text: like/lust/love? i thought i loved someone once, to learn it was only physical attration...i dont want to make the same mistake ever again...how can u tell if you really love some one? i was a  bridesmaid for my girlfriend a few years ago.  at that time my hubby and i had been married for 7 years and had three kids.  the night b4 the wedding all us girls spent the night at the hotel.  i missed hubby so much that night - i wanted him there to share the time with.  my girlfriend looked at me and started to cry - she said she was so glad i was there with her that night - not only for the moral support and the fun - but because i was her only married friend and she enjoyed seeing how after almost 10 years together i missed him when he wasn't around.   physical attraction is obvious - and a vital part of all relationships - but it is the thoughtfullness and the caring that indicates how you really feel