text: can anyone offer advice? i need to get things sorted with my best friend he is a 34 year old guy i am a 35 year old female i think i am going crazy one minute i want to tell him exactly how i feel toward him an to hell with the consequences, an next thing i know he is telling me about an ex girlfriend of his.you see we have been talking an texting one another practically everyday for the past 5 months when first we started talking to one another i gave him the phone number of a girl he went out with 12 years ago an i did not mind that they were in contact , but he has started telling me anytime he is in contact with her an even if she visit because he says there is nothing going on an he does not want me to hear about if from anyone else that she has been to his house r that he had been talking to her.i believe him that there is nothing in it but still why would he get in conact with her if he was not interested, i believe i am loosing my mind . the point is why does it feel the need to tell you this womans coming round to his?  is he testing the water to see how you react?  you could always ask him how he feels about your relationship.  you could tell him.  do you know how he will react?  will it change your relationship if you tell him?  or you could be a little sly and invite him round to yours.  have loads of alcohol and make a move on him, that way if he doesn't respond the ways you want, you can blame it on the alcohol!