text: should i leave my husband who ignores me and shows me no affection or stay for the kids sake?   as a psychologist, staying together for the kids sake is never in their best interest...although as parents we seem to think so. your children can sense that you are unhappy, even if you think you dont show it. whats more is, if you have a son, he may get the impression that men dont touch their wives and grow up thinking thats how it is, and then in turn do that to his women. if you have a daughter, she may get the idea that she shouldnt need or want affection and marry someone as such and feel just as you are 20 years from now. i suggest talking to him. telling him you do need affection. if he still wont budge, there is always counceling....but you must let him know you would leave him if thngs dont change. he may actually want out himself.