text: why has my husband started to hide things from me? my husband of 10 years and i used to share everything, passwords, computers, bank accounts, etc.  about a year or so ago, i started finding email addresses that i did not know about and he changed all of his passwords.  i was (somewhat) ok with that, but today, the bank locked me out of my "limited" access to his bank account, i asked him for his and he refused to give it to me, when asked he said he just did not want to.  i feel like he is up to something.  it is one of those strange "gut" feelings.  we have always shared all of our information and i never felt a need to hide anything, but this just doesn't feel right to me.  i know that i should be worried, but i am not sure what to do.  his actions are screwing with my head,  are these the signs of him preparing to leave and i just don't want to accept them???  i am starting to get paranoid and do not know what to do. should i start hiding my stuff too? it took for him to actually change his passwords and not tell you them for you to get that "gut" feeling that something isn't right!! come on girl. you are smarter than that. it's more than a gut feeling. you know something isn't right and he's pretty much tellling you that things aren't the same. the messed up thing is you don't really know how long he's been hiding stuff from you because you are just now finding stuff. who is to say he hasn't been hiding stuff from you for quite some time and you just now are noticing the obvious stuff. what you need to do is open you a bank account for just you and start putting money away so that when he does leave you, you will have a little something to live off of.  you aren't being paranoid. you are being naive to think that he has been completely honest with you all this time...but that is what a marriage is supposed to be about so it was only right for you to think that until you had proof otherwise. now that you do...it's time for you to do something about it. i don't know if he's planning on leaving you. i don't know what he's doing, but he is up to no good. that's a given. so get your mind prepared for the worst.