text: ok complete question...? i have a girl who i met far away... now we are in a relationship now... but she had a boyfriend before me... but she says she loves me too.. hmmm now she says that she still loves her bf but she says that she loves me as well... believe me that is an age old problem and a rough one too. if you give her an ultimatum…well he’s there and you’re not. on the other hand if you just keep putting you best foot forward. keep precise notes, always remember her birthday, all the anniversaries (the day you first wrote her and her you, fist met, anything and everything), don’t forget birthdays valentines day and whatever else you can think of to give you that upper edge.  you know every now and then you could send her flowers “just to say i love you.” women love that stuff. there is something else to consider: she isn’t that exactly that tight with the other guy if she is interested in you, which is a point in your favor. remember though when you talk to her carefully, very carefully try to find out where you stand. if you think, and can confirm that you are falling way behind then dump her, on your terms.  i have been there twice myself i found out that one was after my money and the other was married.