text: my husband had an accident in 1988? my husband had an accident in 1988, and i have stayed with him through thick and thin, i take my vows very seriously, but, for the past 3 yrs the dr's have him hooked on injectable morphine, we use to have sex once in a while 5 years ago but there has been nothing since ,i dont want to fool around but im only 45 yrs old what would you do? i think that you need to talk to your husband.  it seems like maybe his accident has made him feel less of a man and having to do something to be able to make love only makes him feel worse.  you are going to have to convince him that you still find him desirable and very much want to have a physical relationship with him.  i am sure that there are a few things that your doctor can prescribe, but not much point unless you can get your husband in the frame of mind where he wants to.  tell him how much you want him and how good he makes you feel.  hopefully he will respond without having to point out the obvious - that you have needs too.