Ingabe ukuncintisana kunempilo?
Umncintiswano ugcwele yonke indawo emphakathini wethu. Naphezu kokubangela abantu abaningi ukuba bazizwe becindezelekile noma becindezelekile, ukuncintisana kunenzuzo ekuzivivinyeni, kodwa kumelwe kusetshenziswe ngendlela efanele. Ezemidlalo ziyindawo evamile yokuncintisana. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuncintisana nomunye umuntu, elinye iqembu, noma ukuncintisana nesikhathi, ezemidlalo zishukumisela abantu ukuba basebenze kanzima, basheshe, futhi babe namandla. Lo mncintiswano wezemidlalo muhle, ngoba uzuzisa izinhlangothi zombili. Bobabili futhi bonke abadlali babhekene nenselele ngokomzimba, futhi lokho kufundiswa kokubili ukubaluleka futhi, uma bephumelela, imivuzo yokusebenza kanzima. Ukuncintisana kwezemidlalo kulindeleke, Nokho, ukusetshenziswa kabi kokuncintisana sekuvamile ezifundweni. Nakuba emidlalweni kulindeleke ukuba kube nokuncintisana, kwezemfundo kulindeleke ukuba kucatshangwe kakhudlwana. Ukuncintisana phakathi kwabafundi ukuthola amamaki aphakeme kakhulu kungaba kuhle, njengoba bobabili beyofuna ukuphikisana, kodwa ngokuvamile kwenza abanye abafundi bazizwe bephansi futhi bengelutho. Amamaki ikakhulukazi ayindlela yokulinganisa ukuzazi nokusebenza kanzima futhi akufanele asetshenziselwe ukuqhathanisa umfundi nomunye. Yilapha lapho ukuncintisana kuvame ukusetshenziswa kabi futhi izinhloso zako zingaqondwa kahle. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuncintisana okungafanele kubangelwa ukucindezela kontanga, abazali, futhi ngezinye izikhathi othisha. Isibonelo esivamile umncintiswano phakathi kwezelamani okhuthazwa abazali: ukuqhathanisa ukubukeka kwezingane, amakhono ezifundo, ezemidlalo, nokuqaphela komphakathi. Lolu hlobo lokuncintisana okunonya cishe ludala ukukhathazeka, ukungazethembi, nokucindezeleka kubo bobabili abafowabo nodadewabo, okwembula mhlawumbe isimo esibaluleke kunazo zonke sokuncintisana okunempilo: kumelwe kuvele kuwe ngokwakho. Cishe konke okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle ngokuncintisana kuvela emphakathini osizungezile, okuholela abaningi ekubeni bakholelwe ukuthi into efanele ukuyenza ukuqhathanisa abafundi, izingane zakubo, abasebenzi, nokunye. Kodwa injongo yangempela yomncintiswano iwukuzikhuthaza ukuba usebenze kanzima futhi uhlangabezane nezinselele ezintsha. Ukuncintisana "ngokucindezelwa" akuvumeli umuntu ukuba alawule imigomo yakhe. Yingakho uKohn azizwa "ebambeke emgqeni wokugijima", lapho eqhathaniswa nabanye. Umncintiswano uvela ngaphakathi futhi ushukumisela umuntu ukuba abeke, asebenzele, futhi afinyelele imigomo emisha. Ukuze kuvinjelwe ukuncintisana okungenampilo, abantu kufanele bazame ukukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo ngemigomo yabo nangalokho abakulindele kubo ngokwabo. Yiqiniso, ukukhuthazwa kuhle ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngakho ukuveza izifiso zakho kubalulekile. Uma abazali, othisha, noma abaphathi bazi ukuthi yini oyilindele kuwe, bangakukhuthaza kangcono, bakusekele, futhi bakuphonse inselele.