text: would it bother you if husband insists on hugging and kissing when you don't want to? same as last question reworded. we are separating due to past abuse(emotional, verbal/mental and a few times sexual)-forceful grabs and the fact that we live in isolated area and he won't move. he thinks "he is not that bad" supports family,doesn't cheat, never actually hit.  i tell him i need to leave to sort out my feelings and be in less isolated area and he knows i need to wait until our son finishes school he thinks he can change my mind before i leave but i told him i have to leave to keep my sanity  is it wrong for me not to want hugged and kissed and for him to try anyway when he knows that? when he is not trying to be affectionate he is ignoring me yes it would bother me.  i recently filed for divorce from a verbally abusive husband, he never thought "it was that bad" either.  if you are feeling isolated and confused, you should go, especially for the sake of your child.  given the fact that he has already shown abusive behavior, i can understand why him even touching you would be a problem. i hope it works out for you.  i too struggle each day with my decision,but i never have regreted it.  i am much happier now, even though each day can be a challenge, i know i'll be ok now.  good luck to you.