text: i've been dating this guy for a few weeks, it's a now on/ now off relationship? why does he do this? i started dating him in september, went on a few dates.  then we stopped seeing each other in october, then we started seeing each other in december...again in january we talk on the phone and he's been avoiding face to face dates well take it from me. its the truth . he is scared of commitment and doesnt want to commit to u . or he jus plain has other things on his mind. ask him str8 and if its the latter then i think u shudnt be stuck up on this guy.move on .