text: how do you go on after a breakup? a 37 year old married man and i, 21, are very much in love. we began a relationship together when he asked if i would be interested in having some fun with he and his wife. i had been curious about being with a woman and said yes for the experience. after 3 months i lost total respect from my family and moved out and into the couples home temporarily in which i became part of the family. the fun slowed down and the wife started bowing out of the relationship leaving only the man and i to bond closer and closer as best friends and lovers. after 10 months i told him that i couldnt continue to be lovers with him. he and his wife had problems before me and they had worsened and i felt very much in the way of their progress towards working things out. he and i had talked about marriage and family in our future if things didnt work out between he and his wife. i dont know how to go on continuing a friendship with him with out hurting so much. he and i still love eachother very much. i think you need to escape from this mire as soon as possible. look after yourself and leave this man and is wife to sort themselves out. perhaps you need to address some personal issues of your own .. most people would not give a second thought about avoiding such a minefield in the first place... good luck.