text: i've been divorced for 11 years, is it right to want to try marriage again since i'm the one? who wanted the divorce? i was young and very immature, but now i'm 35....i feel ready and grown up, but am i deserving? and if so, do i look for a divorced man? yes!  absolutely try it again.  but don't look for any particular type of man--i mean, don't seek divorced men just because you are divorced.    remember this:  everyone has a past--that's what makes us who we are.  you have learned from your mistakes, you've grown up and now you're ready to settle down.  and yes, you are deserving.    if i could only give you one piece of advice it would be to seek out a mate in your circle of interest.  bars are not the best place to seek out someone to spend your whole life with.  but on the other hand, if you like to read, join a book club.  if you like church, join a singles group at  your church.  and don't be overly anxious.  when the right person comes a long, you will know it.  i wish you the best of luck, my friend.  there are good men out there, you just have to be patient.  god bless!