text: which is the best way to delay ejaculation?   1) stop doing whatever it is you're doing.  no, i'm not kidding!  if you feel yourself on the brink but want to continue going, then stop whatever stimulus is keeping you on edge and focus on your lover.  it's perfectly fine to let him/her know what you're doing- especially since they'll get all the pleasure as you wait for the urgency to drop a bit.  when you're back in control, get back in the game!  partners who do the waiting trade-off (i'll do you, you do me while i rest, now switch) can have very long, pleasurable sessions, and, what's more, postponing climax can make it all the more intense when it happens.  2) devise some mental methods for yourself.  when the time comes, think about nonsexy things.  think about them hard.  i've heard that some men picture aborted babies and massacres, but that's going a little too far, in my mind- all you need is an image that won't totally kill your libido, but does slow it down- maybe it's grandma, sitting on the toilet, or rosie o'donnell, naked . . . i don't know.  try different things and see what happens.  3) you can always grab tightly around the base of your shaft- and when i say tight, i mean tight- this has often been said to calm imminent warnings of ejaculation, although it's by no means foolproof, and might excite you more, or simply not be strong enough to stem the tide, so to speak.  this is the same idea behind c*ck rings, which you might want to try, as they also act somewhat as a preventative for ejaculation- but again, they won't stop it completely.  give it a try and see if it helps.  you can also, if you're doing something where you can stop for a moment and slow down- try tugging your testicles down, which, if the handling doesn't set you off, will help rewind the clock on your erection's longevity, so to speak.  4) this is a method you'd need to do beforehand, but you can always decrease the sensitivity of your penis.  the ways to do this, however, generally increase altering a condom in a way that isn't safe; it will reduce the effectiveness of the condoms, so only do it if you know you aren't at risk of pregnancy or disease.  if not, you can try buying numbing cremes for your penis, which you would put directly on your erection, with a condom over (you need the condom because otherwise, your lover will get numb, too- no fun for them).  this will help you last.  you can also try 'double wrapping' your erection in two condoms, or one very thick version, to keep sensitivity down so that you won't be so affected.  5) and last but not least, just go ahead and do it.  let loose, because sex shouldn't be an awful, grueling struggle to keep from having the best pleasure of your life.  go ahead, ejaculate, but if it's too soon for you or your partner's liking, just know that your climax doesn't mean he/she doesn't get theirs!  keep a spare dildo/strap-on (a lot of men wear strap-ons over their flaccid penises) in the bottom drawer for moments like this, or just use your fingers, hands, and mouth to finish off your lover, too.  hope these help you!