it is not for a believer man or woman when allah and his messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. and whoever disobeys allah and his messenger he has indeed strayed in a plain error.
وما كان لمؤمن ولا مؤمنة إذا قضى الله ورسوله أمرا أن يكون لهم الخيرة من أمرهم ومن يعص الله ورسوله فقد ضل ضلالا مبينا