text: what should i do with her? my wife has been distant with me for a while.  the only conversation we have is when i ask questions, then her answer will be short.  i've been trying to explain to her that all i want to do is have a conversation, then the aruments start.  it seems to me that she is trying to start arguments.  i have notice everytime she is on the computer she will start closing windows.  i now she is hidding something.  during one argument we decided that we should separate.  all though i cannot take this no more and i am considering it.  we have three kids i love dearly, especally my daughter.  what should i do. i am a wife in the same place. i dont know if shes hiding anything but she is not happy. if she wants out then let her. just dont put the kids in the middle. do it like adults. they need both parents and if u get along better seperated then its better for them. but if your wife wants out then dont try to force her to stay. my husband is doing that now and it just make matters worse