text: how can i love when i'm not sure what love is? i'm 30 and never been married.?   true love ....  it's as mysterious as the stars it was written on, as elusive. it is everything it's hyped about to be. it's worth taking every risk, it's worth fighting for, and the problem is if you don't risk all then you risk even more. love is kind of an elixir that lures us out of reality and into the realm of fantasy. it's like a drug creating an altered state of consciousness.  love is the moment when an unfavorable act becomes favorable, when you make excuses for some one else's mistakes, when you learn to tolerate, when you learn acceptance, when sacrificing becomes the beauty of life.   it's the courage to tell the truth especially when you believe its unspeakable.  it's the time when seeing some one, being seen by some one and thinking about some one feels good, when you learn to find happiness in the smallest of moments.  that's love--when you learn to put down your ego and love some one more than that.  love is forgetting your self and remembering some one else.   love is choosing your partner exactly as he is, and supporting him in his choices. it's honoring your partner's truth and wanting best for him.  it's not controlling or possessing but rather respecting and trusting.  it does not mean owning some one, getting some one, rather it means being happy in your loved one's happiness.  love means living without judgments. it means treasuring your beloved and never taking him for granted.   love means being able to forgive and learning to give more then you get. it means reaching out when you don't want to, communicating rather than assuming and asking questions rather than jumping to conclusions.  it means working things out rather than fighting, fighting rather than leaving, and staying through the hurts and disappointments, knowing that through commitment all can be healed.   falling in love is like being enveloped in a magical cloud. the air feels fresher, the flowers smell sweeter, food tastes more delectable, and the stars shine more brightly at night. you feel light and lofty as though you are floating through life, and your problems and challenges suddenly seem insignificant and easily surmountable. your body feels alive, your skin tingles and you awaken in the morning with a smile on your face. you are suspended in a state of supreme delight.  love is a feeling and an action that arises from the most primal place within us. making a relationship however, is a process that is learned. a relationship is the vessel that carries the precious cargo of love through time.  relationships are like a precious antique lamp; it takes a little polish and some effort to restore it to its valuable condition. a relationships love and luster will only improve with age if you continually give it the care that keeps it beautiful. but once you uncover its essential beauty it will bring you joy for years to come.  after having said all this i want to say that you have to make the decision on your own, on one hand love is magic, on the other it's time tested relationship worked hard and furiously at.