text: he called me obsesive? okay we've been together for 2 years, live together.  i try my best to let him know that i love him and would do anything for him. but he thinks im obsest with him, sorry but thats sooo wrong, i dont have time to be obsest with anyone. i mean, i lovee him but its not like im stalking him and following him places. how can i get him to stop thinking that im obsest with him? i think you both are confused about how you feel. as for him...he probably see's you as someone that would give anyone you were with just as much attention as you do him. that it has nothing to do with a possibility he could be any more special than the next guy. he probably see's you as desperate to find someone to love you. a problem he has now is that he's invested time and emotion into you before figuring this out. so now he's at a point where he can't feel happy with or without you. by you hanging out with your guy friends.... it only confirms in his mind that he is not happy with you because the belief he has of you being desperate for attention is only feeding his insecurity that you're capable of more than welcoming any passes made at you.