I was going to marry my girlfriend but she broke up with me a prior to proposing for an unknown reason.
I thoroughly enjoyed the messenger structure. I think an area for improvement are additional prompts for the peer-support to ask additional clarifying questions to keep the chat balanced, I felt like I was supporting both roles by giving the support character additional information to speak in on.
I like this structure, I would like to see this take off!
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Hello, how are you doing today?
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I am good how are you
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I am glad you are doing well, I have been struggling lately as my girlfriend that I was going to propose to broke up with me. She told me that my career path was different then hers and she just did not see it working out.
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How was your career path different? I understand how you are feeling everything will be okay
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Question,Reflection of feelings
She had a desire to do marine biology and I wanted to pursue law enforcement as a police officer, however due to my back injury that fell through recently. She would spend most of her time doing field work, which would require her to spend time out at sea. She was working in a nursing home at the time and was not a marine biologist.
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She did not like your career path?
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I am thinking that would be the case, however we dated for 3 years and then reconnecting about a year later which at this time was a distant relationship. She now has a boyfriend which she started date about 2 months she broke up with me. I found out that he works with her at the nursing home. I am unsure what to think, but she did say that she just didn't see how our career paths would work out and that was that.
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If anything she was supposed to support whatever career path you took and that is not right It is weird to me also how she got into another relationship fast after she broke up with you just 2 months after
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Others,Reflection of feelings
I have had some friends echo that. I agree, it definitely felt like I was giving a lot through the time we dated. I have always wondered if this was a true statement, knowing her I think she probably got scared of what that entailed or just the distance. The new boyfriend was definitely a wild card, that I think has caused me to question her parting words
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Right but to be honest I would not let that stress you out or be upset about it because you do not need anybody that don't support your career I would just move on and let it go and focus on your self
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Affirmation and Reassurance,Providing Suggestions
I appreciate your feedback on this, (this event for context occurred about a year ago and I have moved on from it) my support system has said the same thing. I think the difficult part is just overcoming that mental/emotional hurdle of having the desire to marry her, which failed since it was an expectation of what was to come. I appreciate your suggestions. I think being the best "me" will help equip me for my future spouse! :)
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Right i can understand how you are feeling. We all have been in a situation where we have the desire to marry someone and all that fails. I have been in a situation like that.
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Self-disclosure
What did you do to help overcome the depression you faced or the grief of what was?
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I just had to let it go and just focus on myself because i had no choice
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Providing Suggestions
That is a valid point, I appreciate your help with this situation and listening to what I experienced.
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No problem. Merry Christmas!
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Have a wonder Christmas, maybe we will chat again on this forum! Happy Turking :)
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