text: what do men look for in women? what must a woman have to keep her man at home and keep him faithful faithfulness is a choice.  when men cheat they blame the spouse and it's just a rationalization if improper behavior.  it's not about the woman.  it's about the character of a man. story after story proves it.  my ex told the therapist that i was a good wife and mother... he had no complaints.... and that he "just isn't happy with his life."  out marriage was falling apart and he offered nothing that i could change or do diffferently.  what was i supposed to do with that????  he chose not to be happy and to try to fill that void in the wrong places..... drinking, strip clubs, etc.  you question accuses women of being the cause for men's infidelity and nothing could be further from the truth.  women can and should build a loving, peaceful home for a man to come home to.... but she is not responsible for his choices in life... including whether or not he cheats.  sue