text: forgiveness? well i have been going through a rough break up lately with a girl i dated for 2 years. we talked about getting married all this kind of stuff. she is a big drinker and ended up cheating on me one night. i tried to frgive her but the relationship went sour. shed say she wanted a break but then take me back which caused more pain. then she said she wanted a break again. finally i just blew up at her. i know this is wrong and i wish i had not done it. she tells me she hates me and will never forgive me for saying the things i said to her. i do not ever want a relationship with this girl again but i would like her forgiveness for blowing up. just wondering if any of you gals have been in a situation like this and what you did. i apologized to her over and over again but i am just giving up. you can't force forgiveness.  in time, she'll realize what she's lost and that she is the one that should be asking for forgiveness.     you have already put up with a lot, and as long as you have done the right thing by seeking forgiveness for your wrong doings, then you shouldn't be too concerned if she has or hasn't forgiven you.     she may have already forgiven you, but is too embarassed to admit it to you.... or  she could be a very bitter person and talk herslef into not forgiving you..ever...  but it's not up to you.