text: my mind tries to convince me that i may be gay? maybe im confused, but i have dated alot of women and i love women, im attracted to them, but im not expressive enough with that, maybe its because i use to be nervous and thought that looking at a woman was wrong in the past...  but when i look at a guy, i dont feel attracted but theres something there like an intruiguring thing, see i know in my heart im not gay but my mind tries to convince me.  its wierd because i use to be very comfy with my sexuality btw im 19 at your young age, it would be best if you did not pursue marriage or children at this time; you will appreciate this advice later.  you may be bi,  know what you are and what you want in life before you start involving children. follow your heart, ignore fundamental christians.  i'm a christian, and think they are bigots and way off base.  if you really feel f****d, then see psychological counsel who is educated, but not working through some church.  listen to his professional advice.  often one session would do.  also explore non-judgmental churches if you are christian or interested.  the episcopal church is a good place to start.  they are welcoming and non-judgmental.  some things are definitely between you and god, not the large haired ladies, and wild fanatics that visit this room so often to spew hate.  when in doubt, read john 3:16, feel secure and safe.  watch out for the bigots, they can be murderers while preaching love.