text: how do i deal with my husband? he cheated on me with the same woman for a long time. we broke up and nearly divorced. he begged and begged for me to take him back constantly, so i finally gave in.  i just found out he has been contacting her again. he says she wont talk to him, except to yell at him. (he could just be lying some more)  so, i dont want to divorce him, because of some issues right now. what do i do to stop him from cheating. we have always had a really great sex life, (2-3 times daily everyday, in many many differerant ways) i have gained some weight, because i just had a baby, but that is coming off now.   i am trying very hard, but it seems hopeless. are there any progrmas or books we can look into to save our marriage?   i know it sounds pathetic, but this is my life and he is my husband. i would like to give it one last try before giving up for good.  thanks forget the books, you need to get rid of this guy.  i don't neccessarily perscribe to the idea of "once a cheater always a cheater," but in this case your husband is still talking to this other woman.  it really doesn't matter if they're arguing when they talk..point is..he's not respecting you and your relationship enough to let this other woman go.  instead of reading books on how to make him stop cheating, start reading books on how to love and respect yourself.  you may find your eyes open quite a bit when you realize how much you're worth!