text: i could use some help? me and my best friend like this same guy. we dont right over him. but i am afraid that one day we will. he is an 11th grader. his house burnt down. and we have been giving him money. and he gives us a hug when we give him money. well i gave him some money thursday and he hugged me. when i told my best friend she seemed to be mad and a little upset. i feel like we are in a competition on who can give the most money to this guy as well. what do i do? first off, i think it is great you are trying to help him out. second, this may not be a good time for him right now having two girls fight over him...his house just burned down. approach him first...maybe say, "i was wondering if you wanted to go to a movie or something." or, "would you like to come over to dinner." don't flirt with him too much because it might scare him away. as for your best friend, if you two fight over the same guy, and quit being friends over it, then you probably don't need to be friends. but think about this: what if doesn't like either one of you, but just as friends?? it would be pretty stupid to lose your best friend over. say you and this guy go to a movie together and things develop and your friend gets jealous over that, the she really doesn't need to be your friend. friends shouldn't be jealous of each other...especially over a guy. good luck, and follow your heart to make the right decisions.