text: i wanna be more outgoing and like not scared anymore! how can i feel myself without being scared at all? im not all that scared but i wanna be stronger the most important thing to remember is: no matter how beautiful or talented somebody is, we all have insecurities and all want to be liked by others (maybe not all but 99% of us).  so don't go thinking that you're the only scared person in the room.  you'd be surprised at what feedback you receive by simply smiling at somebody, or if you go out somewhere, make an effort to make somebody else feel more comfortable or better about themselves.    slowly you will start to feel a lot more positive about yourself, hold your head a little higher and know that you're a worthwhile person.    make sure you are true to yourself as well, if you're trying to be somebody you're not, you'll just frustrate yourself.  don't get yourself down if somebody says or does anything that makes you feel bad - did they really intend to hurt you?    you're the person you'll be stuck with through all the good times and bad times in your life so you'll need to be your own coach and support, you can't expect anybody else to.    think of yourself as a product on a shelf - you're unique, somebody out there will need it, not everybody wants it, some will use it and throw it away - but nobody's going to try it if it sits up the back where nobody can reach it.  hold your chin up, act confident (even if you're really scared) and people will respond well to that, and eventually you'll believe your own act.  good luck!