively my form. Buckminster Fuller once said that 99 percent of who you are is invisible
and untouchable . It is your ability to think and go beyond your form that
determines the quality of your life. Being able to express and experience the
statement, “I am my ability to think and feel, I am not only form” is the
major transformational dif ference in my life today . I see myself having chosen a variety of roles in this lifetime. I used to
believe that those roles were the real me, and that everythin g that I did
determined my essence. I exper ience my form doing what I have chosen to
do, and at the same time I can get mentally in back of that form and observe
myself going through the doing motions of my humanity . Thus,  I work and
sweat, and play tennis, and write, and speak to large audiences, and make
love to my wife, and walk along the beach, and pay my bills, and strive to
save some mone y, and talk on the telephone about my investme nts, and hug
my children, and do all of the other actions that I choose for myself. Those
actions, those roles, have a magically enhanced quality to them when my
being is in the doing. When I involve that invisible, untouch able part of
myself, or my Self, then do I recognize that my physical self, my form, is
not all that I am. When I bring  my thoughts and feelings to my physical
actions I experience a balance,  a wholeness, a meness. My ability to be
thought itself is the real miracle that I am a part of. No one can get behind my eyeballs and experience my inner reality, and
likewise, I cannot enter anyone else’s form and become the process that is
that person’s. But I can and do allow myself to become my mind  rather than
my form. I now live each day as if that intelligence that is in all livingthings, including myself, is the real essence of life. I no longer  fear death,
since I know that we are never formed, but are always in a state of
transition, and that though form  may ultimately look as if it has died, you
simply cannot kill thought. The major difference that I note in myself is the phenomenal new
compassion that seems to have swept into my being in recent years. Where I
previously was able to ignore others or to live in my own world, so to
speak, now I find myself more emotionally connected to the inner energy of
all life forms. For instance, I do a lot of traveling for speaking engagements,
and in the past I have proceeded singlemindedly through a crowded airplane
to get to my seat. I now find myself helping someone stow hand  luggage in
the overhead compartment, when I would have squeezed by that person a
few years back. I love this new compassion. It empowers me to greater
things, and of course it helps to create a more loving experience  in others as
well. I also have found that I am developing a new-to-me style of intelligence,
without a conscious effort. I find that I have a sensitivity to and
understanding of concepts that at one time seemed fuzzy or bizarre. I enjoy
reading about quantum reality , relativity , metaphysics, and all measure of
Eastern thought, find it fascinating, where I previously  found it
unfathomable and even dull. In bookstores I find myself in the sections on
philosophy , the New Age, metap hysics, and the like, regretting that I do not
have the time to read everything  that is out there. I have a new fascination
with these subje cts, but, more significant, they seem to fit into my personal
readiness level now. I have beco me more open-minded about everything in
the universe. My vision allows me to explore without the judgment that
previously clouded it. Even more intriguing is that it now makes perfect sense to me. I
understand what was previousl y muddled. This is quite an extraordinary
awakening experience for me, and I am, quite frankly , in awe of it. I often
find myself reading books or listening to tapes that “blow me away” with
internal excitement. I am not sure if it is my openness to these new ideas, or
if I have  simply  developed a greater intelligence through my studies, but in
any case, I love it, and even more, I love sharing it with you and others. It is
as if in one swift instant I have begun to understand and live the teachings
of spirit ual masters. Not by prolonged study programs, not by trying toimprove my spiritual consciousness, simply by changing to a new me that is
filled with wonder at the miraculousness of it all. I also have a decreased sense of attachment to acquisitions and
possessions. I no longer identify  myself with my accomplishments and my
résumé. It is as if now that I am a me without boundaries, I have less
rigidity about defining myself. I feel as if I can stand in back of myself (of
my form) and allow my Self to be anything I want to be, witho ut having to
define myself by my deeds. I am defined by some internal knowingness or
beingness that defies external descriptors. It no longer matters as much
what  I accomplish as that I am in tune with my own sense of belonging to
the human race. Self labels are no longer necessary . It is not that the deeds have ceased, but that they are expressed in the
process of my own self-definiti on. The less importance I have  attached to
these externals, the fewer restrictions I find in my life. I feel capable of
anything at all, as long as I follow the inner voice which only I can hear . I sense a strong shift in my personal ethics. Anyone in my life who
attempts to be controlling or judgmental will not engage my emotional
energy. I have lost my need to prove myself or justify my beliefs. I have no
attachment to convincing anyon e of the rightness of my position or to be on
a confrontationa l receiving end of their viewpoint. A peaceful sense of who
I am radiates and intermingles with respect for otherness. I have found that some of my personal relationships have grown deeper
and more profound, particularly with my wife and immediate family , while
others have become less important. I still enjoy myself immensely in the
company of others at a social gathering, but I no longer defin e myself as
needing to be a part of these activities, whereas they played a much larger
role in earlier years. I prefer spending time alone or in the rich close
personal relationships I enjoy with my family and a few associates. Virtually all dependency relationships, except for those with my small
children, are nonexistent in my life. I am uninterested in having others
dependent on me for their emotional or any other kind of sustenance. Paradoxically , I have become more generous in giving myself to others. I
enjoy more than anything else in my life helping others. It is both strange
and wonderful to function exclusively on what I know to be my truth and at
the same  time to welcome without judgment those who are operating at a
different frequency . Similarly , I find it easier to radiate at my own
frequency , and to ignore the pleadings of others to live my life their way.What has happe ned is that the boundary between my Self and others has
dissolved. I see others on their own paths and I can now love them for being
precisely where they are. When others attempt to impose their self-serving values and attitudes on
me, as I once did on others, I know that this can alter my balance and
harmony . But now I simply shift into being a peaceful observer of what
they are expressing about thems elves and their truth. The authentic me, the
thoughts and inner feelings that I live, are no longer engaged in defense,
and I can watch  without a need to prove them wrong. My path remains
crystal-clear . This is a new kind of vision that allows me to live in
formlessness and form at the same time without being threatened or
controlled by anyone. It is a gloriously peaceful place. I have lost my ability to blame others for the circumstances of my life. I
no longer view the world in terms of unfortunate accidents or misfortunes. I
know in my being that I influence it all, and now find myself considering
why I created a situation, rather than saying, “Why me?” This heightened
awareness direc ts me to look inside of myself for answ ers. I take
responsibility for all of it, and the interesting puzzle becomes a fascinating
challenge when I decide to influence areas of my life in which I previously
believed I was not in control. I now feel that I control it all. I know that I create what I have and what I need, and that I am capable of
performing miracles when I am balanced inwardly and using my thinking
dimension to create the world that I want for myself. I know now that my
circumstances do not make me what I am, but that they reveal who I have
chosen to be. The quieter I can make my mind, the more I can perceive the
link betw een my thoughts and how I feel. The quieter my mind, the less
judgmental and negative I tend to be. Having a quiet mind gives me a
peaceful life, and helps other s around me to choose peace ful, serene,
effective lives for themselves. Consequently , how I think can directly affect
those around me. It was said of Jesus and Buddha and other highly spiritual
beings that their presence in a village could raise the consc iousness of
everyone in the village. I can now value and appreciate that idea. I have
found that when I am totally at peace within, and radiate that serenity
outward, the consciousness of those in the same room with me can become
peaceful. Recently I gave a speech to a large audience in Chicago, and in the room
were some five hundred children, many of them toddlers and infants. Thenoise level was quite high, but after a while I became accustomed to it and
it was not bothe rsome. At one particularly poignant moment in the speech,
as I was about to recite a gentle poem that is very meaningfu l to me, the
entire room, including the infants and toddlers, became silent. A kind of
magic communication was transmitted to everyone, through the dimension
of thought. The changes in myself and my life patterns have all happened without
goals or any life plan. Yet these inner changes are as much a part of me as
are my lungs and my heart. Similarly , there have been many  changes in my physical way of being in
the world. I run a minimum of eight miles daily , and have not missed a day
since I began at age thirty-six. Not once! I tell people that running is not
something that I do, it is something I am. It is a part of my being. It fits as
regularly into my health regimen as does being scrupulous about dental
care. Simply what I am as a healthy human being. My “old me” was well aware of the benefits to my form. Thos e benefits
remain and continue while I now experience a new level  of benefit
involving my inner Self, a loss of myself, an unawareness of my physicality
as I run. I now have higher levels of energy than I ever experie nced, and I
attribute it and my involvemen t in being healthy and fit to my higher -
consciousness approach to life. I find it interesting that I eat no red meat, which I once thrived on; that I
eat my food without adding salt, where I used to use the salt shaker before I
even tasted my food; that sugar , caffeine, and other nutritionally empty
foods are seldom part of my diet. I find all that interesting , but what is
astonishing  to me is that this tendency towa rd wholesome eating habits has
flowed from a more loving approach to myself and to all of life, not from a
desire to enhance my physical attractiveness or strength or to achieve
physical longevity . I seem to be trusting some sort of inner perfect consultant rather than
relying on cultural norms, old habits, or what I was taught as I grew up. The
part of me that wants to be in balance is choosing my food intake. I feel
balanced inside , and somehow this almost magically translates to a
salubrious approach to nutrition and exercise. I seldom wear a watch, yet a few years ago I would not be caugh t without
one. Time has lost its importa nce in the linear sense, and I do not feel
compelled to keep track of when  and where and how fast I live my life. Thishappened witho ut any goals or objectives. I simply stopped wearing a
watch and referring to time and scheduling my life, and I have found that I
am more ef ficient as a result. I am intrigued with the paradox of letting go of a need or desire for time
limits and feeling I have discovered unlimited time for things I want to do. More than that even. Without physical time constraints, my life not only
flows more ef ficiently but has increased richness and texture. I experie nce the paradox of letting go of time limits quite often in places
like checkout lines in stores. I am sure you too know the feelings that the
“old me” had when someone ahead of me in line was taking too long to
complete a transaction—I was impatient, agitated, critical; I even crowded
closer to try to prod the slow person on. The “new me” does not feel
trapped in time and therefore does not need to worry about getting out of
the store in a prescribed number of minutes. Instead I often experience a
new level of being with time. I discover my Self in thought a part of the
person checking out. My thoughts are of kindness and gentleness toward my
slowness or awkwardness, a loving message of relaxation and nonpressure
to the me that has been there, is there. The permission of unconditional love
which I would choose for myself in that situation seems to trans mit itself to
the other person and help him or her find the right coin or whatever else is
needed. And often this thought process creates a smile, an understanding
energy between that person and my Self, a richness and texture. One of the most beautiful and at the same time hardest-to -describe
interactions is the experience of physical and emotional intimacy with
another person. The physical orgasmic sensations are truly wonderful
aspects of our sexuality . But the soaring inner emotional loving feelings are
a beautiful part of this experien ce. Sex to me is now perfect love, rather
than the obligato ry function of a married man. Making love is an expression
of the inner love which we can reach, when we are both balanced and
fulfilled, and it is our mutual expression of that love. I have lost the desire to organize myself in strictly linear ways, and in the
process my life has become richer, more fluid and flowing and perfectly
balanced. My new perspective allows me to tackle any project with a sense
of inner excitement and the awareness that I do not have to prove myself or
be judged by the results. I simply am who I am, doing what I choose to do,
with a sense of acceptance about the outcome or lack of outcome. Interestingly , I accomplish more and acquire more (which I give away inlarge measure). I achieve more than I ever dreamed possible  in my old
linear days. My diminished motivation to achieve and acquire is particularly
noticeable when it comes to competition. Earlier in my life I was always
having to beat the other guy in order to prove myself. In recent years my
inclination is away from comp etition. I still play tennis, but I send my
opponent good wishes right in the middle of a tough match, and somehow ,
paradoxically , I raise my own level of play. I feel this is a natural result of
radiating out from my Self the feelings and thoughts of uncond itional love
and nonjudgment. Cooperation has replaced competition in all facets of my life, and the
results are amaz ing for myself and all the others whom I touch  in one way
or another . I feel strongly attracted to the message in the statement “In a
world of individuals, compariso n makes no sense at all.” External events
are irrelevant to me except to the extent they produce order or disorder in
the world. I assess whatever I do. If an act produces some kind of harmony
for myse lf and others, it is a positive act. If it creates turbulence  or disorder ,
I will work to reverse the impact. I see my mission  as helping others to shift their consciousness, so that all
of their waking thoughts and actions are in the direction of order and
harmony . It means living as if the intelligence behind all form really
matters, and not doing anything that destroys or harms life. Tapping into the
inner energy that is our Self with an accepting attitude contributes to a
personal sense of balance and harmony . As more and more of us evolve to
this personally balanced level, we will create the outer form in our world. In
this way, we will all participate in the transformation of our universe. I revel
in the love of life and learning of my six beautiful children. I teach only
love and I see them treating one another and people outside the family in
the same way . My wife and I have grown to love and respect ourselves and our own
uniqueness, so that we are able to radiate that inner glow outw ard toward
each other . We have a wonderful absence of judgment and negativity
toward each other , because we have both learned to be that way within
ourselves. Disagreements, yes! Disagreeableness, never! I want to emphasize that this new me is still assertive and firm about my
own life. I am not making the case for gushing sugar and honey at the evils
of the world, in the hope that they will disappear . On the contrary, what Iam expe riencing is a much deeper involvement with life, wherein I know
precisely what I am about, and I cannot be deterred from that path. I am
able to stay on my path, doing what I love and loving what I do, precisely
because I have transformed myself from a person who had absolute
judgments which required fixed and rigid responses to a perso n who sees
and knows that any human experience is an opportunity to reflect on where
I am or am not. It comes down to surrendering some old, deeply entrenched
patterns. It means catching myself right in the middle of acting in a
nonharmonious way, and seeing  that this is where I am and also where I am
not right now! Then it means using my mind to be where I want to be inside
of myself, and slowly but surely moving more in the direction of that inner
harmony . Recently I had an experience that illustrates how this works. My wife
told me that one of the children  had done something wonderful in her first-
grade class, and she concluded by saying, “I am so glad that I worked with
her on this project and taught her how to perform in front of the class
without any anxiety or self-dou bt.” At an earlier time in my life I would
have said, “Wait a minute. I am the one who taught her that behavior , and
you want to take all of the credit. You do that all the time.” My reaction
now is: “Great! I am so happy that she is gaining confidence, and you are a
great help to her in this regard.” Inside, I feel I also contributed to her
success, and I can appreciate  my internal feeling without demanding
external acknowledgment. I know that our daughter ’s confid ence is the
result of numerous inputs from both of us, from her own inner self, and
from many others as well. My happiness is for her; it is not based on
needing some credit, or on taking some credit away from  my wife. Competition and turbulence inside me have been replaced by inner peace
and harmony . It is unconditional love, beginning with Self. When you retreat to your peace ful inner solitude, you enter that fourth
dimension that opens up an entirely new world. But, before you can get
there, you may need to examine your resistance to this powerful new idea
of self-transformation. WHY  YOU MA Y BE RESISTING THIS PRINCIPLE
 
