text: i don't get it!  someone please tell me why being very feminine is a problem?.? i am bi (leaning toward women).  everytime i try to "hit on" a girl, she says i'm too feminine.  i really don't get it.  isn't being pretty good?  i'm so frustrated i don't know what to do!  guys won't leave me alone, but girls won't give me the time of day! it's all a personal preference, just like some people like blonds, or red heads, we are all diff rent.  i personally am attracted to "femme" ladies, but that is just me.  i know people who only like "butch/stud" ladies, and then some who like a mix of both.   try getting involved in local groups for lgbt people, or perhaps a bisexual support group in your area.   don't let it get you down, try try and try again :)