Ingabe ukungabi nabantwana ngokuzithandela kuyanda? Uma kunjalo, ziyini izimbangela eziyinhloko? Ungaba yini umphumela?
Ukuphila okusheshayo nokutholakala kalula kwezindlela zokuvimbela inzalo eziphumelelayo kuye kwandisa inani lemibhangqwana ekhetha ukuphila ngaphandle kwezingane. Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani ukungabi nabantwana kuyathandwa. Isinqumo sokuba nomntwana sihambisana nemithwalo yemfanelo futhi imibhangqwana eminingi ayifuni ukusamukela. Eminye imibhangqwana iyakugwema ukuba nezingane ngenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho kwayo kwangesikhathi esidlule emndenini noma ngoba nje ukungabi nabantwana kuvula amathuba amasha okuhlola nokwenza ezinye izinto ezibalulekile ekuphileni. Ukungafuni ukuthwala umthwalo wezimali wokukhulisa umntwana kungesinye isizathu esenza abanye abashadikazi bayigweme leyonto.  Noma kunjalo, ukuthambekela kubonisa ukwanda kokuwohloka kobudlelwane babantu. Kuvimbela ukugcwala kwabantu ngokweqile futhi kuthinta ngokungaqondile izehlakalo ezinjengokudodobala komnotho, ukwehla kwamandla emali, ukufudumala kwembulunga yonke njll. Futhi ezweni eligxile kubathengi ukuzwakala kwalokhu kuthambekela akunakushaywa indiva emnothweni womhlaba.