text: would you mail a birthday card to a close friend who hasn't answered your emails? i have a very close friend who lives on a different continent than me.  i sent her an email three weeks ago, and she hasn't written back.  i know that she has been online regularly since i sent the email, as our mutual friends have mentioned chatting on msn (which i don't use).  her birthday is coming up, and i feel kind of bitter about sending a card when she can't be bothered to reply to my email.  do you think i should send her a proper card, a quick email, or nothing at all?  why? wow, i went through something similar. i would mail the card and continue to be a good friend. so when you reach the point of confrontation you could say that you upheld your end of the bargain by being a loyal friend. any chane in attitude will lead to both sides being bitter. remember, be who you were and do what you normally do until you can find out why things are the way they are. relax, and think it through.