text: my fiancee said our relationship is going down the tubes...is it true help? we have been through so much together and we have been arguing alot lately.  i believe i am suffering in depression and i have back sliden significantly in my walk as a christian.  we went to vegas for a weekend trip with all of our friends and one night i got really drunk and yelled at him and berated him and told him "i felt like beating him up or leaving the room".  needless to say i had a reason to be upset but not to express myself in that manner.  i felt ashamed and foolish.  i also got really insecure and starting begging him not to be mad at me and not to leave me.  he then said, "since we have been engaged i feel our relationship as gone down the tubes...all we do is fight".  i immediately sensed that he didn't want to be with me anymore.  since then he has not talked to me and has not come to bed for two days.  he hasn't asked for the ring back he hasn't asked me to leave, but he is totally ignoring me.. he keeps saying to "leave him alone".  i am trying but it is really hard you need professional help if you are going to save your relationship - and more importantly, save yourself.  you are definitely no longer in control of your depression or your drinking.   go to your pastor/priest and ask him to recommend a therapist and/or support group.  go to your doctor and tell him/her about your depression.  take action based upon their recommendations.  then go to your fiancee and tell him about the steps you are taking, and ask him to attend couples/premarital counseling with you.  don't wait, don't make excuses, don't put this off.  get help nnow and get yourself back on the right track.  good luck!