text: how calm guys does not care how the girls feel during sex and they do that the way they want it? even if the girl doesn't like it because you let him.  i make sure a guy does what i want, and to hell with him if he acts selfish.  just take control. you have what he wants, so don't give it to him if he doesn't play nice.  i am only 16, and i don't take that attitude from anybody, even college guys.