text: what is the best way to get over a fiance's questionable past? i know it is stupid to let such a thing bother me, but sometimes it's hard. talk to a close friend who you can trust, write your fiance a letter that you are never going to let them read (so you can say whatever you want, cuss at them, etc.), and then burn it when you're done, and if all else fails, get counseling.  but don't get married 'til you're sure you are over it!