text: am i being selfish if i put my studies before my boyfriend? i spent a few years out of education and now, at the age of 22, at university and really pleased with myself and my progress and i want to put all my effort and make sure i do my best, kind of like to make up for the time i wasted.  i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he said to me he wants to start a family. i told him i'm not ready as i want to study.  he said if i'm not ready now, i never will be, because when i finish studying, i will be wanting a career, etc and that i may as well have one now.  i don't know if maybe he is feeling insecure because i have decided to study? not really because if you look at it in the long run your boyfriend may not always be there but your good education will be....though you may be seriouse about your man he should also understand that your career is important he just has to be paitent coz in the end all he has to do is sow his oats and you have to hold that child and give birth to it so it has to be a mutual agreement to have a family......do wha u think is best