text: my wife treats everybody else in the damn world like royalty but i get the abusive side? how do i shut her up? my wife can treat an ant better than she treats me. i try my hardest to love her with all i've got. i can't be her perfect man but i can try to do my best. she's still cold as an iceberg and manipulative with her mouth. how do i control this woman before i crack? well smooooooooth (why exactly are you using that name and then bashing your wife publicly...i don't know that i would consider that particularly "smooth") - looks like she's frustrated, and if i were you, i would concentrate on doing those little things she's been askin' you to do.   remember the one most important rule of a happy marriage:  a happy wife equals a happy life!  most likely she's not asking for much, but it's just enough to inconvenience you - so you ignore it, and put it off until you just can't avoid it anymore.  that in turn pisses her off and causes a crappy attitude.  it's called give and take.  if she does things for you - you should be doing things for her.  don't ignore her or try to beat her down- maybe you should listen to why she's so angry.  maybe you can find a way to help her - not "shut her up!"  shame on you - stop being to selfish!