text: what do you do, when the man you love, tells you that he is still in love with his ex girlfriend?? we met....boom, it was incredible!! within 4 days we were swearing undying love and planning our life together. suddenly...coming up to the 2 week mark,he suddenly said that we need to slow things down a bit. turns out he had had a call from the ex girlfriend..(whom he dated for a year...but left, as he was scared of gettting hurt, but is still in contact with...) now all of a sudden, the brakes are on...and he is then telling me, that his heart still belongs to her.  he said that they are not getting back together, and that for now he just needs to be on his own to be able to sort through things, and learn to love himself again, before he can open his himself up to another relationship and love that person with all his heart!!! i waited 37 years to meet this man. i am besotted by him...and he is telling me that he needs to keep us purely as friends, and not think about the future. i am devastated. i do not know what to do, or how to handle this situation.....i need help!!! wow! i felt dizzy hearing your story...i would cry my heart out for about a day...then sort things out too..the next days will be like a living hell...you have to acknowledge what you are feeling so you can be objective with your decision..  first, he might be really enjoying the time when you were together and he is convincing his self that he can also build that dreams with you....but suddenly reality strikes back and he's still not over with his ex, did it occur to you that maybe he didn't know that he'll feel that way towards his ex?...it's a possibility too....and the realization of it comes out - he's still in love with her....i think his confession is enough for you to move on....tell him all what you feel and be angry....you are both victims here....but you all the most hurt and there's no easy way out..  no...don't be friends with him anymore..forgetting will not be easy if you keep this nonsense friendship...avoid him and all the things that will remind you of him...you've had enough.....and you need to leave him in the dust...  life has to go on..."remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck!"  you can do it....just like i did!