text: is first time sex always painful?   i thinkt that it's at least normal that it hurts - if a little or a lot differs from person to person and from situation to situation.  but for me, the most important thing is, that it has to be the right person you're with and that you are as relaxed as you can be.  i was very afraid, too - but my partner was so nice and grateful for what i was giving him, that even *if* i was in a lot of pain - and it hurt a lot - i was *proud* that i could give it to him and even enjoyed it because i *wanted* to be with him.  so it hurt - for me, it hurt a lot even though he was very gentle - but the pain didn't really matter to me because what mattered was that we had this special moment of closeness - and that was, what mattered, not the pain, that i knew would go away soon.   and what is physical pain when you love someone for the first time!  don't be too afraid. just don't hurry things. wait for the right boy /man and than, take a lot of time.   sex can be wonderful even if you are in pain (!)   when it is the right person and when you know that he loves you and that he knows what you are giving to him in this moments.