text: why do some fathers try to act like they dont wanna be around there kids?   many men find parenthood optional.  it is quite possibly related to the way they themselves were raised.  my ex lives 1000 miles away and sees his kids once every two  years.  he doesn't see anything wrong with this because that's the way his father responded to fatherhood, and my ex doesn't think there is anything emotionally wrong with him.  it's really rather sad, isn't it?