text: what can we do about the ex wife from hell?   unfortunately, not a darn thing...  step-parenting is the hardest job in the world - i am, of course assuming that there are kids involved, otherwise why would you even be bothered by an ex-wif?  seriously, i've been a step for 15 yrs and there is a light at the end of the tunnel... the kids do grow up, you do eventually stop paying for them (at least through the ex!) and the kid's get very wise as to exactly what is going on.  just keep quiet around the kids - devote your time/attention/efforts on them and try to ignore the ex-wif.  i know that doesn't help much - but oh i can think back to all the times she hung up on me - called me every name in the book, lied to the judge about child-support, etc... trust me, our ex was evil!  we just married my step-daughter off last summer and that was the absolute last time i will ever have to deal with the ex (financially or emotionally) again - thank god and amen!  good luck - stay strong - stay united!