text: when your with a guy u let him make the first move don't you? i've been witht this guy 20 days and i've let him make the first couple of moves like holding hands and kissing but he's really shy so should i let him make the next move as well? go ahead and you make the move this time. i also like it when the guy makes the first move, but sometimes you have to get them out of their shyness. god luck !!!