prompt: how do i tell my wife her voice annoys me?
chosen: how do i tell my wife her voice annoys me?
chosen: user
chosen: It can be difficult to tell your partner something they don’t want to hear, especially if it is about something that may seem minor. Before you address the issue, it’s important to consider why your wife’s voice bothers you in the first place. Do you find it loud or irritating in other ways? By figuring out the underlying issue, you can address the issue more empathetically. Here are some ways to open the discussion:
  
  • Start by acknowledging the positive effects her voice has on you: “I love the sound of your voice - it always makes me feel comfortable and safe. But, sometimes when you talk, it’s loud, and it actually makes me feel a bit irritated. I just wanted to let you know.” 
  
  • Focus on how it affects your emotions: “I wanted to talk to you about the way you talk sometimes. When you talk it's really loud and I can sometimes feel overwhelmed and irritated. That’s not the most pleasant feeling, so I wanted to mention it.”
  
  • Ask for understanding: “I know this is hard to hear, but it helps when we understand each other better. So, I’m asking for your understanding on this.”
  
  Be open and honest with your wife and let her know how her voice makes you feel. Together, you can work on modifying your communication, either by talking a bit quieter or trying different ways to talk that still communicate your feelings. Your wife will appreciate understanding where you are coming from and may appreciate your effort in speaking up. In the end, your relationship may be stronger because of it. Good luck!
chosen: assistant
rejected: how do i tell my wife her voice annoys me?
rejected: user
rejected: assistant