text: why do non-black men seem to ignore black women or hesitate to ask them out?   you know what, flowergirl?  who cares?  the way i see it, if you have a brotha that acts like this, you don't want him anyway!  tell him to keep it moving so you can see your way clearly to the well-adjusted brothas that will honor and treat you like a queen.  don't rule out other races either.  yes, i married a wonderful black man, but good men are hard to find in any race, so do not limit yourself!