text: should i forgive the man who deceived me? my man had an affair and confessed to me.  i think he did that because the woman's husband found out. my man swears he loves me and nobody else. he says he didn't know what he was doing. i cant bear the thought of him being near me sexually, so how can i forgive him when i feel this way the problem i have here, is he didn't even admit that he did wrong. to say that he didn't know what he was doing is a lie. he betratyed you and the relationship that you built together. whether drunk or high, he still knew what he was doing by being with someone else besides you. an affair means it was more than a one night stand right?   i am assuming that you are not married. you need to decide whether or not you want to remain in the relationship, if he seems to be willing to reprove himself to you, and if counseling would not be a good option so that the both of you can heal.  i am sorry that he hurt you. that is the worst betrayal there is.