text: 20 year age difference? the girl (23) is very mature for her age, a college grad, has a good job... has been through alot in life... always lived w/father so is def not seeking a parent wants a family one day and a loving man.  the guy (43) chose the career path after the military in hopes he'd find a wife somewhere along the way... women he'd been with cheated.. he took time to figure himself out and what he wanted and focused on work. now owns a house and has a good stable job and wants a family.  they both agree on many things, life, children, relationships, love, have some of the same friends... the girl is friends with his mother and two brothers, helped move him into his home and set up/organize it. there is a flirtation between them nothing more than friendship... the girl wants to wait till marriage or engagement for sex  and the guy knows this... could this become a good relationship/marriage? i don't think we should allow society to dictate age restrictions in relationships. there is a 21 year age gap between my boyfriend and i (i'm 27). i have never been happier in my life. just like with any relationship, it needs to have the essentials like trust, understanding, communication, interests, goals, etc. if those elements are in place, then nothing else matters. love is the greatest feeling in the world, and age shouldn't stop anyone from experiencing it.