text: what do i need to do to help my realtionship- marriage? i have been with my husband for over 4 yrs and it is going down hill. i hate because there are times i think of my ex's. it really sucks. i think i am somewhat still in love but like a little. and i know i do not want to split for my kids and because i do not think we have worked to much on it. well, i am pretty unhappy in all the aspects of the realtionship-- he is becoming too macho and is always telling me things like you are gaining weight and who in the hell would want someone like you. you know i like romantic guys and he has killed all the desire to be with him. i know i have to because i do not hold my tongue too much-- i say what i have to say. i know i am wrong but he makes me sick-- it is like i can't even stand his presence. and i have tried to work on it. but the more i work on it he starts with stupid comments and attitudes. he tells me i am the best thing you ever had in your life. and i feel like just screaming and letting him have it but he always starts crying. hmm this question is actually helping me more than my answer would help you. but i think that taking a break and separating for a bit without getting divorced is a good idea. then i, just like you, would try really hard to keep working on it, and after getting some more strength - come back and battle some more. but if that still doesnt get through to him - leave him, see if he understands the seriousness of the situation that way