text: i was bisexual before i got married-now i want to have a girlfriend, what should i do? my husband is ok w/it? my husband says he understands and wants me to be happy. how do i find a new "friend"? if and only if your husband is o.k. with it then you could go out to a gay club or something. go out and see what's out there. can't make friends sitting at home right.....oh yeah you must let you "friend" know about your husband.