text: how to get out of the friend zone with her after sex? i had sex with this woman twice and some forplay - now, it all got cold. she says she doesnt want to fall in love and hates me showing affection. now, we just hang out as friends - i would like her to be my girlfriend. any advice, i do respect her and care about her. she is ok with being ur girlfriend(a friend who is a girl ), so whats the big issue. u want her as ur lover, thts wht she doesnt want. so be her friend, and even by mistake if she asks u to have sex with her, dont go and have it,tell her, i just intent to be ur friend ,nothing more.........play the game the opposite way...and see the result. and mind u ,dont go gaga-gogo over her, infact dont show much attention to her , or praise her, just act in a normal way u wud to other female friends.meanwhile try to be in company with her and some other females too...........and show tht extra attention to one among them, and make her feeel tht sting of jealousy