user17694: Is it true that sakadagami can have sex that is pure so between a wife and husband. how can one gain the attention of a wise man who intends to marry and upholds The Way of Noble Ones.

user11009: It is gradual training.
just try to find a partner who observes five precepts.
I think it is a good start.

user254: If what you want is sex (or a sex partner), you might find it frustrating to be married to "a Buddha".
FYI I take this answer to be advice for choosing a partner, based on the suttas -- although that is arguably not tantra mind you.

user11674: With all due respect, many people overestimate their "achievements". Just because a once-returner has remainders of sensual pleasure & anger, doesn't mean that he/she will act on those. It's of course all really speculation because none of this has been mentioned in the suttas, but I believe a sotapanna and even moreso a sakadagami has such profound level of anatta, that enables them to detach from sensual desire and anger quickly.
A Buddha would have no interest in being in a relationship.
Since you also mentioned that you are a misanthrop, I doubt that you achieved higher states because misanthropy is a generalized hatred towards human beings.
With regards to sex I guess no one can give you a definite answer because humans are way too complex, have different wants & preferences in different life periods, and also their personal attitudes (and former experiences) can influence their relationship life & sexual life. 
If you seek for a more loving relationship, make sure to look for a person who has somewhat same interests and goals as you do, and ideally both should practise Buddhism (or some other spiritual endeavor).

17694: <p>Is it true that sakadagami can have sex that is pure so between a wife and husband. how can one gain the attention of a wise man who intends to marry and upholds The Way of Noble Ones.</p>
 11009: <p>It is gradual training.
just try to find a partner who observes five precepts.
I think it is a good start.</p>
 254: <p>If what you want is sex (or a sex partner), you might find it frustrating to be married to "a Buddha".</p>

<p>FYI I take <a href="https://buddhism.stackexchange.com/a/7760/254">this answer</a> to be advice for choosing a partner, based on the suttas -- although that is arguably not <a href="/questions/tagged/tantra" class="post-tag" title="show questions tagged &#39;tantra&#39;" rel="tag">tantra</a> mind you.</p>
 11674: <p>With all due respect, many people overestimate their "achievements". Just because a once-returner has remainders of sensual pleasure &amp; anger, doesn't mean that he/she will act on those. It's of course all really speculation because none of this has been mentioned in the suttas, but I believe a sotapanna and even moreso a sakadagami has such profound level of anatta, that enables them to detach from sensual desire and anger quickly.</p>

<p>A Buddha would have no interest in being in a relationship.</p>

<p>Since you also mentioned that you are a misanthrop, I doubt that you achieved higher states because misanthropy is a generalized hatred towards human beings.</p>

<p>With regards to sex I guess no one can give you a definite answer because humans are way too complex, have different wants &amp; preferences in different life periods, and also their personal attitudes (and former experiences) can influence their relationship life &amp; sexual life. </p>

<p>If you seek for a more loving relationship, make sure to look for a person who has somewhat same interests and goals as you do, and ideally both should practise Buddhism (or some other spiritual endeavor).</p>
