text: can somebody say " i love you" to their ex lover? my boyfriend still have a relationship by email or chat with his exes but he said its only friends relationship and i found out/he admit that sometimes he said he love her at the end of conversation, i felt that he cheating on me but he said its not the real love.. its the love between friendship.  is that true? the situation is either simple or complicated. he could have honestly cared for her and he may say i love you yet that doesn't mean that he is in love with her. if he is the type of person that gets very close and have childhood friendships up to date then no worries. if you feel threatened by it then ask him. after all no one here can answer your question, only he can.