text: when sick, should spouse have to be asked to help or should he see what needs done and offer help? i was sick for about 3 days, vomiting for about 6 hrs. straight and severe stomach pain and weakness after for about 48 hrs. after. during this time my husband acted like he was mad i was sick and never offered to help with anything.  we have a 6 yr old boy of whom i continued to help the best i could.  one little task of doing the dishes, sweeping the floor or throwing in a load of laundry would have been a big help.  this is the thing:  he believes i should always ask, i say under certain circumstances he should be kind and offer, what is your opinion? sounds to me like you have a 6 year old son, and a 2 year old for a  husband. you should have asked him? please, that's the most ridiculous thing i ever heard a grown man say...and he was serious! i'm not saying you need to get a divorce because of this, but when you get to feeling better, you need to sit mr man down, and have a long, open talk with him. he had better grow up, and soon, or he is going to be alone! good luck!!