text: i need good advice? i have a problem. i am in love with a girl who i have dated off and on for 2 years. i really loves her but she is dating a guy named ian. she loves me and ian both but she doesn't know which one to date and we hate each other guts but are nice to each other just top make her happy. she says that i am loving caring but that sometimes she feel i don't care what she is talking bout but i really do. ian is loving and caring and he show more emotion in public and stuff but sometimes takes it too far and when me and her are alone we do some stuff but not as much in public. i told her i would change that but i don't think she believes me. i need your advise for her and me both. who should she date? what should i do to get here to like me more? as for you, i think you should just relax for a little bit. maybe start hanging out with some new girls and just put the first girl on the backburner. this will help you in that you won't be so tied up in it all the time, and it will also help her because it will give her a chance to figure some stuff out. more importantly, she will see what she's missing if you two hang out less. this will likely make you much more attractive to her. or, worst case scenario, she'll pick ian. (which is unlikely) but if she does, then obviously the relationship wouldn't have worked anyway. moral of the story: give the relationship a little breathing room and cross your fingers. good luck!