text: how do i have an orgasm? i am a 19 year old women...i have been sexually active for a few years. i have a baby, but i have never had an orgarm, i feel a failure or like i have something wrong with me, why cant i orgasm? how can i orgasm?i have a partner and we have sex at least twice a day. please help i have to recomend this book called resurrecting sex by dr.schnark. it goes into great detail aout women who have either not ever had an orgasm or very few of them. i really think you will find this helpfull, and good luck to you.