text: i need to know if you think this was the right thing to do? my son's girlfriend lives with us so she can go to this school system, which i agreed to.  last night my son came and told me her mother wanted me to take her to the doctor, so once again i agreed.  the girl is supposed to be on medicaid.  well, the mother sent us up there knowing that her insurance was no good yet and of course they wouldn't see her, just told her to come back when medicaid got straightened out, and to have her medicine renewed until then.  well, we called her mom to see what she wanted me to do about this, things just kept rocking on so i told her i would take care of it.  well, when we got in the store she called me back and told me she was coming to get her daughter if i had a problem with her.  i just told her she needn't be so b***** about this and to do what she had to do and hung up on her.  now she called my son and told him she was coming to get her daughter.  should i apologize to keep her from hurting him?  personally, i could care less what the woman does. if the medication was for birth control(forgive me for thinking this, it is a suspecious world), your son should be responsible. if not, it is up to her parents to take care of her medical expenses, sounds like she is attempting to suck you blind. don't let her. sounds like the mother has issues. why is she on welfare insurance, does she work? doesn't she sound like an honorable, full fledged co-dependent? don't get me started on this type of personality.  please help the girl as much as you can and give her as much love and support that you can give her. she has gone through situations like this all of her life; she must be humilated. your poor son is included in the problem. those poor children need you to be the adult and do what you know is right. why not sit down with the kids and ask them how they feel. after listening to the two of them, the answer will come. you do not have to ask them what to do because the answerw will come to you. even if the answer seems unjusst to you, maybe you will have to ear crow. you are such an honest person, you will know the will of god. now, back to the sibling thing. i had four sisterss and one brother who i grew up with. about three years ago, i quit trying to please them. i call them on birthdays and they call about family dinners. that is about it. thank god.  i no longer have the burden of attempting to please my siblings. three years ago, i told my oldest sister the truth about everything in our lives. she, threw a fit as usual and attempted to start a fued again with the siblings. that time, i did wipe my feet of her and her bulling. she would not let me visit her on her death bed a year later. as cold as it sounds, i did not morn her death. to me, she died at the time of our last conversation-fight.  to be honest, we probably all felt bullied by her, she was an athusist, alcoholic(recovering),and disloved everyone. the list of her problem go on and on. the fact that god allowed me to finally stand up to her and he did not take her without me setting things straight with her. i never stood up for myself and i am so thankful that i was given permission to do so. thanks for listening. it is over and done, but the bruses will always be there. darn!!!!! talk later mary