a marital relation can only be resumed after the first and second divorce otherwise it must be continued with fairness or terminated with kindness. it is not lawful for you to take back from women what you have given them unless you are afraid of not being able to observe gods law. in this case it would be no sin for her to pay a ransom to set herself free from the bond of marriage. these are the laws of god. do not transgress against them those who do so are unjust.
الطلاق مرتان فإمساك بمعروف أو تسريح بإحسان ولا يحل لكم أن تأخذوا مما آتيتموهن شيئا إلا أن يخافا ألا يقيما حدود الله فإن خفتم ألا يقيما حدود الله فلا جناح عليهما فيما افتدت به تلك حدود الله فلا تعتدوها ومن يتعد حدود الله فأولئك هم الظالمون