text: please do not think my question bad? my partner wants an..l sex with me.i don´t know how to do it or if it will hurt. one of my friend told me it is dangerous.but she did not specify.can anyone just tell me about the good & bad side of it and the ways.how should a wman express while doing it?please, do not think me perverted. i am a little confused and scared. if you dont have a trusted older person to go to, you can always go and seek out family-planning clinics for young people; they are trained to do just that and they exist to educate you in sex related matters... this is a short summary: 1. protect yourself. both from unwanted pregnancy (that can change you and your life forever in more ways than you can imagine) and from sexually transmitted disease (std). those are mainly treatable, but you'll definitely need to see a doctor if you contract std as neglected ones can even lead to infertility. you may not care now, but later in life you'll for sure be sorry as hell. you can get contraception pills from either your family doctor of those clinics mentioned above. protection against std is a condom. do not have sex without one! 2. when you're having sex for the first time, the penis will penetrate your vagina and in the process the hymen (a membrane stretched across your cervical opening) will tear. it can cause some bleeding and momentary pain. it is highly individual - it depends on the thickness of the hymen, or how tense and nervous you are. some girls/women dont bleed at all and some profusely. you ll be probably slightly sore for couple of days afterwards. the best is to prepare yourself by informing yourself thoroughly about how it works exactly so you know what to expect. 3. first sex is best when you're relaxed - your vagina will be well lubricated (wet) and that will ease the penis along; foreplay is well worth investing in. cuddle, gently explore, kiss and caress untill you feel the warmth in your vagina - that means that you're ready enough to try the "it" thing... 4. consider staying with foreplay (heavy petting) alone - it can bring you to satisfaction just as well (you and your boyfriend) and, emotionally, it can bring you together just as sex will. for the record, petting and oral sex without the penetration is sex, too! so if your boyfriend insist on the penetration, and you're not ready (either physically or emotionally), just say no and be firm. do not do anything you dont want to do! respect your body and its integrity. and your boyfriend should also - its not some toy thing existing only for his pleasure! 5. women express themselves while doing it in as many ways as there are women. so, just be yourself - that's why your boyfriend likes you in the first place! 6. explore gently and carefully. 7. have fun and good luck!