text: to busy for me but always wants to know i'm there.? i met a man almost two years ago. he's an extremely busy surgeon and has full custody of his child. it  was lust at first sight but after a few months he told me he thought we should focus more on each other than sex all the time, i agreed but it never worked because the attraction was so strong. as time went on & he got busier, things didn't deepen emotionally, things grew father apart, not because of me either. long story short, i want a real relationship and he says "he can't give me what i want" is that a male line or something? but he can never let me go. i've asked him to define what i am to him and he won't but says we're more than friends. we have talked for the last year and  have gone on several dates but have not slept together-him proving to me he isn't just after sex w/me. if he doesn't hear from me he always texts me to make sure i'm still there. he admits to dating others, as i do. says he's to busy but wishes he could see me. i'm just confused, does he want me or not? he can't give you what you want  because he doesn't care enough about you to try. it's not a line, he's telling you the truth. he dates other women, is not emotionally connected to you and is busy with his own life. why don't you take control of your own life, instead of waiting for him to tell you what to do, and move on. he's just not that into you, but he enjoys the little puppy-dog loyalty you offer. so to answer your question: no, he doesn't want you. that's not how a man in love behaves, it's how a man who doesn't really care behaves.