text: after 12 years, she says she has never had an orgasm? she says she can't concentrate on the act of love. she's busy thinking of everything else she has to do. i've been face down between her legs, and had my head locked there, with her begging me to quit. that's not an orgasm? this is not your fault. better communication about likes and dislikes helps, but ultimately, it's up to the female. it's always beeen sociaaly acceptable for a guy to have and enjoy sex. it's not so much with the female. our body image, past trauma, fear of being caught, inability to really let loose and enjoy the act, etc. can hinder any possibility of orgasm. personally, i couldn't if i am not in love with a guy. it's true. the berst sex for me is with the man (my man) i am head over heels for. i do have to say though, that i agree with the "getting her (close to) drunk".