he was also accused of being humiliated by the secrets of his brothers and perhaps this is a reference to the book altawq itself in which he revealed the secrets of many of those he knew and people in his time knew them even if he did not mention their names they also accused him of listening to criticism of his brothers and not being upset with them and he responded to this accusation by saying that he was upset with a gentle resentment which made the one criticizing him regret apologize and be ashamed without provoking him or provoking his anger because that might make him persist in criticizing one of his brothers and the criticism would go beyond cursing his parents and being foolish and vulgar.
كذلك اتهم بأنه مذل بأسرار إخوانه، ولعل في هذا إشارة إلى كتاب الطوق نفسه إذ كشف فيه أسرار كثيرين ممن عرفهم، وكان الناس في أيامه يعرفونهم حتى وان لم يذكر أسماءهم؛ كما اتهموه بأنه يسمع الذم في اخوانه ولا يمتعض لهم، ويرد على هذه التهمة بأنه يمتعض امتعاضا رقيقا، يحمل الذام على الندم والاعتذار والخجل، دون مهارشة له أو استثارة لغضبه، لان ذلك قد يحمله على التمادي في ذم أحد إخوانه، ويتعدى الذم إلى سب الأبوين وإلى السفه والبذاءة.