user7141: Recently i was wondering about Love and these thoughts came to my mind, i want to know if they are correct or not.

As to Buddhism all sorts of love is "Attachment".
And the is no such thing called a person.
So essentially the "Love" we fall in can be explained as...


Example :-

Part 01 :- Sam saw Jenny and he fell for her the second he saw her.
(Sam's eyes saw light which was recognized by his brain+mind as a woman. His mind remembers that Sam is straight so it immediately start to examine Jenny's body. There is an understanding in Sam's mind about his taste and it sees Jenny is a perfect fit. As Sam hast lust+attachments for such a body,mind starts a stream of thoughts signaling that there is a hot girl nearby.)
Part 02 :- They date for sometime and go to a serious relationship.
(Sam and Jenny both find their attachments in real life and decide to hold onto it.)
Part 03 :- Sam and Jenny are married now and its been 9 years.
(They both did not wanted to loose what they found because of the strong attachment they built in their own minds. The attachment and fear of loosing+fear of not finding a substitute kept them together for nine years.)

What i see is that there are two minds at work trying to find attachments in real life. And then two minds find those in the image of two bodies. Then the attachments grow and the minds get more attached to each other's bodies as it works as the Identity.


Is this correct according to the teaching or is it wrong?
If there are wrong details what are the correct forms of them?


user254: There may be other bases for (i.e. causes of or types of) 'love': for example, compassion or mudita.
You might find this difficult to practice without attachment and/or lust, even so your description of love seemed to me one-sided, only describing negatives (defilements).
See also, Any authentic sutta from any tradition that gives guidance on what kind of partner to choose?
Plus, there are other topics tagged marriage and/or relationship.

user-1: 
"That's the way it is, householder. That's the way it is — for sorrow,
  lamentation, pain, distress, & despair are born from one who is dear,
  come springing from one who is dear."

...

"That's the way it is, householder [said the gamblers]. That's the way
  it is. Happiness & joy are born from one who is dear, come springing
  from one who is dear."

...

So the householder left, thinking, "I agree with the gamblers."

Piyajatika Sutta: From One Who Is Dear
(Note: this answer has not been given with the agreement to be means of trade or the purpose of/for trade and/or keep people trapped and bound. How you handle it lies in your sphere, but does not excuse the deed here either.)

user295: There 3 things interplay here:

Kama Raga - attachment to sensual objects or objects arousing lust
Chanda Raga - attachments to people (lovers, loved one's, family, friends)
Suba Sanna - perception of beauty in the shape of the body

So when you see a person the following can happen:

Pleasure, displeasure, neutral sensation on how you perceive the person based on


Previous interaction and perception formed as friend or not or a person who matters or not or good person or bad person or likable or not
Perception of looks of the person


Relative to one's looks
As an object of desire



So when you see a person of the opposite sex the 1st time, what you get is Kama Raga and Suba Sanna. This is in seeking of pleasure born of such interactions.
Though Kama Raga heavily influences Chanda Raga, the main thing is that the person is influential in you life / perceived world. As the "puppet master" of the perceived world you get pleasure from the "puppets" in the show when they seem to go according to your expectations.
Chanda Raga is what might keep a relationship going even when Kama Raga subsides with time and into old age when Suba Sanna wanes off.
Though in seeking pleasure we get the above 3, in fact these give diverse sensations: pleasure, displeasure, neutral due to impermanent nature and non self nature of existance. All the experience you can derive from it is Dukkha (pain - Dukkha Dukkha, pleasure - Viparinama Dukkha, neutral - Sankhara Dukkha). So to understand the 4 Noble Truths contemplate on the arising and passing of sensations.

7141: <p>Recently i was wondering about Love and these thoughts came to my mind, i want to know if they are correct or not.</p>

<hr>

<p>As to Buddhism all sorts of love is "Attachment".
And the is no such thing called a person.</p>

<p>So essentially the "Love" we fall in can be explained as...</p>

<hr>

<blockquote>
  <p>Example :-</p>
</blockquote>

<p>Part 01 :- Sam saw Jenny and he fell for her the second he saw her.</p>

<p>(Sam's eyes saw light which was recognized by his brain+mind as a woman. His mind remembers that Sam is straight so it immediately start to examine Jenny's body. There is an understanding in Sam's mind about his taste and it sees Jenny is a perfect fit. As Sam hast lust+attachments for such a body,mind starts a stream of thoughts signaling that there is a hot girl nearby.)</p>

