text: what interval of time should you give someone to get over a spouse dumping them before you go after them? i know you would want to be considerate of the person's feelings and also you would want to give the couple time to get back together if that is their destiny. you don't want to wait too long so that some other man can show an interest quicker than you. play it by ear or what? it really depends on the person and the kind of breakup she is going through. i think the best thing to do is be her friend right now, she will need someone to lean on who doesnt have an agenda. once she has gotten past her divorce she might see you as something more, but until then i think the only thing you can be is patient.