text: how do i find someone new? it seems that since my first question, most people think that i should find a new girlfriend.  (current one won't have sex with me, she says my penis is too big.  she also told me to find some other way to meet my sexual needs, while still expecting me to help her reach orgasm through oral sex or through helping her masturbate.)  here's my problem...i've been in this relationship for so long, and had very few relationships prior to this one, that i have no idea what i'm doing when it comes to meeting new people.  i have very few friends, and don't go out much at all.  i don't really like the bar scene, and don't know how to approach women.  i'm not getting laid, and i don't know how to meet someone new... so, what should i do? it seems a bit mean that she's wanting satisfaction while you don't get yours. but is she returning the favour, just short of actual sex?   it's a bit unfair if you wanting to break off just because of sex. but if it is bothering you so much that it's affecting your relationship, then go for it. try chatting online to people and start going to pubs and clubs more often to build your own confidence.   you'll meet someone when you least expect it.