text: is it possible for a man to love the woman he's with, but not want to have sex with her? we use to have sex daily. but now it's like 3 or 4 times a month, if i'm lucky.  i am young, and very easy on the eyes, but he still doesn't not want to make love.  i know that he loves me but he just doesn't want to do it.  he doesn't have a stressful job or anything.  i do what i know to please him, cooking cleaning sewing his cloths, i complement him, i give him gifts i spend lots of time with him, but still nothing.  what in the hell can i do to put our sex life back on track? poll dance?  someone for gods sake please come up with something i want to get orgasms from him and not my vibrator. every long term relationship goes through ups and downs in the sex department, just like in everything else.  you need to tell him how your feeling. but be carefull not to make him feel bad about not giving you orgasms.. just ask him if there is something wrong.. or if he has any ideas for spicing up your love life. who konws.. he may be thinking the same thing you are..   good luck.. ive been there and back and there and back.. lol