text: in love with an older colleague...? i fell heads over heels over a truly fantastic woman who's 3 years older than me (i'm 25 and she's 28). we enjoy each other's company and have no problem relating to each other. problem is we have a close working relationship and i'm really afraid that if i were to go one step further, it would jeopardise both our working relationship. how would i know for sure whether it's possible for us to go on and if it is possible, how do i go about it without hurting our working relationship? please help me! i'm losing sleep over all this! i have been in the same situation and personally i would not advise you to go ahead.  its best to just stay friends. i fell in love with a guy who was my colleague, my senior and i really thought he was the one and now he has dumped me after we had decided to start a family and get married.  now i'm left holding a baby and having to worry about finding another job.  it's just not worth it because when things do go sour it will be really awkward not for just you but for everybody else that you are working with.  try and find someone outside the office it would make your life a lot less complicated.  at the end of the day its your decision, i really hope you make the right one!