text: older boyfriend pressure? hi, i am 19 and i'm a virgin. i have a boyfriend more than 10 years older than me. some people say he's just interested in having sex with me, that he's just in this relationship for sex. i don't believe them but what do you think ?? how long have you been with him? some guys will hang around for months trying to get in your pants, especially if they know it will be your first time. if he is pressuring you for sex, you may need to consider what others are saying. take some time away from him and see what happens.  don't give in to him until you feel sure of what is going on with the relationship.