text: how do you say it nicely without hurting feelings???? this is what happened with the 14 yr old. last night he said he was done with all that bad stuff. one of his friends got arrested for it. thank god, he had told his friends no right before this happened. one other question, i don't want to hurt his feeling at all!! but he calls me late sometimes to pick him up like last night was 1:30am. he was at a friends house and wanted to stay at our house. which i am totally fine with. but my husband is very upset and said i need to learn how to say no and he is sick of me getting used for rides, etc. he said if he really cared that much about us he would have been better when he lived with us and would respect us more than that. how do i tell him without hurting his feeling i can't do this early am thing all the time???? plus, with him quitting the other stuff, i don't want to push him back into it. i want to make sure he knows i care, but i can't keep making my husband mad either. help! (if he doesn't call me for rides or something i worry alot i have already answered this for you before... you have to show him love and support... you need to tell him that he can't do that anymore... you can't handle it... you don't want to lose him, but you know you can't do it, and he needs to know... give him a cut off time... give him a limited nuber of times a week... he needs your help, and love. and you need to make sure to get his... u know my e-mail, so you can just talk to me more about this... with love...