text: forgive a cheating boyfriend? my boyfriend of 1 year cheated on me.  he met some random girl in town for a conference at a bar, went out with her about 4-5 times in as many days, "fooled around" once and had sex with her twice.  he (of course) says he's sorry.  we were awesome friends and really close before all of this came about.  we love each other, though we prefer to say we aren't "in love" with each other - it's more like a deep caring.  he meant so much more to me as a friend than a boyfriend, and what we shared was a lot more than just physical.  i always invisioned him in my life in someway; probably not as a spouse, but a close friend for always. (he's a few years older than me and doesn't want marriage; i, being younger, am not sure yet, but i think i do - so we always sort of knew that the romantic 'us' wouldn't be a forever thing.)  should i forgive him and let him work to get my trust back as a friend, or move on and (try) never to think of him again? it doesn't sound like he really wants to be in a committed relationship with you. if he was serious he wouldn't have cheated. he cheated on you not once but twice, according to him. it's probably more than that like when a cop pulls over a drunk driver and they say "oh, i only had two beers". i'd say goodbye and move on. as far as going back to being platonic friends it would probably be too awkward and painful and it won't be the same as before.