text: what reasons would a woman choose to not let someone go down on her? even if she does him?   in addition to the above answers, shyness or self-consciousness (which i don't fully buy...it seems if you're comfortable enough to get naked in front of someone, you might as well enjoy it...but what the heck, let 'em have it), and not so fresh, it is also possible that she has a traumatic memory associated with it.  for example, i am with a girl who was molested that way at a very young age and she prefers not to have it done because it reminds her of being molested.    as time has gone on in our relationship, she has agreed to let me do it, and now trusts me fully to do it.  you should be patient. explain how much you enjoy it. tell her how hot she is and how beautiful she is. ask her why she doesn't want it. and tell her you can wait as long as she needs to until she is comfortable in your relationship.  it will pay off in the end.  p.s. does anybody else get the feeling that dreamon is lowsy in bed?  sorry dreamon, hope the best for you girl!