text: how do you break up with some one you live with? my boyfriend and i have been living to gether for a couple of years and we moved into a new place in a new town for my job.  i am starting to be unhappy with him because he never cleans and he has a crapy job but won't look for a better job and it just seems that we don't care about the same things in life.  i still really care about him because he is a great guy just not motovated enough.  how can i break it off with him if i live with him though.  i feel like it will be just so hard and ackward and i am afraid of hurting him and that i might be making a mistake but if i break up with him he will most likely move home and i may never see him again.  i just don't know how to fix this and figure out how to fix this. if enough is enough and you absolutely want to move on then.. yes move out  or make him move back home.  if he made a choice to move in with you then he should do his part. id suggest talking to him, finding out whats the deal, telling him he needs to do more around the place or get a better job. why is he uncapable of being the guy he once was...? motivation can be really rough of an issue but its something that can absolutely change a relationship... what are his goals? what does he want for you two? does he plan to be their like he is in 5years... whats he doing to not be their? attempt to set goals (realistic ones) with him and let him know that its important.. write them down.. things you want to change and where you want to be at. if he doesnt work towards them forcem out!  look up some ways to motivate a boyfriend/husband.. its pretty common that people fall into an unhappy state.   and ultimately never stay with someone becuase you fear hurting them, its unhealthy for you and him.