text: love and lust? what is the difference? which comes first? well, there is a huge difference.  love for someone is when you respect them, want the best for them, want them in your life, care for them, worry about them, miss them when they're gone, etc.  you can feel those things for anyone, your sisters, your children, your friends, even your pet.    lust is a strong physical attraction, a craving for someone if you will,  that is hard to control, trust me, lol.   it is difficult to say which comes.  i think it depends on the situation.  if you're friends with someone and then become attracted to them then it is obvious that love would come first.  it varies certainly.