text: my husband a 4 yr.old daughter but he doesn't spend with. he spend more time with me and our two girls.? he tells he wish i was his first baby mamma. how can i get him to spend more time with her or get him to bring her to our home? tell him that the way he treats his daughter will have a huge effect on her the rest of her life.  she will view all men the way she views her dad, and especially at age 4, she is the most susceptible to learning what men are like and how men and women treat each other.  if he wants her to have healthy, normal relationships when she is grown, he needs to be a good dad for her now!