The Problem With How We Treat Bipolar Disorder Photo illustration by Daniel Gordon The last time I saw my old self, I was 27 years old and living in Boston. I was doing well in graduate school, had a tight circle of friends and was a prolific creative writer. Married to my high-school sweetheart, I had just had my first child. Back then, my best times were twirling my baby girl under the gloaming sky on a Florida beach and flopping on the bed with my husband - feet propped against the wall - and talking. The future seemed wide open. Photograph from Linda Logan The author in 1980, pregnant with her first child. I don't think there is a particular point at which I can say I became depressed. My illness was insidious, gradual and inexorable. I had a preview of depression in high school, when I spent a couple of years wearing all black, rimming my eyes in kohl and sliding against the walls in the hallways, hoping that no one would notice me. But back then I didn't think it was a very serious problem. The hormonal chaos of having three children in five years, the pressure of working on a Ph.D. dissertation and a genetic predisposition for a mood disorder took me to a place of darkness I hadn't experienced before. Of course, I didn't recognize that right away. Denial is a gauze; willful denial, an opiate. Everyone seemed in league with my delusion. I was just overwhelmed, my family would say. I should get more help with the kids, put off my Ph.D. When I told other young mothers about my bone-wearying fatigue, they rolled their eyes knowingly and mumbled, "Right." But what they didn't realize was that I could scarcely push the stroller to the park, barely summon the breath to ask the store clerk, "Where are the Pampers?" I went from doctor to doctor, looking for the cause. Lab tests for anemia, low blood sugar and hypothyroidism were all negative. Any joy I derived from my children was now conjoined with grief. I couldn't breathe the perfume of their freshly shampooed hair without being seized by the realization that they would not always be under my roof. While stroking their backs, I would mentally fast-forward their lives - noses elongating, tongues sharpening - until I came to their leave-taking, until I reached my death and, ultimately, theirs. I lost my sense of competence. If a colleague remarked on my intelligence, I mentally derided him as being too stupid to know how dumb I was. If someone asked what I did for a living, I would say, "Nothing" - a remarkably effective conversation stopper. I couldn't bear the thought of socializing; one night I jumped out of the car as my husband and I were driving to a party. Despite having these feelings in my mid-30s, when my kids were 8, 5 and 3, I was thriving professionally: I had recently completed my Ph.D. in geography, had just finished co-teaching a semester at M.I.T. as a lecturer and was revising my dissertation on spec for a respected university press. Yet several nights a week, I drove to the reservoir near my home, sat under a tree and, as joggers and their dogs ran past, thought about ending it all. There was a gun shop on the way to my poetry group; I knew exactly where to go when the time came. My day, once broken by naps, gradually turned into lengthy stretches of sleep, punctuated by moments of wakefulness. My husband and I didn't explain to the kids that I was depressed. "Mommy's a little tired today," we would say. A year or so earlier, a therapist told us to tell the children. "But they're just kids," we said. What do they know? "They know," she said. When we eventually spoke to them, my oldest daughter came to me and asked: "Why did you keep it a secret? I thought all mothers were like you. After a few weeks of stopping at the reservoir, as suicide eclipsed all other thoughts, I finally told my husband about my worsening psychic pain. The next day I was hospitalized. It was June 1989. Even though we were living in Boston, we decided I should go to Chicago to work with the psychopharmacologist who, 15 years earlier, restored the health of my father, who had also been hospitalized for depression. As the cab pulled away from our house, I turned and saw three children's hands pressed against the screen of an upstairs window. This is the way the world breaks.