text: help?  please? my boyfriend (of 6 yrs.) and i moved to california 2 years ago together.  i have had a job the entire time we have been out here (i perform in a show at disneyland), and there was a year i had two jobs.  we both have our degrees (b.a.'s).  i am an actress, he is a conceptual artist.  he has spent the last two years "working on his portfolio" and has not had a job.  i supprt both of us.  did i mention we live in california?  ha. ha.  anyway, i am frusterated because almost every night i come home he has bought beer, and tonight he is asleep.  we have not had sex for almost 6 months.  he watches porn though and looks up pictures of naked women, and gets himself off. when we have tried to have sex, he can't orgasm, and he swears this is becuase he feels out of shape.  but he can get himself off.  man, i don't know what  to think about any of this. #i.tell him to get a job. #2.and if he can jack himself off.tell him your getting jealous of his hand.