user1015: As a Buddhist, I believe devotion to mothers is very important if we want to have a good life. Since I was child I followed my mother's instructions until I became an adult.  This included getting married and having a child.
Now that I'm an adult, I think I need to become more independent, and to make my own decisions, both for myself and my son. However, my mother is very upset and thinks I’m arrogant because I’m no longer follow her rules.
Am I wrong if I create my own rules for my life? Am I a very bad daughter?

user8157: In Dhamma, the Dhamma sets the rules. If both you & your mother are following the Buddhist teachings, you should be in agreement. 

This is was said by the Lord… Bhikkhus, these three kinds of sons are found existing in the world. What three? The superior kind, the
  similar kind, and the inferior kind. Iti 74

But anyone who rouses his unbelieving mother & father, settles & establishes them in conviction; rouses his unvirtuous mother & father,
  settles & establishes them in virtue; rouses his stingy mother &
  father, settles & establishes them in generosity; rouses his foolish
  mother & father, settles & establishes them in discernment: To this
  extent one pays & repays one’s mother & father. AN 2.32


1015: <p>As a Buddhist, I believe devotion to mothers is very important if we want to have a good life. Since I was child I followed my mother's instructions until I became an adult.  This included getting married and having a child.</p>

<p>Now that I'm an adult, I think I need to become more independent, and to make my own decisions, both for myself and my son. However, my mother is very upset and thinks I’m arrogant because I’m no longer follow her rules.</p>

<p>Am I wrong if I create my own rules for my life? Am I a very bad daughter?</p>
 8157: <p>In Dhamma, the Dhamma sets the rules. If both you &amp; your mother are following the Buddhist teachings, you should be in agreement. </p>

<blockquote>
  <p><em>This is was said by the Lord… Bhikkhus, these three kinds of sons are found existing in the world. What three? The superior kind, the
  similar kind, and the inferior kind. Iti 74</em></p>
  
  <hr>
  
  <p><em>But anyone who rouses his unbelieving mother &amp; father, settles &amp; establishes them in conviction; rouses his unvirtuous mother &amp; father,
  settles &amp; establishes them in virtue; rouses his stingy mother &amp;
  father, settles &amp; establishes them in generosity; rouses his foolish
  mother &amp; father, settles &amp; establishes them in discernment: To this
  extent one pays &amp; repays one’s mother &amp; father. AN 2.32</em></p>
</blockquote>
