text: "*mr. big*"? for those gals who've watched sex and the city, you know who i'm referring to, the older guy, who is gorgeous, funny, witty, charming, incredible in bed, but who is someone who you know doesn't want the same things as you.  my guy is 10 years older then me and we've been on again off again for 4 years, and i love him with all my heart, and i know he loves me, but he and i know that he's not the "marrying type" and i'm not sure if i am. but sometimes i just want to let him go.  i wonder, why can't i just accept that he and i arent going to be together? why can't i just let go? at the end of sex and the city, carrie realizes that she just needed to wait for mr. big to be ready and her problems were just that, hers. she also realized that waiting is part of growing up and she wasn't ready even when she thought she was.