I caught my spouse cheating and broke up with her. The problem now is that I do not know where or how to start a new relationship.
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Hi there! What would you like to talk about today?
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Question,Question
I am trying to be fine and you?
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It may be helpful to know.. my name is Ann. I am 43 years old... and I know for myself, I enjoy talking to people when I have concerns. What is going on?
assistant
Others,Question
Thank you for your concern, I am just worried.
user
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What has you worried? I know right now... its a hard time for so many people. I have struggled with my own anxiety the past few weeks.
assistant
Question
Sorry about that. This is about my relationship.
user
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Ah....relationship worries can be so draining and emotionally exhausting. I can understand that. In your relationship, what has happened to create your worries?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing,Question
I trusted my spouse but eventually disappointed. She got a jot in another town and she utilize the opportunity to be sleeping around.
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I can imagine how a break in trust has made you feel. I know a break in trust is always very difficult to process.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I am planing to get married next year but things has changed now.
user
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Oh I am sorry to hear that. Have you had a conversation with her about her actions and how they have made you feel?
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Question
She knew pretty well how I felt. I don't want to have anything to do with her again.
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Do you feel that her actions and result can be remedied? Or is this such a fundamental break that you cannot reconcile?
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Question
I just want to move on with my life.
user
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Understandable. I would feel similar, in truth.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
I don't that I can love her again.
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Only you know whether or not if you can look to forgiving and moving forward or if this is such a fundamental break that it is not something you can mend. And if you know that this is not something you wish to move forward with her that doesn’t make you a bad person. It means you are taking care of yourself first.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance,Providing Suggestions
Yes, I want someone that I could trust.
user
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Absolutely. Trust is to me a cornerstone of healthy relationships. So I can fully appreciate those feelings and needs. I think fundamentally as humans we want to partner with individuals who we find that we can feel safe with and trust
assistant
Reflection of feelings
Yes, you understood my fear.
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I do think, and I am not sure how old you are, but infidelity is unfortunately not super rare. I have experienced it myself. I used some resources on even places like Reddit (Surviving Infidelity) to help me process what I had experienced and to also learn from others.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I will check that out, thank you very much.
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I also talked to a few friends who are married and had experienced infidelity. They chose to forgive each other. I learned a lot from them. It helped me to make up my own mind as to how I needed to move forward. I didn’t want to use a therapist since I do better with discussing ideas with multiple people. But ultimately you may experience a lot of ups and downs. That is also normal. It is your mind and heart processing everything. Please do not get discouraged.
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Affirmation and Reassurance