text: do you agree that you are born either dependent and codependent? i think that i am naturally codependent.  if forced to be independent and be on my own im fine.  but codependence is my nature.  and my mom on the otherhand is very dependent but when she was married became codependent.  what do you think i believe codependency is a situationally, developed sickness (and it is a sickness), a "learned behavior" stemming from lack of self esteem, self-centered ego (eg: everything that happens must be caused by me, to me, fixed by me, etc.). it's actually a deep rooted issue of needing to control (everybody, everything, etc.). "dependency" is a whole new category of sickness. both require professional and/or spiritual treatment.