text: can you be gay at the age of 6 and in first grade? well there is this kid at my sisters school and he is really gay can this be true? everyone has to start somewhere.  if it is true, as i believe, that those who are gay/lesbian are born that way, then it would be logical that a 6 year old could be gay. whether they personally would know this at such an age, i don't know. it seems that 6 is a bit young to have a grasp of what we adults refer to as "sexual orientation," tho kids do have their own age-appropriate "sexuality."