text: somebody please tell me what to do??? i just found out that my four kids biologically belong to my wife's pastor. after nine years of marriage, the doctor said i am impotent and have been for sixteen years, yet i have four kids in nine years. wow, that's a hard one. first of all, don't do anything stupid. you may need to get away for a while and just think about your next step. i have read some of the answers written and i agree with most of them. if you are not positive, find out for sure that you are not the father. if you want a divorce get yourself a good lawyer because you may end up paying child support on kids that aren't yours. again, if they are not yours, you may never be able to see them again if you don't pay. my mind is kind of going like this........find out who the father or fathers are, demand child support including back child support. set this up in accounts for the kids so they will have their schooling or whatever paid for. then deal with the wife. we are suppose to love our wife as christ loves the church but we are no where close to what he is. remember that these kids know you as dad. don't let this ruin their lives or your relationship with them. right now they probably need you more than they need anything else. time to do some heavy thinking man. email me if you need someone to talk to. there will be life after this and you will make it through.