my wife just got a promotion and a 10 % raise . i should be ecstatic for what this means for our family and financial future , but it 's hard to not let my selfishness and ego get in the way , and think about how she 's been more successful than me . we 're currently in the same industry . maybe you can observe what she 's doing and use that to advance in the industry as well . that 's a fair point . but we do different jobs , just in the same industry . so i could n't necessarily learn from her , but she 's close enough to what i do , that i still subconsciously compare ourselves , even though i should n't . i know this will all pass in a few days , hopefully . but in the meantime , i hate that i have to actively not be passive aggressive towards her , when i should just be happy . i 'd be worried about having these kinds of feelings towards your wife .
The wife's career success and promotion triggered feelings of jealousy.