text: if he is so great, why does he have to advertise? i have gotten several men that have answered my personals ad that seem to good to be true.  i am a shy person myself and can't really meet guys at work and am usually off during the daytime when it is difficult to meet guys. i usually work weekends too.  i have had these guys that boast about their homes and cars and their trips, etc.  they are in the 40's and 50's (age not a problem as i am 40) and post pictures of themselves living the good life.  they talk about their social connections and jobs, etc.  i find it odd that if they have all these social connections and travel that they can't meet a woman.  i don't see many famous people or many big socialites having to use the personals as they have a natural access to meet quality people who are compatible with them. i cancelled on one of these guys and he sent me an email really putting me down so i know i made the right decision.   i think these guys are big phonies that have something to hide or they would be taken. i'm glad that you made the right decision.  most men will tell you what you want to hear to make their advances toward women.  women are the same way.  i think with there being so many more avenues to meet others, just makes it that easier for the "trouble" to find the innocent.  we just wanted mr or mrs right to come along? i stuck with what got most people our age through.  go out to a great hang out, met a lady, dated, fell in love and married her.  no cyber vision.  sometimes the old fashion ways are the best.  be careful sweets.  i think you know exactly what you're looking for.  i promise.  he's out there, and when he finds you, ooh-la-la..  good luck