text: guys please respond #2  :-)? we are very attracted to each other. he has always been attracted to me. when i was 16, he asked me out & wanted me then. apparently, my friend went behind me & told him he wasnt my type. he was deployed a short time later. we reunited 10 years ago.......... this is not a new relationship& yes, sex has come into it. we have never been secretive & talk about everything. problem is.......... he is very career oriented & his job is very dangerous. he says i distract him very easily. i am affraid that if he knows i am in love with him ( he knows i love him - we are close ) he may shy away due to the job......  ok guys, what do you say........tell him or not ? p.s - he has made mention about possibly changing positions. he is in law enforcement. *not a street officer.  ever seen the "unit"?       please help. first of all nothing good ever comes from a lie or a secret, so yes you should tell him. secondly, people often confuse sex with love. true love goes far beyond sexual gratification and physical attraction. your opening line addresses the phsyical aspects of your relationship rather then your spiritual connection. my advice to you is to make sure both of you are in love. for your relationship to truly be successful both of you must feel the same way about each other. if he really loves you, he will choose you over his career. i will keep you in my prayers. peace and god bless.