text: what are the benefits of a legal separation? hey you guys, as many of you you know my husband dumped me and my children for some bimbo, he lives in washington state in a military base (he's stationed there) and about 5 days ago admitted he was having an affair with the same woman i caught him with about 9 months ago, i decided to forgive and forget for the sake of my children but unfortunetly the military hasen't released him because of medical reasons he accured in iraq, anyways he admitted and said that we just never get along and we are always fighting and he's right but, most of the fights he starts for no reason and he gets upset because i confront him about not sleeping in his barrecks well i decided not divorce him because i need the money he gets which he gives me about 95% of his paycheck and i have excellent medical ins plus i dont want him and her to get their way so i was thinking of a legal separation but i don't know if that would be a good idea, i really don't know much about it, i'm really sad and need some guide. it sounds as if he doesn't want you to confront him on what he does/doesn't do..-if you want to stay with him get counseling....it may not work or it could work....pray about it and you may not get the answers that you want right away but if you are steadfast in your prayers, they will be answered....a lot of men/woman cheat b/c they think the grass is greener on the other side and many times they find it's not so...i was married and very in love, my ex-husband was rude, hurtful and would not have sex with me for 3 years, i later learned he was seeing a pleather of women... i would confront him on some issues and he would get angry that i was questioning him at all... he said the same as your husband...we don't get along, we fight all the time-when the reality was-he was starting all the fights!!! you will still get benefits if you are separating...and you can get health insurance from the military if you happen to get divorced..let's hope he comes to his senses and realizes what he has...again, try counseling and ask for god's help-i hope that you marriage can be saved...