text: how do you forgive your husband for cheating? after 5 yrs of marriage and 3 children? and to trust again? while i was pregnant with our son, my husband was chating,,i knew,but did nothing, afer i had our son, i confronted him,,he finally confessed. the hard part is he met her at a restaurant,she was a hostess. and they exchanged numbers,,and he hired her into his store,,now she is with him everyday,,and i asked him to remove her,and he says only vp's can remove others now,,i want to trust him,,but find it hard to.   he says that he is/and not going to cheat again. how can i trust him? i want to so much,,and i love him,,but i want to loved. and respected.   i know he loves me,,but i am not sure it is enough,,please give me some opnions,,and not retarted ones,,i can think of those myslef!! you can't trust him. i know because the same thing happened to me. we've been married for 20 years and he cheated with one of our employees about a year age. i fired her and he said he'd never do it again.  about 1 month age, i caught him again.  firing her didn't stop anything. we have 2 teenagers and my life is ruined. we are trying to co-exist for the kids, but it's not working out. leave him now and move on.