text: is he cheating on me?? he has this friend from about 9 years ago and she leaves him this comments on myspace all the time like "hehehe ur soo sily and hyper danny guess what ?? weeee" gay shit like that what should i think about that?? if it's just myspace comments that's innocent enough, but because you are posting here, i am guessing there are other things going on......drop in sex life, less interested in home.. spending more and more time away from home.. secret calls.. check cell records and if detailed billing is off, turn it on one month if you aren't sure and check the bill.  trust your gut.. we women tend to 'blow it off' wayyyyyyyy too much and there is a reason that god gave us that intuition, and it wasn't to ignore it.  pay close attention to him, and don't confront.. get the 'facts' as best you can first.... then confront.  a comment on myspace isn't sufficient proof of anything other than he's known a chick for 9 yrs and she has his myspace addy!   now why does he have a myspace addy?  married people shouldn't have that unless they have 'kids' and grandparents/aunts/uncles etc.. are living out of state and it's to 'share pictures'.. that's really the only excuse that i can think of for an account on that site.    i'm sorry this is happening to you, and please remember, 50% of marriages have had 1 partner cheat during the marriage, and it is not wise to assume you are 'in the other 50% that haven't cheated' if your 'radar' is going off at this time.  best wishes to how all this works out... i really believe that 'accusing someone of cheating' needs to be backed up with proof or it's destructive to a marriage where there is no cheating happening.. and it's a 'trust' that you can't easily repair if no harm has really happened.  have your facts, keep  your cool......and when/if the time comes, then confront (he'll lie most likely so sometimes i see no point in having the confrontation because we women want them to 'fess up and they hardly ever do.. so why put yourself through the stress).  before you investigate any further, decide what  you will do, if he is cheating.. and then follow through if it's true that he is.  sometimes i think the 'biggest' slap in the face/shock to them, is that you kicked him out/walked out, and said i'm not putting up with your bs lies anymore ........ and walk away without any further explanation.. afterall - he never gave you one right?  why does he deserve any better?  go see a good divorce attorney and make sure you get good alimony and find out if 'cheating' is grounds in your state for divorce.  if so, get enough evidence then take him to the cleaners!  before the guys go ballistic on my post, the truth is, if it was the woman cheating, i'd give the same advice.. if you aren't married but have a 'joint checking account/savings account.. clean it up before you ever say a worrd and walk out after, and let him find out he has no money :d