my mom said some pretty offensive things to me while my dad was in hospice . it 's hard to forgive her for them . sometimes people say things they do n't mean when their angry . maybe you should just let it go . her personality is pretty direct so i have gotten used to her being offensive . this time it was more personal so it 's harder to let it go . well , you both have the same blood , so i would advise just to let bygones be bygones .
The person's ability to understand and accept their mom's personality as direct, even when she says offensive things.