text: how do i not make every women i meet a best friend? i'm a very nice guy and consider myself a gentleman, which doesn't help me much. i end up having alot of girl-friends instead of a girlfriend. you are so sweet.  being a gentleman is nice, but you need to romance the girl if you want her to think of you as a boyfriend. i mean, its great that you are friends first. you can then gradually go into the "courtship" phase. but you have to tell her frankly, you being a gentleman and all, that you are "courting" her. take her dates. send her flowers. do things together. try to enflame her desire. but if there's no spark - well, you might be trying to light wet wood. find someone else....