text: i just find-out that an ex of my has a kid and it sounds about the right time? a friend tells me that the boy does not look anything like the guy my ex is with how do i go about asking for a test? call her and meet somewhere and have a good conversation about it. before you meet first make sure that she will come alone to the meeting place and not with her husband or bf whatever he is. durng the conversation i would ask her about the test.