text: need people who will be honest...? my 5 year old son has asthma.  the doctors tell me to keep him away from a smokey environement.  my in-laws chain smoke.  plus there is another chain smoker in the house.  three chain smokers.  when my son goes and visits they still smoke in front of him.  my husband and i have asked them to go outside and smoke while my son their own grandchild is over because the smoke bothers him.  they won't stop smoking while he's around. my son's doctor had personally written a letter to them asking them not to smoke around him.  i showed it to my husband and he got mad.  am i wrong in asking them to stop smoking while he's at their house?  isn't it my right, and job to protcet him?  my son tells me the smoke makes him feel sick and when i tell him he's going over there he doesn't want to.  it's causing problems for my husband and i he won't put his foot down.  my husband said he wanted other opions about how bad smoke is for children that have asthma.   isn't it pretty clear?   thank you. i am sorry for your dilemma. my son had been sick as an infant and had to use a nebulizer for awhile.  i think you cannot ask them to not smoke in their own home. you can however, not allow him to go over there. you as his mother have a responsibility to protect your child. your husband should be backing you in protecting his son. even if they quit smoking when he is there, the fact that they smoked in the room before he got there is going to affect him too.   it's affecting your child's life. how can your husband not see this?  i don't understand it. i hope he sees the light soon. your son is suffering from it.