Just get a vape you like and make sure it’s a brand that lets you choose nicotine levels down to zero! I smoked for 19 years! Quit by weaning the levels down, to the point of finding cigs disgusting (mostly the smell) but since I’m like you (all of the above plus a few) I battled with the muscle memory addictions, so I had to replace the vape pen with other things forcibly at first, then eventually quit each habit individually.