text: picking between soon to be ex husband.....or wonderful considerate boyfriend, who is soon 2 b ex's cousin???? most of my questions asked have been pertaining to this matter. (see my archive of questions) but anyway, my soon to be ex is home......our divorce hearing is in may. though i still have love/feelings for my soon to be ex, i will be there in may to end this.  as stated in the question title, while he was away, his cousin and i found ourselves enraptured with one another, and because my marriage was a horrible one, and my soon to be exhusband is not a pleasant or respectable person.........the relationship with his cousin, which started out innocently as only friends, and occasional conversation.....eventually budded into love, admiration, appreciation, etc. though now that my soon to be ex is back home, he has no idea about his cousin and i.  the first few days were rocky, but now we are able to talk, and be civil. there are still occasional arguments......but more than that is the intense physical attraction we have always shared. i have actually had 'sessions' with him twice -- all i have to say is..jerry jerry jerry....lol..j/k  i really can't say much about the cousin thing i dated a set of twins before without eachof them knowing..unfortunaltey i'm quite proud of that. but anyways, if youre husband isn't ready to commit then dont force him to..i say go ahead with the divorce men will usually change when they are threatened to be left, so your husband knows he's fixing to be (nexted) and he's going to be perfect for a while. on to the cousin, who sounds more mature than the husband, the way i see it is..they come from the same tree..maybe it will be like this for now do you really think he's going to be the same better. i would suggest finding somone of a different last name even..just look around play the fields do be traped in a one huge love triangle..good luck..