user254: There are maybe 80 questions about 'parents' already but perhaps this one hasn't been asked.
What are a Buddhist's responsibilities or duties towards their parents?

Listen to advice? Do what they advise?
About whether (and whom) they marry?
About whether (and at what) they work?
About where (and how far away from the parents) they live?
How much duty of care? Does that include e.g. helping with parents' plans and ambitions?

If you're generally inclined to be obedient, and considerate of parents' expressed desires, is it possible to go too far and maybe be insufficiently autonomous, too passive, too indecisive?
If there's any minor conflict ("I want to do something and they want me to do something else", or, "They want me to do something and I don't know what to want") then on what firm basis might you decide, what are the important criteria?

In this answer, Andrei wrote,

Now, regarding your parents, in this case you're not violating any ethics, except their expectations of your life, which is the domain that you own 100%.

... so maybe there are some definite ("100%") answers to this question, and/or maybe some guidelines.

All I know is this from the Sigalovada Sutta:


"In five ways should a mother and father as the eastern direction be respected by a child: 'I will support them who supported me; I will do my duty to them; I will maintain the family lineage and tradition; I will be worthy of my inheritance; and I will make donations on behalf of dead ancestors.'
"And, the mother and father so respected reciprocate with compassion in five ways: by restraining you from wrongdoing, guiding you towards good actions, training you in a profession, supporting the choice of a suitable spouse, and in due time, handing over the inheritance.


That doesn't explain exactly what "my duty" is, however.
And there's probably something somewhere about repaying parents by teaching them dhamma.

I'm, personally, especially curious to know about deciding how far away to live (e.g. whether to move very far away from the parents, in pursuit of a career).
I guess this may be a culture-specific and personal question, but maybe some good Buddhist advice on the subject is possible.

user8157: The advice in the Sigalovada Sutta is from a different time & society, where the prescribed obligations & thus expectations were mutual. In other words, at the present time, if your parents do not have these expectations towards you then you do not have any obligations in return. For example, did your parents arrange for you to get married when you were a teenager & did you comply? 
For example, when my father reached a certain phase in his life, I stayed with him, for a time, to keep an eye on things. But my parents can be so arrogant, I left when my father asked me to leave, due to a conflict with my mother. My mother was not willing to stay at home for most of the day & lost face when I told a health professional she was not at home all day but I was. As I envisaged, my father was alone at home one day, he had to call an ambulance himself, & died a few days later in hospital. This is an example of parents, like mine, who spent their life giving to their children like martyrs but are unable to receive in return. In other words, sometimes you try to do your duty but cannot. 
In Dhamma, Dhamma always has priority. If your Dhamma is higher than your parents (such as you wish to ordain or wish to live a more moral life than your parents wish), your Dhamma takes priority.  

This is was said by the Lord… Bhikkhus, these three kinds of sons are found existing in the world. What three? The superior kind, the
  similar kind, and the inferior kind. Iti 74

But anyone who rouses his unbelieving mother & father, settles & establishes them in conviction; rouses his unvirtuous mother & father,
  settles & establishes them in virtue; rouses his stingy mother &
  father, settles & establishes them in generosity; rouses his foolish
  mother & father, settles & establishes them in discernment: To this
  extent one pays & repays one’s mother & father. AN 2.32


254: <p>There are maybe <a href="https://buddhism.stackexchange.com/search?q=parents+is%3Aquestion">80 questions about 'parents'</a> already but perhaps this one hasn't been asked.</p>

<p>What are a Buddhist's responsibilities or duties towards their parents?</p>

<ul>
<li>Listen to advice? Do what they advise?</li>
<li>About whether (and whom) they marry?</li>
<li>About whether (and at what) they work?</li>
<li>About where (and how far away from the parents) they live?</li>
<li>How much duty of care? Does that include e.g. helping with parents' plans and ambitions?</li>
</ul>

<p>If you're generally inclined to be obedient, and considerate of parents' expressed desires, is it possible to go too far and maybe be insufficiently autonomous, too passive, too indecisive?</p>

<p>If there's any minor conflict ("I want to do something and they want me to do something else", or, "They want me to do something and I don't know what to want") then on what firm basis might you decide, what are the important criteria?</p>

<hr>

<p>In <a href="https://buddhism.stackexchange.com/a/24838/254">this answer</a>, Andrei wrote,</p>

<blockquote>
  <p>Now, regarding your parents, in this case you're not violating any ethics, except their expectations of <em>your</em> life, which is the domain that you own 100%.</p>
</blockquote>

<p>... so maybe there are some definite ("100%") answers to this question, and/or maybe some guidelines.</p>

<hr>

<p>All I know is this from the <a href="https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/dn/dn.31.0.ksw0.html" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Sigalovada Sutta</a>:</p>

<blockquote>
  <ol start="28">
  <li><p>"In five ways should a mother and father as the eastern direction be respected by a child: 'I will support them who supported me; I will do my duty to them; I will maintain the family lineage and tradition; I will be worthy of my inheritance; and I will make donations on behalf of dead ancestors.'</p>
  
  <p>"And, the mother and father so respected reciprocate with compassion in five ways: by restraining you from wrongdoing, guiding you towards good actions, training you in a profession, supporting the choice of a suitable spouse, and in due time, handing over the inheritance.</p></li>
  </ol>
</blockquote>

<p>That doesn't explain exactly what "my duty" is, however.</p>

<p>And there's probably something somewhere about repaying parents by teaching them dhamma.</p>

<hr>

<p>I'm, personally, especially curious to know about deciding how far away to live (e.g. whether to move very far away from the parents, in pursuit of a career).</p>

<p>I guess this may be a culture-specific and personal question, but maybe some good Buddhist advice on the subject is possible.</p>
 8157: <p>The advice in the Sigalovada Sutta is from a different time &amp; society, where the prescribed obligations &amp; thus expectations were mutual. In other words, at the present time, if your parents do not have these expectations towards you then you do not have any obligations in return. For example, did your parents arrange for you to get married when you were a teenager &amp; did you comply? </p>

<p>For example, when my father reached a certain phase in his life, I stayed with him, for a time, to keep an eye on things. But my parents can be so arrogant, I left when my father asked me to leave, due to a conflict with my mother. My mother was not willing to stay at home for most of the day &amp; lost face when I told a health professional she was not at home all day but I was. As I envisaged, my father was alone at home one day, he had to call an ambulance himself, &amp; died a few days later in hospital. This is an example of parents, like mine, who spent their life giving to their children like martyrs but are unable to receive in return. In other words, sometimes you try to do your duty but cannot. </p>

<p>In Dhamma, Dhamma always has priority. If your Dhamma is higher than your parents (such as you wish to ordain or wish to live a more moral life than your parents wish), your Dhamma takes priority.  </p>

<blockquote>
  <p><em>This is was said by the Lord… Bhikkhus, these three kinds of sons are found existing in the world. What three? The superior kind, the
  similar kind, and the inferior kind. Iti 74</em></p>
  
  <hr>
  
  <p><em>But anyone who rouses his unbelieving mother &amp; father, settles &amp; establishes them in conviction; rouses his unvirtuous mother &amp; father,
  settles &amp; establishes them in virtue; rouses his stingy mother &amp;
  father, settles &amp; establishes them in generosity; rouses his foolish
  mother &amp; father, settles &amp; establishes them in discernment: To this
  extent one pays &amp; repays one’s mother &amp; father. AN 2.32</em></p>
</blockquote>
