text: he smoked...why do i feel so upset by it? my mum is a smoker and i hate it. it makes everything smell, and a few years ago, the doctor found a shadow on her lung but she never told me any more about it.for lots of reasons i hate it, and last week i was talking to my boyfriend and he said he hated it and it was horrible the first time he tried it.then i just found out he smoked last night because i wasnt there.he said it was really coz everyone else as doing it,that it was stupid and he would never do it again,he's promised.but it just really upset me.i don't even know why it got me so mad? if he was truly just experimenting and he doesn't plan on doing it again, then just let it go. there's no use in being upset over it. it probably got you so mad because you probably connect smoking with the problems that your mom faced, so it's a sensitive subject for you. just explain how you feel and if he is willing to listen then everything is fine!