text: married but not interested in sex? i cant talk to my husband about sex  :( he thinks he is the bomb lover but isnt.  i used to enjoy sex, lots of it, but now, nah..... i could go without but he cant.  when we do have sex , even oral, i dread it & i watch the clock, counting down the minutes.  i havent feel aroused by him in some time.  last time i felt aroused and interested in sex was with my best friend a month ago.  we didnt have sex but her & i kissed and made up for lost time & i look forward to being with her again.  please dont say that i am gay and this is why.  i love having sex with my girl but i love men (only a man now that i am married).  i used to be a very sexual person in the past with other relationships with men (my girl is my only female i have been with).  dont know what to do.  not divorcing over this but need to work thru somehow. try telling your hus u need some time off ..maybe distance =will make the urge grow stronger