text: should i get married to my bf of 4 years? we have been together for 4years and i love him, so if u were in my place, and you were being asked this question, what would u say to him/her? really i think im going to say yes, but i want to get some details of how and why u would say yes, so please help me. only you can say it for sure but is your life in order where you want it to be. are you ready to be mrs.  smith  now. if so and you love this man, i cannot think of a reason not to if you have known him for 4 years and love him. i would suggest birth control for 2 years to make sure that you or he don't change and then you want a divorce with a child.  good luck with love and life.