text: how do you handle a 4-5 year old who will not listen to anything, in matter of fact she will do the oppisite o   a little discipline??    we always put ours in time out.  we also don't mind a good old fashioned spanking either.  we take our 5 year olds nintendo and put it in time out when he is being unreasonable.  this seems to make him really upset.  whichever method you use, be consistent.  i find that my two walk all over me when i start making threats and not following through.  so they get me back on track every now and again.  something we do for good behavior is a "star jar" when they do something good they get a ball in their jar.  but, if they do something bad they have to take the ball out (they hate this).  when the jar is full, i take them to the dollar store and let them purchase something for a dollar.