My ex-partner told me yesterday that after being engaged for almost a year, he no longer wants to marry me and he moved out.
My partner could have offered some more coping suggestions
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i'm not a great spelling
maybe more suggestions about what to say
Hello, How are you today
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I'm really depressed. My fiance left me yesterday.
user
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Sorry to hear that, would you like to talk about it?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yes, I think that might make me feel better. I really have no one to talk to because my family and friends didn't like him so they think this is for the best.
user
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Ok. I am happy to listen.
assistant
Others
I just don't understand why someone would pretend to be happy for a year and then decide they were lying and leave
user
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Seems like you feel your partner betrayed you, does that sound right?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yes, I feel very betrayed.
user
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That is understandable. I know how you feel, may I suggest taking a few minutes to clear your head, and making a plan to talk with your friends and parents about how you feel?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
They think I should just get over it because they didn't like him so they think I shouldn't like him either. They're making things worse for me.
user
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Oh I'm so sorry, sometimes family and friends don't think about your feelings. When did this happen?
assistant
Question
He left yesterday. I had no warning. He just packed up all his stuff and said he didn't want to marry me and the last year has been a lie.
user
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Dang. he seems very selfish. But I understand how up setting it must have felt. My first husband left me without warning.
assistant
Self-disclosure
I'm sorry to hear that. How long did it take you to feel better?
user
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Awhile. it started to feel a little bit better after I kept telling myself it was about him and not about me, then I started feeling a bit better. But it will take time, the old say is correct, good days and bad days.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
What did you do to help feel better>
user
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Started back in to my routine. Work. Church. things like that.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I think it's harder that it's during the holidays because I don't go back to work until after the new year. I thought we would be spending the next week together at home.
user
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My I suggestion you pick your closest friend, and talk to her/him about your feeling, but not about your boyfriend, about how you feel your friends have been treating you. Be nice but firm. I bet once they hear your pain, they will be very supportive.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Hopefully. I could really use to sit down with a friend right now and spend some quality time. I don't want to be alone all week.
user
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I understand that! it is very reasonable to want to be around family and friends during the holidays.
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
Thanks for chatting with me. I feel a little more relaxed now.
user
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