text: let's try this again....? ok. this is the third time i've put this on here. i don't think i'm that dam tired that i can't type my own question, but maybe.   ok...i'm dating this guy that i really like. we've been dating a few weeks. things are starting to get a little physical, and while i'm not complaining, i don't want to have sex until i know that this is a relationship that's gonna last a while. (i'm not saying that i want to know tomorrow that he's gonna marry me, i just want to know that i'm not some 6 week "fling".)  when would it be appropriate to have the "relationship" talk with him? i think i know what his thoughts are, but i'm not 100%.   please no preaching about sex and std's. virginity is long gone (i'm almost 27 years old), and i remember my high school health classes, thanks. darn - i had my answer written last time and you deleted the question!!  lol!!  i think it would freak him out to ask after only a couple of weeks.  i doubt if he has a clue yet where it is going.    hold off a little longer.  next time he brings up some event in the future, then i would ask where he sees your relationship going.  but, you know, people change their minds at anytime in a relationship - no guarantees.  i definitely understand your wanting to know if it's long term.  and the more time you spend together the faster you'll know.  in the meantime, there are lots of things you can do to get closer.....it will just enhance the anticipation when you finally do feel ready for sex!!