text: my husband puts lots of meaning into order and a clean house....even forgetting othter sweter things come firs   you never know what you may get in a person - my husband doesnt pay attention to how much work i put into the house everyday - he just assumes it should be done.  they don't mean any harm in it.  it is just how they work.  men and women just work diferently and it is up to us to remind them of the other things in life - believe it or not..thats why they chose us.  you have to compromise.  i may not think that some things are very inportant, but he may think that same thing is invaluable.  i have to adjust to make sure he is happy and he has to do the same.  if you clean up the house to show him that his beliefs are inportant you may have a better chance of getting the attention that you feel is important.  my compromise was .....bear with me.....that if we had sex more often - on occasion we would get back to making love.  it worked.  i work to make sure his needs are met - in all facets of marriage - in return he works on mine.  it is an endless struggle to make sure everyone is happy -- good luck