A person I was dating broke up with me in a terrible manner.
Not really. It was kind of fun.
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My boyfriend broke up with me.
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Hello there, how are you?
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I'm very upset. He yelled and yelled at me.
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Your relationship has ended? I am very sorry about that. And your boyfriend ended it? That was really wrong of him if you ask me. I think you might be better off without him.
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Yes, after seeing him act this way I agree He said I was worthless.
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I have been in this position myself and I know how painful it is but it turned out for the best for me - I now have a great relationship!
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Well that's good for you, but I'm so mad right now I can't see straight!
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Noone has the right to put you down like that. You really are better off without him.
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I know. I do deserve better. But I was with him a very long time.
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Can you think of something to do that will take your mind off him? How long were the two of you together?
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More than a year, but I've known him since childhood. That's what makes me so mad!
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He should not be treating you that way when you've known one another so long!
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All those years of friendship down the drain. Should I call him?
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I think that you should call one of your girlfriends and suggest you have a movie night. It would make you feel better
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But all of my friends are still friends with him! And they took his side!
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Oh that is rough. That happened to me too when I broke up with my ex.
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How did you get through it?
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They all took his side? Not one took yours?
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Not one!
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I tried to find some new interests. One thing I did was take a salsa class .. that was a great way to meet new people
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I'm not much of a dancer, but that might be a way to meet new people.
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There are lots of other things you could do. Maybe you could take an evening class in something that interests you?
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He's a teacher, so taking a class might remind me of him.
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I think also you need to think a bit more highly of yourself and not let idiots like this treat you so badly
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But maybe I deserved it.
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he seems to have damaged your self esteem badly
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Yes, he did.
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No you did not! Please don't think like that
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I'm just so angry that I could break something. And maybe I will do that!
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I think that that is a normal reaction to feeling ill treated. I hope that it will pass soon and am sure that it will. There are a lot of therapy groups available that might be able to help you through this
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But what if it doesn't pass? And I cannot afford therapy.
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I think you really need to take it one day at a time. Things are very raw for you right now There are some organisations that will offer a certain number of sessions for free
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I don't know if I could do that. I don't like talking about my problems with strangers.
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And yet here we are :P. Therapy can be surprisingly beneficial, I have found. I do realise that it can be hard to open up to how we are feeling though. I know that I was
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Do you have any suggestions about how to open up to people I don't know?
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I think that is useful to remember that we are all human and that most people have been hurt in this way at some point. No-one will be judging you
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That's what I am afraid of. Being judged by people.
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Do you think that this might partly because your ex has eroded your self esteem?
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Probably. He called me a lot of names.
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The important thing is to gradually rebuild your self esteem. Do you have any things that you excel at?
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I'm good at bowling. And I like riding horses.
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Animals are a wonderful source of comfort when we are feeling very low! Could you join a riding club to make some new friends?
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Maybe I will do that. Horses are so cool.
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I can feel that you are starting to make progress already and are thinking of things that you can do post break up
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Reflection of feelings
I sure am. Thanks for your help.
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You are most welcome. Is there anything else you would like to talk to me about?
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I don't think so...
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Well, I wish you all the very best for the future. I know that things seem terrible right now but please believe me they will get better
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Thanks! Have a good day.
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