text: am i the maid of honor or not?? my best friend is getting married. while talking about weddings one day, before she got engaged, she said that when she get married, i would be her maid of honor. she's now planning her wedding, and we talk about it at work all the time. my problem lies here... when over at a friend's house, i heard her sister say that she was walking down the isle with ryan, which is the best man. my friend hasn't said that i wasn't going to be her maid of honor. i don't know if her sister is just assuming she's the maid of honor or if my friend really asked her? i don't know how to bring it up. any suggestions? it's a sensitive subject, but i say ask.  being maid of honor isn't some achievement of a lifetime, but it is important.  there are things that the maid of honor normally helps take care of (bridal shower, bachelorette parties, random errands, etc.)  you don't want her thinking you are her maid of honor, but you're not planning certain things because you're not sure.  and just say that. "i need to know so i can get started.  if not, that's ok, but i want to be clear."  i know, i had a similar problem when my husband proposed.  one of my friends thought she was going to be moh and when i didn't say that, she asked me.  i answered, crisis averted, and she still danced at my wedding.