text: i'm sorry but........? my boyfriend moved  cross continents to be with me. since he's been here i don't feel the same about him. i want my space. we fight constantly. he's miserable. worst of all i feel bad cos he does not have a job and i feel guilty leaving him in such a state. he does not want just any other job cos he's 'too qualified'. i've tried telling him to get something for the meantime. atleast that won't make him so depressed. i'm emotionally drained and want out of this but i don't know where to start cos i feel like it's all my fault he's here in the first place. what to do? i can see how that would make you feel. it's not your fault that he's here. he made the decision to move. he can't make you feel guilty about that. maybe he's just homesick and struggling to settle in. you were here first and have an established routine. he probably feels as though he's fitting in around your life, rather than living his own. i think you're right about him getting a job though. he should get a bar job or some other sociable type of job and make some friends of his own.he can still look for other work and even attend interviews if he works evenings. he needs some structure to his life, and you both need some space from eachother. good luck.