text: my bfs ex wife is manipulative? she is really really sick, i mean she will do anything in her power to make sure me and my boyfriend dont have a chance to spend time together.  we dont live together so i either go to where he lives for the day or he comes to mine but she will tell him or text him things which put a stop to it because she uses his kids against him.  she told him a couple of weeks ago that he had to go to the hospital because their son had been run over.  i was just going to go over to his and got a phone call so i told him to go to hospital and let me know how it went.  next thing i know she has made it up.   apparently she did this cos she found out i was supposed to be going over to see him. he doesnt want me to be a secret and i dont see why i should have to hide the fact that im going over there.  they have been divorced for 4 years.   im worried that the one time she does text or tell him something bad has happened it will be true and he wont believe her and then he and myself will feel bad. help your boyfriend needs to step up to the plate and stop this behaviour that his ex wife has. to me he is so use of this from being in her web so long,she is a control freak and he is allowing his ex-wife to run his life. he had better wake up and smell the coffee before he looses you.my son was manipulated by his ex wife for eight yrs. and didn't even realize what was normal in a relationship. a person like this has major issue's with themselves and needs medical help. i suspect the children have visiting rights with there dad,so tell him only too be in contact with his wife when it applies to him getting the kids. the best measure for him is to cut all ties with her. then she can't play games anymore with you two.he could also go to court for mental harassment. he needs to keep documentation of everything she does to you two.tell him he has his rights to his children and she cannot hold them from him. there is a charge in the courts for this kind of behaviour. tell your boyfriend to get with the times,and over power this manipulation thing. the (ball is in his court) because she is the one causing the upsets. hope this helps!   cocoa