text: what are your best tips for keeping the passion alive in a long, long, long term relationship?   ok, i had been with my old man for 15 years, so i might have some ideas for you.   don't get into a routine if you can help it (sex only on sat night. that kind of thing).be spotanious, and try differnt times of day, differnt places in the house (not just the bed) differnt places (the car, the beach, the pool or jacccuzzi).   also add toys, dvd's (make them or buy them), and flavored body gels &oils. have fun with food, fruit, honey, syrup...use you imagination.  also take time every once in a while to get real romantic foe no particular occasion, go all out, get your hair & nails done, buy new lingerie & set the mood with candles, music and flowers.   role playing can be fun too, go to local bar, have him go there too and pretend like you are meeting each other for the first time. either you pick him up, or have him pick you up. ask questions like you really don't know everything about each other you might discover something new!   oh, this is a good one too, send him sexy or romantic emails at work (if he won't get in trouble), or leave sexy messages on his cell phone voice mail. also you can put sexy notes or photos in his briefcase, so he finds them when he least expects it.   have flowers delivered to his office just to say 'i love you", but not for any special occasion.     and most importantly, especially if you have kids make sure that you go on "dates" and make time for each other outside the house. also make time when you send the kids away and have the house to yourself so you can run around naked all day!! we always would trade weekends with other couples who had kids so we would watch their kids one weekend, and they would watch our one weekend. it’s cool because you don't have to spend money on a sitter (use it for your date instead), and you help out another couple who probably needs a break from the kids as much as you do!   also, this is my best passion saving tip i can give you...no matter what every year take a vacation with just your hunny, no kids, no relative house, even if it is only for 1 or 2 nights. go to an exotic location or just a nice hotel in the city closest to you. this will do more to help you remember why you feel in love and ignite passion in your relationship. no one is too busy or too broke to find 1 night a year to do something really special!!   i want to let you know that if you start to do some of this stuff, let him know you expect to be pampered also and challenge him to surprise you with romance also. make it a fun game you can both play and you will both come out winners!!    i hope this helps you!