text: i just caught my man masturbating in front of computer, and every instinct says to kick him to the curb...? but i would like some more advice besides throwing away my marriage. men are visually stimulated, and all men masturbate. it doesn't mean he doesn't like sex with you, or that he would ever cheat on you, he was just doing what is natural for guys.  it makes us ladies angry, and it hurts us too, but it isn't always something we should take personally.  talk to him about it, after you cool down.  what really bothers you about it?  tell him, and maybe it will be fine, and you'll learn somethings about him you didn't know.  oh, and just an after thought, did you wipe off the keyboard before you asked the question? :) keep smiling