text: my 15 year old son and husband constantly fight and argue!  im in the middle!  help? my son is honor roll and a good kid just a little lippy.  husband ex military!  they r always fighting and im always in the middle!  help!!!!!!!  my son is kinda sloppy in his room!  but arent all teenagers?  never in trouble- honor roll always.  its almost like hubby looks for reasons to yell all the time!  sometimes he is right others never.  but hubby feels i should also crack the whip.  but then its like my son is being ganged up on!!  they yell atleast 5 times a day over stupid things!  like taking trash out or brushing teeth!  my hubby and i have been together 15 years.  son is almost 16.  step dad but dad at heart.  what can i do?????by bed time im never in the mood cuz of all the tention all thru the day.  i love them both soooo much and im so lost at what to do.  have talked to hubby millions of times yet we end up only arguing.  my son is a really good kid and hubby is so wonderful and gentle with me so why not with our son????  i feel so alone and frustrated! no question about it: defend your kid, tell your husband he must be mature and friendly; it's called child abuse. let the kid be, they're always like that, is in their nature to be sloppy and lazzy, and it's wonderful he has good grades. your husband is inmature, he's gonna ruin your son. if you don't believe me, ask your local social worker.