text: can a guy be friends with a girl if their relationship was 'pretty much'  purely sexual? i've known this guy for several years and the relationship was primarily physical.  i've called it off several times but he always resurfaces saying he misses my friendship.  i know he is in a serious relationship, so should i believe that this time he really does want to be 'just friends'? no probably not.  he's probably not happy with his current relationship or its lacking in some way and he's searching for you to fill that gap.  he may not be wanting sex, but he's definitely interested in something selfish.  otherwise he wouldn't be putting himself in such a bad situation to hurt his current girlfriend.  besides, would you want to be friends with someone that had those kind of values?  i mean he does have a girlfriend, and now he's going to his ex to be friends?  pretty shady if you ask me.