user11674: Can one elaborate please more on this quote:

"In one who keeps focusing on the allure of clingable phenomena (or: phenomena that offer sustenance = the five aggregates), craving develops.
"Now, in one who keeps focusing on the drawbacks of clingable phenomena, craving ceases."

Upādāna Sutta SN 12.52 (S ii 84)
How is this exactly done?

user43: 
In one who keeps focusing on the allure of clingable phenomena (or: phenomena that offer sustenance = the five aggregates), craving develops.

Like this: mmmm, she is so sexy, the way she looked at me, wow, it's like she's begging for... Something around her eyes... And she's so small... I imagine how she would... If only I could... I feel the pull when she's near. She's so sweet, I almost want to bite her. Etc.

"Now, in one who keeps focusing on the drawbacks of clingable phenomena, craving ceases."

Like this: I've been through this before. She knows she's sexy and is using it. She's definitely very manipulative. If I lose control she'll take advantage of me. I will get in trouble. I'll lose everything I have: job, family, my stable life. And for what, for that same age old slimy game of moving in and out? She's probably not even smart. What would we even talk about? Besides, I hate losing control. I don't like when my head is spinning and I can't focus because of a woman. I like my normal sober mind. I don't want to be lost again, like that last time. Etc.
Simple, right?

11674: <p>Can one elaborate please more on this quote:</p>
<blockquote>
<p>&quot;In one who keeps focusing on the allure of clingable phenomena (or: phenomena that offer sustenance = the five aggregates), craving develops.</p>
<p>&quot;Now, in one who keeps focusing on the drawbacks of clingable phenomena, craving ceases.&quot;</p>
</blockquote>
<p><a href="http://www.buddha-vacana.org/sutta/samyutta/nidana/sn12-052.html" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Upādāna Sutta SN 12.52 (S ii 84)</a></p>
<p>How is this exactly done?</p>
 43: <blockquote>
  <p>In one who keeps focusing on the allure of clingable phenomena (or: phenomena that offer sustenance = the five aggregates), craving develops.</p>
</blockquote>

<p>Like this: mmmm, she is so sexy, the way she looked at me, wow, it's like she's begging for... Something around her eyes... And she's so small... I imagine how she would... If only I could... I feel the pull when she's near. She's so sweet, I almost want to bite her. Etc.</p>

<blockquote>
  <p>"Now, in one who keeps focusing on the drawbacks of clingable phenomena, craving ceases."</p>
</blockquote>

<p>Like this: I've been through this before. She knows she's sexy and is using it. She's definitely very manipulative. If I lose control she'll take advantage of me. I will get in trouble. I'll lose everything I have: job, family, my stable life. And for what, for that same age old slimy game of moving in and out? She's probably not even smart. What would we even talk about? Besides, I hate losing control. I don't like when my head is spinning and I can't focus because of a woman. I like my normal sober mind. I don't want to be lost again, like that last time. Etc.</p>

<p>Simple, right?</p>
