text: when you get married, are the in-laws part of the deal? when you get married, does that mean that you're stuck with his family also? obviously you have problems with in-laws intruding into your relationship. how does your spouse feel about this? more to the point of answering your question ... yes and no. you are, as you say, 'stuck' with them in the sense that they are your legal in-laws. however, that doesn't give them legal status within your relationship as regards the laws of marriage. this being true, you will have to acknowledge them as the in-laws but you can prevent them from having active participation in your marriage if your spouse agrees and you have the back bone to take a stand on the issue.  good luck!!