text: should i intervene? a year ago, my husband of 14 years, went to live in a drug recovery home. he has maintained sobriety and we have been doing alot of work to repair our family. the building he lives in is for men only, but there is a womans division off site. last night he confided that a woman in the womens program has been hitting on him for the past year. his side of it was that she approached him looking for genuine friendship. he said that he did maintain a friendship with her but made it clear that he has a wife and kids. he also told me that recently she has begun passing along dirty messages to him via other program members and has attempted to move past the friendship level with him.   here's my question. in regards to this specific situation, should i just be there to listen to him and help him work this out and keep out of it as much as possible? or should i contact this woman to re-assure her that he does have a wife/kids and tell her to back off? your husband has made a great step just in the fact that he has shared it with you.  praise him for that.  he must cut all tires with this woman to protect your marriage. if you dangle your feet in the fire long enough, you will get burned.  a married person should never place them selves in a compromising position.  they should never be alone with the opposite sex if for no other reason than to protect their spouse from what other people might think. and there is always a danger especially for men when they are alone with a woman that has feelings for them.  when you got married you both made a commitment to each other and to god to be faithful and neither should ever do anything no matter how innocent to threaten your union to one another.  the only female he should have a genuine friendship with is you.