text: should i try forgive him? i met a guy online about 3 years ago over this time weve chatted and texted and kept in touch constantly, over the last year we became closer and as i moved closer to where he lived with work we met up and began seeing each other- things we going really well as we already knew each other because of the time we have previously spent talking online. but recently i sensed something wasnt quite right and found out he has had a girlfriend for a year he says he didnt know how to tell me as he didnt want to loose what we had and that they were drifting apart and he wants to be with me but needs time to sort it out. should i forgive him and try make it work ? decide how much you like him.  nobody is beyond redemption, if you think its worth another shot lay down the rules and give him that chance.   people make mistakes reading your short paragraph i can see his angst.  you have been together for 2 years its a safe bet you had invested romance into things so his proably felt lost about the correct thing to do (believe me it happens a lot!)  without you being close he really did have his cake and eat it too type situation.  he had a great on line friend and a girlfriend he saw everyday.  without you being close he had no compelling reason to ruin that by telling you he had a girlfriend.  (this is a crappy thing to do but thats human nature people just don't deal with stuff till they have to)  no way has he had 3 years of lies with you players don't invest like that...no return for them you know?  so its a safe bet a good deal of what he has told you is true about him.  i'd suggest letting him work it out without you pressuring him.  if he chooses you while your scarce you know its what you share between you that made him choose you.