text: how do you get a man to commement to you? he loves me, trusts me and is attracted to me.. what's the hang up? i am married but seperated.  we have been "in love" for 10+ years.  i feel like i just need him to make that promise to make it final in my mind.   any thoughts would be welcome. how is he to commite when you are not commited to him if you are still married in his mind you are holding on to your husband wishing he will come back to you..... get the freakin divorce.... just think if he wanted to get married to you legally he could not..... get a clue show him you are ready to move on completely with him 4ever......