text: can anbody explain to  me why this guy can't just be my friend? he is a good friend but i told him many times i could never love him..(only because i thought we had a misuderstanding) he knows i love this other guy very very much..but he being stubborn and not answering my im or emails...what his problem? he pobably wants more than you wish to give namely love.it is nice to have good friends but to some wanting love is more important to them being without love or the hope of love is down right miserable .maybe your friend is looking for that hope or someone to love him .loneliness affects us in different ways and it seems like he is a good man by not trying to break up your love with your real boyfriend .he may talk to you again when he sorts out his problems .respect his right to privacy for now and wait and see what the future holds .