Vanesa Lachey didn't feel immediate connection to first baby bump LOS ANGELES, Nov. 19 (UPI) -- Vanessa Lachey didn't immediately feel a connection when she became pregnant with her first child. The 34-year-old television personality admitted as much in an interview for American Baby's December/January issue. Vancessa told the magazine she felt ashamed about the initial lack of love, but asserted to readers such feelings are normal. "While pregnant with my son, Camden, I felt guilty because everyone told me about this love I'd feel, and it wasn't there yet," she recalled. I remember asking [husband] Nick [Lachey], 'Is something wrong with me? I've wanted this my whole life, and I'm forcing myself to have those feelings. "For me, the love really flowed when I found out the baby was a boy," she related. That's when I could finally bond, once I knew 'it' was a him. Vanessa and Nick, 41, are currently expecting their second child, and announced the baby is a girl in July. The television personality acknowledged social media can sometimes cause mothers to feel inadequate, and advised readers to take posts with a grain of salt "With social media, people share mostly their best moments," she said. Don't feel like you're not doing enough when you see a mom posting about making applesauce after you bought it. Ha ha! It's fine! Just for raising a little human being you should be commended. Vancessa and Nick have been together since 2006, and wed in July 2011. Nick was previously married to Jessica Simpson from 2002 to 2006, and recently told Jenny McCarthy on Dirty, Sexy, Funny he is glad he and the singer never had children.