text: my best frined thinks she is really fat, but she's..............................? .........medium size pudgy but not fat , she is allways worried about her weight at school and i wish i can help her in some way  she does exersize but it won't help that much ,i try talking to her  but it won't make a difference , if you have advice that can help her please feel free to write it , thanx!!! ps-she isn't obese- thanks for being such a good friend to her....  there really isn't anything you can tell her to make her believe she isn't fat.  she has to find it out for herself.  i have been a "big girl" since i hit junior high.  no matter what others tell you, you have to decide to believe in yourself.  it took me many years to accept my body and be happy. ( i'm omly a sz 14 too!)  let me tell you girls, someday life will be about more than who likes you or if someone thinks you are fat.  it sounds like she has a real friend in you, someone who sees all the really wonderful things about her.  that is what will get you both through all the trials in your life.  in the mean time, just be her friend best you can.  if she is thinking about changing her diet and exercise make sure she sees her doctor first.  i don't want to seem "preachy", but i hope she knows god made her just the way she is supposed to be.