Why would anyone choose to resist this state of being? Possibl y to remain
in the illusion of safety . As long as you are convinced that you are only yourform, you needn’ t consider your own greatness and the risks that go with
transformation. Think about it for a moment. All of the impediments to your success and
happiness can be neatly explained away as simply the boundaries of your
physical existen ce. In this fram e of mind you can decide that other people
are just plain lucky or they were born with advantages you did not get, or
they got all the breaks. These are the thoughts of someone who remains
stuck in form. To experience transformation requires opening up to the
possibility of an entirely new idea. Most of us reject new ideas for the
safety of those to which we have become so comfortably accustomed. It is also quite comfortable and natural to take the opposite position from
that in the title of this book. That is, “I’ll believe it when I see it! And not a
moment before!” Most people do not like to go beyond their comfort zones. You may know in your heart that life resists purely physical explanations
and that science cannot conclusively answer questions such as “What is
life? Where does it go when it dies? How do I think?” Despite this
awareness you may prefer to stay with that which you can see— that is, with
form and form alone. Perhaps believing in formlessness is just too spooky
and weird for you at this time. Yet you know in your heart that you have to
be much more than just that body you live in. It is risky in the beginning to toss out all of the old comforts and take the
step that will allow you to interact with your inner beingness. That is where
you live, in that inner place. That is where you feel everything. That is
where all of your thoughts reside. And you may not be quite ready to
explore this place where you have complete responsibility for all that you
are experiencing. You might also resist transforma tion because you are afraid of change, or
of examining something that you do not understand. I call this the head-in-
the-sand approac h to your own spirituality . “Let someone in a pulpit preach
about what I am supposed to do in the spiritual realm. Me? I’ll take care of
paying off my mortgage. All of this mystical stuff is for deep  thinkers or
dedicated religio us believers.” We have been conditioned to believe that
matters pertaining to higher consciousness are the concern primarily of
organized religi ous leaders. Yet if you consider the teachings of highly
spiritual masters, they all say the same thing in different ways. “The
kingdom of heaven is within.” “Do not ask God to do it for you, but in factrecognize your own great divinity and magnificence.” “Look within, not
without.”
You may feel that an attempt to achieve personal transformation conflicts
with your specific religious training. But nothing that I am writing about
conflicts with the teachings of the spiritual masters. Nothing! Transformation is about love, peace, personal fulfillment, treating others
with respect, and achieving harmony on this planet as one family of man. Nothing I write about is in any way an attempt to criticize or ridicule
anyone’ s religious beliefs. While I find some of the acts that are perpetrated
against human beings in the name of God or organized religion anathema, I
do not find fault with the essential beliefs of the religion. A transformed
being is incapable of behaving in nonspiritual ways toward others. Finally , you may resist this process of transformation because you feel
that you really do not have the capacity to transcend the life that you have
created for yourself. You may feel that you have in fact reached  the limit of
how far you can go, and you do not want the stress and anxiety that goes
with soaring above the life to which you have accustomed yourself. You
may not want to im agine what you can be, because you are not ready to
make that shift,  you want to stay with the familiar and within your own
zone of comfort. Most of your resistance to accepting the possibility of transformation
comes from being willing to carry on pretty much as you always have. Yet,
I know that you would not be reading these pages this moment if you were
not at least curious about the possibility of soaring beyond that which you
have known as your accustome d life-style up until now. And I can assure
you that there is very little real work to do. Once you realize that you are
much more than a pile of bones, muscle, organs, and blood, you are on your
way. Once you begin to ask who this person is that you have come to call
yourself, you are on your way. Once you begin to realize that you yourself
are divine just by the fact that you have a mind and a universal intelligence
that backs up your form, you are already zooming ahead. The rest will
happen almost automatically . SOME SUGGESTIONS FOR PERSONAL  TRANSFORMA TION
 
