I have a friend who knew me since I was little, she is closer to my mother's age so she is kinda like my aunt growing up. She always treat me like I was little. I understand that she knew me since I was little. But I'm a grown woman now and I want our relationship to go far and grow more. I tried to explain it to her but she is not getting it. It's made me feel sad that we can't move our relationship further.
Hi there, how are you feeling?
assistant
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I'm feeling pretty good right now.
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Is there anything you'd like to talk to me about?
assistant
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I have a friend who knew me since I was little. She is a little older than me. She still treat me like I'm still little. I tried to explain to her that I'm a grown woman and I grew out of lot of things when I was a kid.
user
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Is she listening to you? I know how it feels to be patronised by people who are older.
assistant
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She still didn't get it. I want our relationship to move further but with her like this. I feel sad. Is there anything I can do?
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Well, if she is not listening to you when you try to talk to her you have to ask yourself whether the relationship is really worth it?
assistant
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That's true. I didn't think about it. Should I approach her and talk about it before?
user
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Yes, I think it's always worth fighting for a friendship but there does come a point when it stops being at all viable.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Yeah, that's definitely true. I know she is a good person. So I would give her a chance and we can talk about it before.
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Does she have younger siblings? I am the eldest of four and I sometimes, even at age forty five, find myself trying to tell them what to do
assistant
Self-disclosure
She have a younger brother that is 9 years younger. She used to be only child for a while before her brother was born.
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It could be the cause of her behaviour.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Maybe that's why. She have different personality than me. She is more into logical thinking and she love people and has bubbly personality. While I'm emotional but are social butterfly and after a while, I would need a break from people.
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How much would it hurt you to end the friendship? Do you think you could make other friends and survive it or is it worth fighting for?
assistant
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To be honest, there are some times when she made me cry or mad when I get home. I think that over the time and the more older I get, the more I would knowledge my relationship with her.
user
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I know that I don't know her but to be honest it does sound to me like your friendship is a bit toxic.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
I do have other friends that I could purse the relationship farther. I think I just felt bad that I known her for years and she is a good person. It's just not what I need right now.
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Sometimes we really just have to let things go. I know it's hard but it will probably good for your mental health. I hope that I have been able to help you today! It's a difficult situation for sure.
assistant
Information,Others
Yeah, thank you! You certainly helped me.
user
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Have a great rest of day :)
assistant
Providing Suggestions
You too! Stay safe and healthy!
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