text: how can men tell if a girl that is playing hard to get in love with him?   my dear fellow, you can't.  playing hard to get is emotional insurance for women.  if you respond favorably to them, then they will say, "yes, i liked you all along."  however, if you respond unfavorably, then they will say, "what are you talking about, i wasn't giving off any signs, i don't like you, what are you talking about?"  emotional insurance...100% coverage plan if she becomes totally embarrassed.  if you suspect she is playing hard to get, just ask yourself if you are prepared to play her other little games even if you do get her because she just might be into heart games and not a mature way of dealing with love.