text: he said  his mum wants to meet me. should i? the guy i'm dating told me that his mum wants to meet me...and i have some questions:  1) does this mean that he wants me to meet his mum, and was asking me if i want to meet her, or was he just stating that she wants to meet me (unsure because he didn't explicitly ask me!) 2) if it was a real question, does that mean that he's pretty serious about me? he's 31, i'm 25. 3) if i do meet his mum, will she influence him if she doesn't like me? we've been going out for just over a year, but it's long distance so i'm not sure if we know each other well enough to "meet the parents" yet.   help much appreciated! if he was not serious, he would not have brought it up.  the fact that she wants to meet you means she thinks it is serious and the only place she would have gotten that idea was from him.  you two are not communicating very well, him because the way he brought it up left you with doubts; you because you are not just asking him these questoins.  if his mum is reasonable, she will only be looking to see if you make him happy and that you won't do anything that will hurt him down the road, which should already be your requirements in a relationship anyway!  if she is some idiot who is judgemental or does not think anyone is good enough for her boy, it puts your bf on the spot. he is stuck between you and her. . . on the other hand if he is 31 and does not say to his mom "too bad, i love her, she loves me etc... " (not necessarily on the spot, give him a month or two after it is clear the mum disappears) then he is not ready for a serious relationship anyway.  he is 31!  mom should still be an important person in his life but he should not be clutching the apron any longer.