text: can you tell me why people abuse/use bad language so much in chat rooms ? there is hardly any chat room today without people hurling words at each other,funnily, at people whom they dont even know. sometimes its so difficult to get through to people, make freinds and know about others becos' of this. the abuses are more loud and soo vulgur its hard to continue any conversations.   another thing i noticed is, how do people get sexual pleasure by just sitting in front of the comp, talking sex, typing away on the keyboard..its ok to a certain extent to share pics, stories etc., but i was curious to know what sorta' pleasure (physical sexual pleasure) cud a person get over a computer screen ? i think its sick.. hello arya,  my answer to part one of your question is this, chat rooms by design allow people the format to share their thoughts. sometimes people want to be something they are not. insecure people can force themselves upon others without the fear of retribution, so in effect this gives them the permission they seek to be rude. i have also found that the only way a weak mind can forceably express itself is through profanity. so i will let you draw your own conclusions to that statement.  as far as part two, arya there are a lot of lonely people in this world and while personally i am not into the whole cyber sex thing, i can understand how it happens. you sound like a reasonable person as your question is stated lucidly, but remember there are a lot of simple minded people in this world that do what they can to get by.  your question is well stated and i hope my thoughts are helpful to you.  tony