Indodakazi yami eneminyaka engu-12 ubudala iyangibuza: "Kungani ngingakwazi ukuba nomakhalekhukhwini wami? Wonke umuntu ekilasini lami unalo. Ngaphandle komakhalekhukhwini, angikwazi ukuba umngane wabo, futhi angikwazi ukuhlanganyela ezingxoxweni zabo. Ngizizwa nginesizungu futhi ngidabukile". Ngingayiphendula kanjani indodakazi yami ngendlela efanele? Ingabe kufanele ngimnike ucingo noma cha?
Ndodakazi ethandekayo, ngiyayiqonda ngempela indlela ozizwa ngayo, futhi angifuni ukuba uhlale uzizwa kabi esikoleni. Ngizimisele ukukunika noma yini engingakwazi ukuyikhokhela ngendlela enengqondo ekwenza ujabule. Nokho, ngikhathazekile ngokuthi ukukunika umakhalekhukhwini kungase kukulimaze esikhundleni sokukwenza ujabule. Ungakwazi yini ukubhekana nokukhathazeka kwami futhi ungenze ngizizwe ngiphephile ukuze ngikunike umakhalekhukhwini? Nakhu okunye engikukhathazayo: 1. Izinkomo Ukusebenzisa umakhalekhukhwini ngokweqile kungalimaza amehlo akho. Ikakhulukazi intsha, enamehlo asakhulayo, kulula kakhulu ukuba nombono oseduze ngokushesha. 2. Izingelosi Ukusebenzisa umakhalekhukhwini ngokweqile kungadla isikhathi sakho esiningi, futhi ungachitha isikhathi esincane ufunda izincwadi, wenza izivivinyo, udlala ngaphandle, ukhuluma nabantu, okulimaza ukuthuthuka kwakho konke. Abantu abadala abanjengami base befunde izincwadi eziningi, benza izivivinyo eziningi, futhi bakhuluma nabantu abaningi lapho ngisemusha, ngakho ngase ngiwatholile kakade lawo makhono. 3. Izindaba Ezinhle Ukusebenzisa umakhalekhukhwini ngokweqile kungakwenza uzizwe unenkinga yokugxila entweni eyodwa. Ulwazi oluhlakazekile lwaluyokushukumisa ukunaka kwakho, futhi lukwenze uzizwe ujabule ngokuqukethwe okucashile, futhi ungacabangi ngokujulile. 4. Izidakamizwa Kungenzeka ukuthi ngephutha ulahlekelwe umakhalekhukhwini wakho, futhi uyozizwa udabukile ngakho. Ngokuvamile intsha ithambekele kakhulu ekulahlekelweni izinto kunabantu abadala ngokuvamile.