text: girls, don't skewer me yet..... but?? i am in the market for an engagement ring. i have been looking for something nice, but for something i feel is impressive is so expensive. there are natural occuring diamonds, and there are what they call "lab-created" diamonds. they are supposed to have the same sparkle, the same "fire" and the same hardness. do you think it's wrong to save thousands of dollars we could be putting towards a wedding just to have a "natural" diamond? thoughts? what does your fiancé think? - would be my main question here. unless my fiancé was made of money, i would be extremely disappointed if he spent any significant amount of it on an item of purely symbolic value such as an engagement ring. i was much more impressed with the fact that my husband owned a home and managed his money well. but some women would rather see their husband-to-be in debt, and have a huge rock on their finger; so, it all depends.