text: i am a married female and my husband is very unromantic.? he is on the same routine all the time. everyday he is on the same exact schedule, wake up, shower, have breakfast, go to work, go to gym, come home and eat dinner, pass out on couch..our sex life is the same, blah blah blah..  i am so bored. day after day after day. i love him with all of my heart, but i want to throw something in the mix that will shake things up, in a major way.. any ideas? insure him, then kill him.  j/k  how about you wait for him when he comes to dinner, tell him dinner is booked at a fine restaurant where u made reservations?  or greet him in something irresistably sexy when he comes home?  or book something in advance without telling/asking then inform him the previous evening? e.g. a weekend on the beach or another city?  it depends on your household budget how far you can go, of course, but there are lots of things you can do for *free*  show up at his office dressed to the nines send him a sexy email at work rent a porn the next time u guys have sex, it can spice things up   i know from personal experience that sometimes husbands "phase out" because they are so stressed about/from work and prefer the safety of routine, espy. since they know you're not going anywhere. maybe you can think of a way to relax him and make him forget his usual fears/anxieties about life/money/work?  another reason could be that he is sexually conservative (because of upbringing or something). in this case, they will act embarrased if you suggest something too kinky/crazy. break him in gently, if that is the case. perhaps he wants to do something more romantic, but feels *silly* doing it - again a result of his growing-up environment.  think of all those things, and try to answer the question "why" is he passing out on the couch instead of spending time with the woman he married. that might get you the answers you need.