Ngiyiqeqesha kanjani inja yami ukuba ingachami endlini?
Izinja zenza kahle kakhulu uma zihlala zihleliwe. Isimiso sibafundisa ukuthi kunezikhathi zokudla, izikhathi zokudlala nezikhathi zokwenza umsebenzi wabo. Ngokuvamile, umdlwane ungakwazi ukulawula umchamo wawo ihora elilodwa ngenyanga ngayinye yobudala. Ngakho uma umdlwane wakho unezinyanga ezimbili ubudala, bangayibamba cishe amahora amabili. Ungahambi isikhathi eside kunalokhu phakathi kokuphumula okuya endlini yangasese noma kungenzeka babe nengozi.  Thatha umdlwane wakho uphume endlini kaningi - okungenani njalo ngemva kwamahora amabili - futhi ngokushesha ngemva kokuvuka, ngesikhathi sokudlala nangemva kokudlala, nangemva kokudla noma ukuphuza.  Khetha indawo yangasese ngaphandle, futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi uhambe nenja yakho (ngebhande) uye kuleyo ndawo. Lapho umdlwane wakho uzikhulula, sebenzisa igama noma inkulumo ethile ongase ukwazi ukuyisebenzisa ekugcineni ngaphambi kokuba uhambe ukuze umkhumbuze lokho okumelwe akwenze. Zithathele uhambo olude noma udlale nazo kuphela ngemva kokuba seziqedile.  Mnikeze umvuzo njalo lapho elahla ngaphandle. Ncoma noma unikeze iziphuzo kodwa khumbula ukukwenza ngokushesha ngemva kokuba beqedile, hhayi ngemva kokuba sebebuyele endlini. Lesi sinyathelo sibalulekile, ngoba ukuvuza inja yakho ngokuya ngaphandle kuwukuphela kwendlela yokuyifundisa lokho okulindelekile kuyo. Ngaphambi kokunikeza umklomelo, qiniseka ukuthi sebeqedile. Izinjana ziphazanyiswa kalula futhi uma uzincoma ngokushesha, zingase zikhohlwe ukuqeda zize zibuyele endlini.  Faka umdlwane wakho esimisweni sokudla njalo. Lokho okungena emdlwaneni ohambisana nesimiso kuphuma emdlwaneni ohambisana nesimiso. Kuye ngeminyaka yazo, izinyane lingase lidinge ukondliwa kabili noma kathathu ngosuku. Ukondla umdlwane wakho ngezikhathi ezifanayo usuku ngalunye kuyokwenza kube nokwenzeka ngokwengeziwe ukuba nawo akhiphe umchamo ngezikhathi ezifanayo, okwenza ukuqeqeshwa kwasekhaya kube lula kini nobabili.  Phakamisa isitsha samanzi senja yakho cishe amahora amabili nesigamu ngaphambi kokulala ukuze unciphise amathuba okuba idinge ukuzikhulula ebusuku. Iningi lemidlwane lingalala cishe amahora ayisikhombisa ngaphandle kokudinga ikhefu lokuyogeza. Uma umdlwane wakho ukuvusa ebusuku, ungakwenzi kube indaba enkulu; kungenjalo, uyocabanga ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokudlala futhi ngeke afune ukubuyela ebuthongweni. Vula izibani ezimbalwa ngangokunokwenzeka, ungakhulumi noma udlale nenja yakho, uyikhiphe uyise endaweni lapho izithola ikhululekile khona bese uyibuyisela embhedeni.