text: women, i like foreplay, but my wife doesn't, do you know why? my wife used to like foreplay stuff like me going down town and me using my hands and you know all the normal stuff that people do before the do.  why would she stop liking all that?  we only have sex, and it seems rather mechanical and not very passionate (nothing like it was when we used to make out back in the days.)  i ask her why and she recognizes it but doesn't understand why either.  could it be psychological or phisiological from maybe new birth control? i can't seem to get her heated up anymore and it was no problem in the past.  we almost have to always use ky and she's hardly ever in the mood. anybody ever deal with this?  we are both very young in 20s.  what's going on? she just wants to get to it and get it over with.  foreplay just prolongs it.