text: what to do? ok i have a boyfriend and a daughter.. no he is not the dad.. ok we are talking about getting married and he has asked me if when we do if i will want him to adopt my daughter well i will and he is fine with that he loves her alot,, ok this is where it gets kinda diffucalt.. my mom wants me to wait about a year after i get married before i let him adopt her.. i think that is kinda strange i mean it is like ok you are good enough for my daughter but not my grandaughter..i mean i love this man and want to spend the rest of my life with him and have more children with him and want him to be my daughters father. so am i jumping in to deep by wanting him to adopt soon after we get married if i was in your position i would allow him to adopt her.  if he loves her like shes his own and your happy with that idea than do it.  do what ever your happy with not what your mum is after all its your decision to make not hers.  good luck in what ever you decide.