text: should i be married with children? i come from a small town, and it seems like the majority of the people i went to school with are married and/or have children.  i'm 23, almost 24.  i'm still in college because i had a few setbacks, but am set to graduate in may.  i have been w/my current bf for almost 4 years now and he's also set to graduate in may.  he's almost 28.  is it not normal that we're not married and having kids yet?  i am ready to get married or at least engaged, but not have kids.  is 20-24 the normal marriage/kid having time? nope, if it's not what you want for you, don't get married or have children.  doing it because it's expected or normal is a terrible reason.  marriage or kids are huge commitments.