text: does anybody know how to heal a marriage and rise the interest of your own hubby? 11 years together 7 years of marriage kid no understanding abuse abuse comes when he is up to something and he doesn't know how to clear his conscience. so he makes you mad so as to have a reason to misbehave. by reacting back, that gives him the go ahead. you don't have to swallow his abuses, just don't mind them. keep a distance from him. sometimes it helps. that will make him realize your value. we cry when we loose what we didn't know we have. if that doesn't help, then he is up to taking his leave. you can't do anything.