text: relationship issue: how can you help me to find many ways to keep my fiance to stay interested in me? we had a wonderful relationship and will be getting married next year. i do not want to force him to shower me with all attentions and many more. im trying to figure out different ways that i can keep my relationship more interesting for my fiance to be with me willingly than me to tell him what i want from him . i wanted him to feel freedom to be with me all the times. like for an example: i was working at my office. my fiance came to me before lunch hour to suprised me with sunflowers. it makes me smile to know that he enjoys being with me very much. he did it on his own. so im trying to spice more for us to stay interested in eachother to make him feel that he needs me more . right now, hes working late with long hours each day. so?!?! i dont want to lose our sparks of our relationship like this. how can i bring sparks to maintain our sparks wonderful relationship?help me with some ideas? its like i  am in love with him each day. thanks, america when your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting and sweet smile!   tasty meals, clean house.  wear attractive clothes.  joke and play games with your husband -  a mans secret: they seek women who are light-hearted and have a sense of humour.   thank your husband for the nice things he does.   an argument is a fire in the house. when you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "look, i'm sorry. let's be friends."   listen and try understanding him!  try to think of what a best friend means and be one to your spouse. this may mean sharing interests, experiences, dreams, failures and upsets.   encouragement, praise, and gratitude should be expressed on a regular basis, which will strengthen these qualities and be beneficial in developing others. an attempt should be made to overlook or ignore negative characteristics.  it is not enough to share meals, chores and small talk together. spouses should also find time to focus on strengthening the relationship. often couples get busy with their own separate tasks and forget about working on one of the most important elements in life. quality time may be anything from having a quiet, profound conversation to going for a nice long nature walk, to sharing a special hobby or project.   expess feelings often.  never bring up mistakes of the past   surprise each other at times :)   never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. of course, house fires do not occur very frequently; yelling should occur at about the same rate.  never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. this is one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage and should be avoided as much as possible. this allows hurt feelings and thoughts to linger and generally exacerbates the problem.