text: would it be considered hypocritical for a lesbian to say being a gay man is wrong? i know a lesbian who feels this way and i know some people think being a lesbian and being gay are totally different...just lookin' for a little input. i can understand a lesbian not liking men and therefore not liking gay men since we are a subset of men -- -- but not liking just gay men or thinking its wrong.  that's frankly very hypocritical -- although i imagine it comes out of the idea that men are there 'for women'  -- are you sure she's really a lesbian and not some sort of a pseudo-lesbian who "decided" to be a lesbian no matter what her body felt or wanted?   people who don't follow what is natural for them, for any reason -- are usually pretty f**ked up, and i've known some wap women who weren't really lesbians, but lived as them.  makes no sense to me.  reynolds jones schenectady, ny http://www.rebuff.org