text: it's my work christmas party tonight, do you think i should chat up the sexy girl from reception?   when faced with a decision like this, go with whichever choice has the least worst outcome.  in this case, if you chat her up but are refused you may feel embarrassed or hurt but those feelings will go away in time. on the other hand, if you don't turn on your charm, you may miss the opportunity of finding a fantastic partner.  for me, not taking action and then constantly regretting it is worse than embarrassment.  go for it and at least you can be proud you gave it your best shot.