text: wives...have you been cheated on and never expected it? what was the scenario that you found out.  how did you finally discover that he was cheating? oh yeah.  been married 20 yrs w/ 2 kids.  i really trusted the ****.  and like a fool, i forgave him and thought everything was fine, then come to find out almost a year later, he's still doin it and her. in the process of getting divorced. man am i goin to screw him royally, just like he did me. as for how did i know, i felt it in the pit of my stomache and used some detective skills i've learned over the years.  if you think he's cheatin and you get a knot in your gut, then he's cheating.  and as much as i hate to say it " once a cheater, always a cheater."