user17744: If someone offense me on physical things like "You are not beautiful, You are poor, You are not smart", I can bear it. Actually I don't care much.
But, If someone offense me on my thoughts like "You are not kind, You are greedy", It's hard to bear. Sometimes, I got aversion.
How can I overcome this ?
I asked a related question here. 

How Am I not the owner of the mind?


user11009: This is due to subtle Upadana. (clinging)
There are three kinds of clinging.
-Kama Upadana (it seems you have less of this)
-Dithi upadana
-Atta upadana. (perhaps this is your problem)
-Silabbatha Upadana
upādāna:
Clinging; attachment; sustenance for becoming and birth — attachment to sensuality, to views, to precepts and practices, and to theories of the self.
The way to eliminate Upadana is to follow the Noble Eightfold Path. It is a gradual training of Sila (virtues), Samadhi (concentration) and Panna (wisdom).

17744: <p>If someone offense me on physical things like "<em>You are not beautiful, You are poor, You are not smart</em>", I can bear it. Actually I don't care much.</p>

<p>But, If someone offense me on my thoughts like "<em>You are not kind, You are greedy</em>", It's hard to bear. Sometimes, I got aversion.</p>

<p>How can I overcome this ?</p>

<p>I asked a related question here. </p>

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<li><a href="https://buddhism.stackexchange.com/q/37202/17744">How Am I not the owner of the mind?</a></li>
</ul>
 11009: <p>This is due to subtle Upadana. (clinging)
There are three kinds of clinging.
-Kama Upadana (it seems you have less of this)
-Dithi upadana
-Atta upadana. (perhaps this is your problem)
-Silabbatha Upadana</p>

<p>upādāna:
Clinging; attachment; sustenance for becoming and birth — attachment to sensuality, to views, to precepts and practices, and to theories of the self.</p>

<p>The way to eliminate Upadana is to follow the Noble Eightfold Path. It is a gradual training of Sila (virtues), Samadhi (concentration) and Panna (wisdom).</p>