 Practice thinking about yoursel f and others in formless ways. Take a
few moments each day to evaluate yourself not in terms of your
performance in the physical world, but in terms of pure thought and
feeling. Imagine yourself actua lly standing in back of your physical
self. Watch yourself acting and interacting and feel what you are
feeling. Do not criticize or judge, simply note how your form is
behaving and what it is feeling. Be an observer as your form is going
through its chosen motions. Use the observe r exercise with other people. Begin to notice how they
destroy their potential for happi ness and success because they identify
exclusively with their forms. As you watch them going throug h their
frustrating motions, know that this is not really the total human being
at all, that behind each one of the people you meet every single  day is
a divine  invisible thinking being. In your close relationships, meet
your loved ones in a place where there can be no limits, in thought
behind the form , and you will see that most of your differences are
unimportant, that the real human  being behind that form is much more
than your physical eyes reveal. Vow to relate to that part. Make an effort to go beyond your own comfort zones on a regular
basis. Listen to the real you inside who is encouraging you to
transcend yours elf, rather than the old you who said you were
incapable of such a task. Ask yourself, “What patterns in my life do I
continuously repeat because that is where I am most comfortable?”
When you have  an honest answ er, work to begin a new approach to
your thought processes. If you have not spent any time in the
wilderness because the idea violates one of your comfort zones, make
a comm itment to do precisely that. By extending yourself to new
levels, you will put transformation in your life. Make an effort to cease labelin g yourself as a means of identifying
who you are as a human being. Long ago I stopped identifying myself
by any professi onal title. When people ask me what I do, I usually
reply with some silly remark like “Pleasure is my business.” Yet
behind that little wisecrack is a lot of truth. I do everything because I
am everything. Yes, of course I write, but that is only a small portionof what I am, and essentially my writing is a means of expressing my
thoughts. Yes, I do professional speaking, but again that label would
only serve to restrict me. My speaking is also an expression of my
humanity . Eliminating the titles and labels reduces our inclination to
compartmentalize and restrict our lives. Søren Kierkegaard said,
“Once you label me, you nega te me.” Almost all of our labels refer
somehow to form and what we do with our physical bodies. When you
stop identifying yourself exclusively through form, then your
profession, age, race, sex, nationality , financial picture, list of
accumulations, awards, handicaps, level of fitness, and any other label
become meaningless. Discontinuing the labeling process will help you
to define who you are in more spiritual and profound terms. If you
must label, try this one on: “I am connected to the perfect intelligence
that supports all form, and there fore I am a part and parcel of it all. I
have no limitatio ns and no compartments. I am not going to get it all, I
am it all already .”
Begin to view your mind, your nonform side, as new and miraculous. Know that your mind is capable of transcending your form, and that
your body is in large part controlled by your mind. Imagine yourself
with a lemon in your hand. Now imagine bringing the lemon close to
your mouth and biting right into it. This exercise will create a rush of
saliva into your mouth, as your body’ s reaction to the imaginary
invasion of citric acid. This is transformation in action. Your mind is
causing your physical self to respond. That is precisely what hypnosis
is about. It is a way of directly contacting the state of mind that allows
you to transcend your form, to transcend pain by refusing to register
painful signals. This amazing power is always with you. Work each day to clear yourself of the two factors that do the most to
inhibit your personal transformation: negativity and judgment. The more negative your thoughts, the more likely you are to look
exclusively at the physical side of you, and to behave in such a way as
to destroy your body as well. Every negative thought is an inhibitor to
personal transformation. It keeps you clogged up just as cholesterol
clogs up an artery . When you are filled with negativity , you are kept
from attaining higher and more bountiful levels of happiness. The inclinatio n to judge other s also serves as a gigantic inhibitor of
your personal transformation. When you judge another person, you do
not define him or her, you define yourself . Your judgment of another
says nothing at all about that person; it only says that you need to
judge the person in the way that you are doing. So you are saying more
about yourself than about the other . When you find yourself thinking and behaving in negative or
judgmental terms, remind yourself that this is an indication of both
where you are at the moment and where you are not; that here may be
a signal that you are identifying in some way with the judged person. What bothers us most about others quite often is something we refuse
to acknowledge in ourselves, or even something we need more of! Try
to be more interested in what is causing you to feel judgmental than in
what is “wrong ” with that other person. After a while you will find
yourself replacing negativity and judgment with a gentle and loving
inward look at why this is “hooking” you. Higher consciousn ess or
personal transformation involves putting the golden rule into practice,
and when you slip, applying that same rule to yourself. You will
discover that the world has not changed, but that you are now a totally
different human  being, a transfo rmed human being. It is truly a great
feeling to take over your own inner life. Examine how you treat the physical or visible you. As you begin the
clearing process above, you will find yourself becoming more and
more in balance, improving your exercise habits and nutritional intake. As negativity and judgment go, so will habits of self-abuse directed at
your form. You will begin to know that the food you eat is maintaining
the wondrous temple that houses your being. You will see the old self-
defeating habits of form-destruction disappear , and you will honor the
form as a manif estation of you. It all works perfectly together , when
you allow it. Allow yourself time to meditat e quietly by yourself. Meditation is a
powerful tool, and it is as simple  as breathing. You should choos e your
own style of meditation. Maybe it will help you if I tell you a little bit
about mine. I go to a quiet place, and with eyes closed, I visualize a pastel kind oflight. Any thought is pushed away by the power of the light. As I
become more and more peacefu l I see a white light in the center of the
field of pastel and feel I am moving closer and closer to the white. When I finally go through that light, it is very much like going through
the gate I described. I feel energized and totally in control of myself
and my surround ings. “Exquisit e peace” is the best term I can think of
for this place. I feel as rested as if I had slept soundly for eight hours. When I leave this level I feel totally connected to all of mankind. In
fact, I call this meditation my connection to all of eternity , because
someplace deep inside of me I am freed from my form completely . After meditating  I know that I can accomplish anything! Some  of my
most profound ideas, my very best speeches, and my most personally
satisfying writing emer ge after meditating. And my appreciation for
my loved ones can only be described as a peak experience. Try it. Use your own method. But give yourself the time and quiet
space to be alone with the invis ible you. Miracles are waiting for you
in that spectacular space. Go there. It is truly exquisite! Above all else, be kind and understanding of yourself. Be especially
kind to yourself if you behave in a way that you dislike. Talk kindly to
yourself. Be patient with yourself when you find it difficult to be a
“holy” person. It takes a lot of practice, just as it took a lot of practice
to develop neurotic and judgme ntal habits. Forgive yourself, and then
when you do not act as you want to, use your actions as a reminder of
where you are and where you are not. The more you extend kindness
to yourself, the more it will become your automatic response to others. By way of summary , I offer the broccoli metaphor . Imagine yourself going
to your local grocery store and buying a package of frozen broccoli because
you are attracted by the beautiful picture on the wrapper .
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The Way to Your Personal Transformation
 
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To my wife, Mar cie, my soulmate,
 
who walks this glorious path with me and
 
to our son, Sands Jay, who after five exquisitely beautiful
 
daughters is living pr oof of the theme of this book:
 
Believing Is Seeing
 
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John Quincy Adams is well but the house in which he lives at the
present time is becoming dilapidated. It’s tottering on its
foundations. Time and the seasons have nearly destroyed it. Its
roof is pretty worn out. Its walls are much shattered and tremb le
with every wind. I think John Quincy Adams will have to move
out of it soon. But he himself is quite well, quite well. —JOHN QUINCY  ADAMS
OceanofPDF. comContents
 
Epigraph
Introduction
 
1 Transformation
Why You May Be Resisting This Principle
Some Suggestions for  Personal Transformation
 
2 Thought
The How and Why of Visualization
You Are the Dr eamer  of Dr eams
Why We Resist
Your Way Out of the Cage
 
3 Oneness
A New Perspective on Our  Place in This Onesong
My First Contact with Oneness
Getting a Clear  Refer ence to the Whole
A Very Brief Look at the History of the Human Being
Cultivating a Refer ence to the Whole
Oneness and the Dr eam
Why You May Resist the Principle of Oneness
Some Suggestions for  Applying the Universal Principle of
Oneness in Your Own Life
 
4 Abundance
Transcending a Scar city Consciousness
Whatever  You Focus Your Thoughts on Expands
You Are It All Already
You Cannot Own Anything. Tuning In to Abundance
Freedom and Abundance
How I Made the Major  Decisions in My Life
Abundance and Doing What You Love
Putting It into Practice
Why You May Be Resisting the Principle of Abundance
Some Ideas for  Bringing Abundance into Your Life
 
5 Detachment
Understanding What Detachment Means
Flowing As a Means to Detachment
How Your Form Functions in the Universe
How I Learned to Apply This Principle
Our Most Common Attachments
Networking: A Helpful Means to Detachment
Why You May Resist Detachment
Implementing Detachment in Your Life
 
6 Synchronicity
Synchr onicity in All Our  Lives
The Easiest Connectors to Believe In
More Difficult Connections: Form to Hidden Form
Even Mor e Difficult Connections: Form to Invisible Form
Invisible Connections: Human Form to Human Form
Our Own Connections: Our  Thought to Our  Form
Incompr ehensible Connections: Human Thought to Another
Human Form
Your Own Connections: Thought to Thought
Synchr onicity: Human Thought to Other  Human Thought
The Formless Connections Between Human Beings
What Are These Connectors Made Of. The Awakening Pr ocessMiracles. Everything That Has Happened Had to Happen; Everything
That Must Happen Cannot Be Stopped
Why You May Find It Difficult to Embrace Synchr onicity
Some Ideas for  Putting Synchr onicity to Work
 
7 For giveness
The Universe Does Not Forgive Because It Does Not Blame
Ridding Yourself of Blame, Revenge, Judgment
Forgiveness
My Own Voyage of Forgiveness
Putting Forgiveness into Action
Giving Is the Key to Forgiving
Forgiving Yourself: And Why Not. Surr endering: The Ultimate Act
 
