text: i have to let him leave...but its so hard? my fiance of two years recently decided to go to college. i already turned down going because he asked me not to go. suddenly he decides he wants to. i told him i thought he should go since it's what he wants to do. he thinks we can still get married after he gets out (4 years), but ive heard what happens to couples who try this. he thinks everything is fine, but i feel like we're wasting our time staying together and we're just setting ourselves up for something bad to happen. i don't know what to say or do! talk to him and let him know how you feel!  depending on where he goes to school, you can still live near each other (or together).  just be honest with him, not telling him and letting him keep thinking 'everything's fine' will really cause problems for your relationship.