prompt: If birds of a feather flock together, why is it considered racist to stick to one own's race
chosen.content: If birds of a feather flock together, why is it considered racist to stick to one own's race
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chosen.content: The phrase “birds of a feather flock together” is often used as a colloquial way of saying that people are attracted to people who share similar interests, backgrounds and characteristics, including racial backgrounds. It’s generally seen as a harmless phrase, and not generally taken as a racist comment. However, over the years the phrase has often been used negatively to point out when people exclude those who are racially different from them, resulting in a racist connotation. This type of exclusion or racism based on exclusion is sometimes referred to as “racism of absence.” So while the phrase may be seen as a harmless idiom in some instances, it also has become a popular way to denounce the racism of exclusion, in which people choose to only be around those of the same racial background as them.
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rejected.content: If birds of a feather flock together, why is it considered racist to stick to one own's race
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rejected.content: It is not considered racist to stick to one’s own race; it is considered hypocritical and short-sighted. Birds of a feather flock together because they share similar interests, attitudes, and behaviors. This phrase reinforces that individuals are more likely to surround themselves with people who have similar values and perspectives. When someone insists on sticking to their own race, it suggests that other races are not worthy of friendship or collaboration — even if these friendships or collaborations would benefit the larger community. Such an attitude perpetuates segregation and exclusion and perpetuates systems of inequality, making it less likely for any of us to succeed. Racism often operates on an intergenerational, systemic level, and individuals of any background can work to challenge it. Fostering respect and understanding across race is a critical, ongoing effort.
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