text: how do you make or keep a man happy who doesn't want sex? in response to doorman's question on "how to keep and make a man happy".....many answered that some form of "sex" keeps him happy.  well, how do you make or keep a man happy who doesn't want sex?!  particularly if the woman does?!!!  and before you answer:  * no! he's not having an affair, and yes i know that for certain.   *yes, kids, work, financial strain, & stress from outside sources   can affect a man's drive (and we have all 4).   *no, self satisfaction is out!  doesn't work for me, (actually    makes it worse with more sexual frustration).   *also no on finding another sleeping partner, as well as divorce,   it's not the solution. i don't want it so much, but again, this goes back to that other question i answered on why people aren't hooking up after they're married, and i think much of the answer is contingent on what people are, and are not, bringing into the bedroom to begin with.  for so long i did want to do stuff, and then i did, and now i'm sort of over that, and really challenged to want to get back into it again.  i'm not quite so sure what it is that i want anymore from that aspect of it, if anything.  yeah you could spend time with him in other ways and build up those other aspects of the relationship but quite honestly if it just isn't there one would have to ask if there aren't deeper issues plaguing the relationship. perhaps i should ask myself that question ...