text: why do men think its okay to play with womens feelings? ok, me and my "man" have been fighting a lot lately and he's been lying to me, saying he's at the studio workin on his cd or he's in bed but then he stop answering my phone calls until like 5 in the morning, i don't know what to think. men have superegos, they are bruised easily by females. men feel that they should be able to do what they want, but that you shouldn't say anything about their behavior. it's not right for them to play with your emotions, but since they don't open up and express their emotions like women do, they feel that you should let them be, stop pressuring them. they are wrong, a couple needs to be able to talk, communicate or there is definitely a problem. as for lying, lying is a way they can feel in control, have everything go their way. they know the risks of lying to you, but they still do it because it's a defense mechanism, it keeps them from having to face their fears. don't let them do you like that though, regardless if they are scared of commitment or being open with their mate, you can't sit back and be second. if they really love you, i think they will let the wall down and be open with you, like you are with them. but if they can't be the slightest bit open with you, then they really are not ready to have experience anything special with you. just my take on it.