text: i am currently involved with a man who has a child and we are having issues with the mother.? she does not properly care for the child the way a mother should.  any suggestions on how to handle the situation in a mature manner? i think you need to stay out of it, and let the dad handle it.  if there is serious neglect going on than he needs to take the proper steps in order to get full custody of the child. there is nothing that you can do, other than just support your guy on your end.  anything that you say to the mom will go in one ear and out the other, and whatever you do, never say anything bad about her in front of the child.