text: i am worried about first night of marriage!? how can i give my wife at first night a super sexual relation beside every other thing that life requires? it's not all about the first night!! if you are  both virgins, take it slow...it's about love, not sex, and do what comes natural, as well as communicate to each other.  sex is not a magical thing that you get right the first time. a loving relationship works because sex changes and grows as your relationship does. it won't always be great, and as long as you are ok with that, it gets better with time and communication!! you have to talk to each other to learn what you like and don't like.   the best sex is when each partner focuses on pleasing the other - not being focused on pleasing yourself.. and great sex will come as you learn how to make each other happy.