text: is it too much to request from your bf/husband to keep the toilet seat down after use? i feel bad but my cat keeps drinking water from the toilet but my boyfriend never puts it down after he uses it.  i always have to go check after him.  when i ask him, he looks offended.  any comments? i think that putting the toilet seat down is common courtesy whether you are male or female. i hate it when things drop into the open toilet because the seat is up. but there are people who see it as no big deal--it's how they were raised.  i'm sure that by now you have explained your reasons for wanting the toilet closed to your bf. i think that you should probably expect to keep having to check the toilet after he uses it for quite some time.  hopefully, he will come around, but i wouldn't hold my breath. we all have little things that our loved ones do that bug us and that we just have to put up with. sometimes they change but more often, they don't.