text: if ur boyfriend of  5yrs found out u cheated on him&stayed w/u,is it ok for him to always use it against u? this happened almost 3yrs. ago. & after he found out,he wanted to stay with me. we are still together now,but he uses it against me all the time. any time we have an argument,he throws it in my face. it doesn't matter if he is right or wrong,when it comes down to it everything is my fault because of what i did. shouldn't he leave if he isn't happy? i can understand how he would feel hurt and angry towards you, however, since he chose to stay with you after finding out, he needs to come to terms with his feelings.  if he can't then he's not being fair to you or to himself.  he either needs to let it go, or if he can not, then he needs to let you go.