text: do you intervene if a loved one is being treated like s#!* by family and/or friends, i.e. talk to the accused? i feel helpless..do i say something to his/her father who is a jerk? do i say something to friends who walk all over him/her? will this cause to much of a rift in the realtionship? i feel powerless if i do nothing to help! please help!! you should say something to your loved one, mostly how to stop being a doormat and learning to stand up for themselves. no one can walk over them without their permission.