text: do i keep ignoring my brother and his wife for lying about me? a few months ago, my sis in law made up some rumors about me saying things about her. my brother and i have always been close but he chose to believe her...of course...that's his wife. so...he stopped talking to me. it hurt at first but it's been a few months like i said before and it's starting to be normal. (which is sad) but i didnt do anything. so, his wife started to smile and say hi to me when she feels like it but now i find myself ignoring and avoiding her. she has completely ruined our relationship. i forgive her for the things she said and even for whatever she is doing now (being fake) but i dont intend to suck up to her or beg her to be close to me at all. she has turned my sister and neice against me with all her lies and self pity. what do i do? i tried to fix things before...but she is "always right" and has no intentions on changing her fake attitude. so, like i said...i choose to stay away. what do you all say? i say first of all you need to face her with her lies and tell her how sick of them you are.  tell her if she wants a friendship with her husbands family she will have to stop all the gossip and baloney.  otherwise, avoid her like the plague.  do speak to your brother when he's around though.  he may have sided with her, but you're still his flesh and blood and i'm sure he misses your friendship.  he can't do anything about his wife..........it's got to be her willing to change.