text: stay or go? i've been with my boyfriend for five years and love him a lot.  he was in jail for about a month and has been out for about a year.  he has been trying to save money to get a lawyer to help with his case but things seem to be in stuck gear.  i give him flyers for job fairs all the time tell him where he can go to fill out job applications and he says if he can only work somewhere that will pay him under the table because he doesnt want to risk the cops coming to get him at his job then he wont be able to pay his lawyer.  he has been paying him small amounts here and there but i am so stressed out because he's not allowed at my dad's house so we have to get hotel room once or twice on a weekend and then gas to take him to these little side jobs, plus weekend time, is getting expensive and i know part of it is my fault because i don't have to spend the money but i feel that is the only way i can see him.  he will do little things for me like wash my car or give me an oil change..advice? i would say leave but i know you love this guy and maybe he will realize his situation bad and will thing will get better so just threat him you gonna leave him if he didn't get job and see just give him another chance,good luck