text: do i have hpv????? i'm a single mom who's been divorced for 5 years now.  over a year ago, i thought i'd found "the one" (i was completely wrong) and was sexually active with him.  soon after, i had a painful bump on my vagina.  i had another a few months after, after having the flu, and another just recently.  i had confronted him with this after the first one but he said he had no idea what it was and to let him know if he needed to get tested for anything.  we've been talking recently and i confronted him again, telling him that i thought he had given me herpes and he said that it is hpv, that his ex had it and didn't tell him and he got it from her.  i have not been to a doctor.  i have a very low income and no health insurance.  i need some advice, please.  after reading a little about hpv, i'm scared to death that i'm going to have cancer and will just have to give up my kids and lay in the bed awaiting death 'cause i can't aford health care. hpv is not an std.  are you sure you had the flu???  or flu like symptoms???  because thats a sign of hiv.  go get tested now.  im not trying to scare you.