text: i am 54 years old and have two children. i have been in a loveless marriges and now have in love with 23 old? i am 54 years old. i am a  happy and romantic person by nature. but my marriage - an arranged one in india- had been a mismatched and now a  disaster. have two kids  who had kept us together. have not made love with my wife for last five years though feel for it at times. now i met a girl of 23 and have fallen in love with her as if i am once again 23 years old when i had my first love in life and  nothing of this kind till now. she also is in deep love wtih me  but because of  my  brillance and knowledge. now we are very emotionally in love with each other. i told her of her future that our love holds for her.but she is only in love with me and nothing else. will be meeting her on sunday and do not know what to do. my heart say leave everything that is loveless and opt for the new one that is real life that i missed ever since i was 23 years old when i was in real love. first let me say that i'm so sorry for the turmoil that is inside you. love has no age, it's in the heart. however, you have children to consider. it's difficult to step back from a situation that consumes you. you have to ask yourself this question -- are you in love with this young woman, or are you swept away by the attention, devotion, respect, sex, etc. that you may be receiving from her? does this young woman truly love you, or are you a wise, older, father figure for her? in ten years, will she have outgrown you and look for a younger man? will you be hurt? she doesn't share the same wisdom and life experiences that you have. she has her entire life ahead of her. i'm not trying to negate your feelings, just am trying to tell you to look at it from all views. another thing, show your wife the respect she deserves. she's the mother of your children and deserves your respect for that alone. would she consider counseling? is there anything left to salvage? is there resentment or other issues that is the reason for the lack of sex? i would suggest that you slow down, do some serious evaluating of your own life, and perhaps seek counseling for yourself. is your self-esteem shot? please don't do anything rash, but if you both decide that you are truly in love for the long haul -- even when you're 74 and she's 43 -- i wish you happiness. good luck with whatever you decide.