text: what should i do? my parent wanted me to marry a guy who  is a foreigner and a maniac. he is turning 27 and im 19. he use sex toys. &#92;when he wanted to have sex with. i refuse it. he is the one giving support to my family. i can't even refuse it. i love my family. when i had blow job his penis is too big for me i ca,t even hold it bec/ he has 8 inches penis. |and im still a virgin. what should i do to make him enjoy doing sex with me. did a virgin girl cry when they had sex for the first time. please help me. im confuse. he too tall for me he can grab anytime he wanted? " most marriages are another form of prostitution". - nicholas fourier.  i am sadden by your situation, horrified actually. i think what your family is doing to you is nothing short of prostitution. it is cruel for your family to want or require you to marry a man for their benefit, especially someone who may hurt you.  you have a choice in this matter as with everything in life. the decision to have sex should be yours to make, i think the same is true of marriage. if you are forced to do any of these things, especially have to sex i am quite sure you will regret it.  don't cave in to external pressures.  talk to your family explain that your aren't comfortable with the situation. let them know why you are uncomfortable. if you have other family members you can stay with for a while who don't feel the same way your parent[s] do then see if you can stay with them for a while.  i honestly think you need to get out of this situation.  i sounds like you don't know a whole lot about this person, well not enough anyway. you have mentioned that he is a foreigner. wel,l do you know where he is from anything about his culture, his family, his past? these are important incites into the type of person he is or is likely to be. i am not saying this to scare you but for all you know he maybe  abusive or already married.   i can't answer any of your other questions since i'm a female and still a virgin.   i wish you the best.  if you need someone to talk to you can im through msn or e-mail me at life_love_law@hotmail.com.