user16320: I have been going through this dilemma for almost a year now in choosing a meditation object..
I only wish to take one meditation object.The reason being i maintain this object through out the day and i gather momentum with it.I noticed if i practice two meditations even if it's very short i lose momentum with my previous one.I think because i've inclined the mind towards one object so when it switches i am not developing much concentration.
The main problem i have is i really love and enjoy anapanasati.Piti and sukha are quite developed so i enjoy it very much and can sit longer. I can gather momentum,its relatively easy to turn my attention to the breath through out the day..now here's the bad part... MY EXTERNAL situations in life just seem bleak,unfriendly,uninspiring,lonely,dull i start getting emptier and emptier like less socialising less entertainments moving towards like a letting go type of life it's freeing and a relief  except nobody is friendly around me.Like things are just DRY and uninspiring around me.
On the other hand when i practice Brahmaviharas,the result are immediate and everything around me is great,people are friendly,i feel protected from harm,pleasant situations.HOWEVER,i don't really prefer this meditation object because it's tiring and i can't sustain it through out the day repeating phrases.Its tiring basically.Also it's not as still as anapanasati which i prefer but if i don't practice the brahmaviharas life just gets very bleak very fast.When i do practice even for 5 minutes everythings just annoyingly great and sugary sweet.Its really wearing me out trying to choose.
Should i just ignore being afraid of unpleasant situations and emptiness/seclusion and incline the mind towards the breath which i know i can make progress or should i just do brahamaviharas and keep everything around me happy?
Thanks

user16297: I don't recall anywhere in the EBT (early buddhist texts) where the Buddha encouraged people to only do one type of meditation, to the exclusion of all others. 
Check out the sutta excerpt AN 9.1 for example, where 4 of the most common meditations are mentioned (near bottom of article)
https://notesonthedhamma.blogspot.com/2019/05/the-four-guardian-meditations-where-from.html
The 4bv (brahmaviharas) and metta, can be done in a way where its not tiring at all. 
If you can do 16 APS (anapana) in a way that produces bliss, piti, sukha, etc, then you should be able to adjust your metta practice to be just as comfortable. 

user-1: Householder Akashad, interested,
to gain path it is required to develop fist a situation/conncentration of access-possibility and therefore one of the ten Recollections are recommended whereas the first six, listed there, are best used by those who have not left home yet, not really living a Yogies life. They also provide with the training to be devoted toward the very basics.
The Brahmaviharas, althought beloved, actually require to have gained integrity since if not, if not having reached the path, they might work fine for very hypocratical development. Remember that the realm of the Brahmas is also the host of very confused mighty beings and all here know in which bad manner the Sublime attitudes can be use even very destructive, deluded "creater" dwell there.
Contemplating, meditating, in extensive manners, on death, the ugly of the body, anapana, are already very advanced and would not fit well into normal aspirations of householder, althought very effective, get soon in conflict with gains in the world.
The last, Recollection of peace, is then really only recommended for those who had already gained a view on Nibbana because otherwise they would develop wrong liberation even further.
So again, the usual meditations, which also secure right basic approach for those living in and outwardly as householder are the first six, the seek after borderlands and visit them much, inwardly but good if also outwardly, to gain a base for ones recollection and maintain it. When time is right, then things get broadened by there previous cases.
General worthy to note is that a Yogi or one desire for such, would devoted approach a skilled monk, an meditation teacher, having payed respect, made offerings, one would ask for ones kammatthana (working place, object) and then, individual adviced, follow it. So the answer, as a whole, should be seen as an approach to consider good, better and proper ways to be given a blessed path. At least it's a matter of responsibility to look out whether on has basic right view, since with wrong view, what ever effort, leads to wrong release and meditation on improper base can be all then harmfull, even to ever gain right view which is not gained by meditation, but by hearing the Dhamma while dvelling in borderlands, proper attention.
A possible extended answer as well as given space for further questions and discussion can be given found here: [Q&A] Help Me Choose which meditation i Should do Anapanasati or Brahmaviharas?
May you and others always make proper choices to find the way to real happiness for themselves with ease.
(Note that this is not given for trade, exchange, stacks or entertaining binding to world, but as exit for higher and beyond)

user8157: "Jhana" itself is a "Brahma realm" therefore the mind should have buoyancy & metta if it has developed genuine "piti & sukha". This "metta" is from & the same as the natural development of love & non-judging required for self-development of Anapanasati. In other words, there is no need to give up Anapanasati to develop metta. The self-directed love towards oneself required for developing Anapanasati should also naturally manifest outwardly externally. This said, viewing the world with brightness & buoyancy will not change the general stupidity & bleakness of the world. If the mind has metta plus wisdom, it views the external world like a comedy movie - 'A Ship Of Fools'. Since a mind of wisdom has no unrealistic expectations towards the world, it has no reason to have hatred. Non-hatred is metta.

user12022: By all means remain with Anapannasati. First of all, it is foundational. Listening to your story, it sounds as though your practice is trying to correct itself. The Anapannasati will make you more sociable as an end result, but at your current practice you are still retreating into yourself. It's the cultivation of equanimity  that will be crucial, as always. Hang in there. Been there, done that.

