text: help finding a gay friend.? i am a single female i live near rochester ny. i used to have two great gay male friends but they moved away, i do not see them much. i didn’t realize how much i would miss them. i have female and strait male friends, but there is nothing like a gay guy to hang out with. does anyone know the best way to safley find a gay friend in this area? go to the gap. i am not being sarcastic. go to gay clubs and hair salons.