I am having worries about an old test I failed in university. It didn't affect my academic future and I passed the class with an A, but it still haunts me.
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Hi, how's things?
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Things are ok I am just having issues with the problem above
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I am afraid that I am not able to see that .. can you tell me about it?
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Yes, so I have always done very well in school and university. I have always had A's or high B's. Last semester in university, I failed one of my exams. I still passed the class with an A, but for some reason, that exam haunts me and gives me bad dreams. I don't know why it happens and it worries me
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I can understand that - when I was sitting my final exams I constantly had nightmares about failing. Nearly thirty years on and I still do!! But - you did really very well and you passed with an A. Do you think maybe you are being a little too hard on yourself?
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Maybe, I got a 46% on the exam (so an F) but I did all my other assignments and exams almost perfect and got an A overall. I never once failed a test in my life, and have always held myself to a very high academic degree to make my parents proud I come from a poor family, so succeeding in life is very important to m,e me*
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It sounds as though you feel that academic success is the most important thing in your life, would I be right in thinking this?
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Yes you are correct
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Have you considered talking to anyone about these feelings of perfectionism? A therapist perhaps? There is a good deal of useful help and information out there for people who are struggling.
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I have not, actually. I don't think my family can afford a therapist, especially with the pandemic raging right now Where do you recommend going?
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Does your school have any counsellors offering help for free? Many do. I believe that there are some charities that will offer a certain number of free therapy sessions too
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I don't think any are available since my school is online only, also the campus i s completely closed due to Winter Break. Oh? Charities?
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Yes I think so though I am not totally sure. There should be someone at your school, online or not, who can advise you.
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I have never heard of such people, I am interested
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Really though I think that your problem is self esteem .. you should think better of yourself :) I can tell that you set yourself a very high standard but I also think that you need to be kind to yourself.
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I think you're right, but I don't know, I'm still scared about having the bad dreams. I often wake up 2-3 times at night because of them.
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I can understand that - this has been happening to me all of my life. Have you tried to take anything to help? I can recommend a hot milky drink before bed and perhaps a hot water bottle. Anyway I hope that I have been able to be of some assistance to you! Have a lovely holiday season.
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Thank you, I'll try to do just that. Merry Christmas to you
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