text: i need help with a guy thing....................? i'm 17 and a junior in high school, i've been with this really sweet, great guy for 2 yrs. i love him to death!!! he wants to get married after we graduate, but i'm not too sure. well, he’s not the brightest guy i know, and he doesn't have a plan for his life, but he has a big heart! this is just so confusing! my mom tells me to move on, because he has all these medical problems like high blood pressure and cholesterol (he’s only 17!), to name a few. plus he has a bad family background, his father an alcoholic and a drug user (same with his mom); his father was abusive to him and his family. but he is determined not to become his father. he's not very confident and it's tiring when i keep on having to raise his confidence up again. it can be very stressful. he rarely gets mad, but when he does, he'll storm out and tear up something, other than that he is very gentle and adores me. i love him with all my heart. i just don't want to set myself up for a hard life. what should i do??? you definitely should marry him. you need to take care of a few things before you do, though. buy this book: the five love languages" by gary chapman. both of you read it and understand it together. it will put you years ahead of many married people who don't understand eachother. i've been married 12 years. my parents were not in support of my marriage, so i got married at the justice of the peace in norfolk, va. you two could have something that is missing from so many other people's lives. unconditional love. you must be prepared to expect the unexpected, and commit to your marriage. life is a roller coaster, but hold onto eachother with all you have inside you. be around those who support you. as far as it goes for his lack of a plan, he needs to dive into something, and just do it. i had no idea what i was going to do in life, and i have never been to college. i am making over 40,000 a year.