text: why is that the one you love does not love you and the one that loves you is the one you don't care for?   people throw the word "love" around too loosely.  no one can love a person whom they do not know.  that is lust, not love.  if people would drop petty criteria such as height, weight, skin, hair and eye color, dress, flash and bling and look at how the object of their interest is treating them and others around them, they would experience true and lasting love.  when one knows the value and rarity of real love and appreciates it, then love can be returned to the one who deserves it.  one cannot receive or give what he or she cannot recognize and identify.