text: is it rape? is it rape when you've said no more than once, but he keeps touching you, talking to you, convincing you that it'll be ok and he won't force you and he really does want more than just sex...even though you've asked him to wait, to just hold you this night...but he keeps touching you, making you want it more than you already do...and then you say yes...and 3 dates later he tells you that he doesn't want a serious relationship...and 2 months later...you're dumped...???  i know it's tricky, since i did want to have sex with him...just maybe not that soon...  i was a 29 year old virgin who had thought she had found the man who wanted her for life i am sooooo sorry!! i went through the exact same thing!!!! only it went on for quite some time before i realized he wouldn't ever marry me! i was so completely devastated. i'm sure you feel used, cuz hon, you were.  i was too.  it's so hard to accept people who purposely use and hurt others.  he got what he wanted.  just what he wanted.  a priceless jewel such as yourself so he could brag about it and add it to his collection of stuff he's done.  i'm really sorry about it.  and he could've cared, a little, but a little doesn't repair the damage.  a little doesn't make him love you.  a little doesn't make him want to marry you.  i wish more than anything that things had worked out with my first one.  i was 24 and a virgin, also, and loved him with all my heart and thought he was "the one".  i'd promised myself that i would never have sex with a man unless i knew he was the one i'd marry and that i fully trusted. man do i ever regret giving in to this man!  it's not rape, even if they keep persistently trying to get it from you and you say no over and over again and then finally give in.  it's the giving in part that makes it not rape.  if he takes it from you without your consent, and if he takes it from you after threats or force, then it's rape. i've been there, done that before too (i didn't do the rape, it was the other way around).  anyway, good luck honey.  i totally feel your pain!!!!