washington behind scenes white house u.s. president donald trump daughter ivanka key advocate measure less combative tone strike speech joint session congress tuesday night officials say big speech trump month-old presidency product 10-day effort top aid unveil significant change policy tone trump speech far cry bleak american carnage inaugural address take office jan. 20. republican president drop fierce rhetoric staple first weeks office call national unity avoid repeat attack democratic opponents media organizations poll conduct immediately speech show clear majority americans approve soft approach aid describe trump buoy reception senior white house official say ivanka trump make recommendations speech brainstorm session oval office sunday help father decide new approach aim ease concern whether right temperament govern effectively lot voice around give ideas suggestions incorporate really set achieve optimistic tone something supportive encourage one official say speak condition anonymity role say another help set tone ivanka trump also persuade father speak favorably affordable child care pay family leave policies long back could draw support democrats congress say another official knowledge speech evolve fingerprint visible tone especially part like maternity leave matter official say ivanka trump 35 president old daughter emerge influential informal adviser father particularly issue important women minorities election victory last november step away business interest new york move washington frequently see father events white house official say trump principal author speech lot help draft include daughter trump make final change speech marathon session tuesday work closely vice president mike pence chief strategist steve bannon chief staff reince priebus chief speechwriter stephen miller ivanka trump husband jar kushner senior white house adviser particular interest trade deal middle east diplomacy couple among president close confidants since election campaign kushner also help draft speech congress others involve last round deliberations white house aid hope hicks kellyanne conway sean spic ivanka trump sessions tuesday ivanka trump accompany father dover air base delaware feb. welcome home remain u.s. navy seal william ryan owens kill raid al qaeda yemen speech tuesday owens widow carryn owens weep openly trump lead crowd applaud husband service stand next ivanka trump presidential historian thomas alan schwartz vanderbilt university say hard find similar example recent history presidential daughter big influence way reach social issue social welfare issue issue sometimes republicans less identify say behind scenes ivanka encourage trump change tone source