text: if you were having a wedding but didn't get along with all your family...? would you still invite them to the wedding?  say if every time you go to a family gathering for the holidays and they treated you differently than everyone else and treated you like crap and they always ruined the occassion for you because of their constant insulting remarks that you had to leave because they hurt your feelings so bad, would you still invite them to your wedding?  this is the most important day to you and you want the day to be special and you want nothing to ruin it but you know that if you invited everyone then that is exactly what will happen.  if you don't invite them, they might get hurt and then it will be on your mind all day.  what should you do in a situation like this? the polite thing to do is to invite them to the wedding.  they are family no matter what -- and family needs to be a part of the joyous occasion.