text: have i lost my virginity? i didn't have real sex with my bf, he just used his fingers. i'm not sure if i lost my virginity. i don't know how does it feel.. what i know is that it hurt a bit when he touched that one place inside me (i didn't bleed). losing your virginity is defined as penile-vaginal intercourse.  so, you're still a virgin until you do that.   now, i recommend you don't do anything else with your boyfriend since you sound too young and immature (if you have to ask, you're not ready).    wait a few years, get all the facts, and then if you're ready (and very safe), should you do the deed.