text: is it in the quran that if you have sex before marriage, you must seperate from each other for 90 days? i am a new muslim, and i am in love with a born and raised muslim man.  he warned me before we had sex on several occasions that if we had sex before marriage that we must seperate from each other for 90 days, before i can marry him.  we had plans to go to the masque and marry, but his car was in the shop for about three weeks.  we only was able to see each other twice and neither time was over three hours.  well on that last week he came over and we were both ready and it happened.  now i want to marry him so bad, i am trying to find out where in the quran that it says we must seperate for 90 days, i donot want to question allah, i want to know where it is written. that is all nonsense. you have to wait 4 months and 10 days days after your divorce before you can get re-married(just to make sure you are not pregnant). is it important where it is written if you are not ready to understand and abide by it?