text: what's the best way to go about gaining more self-esteem? one of my new year's resolutions. get a sheet of paper and list things that you would like to do and acomplish them (start out simple). take some time to do something nice for someone. it feels good. list your good qualities- i'm sure you have many. most people tend to look at what they don't like about themselves and ignore the wonderful qualities that make them them! i think the older a person gets the easier it is. if your in certain age groups no one has good self esteem, even those who seem to have it. some people who are popular and seek attention and friends have the worst self asteem and waste so much energy trying to prove themselves. if there are some qualities that you don't like, change them. if your self esteem is based on looks alone (don't know what you look like) accentuate the positive about yourself!