text: my father found out i have been intimate with my step-mother, how can i smooth this situation over? my father met my step-mother about two years, there is about a 15 years age difference between us, i am 30, she is 45.  it's a sticky situation. i'm guessing you didn't have too close a relationship with your father to be able to see his wife sexually let alone have sex with her. stay away from her and keep letting your dad know how sorry you are, i don't think this is something that will smooth over quickly but you may regain part of your relationship with your father with some time, depending on how close the two of you are. stay away from that woman no matter what happens! good luck