text: should i tell or just mind my business? i just found out several years ago off and on from "98-04 my friend named "pat" husband attempted to seduce to one of our close mutual friends named "kelly". until yesterday "kelly" never told anyone. "kelly" didn't want  to tell "pat" because of all the drama this may bring out, so she just stop calling "pat" and stays away from her.  because "pat's" husband uses those times to make his move.  i am so shocked because i always thought of him a really good guy.  but i have to say i do believe "kelly's" story about "pat's" husband.  there have been alot of things going on that makes more sense now. i am not sure now that i know what should i do. should i tell "pat" about her husband or should i mind my business.  all of this may back fire on me if i do tell (alot of drama), but as a friend it may back fire if i dont tell when she found out that i knew about it all along.   what should i do? i am one that likes to mind his own business on stuff like that.  these things have a way of coming out anyway.  plus if you tell, things have a way of making you look like the bad guy and you are only trying to help.