text: vietnam war questions? i am interested in experiences of vietnam war veterans.  i would very much like to understand better the emotional trauma that they went through and still struggle with.  i love a man very much who was only 18 when he went and, i believe, it is too painful for him to recount in the detail that i need.  he was a tailgunner and received two purple hearts.    i was too young at the time to have any memories from that period.  thank you for helping me out.  i want to be able to help him when those old memories come up.  could you also suggest ways in which  your wife/girlfriend could help you deal with those anniversaries? my father served in vietnam, has never talked about it and never will.  this is not uncommon for vietnam vets.  my suggestion would be not to push it.  if he wants to talk he will, otherwise just be respectful of him and honor the service that he provided to this country.  there is but one thing that sets my father off and that is the liberal a$$holes that have no respect for our country or the men that have served it.  men like kerry who spat upon them when they returned.