<s>[INST] Hi, I am a 30 year old male, married for the last one year. We got married in February 2014 and because of job, we used to stay in different locations for the first 6 months. From last September we have been staying together. My wife is a good looking, well educated, smart girl and I adore my wife a lot and take care of her really well. Unfortunately I do not feel any sexual attraction towards my wife. Frequency of sexual intercourse is as low as once in a month and in any of those sessions I had, I was never able ejaculate. Below are few facts which may help you understand my problem: I used to masturbate once/twice every day before we started staying together. Now also, I continue doing the same, but not that frequently. I am able to ejaculate whenever I masturbate. My style of masturbation is quite different than the too and fro action that happens in normal sexual intercourse. I used to watch a lot of porn earlier which I have almost stopped in recent past. I have paid for sex in the past before marriage. I feel sexually attracted towards other girls. And sometimes I feel like having sex outside, though I have not done that. I do not have any extramarital affair. My testosterone level is normal. I used to be underweight 2 years back. I have gained almost 25 Kg in the past 1.5 years. Currently I weigh 75Kg and my height in 167cm. Almost every day I wake up sleepy and unfresh. I work in branding job and my wife is a banker. Everything is great in our relationship apart from this. This issue is putting a lot of stress on us (mainly on her). She is going into depression which is hurting me a lot. I want this married life to continue really well. Please Help. [/INST] Hello,  Welcome to icliniq.com. I understand your concern, both of you need to do a few things, especially you. Try these methods and I am sure you will be able to improve. Revert back to a sexologist online after a month for follow up --> </s>