text: how do u find love? i have no boyfriend.(but i really want one) i don't.  i leave myself open to the possibility.  searching doesn't seem to work and i get really discouraged. then i become negative and things definitely don't happen. i've found when i just don't search but leave myself open, things start to happen.  why do you "really want one?" be fine by yourself, secure and happy.  not longing or searching for someone. you may be surprised by the results.