trapped in a house with my brother which i can not afford to get out of.
hi there
user
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Hello! what seems to be bothering you today?
assistant
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currently, i am living in a house with my brother, which i co own and can not afford to move out.
user
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Is living with your brother a bad thing? What specifically is making you upset?
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yes it is. he acts like a azz most of the time. he dosent care about anyone but himself. just like his fiancé. he throws away the bills and expects me to pay to keep the utilities on when they are about to be disconnected. then tells me i dont contribute to the house.
user
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It seems like he would be a very difficult person to live with. And that is hard for you obviously. I'm thinking your upset because you can't leave so you're stuck. Is that correct?
assistant
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yes, felling very stuck.
user
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It's completely normal to feel that way. I'm sure you're handling the situation as best as you can. What have you done to try and help the situation?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance,Question
trying to, looking for every way possible to make money and save it up and move out. really dont want to have to partition the property as its the house we grew up in.
user
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I would feel the same way if that's a house I grew up in. I'm so sorry!
assistant
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i tried to talk to him, in his mind its all my fault he cant pay the bills he had before i moved in. i had been living in california for the last few years, but came back with corona virus on the rise there.
user
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If he's in a certain mindset, it would be hard to change that. Do you have people to talk to about this? It sounds like a lot to handle.
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right? and his fiancé is the same way, they are both alcoholics and spend most of their income on their habits. its all i can do right now to keep food in the house, let alone running water.
user
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I think it would be good for you to talk to someone and get help. Right now, all you can do is keep chugging along and trying your best to stay afloat.
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Providing Suggestions,Others
i have a couple of friends that i have talked to about it, but it just seems like i am screaming at a brick wall and nothing changes.
user
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I would suggest talking to a therapist if your insurance can handle that! Talking with them can help you figure out what you should do.
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Information
honestly, i think its him that needs the therapist. he is clearly bi polar like my father was, and dosent want to admit to it. several people have tried to talk to him about it but he just denies it and goes to the other room. i know what a the therapist will tell me, that i need to either resolve the conflict or try and move out, hard to do with the epidemic going on and a lack of funds to do it. is it normal to always feel helpless? cause thats how its been. either rip everything to shreds or do nothing.
user
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Yes it is. Especially now. I just want to encourage to keep pushing. Think about yourself in a year or two from now. Do everything you can right now to get out of the situation. If it gets really bad, don't be afraid to call out for help (like the police). Stay safe and do what's best for you. You've got this!
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police are a very bad idea where i live. they will not prosecute family violence without also prosecuting me. i live in texas, if i press charges, the state will press charges against me. i have several scars from incidents where they told me as such. its really a loosing battle where the law is concerned here.
user
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oh wow that's terrible. that must be so stressful for you
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thank you for listening tho. it is nice to talk to someone outside of my normal circle about these things. :)
user
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yes of course! I hope everything works out in the end. You'll be in my thoughts :)
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thank you. i apprecieate it.
user
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Please remember to end the conversation.
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