text: how do i find time for  myself? what would i do if i could find the time? if i ever do find the time, i go to the bar, by myself, drink and smoke alone, then go back home. i am not an alcoholic, cause this happens less than once a month. what is wrong with me? well, without knowing you, i'd say it's because you're a wee bit boring. if that can be considered as having something "wrong" with you, then sure. but you're not unusual--lots of people don't know what to do with themselves when they have extra time.   if i were you, i'd decide what you're going to do (that's different) the next time you have free time. and then really do it.