text: why am i tearing my hair out? i have a partner in the states and i'm british.we've been together for 6yrs now we want to get married and we have children together.however, at every point we find an obstacle that stops us from being husband and wife. both our countries stop us at every point at being a family. what should we do? i am british also and my husband is a us citizen. it was too difficult for me to get into the us so we got married in houston and hubby came over here to live. getting an entry clearance visa is relatively easy (but expensive) after 2 years he can apply for residency like my husband will in october.........that is your best option......