text: why do us men always have to make the first move? i don't know what it is but i always find myself having to make the first move on my wife. i even asked her why and she couldn't give me a straight answer. could someone tell me why? well let me tell u im the same way with my husband, i hate to make the first move ... dont know why but i think its just us womans.... it just dont feel right i guess, i cant explain it, but just go on and keep on making moves