I think he might want me back. He wants me to work with him on the board.
they were very honest
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Not knowing when it would finish
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Hello there, how are you feeling?
assistant
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im good. how are you? just dealing with this guy
user
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So, you are having trouble dealing with someone?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
yes and no. i agreed to work with him on the board when he asked me. he said he trusts me
user
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If he says he trusts you I am sure that he does. He would not have asked you to work with him if he did not.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
very true. not sure if he just likes me as as friend or if he wants me back. we dated then he broke up. then he asked me out again and didn't see me cuz he was busy. now he's asking me to be on the board with him. not sure if he has other motives to try to get back with me
user
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That must be incredibly confusing for you. How does this make you feel overall?
assistant
Reflection of feelings
confused! i'll know sooner or later what he wants. thing is i was hanging out with his friends recently who had wanted to sleep with me. he knew it and didn't like it. he liked it when i stopped talking to them
user
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How does this relate to him asking you to be on the board with him?
assistant
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cuz the first time he asked me out i was helping him with the board. i think it might be a way for him to spend time with me and then work his way back in. not sure if he will or not though. time will tell
user
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It is okay to feel confused and perhaps even angry about this. Have you considered talking to him and asking him straight out what his intentions are?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
yes but i'm afraid what i'll hear
user
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I realise that this must be difficult but isn't it best to get things out into the open?
assistant
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it is but hes already hurt me before. i feel i'll find out sooner or later anyways. that way i can save face
user
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I think it might be best for you to make a clean break. It sounds like you are being manipulated.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
possibly. i'd prob be better being away from the situation
user
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Certainly you would be. I know that it is hard but you will feel better in the long run.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I think I would. I tried to break away once but they asked me to come back i feel there are benefits to it also
user
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You need to be aware that that can and will happen. Ignore it. What sort of benefits do you feel that there are?
assistant
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it gives me an upper edge and more clout
user
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In what way does it do that?
assistant
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being on the board gives me perks
user
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Do you feel that perhaps you might be using him just a little bit?
assistant
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yes and i think he is using me to a degree also
user
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Let me get this straight - you do have feelings for him but you are confused and you think that there's an element of mutual manipulation.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
yes
user
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You are definitely not the only person to feel this way!
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
it's a difficult situation. i think it will become clearer the deeper i get into it. thing is he is the head of the board and holds the power. what it comes down to is im wondering if he has feelings for me
user
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I feel that you are paying too much attention to your position on the board.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
i feel it gives me an advantage i want at the moment.
user
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But that is rather manipulative of you.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
if you were me you would forget about him and the board
user
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Yes I definitely would do that.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
thing is he is encouraging me to be like that. cuz it helps him too okay. i'll try to lay low and walk away from it
user
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I think it's time for a clear severance. Do you have any other people you are interested in? Any hobbies?
assistant
Others
yes but it's less than before cuz of Covid lockdowns. so it makes me more susceptible to this- if that makes sense
user
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Ah I hear you. You feel that your options are rather more limited than previously because of the lockdown?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
yes
user
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That is something I believe that most of us are feeling right now so I sympathise.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
true. i just have to be strong about it with him. even if he likes me i don't think it's a healthy relationship i slept with one of his friends and the other one wanted to sleep with me too
user
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I can tell that you really have deep reservations and know deep down that this is not a healthy place for you to be Is he aware that this happened?
assistant
Reflection of feelings,Question
yes when it comes down to it he suspected it happened his friend asked the one i slept with if it was true. he denied it. so i think he suspected it
user
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Do you feel guilty about this?
assistant
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now that im talking to him i do a little. it felt good at the time like i was getting back at him you can tell this is a very twisted situation
user
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Do you feel that you want to get revenge on him?
assistant
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not really. i just felt that if he stayed with me i wouldn't have slept with his friend and almost did with his other one
user
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I am not sure what to say that will help your problem and give you closure.
assistant
Others
thank ya for listening. i think it'll clarify itself in time
user
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