haifa israel eighty years miss jewish coming-of-age ceremony 93-year-old holocaust survivor shalom shtamberg celebrate bar mitzvah thursday family friends northern israeli city haifa shtamberg bear warsaw poland celebrate bar mitzvah turn 13 instead take warsaw ghetto family survive unlike family train electrician acquire skills make value good worker thursday shtamberg pick home trainee police officer drive synagogue haifa welcome cheer crowd flower bouquets give prayer shawl read torah scroll break dance guests include wife fulfil mission yet still things shtamberg tell reuters one things detail lecture horrors nazi camp survive unlike parent five brothers kill recall time ghetto say begin speak say tell nothing stay child age 13 14 live warsaw ghetto extremely difficult every day holocaust survivor celebrate bar mitzvah israel 80 years late