text: when do i announce to my family i am getting married? hello there. i am 19 years old, and my fiance and i are planning on getting married next may ( 1 month before he leaves for the army). when do i tell my family? now, or closer to the date of the wedding. i would like to start planning now, and was wondering when to send out wedding invitations. like, how close to the wedding date. thanks to anyone who replies! felicia congratulations!!!! you need to go ahead and tell your parents now. your mom is going to want to help plan your wedding, and she'll be a big help. as for the invitations, i would wait until a month and a half before the wedding to send those out. have fun doing all of this. i have been helping my sister do hers and we have had a blast! you need to start looking for your dress and your brides maid dresses too. this is the longest process of the whole thing. it takes about a month to get your dress back after your final fitting done. good luck with the wedding planning and your life with your soon to be husband, and remember, always keep the line of communication open!