text: is it possible to be in love with 2 men at the same time?? i have a friend that is very confused, she's married and loves her husband but at the same time she's having an affair with a guy she's always been in love with for over 10 years, she's known him longer than her husband.this has been going on for almost 3 years and she hasn't been caught. i really care for her and don't want her to get hurt when she gets caught cause then she'll loose both.she says she loves both of them... she's thought about divorcing, but she says she loves her husband and she couldn't go thru with it. i honestly don't believe that one can be in love, with 2 people. i do however believe that she does love one, while she is in lust with the other. for her own benefit and the sake of the others, she needs to figure out which one is which. all your friend is doing right now is being selfish. she's having her cake and eating it too. i don't think she will end this until she's forced to and the only way that is going to happen is if she's caught. you might be her friend and all but this isn't right and someone should tip her husband off, if you know what i mean.