text: why do parents hate the children the have before their mariage? i'm a product of parents who hate me when they where in school(dad) in the university and mum(just out of college).dad left before i was born and mum left when i was 7months.i grew up eith an aunt an dmy grandmother.knew my mother when i was 14yrs and looked for my dad when i was 17yrs.they both have their various families and find me as a complete stranger and a child they never wanted.i now take the blame of both parent mistake.as much as i try to bridge the gap they really can't fit me into their life. i simply wonder why i have to take the blame for their mistake? through all in life after the death of my aunt i had to pay my way through my university and i really crave for afamily of my own. i look forward to marriage.a husband and children. you should feel absolutely no guilt for lame parents. it is not your fault in any way shape or form. i don't know why they are that way, we cannot explain why some pple are jerks. i would not try anymore and just go on with my life. it sounds to me like you have a wonderful parent. it just happens to be your aunt instead of your biological mother. it sounds like she loves you alot. you should just look at that in a positive aspect and move on with your life. it is their loss anyway, not yours. good luck to you.