there are people whose love is not valid except after a long period of fear much observation and continuous familiarity. this is what is likely to last and become established and the bitterness of nights will not be woven into it. what entered with difficulty will not exit with ease. this is my school of thought. it has been reported in the tradition that god almighty said to the spirit when he commanded it to enter the body of adam who was clay and it was afraid and distressed enter reluctantly and exit reluctantly. we told it from our sheikhs.
ومن الناس من لا تصح محبته إلا بعد طول المخافتة وكثير المشاهدة وتمادى الأنس، وهذا الذي يوشك أن يدوم ويثبت ولا يحيك فيه مر الليالي، فما دخل عسيرا لم يخرج يسيرا، وهذا مذهبي. وقد جاء في الأثر أن الله عز وجل قال للروح حين أمره أن يدخل جسد آدم، وهو فخار، فهاب وجزع ادخل كرها واخرج كرها. حدثناه عن شيوخنا.