so by mercy from allah you were lenient with them. and if you had been rude and harsh in heart they would have disbanded from about you. so pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. and when you have decided then rely upon allah. indeed allah loves those who rely .
فبما رحمة من الله لنت لهم ولو كنت فظا غليظ القلب لانفضوا من حولك فاعف عنهم واستغفر لهم وشاورهم في الأمر فإذا عزمت فتوكل على الله إن الله يحب المتوكلين