text: why cant my spouse trust me? every time my phone rings, he thinks its some man. he asked me how many men "f" me in university.  he searches my phone and call back every number telling the individuals i'm married. hey it is sicking me and after 10 years i'm ready to quit. hello i have never cheated on the guy but guess what i'm thinking .what do you think? not all men are that way. you're dealing with a controlling, selfish, insecure, baby that acts like this because his self-worth is rock bottom. if he still loved you, he would trust you. even if he is a little shaken, he would tell you what is bothering him. maybe it was something he saw? maybe it was something he heard? maybe he had a horrible dream about something that happened in the past? maybe he got hit with a brick and it knocked all of the good sense out of his head?  if you still want to be with him, maybe you should be the bigger person and sit him down and confront this situation.  that's if you still love him enough to want to work it out. do something to make him remember that you are the queen of the castle and he is still the king.  if it doesn't work, then find someone who will act like an adult and love you like you deserve to be loved.