seek help with patience and prayer this is indeed an exacting discipline but not to the humble who know for certain that they will meet their lord and that they will return to him.
واستعينوا بالصبر والصلاة وإنها لكبيرة إلا على الخاشعين الذين يظنون أنهم ملاقو ربهم وأنهم إليه راجعون