<s>[INST] my boyfriend suffers from mysophobia and adhd. How can I cope in a relationship with almost no intimacy and his childish adhd behaviors. I am bi polar and he is very good with handling my anxieties, but i cant help but feel like his mother sometimes [/INST] i can understand your problem.his condition will improve with his age. you can go for couple therapy counselling sessions to a psychologist.it will help  a lot. Communicate with him, what you want for him how should he behave etc.with time his condition will improve. I know it is difficult to handle a person having ADHD but with few adjustments and counselling, one can have very good relationship.hope my answer is helpful to you.take care. </s>