text: i have lost a friend through lies being told by others. what should i do? a good friend of mine was told by my cousins friend that i fancyed him when i am very certain that this is not true. he is nearly two years older than me and me, being gay freaked him to find out i might have fancyed him. he has just turned 17. i was speaking to him on i.m and i was told that he thought i fancyed him. i value him so much as a friend and the fact that i havnt many friends because of me being gay makes me value the friends i have alot. he has helped me with alot of things and i am upset that he has reacted this way without asking me what the truth actually is. maybe i am jumping to conclusions and i should wait until i see him after the weekend, in school and talk to him about this. i feel i have to do somthing now. i can contact him via msn messenger or by mobile phone. of course if he came to me and said it was a misunderstanding then i would accept that but i dont know wether to contact him, would this make it worse? please sombody help. thank-you, alex xx hello alex.  first of all, calm down.  if somebody is nice to you, then it does not necessarily mean that he fancied you.  some friends feel that they should be good friends to others but not necessary dig deeper into intimacy.  in friendship there exists a relationship of brotherhood, which, believe me, is extremely nice.  it does not involve intimacy at all, but the discussions between the couple are (i would say) deeper, brighter, friendlier, direct to the point, confidential, trustworthy, well i can keep on going for ages.  i do have friends in this brotherhood and i really value their friendship.    now if you feel that you have been hurt by this encounter, take your time to brush it off your nerves, so that you will not make any mistakes, approach this friend and make things clear.  however do not lose on this friendship, treasure it in any other way.  friends can be valuable you know and when chasing them off you might be chucking out more than one (you never know who is around and listening).    take your time alex, don't rush things.  don't worry i am sure you are a wonderful person and people would understand you.  good luck