text: what should i get / do for my girlfriend? i've been with my girlfriend for 3 1/2 years. we live together. she doesnt seem to like gifts like cds or t-shirts, etc. she doesnt like candy. flowers arent really a big deal anymore. she's pretty self concious, so spa, massage, or anything similar is out of the question. i'll probably cook for her, candles etc, but that'll be pretty expected. any spectacular ideas? places to go, etc? reserve a room at a nice hotel, order room service and fill with candle lights (have it ready before you take her there)and a bunch of roses.  then take her there blinded folded and surprise her! ;-)