text: my girlfriend refuses to have sex with me.  should i have sex with someone else? for three years now, i have been denied sex for months at a time.  my girl says "i don't want it, so why should i have it?"  why should i go without sex when i love it?  should i not continue being faithful and have sex with someone else?  the time without sex grows longer each time we have it.  it was not always this way.  at first she wanted it 3-4 times per week.  now she has too many other things on her mind.  what should i do?  i can't go on like this very much longer.  though i love her dearly, i can not remain loyal to her when my needs are never met.  i massage her, cook, clean, and compliment her constantly. seems to me she has someone else or is on some bad anxiety medicine that would diminish the sex drive. if she isn't on the meds move on very quickly.