text: recently divorced! why do i feel awkward about dating? long story short...no feelings whatsoever for ex, separated for 4 years before divorce, turning down many dates, not a lesbian, extrovert with many friends and libido is good. can someone figure this out for me? maybe because you're just not ready to do it?  if you're happy with your life right now, live it.  it sounds like you've let 'society & friends' decide when you 'should' be dating.    what's wrong with enjoying a bit of solitude before adding someone to your life?  after a bad relationship, it's particularly satisifying to be with no one.  and that's despite what all your matchmaking friends think.  when you're ready, there's millions of guys out there.  and when you're ready, they'll look a lot better.