text: how can i get him to understand? my boy friend has a 8 month old baby with a lady  that tell every one that the kid is not his. how can i get him to understand that that baby might not be his when i told he said that he dont care some one got to love the child. he wont take  a dna he thinks the kid looks like him but i do not i will be happy if the kids is his but i know it is not you can't make him do anything. if you push it, he'll be mad at you. he may even break up with you over it. if this is not his baby, it will come out. then you don't get to gloat, you get to console him. just be there for him and support him.  think of it this way...what a wonderful kind of man have you've got that would be willing to love another man's child just so he knows that baby is loved? how lucky are you? it's hard to find a man these days who will take responsibility for there own children, much less someone other guy's or even if there was a chance they could belong to someone else.