My friend is a good friend of mine but he is not a suitor as in I would not want to marry or date him but my fiance still gets bothered by me talking to him. I don't talk to him anymore but can't see why he still considers it microcheating even if I don't talk about our relationship.
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Hi there, how are we doing today?
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Okay how are you?
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Im doing great thanks. Anything on your mind today?
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Just pondering microcheating and wondering why someone who I do not like that way would be considered microcheating
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And what do you mean by microcheating?
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It is a new thing like having a man you like that you check up on on social media even though you are in a relationship, or eating lunch with the same woman or man that you like but you don't act on because you are married.
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Oh i see, well i think overthinking things like that can lead to unwanted emotions. Or putting yourself in a situation with another person when you are in a relationship might mean there are other issues going on.
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Yes i see that. No nothing else going on just thinking that the definition maybe shouldn't be as exact for the type of person that I do not talk to because of his reservations about it.
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Well, if you are not talking to them then i see no harm. If you are talking to them with some sort of intention to for a relationship beyond friendship then i see issues arising.
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That is what I feel. I am not talking to him. I had to the other day to get in contact with someone(medical emergency) but do not call just to chat and catch up. I even unfriended him. I just want to comfort him over it but I think it is best just to never speak of him again. Comfort my fiance
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To never speak to your fiance? If you want to continue your relationship and you do not feel you can continue a platonic relationship with this other person then that might be best.
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No I am ending my friendship with him. That is what is best.
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I think it might be as well if you cannot control it. I do have to ask though, are you happy with your Fiance?
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Yes very.
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Then i 100% back you on your decision. Id take this time to focus on you too. Strengthen the bond a bit.
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Yes, I think that would be best. I thank you for your time.
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I thank you for opening up!
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It is okay see talking about this is actually microcheating. So now I am worried about that.
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I really wouldnt even consider it cheating to have feelings. Acting on them or trying to strengthen them may be though.
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Yes that is true. My fiance is over seas for work for the next 13 mos so I am here in the states alone. We get to talk but he isnt here with me so having no one to talk to is lonely. That is why I brought it up.
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I see that, have you tried to talk to your friends about this issue? Or even try a therapist? Maybe you and your Fiance can figure out more times to talk with facetime or zoom. Do a virtual date night.
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Yes I don't have any friend that arent men so I think therapy is going to help. I don't talk to anyone anymore. But I thank you for your time. I just wanted to clarify why I brought it up. I hope you have a good day.
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I hope you do as well!
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