My set of friends with include 6 close women are falling apart because of not communicating often and not being physically close to one another. It is really weird how being apart from one another can really change strong relationships. I am still close with everyone but I can not say the same about everyone else. We have all known each other for 25 years and it makes me sad and anxious that when we come out corona it won't
be the same. Specifically, two of my besties are arguing with each other over a piece of sensitive gossip that was shared outside our group. Someone feels betrayed and I want to help them both without taking sides.
no
no
I didn't realized the peer supporter doesn't get the problem that the support seeker wrote out.
It might be helpful if the support seeker knew we don't get that, but maybe that would interfer with your study.
Hello! How are you today?
user
null
Hello, what seems to be on your mind?
assistant
Question
Friends and our relationships amongst one another. Two are arguing and I want to help both. We only can facetime each other because of Corona and it is taking a toll among our group.
user
null
I see. How long have your two friends been arguing?
assistant
Question
It has been around 4 months now. It started slowly and now has ramped up to where it's exploding and causing discourse among us all. One of my friends told a secret to another acquaintance outside of our group. My friend is raging over this which she should. trust was broken.
user
null,null
It sounds like tempers are all running pretty hot for everyone right now, is that correct?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
I believe in forgiveness, and the friend that told is very remorseful How do I help them?
user
null
Well, it sounds like you are in a tough spot since both your friends are so mad at each other. Why do you think your one friends shared a secret they were supposed to keep?
assistant
Reflection of feelings,Question
The acquaintance knew something of the secret because she had experienced this before. I think my friend was more-so trying to help my other friend, not betray her. She went outside the group but not for spitrful reasons i think.
user
null,null
I think I understand. Sometimes we accidentally hurt the people we love when we are trying to help.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
I want one friend to know that the other was trying to hel and nothurt, but did not think clearly when deciding where to get help from. How do I make her understand this?
user
null,null
I think it is great that you want to actively help, it says a lot about you.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Thanks! What should I say to her?
user
null
Sometimes the best way to help someone understand is to give them a little time and space. Trying to force someone to understand doesn't always work. Sometimes the best way to help someone understand is to give them a little time and space. Trying to force someone to understand doesn't always work.
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Providing Suggestions
I think this can be good because she IS a little hot headed. Goos advice! I think I will tell everyonr in our circle to fall back and let her come to us when she is ready.
user
null,null,null
You could also try talking to your hurt friend like this and ask her if she thinks the other friend truly meant to hurt her. I bet she knows that wasn't the case. I bet you guys will all be friends again in no time.
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Affirmation and Reassurance
She knws this but nonetheless feels violated. I think your first piece of advice is great though. I will use this and Thanks! Have a good one.
user
null