text: does he have the right to be mad? i am separated from my husband even though we still talk on the phone-we have kids together-we were married for 18 years.  my boyfriend of 13 months is pissed because when i was talking to my husband on the phone he said "i love you" when we were hanging up. i said "i know"-----it is very over between my husband and me. i love my bf only want him.  my husband was abusive. my boyfriend says i should have said you dont love me too much or you wouldnt drag me around by the hair,hit me,etc. etc.   where did i go wrong    or am i wrong?  my boyfriend is sure he is 100% right.  i feel im 100% right.  we are at the point of breaking up. my bf says how can you tell him you know he loves you when you tell me you dont know if i love you.   he told me to write everyone for advice. can anyone help???????? don't be talking to your ex hubby.  you may not think he can get to you that you are happy, but they have a way of getting to you.  i know because i have been there and i am now remarried to my ex because i let him back in, i regret it deeply.  so my advice the less you talk just as friends the better off.  he didn't change until you were happy and with some one else am i right.