text: i have a big problem i need help please!!!? my problem is my jelousy i know i have it, its hereditary but i have more control over it than my dad did he was abusive i tend to catch myself thinking it my girl friend does not understand at all about it. like she told me she was going to see some family somewhere and it is her brother and nephew, its like its a subconcius thought from my past warning me and i try to push it back but it clouds my judgement its really annoying and hurts very badly me and her.. is it possible for a girl to understand that its not about her, that it's not her causeing the jellousy and not take it so personally i dont want this problem anymore i know if it happens to much it will ruin my relationship. what can i do help!!! anyquestions please contact me id biggydreav thank you you are going to distrub your life just tell every thing to your girl firend