text: boyfriend problem...don't know what to do...? my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost 5 years. things have been really great lately and we have been talking about marriage alot. saturday, he got mad because i was writing a paper instead of going over to his house. im in college and had a 25 page paper due monday. he is usually understanding but not this time. i went over to his house sunday and he refused to let me in and i tried to see him at work and he basically told me to leave. he wont return my messages online or answer the phone when i call. i have no idea what to do. i know i dont want us to break up but i dont know if i can do anything about it without him being willing to talk to me. i would really appreciate any advice anyone might have. thanks. give him some time to calm down this sounds like a power struggle to see who wins .your homework was important and he should recognize that after he cools down you can be persistent and just keep sending him messages of love even if he doesn't answer he will want to read what you say men are like that normally a simple sorry is enough but after 5 years he thinks he owns you so you need to talk to him about this later after he is back with you .we both men and women need some independence a little not a lot best if you can agree on this time .