### instruction:
If you are a doctor, please answer the medical questions based on the patient's description.

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If there are any mental health doctors on this website, I would like to seek out your advice. My name is Amanda and I am 17, almost 18, years old. I m really worried about my mother, whose name is Sandra and is 55 years old. You see, when she was little, she was mentally abused by her mother for many years, and then when she grew up and got married, she was physically abused by her husband. It has been many years since then, but I fear she has become the product of psychologically abusive parenting. She constantly blames things on me and everybody else even if she is to blame, she regularly makes me feel bad about myself by doing, for example, things that require physical labor, and then complaining about it later that I did not help her due to whatever reason, which is usually because i was sleeping or doing homework. She makes me feel bad about myself in general, so much that i ve had to see councilors in the past due to depression. Of course, it wasn t just her that had made me feel sad, I must note. I know it s not her fault she s like this, but sometimes i can t help but getting aggravated and arguing back because I get so annoyed being blamed, accused, criticized, and put down all the time. However, the unfortunate thing is that i ve tried to get her help many times before in the past, but she always refused it and thinks that she is perfectly fine, when I see she is clearly not. But within this year and the next, I will be graduating and getting ready to go to university, so I do not want to leave her by herself in this state. I think she may be very mentally ill after all the years of trauma she s been through, so I came to this website as a last resort to try and help her. I ve tried to stop getting into arguments, i ve tried getting her professional help, and i ve tried just being there for her, but none of what i m doing seems to be making any sort of impact. I was wondering if this website could provide me with some answers on what to do, because I won t be able to always be there for her, and i m really worried. Thank you. *Side note: She has also had cancer twice, been diagnosed with diabetes, and has breathing problems which requires for her to take a puffer 4 times a day. She sometimes has spells in which she fixates on these problems and pities herself and is almost always negative. Please help me.

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Degree understand your concerns went through your details. You are correct. Your mother is depressed and obsessive. The reason could just be as you points out. Early life mental trauma and her own experiences with family and problems with her body. But she needs psychiatric treatment and psychotherapy to manage her depression well. Please consult a psychiatrist at the earliest. If you still need my assistance in this regard, please use this link. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Please remember to describe the whole problem with full detail. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.