text: girlfriend vs. porn - need man's perspective (women too)? just need some answers to questions that are bugging me  1. do men who look at porn who have gf's living with them, do i because they find them less attractive? would he find his girl less attractive becaues he can look at virtually perfect girls?  2.would it make a guy more attracted to his girl because he sees some images/videos and has his girl, and she's the only one he will have sex with. like he somehow satisfies the fantasy that men have for multiple women?  3. how should the girl feel about this? is there a right for me to feel undesirable and ugly?   4. do men compare their girl's to the porn?  5. what could the girl say to get through to you or actually make you see that it upsets her?  6. how should the girl approach this if she knows he won't stop, but treats her very lovingly?  7. some men say they might be upset if their girl's looked at other naked men, so why do they think it's perfectly ok for them and that the girl is crazy for feeling upset?  help please! 1. yes guys like to look at porn. and no i still think my wife is beautiful.  2. porn stimulates fantasy in our heads guys are more visual and by watching or seeing porn it's easier for us to imagin it. it does turn us on and when we are turned on our mates are even more desirerable.  3. many women feel threatened or undesirable to there guy if they look at porn. that's normal. but that's not the case. you are very desirerable, it just that guys think about sex so much that we know it's unreasonalbe to think that you can be there for us with every urge we have, and porn it sort of an outlet for our over sexxed minds.  4. not usually. sometimes we will compair the things you do for us but for the most part no. we might see something or think of something we would like to try because of porn but were coming to you to try it. we would hope that you would be willing to at least try. that alone is a huge turn on for us.  5. it doen't take much. most guys aren't that dense. we know. but at the same time you need to understand that it's not only a mental desire it's also a physical need for us. being stimulated both mentaly and physically has possitive benifical aspects for us. the hormones and chemicals that our body produces help us with stress, depression and many other things. that being said, although not as extreem, it's sort of like needing to eat. needing food.  6. go with it, try and get over it and even enjoy it with him. be open to it, and let him know you are there for him when he needs you.  7. there are many double standards in this world when it comes to the differant genders. i personally think that if a guy looks at porn he should not get upset if his girl does the same.