text: i am married but i am not happy with my wife in bed and i want to sleep with another woman that can satisfy me i have been married for 8 years and im not happy with my wife in bed and she is not happy with me in bed.  i am not getting what i need in bed, i have never slept with another woman in my life, and i want to sleep with someone else just one time to see what it is that im missing.  i do not want to divorce my wife because i love her, but i need something more can you please help me? speaking from experience, this is a tricky subject. i was not happy with my husband in bed at all. we were married for 4 years. i went and slept with another man, and the sex was great. my husband had no clue. now, there is one problem the sex with my husband is even worse now then it was, and i feel absolutely horrible. so, as far as i am concerned, please think before you do anything. it could end up hurting your marriage even more.