text: what does it mean when a guy always wants to be around you even when you don't care if he is or isn't?! okay... there is this guy kinda older not by much give or take 15 years...he says he wants to be with me even if we don't have sex ,he said even just being able to lay with me or in the same room would be cool with him as long as he is near me...do guys really have real feelings like this or is he just totally jocking me?! he may have fallen for you to the point of infatuation, so much that he doesn't care whether or not the two of you are being physical at this point, as long as he can spend time with you.    most likely he wants to become physical with you at some point, but right now he is in the "i'll take what she gives me" mode, and he hopes for more down the road.   there is a possibilty he may also have low self-esteem, and thinks that "as long as she spends some time with me and gets to know me better, she will begin to care for me".   these are two possible reasons for his actions.