text: how would i go about getting over my boyfriend of 5 years attempting to cheat on me and re-learn to trust him?   silly me... i've tried that and failed... i guess my lightbulb just went off and i've come to this conclusion:  relationship is a trail to see if you're ment to be together forever.  you should be looking for someone who makes you happy  above all else...if it doesn't work out, then you can only look at the way you behaved, and try to make yourself better; do not beat yourself up in this process!!! you should be look for happiness alone if this is where you take yourself.  my friend just broke up with her feionce , and he won't take her dog... now, she's moved into a tiny apartment  and she's got this massive dog.  she loves this dog, and it gives her happy feelings about the past relationship...however, she is consumed by guilt for keeping the doggie in a small space.  concequently, she's always yelling at the doggie because of the guilt.  i realized my cheeting ex was treating me this way...he brought a new girl into his heart, now there wasn't enough room, and i got yelled at because he felt guilty...  i finally got the light and "drop kicked him to the curve".  yeah, i'm free, and finally away from negitivity, so i'm getting happy again...i still long for the good old days, but recognize, they're in the past.