text: how can i tell if my husband really loves me? he's got another girl in the past and they had a child, but inspite that i accepted him and we're starting anew now.... go to marriage counseling with him and try to get past this with him if he is truley sorry and wants to work on the marriage with you. did he cheat on you in the marriage and relationship or was this before you knew him? remember as well he is a father to the child and will have to be a dad to that child so you will also have to accept that too and let him be the dad he needs to be to that child. please keep us posted on what happens and i am here if you need to talk. i wish you the best in working on this marriage.