perhaps the beloved is reluctant to show his complaint and is fed up with hearing the affliction so you see the lover then suppressing his grief and repressing his sorrow and concealing his illness while the beloved is a swindler so then an apology for every sin and an admission of the crime occurs and the person is innocent of it submitting to his words and abandoning his opposition. i know someone who was afflicted with such a thing and he did not cease directing sins at him although he was not at fault and inflicting reproach and anger on him although his skin was pure.
وربما كان المحبوب كارها لإظهار الشكوى متبرما بسماع الوجد، فترى المحب حينئذ يكتم حزنه ويكظم أسفه وينطوي على علته، وإن الحبيب متجن، فعندها يقع الاعتذار عن كل ذنب والإقرار بالجريمة، والمرء منها بريء، تسليما لقوله وتركا لمخالفته. وإني لأعرف من دهي بمثل هذا فما كان ينفك من توجيه الذنوب نحوه ولا ذنب له، وإيقاع العتاب عليه والسخط وهو نقي الجلد.