it is not for a believing man or a believing woman when allah and his messenger have decided a matter that they should have any choice about their affair. and whoever disobeys allah and his messenger has certainly strayed into clear error.
وما كان لمؤمن ولا مؤمنة إذا قضى الله ورسوله أمرا أن يكون لهم الخيرة من أمرهم ومن يعص الله ورسوله فقد ضل ضلالا مبينا