text: why do i still love my husband,who (beat on me) abused me for years? i should hate him, but i don't.?   because real love is eternal. you shouldn't hate him, but you can't be with him. you love him because of who he is, not because of what he does. i've never been abused, but i've been in a bad relationship. i still love her, but i can't be with her because of what she does. there's no rhyme or reason to explain who you love, but just because you love them doesn't always mean a happy ending. you need to continue to love him, but move on with your life. it's tough, but it can be done. i'm proof.