text: does it put men off if a girl wont go down on them? i have a point that i will not give oral sex to a man cause i think its degrading, also i dont know how. does that put men off if you wont go down on them? if the guy is decent, cares about you and wants a relationship with you and not just sex, then no it will not put him off.   i actually understand when you say you think it's degrading- i have also felt like that before, when i was with someone who used to get me to do it all the time. it felt very degrading, like he was just getting an ego trip off it. i really struggle with it now, i very rarely feel comfortable doing it although i hope this changes eventually...  i do think though, that if you can build up a really great trusting and comfortable sexual relationship, you'll probably get over it and start feeling differently. as for technique, ask him to demonstrate how he likes it by sucking your fingers! that'll give you an idea of what to do. but even if you never come round to the idea, that's your deicision and don't let anyone tell you you're wrong.