text: work relationship problem!!!? i have recently started dating a girl from work, however b4 all this started she went away for 6 months and we were just friends etc. now she is back and we just got together, however when she was away i had a fling with another girl from work, which started and ended while the new girl was away. neither of them know about this!! and im not sure if i should spill the beans and tell her about this fling, or should i tell the fling girl (who i think still likes me to keep it quite) or keep it quite and hope neither of them find out........ what do u think!!! ouch.  somebody's going to get hurt, especially if you are giving both or either of them the feeling that you're being exclusive with them.  i think there's no real way to avoid letting them both know because word does get around, and unless one of them is living in a cave, there's no way they won't both know.  if you are lucky, and one of these relationships is a strong one, it might survive this.  it's up to you and her to figure that part out.