text: why cant i open up to new relationship,and what can i do to be more available to someone new?   well i can't really help you on "y cant i open up to new relationships" cause you haven't provided any details but in my opionion inorder to become more "available" you just have to show the real you and when you do start a new relationship don't ever push that person away. let them come close to you and atleast try to help you with your problems even if you know they can't possibly help you. let them "in" your life