text: help dont know what to do? ok this is what happened, my ex boyfriend left me in may he just went back to wv where he is from without even telling me and left a note...i was so upset and he only called me like once in a couple months, i was friends with some of his friends so i would always talk to his friend brian and he totally helped me through everything and was there for me and gave me advice and i did the same for him cause his x had recently left him for anohter guy. so in july i went to wv to get sum stuff back from my x & i went there to talk to him cause he we had never reallly talked after he left and i needed closure. while i was there i hung out with his friend brian who helped me though everything and we ended up liking eachother (i live in ny) so since july me and brian talked everyday we both liked eachother and i went to visit him in october, everything was good and we had fun we even talked about me moving there, but he was friends with my xboyfriend for years, so wheni cam bak my x told brian if you really like the guy, and feel you a had a connection worth taking further, then you need to go there and talk to him in person - these types of conversations are never well suited to phone-calls or emails.  keep in mind that a three-way deal such as this can be tricky at times, and brian probably feels caught in the middle - possibly even feels a little guilty for getting so close to his best mates ex. just don't feel like it is something wrong with you - these are never easy situations.   the only thing you can do is talk to him face to face - if your friendship is worth anything to him, he'll open up and talk top you about how he is feeling. if he doesn't then simply chalk it up to experience and move forward.  just don't let this stop you from being true to yourself or allow it to close over your heart - then you really have lost something precious.  *edit* - scandalous my butt! that's just worrying about what other people think - the one thing which usually does more harm than good. be true to yourself not to what other people think you should be like