text: should  you say i love you? between adults, similarly oriented, each separately committed and genuinely happy. men or women, doesn't really matter. when you have connected with someone on a level that is beyond acquaintance. when you have shared ideas and conversations that have changed you. can you love someone in innocence and genuine affection without the romance side of the equation?  and can you tell them without risking the friendship that has become so precious? should you? no you can't. just enjoy the wonder of their existence and  the wonderful friendship you have. just don't do it and you will spare yourself agony that's inevitable. so choose the door number 1. and stop this nonsense please!