text: what would u do if u knew ur bf ...? was cheating but u loved him and felt u had no one else in ur life to lean on but him.  would u stay with him/ uh, are you able to lean on him while he's doing the other chick? uh, i think not.  so you need to get a grip and realize once and for all the person you need to be leaning on is your own self !!! learn to be strong for yourself.  no one is going ot make you happy better than you.  take a deep breath, and then start down a new path to independence, and loving yourself in the right way, before you are ready to love someone else.  make two lists.  i mean it...do this. list one:  what do i want for my whole life & where do i want to be exactly 10 years from now & my plans to make that happen under my own power.  list two: this list is two sided > draw a line down the middle of the page left side:   what i really want in a man right side:  what i absolutlely will not tolerate in a man. keep the list, the best place is in your bible if that is where you turn when your heart hurts... the list will remind you what you really wanted. on the left side include these traits  a.  a best friend,   b.  someone i can really trust,   c.  someone i laught and have fun with, d.  someone d.  someone that i'm sure is honest with me e.  someone that turns me on, but i'd stay with if for some reason we couln't have sex.  on the right side ya wanna put things like  no drugs, little alcohol, no emotional or physical abuse,  other things you want on your list somewhere is about him and his friends, him with your family, you with his family and things that are really important to you.  dump this guy...he doesn't meet the trust test, and he doesn't meet the honesty test, and i'm sure he fails some other tests if you think about it.  get smart.  know what you want, and don't accept less, or you will never have the kind of love that will make your heart really happy.  i wish you love stw