text: how do people cope with the loss of a mother? in dec. of 2003 my mother was killed in an auto accident instantly. the truck that hit us crossed the center line, hit my car head on killing her and breaking my arm. since then i have been dealing with major guilt and depression. anyone out there have a simular experience, or some way i can quit feeling so guilty about her death even though nothing that happened was my fault. i have one simple suggestion that i have my clients do when they feel guilty about something they had no control over! write a letter to the driver of the truck, use any type of language that you want to.  cuss, swear, whatever then place the letter in an envelope seal it then throw it away!!!! then sit down write a nice letter to your mom telling her how you feel about what happened. place it in an envelope, and then put it away. you will feel  a lot better!! the guilt will not be completely gone, but you will be on the right track. then get some counseling..... good luck.