text: need a guys perspective...........? do  leopards change their spots? my husband of 13 yrs was a terrible play boy when he was young and we got married at 21 years old but i haven't caught him doing anything wrong and i was wondering that do guys really change when they r married. just curious,  asked him & he says he enjoyed his teen years & he saw many other girls while we were courting but now hes married and he takes his vows seriously.  is this possible. so, how long have you had these feelings of wanting to have relations with other people? this is clearly a voice screaming out for some attention. you need to stop before you do some serious damage to your relationship with your husband. when you start making assumptions, this leads to accusations. or worse, you actually believe he is capable of / and having, an affair. so you go have an affair. stop. he's married to you. still. don't be a fool. just love him back and don't worry about his past.