text: why can't i ever get the girl? i am a romantic.  i tend to send flowers, cards, leters, gifts and call at least once a week.  i think woman are amaing.  but everytime i get close to one or fall for her.  she tells me she just wants to be friends.  or she finds a boyfriend.  help me!  should i become an as*hole like most the guys these girls end up with?  is that what girls like? don't send the flowers, cards, letters, etc. until you are positive you both are on the same page.  otherwise, all of those good intentions can seem very smothering.  when you are on the same page, do those nice things but unexpectedly and not in excess!  good luck!