"And furthermore, with the fading of rapture, he remains equanimous,
  mindful, & alert, and senses pleasure with the body. He enters &
  remains in the third jhana, of which the Noble Ones declare,
  'Equanimous & mindful, he has a pleasant abiding.' He permeates and
  pervades, suffuses and fills this very body with the pleasure divested
  of rapture, so that there is nothing of his entire body unpervaded
  with pleasure divested of rapture." — AN 5.28


user43: Brahmaviharas is a lower type of meditation than Anapanasati. In Brahmaviharas you use your intellect, to make up suggestions or narratives, that condition your point of view a certain way. In Anapanasati you don't use your intellect to generate anything, you just let go of hangups and let them dissolve. Anapanasati is more direct.
The Buddha said, we don't have to rush to finish the with-intellect meditation and jump to the direct. In fact, he said we should max out the first type until we had enough of it at which point it would seem too artificial. I think that's exactly where you are at. 
So at this point it makes sense for you to do Anapanasati. However, it sounds like you misunderstand what that means. Anapanasati is not just watching your breath and disconnecting from the world. It is using the breath as a focal point for directly seeing your mind, and cutting through any negative thoughts that assault you.
The end result is that you come back to a fresh open mind, as if you have just awoke.

16320: <p>I have been going through this dilemma for almost a year now in choosing a meditation object..</p>

<p>I only wish to take one meditation object.The reason being i maintain this object through out the day and i gather momentum with it.I noticed if i practice two meditations even if it's very short i lose momentum with my previous one.I think because i've inclined the mind towards one object so when it switches i am not developing much concentration.</p>

<p>The main problem i have is i really love and enjoy anapanasati.Piti and sukha are quite developed so i enjoy it very much and can sit longer. I can gather momentum,its relatively easy to turn my attention to the breath through out the day..now here's the bad part... MY EXTERNAL situations in life just seem bleak,unfriendly,uninspiring,lonely,dull i start getting emptier and emptier like less socialising less entertainments moving towards like a letting go type of life it's freeing and a relief  except nobody is friendly around me.Like things are just DRY and uninspiring around me.</p>

<p>On the other hand when i practice Brahmaviharas,the result are immediate and everything around me is great,people are friendly,i feel protected from harm,pleasant situations.HOWEVER,i don't really prefer this meditation object because it's tiring and i can't sustain it through out the day repeating phrases.Its tiring basically.Also it's not as still as anapanasati which i prefer but if i don't practice the brahmaviharas life just gets very bleak very fast.When i do practice even for 5 minutes everythings just annoyingly great and sugary sweet.Its really wearing me out trying to choose.</p>

<p>Should i just ignore being afraid of unpleasant situations and emptiness/seclusion and incline the mind towards the breath which i know i can make progress or should i just do brahamaviharas and keep everything around me happy?</p>

<p>Thanks</p>
 16297: <p>I don't recall anywhere in the EBT (early buddhist texts) where the Buddha encouraged people to only do one type of meditation, to the exclusion of all others. </p>

<p>Check out the sutta excerpt AN 9.1 for example, where 4 of the most common meditations are mentioned (near bottom of article)
<a href="https://notesonthedhamma.blogspot.com/2019/05/the-four-guardian-meditations-where-from.html" rel="nofollow noreferrer">https://notesonthedhamma.blogspot.com/2019/05/the-four-guardian-meditations-where-from.html</a></p>

<p>The 4bv (brahmaviharas) and metta, can be done in a way where its not tiring at all. 
If you can do 16 APS (anapana) in a way that produces bliss, piti, sukha, etc, then you should be able to adjust your metta practice to be just as comfortable. </p>
 -1: <p>Householder Akashad, interested,</p>

<p>to gain path it is required to develop fist a situation/conncentration of access-possibility and therefore one of the ten <a href="http://zugangzureinsicht.org/html/index-subject_en.html#recollections" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Recollections</a> are recommended whereas the first six, listed there, are best used by those who have not left home yet, not really living a Yogies life. They also provide with the training to be devoted toward the very basics.</p>

