it is by allahs mercy that you are gentle to them had you been harsh and hardhearted they would have surely scattered from around you. so excuse them and plead for forgiveness for them and consult them in the affairs and once you are resolved put your trust in allah. indeed allah loves those who trust in him.
فبما رحمة من الله لنت لهم ولو كنت فظا غليظ القلب لانفضوا من حولك فاعف عنهم واستغفر لهم وشاورهم في الأمر فإذا عزمت فتوكل على الله إن الله يحب المتوكلين