text: i found out my wife was cheating on me 8 months ago. i'm still debating should i stay or leave. suggestions?   wow! 30 answers in 10 minutes!  well,my suggestion probably isn't going to instantaneously resolve the issue. i do believe that people deserve second chances though. you married for better or for worse. this is one of those worse moments.   if you love her and you feel like there is still hope for your future than try to the best you can to not ever bring it up again. if you have talked about it and found out the reason for her cheating and have made it known that it won't ever be tolerated again; this is about all you can do. never bring the subject up again and don't threaten to leave because of it. if you threaten,you may as well mean it. there is no point in threatening if you're not going to follow through. all it does is adds confusion to an already unstable relationship.  also,if you have children involved in this situation,consider them also. is it worth causing them the embarrassment and the hurt that goes along with divorce?    i wish you luck and every happiness. if you love your wife though,tell her that you do. treat her the way you used to when you first met. go on dates. take a walk in the park hand in hand. simple things can really help heal a broken heart,  for you and for her.