text: who is better at giving oral sex....male or females??   let's answer that question with some more questions, shall we?  when you go down on a woman, where are you focused and is that where she wants you focused? do you use a hard tongue or soft tongue? do you use your fingers in addition to your tongue? if so, what are you doing with them - in other words, what kind of motion are you making? do you listen to how she's breathing? what does it mean when she holds her breath? what does it mean when her legs tense up?  if a man knows the right answers to all those questions, he's in the game.  if not, she's better at giving than him, guaranteed.