I am recently divorced. My ex-husband has moved in with his new, much younger girlfriend and they are discussing marriage. Although I am happy the marriage is over, I'm depressed because I have not had any romantic offers while he has moved on with no problem.
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Hello, is someone there?
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Hello, my name is Jonathan. May I ask who I am speaking to today?
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Hi Jonathan, I'm Keri.
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Hi Keri. How are you today?
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I'm feeling a little bit down today. I've been feeling a little bit down a lot lately.
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Oh no. I'm sorry to hear that. What do you think would be the cause of you feeling down lately?
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My ex-husband is moved in with his new girlfriend. They might get married.
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Oh Keri, that must feel awful. Was it a recent separation between you two?
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He started dating a few months after we split up. I don't know if this is the only person he's dated but I think so. He really moved on quick. Hi, are you still there?
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Yeah I understand what you're going through. I was in a similar position not too long ago. I had a hard time wrapping my head around how fast my ex could move on from what we had. How does it make you feel that he's trying to start a new relationship so soon after yours?
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It makes me feel like he didn't learn anything from our relationship or like he thinks he's better than me because he has someone new and I don't. I'm trying to take some time and be alone and be okay with being alone, which is good I think, but sometimes I feel really really lonely too. Like maybe I won't ever find anyone.
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That must feel really isolating. But working on yourself and becoming a better you is the only way to move on in a healthy manner. I think you're doing the right thing in waiting and learning to love yourself before you can open up and love another.
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Thank you! Exactly. But it is scary. I am guessing from your name that you identify as male (please forgive me if that is incorrect), so you might not understand what it feels like to be an older woman when your ex starts dating someone a lot younger. Men only get better and more desirable with age, not so for women.
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I might not understand that particular aspect, but self worth is still self worth no matter the context. I'd say try not to pay any mind to what he's up to. The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence, but if you just focus on watering your grass (making yourself happy) then you'll have a much more fulfilling life.
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Haha, watering my own grass. That is a good way to put it. Thank you for talking to me for a few minutes. It makes me feel a little bit better to have someone agree that it is okay to spend time working on me, instead of thinking that it is sad or pathetic or an excuse. I really appreciate it.
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Oh absolutely Keri. Thanks for opening up and sharing your experience and feelings with me for just a few minutes. It was great to talk to you.
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Have a good night, Jonathan. :-)
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Happy Holidays Keri. Keep your head up!
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