text: i need to get my mom off my back!? i am a 39 yr old mom to 3 girls.  my hubby and i have had financial problems in the past due to lack of funds.  we never spent wildly and we always paid our bills.  there was just nothing left over.  my dh is self-employed in construction and every winter, my mom goes nuts calling everyday asking if he is working.  a year and half ago, we started a new business and more than doubled our income.  we've paid off everything but our house and have a large savings account but she still calls almost everyday.  now we are buying a piece of land to build our dream house.  she is so worried that we are going to "get in over our heads".  every time that i talk to her she mentions something about it.  it's all so negative.  i just want her to be happy for us and to trust us. after all, we aren't a couple of immature kids.  we are almost 40 yrs old.  i don't know what to day that will calm her and keep her off my back without offending. even if you're 140 years old you'll always be your mothers child and she will never stop worrying about you. she's probably so worried because she just wants you to be happy and as much as you guarantee her that you will, she won't believe it until she can actually see it. she just wants her girl to be happy and have a good, secure life. some mothers are more worried and stressful than others (that's the case with your mom) but some don't show their worries as much as others and try to have faith in their children. this, of course, doesn't mean that your mom doesn't have faith and trust in you but it means that she's such a great mom and as much as she might bother you at times i will guarantee that you couldn't live without her for a second. don't be too hard on her and try understanding her by imagining how you'd feel about you daughters and their married lives maybe that way you can sort things out. i hope i've helped a bit, good luck! :)