text: seriously speaking, how would i know if a guy is just really friendly or the other way around? how would i know if a guy is just friendly or naturally caring or maybe he's trying to attract  a girl? i don't want to use this word but when he would sound like flirting a girl? :) judge the words and the actions as a whole, and don't forget to look at his nonverbal messages.. posture, eye contact, use of personal space, and things like that.  put all these things together and you should get a pretty good idea of where he's coming from.  or if you're very brave, you could just ask him if he's interested.  friendly and naturally caring guys do tend to attract girls!