text: what does it mean if your husband buys a woman something and doesn't tell you? we have been married for 4 years, he says that we do not have to tell each other everything, which is true, but should he buy a woman a book and not tell me? maybe i am just being silly. go with your gut on this one.   i say it's very inappropriate.  even if this relationship is purely friendship it is definitely crosses some boundrys.  also, if his actions are making you feel bad or insecure he should put an end to whatever it is that makes you feel that way.  you should be his number one priority - not his so called "freedom" to go off buying other woman gifts! p.s.  you are not being silly your emotions are yours and are there for a reason, don't deny that, don't deny yourself!