user11799: Pardon my English .I was lucky enough to meet this man . This man is living Buddha . He is not a monk. Lives simple life. He is such a mystery.  I'm in love with enlightened man.
It's not recent ... it's been years and years... He never claimed that but it's absolutely obvious to me.  He is extremely handsome intelligent and more , so much more. I can feel when he enters the room, there is so much heat or fire. He is shining and he makes everyone around him smile. He has big beautiful eyes they are so sharp it's like he can see through appearances . He is absolutely perfect.  I think about him day and night all the time I cannot forget him. It's my attachment to pleasure or is this real love??? When i think of him i just melt. On the other hand i know he is not interested in me as a woman and will never be. And it drives me nuts. I feel stupid. What to do?
I was planning to tell him that, but am so scared that i'll feel stupid. I suppose it's obvious on my face anyway. But it's been so long and the feeling gets stronger. I should move on i know it, but he is such a perfection... I have no word to describe this man . Just ''ahh''.  How to let go?? or should i keep?

user11762: I think that real love is more like unity, like being the same.
Attachment is more like artificial excitement, desire.
In that sense, love and attachment are different things. Love is like calm warm extending, open and limitless. In that, you discover limitless unity with all beings, all universe. That is immersing deeper in true reality.
Attachment is stimulating your feelings, which is like taking stimulants - it will pass, bringing hangover.
Love does not create problems, attachment does. Love makes wiser, attachment makes vexed and blind.
If a person you love is indeed excellent in wisdom and compassion, ask his advice just like you wrote here. It might be not necessary to say that you ask his advice for yourself. Just ask what would he think and advise people in such situations.

user10950: Dukha - not getting we want, getting what we don't want, getting what we want then losing it.  
The fact is you don't really know this man is enlightened and it doesn't even really matter whether he is or not. Sounds to me more like he exudes confidence and charisma which is always attractive. Confident people attract people like flies to shit. 
You have two choices -
1)forget it and get on with your life. 
2)try to hook up with him.    Number two obviously involves some risk, risk of rejection, risk of falling in love then being heart broken etc but you never know unless you try. 

user8157: If he is really enlightened, he will not be interested in you (romantically). If he is interested in you (romantically), he is not enlightened. The Pali suttas state:

It is impossible for... whose mental fermentations are ended to engage in sexual intercourse.
Sutava Sutta

However, he could show friendship (metta) towards you. True spiritual friends (kalyanamitta) are difficult to find in the world.

11799: <p>Pardon my English .I was lucky enough to meet this man . This man is living Buddha . He is not a monk. Lives simple life. He is such a mystery.  I'm in love with enlightened man.</p>

<p>It's not recent ... it's been years and years... He never claimed that but it's absolutely obvious to me.  He is extremely handsome intelligent and more , so much more. I can feel when he enters the room, there is so much heat or fire. He is shining and he makes everyone around him smile. He has big beautiful eyes they are so sharp it's like he can see through appearances . He is absolutely perfect.  I think about him day and night all the time I cannot forget him. It's my attachment to pleasure or is this real love??? When i think of him i just melt. On the other hand i know he is not interested in me as a woman and will never be. And it drives me nuts. I feel stupid. What to do?</p>

<p>I was planning to tell him that, but am so scared that i'll feel stupid. I suppose it's obvious on my face anyway. But it's been so long and the feeling gets stronger. I should move on i know it, but he is such a perfection... I have no word to describe this man . Just ''ahh''.  How to let go?? or should i keep?</p>
 11762: <p>I think that real love is more like unity, like being the same.</p>

<p>Attachment is more like artificial excitement, desire.</p>

<p>In that sense, love and attachment are different things. Love is like calm warm extending, open and limitless. In that, you discover limitless unity with all beings, all universe. That is immersing deeper in true reality.</p>

<p>Attachment is stimulating your feelings, which is like taking stimulants - it will pass, bringing hangover.</p>

<p>Love does not create problems, attachment does. Love makes wiser, attachment makes vexed and blind.</p>

<p>If a person you love is indeed excellent in wisdom and compassion, ask his advice just like you wrote here. It might be not necessary to say that you ask his advice for yourself. Just ask what would he think and advise people in such situations.</p>
 10950: <p>Dukha - not getting we want, getting what we don't want, getting what we want then losing it.  </p>

<p>The fact is you don't really know this man is enlightened and it doesn't even really matter whether he is or not. Sounds to me more like he exudes confidence and charisma which is always attractive. Confident people attract people like flies to shit. </p>

<p>You have two choices -
1)forget it and get on with your life. 
2)try to hook up with him.    Number two obviously involves some risk, risk of rejection, risk of falling in love then being heart broken etc but you never know unless you try. </p>
 8157: <p>If he is really enlightened, he will not be interested in you (romantically). If he is interested in you (romantically), he is not enlightened. The Pali suttas state:</p>
<blockquote>
<p><em>It is impossible for... whose mental fermentations are ended to engage in sexual intercourse.</em></p>
<p><a href="http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/an/an09/an09.007.than.html" rel="noreferrer"><em>Sutava Sutta</a></em></p>
</blockquote>
<p>However, he could show friendship (<em>metta</em>) towards you. True spiritual friends (<em>kalyanamitta</em>) are difficult to find in the world.</p>
