text: how long should you date until you get to certain "bases" just wondering people's opinions.? lib - don't give away what you can never get back.... and if you must - be serious, not just "dating". my wife and i, when we first dated, went on 5 dates before we kissed. she was dating me to have something to do at first. she was in a "i hate all men." mode when i met her. many people thought 5 dates was a lot before a kiss. we talked about it and i said i thought it was great to have time to talk and get to know each other before we clouded things with a physical relationship.   i guess you need to talk these things over with the person.   remember, daddy's girl, women attach more significance to a physical relationship than men do. each base for a woman is a deeper commitment for a woman, but not so for a man, so if you want that commitment to go with the physical milestones, establish the commitment with the guy in advance of doing the deeds.