text: what is the % for a married man to divorce and marry the woman he is having an affair with? i have known this man for over 20 years. we used to date when we were younger. i am separated and soon to be divorced and he has just recently filed for a divorce. we have started seeing each other and are very much in love. he tells me he has often thought of me and i the same of him but never persued each other because we always thought the other was happy.come to find out we were both very unhappy in our marriages to other people.i am just so scared he will end up going back to her but he promises me he won't that he wants and needs to be with me. i could not handle getting hurt again.i truly love this man with all my heart. could this actually be what i have always dreamed it to be or is this something that has happened on the rebound? well keep it in mind: if he left her for something better (you). who's to say he won't leave you for something better, later? on the flip side, i'm soon to be marrying the woman i left my wife for...so you never know. depends on the guy and the relationship he's leaving.