text: are you a step-mother raising your husbands' children full time? how do they treat you? well i have.  i have known them since 2 and 4.  they spent weekends and holidays with us.  half way through the 3rd and 5th grades they came to live with us.  they had little or no rules where they were at.  their mom left them, they were hurt, and angry.  i just happened to be the one there to take those emotions out on.  they did not like rules, and would call their mom's and my husband's family to complain about how they were being treated, and then the families always tried to interfere.  what am i saying they did interfere.  their mom liked to call my husband often to see how they were doing, and oh yeah i'm not their mom, even though i was  introduced to their friends and teachers as such.  their dad unpunished them, when they were in trouble, while my son stayed grounded.  they were mouthy, to an extent, grouchy, snappy, and would go to great lengths to make my life miserable, in between some good times.  the good news is that was years ago, and they love me dearly, celebrate me on mothers day, and we have a very close bond.  they found out that i did what i did out of their best interest.  but it was a long road, however worth it in the end.  hang in there, and god bless