text: balanced relationship?? my bf and i are in middle school. i email him about twice as much as he emails me, give him a lot more notes in school, but he calls me (i never call him, unless it invloves immediate plans) and we'll end up talking for hours. does this seem like a balanced relationship? thanks- have a great day!! ;-) it is not about balance or not, as long as you and him feel comfortable that will be good.  i email my girlfriend 10 times more than she email me, i send her over 1000 sms (via mobile) monthly… as long as we are comfortable, that’s ok.  frankly, i think you both should spend more times on your schoolwork…  good luck!