text: another ex-related question? have the same problem other women seem to have. just saw hubby's email and discovered he has been talking and emailing his ex. she tells my husband she misses and loves him. i don't have a problem with him communicating with other women cause he knows a lot of people and i know those women but never knew about his ex. i also managed to "decode" her phone number from his phone book and now i have access to his email p'word which he doesn't know. he doesn't even know that i know about his ex let alone her name, which i doscovered years back befroe we got married from a letter she wrote him but it never bothered me. now i am thinking of calling her and maybe she will tell my husband which he won't believe. hopefully she will llook like a liar and hubby will lose interest in talking to her. what should i do, cause i don't want to confront him with this as he has denied stuff before. there is so much "wrong" going on here.  first of all i was one of those women who was contacting her "boyfriend" who was married.  his wife didn't know either and he kept it that way for a reason.  he was cheating on her.  your husband is hiding something whether it is just cheating by phone or possibly more.  you already knew this though didn't you because you are becoming obsessed over this and for good reason.  your answer is not to call his ex but to confront him.  how are you going to do this without telling him about how you found out?  i am not sure but there is so much distrust in this relationship and rightly so.  trust me on this because i was the one calling and i am not proud of this but you really need to handle this now. good luck.