text: how do i deal with my ex husband still communicating with my family? my ex husband still talks to my brother and i hate it.  actually, the funny thing is this: when my brother and his ex were married (over ten years) she and i were closer than me and my brother.  when they divorced, which he left her, she and i remained friends.  my brother hated that but never told me.  if he had, i would have ditched the friendship, family first, you know?  my ex and my brother were never friends.  in fact, they weren't much more than civil, both tearing each other down behind the others back, competing with each other.  all of the sudden, since i left my ex, he's trying to be best friends with my brother.  he takes my daughters to see my niece and nephew, which i think should only be done by me.  he helps my brother on the weekends and calls him.  my brother says they aren't friends, he's just getting the help he needs.  what do i do? do whats best for the kids, if it bothers you it will show in how they react to him.  being from a broken family is hard enough on them.  he knows it bothers you and will stop hanging around once you stop caring.  don't mention it in front of the kids and he will think you no longer care.