text: what should i do? i have this guy who truly loves me, he want's us to get married one day, buy a house, have kids - all the usual - normal things people do.  he is a really great catch, he is handsome, got a good job and our families get on like a house on fire - he even has a financial plan mapped out - detailing when we can buy our first house...! the problem is that i have finally admitted to myself that i am gay.... and i dont know how to tell everyone.  i was going to tell him, but he got so upset the other night when i told him that i had something to tell him (he thought i was going to break it off because i didnt love him anymore - he nearly cried), that to test the waters, i told him i was bisexual... he was relieved and told me that as long as i didnt go ravishing anyone, he would be fine with it(!)  i just dont know what to do and the longer i leave it, the harder it is getting... this is a hard one. i agree with nefeco, the allknowing and rax... at the end of the day you have to think about your happiness.  weigh up the pros and cons - you must've got with him for a reason right? try and remember why that was. also, try and remember that the spark most relationships begin with - rarely lasts. you become friends - share your lives with each other - trust - it is then up to you to put the spark back in.  you genuinely sound confused and he sounds like a nice, stable, depepndable guy... could that be it? cold feet? how long have you been with him? could it be that his 'planning' has scared you a bit and you are latching onto some fantasy ( you may well be bisexual ).  take everything into consideration, then sit down with him - admitting that you were bisexual couldnt have been an easy experience - but he didnt freak out did he ? (im guessing you wouldve put that on here otherwise) that means he really wants it to work - and from the sound of him, you must be some catch yourself!... meaning? im guessing what you are mainly worried about is hurting him - if you left him, im guessing your the sort of girl that wouldnt find it hard to get another boyfriend... or a girlfriend for that matter - but that isnt the problem is it? it is losing the stable environment he will provide and hurting his feelings. but ashley, staying may cause you both ore damage.  my advice... (and i dont know if you have or how easy it will be) - is experiement. make sure you are definately gay first. this may anger some people, as it could be construde as cheating - but you have to be sure! this is your happiness at stake!  if you are, break it off. say you were confused, but you cant lie to him any longer. you will both be happier in the long run.  good luck, i hope everything works out for you.