text: 4 muslim women please..how can you be with your loved 1 knowing there are others & be friends with them 2?? how can you be friends with the other women without wanting to hurt them in jealousy persay??  to always have to share your loved one..to know that you will never completely have his heart..that all your love and effort isn't enough for him to be with just you.  it's hard to enough to know about them but then have it thrown in your face is horrible..i couldn't do it no matter how much i am in love with my boyfriend.  can someone help me with that one please?? well coming from a country that is nothing but muslims well my parents are anyways i was raised in spain but my parents and granparents and so on are from iran. here is the low down on those people who don't know let me educate you.  the only way a man can get a second or third wife *which by the way they can only hae 3* is if the first wife consents it because she can not provide him with a boy to carry the name. sometimes they only have a marriage that last however long it takes to get a boy and then they divorce or whatever not usually though. anyways the first wife is really incontrol if she wants to do it or not, the other way a man can go abouts doing that is if the wife leaves. for example my grandma was visiting my family in spain and she stayed for like 4 years or something long time and my grandpa got this his secertary pregnant so he had to marry him by the muslim law. so he married her because  a. the wife technically left him and b. she was pregnant.  not that he does not love you some females are okay with not having the man around and all they want out of life is children and a nice house and money right and some sex every now and then. but there is more to it than most westerns know anyways i dont know the rest of the details cause i am christian and i know very limitted information about muslims *how ironic i know* but yeah there u go.