text: question for married guys.  if you could go back and do it all over again, would you marry your wife? i just think that if there were cartoon bubbles during the wedding, the guys bubble would say, "now, we can have sex all the time!" and the girl's bubble would say, "thank god, now i don't have to have sex with him all the time."  thoughts? sexual relations decreasing after marriage has been the butt of all marriage jokes for decades.  the truth of the matter is, once you get married, you gain a handful of new responsibilities.  after kids, you get even more.  so eventually, when you're a family unit your responsibilities will override your sexual relationship.  life gets busy.  and for women, between your son's football practice, and your daughter's ballet classes, and cleaning the house, doing the laundry, and preparing a meal for the family, we get tired.  when men often forget though, is it doesn't take much to get us in the mood.    based on your question, i am going to presume that you are having this issue in your marriage.  we had it in ours as well.  when you and your wife turn in for the night, try offering to rub her back.  if you caress her a bit, and show her how much you appreciate what she does, she will warm up to you.  women identify themselves with their family and home.  so after a long day of perfecting those two things, it can be emotionally tiring.  and emotional fatigue is a bigger factor in their sex drive, than physical fatigue is.    oh and by the way...i asked my husband your question, and his answer was "yes".