text: can long distance realationships work? i am in too minds i love 2 lads love is a strong word i know but i do but i love them both in different ways one is miles and miles away and he wants it to work as much as i do and one lives near me but he is fit and a bouncer and bouncer have bad rep's i am quite a big lass and i know the long distnce lad really likes me for who i am but this other lad see's he likes me to and i do really like him but i dont know if he just after sex is there a way i can find out if he just after sex like ask summit i dont know i just need help i really dont not have a clue i was in a long distance relationship at one point. we talked online, and on the phone all the time. occasionally, we visited each other. finally, he moved to my town to find a job but he could so i moved and left all my family back to his town. i was 18 at the time and he was 19. we got married and soon after i became pregnant. before my son was born we moved back to my town thank goodness. now, i have to tell you that we did not get to know each other good enough. we have a lot of problems to this day. our lifestyles were so different. we've been married a little over a year now but have many problems. just beware and get to know the person well before making any commitments.