<p>Part 02 :- They date for sometime and go to a serious relationship.</p>

<p>(Sam and Jenny both find their attachments in real life and decide to hold onto it.)</p>

<p>Part 03 :- Sam and Jenny are married now and its been 9 years.
(They both did not wanted to loose what they found because of the strong attachment they built in their own minds. The attachment and fear of loosing+fear of not finding a substitute kept them together for nine years.)</p>

<hr>

<p>What i see is that there are two minds at work trying to find attachments in real life. And then two minds find those in the image of two bodies. Then the attachments grow and the minds get more attached to each other's bodies as it works as the Identity.</p>

<hr>

<blockquote>
  <p>Is this correct according to the teaching or is it wrong?</p>
  
  <p>If there are wrong details what are the correct forms of them?</p>
</blockquote>
 254: <p>There may be other bases for (i.e. causes of or types of) 'love': for example, compassion or <em><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mudita" rel="nofollow noreferrer">mudita</a></em>.</p>

<p>You might find this difficult to practice without attachment and/or lust, even so your description of love seemed to me one-sided, only describing negatives (defilements).</p>

<p>See also, <a href="https://buddhism.stackexchange.com/q/7488/254">Any authentic sutta from any tradition that gives guidance on what kind of partner to choose?</a></p>

<p>Plus, there are other topics tagged <a href="/questions/tagged/marriage" class="post-tag" title="show questions tagged &#39;marriage&#39;" rel="tag">marriage</a> and/or <a href="/questions/tagged/relationship" class="post-tag" title="show questions tagged &#39;relationship&#39;" rel="tag">relationship</a>.</p>
 -1: <blockquote>
  <p>"That's the way it is, householder. That's the way it is — for sorrow,
  lamentation, pain, distress, &amp; despair are born from one who is dear,
  come springing from one who is dear."</p>
</blockquote>

<p>...</p>

<blockquote>
  <p>"That's the way it is, householder [said the gamblers]. That's the way
  it is. Happiness &amp; joy are born from one who is dear, come springing
  from one who is dear."</p>
</blockquote>

<p>...</p>

<blockquote>
  <p>So the householder left, thinking, "I agree with the gamblers."</p>
</blockquote>

<p><a href="http://zugangzureinsicht.org/html/tipitaka/mn/mn.087.than_en.html" rel="nofollow">Piyajatika Sutta: From One Who Is Dear</a></p>

<p><em>(Note: this answer has not been given with the agreement to be means of trade or the purpose of/for trade and/or keep people trapped and bound. How you handle it lies in your sphere, but does not excuse the deed here either.)</em></p>
 295: <p>There 3 things interplay here:</p>

<ul>
<li>Kama Raga - attachment to sensual objects or objects arousing lust</li>
<li>Chanda Raga - attachments to people (lovers, loved one's, family, friends)</li>
<li>Suba Sanna - perception of beauty in the shape of the body</li>
</ul>

<p>So when you see a person the following can happen:</p>

<ul>
<li>Pleasure, displeasure, neutral sensation on how you perceive the person based on

<ul>
<li>Previous interaction and perception formed as friend or not or a person who matters or not or good person or bad person or likable or not</li>
<li>Perception of looks of the person

<ul>
<li>Relative to one's looks</li>
<li>As an object of desire</li>
</ul></li>
</ul></li>
</ul>

<p>So when you see a person of the opposite sex the 1st time, what you get is Kama Raga and Suba Sanna. This is in seeking of pleasure born of such interactions.</p>

<p>Though Kama Raga heavily influences Chanda Raga, the main thing is that the person is influential in you life / perceived world. As the "puppet master" of the perceived world you get pleasure from the "puppets" in the show when they seem to go according to your expectations.</p>

<p>Chanda Raga is what might keep a relationship going even when Kama Raga subsides with time and into old age when Suba Sanna wanes off.</p>

<p>Though in seeking pleasure we get the above 3, in fact these give diverse sensations: pleasure, displeasure, neutral due to impermanent nature and non self nature of existance. All the experience you can derive from it is Dukkha (pain - Dukkha Dukkha, pleasure - Viparinama Dukkha, neutral - Sankhara Dukkha). So to understand the <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_Noble_Truths" rel="nofollow">4 Noble Truths</a> contemplate on the arising and passing of sensations.</p>
