 among them that people will indulge in a conversation and you have the same or better of it as they do so they will compete to show what they have. if you compete with them you will be one of them and if you hold back they will demand that of you so it will be as if you are thanking them for your conversation and they will listen to you as they would not listen to anyone else.
ومنها أن يفيض القوم في حديث، عندك منه مثل ما عندهم أو أفضل، فيتنافسون في إظهار ما عندهم، فإن نافستهم كنت واحدا منهم، وإن أمسكت اقتضوك ذلك، فصرت كأنك ممتن عليهم بحديثك، وأنصتوا لك ما لم ينصتوا لغيرك.