text: what is the rule for christians and jews....? when it comes to male and female. for instance, are they allowed to date, kiss, holding hands,be affectionate (before getting married). is there a limit of what they can do before getting married? can one talk to the other with bad intentions or lust? how about looking? like can a male look at a female with bad intentions or lust and vice versa?  i know pre marital sex is forbidden. thank you. jesus answered this by saying that if a man looks at a woman with lustful intent, he has already committed adultery with her in his heart. so it is a sin for man to engage in any activity which stirs up sexual thoughts about any woman to whom he is not married. sex is not at all dirty or evil - god invented the idea! and it is holy, pure and an incredible gift from god - to those who are married! god put that limit on sexual relations for our own good - he is not just out to deprive single people! (i was 29 before i married, so don't tell me i don't know what i'm talking about.)