text: question to all men!? ok this is a question to all men out there. why are men such commitment phobes. how long should a girl (in her late 20s) wait before her boyfriend asks her to marry her? i've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half and i dont want to scare or pressure him into it but i also dont want to wait forever for him to feel like he's ready. he doesn't feel comfortable talking about marriage. should i keep waiting, talk to him about it, or just move on? i want to be married in a few years. if he doesnt even want to talk about marriage, then this should be a red flag to you that there is a real good chance this guy will never get married. true, men are afraid of committment, but come on at this age he should be able at least to talk about it. what does he thinks happens when people date for some time? its time for your sake to have a very serious talk with him about your future together. tell him your dreams and desires and see what happens. if he avoids the subject, then its probably time to look for more suitable marriage material, because this guy likes his single uncommitted life way too much and you two arent suitable for a long term serious relationship. remember hes a big boy and he wont melt if youre direct with him. good luck