text: i am suffering from abroken heart,i called off the relationship because i found someone else but why do i hurt i do love this guy i dumped ,i thought it was something i could get into easily and come out.i love the other guy 2 i have been dating him on and off for 11yrs now .he wants us to be married now i do want to be with him,but i fell for the other guy he is crushed.  i love them both to be honest, your gonna have to be real with yourself. only you know why you love the both of them. don't leave one if you feel that your heart is with the one your leaving. you were with him for 11 years, it really doesn't matter if it was off and on it obviously had a meaning to it b/c you still love him after all of that time spent together. you need to sit back alone and figure out what both of them bring to the table. think about everything that the guy you were with for 11 yrs. gave you. remember nothin powers over understanding and happiness. if he doesn't make you happy inside & out and show you that he actually understands you regaurdless of the situation btwn you 2. then maybe you were supposed to fall for the next guy, think about why you both were together for 11yrs. and you are just now thinking of marraige. where there problems, issues, anything that stopped the both of you from growing. only you know the answer to those questions. just remember that your destined to be happy and explore a new and exciting life when you actually get married to someone. make sure that whoever you choose deserves to share that happiness with you. good luck!!! i really hope that you get through this, but i think you will!!!  email me at sweetfantasie85@yahoo.com (when you do make your decision)or just to talk everyone needs a friend...... i'd love to know what happened anyway. good luck again!!!!!!