text: why is it that men say they are going to do something and then don't do it? maybe i get my hopes up to easily or am too trusting, but when someone says they're going to do something i wish they would do it. i also know that it isn't just men that do this. women do the same thing. they aren't very assertive and believe people won't like them if they stand their ground. i use to have a similar problem but over time decided to say no when i wanted to. it works better to just say no than to string people along. you can't make everyone happy.