text: do you think an unmarried couple who have been together for 4yrs. should (if they want) have a child? this is more of a moral question for me. yes. but the real question is; if they love each other so much, and are willing to make the commitment of having a child, why are they not considering getting married first? it's not that difficult. i don't mean in terms of a big wedding celebration. to be 'legally' married does not require that much of an effort or expense. so if they're committed to being long term partners, why not get married before bringing a child into this world?