it was said to urwah ibn adi ibn hatim when he was a boy at a banquet they had stand at the door and keep out those you do not know and admit those you do know. he said by god the first thing you are asked to do is not to prevent people from eating.
وقيل لعروة بن عدي بن حاتم وهو صبي، في وليمة كانت لهم قف بالباب فاحجب من لا تعرف وائذن لمن تعرف. فقال لا يكون والله أول شيء استكفيته منع الناس من الطعام.