text: this guy at work wants me, i want him ,he's married and so am i what to do ? it started off as a friendship and is becoming more i can't stop thinking about him. i love my husband but i want him bad. switching jobs is not and an option. help me. you and him are both married.  there should be no questions about the issue.  when u got married, u agreed to love and honor your husband til death do you part.  so if you want to be an adultress then go ahead but i think thats shady.  the other guy also is being shady.