text: are men afraid to hit on girls outside their race? i'm a black female and my recent ex-boyfriend was white. after our third date he admitted to me that he didn't think he would have a chance with me because of my race. i was the first girl he expressed interest in outside his race.i was just wondering if other guys feel the same. me personally no, but i can see how some would have a problem its not because there racist its actually the opposite they are afraid they will come off sounding racist that's all so don't worry it should not matter the race you will find the right one eventually no matter if he is black white green or blue, there is some one out there for you and you will know when you find him, or her