text: he wants to wait 10yrs!? ok, so my bf and i have been dating for 4yrs and i have known for 2 of those years that he he wants to wait to get married until he is around 28yrs old, which would put us at 10yrs of dating. i finally asked him why he wanted to wait so long, and he said he wants to save up as much as possible, eventually move out (within the next 3yrs), and save until he can afford or at least put an incredible amount down on a townhouse. now that seems logical to me, and i love him to death and support him all the way. my question is, why does he want to wait so long to marry me? if your b/f told you the same thing, would you wait for them? ouch! that would certainly upset me. i've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years (i'm 19 next week, he's 23) and there's no way i'd be happy about waiting 10 years. we're planning on getting engaged within the next year and then i want to wait 3 years before getting married. i think i would be very hurt about waiting 10 years personally.   i think his intentions are pure. there's nothing wrong with wanting to have a stable life before you get married, he's probably wanting to be able to provide you with a wonderful life for when you get married.  my suggestion to you would be to talk to him, tell him how you're feeling- make sure you explain that you understand why he would want to wait but tell him that you want to get married before 10 years and you don't mind if everything's not perfect when you get married. you love him and you want that commitment.  if he still insists on waiting then it's up to you if you think he's worth waiting for or if it would be best for both of you to move on. you don't want to be bitter about the wait by the time you do get married!  at the end of the day if he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with the 10 year wait isn't long when it comes to spending the rest of your lives together..   -elise