text: this is for the girls please.? i only "come" when i am on top. why is this, and what can i do to change this? my hubby seems to like watching me while he tries to do it by hand for me , but he isnt doing a good job, how can i help him? any tips? show him what feels good that is the only way you are going to accomplish anything. and if you dont feel comfortable telling him then you shouldnt even be having sex