text: i`ve been dating this guy for 1 year as of febuary 19th he wants to have a 3 sum, not ready what should i do? we have a baby together if you're not ready don't do it. if doesn't respect you enough to wait or even see if you want to go that way, then you don't need to be with him. it doesn't matter that you have a child together. i've been with my mate for 4 years and we are still talking about it. he doesn't want to do it til i'm comfortable with with her and the situation.