Five signs the guy you're dating is emotionally unavailable Heartbroken. I SPENT most of last year emotionally invested in someone, thinking it would lead to real, lasting romance. True to my nature, I ignored every red flag, often reading into texts and playing up situations in my mind, assuming that the other person was on the same page. I painted pretty pictures of us moving to Hawaii together and living happily ever after with our golden retrievers and surf boards. Then suddenly it all changed and I finally realised that I was head over heels in the deep sea of lust land with an emotionally unavailable man. Here are five signs that you may be attracted to an emotionally unavailable person. You give more than you receive. When dating or investing your time with an emotionally unavailable person you may find yourself giving a lot more than you get. Whether you buy gifts, pay for dinner ALL the time, or they never say thank you, you are really never going to see the return on your investment. Do not wait around hoping they will change and suddenly shower you with flowers, love and attention. Do yourself a favour and move on quickly. They don't show up for you. Whether you have a work event, a promotion to celebrate or a book release party - if the person you care about isn't showing up to support you, then they're not as into you as you are into them. People who really care will make it happen and show up for you no matter what. He's not interested in talking. They are poor communicators. Consider it a red flag if your love interest doesn't pick up the phone or give you a clear answer as to when you will see them again. Another one is if they communicate with you purely by text. They are full of excuses and indecisive. If you try to make plans with an emotionally unavailable person, it's like trying to catch a fish with your bare hands - slippery and frustrating. They may be busy, tired, stressed overworked, or broke ... Whatever the reason, their excuses mean they are not open to long lasting love or an intimate connection at this time. Move along. They talk about their past A LOT. If you find yourself in love with an emotionally unavailable person, red flags pop up constantly. The one most people skip over is the way and how often they talk about their exes. If there is any animosity, anger or sadness surrounding their past relationships, they haven't healed.