text: what's really going on?is this a relationship?girls advice.a long one,serious answers only please,help? i keep going out with my close female friend, we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. we also take roadtrips together to the coast and to the country for walks, usually followed by dinner and its just the 2 of us.this happens at least every 2 weeks, if not on a weekly basis. we’re attracted to each other, flirt with each other, we’re in touch practically everyday, can only open up too me,feels very comfortable with me, enjoys spending time with me,we trust each other etc  she doesn’t like it when i mention other girls that i’m interested in or ask her for advice concerning them.she always tells me that she never pulled when she went out,she’s not interested in anyone, don’t fancy anyone,etc  we kissed once(very passionate,all over each other)a few months back and she said we should remain friends.she said that i don’t do it for her(also kiss), but still finds me attractive and the thought of us being intimate doesn’t repulse her. so how can’t i do it for her? i know what you're going through. there is a certain male friend of mine that i have secretly felt this way about...and dreamt about for a few years now. i've said little things to see what his reaction was, and he just really did not seem interested in me for anything else than a friend. i'm engaged now....and sometimes i wish i would've said something, just to see what would've happened. although i would never change anything between my fiance and i.  i'm thinking that this girl feels the same way about you. sit her down and talk to her. tell her of all your feelings towards her. ask for hers in return. a few months back, when you guys kissed - was there passion? or what it just a kiss? tell her your opinion on this, and ask her for hers. you guys are best friends - there should be no reason why you guys can't talk about this.   let her know that anything you guys do together isn't just for you. that if you guys end up kissing again or even being intimate, it's not because you're some filthy slob trying to get in her panties. let her know that you'd only do it because the timing and the person was perfect. it really can't get any simpler than that.  whatever and however you chose to go about this, please do something. you wouldn't want to go on living the rest of your life wondering what would've happened had you said something, right?   just sit her down, take her by her hands and take a deep breath - and let the words flow. you guys seem really close, and you seem like an awfully sweet guy. i wish the both of you the best of luck. don't go for not having your girl. ;)