<p>The Brahmaviharas, althought beloved, actually require to have gained integrity since if not, if not having reached the path, they might work fine for very hypocratical development. Remember that the realm of the Brahmas is also the host of very confused mighty beings and all here know in which bad manner the Sublime attitudes can be use even very destructive, deluded "creater" dwell there.</p>

<p>Contemplating, meditating, in extensive manners, on death, the ugly of the body, anapana, are already very advanced and would not fit well into normal aspirations of householder, althought very effective, get soon in conflict with gains in the world.</p>

<p>The last, Recollection of peace, is then really only recommended for those who had already gained a view on Nibbana because otherwise they would develop wrong liberation even further.</p>

<p>So again, the usual meditations, which also secure right basic approach for those living in and outwardly as householder are the first six, the <a href="http://sangham.net/index.php/topic,8884.msg16105.html#msg16105" rel="nofollow noreferrer">seek after borderlands</a> and visit them much, inwardly but good if also outwardly, to gain a base for ones recollection and maintain it. When time is right, then things get broadened by there previous cases.</p>

<p>General worthy to note is that a Yogi or one desire for such, would devoted approach a skilled monk, an meditation teacher, having payed respect, made offerings, one would ask for ones kammatthana (working place, object) and then, individual adviced, follow it. So the answer, as a whole, should be seen as an approach to consider good, better and proper ways to be given a blessed path. At least it's a matter of responsibility to look out whether on has basic right view, since with wrong view, what ever effort, leads to wrong release and meditation on improper base can be all then harmfull, even to ever gain right view which is not gained by meditation, but by hearing the Dhamma while dvelling in borderlands, proper attention.</p>

<p>A possible extended answer as well as given space for further questions and discussion can be given found here: <a href="http://sangham.net/index.php/topic,9318.msg19050.html#msg19050" rel="nofollow noreferrer">[Q&amp;A] Help Me Choose which meditation i Should do Anapanasati or Brahmaviharas?</a></p>

<p>May you and others always make proper choices to find the way to real happiness for themselves with ease.</p>

<p><em>(Note that this is not given for trade, exchange, stacks or entertaining binding to world, but as exit for higher and beyond)</em></p>
 8157: <p>"Jhana" itself is a "Brahma realm" therefore the mind should have buoyancy &amp; metta if it has developed genuine "piti &amp; sukha". This "metta" is from &amp; the same as the natural development of love &amp; non-judging required for self-development of Anapanasati. In other words, there is no need to give up Anapanasati to develop metta. The self-directed love towards oneself required for developing Anapanasati should also naturally manifest outwardly externally. This said, viewing the world with brightness &amp; buoyancy will not change the general stupidity &amp; bleakness of the world. If the mind has metta plus wisdom, it views the external world like a comedy movie - '<em>A Ship Of Fools</em>'. Since a mind of wisdom has no unrealistic expectations towards the world, it has no reason to have hatred. Non-hatred is metta.</p>
 12022: <p>By all means remain with Anapannasati. First of all, it is foundational. Listening to your story, it sounds as though your practice is trying to correct itself. The Anapannasati will make you more sociable as an end result, but at your current practice you are still retreating into yourself. It's the cultivation of equanimity  that will be crucial, as always. Hang in there. Been there, done that.</p>

<blockquote>
  <p>"And furthermore, with the fading of rapture, he remains equanimous,
  mindful, &amp; alert, and senses pleasure with the body. He enters &amp;
  remains in the third jhana, of which the Noble Ones declare,
  'Equanimous &amp; mindful, he has a pleasant abiding.' He permeates and
  pervades, suffuses and fills this very body with the pleasure divested
  of rapture, so that there is nothing of his entire body unpervaded
  with pleasure divested of rapture." — <a href="https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/an/an05/an05.028.than.html" rel="nofollow noreferrer">AN 5.28</a></p>
</blockquote>
 43: <p>Brahmaviharas is a lower type of meditation than Anapanasati. In Brahmaviharas you use your intellect, to make up suggestions or narratives, that condition your point of view a certain way. In Anapanasati you don't use your intellect to generate anything, you just let go of hangups and let them dissolve. Anapanasati is more direct.</p>

<p>The Buddha said, we don't have to rush to finish the with-intellect meditation and jump to the direct. In fact, he said we should max out the first type until we had enough of it at which point it would seem too artificial. I think that's exactly where you are at. </p>

<p>So at this point it makes sense for you to do Anapanasati. However, it sounds like you misunderstand what that means. Anapanasati is not just watching your breath and disconnecting from the world. It is using the breath as a focal point for directly seeing your mind, and cutting through any negative thoughts that assault you.</p>

<p>The end result is that you come back to a fresh open mind, as if you have just awoke.</p>
