text: is five years too long? my boyfriend and i have been together for over three years. we have a baby boy together. to this day he has never spoken about marriage but when i bring it up he says "one of these days". i have decided to wait until we've been together five years then if he still has not proposed then i'll end the relationship. is five years enough time for a man to make up his mind? don't just end it!  you have a kid!  you should be mature enough to talk through this and have a dicussion with your future husband.  if he can't handle a serious conversation then maybe you do need someone that is ready for a serious relationship and ready to grow beyond the age of 19.