text: me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 years now, recently i've been thinking about leaving...? but i don't want to hurt her.  at the same time i'm not 100% confident i want to leave her, i get on with her better than anyone else i know.  i've tried speaking with her about this but she quite understandably was really annoyed.  i havn't had sex with any other women, but have had a kiss with another women, and text a few.  she doesn't know about this.  if i left her i'm sure i could find another woman, but i know i'd be lonely for a long time.  i'm only 21, this sounds like some kind of mid-life crisis!  it must be bad if i'm using yahoo answers for help, lol.  should i stay with her and work at it even though i'm not 100% sure that's what i want or do i leave her now, deal with the unhappiness even though i'm not 100% sure that's what i want.  any one else been in a similar situation that can offer any advice???? if you don't want to be with her, or if you want to try out other people, break up with her. you'll be hurting her more if you cheat behind her back and she finds out.