text: how do i stop fighting with my husband all the time? we've been married 1 1/2 years...we met in august 2004 married 2 months later in october 2004 and i got pregnant 6 weeks later...now we have a 8 month old and no relationship b/c we never got to know one another...oh yeah he works 90 hours a week...how do i fix this? pick your battles.  does it really matter that he left the towels on the floor or that he is ten minutes late for the fifth time in a row?  no it doesn't not really.  only discuss things that are important issues.  and start right from the beginning.  find a mutually okay time and schedule a babysitter and a date.  working 90 hours a week is a problem so have a nice dinner ready at home if you have to and take time to get to know each other.  don't sweat the small stuff.. and don't sweat the big stuff.. life is too short.  work on being friends first and the rest will follow.  and don't focus on the negative with him all the time even if he does with you.  teach by example not nagging as we woman are prone to do. hold you tongue more often than you let it go. you'll be surprised by the result.