110 if you give advice do so in private and with gentle words. do not attribute the insults of the person you are speaking to to someone else lest you become a gossiper. if you are harsh in your words when giving advice this is a temptation and aversion. god almighty said and speak to him with gentle speech . and the messenger of god may god bless him and grant him peace said do not repel . if you give advice on the condition that it be accepted from you then you are unjust and may be mistaken in the way you give advice so you will be required to accept your mistake and abandon what is right.
١١٠ إذا نصحت ففي الخلاء وبكلام لين، ولا تسند سب من تحدثه إلى غيرك فتكون نماما. فإن خشنت كلامك في النصيحة فذلك إغراء وتنفير. وقد قال تعالى وقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم لا تنفر . وإن نصحت بشرط القبول منك فأنت ظالم ولعلك مخطئ في وجه نصحك فتكون مطالبا بقبول خطئك وبترك الصواب.