text: what do you think about this? me and my husband has an arguments last night because my baby is crying so much and we dont know why..my nanny came to me to get the baby, i gave it to her because maybe to her she will not cry.  my husband told me like "what you/we gonna do if the nanny is not with us? he said it was just a joke, but to me, i feel i am insulted because it seems to me that i am incompetent mother and wife to my son. am i really too sensitive? what do you think about it?  we came from a different nationalities.. he is american i am asian.. but eventhough, we are happy together, just the language barriers sometimes causes problem. he thinks this i think that way... you seem to have a handle on the language, so i hardly think that's the problem.  i've seen americans on here who didn't write as understandably as you have.  i'm pretty sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings, but he does have a valid point, hun!  it is nice having a nanny but she won't always be with you to comfort the crying baby.  what does she do to make the child stop crying?  babies cry naturally, they teethe, have gas and things like that and can't tell us what's hurting.  you should try to take a little more of a hands-on approach yourself...you may be surprised at the postiive results!