it was through gods mercy that you dealt with them gently for had you been stern and hard of heart they would surely have broken away from you. so pardon them and pray that forgiveness be theirs and seek their counsel in all affairs and when you have come to a decision place your trust in god alone for he loves those who place their trust in him.
فبما رحمة من الله لنت لهم ولو كنت فظا غليظ القلب لانفضوا من حولك فاعف عنهم واستغفر لهم وشاورهم في الأمر فإذا عزمت فتوكل على الله إن الله يحب المتوكلين