text: why do guys never ask this question? but women do? i see stupid questions written by females all the time and their gayness just pisses me off. replace man with woman to get the version females ask.  what is the essence of a man, his brains or his handsomeness? what would happen if i asked that to a group of guys? if you asked a group of guys what their essence is, i bet it'd turn into a farting contest or something.