text: this question concerns differences in sexual preferences.? can a married couple stay together even if they both have different values when it comes to sex.  i like traditional sex, just nake sex with kissing:  my husband likes bondage hardcore.  he knows i hate his way, being tied up and all.  so to punish me he has withdrawn from sex with me altogether.  problem is it's been so long since we've had intercourse i don't care for it with him anymore.  i do not find him attractive anymore and don't know what to do. find another lover