text: if you have ever done swinging/swapping before, a question for you..? over the past 5 months we have gotten together with a couple who are our friends and ended up doing a swap.  each time they were never really "planned" per se, but every time we've gotten together we've been prepared mentally and it has always happened.  we've all talked openly like the adults we are all ok doing these things.    so if you have done this before did you find that the partner who you swapped with performed better than your partner?  maybe i'm alone here but my friends husband does it sooo much better than my husband.  i'm not sexually attracted to the guy or anything, there are no emotional feelings for him at all, but my husband can't compare to him.  and the guy is by far the best i've ever had.  i can't discuss this with the other 3 parties involved, it's something i have to keep for myself, but i'm curious if anyone else has experienced this.  i feel sort of guilty for enjoying it so much, but i've never had it this good before. my wife and i have been swinging for several years.  we've both had good sex with others and sex between us is great, too.  anyone who thinks they are the best they're partner has ever been with is fooling themselves.  anyone who has been with more than two partners has had great sex with other people, too.  some people mesh well and others don't.  someone who rocks your world may do nothing for someone else.  the other wife may think your hubby is pretty dang good, too.  ;-)  i know that there have been guys that have done certain things better than i, and i know that i do certain things better than them.  also, there have been women that do certain things better than my wife.  the key here is that we can talk openly between us (my wife and i) that when this happens we can say something like "i really liked this thing thing so-and-so did and here is how he/she did it."  by doing this i have all the tools in my tool box plus his, now.  :-d    you don't have to tell your hubby or the other folks that this guys is that good for you.  all you have to do is tell your hubby "hey, bill did this thing i really liked, try doing it like this."  let him know he is getting it right.  you don't even have to tell him bill did it better (if you think this would upset your hubby), but maybe take what bill did and teach your hubby how to do it.  kind of "a little over here."  "move your tongue like this", etc.  good lovers are made, not born.  don't feel guilty for enjoying it.  that's the idea of swinging.  to enjoy it.  besides, someone may come along that will rock your husband's world and he can return you the favor by teaching you what the other woman did that he liked so much.