text: how do let a guy know that you like him without scaring him away and  not ruin our friendship?   friendship? a friendship between a man and a woman is not what you girls call a friendship. it is a mild attraction, based purely on a future date in which you will have sex with them when you are totally desperate, that is masked by a mild interest in what the other is saying. if you have a "friendship" with a guy, it just means that you are using him or he is using you and one/both of you expects sex and/or money at some future date.  so don't worry about it and let him know. you might find that he will give you your payment early. either way you will get what you deserve.