text: what is a not obvious way to find out if a man is attached? i want to know a smooth way to find out if a co-worker has a significant other.  we don't work in the same department so i don't see him all the time. just ask during any conversation. it's not impolite to wonder if people are married, dating, have kids, etc... and believe me when i tell you, most men wouldn't "get it" (why you're asking) anyway.