Life around Newtown, Conn., goes on, but reminders are everywhere MONROE, Conn. - Little girls hopped out of SUVs and skipped up the steps to the Connecticut Dance! studio. They slipped on black leotards, petal-pink tights and slippers, and padded off with giggling friends to ballet, jazz and tap classes. Some of the tiny dancers wore green ribbons, the favorite color of slain first-grade teacher Victoria Soto, or had scrawled the names of dead students on their wrists. Some arrived from funerals, having lost close friends, karate club and soccer teammates, fellow Daisy Girl Scouts and Tiger Cub Scouts. Twenty children have gone missing not just from Sandy Hook Elementary School, but from the intricate network of childhood activities that connect suburban Newtown. In the weeks ahead, as anguished families resume their schedules and social lives, they will be repeatedly reminded of those missing faces, their sorrow testing the daily routines that bind them. None of the dancers' classmates were killed at Sandy Hook on Dec. 14. But the owner, Andrea Stratford - Miss Andrea to the children - has a 5-year-old son, Luke, who saw his teacher's aide after she was shot in the foot. Stratford's husband, Dennis, who works for the Newtown Board of Education, rushed to the school to make sure Luke had escaped the carnage, and then stayed to help the first responders. At first, Stratford wasn't sure when to reopen her school. She has taught dance for 23 years, long enough to line the walls with annual recital photos. She consulted her 10 instructors. "They were clearly distraught and couldn't really put on a front and do dance class," Stratford said. She went to see a grief counselor at the middle school in Newtown, who advised that routine gives children a sense of safety. So she reopened Dec. 17, three days after the rampage. Attendance dipped the first few days and then picked up. She was relieved. "I don't want them to be afraid," Stratford said. Life needs to be normal because that's all they have. Elyse Scholl, 34, brought her 6-year-old daughter, Marisa, to ballet and tap class a couple days later. The family moved to Newtown from Michigan just six months ago, but they already feel connected to the community. Marisa, who goes to Middle Gate Elementary School, is a Daisy Girl Scout, and other girls in her troop are fine. But her mother knows that eight Daisy Scouts from the Sandy Hook troop are among the 12 girls who were killed, including Charlotte Bacon, daughter of their troop leader. Two of the girls played on Marisa's youth soccer team. The father of one, Caroline Previdi, coached the team. Scholl has not told Marisa about her dead teammates. Fall soccer season has ended, and Marisa won't see the team again until spring. This month, Scholl took her to Newtown Youth Academy, which stayed open after the shooting to provide arts, crafts and sports activities for children. "She jumped right into a soccer game," said Scholl, who found solace with adult friends. Another youth soccer coach, James Belden, said the town of 28,000 was so tightly knit that almost every family felt the effects. "There's only 2 degrees of separation in Newtown," said Belden, whose 5-year-old niece was at Sandy Hook during the shooting. If you don't know someone, someone you know does. That's why he and some others formed Newtown United as a grass-roots group to help reduce gun violence. Many members are parents who know one another from the soccer field and grocery store, he said, and being together gave them purpose. They've set up a Twitter account and a Facebook page, organized a committee "for sensible gun legislation," and are considering a course of action. "We have a shared grief," Belden said. First ... there was a shock and awe and a feeling of isolation. It's good to come together. Some parents said their children were too scared to go out in the days after the shooting, even to karate class. Barbara Moscova, 41, of nearby Trumbull let her 12-year-old daughter, Maia, decide whether she was ready to dance again. During the drive to Stratford's studio, Maia asked probing questions about the shooting.