text: threesome???help!!!!!!!? i have been in a relationship with this one girl for a year in a half and she brought another female into our realtionship? keep in mind that she is my baby's mother. is it typical after something like this occurs that a relationship will break up? if so how can i stop it from breaking up? i love this girl with all my heart!!! stop!  this can only lead to disaster unless you guys have thought it out together.  before introducing a third into a relationship you need a firm, agreed upon set of rules to manage behaviors, and to set expectations.  if i were you i would have a conversation with my lover and discuss whet she wants from this relationship, how she expects you to participate, and where it will go.  some questions to ask right up front in my mind are: 1. is this a temporary fling or are we developing a polyamory relationship? 2. is the expectation that you and the other female play together - and if so, how? does it include your current lover?   you need to read the articles on creating rules located at: http://www.swinglesonline.com/forum/viewforum.php?f=1