text: did anybody read the book "great expectations" by charles dickens?? if u did... y did revenge ruined ms. havishams life and how did dickens prove that revenge is destructive.??? please and thank u :) i'm not sure but but i think it is because she saw her own suffering and pain in pip's when he loved easter (i'm not sure if that is her exact name). he proved that by showing the lesson that esster (or whatever) learned, by showing that she was unhappy and that she regretted what she did to pip.