text: is it an equal relationship? should i work things out or is it time to move on? i confused people with a question similiar earlier.  so here it is clarified:  i have been with my boyfriend for two years this may.  i love him wholly and completely.  we have just moved in together, and he talks about the future often.  however, our relationship has fallen apart many times.  we have gotten back together, but each time there is a little more missing.  it seems now that we can't even talk to each other.  all i get is monosyllable answers.  he keeps saying he wants me to meet his family but everytime he goes home he changes his mind at the last minute. i would spend the rest of my life with him, but i am unsure if that is what he wants.  is there any way we can regain what has been lost, or is it over? it's never over until your dead. so, ask yourself a question, "is he worth all this time, thinking, and heartache?" if the answer is yes, then your answer is simple...do whatever it takes to improve your current relationship and start working on the things you do that really irritates him and if you don't know what irritates him, then there's your problem. you guys definitely need to work on your communication skills because, if you don't--then this relationship is destined to fail.   tips for improving this up-and-down relationship: first make a list of the most important things to you (and then a list of which of those things is most lacking in your relationship). then start thinking of ways to improve these areas of critical need (brain-storming). and most importantly--start communicating with your potential husband. this is critical and if you can't start talking about these issues then things will never get better!!! good luck and keep working on fixing this relationship because this guy seems to be the key to your happiness.