 
Sear chable Terms
 
Acknowledgments
 
About the Author
 
Other  Books by Wayne W. Dyer
 
Copyright
 
About the publisher
OceanofPDF. comINTRODUCTION
 
You cannot drink the word “water. ” The formula H2O cannot float a ship. The word “rain” cannot get you wet. You must experience water or rain to
truly know what the words mean. Words themselves keep you several steps
removed from the experience. And so it is with everything that I write about in this book. These are
words that are meant to lead to the direct experience. If the words that I
write ring true, it is very likely that you will take the ideas presented here
and create your experience of them. I believe these principles and see them
working all the time and want to share my experience of how they have
worked for me. You too see, in your own life, essentially what you believe. If, for
example, you believe strongly in scarcity, think about it regularl y, and make
it the focus of your conversations, I am quite certain that you see a great
deal of it in your life. On the other hand, if you believe in happiness and
abundance, think only about them, talk about them with others, and act on
your belief in them, it is a very good bet that you are seeing what you
believe. Oliver Wendell Holmes once said, “Man’ s mind, stretched to a new idea,
never goes back  to its original dimension. ” The principles that I write about
in this book may require you to stretch to new ideas. Should you take these
words and apply them to your life, you will feel the stretch marks in your
mind, and you will never again return to the being that you were before. The word “it” appears twice in the title of this book and refers both times
to what could be called personal  transformation. That transformation comes
with knowing deep within you that each and every human being is far more
than a physical body, and that the essence of being human includes the
ability to think and feel, to posse ss a higher consciousness, and to know that
there is an intell igence suffusing  all form in the universe. You are able to tap
into that invisibl e part of you, to use your mind in any way that you choose,
and to recognize that this is your essential humanity. Your humanness is not
a form or a body at all, but something much more divine, guide d by forces
that are always at work in the universe. The principles in this book start with the premise that you are a soul with
a body, rather than a body with a soul. That you are not a human beinghaving a spiritual experience, but rather a spiritual being having a human
experience. I have illustrated these principles with many experiences that
are a part of my own personal transformational journey to bring the
essential messag es home to you. I know that these principles are working in
the universe even as you sit and read these words. They are working
independent of your opinion about them, very much like the principles of
digestion and pulmonary circulation are working within your body right
now without your help. Whether  you believe in these universal principles or
not, they are going to work. But should you decide to tune in to them, you
may find yourse lf living at an entirely new level and enjoying a higher kind
of awareness—an awakening, if you will. As long as you resist, you will not see the benefits. By this I mean you
will stay with your old ways, live the “I’ll believe it when I see it”
mentality. Hoard your toys and work even harder to accumulate more
money. Continue  to make appearances more important than quality. Live by
rules rather than ethics. If you are only slightly wavering, then stay with
what you are familiar with, until you can no longer resist. Because once you
start to make the transformational awakening journey, there is no going
back. You devel op a knowledge that is so powerful that you will wonder
how you could have lived any other way. The awakened life begins to own
you, and then you simply know  within that you are on the right path, and
you don’t even hear the protestations of those who have chosen something
quite dif ferent for themselves. I never imagined myself needing to change. I did not have a plan to
change my old ways, or a set of goals to improve anything in my life. I felt
confident that I had my life running the way I wanted it to. I was extremely
successful profe ssionally, and nothing seemed to me to be missing. Yet I
have undergone a major transformation that has added a luste r to each of
my days that I never even contemplated a few years ago. I was born in 1940, the youngest of three boys, all under the age of four. My father, whom I have never seen, abandoned this family when I was two. From all accounts, he was a troubled man who avoided honest work, drank
excessively, physically abused my mother, and had run-ins with the law and
spent some time in prison. My mother worked as a candy girl at a dime
store on the east side of Detroit, and her weekly wages of seventeen dollars
barely covered her streetcar and baby-sitting expenses. There was no aid to
dependent children or welfare then. I spent many of my early years in foster homes, where my mother visited
me whenever possible. All I knew of my father was what I heard from
others, particularly my two brothers. I pictured an abusive, noncaring
person who wanted nothing to do with me or my brothers. The more I
heard, the more I hated. The more I hated, the angrier I became. My anger
turned to curiosity, and I dreamed constantly about meeting my father and
confronting him directly. I became fixated on my hatred and on my desire
to meet this man and get the answers firsthand. By 1949 my mother had remar ried and reunited our family. Neither of
my brothers ever voluntarily mentioned my father, and my inquiries were
met with a look that implied, “He’s no damn good. Why do you want to
know any more about him. ” But my curiosity and my bad dreams persisted. Often I would wake up sweating and crying after a particularly intense
dreaming sequence about him. As I grew into adulthood my determination to meet this man became
even fiercer. I became obsessed with finding him. His side of the family
protected him, because they felt that my mother would have him arrested
for years of non-support. Yet I still asked questions, made phone calls to
relatives I didn’ t even know, and made trips to meet his ex-wives in distant
cities to discover what this man was like. Always, my search ended in
frustration. I would run out of funds to chase down a lead, or I would have
to return to my own personal responsibilities of being on active  duty in the
military, or going to college, or raising my family. In 1970 I received a call from a cousin I had never met, who had heard a
rumor that my father had died in New Orleans. But I was in no position to
investigate it. At the time I was completing my doctoral studies, moving to
New York to become an associate professor at St. John’ s University, going
through a painful divorce, and “stuck in place” when it came to my writing. In the next few years I co-authored several texts on counseling and
psychotherapy. I knew that I did not want to continue writing  for strictly
professional audiences, and yet nothing else would come to me. I was stuck,
personally (divorce), physically (overweight and out of shape), and
spiritually (a pure pragmatist with no thoughts about metaphysics). My
dreams about my father intensified. I would awaken in a fit of anger, having
been dreaming about beating my father while he smiled back at me. Then
came the turning point in my life. In 1974 a colle ague of mine at the university invited me to take an
assignment in the South. She was the coordinator of a federally financed
program that was looking into the compliance rate of Southern colleges to
the civil rights legislation of the 1960s. She wanted me to make a visit to
the Mississippi State College for Women in Columbus, Mississippi. When I
decided to go, I telephoned the infirmary in New Orleans where my cousin
had reported my father to have been, and I learned that Melvin  Lyle Dyer
had died there  ten years earlier of cirrhosis of the liver and other
complications, and that his body had been shipped to Biloxi, Mississippi. Columbus, Mississippi, is about  two hundred miles from Biloxi. I decided
that this was it—when I finished my visit at the college, I was going to
complete my journey and do whatever it took to close out this chapter in my
life. I contem plated bringing this unresolved relationship to some  kind of
resolution. I was curious to know  if my father had told the hosp ital officials
that he had three sons and if our names would be on the death certificate. I
wanted to talk to his friends in Biloxi to see if he had ever mentioned us. Did he ever secretly try to find out how his ex-wife and children were
doing. Did he care. Did he have a capacity for love that perhaps he had
hidden from everyone. Mostly I wanted to know how he could have turned
his back on his family for a lifetime. I always looked for a loving reason
that he might have left, and yet my anger at his behavior in those years still
haunted me. At thirty-four years  of age I was controlled by a man who had
been dead for almost a decade. I rented a brand-new car in Columbus to make the drive to Biloxi. I mean
brand -new. The odometer read 00000. 8 miles. As I settled in behind the
wheel I reached  for the lap belt and discovered that the right-hand belt was
missing. I got out of the car, took out the entire bench seat, and there was
the belt, attached to the floorboa rd of the car with masking tape, the buckle
encased in plastic wrapping, and a rubber band around the plastic wrapping. When I ripped off the tape and the plastic, I found a business card tucked
inside the buckle. It read: “Cand lelight Inn…Biloxi, Mississippi,” and had a
series of arrows leading to the inn. I thought it was odd, since  the car had
not been used before I rented it, but I stuck the card in my shirt pocket. I arrived at the outskirts of Biloxi at 4:50 P. M. on Friday and pulled into
the first gas station I saw to call the cemeteries in Biloxi. There  were three
listed, and after a busy signal at the first and no answer at the second, Idialed the third and least impressive listing. In response to my inquiry, an
elderly-sounding male voice said he would check to see if my father was
buried there. He was gone for a full ten minutes, and just as I was about to
give up and wait for Monday morning to do more research, he came back
with the words to end a lifetime journey. “Yes,” he said, “your father is
buried here,” and he gave me the date of his interment. My heart pounded with the emotion of this powerful moment. I asked
him if it would be all right if I visited the grave right away. “Certainly, if you will just put the chain up across the driveway when you
leave, you are welcome to come now,” he said. Before I could ask for
directions, he continued, “Your father is buried adjacent to the grounds of
the Candlelight Inn. Just ask someone at the station how to get there. ”
Shivering, I reached into my shirt pocket and looked at the business card
and the arrows on it. I was three blocks from the cemetery. When I finally stood looking at the marker on the grass, MEL VIN LYLE
DYER, I was transfixe d. During the next two and a half hours I conversed
with my father for the very first time. I cried out loud, obliv ious to my
surroundings. And I talked out loud, demanding answers from a grave. As
the hours passed, I began to feel a deep sense of relief, and I became very
quiet. The calmn ess was overwhelming. I was almost certain that my father
was right there with me. I was no longer talking to a gravesto ne, but was
somehow in the presence of something which I could not, and still cannot,
explain. When I resumed  my one-way conversation, I said, “I somehow feel as if I
were sent here today and that you had something to do with it. I don’t know
what your role is, or even if you have one, but I am certain that the time has
come to abandon this anger and hatred that I have carried around so
painfully for so long. I want you to know that as of this momen t, right now,
all of that is gone. I forgive you. I don’t know what motivated  you to run
your life as you did. I am sure that you must have felt many forlorn
moments know ing that you had three children you would never see. Whatever it was that was going on inside of you, I want you to know that I
can no longer think hateful thoughts about you. When I think of you it will
be with compas sion and love. I am letting go of all this disorder that is
inside me. I know in my heart that you were simply doing what you knew
how to do given  the conditions of your life at the time. Even though I have
no mem ory of ever having seen you, and even though it was my fondestdream to someday meet you face to face and hear your side, I will not let
those thoughts ever hold me back from also feeling the love I have for you. ”
As I stood at that lonely grave marker in southern Mississippi I said words
I’ve never forgotten, because they signified how I would be conducting my
life from then on: “I send you love…. I send you love…. Honestly, I send
you love. ”
In one pure hone st moment I experienced feeling forgiveness for the man
who was my father and for the child I had been who wanted to know and
love him. I felt a kind of peace and cleansing that was entirely new for me. Though I was unaware of it at the time, that simple act of forgiveness was
the beginning of an entirely new level of experiencing life for me. I was on
the thres hold of a stage of my life that was to encompass worlds I could not
even imagine in those days. When I went back to New York, miracles began to appear everywhere. I
wrote Your Erroneous Zones  with ease. An agent arrived in my life through
a series of “strange” circumsta nces at exactly the right mome nt. I had a
meeting with an executive of T. Y. Crowell Publishers, and a few days later
he called to tell me that Crowell was going to publish my book. Every step along the way of the Your Erroneous Zones  story was another
miracle waiting to happen. Strange and wonderful events occurred with
delightful frequency. The exactly “right” person would be there when
needed. The perfect contact would materialize out of the strangest
coincidences. My speaking schedule increased, and my performances in
front of audienc es became effortless. I abandoned my notes, though often
talking for six and eight hours at seminars. Later, these seminars became a
series of successful tapes. My personal family life improved almost
immediately, and I made decisions that I previously had ponde red over for
years. In what seemed fast-forward, I had achieved what most authors
dream about. I had the top-selling book in the United States and was having
the time of my life appearing on the talk shows. In the years that followed,
my writing seemed to be taking me in new directions. I went from writing
about “How to” utilize specific strategies in self-understanding to “How to”
become a more assertive human being. I went from telling peopl e how to do
something to writing about the importance of being at transcendent levels as
a human being. Today, I am convinced that my experience of forgivenes s, while
emotionally draining at the moment it was occurring, was the beginning ofmy transformation. It was my first encounter with the power of my own
mind to go beyond what I previously considered the constr aints of the
physical world and my physical body. Pablo Picasso said, “While I work I leave my body outside the door, the
way Moslems take off their shoes before entering the mosque. ” I did the
same thing as I wrote this book. I left my body outside the room. By that I
mean that I left outside the world of aches and intrusions which are
experienced in form, and allowed only my mind to enter my writing
domain. In this world of pure thought there are no limits. What  is the limit
to your imagination. This part of me that is my thoughts is pure energy
allowing the ideas to coalesce into words in my mind, and then into form on
my typewriter. No excuses, no fatigue, no fears, no anguish, simply energy
that is somehow flowing through me to you without any limitations. As I
create I know that these words and ideas are not mine to own. That I am the
conduit through which they flow, and that when I am open and unattached,
when I leave my body at the door as Picasso said, I am a part of the creative
process that is related to being awakened. This awakening process and the
rewards that go with being bitten by the transformational bug are precisely
what this book is about. To begin  the awakening process you must become very comfortable with
the concept of paradox. Why. Because you are one big walki ng, talking,
breathing parad ox at all mome nts of your life. It is simply the way of
things. The Bhagavad Gita, one of the most ancient spiritual books on our
planet, sums up paradox as follows:
By passion for the “pairs of opposites,”
By those twin snares of Like and Dislike, Prince,
All creatures live bewildered, save some few
Who, quit of sins, holy in act, informed,
Freed from the “opposites” and fixed in faith
Cleave unto Me. ”
And bewildered you will continue to be until you can get very comfortable
with opposites like the following. You are simultaneously in form, with all
of the rules and laws that apply to form, and in nonform, with a completely
opposite set of rules and laws. You are both shy and aggressive within the
same body. You are lazy and hardworking. You get the most approval whenyou care the least about it. The tighter you squeeze the water, the less you
have. The things that upset us in others are the lessons we have to learn
ourselves. You cannot exclusively examine the north pole of a magnet. No
matter how thin you slice it, there is always a south pole to consider. The
dualism is always there. Rather than dismissing this concept with your left-
brain linear side, remember that you have, at the same time, a right-brain
intuitive side that can allow opposites to live comfortably with each other. I
delight in Ram Dass’ s description of paradox in Be Her e Now:
The most exquisite paradox…as soon as you give it all up, you
can have it all…. As long as you want power, you can’t have it. The minute you don’t want power, you’ll have more than you
ever dreamed possible. Until you are blissfully comfortable with this concept, and until you
come to grips with your own predicament of being in form and formless
simultaneously, you will be struggling with this paradox. After listening to my tapes on transformation, a woman wrote to me,
“Wow, this stuff really works when you truly let it in. ” I couldn’ t say it any
better than that. But William James, writing back in 1926, put it this way:
The further limits of our being plunge, it seems to me, into an
altogether other dimension of existence from the visible world. Name it the mystical region, or the supernatural region,
whichever you choose…we belong to it in a more visible world. When we commune with it, work is actually done upon our finite
personality, for we are turned into new men. One thing I know for certain: by communing with all of these universal
principles, by writing about them, by living them every day, I have been
transformed into a new man, a happier, more purposeful, more fully alive
man than I ever dreamed possible for myself. Now I hope that my efforts
and energy are visible in this book and will help to make a positive, loving
difference in your life as well. In love and light,
Wayne W. Dyer1989
 
