text: a question about swinging? my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years. for the past 2 years my boyfriend has been really jekyll and hyde with himself and this one side of his sexuality that is called swinging. he is really voyeuristic and likes to see me with another guy giving him pleasure. we have had a few experiences and he has gone from saying he wants to turn off this part of himself, back to, "let's do it again!" needless to say, he has some personal issues with it that he's still working out, lol. and let me make it clear to everyone that he does know i don't need it. cause we also have sex that involves just him and i, no fantasy talk. but sometimes he likes to have sex and talk about me with another guy. but yes, he has had some jealousy issues even though he knows i love him to death and that i don't need this. he is the one to always bring it up, so i haven't put any pressure on him about it. he knows i do enjoy it a lot though, being that i am a leo and i adore attention. *more below* ah! i see..what you guys should do is have a long talk. me and my partner swing. so..if you don't need it, tell him. let him know. but i think you guys would be better suited for for "soft swap" if you do decide to countine swinging. if you like attention (all of us fiesty leos do ;) ) go to a swinggers club, they are everywhere, just well hidden. and keep things between you and your partner, but offer "shows" but, before you go on with anymore, you need to get these jealousy issues out in the open and taken care of. if either of you get jealous, things will go sour fast. be sure you are showing each other all the affection you can though!! and always play as a couple. if a night is just for him, be there anyway!! or vice versa..if you play alone, things could go bad.   but, if he keeps tossing this up, that he wants it, then he doesn't, tell him to stop. it's not healthy. if, next time he says he wants a full/hard swap, then i want you to go through with it. tell him that if he likes it, then you can keep doing it. but if he gets any icky feelings (jealousy) then you two are never going to full swap again.   good luck...