text: advice for a friend: what if you found out,? after leaving all your possesions and life as you knew it, marry and travel many thousands of miles away from your home only to find that the man you married lied about everything to do with himself but says he did it out of love.....could you accept the deception, get over it, get on with life...or not forgive and go back to nothing and begin again? both guys and ladies opinions would be helpful. life is full of lies. it's never justifiable but look it's life. not reason to go back to square one. chances are it's not going to be better there. accept it. chances are love grows. if the relationship doesn't improve over years, shrug, and don't worry about it. very few have a pleasant marriage after 20 years with the same person. it's just an accepted pain.