text: i'm in love and i am planning my future with my bf. i have a problem though.? the problem is this, my ex bf whom i totally felt like i was over and never even thought about him.  is now popping back in my head. i know i love my bf and i do not want to be with my ex in a realtionship type way. but i keep seeing him out on weekends. and something makes me want him. not love him just want him.(ya know) there is just something about him.  when i see him at the bar and other guys try to hit on me or mess with me. he acts like my protector or something and it is just sexy ass hell. but i know nothing long term could come out of it bc he just isnt like that.     and i really really want to  spend the reat of my life withmy bf.  he is away for the next several mths and maybe i am just lonely.  finally my question is, can u be in love and have these weird feelings towards someone else. i fully believe that you can be in love with 2 people at the same time.  they are going to be different types of love because no 2 loves are the same, but i'm not sure if you are really over your ex.  i know how you feel.  you want him, but don't want a relationship with him.  you want him to want you.  but you are in love with your current bf.  and also, the fact that you have so long without your bf is giving you a lot of time to think.    i'm sorry that you are feeling this way.  the only thing that i can tell you is to try to stay away from your ex.  unless of course you want a relationship with him.  i think that time away from him and time spent thinking about your new relationship should help.    another suggestion if that doesn't work... make a list of all the things that you didn't like about him when you were in a relationship.  and really asses them... ask yourself if he has changed and if you were with him again would it really work out.  good luck!