text: how do i help him? my partner lost his mother last year, he is only young and he is really deppressed about it, he seems to be ok most of the time then suddenly he will break down and i will realise just how badly it is affecting him not having her around, he talks to my mother almost every day and that helps him feel better but sometimes i just dont know what to do, i worry about him so much and i love him so much, i know i cant do much but i really dont know what to say when he starts blaming himself (even though he wasnt even there) for not saying goodbye (she died suddenly). all i can say is that its not but its not like i can tell him i know how he feels because i dont, no one can unless its happened to them. i really need help! what do i do???? you're already doing your best. you cant bring his mother back......  but, you love him, and by being with him every time he breaks down, by listening to him....and by all these things you do for him you're helping him!!   you're great  :-)