text: when should i ask my bridesmaids to be in my wedding? i recently got engaged in october and have set a date for 2008.  since my wedding is so far off, i'm unsure as to when i should ask my friends to be my bridesmaids?  i think a few of them are starting to wonder but i also don't want anything to happen and change my mind on who i am asking (most have been long term friends but you never know!) i say 9 months before, you want to make sure that you have chosen the right friends and family as your bridesmaids. you dont want to chose them too early in case of a disagreement or fallout.  im planning on a june 2008 wedding too, and i have decided on most of the bridal party and only 4 of my friends know (life long also) and i am having doubts on one, so i want to wait and ask.plus since they already know, they are constantly talking about the wedding and not everyone knows. then i have 2 of my friends already fighting for maid of honor!  make sure to give them enough time to save $ and lose 5lbs if necessary, holidays are coming and some of us eat too much pie = ) so i think 9 months is good. im coming out in a wedding in july and i was just told, and it gives me enough time to save money and lose some holiday weight.  *goodluck!*