text: when a man mistreats a woman, why does she defend it as "confidence"? he doesn't call you.  he's always late.  he spends all your money.  he verbally and physically abuses you.  he cheats on you.  he doesn't keep any of his promises.  a woman defends these actions as being "confident", because "he does his own thing and lives by his own rules". if she does, it's because she herself is lacking confidence.  those of us who actually have a positive opinion of ourselves would kick a guy like that to the curb (or recognize the loser he is and never get involved with him to begin with.)