text: dealing with a new separation? i'm about 99% sure my husband and i are going to get a divorce. the whole situation is hard but i'm finding the hardest part to be that i'm so comfortable and used to the way things were and now they're completely different. i now wake up in a completely different bed in a different house and all of that not so fun stuff that comes along with separating. anyone else have a hard time with that part? if so what'd you do to help yourself feel better? you realize that it is up to you now to make yourself happy. it is up to you to make decisions now and they can be just exactly what you want to do and not have to worry about pleasing anyone else. you realize that you have goals to make and that you are going to start with the easy ones and work your way up, because nothing is going to stand in your way now. you realize that you are stronger than to dwell in self pitty and that making the best of each day will bring you closer to what you really want in life.  while separation can be devastating it also needs to be a learning experience. let yourself blossom form this and come out smelling better because of it. this is your life now.  it is up to you now. you can do it.