whoever is tested by mixing with someone of this nature in any way must not exhaust all his efforts in loving him and he must establish despair of his continuity as a fortress for himself. if signs of boredom appear to him he should cut him off for days until his mind is stimulated and he distances himself from him then he should return to him. perhaps the affection will continue despite this. and in that i say 
فيجب على من امتحن بمخالطة من هذه صفته على أي وجه كان ألا يستفرغ عامة جهده في محبته، وأن يقيم اليأس من دوامه حصنا لنفسه، فإذا لاحت له مخايل الملل قاطعه أياما حتى ينشط باله، ويبعد به عنه، ثم يعاوده، فربما دامت المودة مع هذا؛ وفي ذلك أقول 