text: how do you break up with someone? i've been with someone for 9 months now and i love him to death but hes to controling!  i've liked this other guy and i think he likes me back. or so i've heard. anybody got any ideas? it's never easy to break ties, of any kind. if you can find the strength, you owe it to yourself not date anyone right away after breaking it off with your current beau. this month's national geographic has a great article on the chemistry of love... and love really does mar our ability to think clearly. if, after spending some time "alone", this new person still seems attractive, then date him. if you can, please be as clear as possible with this current beau. "i think you're a very lovable man with great qualities, but i need to be by myself for a while, to not date anyone. it is something i need to do for myself, and i know that you will allow me this time."