text: how often are you expected to visit or stay in touch with in laws ? i have been w/ my second husband 16 yr now. his family is italian catholic and they  do everything together. a 40 year old sister, 42 year old sister w/ 2 married. i use to put alott of effort into all relationships to realize i don’t want to. the mother is not happy i did not have babies. then i have issues w/ food. i am a veggie. the italians right off the boat eat almost anything gross. the times i visited have been full of anxiety for me. they believe if you are visiting you stay for the day or even worse yet through late night. i think 3 hours is all i can take w/ anyone. so i asked for a compromise from the hubby. he was all for it so i hardly see them at all. i even stopped calling and inviting them here ( they never went home ). if i did call she crys and pushes for a visit.so i insisted that my hubby maintain a visit them with out me every three weeks. they are hurt that i am never there. should i bite my feelings  and go back to the family. or should i stay w/ my hiding keep on hiding