text: for men only? what made you break-up with your recent ex? can i have the details? well i broke up with her ages ago. i loved her deeply but i was so insecure. she intimidated me because she was popular and beautiful and i felt not that way. i became bitter and jealous. i even mistreated her somewhat. the tension was always building in me. i guess i really wanted control. i decided to cut my losses and let her go. it was like the saddest moment in my life. i locked myself in my room and covered the windows in black for 3 days. at the end of 3 days, i heard a knock on the door. it was her, coming to bring some personal belongings of mine back. i can't even tell you the sadness in that moment. it is crystallized in my mind forever. i was moody and depressed for months afterwards. i thought about ending it all. i wrote a lot of poems to her. she sent me a card for my birthday, more agony. i had a one night stand to make myself feel better. i drank a lot. it was tough. real tough. eventually i moved on and met someone much better for me. but it was hard to trust and love again so freely. my ex is someone who touched me in a deep way becuase we met when i was feeling so vulnerable. overall, though she probably wasn't as good a match for me as i wanted her to be. that's the honest part of the siutuation. we were just much too different in so many ways. i learned that even though i had these powerful feelings for this girl, she may not have been the one i was destined to be with. still, my heart lingers on her at times. you just never get over some people. but i don't dwell or obsess anymore. i focus on my new love and make that the center of my life. that's the best and truest advice i can give you. good luck and don't be shy to move on because when it's over, it's definetely over!