text: should my husband have said something to his father in my defense? my husband's father has groped me. he has made numerous comments about my breasts. i tell my husband these things, he says nothing and just shrugs his shoulders. my father in law only lives 3 miles from us. not only should your husband say something.  he should do something about it.  the first step being to refuse to allow his father to be anywhere near you, him and any of children.  if you're husband can't even take this small step, then you and he need to have a serious talk about your future, or at the very least, your location.  that said, i seriously doubt that you did not see any indications of this kind of behavior prior to your marriage.  did you attempt to take any action then?