OceanofPDF. comTRANSFORMA TION
 
Transformation is the ability and willingness to live beyond your
form. I feel as if I have  gone through a gate which will not allow me to go back
to the place where I used to live. To me, going through the gate symbolizes
transformation. But what do I mean by that. Start with the word “form,” the center of transformation. It is a term that
describes the physical you. It includes all of the physiological properties
that you have come to associate with the human being that is you. Form
includes the total weight of your bones, arteries, blood vessels, skin,
eyeballs, toenails, heart, lungs,  kidneys, and anything else that you can
name in your physiology. Yet certainly you are much more than a pile of
bones, skin, and component parts. Everything that you would see in that
pile of form you will also find in a pig or a horse. The real you, the unique
you, is 99 percent invisible, untouchable, unsmellable, and impervious to
the physical senses, which know  only form. The largest chunk of who you
really are is something beyond form. It has been called your mind, or your
feelings, or your thoughts, or your higher consciousness, but whatever it is,
it certain ly is not form. All of your thought and your spiritual awareness are
in this other formless dimension. Now consider the prefix “trans,” which means “beyond,” “above,” or in
literal terms, “over. ” When we place that prefix in front of “form,” we get
“transform. ” We now add the suffix “ation,” which means “action” or
“result,” and we have the word  “transformation. ” To me this word means
the result or action of going beyond one’s form. And it is literally the
challenge of this book: to help you to see yourself as someone much more
advanced and divine than a mere form. Your form must follow the rules of form. It will change many times
during your lifetime. In fact, every single cell of your entire form will
change every seven years or so, and yet you will still exist. You were
already in a tiny little baby body, a preadolescent, a teenager body, and
depending on the current age of your form, in other bodies as well. The
form has completely changed many times, and yet the real you hasremained consta nt. Once you understand this concept you will be on your
way to going through the gate. Every man-mad e creation starts with a thought, an idea, a vision, a
mental image. The thought is then applied in some way to form a new
product. At this moment I am taking my thoughts, applying them to a
typewriter, and creating a new product called a book. We all go through this
process thousands of times every day. The ultimate in becoming a
transformed person is seeing ourselves as unlimited by our form. When you live exclusively in form, you live in a world of limitations. Think about all of the limits that are placed on your form. Limits are
boundaries that dictate things. You can only lift so much weight. You can
only run so fast. You can only work so hard. But limits are all in the
dimension of form. Now consider the part of you without physical limits, the dimension of
thought. There are no limits to your ability to think. You can imagine
yourself doing anything. You can have a perfect relationship with your mate
in pure thought. You can be anything, go anywhere, experience  all that you
want, in this dimension of thought, exclusive of form. I am suggesting that you can experience a major portion of your life in
this dimension of transcending your form, that is, in transforma tion. At the
same time you will be able to maintain your form and honor its
requirements and lovingly understand its signals, while still knowing it is
serving you, the real you. The emphasis in our culture is on the value of the
external, the physical appearan ce. I am suggesting that the emphasis be
shifted to a concern for the formless self, being ever mindful that the form
houses the real you. With enough practice in this dimension, you will
eliminate virtual ly all limitations in your life. You will get past your form,
and do as Paul suggests in Romans 12:2:
And be not conformed to this world: But be ye transformed  by
the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good,
and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. This is the place of transformatio n. This is the place where you can not only
live a miracle, but create miracles as well. You can make higher and higher levels of living a regular part of your
daily regimen without going to a guru or mastering courses in metaphysics. How. By believing you are a soul with a body rather than a body with a
soul. You will create for yourself a life that is literally without  limitations. You will begin to see miracles occurring simply because you believe in
them and expect them to mater ialize for you. In fact, you will become a
miracle worker yourself. You will begin to see the phenomenal miracle that you are when  it comes
to healing your own body. You will begin to change self-defeating habits
such as overeat ing and avoiding exercise, without having to set goals or
work at self-discipline. Your new habits will automatically follow your new
sense of appreciation for all that you are, even though you cannot define it
in physical terminology. Your belief in your body’ s ability to heal itself will
begin to reflect how you take care of the precious temple that houses you. Fear of death will dissolve as you come closer to an awareness that thought,
thinking, your essential self, never dies. Thought cannot die. It is the energy
that composes the very existence of the universe, and once you believe this
within your being, you will never need to fear death again. A beautiful woman by the name of Peace Pilgrim walked across this
country a few years back, spreading her message of peace and love and
personal transformation. She described the characteristics of personal
transformation in this short list. SOME SIGNS AND SYMPT OMS OF  INNER  PEACE
 
A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears
based on past experiences
 
An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment
 
A loss of interest in judging other people
 
A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others
 
A loss of interest in conflict
 
A loss of the ability to worry
 
Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation
 Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature
 
