text: how should a parent deal with their daughter going out with a boy on probation and having a history of drugs? my daughter is going out with this kid on probation and has been known to do drugs, yet the more i try to tell to rethink her choice in guys, and that i only want what is best for her, the more she does the oppisite and spends more time with him. i am not trying to judge anyone, but this is my baby girl and as parents we want our kids to want more out of life, and to obey and respect the laws as well as their bodies. help please, i dont want to lose my daughter to this loser. if your daughter is a minor, and lives with you, try to impose restrictions to her outings. don't argue with her, or stop being loving with her, just factually tell her she's not going out later than x, or more than x times a week.  don't turn this into a personal problem with her: your problem is with him. of course, she will be mad at you for not accepting her boyfriend of choice and being happy for her; but she will soon get that (because of all the other things you do for her) that you just want her welfare, even if she continues dating him for a while.  it may seem hard, but remember that it won't last forever. the best you can do is probably to watch her welfare and make sure that she doesn't get into trouble.  let her know, very subtly, of course, that if she decided to date someone else, she could be out longer, and do funner things. set her up: if there is any of your friend's sons who you would like as a boyfriend for her, plan for the two families to go out, and allow her to stay up later or do something fun on that occasion. she will associate things together.  i'm not a parent, so unfortunately i can't give you first hand advice on this matter. i have had boyfriends my parents haven't liked, and they have made me realize that they weren't right for me by doing these things, though.  good luck.