it is by of grace from god that you were gentle with them. had you been harsh hardhearted they would have dispersed from around you. so pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the conduct of affairs. and when you make a decision put your trust in god god loves the trusting.
فبما رحمة من الله لنت لهم ولو كنت فظا غليظ القلب لانفضوا من حولك فاعف عنهم واستغفر لهم وشاورهم في الأمر فإذا عزمت فتوكل على الله إن الله يحب المتوكلين