text: should i give my fiance the benefit of the doubt? i have been engaged for 3yrs and just found out that he has not gotten a divorce from his wife like he claimed he would. he is active in the army and we have been goin out on and off for goin on 10yrs. between our break up he got married and i had a child. should i give him the benfit of the doubt and trust that he will do as he has promise or move on? set a time limit for him to get it taken care of this time and if he doesn't kick him to the curb.