text: at what age will a judge honor a child's wishes on where they want to live,custody? i have a 13 yr old son who wants to live with me, i also have a 11 yr old daughter who isnt sure what she wants.  i am remarried and have a 1yr old daughter who the other two just adore.  my ex is a good mother and there is no question of abuse or neglect or anything like that. what age would the court let them choose where they want to live. i dont want to start court proceedings until i am pretty sure i can win cause it will be hell with my ex if she finds out. i live in indiana if that helps the age is 14. the same age a child is deemed to legally know the difference between wthat is right and what is wrong.