text: as grandparents we have have legal custody of 10 yr old girl since 10 mo now her mother has died i am lost? i watch granddaughter everywhere she goes am i too over protective. how do i back off a little and let her have fun. there are crazys out there. i won't let her go with her father or his family don't trust them her mother wasn't in a good situation or you would not have been raising her child.  you have to let the child be a child, she will learn from this experience as much as you have.  that there really are crazies out there to be aware of.  give her good judgement, good ethics, good advice, and a good example to follow, then let her take that and be who she will be with it.  it has to be hard knowing your daughter has passed away, and i am sorry for your loss, but please don't punish your granddaughter for your daughters mistakes.