text: how can you help someone overcome his fear of getting hurt in a relationship and convince him to take risks? i know someone who frequently changes his mind about asking some girl out. he is attracted to that certain girl but won't take any chances. he uses lame excuses and has adopted a "why bother!" attitude. claims that him and her don't see eye to eye regarding many things but he won't take a stab at a friendly conversation regarding these. i need to persuade him that life isn't pret-a-porter and in order to be happy, one has to make a few adjustments. but how? i just can't seem to find the right words! p.s. i'm the girl. *sigh...* i dont know mate i am having the same problem myself it is just an idea but maby you could organise something for him