user21337: I do manage to keep my self calm at times. But lately i feel i can't control the bubbling anger within me. I keep lashing out over small things. Sometimes even the smallest things can annoy me. I have tried breathing techniques and i must say that they are very useful in keeping self in check but it makes me very restless or like being sap out of energy. If anyone can give me advice i be grateful for it.

user13992: Keeping yourself calm is clinging to an illusion of control of what comes up in your mind. Nobody can do that. It's like there is no way that after reading "don't think of a white rabbit" you can stop yourself of thinking of one.
Instead, try to observe the emotion/thought arising in your mind and just let it happen without judgment or attaching other thoughts to that arising. You will "see" that it's generally not the initial emotion arising that makes you lash out, but secondary thoughts you attach to this "train of thought".
Try to just let the initial "locomotive" arise and dissipate without judging yourself for lack of control. Control over thought is an illusion.
The purpose of meditation is not to "stop thinking" but to learn to see that there are spaces between arising thoughts, and to make the duration of those spaces longer by experiencing that thought is not a constant "stream" but more like a "dripping tap". It is only when you attach thoughts to the initial one that you open the "floodline".
Hope this helps.

user13709: The calmness of a lake in the morning is buffeted by the afternoon wind.
Serenity lies deeper, below the angry winds:

SN1.71:3.2: When anger’s incinerated there is no sorrow.
SN1.71:3.3: O deity, anger has a poisoned root
SN1.71:3.4: and a honey tip.

To let go of anger, stop holding the honey tip.
To let go of the honey tip:

MN62:3.2: “Rāhula, you should truly see any kind of form at all—past, future, or present; internal or external; coarse or fine; inferior or superior; far or near: all form—with right understanding: ‘This is not mine, I am not this, this is not my self.’”

That is not easy, but give it time, space and diligence.

21337: <p>I do manage to keep my self calm at times. But lately i feel i can't control the bubbling anger within me. I keep lashing out over small things. Sometimes even the smallest things can annoy me. I have tried breathing techniques and i must say that they are very useful in keeping self in check but it makes me very restless or like being sap out of energy. If anyone can give me advice i be grateful for it.</p>
 13992: <p>Keeping yourself calm is clinging to an illusion of control of what comes up in your mind. Nobody can do that. It's like there is no way that after reading &quot;don't think of a white rabbit&quot; you can stop yourself of thinking of one.</p>
<p>Instead, try to observe the emotion/thought arising in your mind and just let it happen without judgment or attaching other thoughts to that arising. You will &quot;see&quot; that it's generally not the initial emotion arising that makes you lash out, but secondary thoughts you attach to this &quot;train of thought&quot;.</p>
<p>Try to just let the initial &quot;locomotive&quot; arise and dissipate without judging yourself for lack of control. Control over thought is an illusion.</p>
<p>The purpose of meditation is not to &quot;stop thinking&quot; but to learn to see that there are spaces between arising thoughts, and to make the duration of those spaces longer by experiencing that thought is not a constant &quot;stream&quot; but more like a &quot;dripping tap&quot;. It is only when you attach thoughts to the initial one that you open the &quot;floodline&quot;.</p>
<p>Hope this helps.</p>
 13709: <p>The calmness of a lake in the morning is buffeted by the afternoon wind.
Serenity lies deeper, below the angry winds:</p>
<blockquote>
<p><a href="https://suttacentral.net/sn1.71/en/sujato#sn1.71:3.2" rel="nofollow noreferrer">SN1.71:3.2</a>: When anger’s incinerated there is no sorrow.<br />
<a href="https://suttacentral.net/sn1.71/en/sujato#sn1.71:3.3" rel="nofollow noreferrer">SN1.71:3.3</a>: O deity, anger has a poisoned root<br />
<a href="https://suttacentral.net/sn1.71/en/sujato#sn1.71:3.4" rel="nofollow noreferrer">SN1.71:3.4</a>: and a honey tip.</p>
</blockquote>
<p>To let go of anger, stop holding the honey tip.</p>
<p>To let go of the honey tip:</p>
<blockquote>
<p><a href="https://suttacentral.net/mn62/en/sujato#mn62:3.2" rel="nofollow noreferrer">MN62:3.2</a>: “Rāhula, you should truly see any kind of form at all—past, future, or present; internal or external; coarse or fine; inferior or superior; far or near: <em>all</em> form—with right understanding: ‘This is not mine, I am not this, this is not my self.’”</p>
</blockquote>
<p>That is not easy, but give it time, space and diligence.</p>
