text: ladies do you consider cybersex cheating? has it been done to you? explain why if it is.?   yes i do, because it took away his attention from me and made him want to be on the computer for longer then he usually would be on for.  he started talking to this chick from texas about a year ago and he didn't see exactly what he was doing that was upsetting me.  little comments the chick would make pissed me off too like "if only things were different" or "boy if i lived closer your wife would really be pissed".  stuff like that made her sound like 'the other woman'.  then i had had enough and wrote him a long letter (talking to him about it just made us yell) about it and pointed out a lot of the things she said in her ims that bothered me and told him that when she says "if only things were different and you werent marreid" it would have showed me his devotion to me by saying well i am married and happily.    after he finally realized that the conversations (they were on the message archive on yahoo messenger) sounded like they were coming from a cheating spouse and a homewrecker woman, he stopped.  sometimes he and i cyber with people out of boredom but when it turns into a rush to get home to talk to one specific person or it turns into a i can't come to bed with you right now i am chatting, thing then it is time to worry.