text: i have an uncle that is verbally abusive to my aunt should i get involved? my aunt and uncle have been married for as long as i can remember she has severe health problems and has had them for a number of years he just recently started calling her names like b--ch and fat a-s should i get involved kick his a-s or what would appreciate serious answers only no!u will end up the bad guy.best u can do is try talking 2 them seperately but if this is the way they have been 4 years it probably will not change anything.i have a sister who has been in a abusive relationship 4 over 30 years everything we did 2 help her only caused her 2 stop talking 2 the family an cause a really wide gap between us.i actually stuck up 4 her and beat the crap out of him.she has not spoken 2 be in 10 years.