text: question for  woman only!!? i'm a bi female, i'm seeing a man and a woman. when i'm with a man i usally have an orgasm when i'm on top. my girlfriend does a excellent job orally, but i can't have a orgasm. i tell her it's me not her, i guess i'm not use to it, never had a orgasm orally, but with her she does everthing right and i can't come. why? what should i do? i get fustrated with myself, and she is so patient. you should have her try inserting her fingers into you to stimulate your g spot while she pleases you orally.  this is probably the little extra you need.  also, if that doesn't work, they do sell the part of the anatomy she is missing in a double header, you could try that.