ibn hazms relationship with women from childhood to adolescence through companionship and culture had a great impact on his taste and personality. it seems that he did not enjoy the knowledge upbringing and tenderness of his mother so he replaced that with the pampering he received from the concubines. he began to follow them listen to their conversations and seek to know their news secrets and tricks. they were as far as i can tell not embarrassed because of his young age to reveal many things that made him suspect womens behavior. that companionship also gave him a love of being alone with affection so he grew up very jealous and acquired from the environment that his fathers taste helped him to have an inclination towards blondes. this fact was reinforced by the fact that his first love was directed towards a blonde girl. that home environment sharpened his sense of female beauty and taught him the first experiences of moving around.
ولقد كان لصلة ابن حزم بالنساء منذ الطفولة حتى الصبا، عن طريق المعاشرة والثقافة، أثر كبير في ذوقه وشخصيته، ويبدو أنه لم ينعم بمعرفة الأم وتربيتها وحنانها، فاستعاض عن ذلك بالدلال الذي لقيه من الجواري، وأصبح يلاحقهن وينصت لأحاديثهن ويشره إلى معرفة أخبارهن وأسرارهن وحيلهن، وكن فيما أقدر لا يتحرجن لصغره من البوح بأشياء كثيرة جعلته يسيء الظن بتصرفات النساء، كما أكسبته تلك العشرة محبة الانفراد بالعطف، فنشأ شديد الغيرة، واكتسب من البيئة التي ساعد عليها ذوق والده ميلا إلى الشقرة، ورسخ تلك الحقيقة أن حبه الأول اتجه إلى فتاة شقراء؛ وقد أرهفت تلك البيئة البيتية إحساسه بجمال الأنثى، وعلمته التجارب الأولى في تنقل