text: how do you get over your wife of 12 yr's, cheating on you for the last three? i'm having a hard time with it, i read all the emails that went back and forth very graphic! it's been 7 months since i found out, and we are trying to work it out but it's damn hard! cards that wre given to her on days that were supposed to be our special days. help me get bob out of my mind. you guys have a difficult task at hand. cheating for three years... that's a big deal. but, if you guys have decided to work it out, then do just that. stop reading the emails, cards, etc. it happened and you can't take it back. if you're devoted to making the marriage work, you'll both have to put the past behind you, learn from it and work to make sure it doesn't happen again. this will probably take some counseling. that's a difficult situation for a couple, especially with children. good luck!