text: do guys in general not like girls who are "plain" ? i'm a girl who is shy (not as shy as i was in hs but i can approach strangers & ask them qs... depends on what the q is, like today i was asking peeps if they wanted to buy a ticket for countryfest) & i sometimes dress plain & don't really do anything fancy w/ my hair. i don't have many friends & when i go to the bar i go to visit my friend chris who works there. how many guys actually care bout personality ? some have said that i could have my pick of any guy... but since i'm very picky there aren't a whole lot to choose fr anywayz. i don't smoke, drink or do drugs. a lot of peeps who i know do @ least one of those things. and why are guys so in to looks ? i'm skinny but "plain." you're exhibiting the lack of the #1 quality that us men devour; confidence.  it's hard being a woman i would imagine when you're constantly bombarded with what society thinks is attractive and desirable; and even that changes year-to-year so even eva longoria will be plain in a couple of years.  confidence does not come with make-up, clothing, or other earthy trappings.  it's something you build up over time when you get to understand who you are.  the quickest path to getting confidence is to stop wasting energy on what the world thinks of you and spend time on caring about what you think of you.  once you love yourself, it will exude in a way that convinces other people they should be confident about you as well.