user7945: I have a Girlfriend that I met few years back. She loves me a lot,she is quite brilliant from her childhood, and now she is working in a big firm. I am working in a smaller firm than her. When we were in college, it seems we will not fight ever, but after we got passed and she got placed we are having a lot of fight. She sometimes says some bad words to me, that i can't handle.But i don't want to fight anymore, but I think I've ego problem. Every time i think not to fight but finally we ended up with big fight. What are the practical measures in Buddhism to get rid of such ego inside one's inside. Thank you.

user111: More than ego, it could be the high level of stress involved in working for a big company. 
In any case, Marananussati meditation would be a good start for both of you. 

"The disciple who devotes himself to this contemplation of death is
  always vigilant, takes no delight in any form of existence, gives up
  hankering after life, censures evil doing, is free from craving as
  regards the requisites of life, his perception of impermanence becomes
  established, he realizes the painful and soulless nature of existence
  and at the moment of death he is devoid of fear, and remains mindful
  and self-possessed. Finally, if in this present life he fails to
  attain to Nibbana, upon the dissolution of the body he is bound for a
  happy destiny."   -Visuddhimagga

Another reason could be the wanting to control each other. Have a cordial discussion with her and come to a solid understanding of each other's expectations. As long as you two don't exceed that framework, don't try to control each other too much.
Come to an agreement on how to resolve issues. Make a determination with her to always use kind words and wisdom to find a solution rather than disrespectful words and emotional thoughts.

user151: You could practice the The Buddha's Eight-Fold Path.

Right Understanding (Samma ditthi)

Right Thought (Samma sankappa)

Right Speech (Samma vaca)

Right Action (Samma kammanta)

Right Livelihood (Samma ajiva)

Right Effort (Samma vayama)

Right Mindfulness (Samma sati)

Right Concentration (Samma samadhi)
I suppose you don't have to practice all 8 if you  only seek temporary results.


The correct practice of samatha  meditation can temporarly bring peace and lessen the ego delusion. Metta is a samatha practice that can be very effective in greatly lessening anger temporarily and the ego delusion temporarily.
The practice of vipassana will lessen the ego delusion slowly towards a permanent end to the ego delusion, over a long period of practice that can take a lifetime or lifetimes depending on the person practicing.
There are many approaches and interpretations to the practice of samatha and vipassana.
The best way to learn is with a good teacher.

user985: the root of all our problems is wrong view. Once we correct our view and start on the Eightfold Noble Path, we start coming out of suffering. 
Here is what Ven S.N. Goenka has to say about our view, our ego, and how it is formed and cultivated. 
Here is what Ven Yuttadhammo has to say about Right View.
When one listens to this Dhamma, Cintanmayi Pannya (wisdom gained through analysis) will arise. But this wisdom is not sufficient to release one from suffering. For that one needs to have Bhavanamayi Pannya (wisdom gained through experience). This can be acquired by attending a meditation retreat near you. Registration for a 10 day retreat under Ven S.N. Goenka can be done here

7945: <p>I have a Girlfriend that I met few years back. She loves me a lot,she is quite brilliant from her childhood, and now she is working in a big firm. I am working in a smaller firm than her. When we were in college, it seems we will not fight ever, but after we got passed and she got placed we are having a lot of fight. She sometimes says some bad words to me, that i can't handle.But i don't want to fight anymore, but I think I've ego problem. Every time i think not to fight but finally we ended up with big fight. What are the practical measures in Buddhism to get rid of such ego inside one's inside. Thank you.</p>
 111: <p>More than ego, it could be the high level of stress involved in working for a big company. </p>

<p>In any case, <a href="http://www.dhammawiki.com/index.php?title=Marananussati" rel="nofollow">Marananussati</a> meditation would be a good start for both of you. </p>

<blockquote>
  <p>"The disciple who devotes himself to this contemplation of death is
  always vigilant, takes no delight in any form of existence, gives up
  hankering after life, censures evil doing, is free from craving as
  regards the requisites of life, his perception of impermanence becomes
  established, he realizes the painful and soulless nature of existence
  and at the moment of death he is devoid of fear, and remains mindful
  and self-possessed. Finally, if in this present life he fails to
  attain to Nibbana, upon the dissolution of the body he is bound for a
  happy destiny."   -<a href="http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/nanamoli/PathofPurification2011.pdf" rel="nofollow">Visuddhimagga</a></p>
</blockquote>

<p>Another reason could be the wanting to control each other. Have a cordial discussion with her and come to a solid understanding of each other's expectations. As long as you two don't exceed that framework, don't try to control each other too much.</p>

<p>Come to an agreement on how to resolve issues. Make a determination with her to always use kind words and wisdom to find a solution rather than disrespectful words and emotional thoughts.</p>
 151: <p>You could practice the The Buddha's Eight-Fold Path.</p>
<ol>
<li><p>Right Understanding (Samma ditthi)</p>
</li>
<li><p>Right Thought (Samma sankappa)</p>
</li>
<li><p>Right Speech (Samma vaca)</p>
</li>
<li><p>Right Action (Samma kammanta)</p>
</li>
<li><p>Right Livelihood (Samma ajiva)</p>
</li>
<li><p>Right Effort (Samma vayama)</p>
</li>
<li><p>Right Mindfulness (Samma sati)</p>
</li>
<li><p>Right Concentration (Samma samadhi)</p>
<p>I suppose you don't have to practice all 8 if you  only seek temporary results.</p>
</li>
</ol>
<p>The correct practice of samatha  meditation can temporarly bring peace and lessen the ego delusion. Metta is a samatha practice that can be very effective in greatly lessening anger temporarily and the ego delusion temporarily.</p>
<p>The practice of vipassana will lessen the ego delusion slowly towards a permanent end to the ego delusion, over a long period of practice that can take a lifetime or lifetimes depending on the person practicing.</p>
<p>There are many approaches and interpretations to the practice of samatha and vipassana.</p>
<p>The best way to learn is with a good teacher.</p>
 985: <p>the root of all our problems is wrong view. Once we correct our view and start on the Eightfold Noble Path, we start coming out of suffering. </p>

<p><a href="https://youtu.be/IzfxmpghfDM?list=PLpKg-a4v1q8uPuszn2WfWF4leR-_OaspF&amp;t=2865" rel="nofollow">Here</a> is what Ven S.N. Goenka has to say about our view, our ego, and how it is formed and cultivated. </p>

<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=deWJp8kC9Jg" rel="nofollow">Here</a> is what Ven Yuttadhammo has to say about Right View.</p>

<p>When one listens to this Dhamma, <em>Cintanmayi Pannya</em> (<a href="http://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/qanda07.htm" rel="nofollow">wisdom</a> gained through analysis) will arise. But this wisdom is not sufficient to release one from suffering. For that one needs to have <em>Bhavanamayi Pannya</em> (wisdom gained through experience). This can be acquired by attending a meditation retreat near you. Registration for a 10 day retreat under Ven S.N. Goenka can be done <a href="http://www.dhamma.org/en-US/index" rel="nofollow">here</a></p>
