text: should i deal with my ex, now that shes with someone else? she stills wants friendship, but i want more? my ex girlfriend (she's 30)and i,i'm 36, had a 2 and half relationship w/ and now been ex's since a year and half, wants me still be as a "family" member and wants to be just friends ,even though we were very close to being lovers on a trip we just took a month ago. is now still "seeing/dating" the father (19yrs), of their twin girls they had 3 months ago, says that if i was just a friend now and stop making her stressed or also stop making advances and just be there for her and hang out. that we could possibly work things out in the future. yet when i try to deal , the father is always there and it makes me feel like a third wheel.  am i wrong asking for time just with her, and how can i deal if she just gets mad at me when i just want time w/ her.i love her still so much, but how can i just bite my lip. i know she sometimes says she wants "us" back.everyone says she is using me. i take her places and do alot  4her since he cannot, and yet i get no intimacy,and he does.hes apuppet4her i once saw a saturday night live sketch where a lady goes to see a psychologist and runs off for a full five minutes about all the things in her life that went wrong and all the areas that are now out of control. the psychologist told her to pay him $500 up front and he would tell her what she needed to do to solve all her problems. she reluctantly paid him and after a few seconds of staring at her, he simply said two words... 'stop it'.  i offer the same advise to you, for free.  this relationship is not healthy because it has no outlet. if you give something, anything, it must be returned. if not, you must show enough respect for yourself to seek it elsewhere. i don't mean that in a bad way, but you must demand respect for every thing you have to offer, for if you don't. no one else can be expected to.   if you want things to get better, make better choices.