text: i think my little brother might be gay. he is 13. how can i handle this?   he's your little brother, so it is understandable that you should be concerned for him. the best way for you to handle it, as everyone here has said, it to let him be himself and love him no matter what. and be sure to let him know that you love him no matter what. if your brother is gay, he might feel alone and the last thing you'll want is for him to think his family rejects him. if he is gay, he will tell you in his time; but in the mean time you can make some off-handed comments in front of him that drops little hints that you don't "have a problem with gay people". if he knows he can trust you and that you won't reject him, it will be easier for him to come out to you if he is gay and it will help him to have support while he is enduring rejection from society. i can't tell you how many tens of thousands of gay men have disastrously married women for fear that they would be rejected by their family if they found out they were gay. i receive many letters from married gay men who can no longer keep up the charade with their wives but fears hurting them by leaving them to be who they truly are. no one should be kept in a prison like that. it is so destructive.  -rev. jim cunningham www.gaychristiansurvivors.com