text: is something wrong with me? i love my gf and i am very attracted to her. however when we are together i have a hard time gaining an erection. if i am at my house and think about her i have no problem with it. is there something wrong or is this something natural? i was raised believing that pre marraged sex is wrong, but i believe i will be with this girl and marry her. would this have an effect on my problem? i would say your being raised to not have premarital sex has alot to do with it.  if you really think you will be with her the rest of your life, than go ahead and wait until you are married.  this way you will not sin, and you won't have any guilt.