text: how do i know girl i love is loving me or not, without asking her directly?   love is . . .not having to ask.  of course you will never know if you don't ask.  what? you think she is going to just act like she is not interested, and then bam say, "i love you?"  you could get sneaky and have someone else ask her.  of course, that's not a good way to start a relationship.   you want open honest communication in your marriage?  then you better start practicing now - tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels - you probably would even have to ask!