text: if your partner is diabetic, is it wrong to ask them to lose some weight around the stomach area?   what form of diabetes?  controlled, or uncontrolled?  excessive weight around the middle is a sign of insulin resistance (the classic "apple shape").  excess stress hormone cortisol can also cause you to carry weight around the middle.  if your partner is type 2 diabetic, they may be completely unable to lose weight without being put on the proper medication (something like metformin/glucophage).  if it's caused by stress, pressure from you to lose weight won't help that much.  rather than asking them to lose weight, why not focus on ways you can help?  if you cook the meals or buy the groceries, concentrate on healthier items.  if your partner is insulin resistant, carbohydrates are quite often the guilty party.  perhaps if you lower your carbohydrate intake to improve your health and/or lose weight yourself and ask your partner to help you, it will be more effective than asking them to lose weight themselves.  you can also add exercise to your life and ask your partner to join you, again to be supportive of you.  take a walk every day.  join a gym.  something you can both do together.  that way, you not only improve both of your health, you also have some additional bonding time.    my point is, your partner is most likely aware that they need to lose weight.  being supportive about it rather than adding more guilt and stress will most likely be more productive in the end, and give you both yet another way to bond.  good luck to you.