text: im 14and i cant have a girlfriend cause im  shy can you help me? ind i want to know what you do when you have a girlfriend i help those who help themselves... seriesly though...  you probably won't have too much trouble maintaing a causal conversation with her, about the weather or other superfical topics, once you have her talking go progressivly into more deeper topics and eventually (after a couple of days or weeks of getting to know her) you can ask her out and it won't seem 'out of the blue'