Cabanga ngomhlaba lapho okulindelekile kokuphila kunqunyiwe futhi kufana kuwo wonke umuntu lapho ezalwa, kodwa abantu bengahlanganyela "ekunikeleni" okulindelekile kokuphila - okusho ukuthi othile angangezelela ukuphila kwakho ngeminyaka emithathu ngokulahlekelwa okwabo. Khuluma ngesimo esingase senzeke kuleli zwe esihilela umnikelo wokuzithandela.
Omunye umnikelo wokuzithandela uhilela abanikeli nabathandekayo babo. Ngokwesibonelo, izingane ezifisa ukuba nesikhathi esengeziwe nabazali bazo zingase zenze abazali bazo baphile isikhathi eside kunezazo. Kubantu abashadile abanothando abazalwa ngezikhathi ezingafani, lowo owazalwa kamuva wayengandisa ukuphila komngane wabo womshado ukuze bashone ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngaphandle kokuzwa ubuhlungu bokulahlekelwa uthando lwabo. Uma izilwane ezifuywayo nazo zinokulindelwa kokuphila okulinganiselwe okufushane kunokwabantu, abanikazi bezilwane ezifuywayo nabo bangenza umnikelo onjalo ngokuzithandela.