text: my boyfriend has a problem getting hard, what are ways for him to relax and get hard? my boyfriend can getting excited and stimulated at first, but when we start to move a little further it's like he's concentrating or trying to hard and then goes soft. sometimes he even has a hard time getting hard at all. he's told me it's not me, that he has always had this problem. when he is satisfying himself he's fine. please help  