Frequent attacks of smiling
 
An increased susceptibility to the love extended by others as well
as the uncontrollable ur ge to extend it
This is what is in it for you. Life will become a fascinating journey, filled
with joy and awe. The part of you that resided for so long in the limitations
that you imposed  on yourself by living exclusively in form will become free
to see a whole new panorama…if and when you believe  it. You will find yourself slowing down and living in that quiet inner space
where you can appreciate what  comes your way. You will know in your
heart that you need not be threatened by the views or actions of anyone else. You will receive more joy and ease in your life, because that is what you
will be sending out. You will find it easier to accept contrary views,
knowing that you are not defined by anything or anyone external to
yourself. You will find great joy in the ease that replaces rancor and pain. You will elimina te conflict and confrontation as you find it unnecessary to
prove yourself to anyone. In effect, you will begin to tap the enormous
power of your mind. You will peacefully meditate though other s about you
may be in a frenzy. You will be the power of a quiet mind, and you will
choose to go there often. You will discover things about yourself that you
perhaps never considered before. You will be in that perfect intelligence that
is within all form, in that miraculous inner space where everything that you
can visualize is possible. I have come to know that there is an invisible, untouchable, odorless, and
yet very real intelligence in back of, or supporting, all form. This
intelligence has been labeled many things. Some call it God, others the life
force, higher consciousness, the divine spirit. The label is unimportant. The
living of it matte rs immensely. It is a feeling similar to what Carl Jung was
expressing when an interviewer asked him if he believed in God. His
startling answer was, “No. ” After a thoughtful pause, he continu ed, “I know
there is a God. ”
Observe a tree and contemplate the intelligence within or behind  that tree
that allows it to function perfect ly in form. The leaves come and go, the sap
drips out, it flowers when it is supposed to. It is much more than simpleform. It contains a life force that makes it alive. We cannot see that life
force, but it is very real. I look at the skin on the back of my hand quite often these days. When I
pinch it, it no longer snaps back as it once did; it sort of meanders back to
its origi nal position. There are wrinkles about my eyes that were never
there. I have taken to growing ear hairs, and losing head hairs. I see my
form changing all the time. If I thought that was all that I am, I would feel
distressed over my physical changes. But I know that I am much more than
this form that I occupy. I know that I am a soul with a body, rather than a
body with a soul. This thing that some call a soul and I call my being or my
self is the very essence of what we are. It is the intelligence behind the
form, and the biggest differenc e between me today and me several years
ago is that I now live the fact that I am not exclusively my form. Buckminster Fuller once said that 99 percent of who you are is invisible
and untouchable. It is your ability to think and go beyond your form that
determines the quality of your life. Being able to express and experience the
statement, “I am my ability to think and feel, I am not only form” is the
major transformational dif ference in my life today. I see myself having chosen a variety of roles in this lifetime. I used to
believe that those roles were the real me, and that everythin g that I did
determined my essence. I exper ience my form doing what I have chosen to
do, and at the same time I can get mentally in back of that form and observe
myself going through the doing motions of my humanity. Thus,  I work and
sweat, and play tennis, and write, and speak to large audiences, and make
love to my wife, and walk along the beach, and pay my bills, and strive to
save some mone y, and talk on the telephone about my investme nts, and hug
my children, and do all of the other actions that I choose for myself. Those
actions, those roles, have a magically enhanced quality to them when my
being is in the doing. When I involve that invisible, untouch able part of
myself, or my Self, then do I recognize that my physical self, my form, is
not all that I am. When I bring  my thoughts and feelings to my physical
actions I experience a balance,  a wholeness, a meness. My ability to be
thought itself is the real miracle that I am a part of. No one can get behind my eyeballs and experience my inner reality, and
likewise, I cannot enter anyone else’s form and become the process that is
that person’s. But I can and do allow myself to become my mind  rather than
my form. I now live each day as if that intelligence that is in all livingthings, including myself, is the real essence of life. I no longer  fear death,
since I know that we are never formed, but are always in a state of
transition, and that though form  may ultimately look as if it has died, you
simply cannot kill thought. The major difference that I note in myself is the phenomenal new
compassion that seems to have swept into my being in recent years. Where I
previously was able to ignore others or to live in my own world, so to
speak, now I find myself more emotionally connected to the inner energy of
all life forms. For instance, I do a lot of traveling for speaking engagements,
and in the past I have proceeded singlemindedly through a crowded airplane
to get to my seat. I now find myself helping someone stow hand  luggage in
the overhead compartment, when I would have squeezed by that person a
few years back. I love this new compassion. It empowers me to greater
things, and of course it helps to create a more loving experience  in others as
well. I also have found that I am developing a new-to-me style of intelligence,
without a conscious effort. I find that I have a sensitivity to and
understanding of concepts that at one time seemed fuzzy or bizarre. I enjoy
reading about quantum reality, relativity, metaphysics, and all measure of
Eastern thought, find it fascinating, where I previously  found it
unfathomable and even dull. In bookstores I find myself in the sections on
philosophy, the New Age, metap hysics, and the like, regretting that I do not
have the time to read everything  that is out there. I have a new fascination
with these subje cts, but, more significant, they seem to fit into my personal
readiness level now. I have beco me more open-minded about everything in
the universe. My vision allows me to explore without the judgment that
previously clouded it. Even more intriguing is that it now makes perfect sense to me. I
understand what was previousl y muddled. This is quite an extraordinary
awakening experience for me, and I am, quite frankly, in awe of it. I often
find myself reading books or listening to tapes that “blow me away” with
internal excitement. I am not sure if it is my openness to these new ideas, or
if I have  simply  developed a greater intelligence through my studies, but in
any case, I love it, and even more, I love sharing it with you and others. It is
as if in one swift instant I have begun to understand and live the teachings
of spirit ual masters. Not by prolonged study programs, not by trying toimprove my spiritual consciousness, simply by changing to a new me that is
filled with wonder at the miraculousness of it all. I also have a decreased sense of attachment to acquisitions and
possessions. I no longer identify  myself with my accomplishments and my
résumé. It is as if now that I am a me without boundaries, I have less
rigidity about defining myself. I feel as if I can stand in back of myself (of
my form) and allow my Self to be anything I want to be, witho ut having to
define myself by my deeds. I am defined by some internal knowingness or
beingness that defies external descriptors. It no longer matters as much
what  I accomplish as that I am in tune with my own sense of belonging to
the human race. Self labels are no longer necessary. It is not that the deeds have ceased, but that they are expressed in the
process of my own self-definiti on. The less importance I have  attached to
these externals, the fewer restrictions I find in my life. I feel capable of
anything at all, as long as I follow the inner voice which only I can hear. I sense a strong shift in my personal ethics. Anyone in my life who
attempts to be controlling or judgmental will not engage my emotional
energy. I have lost my need to prove myself or justify my beliefs. I have no
attachment to convincing anyon e of the rightness of my position or to be on
a confrontationa l receiving end of their viewpoint. A peaceful sense of who
I am radiates and intermingles with respect for otherness. I have found that some of my personal relationships have grown deeper
and more profound, particularly with my wife and immediate family, while
others have become less important. I still enjoy myself immensely in the
company of others at a social gathering, but I no longer defin e myself as
needing to be a part of these activities, whereas they played a much larger
role in earlier years. I prefer spending time alone or in the rich close
personal relationships I enjoy with my family and a few associates. Virtually all dependency relationships, except for those with my small
children, are nonexistent in my life. I am uninterested in having others
dependent on me for their emotional or any other kind of sustenance. Paradoxically, I have become more generous in giving myself to others. I
enjoy more than anything else in my life helping others. It is both strange
and wonderful to function exclusively on what I know to be my truth and at
the same  time to welcome without judgment those who are operating at a
different frequency. Similarly, I find it easier to radiate at my own
frequency, and to ignore the pleadings of others to live my life their way. What has happe ned is that the boundary between my Self and others has
dissolved. I see others on their own paths and I can now love them for being
precisely where they are. When others attempt to impose their self-serving values and attitudes on
me, as I once did on others, I know that this can alter my balance and
harmony. But now I simply shift into being a peaceful observer of what
they are expressing about thems elves and their truth. The authentic me, the
thoughts and inner feelings that I live, are no longer engaged in defense,
and I can watch  without a need to prove them wrong. My path remains
crystal-clear. This is a new kind of vision that allows me to live in
formlessness and form at the same time without being threatened or
controlled by anyone. It is a gloriously peaceful place. I have lost my ability to blame others for the circumstances of my life. I
no longer view the world in terms of unfortunate accidents or misfortunes. I
know in my being that I influence it all, and now find myself considering
why I created a situation, rather than saying, “Why me. ” This heightened
awareness direc ts me to look inside of myself for answ ers. I take
responsibility for all of it, and the interesting puzzle becomes a fascinating
challenge when I decide to influence areas of my life in which I previously
believed I was not in control. I now feel that I control it all. I know that I create what I have and what I need, and that I am capable of
performing miracles when I am balanced inwardly and using my thinking
dimension to create the world that I want for myself. I know now that my
circumstances do not make me what I am, but that they reveal who I have
chosen to be. The quieter I can make my mind, the more I can perceive the
link betw een my thoughts and how I feel. The quieter my mind, the less
judgmental and negative I tend to be. Having a quiet mind gives me a
peaceful life, and helps other s around me to choose peace ful, serene,
effective lives for themselves. Consequently, how I think can directly affect
those around me. It was said of Jesus and Buddha and other highly spiritual
beings that their presence in a village could raise the consc iousness of
everyone in the village. I can now value and appreciate that idea. I have
found that when I am totally at peace within, and radiate that serenity
outward, the consciousness of those in the same room with me can become
peaceful. Recently I gave a speech to a large audience in Chicago, and in the room
were some five hundred children, many of them toddlers and infants. Thenoise level was quite high, but after a while I became accustomed to it and
it was not bothe rsome. At one particularly poignant moment in the speech,
as I was about to recite a gentle poem that is very meaningfu l to me, the
entire room, including the infants and toddlers, became silent. A kind of
magic communication was transmitted to everyone, through the dimension
of thought. The changes in myself and my life patterns have all happened without
goals or any life plan. Yet these inner changes are as much a part of me as
are my lungs and my heart. Similarly, there have been many  changes in my physical way of being in
the world. I run a minimum of eight miles daily, and have not missed a day
since I began at age thirty-six. Not once. I tell people that running is not
something that I do, it is something I am. It is a part of my being. It fits as
regularly into my health regimen as does being scrupulous about dental
care. Simply what I am as a healthy human being. My “old me” was well aware of the benefits to my form. Thos e benefits
remain and continue while I now experience a new level  of benefit
involving my inner Self, a loss of myself, an unawareness of my physicality
as I run. I now have higher levels of energy than I ever experie nced, and I
attribute it and my involvemen t in being healthy and fit to my higher -
consciousness approach to life. I find it interesting that I eat no red meat, which I once thrived on; that I
eat my food without adding salt, where I used to use the salt shaker before I
even tasted my food; that sugar, caffeine, and other nutritionally empty
foods are seldom part of my diet. I find all that interesting, but what is
astonishing  to me is that this tendency towa rd wholesome eating habits has
flowed from a more loving approach to myself and to all of life, not from a
desire to enhance my physical attractiveness or strength or to achieve
physical longevity. I seem to be trusting some sort of inner perfect consultant rather than
relying on cultural norms, old habits, or what I was taught as I grew up. The
part of me that wants to be in balance is choosing my food intake. I feel
balanced inside, and somehow this almost magically translates to a
salubrious approach to nutrition and exercise. I seldom wear a watch, yet a few years ago I would not be caugh t without
one. Time has lost its importa nce in the linear sense, and I do not feel
compelled to keep track of when  and where and how fast I live my life. Thishappened witho ut any goals or objectives. I simply stopped wearing a
watch and referring to time and scheduling my life, and I have found that I
am more ef ficient as a result. I am intrigued with the paradox of letting go of a need or desire for time
limits and feeling I have discovered unlimited time for things I want to do. More than that even. Without physical time constraints, my life not only
flows more ef ficiently but has increased richness and texture. I experie nce the paradox of letting go of time limits quite often in places
like checkout lines in stores. I am sure you too know the feelings that the
“old me” had when someone ahead of me in line was taking too long to
complete a transaction—I was impatient, agitated, critical; I even crowded
closer to try to prod the slow person on. The “new me” does not feel
trapped in time and therefore does not need to worry about getting out of
the store in a prescribed number of minutes. Instead I often experience a
new level of being with time. I discover my Self in thought a part of the
person checking out. My thoughts are of kindness and gentleness toward my
slowness or awkwardness, a loving message of relaxation and nonpressure
to the me that has been there, is there. The permission of unconditional love
which I would choose for myself in that situation seems to trans mit itself to
the other person and help him or her find the right coin or whatever else is
needed. And often this thought process creates a smile, an understanding
energy between that person and my Self, a richness and texture. One of the most beautiful and at the same time hardest-to -describe
interactions is the experience of physical and emotional intimacy with
another person. The physical orgasmic sensations are truly wonderful
aspects of our sexuality. But the soaring inner emotional loving feelings are
a beautiful part of this experien ce. Sex to me is now perfect love, rather
than the obligato ry function of a married man. Making love is an expression
of the inner love which we can reach, when we are both balanced and
fulfilled, and it is our mutual expression of that love. I have lost the desire to organize myself in strictly linear ways, and in the
process my life has become richer, more fluid and flowing and perfectly
balanced. My new perspective allows me to tackle any project with a sense
of inner excitement and the awareness that I do not have to prove myself or
be judged by the results. I simply am who I am, doing what I choose to do,
with a sense of acceptance about the outcome or lack of outcome. Interestingly, I accomplish more and acquire more (which I give away inlarge measure). I achieve more than I ever dreamed possible  in my old
linear days. My diminished motivation to achieve and acquire is particularly
noticeable when it comes to competition. Earlier in my life I was always
having to beat the other guy in order to prove myself. In recent years my
inclination is away from comp etition. I still play tennis, but I send my
opponent good wishes right in the middle of a tough match, and somehow,
paradoxically, I raise my own level of play. I feel this is a natural result of
radiating out from my Self the feelings and thoughts of uncond itional love
and nonjudgment. Cooperation has replaced competition in all facets of my life, and the
results are amaz ing for myself and all the others whom I touch  in one way
or another. I feel strongly attracted to the message in the statement “In a
world of individuals, compariso n makes no sense at all. ” External events
are irrelevant to me except to the extent they produce order or disorder in
the world. I assess whatever I do. If an act produces some kind of harmony
for myse lf and others, it is a positive act. If it creates turbulence  or disorder,
I will work to reverse the impact. I see my mission  as helping others to shift their consciousness, so that all
of their waking thoughts and actions are in the direction of order and
harmony. It means living as if the intelligence behind all form really
matters, and not doing anything that destroys or harms life. Tapping into the
inner energy that is our Self with an accepting attitude contributes to a
personal sense of balance and harmony. As more and more of us evolve to
this personally balanced level, we will create the outer form in our world. In
this way, we will all participate in the transformation of our universe. I revel
in the love of life and learning of my six beautiful children. I teach only
love and I see them treating one another and people outside the family in
the same way. My wife and I have grown to love and respect ourselves and our own
uniqueness, so that we are able to radiate that inner glow outw ard toward
each other. We have a wonderful absence of judgment and negativity
toward each other, because we have both learned to be that way within
ourselves. Disagreements, yes. Disagreeableness, never. I want to emphasize that this new me is still assertive and firm about my
own life. I am not making the case for gushing sugar and honey at the evils
of the world, in the hope that they will disappear. On the contrary, what Iam expe riencing is a much deeper involvement with life, wherein I know
precisely what I am about, and I cannot be deterred from that path. I am
able to stay on my path, doing what I love and loving what I do, precisely
because I have transformed myself from a person who had absolute
judgments which required fixed and rigid responses to a perso n who sees
and knows that any human experience is an opportunity to reflect on where
I am or am not. It comes down to surrendering some old, deeply entrenched
patterns. It means catching myself right in the middle of acting in a
nonharmonious way, and seeing  that this is where I am and also where I am
not right now. Then it means using my mind to be where I want to be inside
of myself, and slowly but surely moving more in the direction of that inner
harmony. Recently I had an experience that illustrates how this works. My wife
told me that one of the children  had done something wonderful in her first-
grade class, and she concluded by saying, “I am so glad that I worked with
her on this project and taught her how to perform in front of the class
without any anxiety or self-dou bt. ” At an earlier time in my life I would
have said, “Wait a minute. I am the one who taught her that behavior, and
you want to take all of the credit. You do that all the time. ” My reaction
now is: “Great. I am so happy that she is gaining confidence, and you are a
great help to her in this regard. ” Inside, I feel I also contributed to her
success, and I can appreciate  my internal feeling without demanding
external acknowledgment. I know that our daughter ’s confid ence is the
result of numerous inputs from both of us, from her own inner self, and
from many others as well. My happiness is for her; it is not based on
needing some credit, or on taking some credit away from  my wife. Competition and turbulence inside me have been replaced by inner peace
and harmony. It is unconditional love, beginning with Self. When you retreat to your peace ful inner solitude, you enter that fourth
dimension that opens up an entirely new world. But, before you can get
there, you may need to examine your resistance to this powerful new idea
of self-transformation. WHY  YOU MA Y BE RESISTING THIS PRINCIPLE
 
