text: why did fiance say getting a truck was ok if she didn't really mean it? my existing car hasn't been reliable and my fiance can't drive a stick, so we made a joint decision to get a different one.  she said that i could get anything within reason, that had a back seat large enough for a baby seat.  we'd discussed anything from a crew cab pickup to a family sedan.  she said she would be cool with any of those choices, although she preferred the car.  after careful deliberation, i decided that i preferred the pickup.  i thought it would be handy for running errands and picking things up for the house.  when i told her my choice, then she said that's fine but that she would never want to ride in it, because it doesn't fit her "image".  so, why did she say it was ok to get a truck, if she didn't really mean it? girls do this all the time. when she tells you she "preferred" the sedan she meant "we are getting the sedan, ur choice is irrelavent." and when she said she didn't want to ride in a truck, alarms should have went off in your head, she meant "you better not get that truck, or so help me god..."  masters at understatement. they think it's giving us "polite hints" that will steer our train of thought. you will never be able to change this in women if they are like that.  best thing for you to do is when they give you "hints" just take the "hint" as a in your face statement. then again as soon as we do that, they'll say that it was just a suggestion and that we took it all wrong... go figure.