text: how do i get back my wife to be, after she walked out the door? i need help. for ten months, i have been engaged to her. we were living togather. i came home from work, and she was gone. at first i gave her a letter witch wasnt so nice, out of hurt. then i sent her another leter witch told my true feelings. she called me, and we decided to go talk. i found out that she still loved me, but she just could not be with me anymore. i had not given her the physical and emotional suport she needed. when i talk to her, she seems happy to see me, but when i say to much she starts crying. i asked her to please come home. she wont. i have tried not to be pushey or overbaring with her, and give her space. i think she might also be interested in another man. she still calls me baby.  with what she has told me, i am not sure she really wanted to leave in the first place. i think she felt she had no other choice, as strange as that might sound. i am trying to regain our relationship, but everything i am doing isn't working, any thoughts on what to do. however much you want it, you can't force a person to be with you, or change their mind.  if she wanted to be with you, she would have stayed, and she would be with you now.  it sounds like she is very confused and going through some troubles of her own.  i would suggest just leaving her alone and giving her some space.  perhaps when she has had time to get her head sorted out, she may decide to come back.  i think calling her and writing to her just adds pressure and may drive her away.  try reverse psychology here.  if you just stop trying to contact her, she may contact you.  then you have more control over the situation.  you can then tell her to either make up her mind or leave you alone.