text: how can i protect myself from controlling people ?   the knowledge that that person is controlling is the first step.  if they are your parents, you should obey them- they are probably just wanting to protect you.  if it is a sibling, don't let them- you have just as much rights as they do- you don't have to argue with them, but don't let them manipulate you either.  if anyone is abusing you however, you need to get away from them and tell someone you can talk to.