text: do guys like a girl who can take care of herself over a girl who depends on them? i am pretty independent and i don't like people doing stuff for me. is this bad? i have never been asked out so i guess it could be a problem, is it? men?????? i like to be able to do things for my woman.  small things, opening the door, opening the wine, lighting her cigarette, but she also needs to be self sufficient because i may not always be there.