text: some advice for jaded single....? i've been in and out flings and relationships for a year or so and no matter what i try, i end up still having contact with the same four girls that i've played or who played me, or hurt feelings but always had some kind of connection (sex and/or emotional)....but i wanna move on and i don't really know how.  can anyone help with some advice??? you answered your own question...you keep the same past relationships...move on.  you said you played or got played with these women...fair exchange so no robbery.  put out what you want to get back for starters.  don't hate the players, hate the game...especially since its of your own making.  why don't you rest your mind and your body...take a break, do some good things to and for yourself. after awhile get back out there and play it as it lays or not, and just take your chances.  i find that the worst case of lonesome, is when someone is right there with you.  having somebody is not always better than having nobody, if they aren't the right one.    maybe you keep the past connections because you know what these women will do.  this means you can't be hurt or disappointed by them anymore.  it sounds like you are afraid to be alone.  you probably judge other women based on these past experiences.  if you keep dealing with the same type of women...that's on you.  examine your own expectations and make the necessary adjustments if you want a different outcome.