text: whats the chances of a 34 yr old woman,that is close to 250lbs,and 1 child,finding a good man? i want a man that will love me for me and be a provider for me and my kid. how hard is that. i want a man that makes me feel safe and is not ashamed of a full figured woman. are they all takin? it's a give and take situation.  weight is usually not an issue, but for health issues you might want to consider losing at least 70 of that lbs.  sometimes presentation counts a whole lot.  i for one, look for a woman with a great attitude, and also present herself diligently in public. someone who can hold out on her own, and not lean on others.  looks is just 5% of my qualities i look for, compared to 50% for attitude and 20% for presentation.  real men look for the qualities in a woman, not looks.  build your confidence up first, then start from there.