text: how do you have a good relationship if you are not very affectionate?   there is much more to a relationship than affection.  personally i love affection, but there are those that are affectionate, and they lead healthy strong relationship. the key is the connection between the two in the relationship.  if one person lives for affection and the other hates it well then that's a recipe for disaster.   then on the other hand if the person feels other things are important in the relationship like kindness or emotional support or even financial support. they the relationship will be fine..   it really boils down to the individuals in the relationship. there dozens of things that make people compatible and incompatible. affection is just one aspect... good luck.