text: does my boyfriend still love his ex? my boyfriend and his ex-fiance, who is now married to another man, broke up about 2years ago. if she ever comes up in conversation he says really terrible things like 'i hope she's dead'. i know he really doesn't hope that, but it seems like an awful lot of emotion is still there. am i wasting my time because he's not over her? well i would not say that u r wasting ur time if u really love him but if you all have an open relationship then sit him doen and talk about it and ask him to be honest with u or mention her name and see how his actions or respones are that should tell u