text: what am i doing wrong...all answers accepted by the way!? okay. so right now i am 22, dating a great guy yet somehow along the way we boh have changed which is human. we go to the same school/university and are each other's best friend and support. so what is the problem you ask, right? well, lately for some reason i am feeling so distant towards my bf, like sometimes it does not feel the same, i cannot pin point what it is but it is making me drift further and further from him and his love for the last 2 days. he puts so much of everything into this relationship and for me to act like this is not right! i feel as though there is a gap between us and it just keeps on filling until one day we will have nothing more to talk about! also, lately i have been taking everything very serious, more than before and i cannot take a joke for some reason! i have 4 weeks of school left and alot of stress, my bf is going thru some stuff of his own so i do not wan to make his life a pain and therefore i do not open up to him if i have a bad day or not! help it's all a part of life, friend... changing & growing.  seems like you have a lot of things happening in your life right now; school, a relationship, and personal priorities.  think of it this way: you have a meal on your plate consisting of meat and 2 side dishes. do you eat all the meat and then the side dishes? many people don't. most sample a bit of each and wash it down with a beverage. life is like that, too!  we "sample" different experiences at different phases of our lives and enjoy each of them - until they're gone. you have a wonderful friendship with this guy; surely one to savor. but is it the main mean (real love) or an appetizer (a sample of better things to come)?   only the two of you will know - in time.  he is apparently undergoing the same changes right now. just keep your friendship line open and things will flow as they should.  sometimes, sweethearts become lifelong partners but many times, they don't. just be there for him as his friend, relax, and see what happens. it appears that right now, love has to take a back seat for some of the other priorities both of you have got going on in each of your lives. don't consider them as a deterioration of your love but, merely a distraction from it...  keep being honest and open with yourself and your boyfriend. in the end, it will solidify what truly forms the foundation of your relationship with each other.  thanks for writing, my friend. good luck to both of you!