text: is this type of sex normal? me and my boyfriend are together for 2 years. we never talk about sex, which is ok for me. but i dont understand one thing: we only had normal (vaginal) sex only 3-4 times. all the other times we kind of make out, which means: we both wear our underwear (only) and kind of stimulate each other's genitals. i don't know exactly how to explain - we lie in sex position and do sexual movements. no oral, vaginal or manual sex! is it sex? or is it normal? he seems very satisfied with it. talk to your boyfriend.  this is not "abnormal" sex, there are some people who do this on a regular basis so as not to have full intercourse.  it is still "sex", and can be very satisfying, it's just not full intercourse.  but talk to him and discuss how you feel.  after 2 years together, you should be able to talk to him about this kinda thing.  if not, what would happen if you marry the guy, and you can't even talk about sex!?  maybe he doesn't enjoy vaginal sex, and this you need to find out!