text: an interestingly complicated situation...? i've been dating this guy for a month, but for personal reasons, i have a general lack of emotion. i can't feel jealousy and i can't feel attraction. however, recently i've been feeling shots of attraction for another guy. he's very funny, he's attractive, and fun to be with, but he smokes, and i get the feeling is somewhat promiscuous. my bf and i don't really share the same sense of humor. i don't really feel anything when i'm with either. just recently this guy kissed me, though i didn't kiss him back. i wasn't expecting it. i told my boyfriend about this right afterwards cause i felt guilty, and he asked if i wanted to break up, but i immediately froze. i couldn't answer him. he broke up with me, in any case, and i felt absolutely horrible inside. but through a long series of complications, we decided to wait after my exams were over so i could make a clear and concise decision about what i wanted to do. my room mates are rooting for this other guy, but it hurts to break up.. help? not so complicated. you like your bf, but you are atrracted to this other guy.  sharing humor is so important i can't even describe to you.  if you have that, things will tend to go farther.  your bf seems to be an understanding guy, just figure out what you want and go for it. the way i see it, you and your bf don't really have a chance, the genie's out of the bottle. if you go with him, you will alwasy wonder what it would be like to go for mr. smartsexydangerous. also, will he ever really trust you again, since he knows that you might be attracted to other men?  do your best to break it gently but cleanly with you bf. don't hop into a relationship right away. give you guys both some time... then let yourself free.