8.11.13 Issue - NYTimes.com I remember when the first "midcareer opt-out" article was published: I had just had two kids and started a national nonprofit and The Times was glorifying women who chose to leave the work force. In the 10 years since, I've taken a lot of grief from my elders for pursuing my career - but everything has worked out. I've had hundreds of conversations with female professionals, lingering after conference calls have ended to discuss "the juggle." I tell everyone what my husband says when he opens a cabinet and something falls on his head: "I didn't marry her for her housekeeping." As a 22-year-old, I find this article disheartening. Call me naïve, but when it comes to work-life balance, I don't think there is a right answer. I think there are many right answers. Women everywhere deserve that peace of mind. These mothers have made parenting more stressful than it is. Chaperoning every field trip, serving on every parents" association, fancy parties, etc. - this is too much, and I guarantee you the kids are going to forget half of it. Just put the kids in the backyard and let them play. It's hard to feel sympathy for these mothers who choose to make it harder than it needs to be and then complain that they're too tired. Men need to do their fair share, but some of these moms could take it down two notches. BRYAN T. CALVIN, Dallas, posted on nytimes.com A recent study found that men who have stay-at-home wives also bring a different outlook to the office. Researchers found that compared to men in more equal arrangements, these husbands "are more likely to exhibit attitudes, beliefs and behaviors that are harmful to women in the workplace." . . . They more frequently deny promotions to qualified women, view women in the workplace unfavorably. . . . We like to endlessly discuss the impact that women's choices about how they solve the work/family equation has on children, the workplace and even the feminist movement. But rarely do we discuss the way choices at home also mold men. BRYCE COVERT, on thenation.com Most striking about this follow-up to the "Opt-Out Generation" is the terrible husbands these women have chosen. @jamilsmith I commend the efforts of the millionaires and billionaires in bringing aid to Africa, but Santa Clara and San Mateo counties, near where some of their companies are headquartered, have a combined homeless population of almost 10,000 people. Homeless encampments are being forcibly dismantled, some within miles of Facebook's headquarters, and Palo Alto's City Council recently passed an ordinance making it illegal to live in your car. Africans can certainly use the help, but $82,000 for a rental of a Boeing 737 surely could have been put to better use, perhaps to aid the homeless people in their own backyards. I was in Marlow, Okla., May 30, 2013, when the two tornadoes struck. Gary England and his excellent weather team helped save me, my fiancé and our family once again. He has been an important part of our lives. Why do we stay? It's our home. But with Gary retiring this year from his position as chief meteorologist, we are looking to move. Although not to the coasts, with their hurricanes and tsunamis. We won't live where the earth moves under your feet. Where will we go? We do not have the answer to that yet. SUSAN PARK, Marlow, Okla., posted on nytimes.com