text: should i dump a girlfriend who won't have sex because she is afraid she can't come? i really like her and she is amazing in all the things we share, and in the ways we get along, everything but sex. i don't want to end up in a sexless relationship, or one where the sex is one-way. she said she has never come with another person before, and has only had sex to please another (and as a consequence felt left out).  she did come with a vibrator while i watched, so i think there is potential. we have talked about it a lot, and she feels a lot of pressure (on her self and from me). i can listen more and wait more, but at a certain point i have to make a decision as to whether sex will ever happen. is this a deal-breaker or am i an insensitive person interested in sex? the vibrator is encouraging.... expand on that.  i suspect that she has some kind of mental block - if she's had an orgasm in front of you, she should be able to have another.  and another, and another...  speaking as a woman who had trouble with that for a long time, just be patient.  if you like her as much as you say, it'll be worth the wait.  encourage her to try other things, both together and separately.  try taking her into the shower, and show her by your touch how much you want for her to feel good.  and how good she feels to you.  she'll come around.  at least she's being honest... i'm amazed at how many women fake it and then lie about it!