i 'm scared to show love or get close in a relationship . i once mistook pity and infatuation for love and ended up being miserable . am i gon na let that happen again ? hell no oh that 's terrible . i would n't shut it all out though , you could miss out on someone great . not all of it of course , you 're right . but she 's got ta bring something to the table before i go all in ... ca n't deal with that damaged goods crap anymore yeah you are right . better to take things slow and figure out what they are all about first .
Past experiences with people who had emotional baggage or trauma.