Why would anyone choose to resist this state of being. Possibl y to remain
in the illusion of safety. As long as you are convinced that you are only yourform, you needn’ t consider your own greatness and the risks that go with
transformation. Think about it for a moment. All of the impediments to your success and
happiness can be neatly explained away as simply the boundaries of your
physical existen ce. In this fram e of mind you can decide that other people
are just plain lucky or they were born with advantages you did not get, or
they got all the breaks. These are the thoughts of someone who remains
stuck in form. To experience transformation requires opening up to the
possibility of an entirely new idea. Most of us reject new ideas for the
safety of those to which we have become so comfortably accustomed. It is also quite comfortable and natural to take the opposite position from
that in the title of this book. That is, “I’ll believe it when I see it. And not a
moment before. ” Most people do not like to go beyond their comfort zones. You may know in your heart that life resists purely physical explanations
and that science cannot conclusively answer questions such as “What is
life. Where does it go when it dies. How do I think. ” Despite this
awareness you may prefer to stay with that which you can see— that is, with
form and form alone. Perhaps believing in formlessness is just too spooky
and weird for you at this time. Yet you know in your heart that you have to
be much more than just that body you live in. It is risky in the beginning to toss out all of the old comforts and take the
step that will allow you to interact with your inner beingness. That is where
you live, in that inner place. That is where you feel everything. That is
where all of your thoughts reside. And you may not be quite ready to
explore this place where you have complete responsibility for all that you
are experiencing. You might also resist transforma tion because you are afraid of change, or
of examining something that you do not understand. I call this the head-in-
the-sand approac h to your own spirituality. “Let someone in a pulpit preach
about what I am supposed to do in the spiritual realm. Me. I’ll take care of
paying off my mortgage. All of this mystical stuff is for deep  thinkers or
dedicated religio us believers. ” We have been conditioned to believe that
matters pertaining to higher consciousness are the concern primarily of
organized religi ous leaders. Yet if you consider the teachings of highly
spiritual masters, they all say the same thing in different ways. “The
kingdom of heaven is within. ” “Do not ask God to do it for you, but in factrecognize your own great divinity and magnificence. ” “Look within, not
without. ”
You may feel that an attempt to achieve personal transformation conflicts
with your specific religious training. But nothing that I am writing about
conflicts with the teachings of the spiritual masters. Nothing. Transformation is about love, peace, personal fulfillment, treating others
with respect, and achieving harmony on this planet as one family of man. Nothing I write about is in any way an attempt to criticize or ridicule
anyone’ s religious beliefs. While I find some of the acts that are perpetrated
against human beings in the name of God or organized religion anathema, I
do not find fault with the essential beliefs of the religion. A transformed
being is incapable of behaving in nonspiritual ways toward others. Finally, you may resist this process of transformation because you feel
that you really do not have the capacity to transcend the life that you have
created for yourself. You may feel that you have in fact reached  the limit of
how far you can go, and you do not want the stress and anxiety that goes
with soaring above the life to which you have accustomed yourself. You
may not want to im agine what you can be, because you are not ready to
make that shift,  you want to stay with the familiar and within your own
zone of comfort. Most of your resistance to accepting the possibility of transformation
comes from being willing to carry on pretty much as you always have. Yet,
I know that you would not be reading these pages this moment if you were
not at least curious about the possibility of soaring beyond that which you
have known as your accustome d life-style up until now. And I can assure
you that there is very little real work to do. Once you realize that you are
much more than a pile of bones, muscle, organs, and blood, you are on your
way. Once you begin to ask who this person is that you have come to call
yourself, you are on your way. Once you begin to realize that you yourself
are divine just by the fact that you have a mind and a universal intelligence
that backs up your form, you are already zooming ahead. The rest will
happen almost automatically. SOME SUGGESTIONS FOR PERSONAL  TRANSFORMA TION
 
