text: what to do after staying in a relationship that has been nothing but a roller coaster ride of abuse? ok,people i started out by just confusing everybody the first go around with my quetion including myself.i think i just made more statements about what my problems were and not what to do about them.  i have been married to a man for 12 yrs. and lived with him for 2yrs. befor we married.i am 51,he is 53.the first 8yrs. of our relationship there was physical abuse from him.i have always worked,went back to school to further my education to make more money.i stood up for myself and filed for a divorce in 1996 and rented myself a nice apartment and in the meantime he was getting counseling.we continued to see one another even thogh we lived apart.i got some help for myself also.  we thought things were better,we got along better and the physical abuse stopped.we have been back together since 2003,now i am unable to work due to health issues and he tells me when i can go where i can go and i only have money when he lets me have some.i live like a hermit,i always wear the same thing. i left him and went to my parents home for a year then moved in with a friend-im now divorced and remarried-do you have any friends who might want to help you out?