text: how do i find a parent when i have been adopted. i want to find real mother?   hi. i am an adoptive mom and know the day will come when i'll be asked the same thing. first of all, not to be rude to you, but please eliminate the words "real mother" from your vocabulary. use birthmother instead. yes, she has been a real mom to you by entrusting you to your adoptive parents. but your adoptive parents have been real parents by raising you till now. if you say "real mom" about your birthmother, then is your mom your "fake mom"? i'm sure you didn't mean anything negative by it, but trust me it will hurt your adoptive parents to hear it.  here’s a link  to search resources  http://www.adopteerights.org/search/internetresources.htm  best wishes and god bless