text: who can help this youngman? he is 18,gay and under constant threat of being put to death by his embarrassed father.he his being denied money and education and is always told he's be killed if he tells anyone about his "sickness" thus embarrassing his very popular and politically influential father.he is living in southafrica but wants to run away from africa but hios passport is seized by his father.he has a crush on another guy but dares not tell him or they'd both be killed(believe me it happens in southafrica).who can help? he can't even disclose his name or he's and as it stands now,my life will be in danger.he needs your help,advise or whatever ,he just has to get as far away from africa as he can but knows nowhere to go or how to get there. i understand homosexuality is not illegal in s.a., but his situation is very difficult from what you say. in my opinion, what he could do –i know it can be difficult- is keep aside his sexual trends for the time being so that his father may regain confidence in him and at least, allow him to get a degree in some career or other. and when he has finally being able to start an independent life of his own then he will be able to openly show his sexuality in south africa or wherever he chooses to live. after all, there are thousands of young men that do not start having any sexual activity until they get married, although you may find it hard to believe, and that means finishsing their studies first and finding a job afterwards. life is not always easy, and you can tell this youn boy he will not die if he tries to disguise his true feelings for a few years and behave accordingly. curious98