text: is being old fashioned is bad? i want guys to ask me out. but they never do because they want girls to ask them out more too. should i ask them out or no? being old-fashioned is great, and there are very few of us left. let the guy approach you and ask you out first. this doesn't mean you can't speak with him and it doesn't mean you have to avoid him altogether. you can still get to know him but ultimately let him ask you out. i am the same way and love it when a guy will make the first move. same goes for marriage proposals -- i would never be able to ask a man to marry me -- i would want him to ask me instead. good luck and hang in there sweetie!