Me and my girlfriend got into a fight over holiday break that I thought could be fixed but instead ended up in us breaking up
I loved how open this was to talk to someone
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Nothing comes to mind
I face the situation of me being sad because I thought we could let this fight go over time but instead it has lead to us breaking up
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Can you tell me more about the fight?
assistant
Question
Yes, so we had a fight previously over Thanksgiving Break about how I woke her up from her sleep and she kicked me out of her place at like 4 in the morning. Then I pick her up to go try and get breakfast...then she starts punching me while I drive so I pull over. Then she keeps hitting me until I tell her to stop.
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Breakups are usually sad for at least one of the couple. Is your sadness because of missing her or being alone or something else ?
assistant
Question
It is because I do really miss her. I really hate that our fight got to that level to where we broke up
user
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Breakups are hard, but it sounds like she was violent
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Yeah she was a little violent. I was honestly a little scared for my life for a second but people make mistakes.
user
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Have you talked since then?
assistant
Question
We have talked a little bit before hand this month. It was okay but I am still sad about what happened She was very open to talking and such but I just wasn't ready because my family found out about what happened and are worried about my safety
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If safety is an issue, then I think that maybe moving on is a good decision
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I know but I am so sad because the break up was so quick and we did not really have closure after the whole fight happened between us. I still keep on thinking about her.
user
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I suggest that you do things that will help you get over her., like going out with friends or a new hobby. Don't be in a hurry to get into a new relationship , but if one happens that would be great too. Is this your first breakup?
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Question
I will definitely try to get over her using those techniques you just said. It's way harder to do than say though. No, this is not my first breakup with a woman but I felt like she was the one for me
user
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Breakups are not always the end, but they usually happen for a reason, and whenever violence is involved it is usually better to move on
assistant
Reflection of feelings
Maybe you're right! Just need to get productive and get my mind off of her for good since she was violent
user
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I suggest you start trying to have fun with others and getting yourself out there where there will be new opportunities
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I will definitely try. I know it will be hard because I am upset still but sometimes I guess moving on is the only thing that you can do in this situation
user
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The sadness will eventually pass and I am sure there is someone out there that will be a good match for you
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Awww I hope so. Just like some people say...there are plenty of fish in the sea. Thank you for the advice. It was really helpful.
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