text: single mom for 12 yrs. father rarely paid c.s. now son lives with father does he still owe me back pay? my son was 12 and went to live with his father.i didnt want to let him go but i felt sorry for him because he never had his dad in his life and missed out on all the father/son stuff...i now know it was a big mistake but my son used to cry because he wanted to see his dad. for 2 years i said no. but later i was talking to his teacher about it and she said i should let him go or he would resent me later.....so to make a long story short his father rarely paid any of his child support. it didnt matter how many times my sons father stood him up or didnt send gifts he always acted like his dad hung the moon. in the end his father was owing me like 10 grand in child support. when i finally decided to let him go about a year ago i had to sign custody over to his dad. we agreed that i wouldnt pay child support since he almost never (400 bucks in 11yrs.)paid. but now 1yr later he wants child support from me-thats fine i dont mind paying. but how can i get my past due c.s. he owes me or does he if he had a court order to pay support he still owes it to you. it's going to be very hard for him to get support from him. you have to make a lot more money than he does for that to happen. i would get an attorney.. and discuss it with him.. the support covers the expenses that were involved when you had custody. i would not give him child support...let him know how it feels. if you go to court, more than likely the judge if he wants you to pay (and that's doubtful) will offset your support with what he owes you..which means if you are ordered to pay 1,000.00 per month, you would not owe for 10 months..however, talking to an attorney would be your best bet...he still owes you back support and unless you are making more than him, chances are he won't get support. good luck