text: why do women always want to hurt guys i mean holy cow whats the deal? every time i fall in love the same thing, its always i just dont know how i feel about you do i have the problem first off, try to remember that not all women are like those you have been involved with so far. relationships (especially romantic ones) are meant to be difficult, and it takes more than a few times at the least to find someone who you love and who will love you and care for you the way you deserve. you sound nice and caring to me so remember you don't need to settle for anyone who says things to you like they don't know how they feel about you. also sometimes people take longer to feel comfortable about taking a relationship to the next level. usually when people say things like that or do things, it's more of a reflection on them that it is on you. the main thing you need to remember is to not give up and don't settle for anyone that doesn't care for you and love you as much as you love them, because there will be others even if it doesn't seem like it at the time.