text: what kind of woman do you like? i am a big woman, i know this, always have been and i am comfortable this way. i have had boyfriends and i have even been married. i want to know why the majority of guys don't want to be with a bigger woman? i just turned 24 and don't want to be alone for the rest of my life. dear beautiful!  i spent my 20's over weight. i know what it's like to be rejected based on your size. i would actually look to see that men would pass by me and never open doors or make eye contact. it was discouraging. i would kid myself and say i'm happy no matter what size i am.. but it was a lie i told to myself. yet some women really are happy as bbw. like you said you have been dating and even married, so your self image is probably hurting you not your size. recently i found a guy who told me i was beautiful and he wanted to be with me and he didn't care about the weight thing. i found myself in love and the weight just started to fall off.... my point is you are beautiful as long as you feel beautiful. who cares what most guys look for as far as twiggy.. the right one isn't looking at them he's looking for you. so chin up and feel good about yourself! things could be worse.. what if you were a 24 year old virgin with a hair lip!!! :) smile girl and keep it real!! only attitude can determine if you will be single very long..at 24 i doubt it!