text: i am really in love with him but i can't be with him.what should i do? i am really in love with my bf and i heard from my friends that he is goin out with a girl but he doesn't like her and they say he really loves me.i am just really confused i know that he loves me and i really love him but my friends tell me he is not a good guy.so who should i trust? when a boy is in love with a girl, he will do anything it takes to be with her. he wants to be with her as much as he can, and he wants to call her every day. your 'bf' is not doing those things. it is time for you to read the book "he's just not that into you" by greg behrendt.  once you get over the notion that he loves you, you can open yourself up to find someone who really does.