text: on a first date with a friend, what do i say to sweep her off her feet? we are going out to "lunch" but i really want to try to start a realationship with her. we have been friends for 3 years. i just want good things to happen. it's not much what you say as all the other "little" things you must do on the date. like being on time, maybe greeting her with a quick light peck on the cheek, pulling out her chair, open doors...you know all the "gentlemanly" things. as for conversation, keep it light, funny, interesting. and although you may want to start a relationship with her, on your first "real" date, you probably shouldn't bring that up as yet. wait until you've been on at least 3 dates, then broach the subject. by then you'll know if she's also romantically interested in you or if only as a friend.