text: its not my fault...its his? ok heres my prob! i had a boyfriend a while back and he was my first love my first everything! and now evertime i date anyone else i break up with them right when things start to get serious or im so paranoid that hes gonna cheat on me i run them away...how do i fix my problem you need to stop dating for awhile.  just tell guys that you're not dating right now and suggest to just be friends and hang out.  look at it this way.  if i jab you in the arm with a pencil, it would hurt but it wouldn't be horrible.  but if i jab you in the arm with a pencil into an open wound, then it would hurt 10 times worse.  right now your emotions are an open wound.  they need time to heal.  as long as guys keep poking your emotions, they will never heal up.  you need to stop dating, and enjoy life on your own while your emotions heal up.  you'll  know when the time is right to get back into the dating thing.  until then, just say, 'can we just hang out and be friends?'