text: why do we have to lie/deceive in order to be with someone? seems like everyone wants complete commitment, but fail to be honest, i wouldn't mind dating, but honesty needs to be in place from the get go.  seems like people just want marriage and they fail to get to know someone either because they were lied to, or because both were quick to jump in the sack, what i would give for a cute woman that wouldnt let me take her to bed the first night and had a heart amen brother and marriage fails today cause there is no commitment at all. you can see it on answers , every ones answer to even the most minor problems are just get a divorce , very very sad