text: on a first date would you rather go to an upscale, 'fancy' restaurant or something more laid back and relaxed?   i would rather do a fun activity than eat in a restaurant. for example, play miniature golf, go parasailing, ride a roller coaster, something like that. when you share experiences -- especially ones with an element of fear, like parasailing and roller coasters -- you make a deeper connection and are less stiff and nervous. you can get to know each other better more quickly.  if you want to eat afterward, probably somewhere a little nicer than usual. but it's probably better to cut the date short and leave her wanting more!