Afghan troops get a lesson in American cultural ignorance To address a laundry list of cross-cultural pitfalls - and to avoid their potentially fatal consequences - the Afghan Ministry of Defense this month introduced a pamphlet called "Cultural Understanding - A Guide to Understanding Coalition Cultures." The 18-page training guide, written in Dari, will soon be distributed to Afghan military leaders across the country. The booklet will be taught in three one-hour sessions to all soldiers as well as new recruits. It is intended to "strengthen our understanding of our [NATO] counterpart," according to am English translation of the pamphlet that was provided to The Washington Post. But in doing so, it also reveals seemingly minor - and rarely acknowledged - cultural faux pas that have created palpable tension between the two forces. "Please do not get offended if you see a NATO member blowing his/her nose in front of you," the guide instructs. "When Coalition members get excited, they may show their excitement by patting one another on the back or the behind," it explains. They may even do this to you if they are proud of the job you've done. Once again, they don't mean to offend you. And another tip: "When someone feels comfortable in your presence, they may even put their feet on their own desk while speaking with you. They are by no means trying to offend you. They simply don't know or have forgotten the Afghan custom. Pointing the soles of one's shoes at someone is considered a grievous insult in Afghanistan. The guide also warns Afghan soldiers that Western troops might wink at them or inquire about their female relatives or expose their private parts while showering - all inappropriate actions by Afghan standards. As NATO winds down its mission here, the "Cultural Understanding" guide marks the Afghan army's most significant effort to identify long-standing points of contention and confusion between the two forces. Despite those points, the coalition is described glowingly, often in florid language. The United States is "a little like a lovely carpet. Different colored strands combine to make a beautiful whole. NATO's coalition is described as a "work of art." The task of laying out a set of commonly misinterpreted behaviors fell to Brig. Gen. Mohammad Amin Nasib, the bearish, affable head of religious and ideological affairs at the Ministry of Defense, and his senior military adviser from the NATO side, Michael W. Gore, a mild-mannered Navy commander and chaplain. "Some would argue that we're too late, but any time is the right time to promote understanding of each other's culture," Gore said. The Golden Rule goes a long way in any culture in helping to foster tolerance and understanding. Nasib wasn't quite as buoyant. "Unfortunately, it's too late," he said. It should have been done early.