text: my guys's ex due soon? in december, but they finished as he found out about her cheating with his mate, twice...  he said he doesn't want to be with her...  but he will be a gread dad.. i'm not going to get silly about it and make him choose between his baby or me, as that is just selfish and childish...  i will give him all the support and love he needs and i want to help out with the baby if he wants me to...   why has he kept the baby quite though?  as i was speaking to one of his other mates the other day, (not the one who his ex slept with) and he didn't even know about the baby, and him and his mate are real close, and also some of his family have just found out about the baby...    do you think he's scared of this whole baby thing? he said he's not ready for it yet...  either way, he's guna be a gread daddy, i just wish it was me having his baby...  maybe oneday though :) i would say that perhaps he feels a bit embarressed making a baby and leaving the woman while she is going through the pregnancy alone. that does not mean that  he should stick around in a relationship that sounds doomed ,as it will not help the baby in the long run. it's great that you are willing to be part of the baby's life ,but you will need to remember that it is not just his, there is a mother who quite possibly resents your presence a bit. so as romantic an idea it is to love a new born baby ,he might be thinking ahead of complications, especially if him and her are having communication problems. perhaps he does also think that a paternity test is in order before giving the news to family.explaining this to family and friends can be difficult if they have known the ex well,and he may be scred of being judged.