text: how do i tell my best (female) friend i'm lesbian? i am not in any way, shape, or form attracted to her, but i don't want to hide my sexuality anymore. i look and 'act straight' by nature -- thats one of the reasons its hard for people to tell...any tips on how to break the news to her?? i believe it's always best to be straight-forward (pardon the pun) and up-front with anyone when you decide to take the leap of faith!  explain that you want to tell them something because you value their love and/or friendship, and that you want no secrets to stand in the way.  coming out is an individual choice for each and every person that comes out and depends on why you want to come out, what that person means to you, and lots of other factors. and it also depends on who you want to come out to.  decide why you're telling tehm... for you or for them? most of us decide to come out for ourselves... to be true to ourselves. but there are 100's of other reasons one might choose to come out.  if they are asking about your personal life... such as who you're dating or interested in, then that may be a reason to tell them. if someone is hitting on you, perhaps it's time to tell him/her.  but in the end, it's totally up to you. some of us feel better not having any secrets in our lives, especially about who we love.  check out some of the coming out resources listed below. and you may want to purchase "now that you know," a great resource for parents and friends of glbt folks that they can read afterwards and find that many of their feelings are shared by many other folks after a loved one has come out to them.  not to scare you, but some folks do not react well to being told their loved one is gay. reassure them that you are the same person that they've always loved. allow them time to adjust.  coming out is never easy, but to me, it was well worth it!  the best of luck to you!