text: sex with my bf is boring,  i like it rspicy and he likes it slow and he wont change? do i cheat to get happy?  i imagine my ex bf while we are in bed, what else do i do? if he wont change then he wont compromise thats no basis for a relationship. its all about giving and recieving in an open and honest way.in a relationship sex should be something to look forward to and enjoy, not to resent. trust me i know.