text: need help? i was asked to have the dinner in my home because i have the bigger home. i was ok with it. it made sence to me. i organized it so everyone had something to bring so i'm not having to do all the work. (you see my husban had a stroke 3 weeks ago and i'm having issues with my lupus) i was hoping all i would have to do is make the ham and my canded yams set the table and be done with it. no his family told me that it was my job to do the dinner because i was having it in my home. i felt hurt because i have alot on my plate right now and for starters i was asked to have it here. to not be a brat i did it anyway. i need to find out if i did the right thing or should i have just told them no at last minute. how shoul di feel and what sould i have done? please help? i would just be honest in a situation such as you have decsribed; come to think of it i am always honest in every situation, to a fault sometimes.  i guess that's part of being a dog; you know, loyal, honest, dependable, patient, etc... but back to your situation.  i would have told them i just didn't feel up to it, but thanks for showing their confidence in you.  do you think that would have worked?