156 asking about the prophet in his sermons to the ignorant sinners and vices is obligatory. whoever preaches with harshness and sullenness has erred and transgressed his way and in most cases has become a temptation for the one being admonished to persist in his matter being stubborn angry and irritating the harsh preacher. thus he is doing wrong in his sermon not doing good. whoever preaches with a smile and kindness as if he is giving advice and informing someone other than the one being admonished of what is ugly in the one being admonished then that is more eloquent and effective in admonition. if he does not accept then let him move to admonishing with respect and in private. if he does not accept then in the presence of someone the one being admonished would be ashamed of. this is the etiquette of allah almighty in his command to speak kindly. the prophet did not confront with admonition but he would say what is wrong with people who do such and such? peace be upon him he praised his gentleness commanded ease and forbade alienation. he would turn to preaching for fear of boredom. god almighty said {and if you had been rude and harsh in heart they would have disbanded from around you} . as for harshness and severity they are only required in one of gods limits so there is no leniency in that for the one who is able to implement the limit.
١٥٦ الاتساء بالنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم في وعظه أهل الجهل والمعاصي والرذائل واجب، فمن وعظ بالجفاء والاكفهرار فقد أخطأ وتعدى طريقته وصار في أكثر الأمور مغريا للموعوظ بالتمادي على أمره لجاجا وحردا ومغايظة للواعظ الجافي، فيكون في وعظه مسيئا لا محسنا. ومن وعظ ببشر وتبسم ولين وكأنه مشير برأي ومخبر عن غير الموعوظ بما يستقبح من الموعوظ فذلك أبلغ وأنجع في الموعظة. فغن لم يتقبل فلينتقل إلى الوعظ بالتحشيم وفي الخلاء. فإن لم يقبل ففي حضرة من يستحيي منه الموعوظ. فهذا أدب الله تعالى في أمره بالقول اللين. وكان صلى الله عليه وسلم لا يواجه بالموعظة، لكن كان يقول ما بال أقوام يفعلون كذا . وقد أثنى عليه السلام على الرفق، وأمر بالتيسير، ونهى عن التنفير، وكان يتحول بالموعظة خوف الملل. وقال تعالى {ولو كنت فظا غليظ القلب لانفضوا من حولك} وأما الغلظة والشدة فإنما تجب في حد من حدود الله، فلا لين في ذلك للقادر على إقامة الحد