Ingabe indoda kufanele ishade isencane, noma kufanele ilinde ize ikhule?
Okubaluleke kakhulu, umuntu kufanele ashade lapho ethola umuntu ofanelekayo. Kodwa uma ucabanga ukuthi umuntu usemtholile umuntu ofanelekayo, kunezinzuzo nokungalungi okuhambisanayo kokushada usemncane noma usukhulile. Amadoda anenzuzo yokungadingeki akhathazeke 'ngehora elingokwemvelo' - ngokungafani nabesifazane, iminyaka yawo yokuzala ingase iqhubeke kuze kube sekwephuze kakhulu, kuyilapho abesifazane ngokuvamile belahlekelwa ikhono lokuzala uma sebefinyelele eminyakeni engaba ngu-40. Inzuzo yokuba nabantwana usemncane iwukuthi indoda iyoba namandla amaningi futhi ibe nekhono elingokwenyama ukuze ikwazi ukuhlanganyela emisebenzini engokwenyama nezingane zayo, njengokukhempisha, ukuhamba ngebhayisikili, ukuhamba ngezinyawo, ezemidlalo, ukushushuluza eqhweni, njll. Ukugoba ukuze ushintshe ama-diaper ngeke kube buhlungu kangako emhlane nasemadolweni. Njengendoda encane, ukuhamba nezingane kungase kungabi nzima kangako. Njengendoda esikhulile, umuntu angase abe nesikhathi esengeziwe noma isikhathi sokuzinqumela asichitha nezingane zakhe. Indoda esikhulile ingase futhi ibe nemithombo engokwezimali eyengeziwe ukuze isize ekukhuliseni izingane kalula. Ngokwesibonelo, indoda esikhulile ingase ibe nomuzi omkhulu, noma ikwazi kangcono ukukhokhela ukunakekelwa kwabantwana ekhaya. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunezifundo ezibonisa ukuthi ukuba nobaba osekhulile kungandisa amathuba okuba ingane ibe ne-autism noma i-attention deficit disorder. Ngokwezinganekwane, kubonakala sengathi abantu abashada besebancane basengozini enkulu yokuhlukanisa. Kodwa mhlawumbe ukuba nemishado emibili, owokuqala usemusha futhi owesibili usukhulile, akuyona into embi. Amadoda anenzuzo yokukwazi ukuba amadlozi amaqembu amabili ezingane ngezikhathi ezihlukene ekuphileni kwawo, okwenza lokhu kwenzeke. Kodwa ekugcineni isinqumo kufanele sisekelwe ekutheni usuhlangane yini noma cha nomuntu omaziyo ngaphandle kokungabaza ofuna ukuchitha ukuphila kwakho konke naye. Uma usumtholile lowo muntu, kufanele uhlale naye.