text: please i want girls to answer this question? i'm an 18 virgin i'm just wondering when girls have sex for the first time  does it really hurt like people say and do girls bleed alot?and i'm not going to have sex till i get married to the person i love i'm just wondering how much does it really hurt. that depends on size and gentleness of your partner.  mine was pretty big, but he went really slow, so it didn't hurt as much.  yeah ur gonna bleed, and sometime times it offsets ur period.  don't be afraid, just wait until you are ready.