Cheated on my girlfriend and she's found out and gone of with another man. I'm absolutely distraught.
No I was matched quickly
Hello!
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hi
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How are you doing?
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Well I'm distraught
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Why do you feel that way?
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Because my girlfriend has left me
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That must be really hard for you. I haven't personally had to deal with that, but I have had friends that have. How long were you together?
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four years
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Being together that long must have made that break up difficult. How are you coping with it?
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well I'm not really, especially as she'd gone off with someone else. But I'm to blame which makes it worse
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You do seem upset so that shows that you care! Do you mind me asking what happened?
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I cheated on her on a drunken night. It was a one-off and I regret it terribly. But she found out about it and left me without giving me a chance to explain.
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I see how she would be upset. It must be difficult for you though because she didn't give you another chance. Do you have someone to talk to about your feelings?
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yeah, I'm not saying I deserved it just wish she had But no, not really. No-one who would understand
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I would have wanted a second chance too if I were in your shoes. Is this affecting you really bad?
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Yeah I feel so low
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If your mood is affecting your daily activities, normally that means your mental health has been affected. You could always talk to a professional if it's hard for you.
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it's difficult though, to open up
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It is. But trust me, it really helps. I've been seeing a therapist recently actually and I love it. I don't have to worry about judgement at all. It's a hard step but worth it in the end.
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They won't think I'm to blame?
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The job of the therapist isn't to figure out if what you did was wrong or right. It's to help you understand your feelings and better cope. That's why they are so great!
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oh yeah, that's a good point
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Would you like to talk anything else through?
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No you've been helpful thanks
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no problem! I hope that everything works out for you.
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thanks x
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I think you're supposed to end the conversation btw. Have a great day!
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oh, am I thanks! (It says I can't until I've chatted for 15 minutes) But you helped with my problem promptly
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Ok! then we can just wait for the 15 minute mark. Do you know when that will be?
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