 Practice thinking about yoursel f and others in formless ways. Take a
few moments each day to evaluate yourself not in terms of your
performance in the physical world, but in terms of pure thought and
feeling. Imagine yourself actua lly standing in back of your physical
self. Watch yourself acting and interacting and feel what you are
feeling. Do not criticize or judge, simply note how your form is
behaving and what it is feeling. Be an observer as your form is going
through its chosen motions. Use the observe r exercise with other people. Begin to notice how they
destroy their potential for happi ness and success because they identify
exclusively with their forms. As you watch them going throug h their
frustrating motions, know that this is not really the total human being
at all, that behind each one of the people you meet every single  day is
a divine  invisible thinking being. In your close relationships, meet
your loved ones in a place where there can be no limits, in thought
behind the form, and you will see that most of your differences are
unimportant, that the real human  being behind that form is much more
than your physical eyes reveal. Vow to relate to that part. Make an effort to go beyond your own comfort zones on a regular
basis. Listen to the real you inside who is encouraging you to
transcend yours elf, rather than the old you who said you were
incapable of such a task. Ask yourself, “What patterns in my life do I
continuously repeat because that is where I am most comfortable. ”
When you have  an honest answ er, work to begin a new approach to
your thought processes. If you have not spent any time in the
wilderness because the idea violates one of your comfort zones, make
a comm itment to do precisely that. By extending yourself to new
levels, you will put transformation in your life. Make an effort to cease labelin g yourself as a means of identifying
who you are as a human being. Long ago I stopped identifying myself
by any professi onal title. When people ask me what I do, I usually
reply with some silly remark like “Pleasure is my business. ” Yet
behind that little wisecrack is a lot of truth. I do everything because I
am everything. Yes, of course I write, but that is only a small portionof what I am, and essentially my writing is a means of expressing my
thoughts. Yes, I do professional speaking, but again that label would
only serve to restrict me. My speaking is also an expression of my
humanity. Eliminating the titles and labels reduces our inclination to
compartmentalize and restrict our lives. Søren Kierkegaard said,
“Once you label me, you nega te me. ” Almost all of our labels refer
somehow to form and what we do with our physical bodies. When you
stop identifying yourself exclusively through form, then your
profession, age, race, sex, nationality, financial picture, list of
accumulations, awards, handicaps, level of fitness, and any other label
become meaningless. Discontinuing the labeling process will help you
to define who you are in more spiritual and profound terms. If you
must label, try this one on: “I am connected to the perfect intelligence
that supports all form, and there fore I am a part and parcel of it all. I
have no limitatio ns and no compartments. I am not going to get it all, I
am it all already. ”
Begin to view your mind, your nonform side, as new and miraculous. Know that your mind is capable of transcending your form, and that
your body is in large part controlled by your mind. Imagine yourself
with a lemon in your hand. Now imagine bringing the lemon close to
your mouth and biting right into it. This exercise will create a rush of
saliva into your mouth, as your body’ s reaction to the imaginary
invasion of citric acid. This is transformation in action. Your mind is
causing your physical self to respond. That is precisely what hypnosis
is about. It is a way of directly contacting the state of mind that allows
you to transcend your form, to transcend pain by refusing to register
painful signals. This amazing power is always with you. Work each day to clear yourself of the two factors that do the most to
inhibit your personal transformation: negativity and judgment. The more negative your thoughts, the more likely you are to look
exclusively at the physical side of you, and to behave in such a way as
to destroy your body as well. Every negative thought is an inhibitor to
personal transformation. It keeps you clogged up just as cholesterol
clogs up an artery. When you are filled with negativity, you are kept
from attaining higher and more bountiful levels of happiness. The inclinatio n to judge other s also serves as a gigantic inhibitor of
your personal transformation. When you judge another person, you do
not define him or her, you define yourself. Your judgment of another
says nothing at all about that person; it only says that you need to
judge the person in the way that you are doing. So you are saying more
about yourself than about the other. When you find yourself thinking and behaving in negative or
judgmental terms, remind yourself that this is an indication of both
where you are at the moment and where you are not; that here may be
a signal that you are identifying in some way with the judged person. What bothers us most about others quite often is something we refuse
to acknowledge in ourselves, or even something we need more of. Try
to be more interested in what is causing you to feel judgmental than in
what is “wrong ” with that other person. After a while you will find
yourself replacing negativity and judgment with a gentle and loving
inward look at why this is “hooking” you. Higher consciousn ess or
personal transformation involves putting the golden rule into practice,
and when you slip, applying that same rule to yourself. You will
discover that the world has not changed, but that you are now a totally
different human  being, a transfo rmed human being. It is truly a great
feeling to take over your own inner life. Examine how you treat the physical or visible you. As you begin the
clearing process above, you will find yourself becoming more and
more in balance, improving your exercise habits and nutritional intake. As negativity and judgment go, so will habits of self-abuse directed at
your form. You will begin to know that the food you eat is maintaining
the wondrous temple that houses your being. You will see the old self-
defeating habits of form-destruction disappear, and you will honor the
form as a manif estation of you. It all works perfectly together, when
you allow it. Allow yourself time to meditat e quietly by yourself. Meditation is a
powerful tool, and it is as simple  as breathing. You should choos e your
own style of meditation. Maybe it will help you if I tell you a little bit
about mine. I go to a quiet place, and with eyes closed, I visualize a pastel kind oflight. Any thought is pushed away by the power of the light. As I
become more and more peacefu l I see a white light in the center of the
field of pastel and feel I am moving closer and closer to the white. When I finally go through that light, it is very much like going through
the gate I described. I feel energized and totally in control of myself
and my surround ings. “Exquisit e peace” is the best term I can think of
for this place. I feel as rested as if I had slept soundly for eight hours. When I leave this level I feel totally connected to all of mankind. In
fact, I call this meditation my connection to all of eternity, because
someplace deep inside of me I am freed from my form completely. After meditating  I know that I can accomplish anything. Some  of my
most profound ideas, my very best speeches, and my most personally
satisfying writing emer ge after meditating. And my appreciation for
my loved ones can only be described as a peak experience. Try it. Use your own method. But give yourself the time and quiet
space to be alone with the invis ible you. Miracles are waiting for you
in that spectacular space. Go there. It is truly exquisite. Above all else, be kind and understanding of yourself. Be especially
kind to yourself if you behave in a way that you dislike. Talk kindly to
yourself. Be patient with yourself when you find it difficult to be a
“holy” person. It takes a lot of practice, just as it took a lot of practice
to develop neurotic and judgme ntal habits. Forgive yourself, and then
when you do not act as you want to, use your actions as a reminder of
where you are and where you are not. The more you extend kindness
to yourself, the more it will become your automatic response to others. By way of summary, I offer the broccoli metaphor. Imagine yourself going
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Here is a summarized version of the Introduction (**approximately** **150-word count**, ensuring accuracy & specificity):

"The author introduces 'believing'/'seeing', emphasizing that readers won't grasp transformative outcomes unless aligned with fundamental principles discussed throughout the chapters. Unspoken assumptions hinder growth towards desired transformations ('‘It looks suspicious. '). However, genuine progress demands embracing divergent perspectives ("forgotten"). Since the written language falls beneath actual experience,'realization unfolds. ' Recognizing interconnected connections among humans fosters unity and comprehension [emphasis]. Within introspection lies empowerment. "



For Chapters 1–Chapters (), please assist summariz. (Please proceed. ).
The title is "You'll See It When You Believe It", and it refers to personal transformation.
What is the title of the book, and what does it refer to?
The author is promoting the idea that one must believe in their own potential and transcend their physical form to achieve personal transformation.
What is the author's main message in this book?
The author believes that forgiveness is a crucial step in personal transformation and encourages the reader to let go of blame, judgment, and hatred.
What is the author's perspective on the concept of forgiveness?
The author advises the reader to practice meditation, focus on the formless aspect of themselves, and learn to forgive and let go of negative patterns.
What is the author's suggestion for overcoming the resistance to transformation?
The author emphasizes the importance of understanding and accepting that one is more than just their physical form, and encourages the reader to recognize and transcend their attachment to their physical body.
What is the author's stance on the concept of form and formlessness?