text: my boyfreind tryed commiting suicide? i called 911 was not aware that he took 80 zanax and had 1 gram of cocaine early in the day he went to the bathroom and fell down passed out i couldnt get him to come to he left a letter for me he has prescrition for zanax says he doesnt feel like i love him anymore he was in icu overnight still talking about wanting to die they tranfered him for an evaluation he lied to them and got out they can only hold him for 72hours i dont know what to do my stepmom killed herself 25 years ago i never got over it i need to figure out how to help him i'm so sorry you're going through this. suicide is the most selfish thing that a person can do. they're only thinking of their own feelings and not of those around him. it sounds like he's using it to control you, and maybe keep you close to him out of fear of him doing it again. this fella needs some serious head help. he needs to be checked into a safe place, where he can get daily help, in a controlled setting. if he can't get that, then he needs to get regular appointments with a head doc. the best thing you can do for him is to encourage him to get help. let him know that you and him don't have a future unless he works through his deeper issues first. if he theatens to do himself in, let him go. it's really out of your hands. he'll either do it or not. if he does, it's not your fault. i know this sounds cold and uncaring, but you have to draw the line. you can't let him control your feelings, especially using fear. that's not love. that's the biggest turn-off too. how can something so dramatic want to make you stay with him? it's the same thing for your step-mom. there was nothing you could have done to save her from doing what she did. it was selfish and thoughtless. suicidal people don't think through the whole situation. they have tunnel vision, and are only focussed on how they feel. it has nothing to do with you, even if they say it does. we make our own choices. i hope you choose what's healthy for you. <