text: my husband and i argue but this time he hit me, do i find marrital or domestic violence help? he sees that he needs help with his anger and i do also.  we get mad over petty stuff many times.  i think it is alot of built up anger we have towards eachother.  we have been together 7 yrs. and as far as my side i have felt he never stood up for me to his family. they have never excepted the fact that i had 2 kids from a previous marriage therefore i felt they tried evertything to destroy us. he seen this after two yrs. of being married but he did not tell them to back off. i finally got over it after 4yrs. but he was still caught up in the middle with his mother and i.  i feel that it played a role in his anger and escelated towards me because i am the closest person. over the years i have felt that he was always looking for a reason to get out of the marriage.  now we have talked about our feelings and let it all out calmly and we recognize what we did wrong. we do not know how to get past this pain w/o hurting eachother. recently he hit me what do we do? believe me when i say a real man never hits a woman