text: has anyone fallen out of love after being in a marriage for 3-5 years?  why? did you get a divorce?   about 2 in a half years into my marriage, i thought it was over! my husband had no respect for me, was constantly jealous and controlling. i became mean, and stopped caring about us. we both started saying hateful harsh words, and almost gave up. we split up for a short time, and realized what a mistake it was. i truly think, sometimes is takes something big to wake a marriage up! it didn't take long for the both of us to realize what we were doing. learn to respect each other, listen to each other, and fight fair. if you need to make the first move on talking about saving the marriage, please do it. it's not worth it to be stubborn, and hold grudges. life is too short. if you feel that knot in your stomach, and deep pain in your heart when things aren't right between you and your spouse, then it's true love. it's probably your soul mate. love is worth fighting for, it gets better as time goes on. sometimes you have to go through some rough times to get there. good luck hun....:)