text: is having sex with a girl you just meet really as bad as everybody says it is.? i just started going steady with a girl i only known for a month and i had sex with her the first night we meet. me and her were both really intoxicated.  so because of that is are relationship destined to be doomed or forever tarnished, will i ever beable to trust her with that being a possibility it could happen with somebody else while we are together. i have seen it work both ways and it has worked both ways for me.  if you two are not meant to be together it wouldn't work out if you had or had not anyways.  if you want it to work out then just don't let it be an issue.  this is how i think of it for myself, if the dude cheats and we split up then he just lost the best thing he could have ever had.  it's on him and we apparently were not meant to be.  thats it.