text: if men are scared of marriage, why are most divorces filed by women? most stats i've seen indicate that 70-75% of divorces are filed by women.  i've also seen stats that put infidelity by men at about 60% and infidelity by women at about 40%, with women catching up to the infidelity rate of men.  so why do you think women, who typically complain than men are afraid of comittment, seem to want divorce two to three times more than do men?  it seems to me that men are more comitted to marriage than women.  comments? actually, you're right. women are more likely to leave a marriage than a man. i read somewhere, long time ago (when my mom left my dad), something that said that women's needs change during the course of a relationship, while men's needs primarily stayed the same (and yes, this does include the phyiscal needs).   for example, a woman who falls in love and marries a man because he has an exotic job may decide five years later that the job "isn't enough" because she now needs someone who can be at home at 5:15 every single night to help take care of the kids. her needs changed; his didn't. she married him because she also loved the job - not just him - and now she doesn't love the job any more, and so, by consequence, she no longer loves him. irreconcilable differences, you know.  men, on the other hand, will fall in love and marry a woman who happens to have an exotic job. if she then decides to stay home and have kids, he will often stay dedicated to her because he "made that commitment" and will stay the course. if he does stray - as you admit some men do - it's often because the woman's needs have changed... and half the time, she's straying, too!  men also have been taught by their fathers, over the generations, that women are to be cared for (which i agree with) no matter what. even though women were "liberated" 30 years ago, men are still being taught this value, and apparently they're listening! women have taken this "liberation" and used it to their advantage as a gender, allowing themselves the freedom of escaping from home responsibilities that men have shouldered for centuries.  now... that's my opinion.... anyone else?