text: men change after they win us over, why??!? why do men change after they work so damn hard to get us? it's like it's never the name...please tell me this trend will end. my bf is ending it thank god. maybe i should ask him why men are like that hmm. both men and women change as a relationship ages.  it's human nature.  sometimes the changes are for the best, often not.  have you ever heard that familiarity breeds contempt?  what you are describing is something like that.