text: what should i do to become more confidant in myself? okay i am not fat or anything but i have a very very bad fear of becomeing fat i don't know why though could you help me please? get an interest in something..even if its diets for beauty, or the life of a band or pop star...and when you have something you are an expert at, you get confidence.. being too self absorbed is what makes you lack confidence...you need to get an interest in something beyond yourself... working as a volunteer with orphans or sick children is a real eye opener, and you will realise there is more to life than just worrying about getting fat. avoiding all junk food and not drinking fizzy will make sure you stay healthy while becoming involved outside yourself