text: is it ever appropriate to comment on someone's weight? my family has quite an obsession with weight... they're wondering if my friend will lose weight, or they're commenting on how thin i look now.  i'm very uncomfortable, even with "flattering" remarks... how can i respond? my family sounds just like your family. it's frustraoccasionallybe very upsetting. i just refuse to discuss any ones weight with them at all and i shut down any weight conversations they attempt with me - positive or negative - because i figure that if i seek their approval i also invite them to criticise.  to answer the other part of your question - i have occassionally been known to comment on people's weight. but only when it is positive such as, someone who has been trying to lose weight and has been successful.