text: should i ask her to marry me? i have been seeing this girl for 4 months.  we live about 4 hours from each other. we talk every night and see each other every 2-3 weeks.  i may be moving across the country for a career and want her to go with.  i want to marry this girl but is 4 months in a long distance relationship too soon?  if i don't ask her i know she won't move. sweetie, my finace and i were only together for 3 months when we got engaged.  we are getting married next month, and only 5 months of being together and yet, i know this man's every move, every though.  i love him and he loves me.  so, if you feel you are doing this because you want to spend the rest of your life with her then by all means ask.  if you are only doing this to be with her then tis best not to ask.