text: who is a real home wrecker? people give the other woman flack for beinng with a married man. calling them homewreckers and questioning their morals. always saying they should put themselves in the wifes shoes and how horrible they are. meanwhile they rarely say anything about the husband. why don't people put the blame on the correct person? it's not another womans job to keep someone else's marriage togetther. 99% of the time the man initiates it. i'm not saying it's right to date married people but why do people always blame the other woman? i have always considered it to be 50/50. no its not her job to keep someones marriage happy but she should have her morals in check just like he should have too! maybe both parties should put themselves in the wives shoes... who cares who initiates it. it still happened.  (i'm not speaking of women who do not know he is married, but to the one who do.)  both are at fault!