text: on the third date we went all the way the next day his was distant as says what we did wasn't smart, now he... wont call me. the sex was great for us both.  it wasn't planned but just happened. now he feels bad and so do i, how can we get past that. it's hard, but some time apart to digest what happened will help.  and then calmly talk about it, say it wasn't expected, wasn't planned, but it happened.  lets move forward.  and accept whatever comes your way.  if he wants to end it, okay, you'll find someone better who'll stick around after sex.  if he wants to work it, take it a little slower until he's comfortable again.  but it'll work out.  you just need a little time to get over all of this.  good luck!