text: what is the best way to handle little arguments between me and my fiance? we have been dating for a little over 11 months and normally these little fights escalade to something bigger and then we make up, but only after someone's feelings have been hurt. it is important to learn to not let the little things escalate into big ones if you plan on being married.  first off, agree that fighting is a waste of time and energy.  all it does is destroy what you have.  sure, you don't always agree, and often you really don't have to.  remember, being together is about compromise and that is a 50/50 thing.  don't ever let even little things fester by walking away or refusing to deal with them.  always remind each other that you love one another and acknowledge that you hear and understand what the other person is saying to you.  it is a lot of work to be in a relationship but it is better to work hard for the good than to spend it fighting.