text: how long does it take to get over a hurt? i did not love this person, i'm not sittng here pining for him i just can't get over the cruelty.  i broke up with a liar/cheater, everything was fine for a year then he told me he had changed, didn't believe him but liked him anyways.  told me he didn't have a girl, started seeing him again, stopped calling me, saw him in public he said yup that was fun but i have a girlfriend.  he cheated on her with me i tried to tell her but she wouldn't listen, she punctured two of my tires.  now she's five months pregnant and they're living a happy life because she is the one for him.  why did he bother coming back at all, i know the answer.  angry at myself, disgusted by him, feel sorry for her.  it's been almost a year and i still can't sleep some nights, resentment burning me up.  i know i put myself here but i'm getting tired of this hate, counselling didn't make it better.  i just feel like there is some sort of wrong and i wont rest till i right it.  any thoughts besides get over it? i think you are over him.  it's you that you need to fix up and change.  get new hobbies, learn new things, meet new people.  fix yourself up and make yourself new.  they say it takes 23 days to make a new habit become part of who you are.  so, starting on thanksgiving, wake up each day and write down a new thing to learn or do each day and go out and do it.  by christmas day you the feelings you have will be gone, and you'll have a great new year with the new you!!!