text: need to know how to get divorce papers from a courthouse from out of state? my ex divorced me in 97 and i don't have the papers and didn't even know it as we reconciled in dec of 97 and i found out just recently he divorced me and was living with me and another woman.. what to do contact the courthouse and the lawyer who helped you with the divorce. if he divorced you without you knowing what was going on for that to happen? not trying to be rude but you also said he was living with her and another woman, don't allow someone to play you...