text: lil sister prblems? i take care of my sister i have been doing this ever since our parents past away but she is so lazy and at times a lier like she don'twash dish or clean behind her self i already have four kids and a husband i don't need anymore problems she gets money from the state from my father death $560 a month and i don't charge her anything she 18 still in school and wants to act like an adult but a kid a times when thing don't go her way i have 5 brother but i'am the onlt really stable one put her out once because of a fight we had but kind hearted i guess let her back in and the fight happen right i had my baby son her and my husband get along at times but thing do get ugly he speaks his mind because he's the head if the house but she's hard head 5 brother aunts uncles and no one wants to help what should i do keep loveing her and trying or let her go? plus my husband threant to leave once already but change mind and stayed he says itis because he loves me. need help? hey, girl well i would consider that you sit with her and talk to her that if she's going to live in your house she has to abide by your rules and if  not for her to get a job and an apartment she has enough for an efficiency. well you have to make 2 choices your 18 year old sister or your family.(as in your husband and kids) you have been there since your parents have passed away  you have helped your sister come to be a grown 18 year old and now it's time to take charge of your life and don't feel guilty.  because you have done more then your share because if not your going to lose your family because problems start with y'all separating then the kids and then heart broken and that's alot so please choose your family your sister is all ready in her own hands and you can't be there for all her life your not your sister's keeper ok i know it's hard but at the same time your showing her how to be independent .