text: how does a guy get out of the friend-stage of a relationship and on to the next level?   just like guys can tell if a girl is 'needy', girls can tell if a guy is 'needy'.  it's just the way things are.  have you ever gone out?  did you ever do homework at the library together?  go somewhere with a group so she would feel comfortable going out?  one-on-one can get intense, especially if one is 'needy'.  landslide has it correct.  if she just won't be more than friends, hang out with her to meet her friends.  good way of making contacts.  if her friends like you, she just may look at you from a different perspective.  don't stalk her.  that's bad news these days.