First, My husband and I had asked our relator to request that the builder we were using pay the closing costs. No offer was ever drafted to the builder and nothing specifically in the Purchase Agreement stated the builder denied the request, so we assumed our request was address and accepted, so we signed it. I know as buyers we should have follow-up with the request, but we assumed that the person we hired and were paying would do what we asked and advise us if the request was denied so we can alter certain things to fit our budget. 
Second, our realtor referred us to the loan officer she uses for most of her clients. We submitted the necessary information regarding the application process and we were pre-approved. Construction began on the property shortly thereafter. Well, 60 days prior to the estimated closing date approached, which was approximately 3 months after the application was completed, we receive a " Worksheet '' of the outlined costs associated with the closing and our monthly payments. The loan amount was wrong for one, so the numbers were completely off and it has us paying all the closing costs. Once we addressed this with our relator, we asked why an offer was never sent, no response was given regarding this, and she advised that she assumed we knew the builder was not going to pay any closing costs, so never professionally told us. The main issue here is we NEVER received a Good Faith Estimate during this process, 12CFR1024.7, which now I see if a federal requirement. My husband and I were not aware we were suppose to receive this document, that is not our job that is the lender 's job. My husband and I spent a month trying to configure numbers to make the agreement work not that we were required to pay ALL closing costs. Well, my husband and I were not able to commit to a loan that was too high and draining our savings account so we had to back out of the Purchase Agreement, losing our {$6000.00} in earnest money. We had no other choice. We do not want to end up in foreclosure. 
