text: i've heard horror stories about being married to a cop(the abuse, verbal and physcial) etc. is it that bad?!!! i heard people say it is hard being the spouse of someone who works in law enforcement, is it all that bad? does anyone have anything happy or good to say about being the spuose of a cop? cops are about 3x's as likely to be involved in domestic abuse than the average profession.  it is usually due to job stresses, rotating shifts, heavy badge syndrom, etc.  in society, there is a 5/95 rule.  that means that rule, that infers that 95% of all crime is committed by the same 5% of the population. the population of cops is no different.  5% of the cops will have 95% of the complaints.  5% of the cops will be involved in 95% of the domestic violence claims.    the best marriages are when a cop marries after he or she is in law enforcment for a while.  the reason is simple, people always change and the job changes them to a greater degree than most other professions.