text: so your tangeled in a mess of guys...what now? so recently my close friends threw me a welcome home party. it was alot of fun and i was glad it wasn't huge becuase the people that were there was all i needed. but i theres a problem that i thought i could deal with and now its got me so confused.  i have been home about a week now and the one has made no effort to talk to me. the one i thought was for real blowed me off for his now ex. g/f but now wants to hang out. my ex who is also a very close friend and i are hanging out again and his sister cares to inform me that she thinks he still likes me. and on top of that another friend kissed me at the party.  it makes me feel like idk a player even tho i am not. the one i thought i wanted doesn't seem to wanna talk. and this kiss is starting to make me question eveything when i finally thought i had it under control. and ppl now know about it and i told no one that i remember.  my ex was my frist real bf and i still care for him alot but idk about ne of it. can anyone help me? ok. there's 3 guys? your ex, a guy who kissed you at the party, and one who blew you off for another girl?  your first bf will always have a special place in your heart. but it doesn't mean that you should get back together with him. it depends on the reason you broke up in the first place. and it may be true that he still has some feelings for you, but it's still not a good enough reason (by itself) to get back together with him. if you want to get back with him, look at it as if he is a new guy. the problem with ex's is that you often base emotions and attraction now on memories and events in the past. but people change, even in a short time. look at him as he is now. if he is right for you, it may be worth taking the risk. but be wary, because it may just be the feelings of "what did i miss out on?" or "what could have been?" or "maybe i'll have a second chance?" that is masking itself as a real attraction now.  the one who has made no effort to talk to you. just forget about him. he's moved on and you should just disregard what happened between you guys. it did happen, for whatever reason, but it doesn't matter now. you don't want to be with a guy that blows you off! remember that!  and the third guy, who kissed you at the party. it also depends. was he drunk? or is he just that type of person. like you said, maybe he's a player.  there's another option though. don't go out with any of them. there's nothing wrong with being single. you learn about yourself... what you like and don't like. it helps you find the most perfect boyfriend for you, when you get to know yourself.  who do you want to be with? list the reasons why you want to be with them. does he fulfill your needs in a boyfriend? the needs of love, trust, honesty, respect, willingness to compromise and communicate thoughts and feelings? all relationships need these qualities to have a strong foundation to grow on.