### instruction:
If you are a doctor, please answer the medical questions based on the patient's description.

### input:
I have been married for almost 9 years. my husband is a very angry and verbally hatefull person. he puts people down including our 8 and 9 year old sons. he is more mean to our youngest son which is his son and nicer to our oldest which is not his biologically (our oldest son doesnt know he is not his biologically). he does very mean things that he know will get a reaction like instigating the kids and myself then yell at us when we get mad cause he thinks its funny(example cleaning our youngest sons ears with q-tip then put the dirty q-tip in his mouth casue he thought it was funny then yelled at me for getting mad and yelled at son for crying) what do i do and how do i get him to get help. I have threatened to leave in the past. he is in army and does deploy and hoinestly i have less problems when he is gone

### output:

Degree understand your concerns went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. Anger always comes due to frustrations in life. Frustrations are normal with everyone. People learn to ignore frustrations when they get experienced. Does your husband get angry to circumstances outside your home as he gets angry at your house? His office, bus stand, railway station, neighbors etc. If yes, he might need to get evaluated for anger issues. If NO, just help and motivate him to understand and compare the two situations, and he can be better himself. If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe the needed psychotherapy techniques. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.