text: how doyou maintain a household with a husband that don't clean up? i cook,clean,take care of our baby plus work!why does he get to chill? ask him to help out! sometimes guys think you have everything under control, and they just dont know what you would want them to do! i know in my moms case, she is so picky about how she wants things done in the house that she scares my dad and brother away from helping! talk to him and tell him that you are starting to feel burned out. ask if maybe he can take a couple of nights a week to cook dinner, or if there is a way to make it clear to him what needs to be done, like by setting a specific day every week for laundry or cleaning each specific room or whatever.  keeping quiet on this will only make you resentful, which will make your marriage more strained. talk to him about it and present it in a very unaccusing manner...asking for his help as opposed to telling him what to do should help! good luck!