text: if a guy you respect asks you out, what is the nicest way to refuse without offending him? i am a young girl and i am just not ready to go out, i am anticipating being asked out for a serious relationship. i want to still be friends so i need to say no nicely. you answered your own question.  just be honest and tell the truth.  if you are not ready say so.  if he is mature and respects that he will understand.  good luck!