text: ever had your heart broken, by yourself?!!? me and my boyfriend of 5 years broke up because we were too different and it was never gonna work out.. but we still couldn't completely cut eachother out of our lives.. but then i couldn't really move on either, so i told him that he should stop calling. he didn't want to, so i had to lie and tell him i don't love him anymore. he stopped calling.. now i literally feel that my heart is broken.. because i really love him with all my heart but have to let him go for both of our sakes.. i feel so empty.. benita... 5 years, did you say?? that is a long time.. and being without someone to care for you after 5 years is really lonely. thats the reason you are feeling empty. but hey, when both of you have agreed that it aint gonna work out, the best thing to do would be to forget the last five years and look for someone new. after all, there are many more fish in the ocean!  i know it is tough benita, but you are making it harder for yourself if you continue in this fashion. you know deep inside that you have to forget him eventually, but you are counting on your heart and mind to do that for you over time. but hey, that may take very long. you have got to help yourself. and the best way to do that is to find yourself a new friend or guy that can care for you and that you can care for...  think it over.