text: boyfriend wants me to be with his family on thanksgiving, mother does not....what should i do??? my mom says that i should not spend thanksgiving with my boyfriend and his family unless i am engaged to him and that i should spead it with my own instead. i explained to her that i would spend thanksgiving with his family and he would spend christmas with mine  why could she feel this way?  what does this mean that i am with him and his family on thanksgiving in terms of our relationship?  we are in our twenties have been dating for almost a year.... split the day; part of it there and part of it with your family.