text: is it normal if you are married to be in your mind only attracted to someone else.? you are not going to have a relationship but it is in your mind only. you are not even sure if the person you are attracted to knows it. would he sense it and if he does even though you are not trying to have a relationship would he disrespect you. as long as youre still attracted to your spouse i dont see why it has to be a problem.  everyone gets turned on by others after they're married, its not just you!