text: troubled marriage doing hurtful things to each other. he gossips to other people about me?   now you said that the two of you are doing hurtful things to each other. then the two of you need to remember why you got married in the first place. figure out what you want your marriage to be and make changes. consult the bible, it clearly outlines the role of the wife as well as the husband.  as a spouse you should be his best friend and vise versa, but this can't happen if the two of you aren't giving each other the respect that the other deserves. just remember communication is the key to a sucessful marriage.