text: if you find that your husband's mother annoys you most of the time and he doesn't realize it, what to do?   he may notice or maybe she's always annoying and he tunes it out but don't put him in the middle. straighten her butt out if she's rude or snotty to you in front of him or not. don't call her names or hit her upside the head no matter how much you want to! be a lady about it and make that cow look bad. even if it's just her tone of voice, call her on it.