text: how long does it take to get used to having your husband fighting overseas? i just recently got married (feb 16 2006) and my husband left for afganastan 3 days ago. i now have our 5 month old son to raise on my own, and work and college.  its hard only being 20 and having to deal with all of this. never! you will always have a thought in your head wondering what your husband is going threw. (and being newlyweds thats got to be harder than anything!)