text: should i be angry with my husband? we have been married for almost 2 years and together almost 4.  i grew up an only child and very independent. my husband claims to be independent but his mother is very controling and always did things for both the boys, especially him since he was the youngest of the two.  so his independence is nothing like mine. i love him dearly but he constantly involves his mother in our financial status and asks her for help when we need it. i understand that being young and married (and in school) can be hard but i just want both of us to have control over our lives. when she gets involved, all control goes to her and my husband and i fight about that.  he thinks that there is nothing wrong with it but i feel like i am just his roomate who happens to share a bank account. i hate getting mad at him but not talking to me about and involving his mother does not help. i am all about communication. we are both 23 and i feel that we should be dependent only on each other. am i wrong for being upse no you are not wrong to be upset!  those are your feelings!