text: what should i do? basically i met this girl and i know i love her and i just want to know how to push the relationship further, i don't think i should tell her i love her just yet as i don't want to risk scaring her off, so what would be the best way to go to the next level ( bit of a cliche!). dean, to help move this relationship along, as someone has pointed out, just take one step at a time.  you will have to determine, before you proceed, if she "digs" you.  she doesn't necessary have to have the "love" feeling for you yet but she should like you enough to help work the relationship into the "love" stage.  one way to find out is to communicate with her on a regular basis.  do you guys have anything in common that will make a first date?  is there an interest in something that you can share to bring you two to learn about the other - to see if there is a "fit" so to speak?  once you've determined that you are both on the same path (don't assume - find out; if she likes you, she won't keep it a secret), you can start dating her.  you should definitely hold onto telling her you love her until you feel it is right.  you will know when the moment is right because you will know that she feels the same way or is close to it.    so, find out more about her, her likes, her dislikes and find a way to see if her behavior dictates that she has a fancy for you.  then you can go to the next level: dating her.    remember, take your time and don't "push" it.  if she likes you, you'll know sooner or later and you won't have wonder what to do next.  good luck!