text: how do you know if you will marry this person...? i have been with this one person for about 2 1/2 years and i really really care for him. i love him. i lived with him for a few months and we just started fighting cats and dogs.. now that we dun live together.. everything is fine. i wonder if i will marry this man? i don't know what to do...  so how do you know when you are ready to get married and start having kids? if your young, you have life choices and i think its time for you too move on and make some new ones. if you have been around the bin a couple of times and your well into your late 30's then you have to re-evaluate the problem, is he worth working with to get him together or will he be a complete waste of time because time is not on your side. so it depends but it sounds like your young, so i think in order to find the men out there that are marriage material you have to go through all the motions over a period of more then 2yrs and less then 5yrs. they include, sex, living with him, dealing with inlaws and his siblings and his friends and ex's. if all that works out in his favor and yours, he's marrying material, if it doesn't in that time frame, then good riddens and move on. good luck young sista in training.