it is reported that abd almalik ibn marwan had one of his sons die while he was young so alwalid came to him and offered his condolences. he said o my son! my loss in you is more painful to me than my loss in your brother! when have you ever seen a son offer his condolences to his father? he said o commander of the faithful! my mother ordered me to do that! he said that my son is easier for me! and by my life this is the advice of women.
وفيما يذكر عن عبد الملك بن مروان أنه مات بعض بنيه وهو صغير، فجاءه الوليد فعزاه، فقال يا بني! مصيبتي فيك أقدح في بدني من مصيبتي بأخيك! ومتى رأيت ابنا عزى أباه؟ قال يا أمير المؤمنين! أمي أمرتني بذلك! قال ذاك يا بني أهون علي! وهذا لعمري من مشورة النساء.