on his authority the man should entrust his matter in this to a wise man who is often with him and is with him and he should ask him and implore him and stress to him that he should inform him of all the faults he knows in him and inform him that this is the most beloved thing to him and the most appropriate for him and that his favor to him is magnified in that and thanks are multiplied and he should ask him not to be shy about that or flatter him and inform him that whenever he is lenient and lies about something in him he has wronged him and deceived him and deserves blame for it. so if the honorable man begins to inform him and inform him of what is in him and what has become apparent and clear to him from him he should not show him grief or shame rather he should show him pleasure at what he hears and eagerness for what he has not heard from him. if he sees him in a state in which he has concealed something out of shyness from it or has fallen short in expressing the ugliness or beauty of that he should blame him for that and show him his grief for it and inform him that he does not like that from him and only wants to be explicit and inform him of what he sees on his face. if he finds it in another state he may
عنه فينبغي أن يسند الرجل أمره في هذا إلى رجل عاقل كثير اللزوم له والكون معه، ويسأله ويضرع إليه ويؤكد عليه أن يخبره بكل ما يعرفه فيه من المعايب، ويعلمه أن ذلك أحب الأشياء إليه وأوقعها عنده، وأن المنة عليه منه تعظم في ذلك والشكر يكثر، ويسأله أن لا يستحييه في ذلك ولا يجامله، ويعلمه أنه متى تساهل وضجع في شيء منه فقد أساء إليه وغشه واستوجب عليه اللائمة عليه. فإذا أخذ الرجل المشرف يخبره ويعلمه ما فيه وما ظهر وبان له منه لم يظهر له اغتماما ولا استخزاء، بل اظهر له سرورا بما يستمع وتشوقا إلى ما لم يستمع منه. فإن رآه في حال ما قد كتمه شيئا استحياء منه أو قصر في العبارة عن تقبيح ذلك أو حسنها لامه على ذلك وأظهر له اغتماما به، وأعلمه أنه لا يحب ذلك منه ولا يريد إلا التصريح وإعلامه ما يراه على وجهه. فإن وجده في حال أخرى قد