text: how can i not care? me and my friend are roommates.  she complains to me every night about the same thing and stays on the subject forever.  when she was going to meet her boyfriend's parents, she whined about out-there complaints for at least two hours.  i stayed with her, telling her she's delightful and fun and that they will love her.  but whenever i tell her something that bothers me, she just tells me i'm being emo and to stop being that way and then just goes and changes the subject.  this bothers me so much because it makes me feel like i don't mean the same to her as she does to me, that i'm some daffy third wheel that she has to deal with.  truthfully, i don't have the time to care, but how can i just not care about it? she sounds very self-centered. just let her know how you feel and let her know that you believe friendship is base on communication from both sides. if she still doesn't change, next time when she start whining just tell her you have to go and you are busy.