text: im married but keep getting the urge to fool around is it a usual thing for a older man.?   i'm a woman and guess what, we get those same urges. would you want your wife to follow her urge to fool around? could you live with that kind of guilt every time that you look at your wife? i'm really not trying to belittle you or anything like that, i just want you to know that women get those same urges, but if you value what have made together with your wife you must take the time to think about how you would feel if it was her getting those urges. by the way it is normal for any age. we get comfortable and forget what it was like when we first met and fell in love.