text: do girls like guys with high self esteem? guys with high self esteem are usually assholes and the guys with low self esteem have low self esteem because girls wont go for them even though they are the better choice. a guy gets high self esteem through relationships (friends and other) so if a guy has low self esteem what does he do to bring that self esteem up? my way of raising self esteem is sex, but that doesnt always work so what do i do? absolutely yes.  men who are les sure of themselves are less attractive to most women.