it was thanks to allahs mercy that you were gentle to them. had you been rough hardhearted they would surely have scattered away from you. so pardon them and pray for their forgiveness and take counsel from them in matters of importance. and when you are resolved on a course of action place your trust in allah surely allah loves those who put their trust .
فبما رحمة من الله لنت لهم ولو كنت فظا غليظ القلب لانفضوا من حولك فاعف عنهم واستغفر لهم وشاورهم في الأمر فإذا عزمت فتوكل على الله إن الله يحب المتوكلين