text: how to free myself? hey guys i have a serious problem... i always seem to attract the same guys. they are always good guys, but always end up acting the same way. it started off with my husband. he and i lived in different states, so emotionally he was hardly ever there for me! then that marriage ended!  the guys i get involved with always tend to have busy lives, which means i never spend time with them like on weekends or holidays and that hurts! they always see me when the time is right for them and my timing is incovenient for them! like the guy i'm seeing now hasn't even taken me out cuz he's always busy trying to sort out his family's problems... they are always going through something... jail, family problems, loosing a job, blah blah and i always wait patiently... these guys are good people and i love them all for different reasons, but sometimes i get lonely and need someone i can always count on! my choice in men has nothing to do with my father. he was always and still is there for me! what gets me confused is that thse men have all claimed to love me but yet spend so little time with me! how do i stop this vicious cycle and why is it that they all have the same trait. i know its about me! i'm a beautiful, educated, respectful person, so what am i doing wrong. can u help me get to the root of this??  