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Posted: 01 February 2010 at 9:35pm
Dear Sister,
With all due respect,i do not wish to learn about any of the messengers of God than what is beyond the Quran.The Quran is perfect, complete and fully detailed.All the details that is required for our salvation is there in the Quran.Anything beyond that, is not necessary for our salvation.It would be hypocritical of me to say that i believe the Quran is sufficient and go to other sources for any kind of guidance.I know Prophet Muhamed was a great prophet like all others before him and that GOD gave him a wonderful character.Now all that knowledge about him in the Quran is sufficient for me.If it wasnt, Quran would have given more details.This is what i believe.I fear idolizing anyone beside GOD and i mean anyone becoz THE ONLY and i mean THE ONLY UNFORGIVABLE SIN if maintained till death is idol worship or assigning partners to GOD.I would like to bring this to your attention that the only one worthy of your full devotion and love is GOD and nobody else.There is no one after ,there is no one before.
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That was my understanding, he's just like any other prophets. But the brother that introduced me to islam said that since "he was the last prophet and for the all mankid" he's special. I never understood that. He's just a messenger. And WHY IS HE INCLUDED IN OUR PRAYERS?? Don't we have to glorify our Creator only?
Edited by Uri S - 02 February 2010 at 8:28am
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God Almighty , the author of the Quran, has told us that every thing in this universe
is under His control. The Quran, being God's final message to the world has to be under
His complete control.
Its Suras, verses, words, letters, numbers, the order of revelation, the order of writing
The student of the Quran will always learn as permitted by the Most Gracious, as only He
Obey God and Obey Muhammed.
Any student of the Quran will object right away to this expression that he/she never heard
Let us find out first if God mentioned Muhammed by name in the Quran. We know, He did,
than 25 times in the Quran, where God ordered us to obey the messenger. Not a
Is this a co-incidnce or a deliberate order?
Only true believers know that everything in God's world is deliberate, nothing is a co-incidence.
"Say, (O Muhammed) "I am no more than a human being like you...." 18:110
God Almighty knowing that the Prophet Muhammed is a human being like us, will live his life and run his business like any human being would. He would make mistakes, get angry, have fears, ...etc. Muhammed the human being was the messenger only because of the message given to him, the QURAN.
Muhammed without the Quran is just another human being like us. God wants it to be very
Obey the messenger is conditional on having the message, the Quran. Obey the messenger because of the message he has, the QURAN. Obey the messenger means to follow his message that is given to him, the QURAN.
Muhammed without the message is just a regular human being, he frowned and turned away when the blind poor man came to him, (See 80:1-11), he feared the people when he was supposed to fear only God, (See 33:37), and he prohibited what he should not prohibit, (See 66:1)
That is why there has never been a single order in the Quran from God,the Most Cognizant to "Obey Muhammed." If we were to obey Muhammed the human being,(not the messenger), we were to frown at the poor, fear the people instead of God and prohibit what God did not. We are required to obey the messenger, because it is the message (QURAN) that made the obedience a requirement, not the person, Muhammed, that made it a requirement.
Those who know Arabic well know that the word (Rasool) in Arabic means both the messenger and the message. So, when God says , obey the (Rasool) , He means both the messenger and the message (QURAN). Both are inseparable. When the messenger, the human being is dead, the true messenger among us becomes the message itself, in this case, the QURAN. God Almighty has called the Quran (Rasool) on many occasions, e.g., 5:15, 11:1-3, 14:1, 27:2, 32:3, 34:6, 42:52, & 65:11.
One great example of the distinction between obeying the messenger (For what he has)
"O wives of the prophet, if any of you commits gross sin, the
Notice the order here for the prophet's wives to obey the Messenger, not their husband
If God would have said, obey Muhammed, it would have made the unconditional
Muhammed the human being was given the great honor of being chosen the final prophet
We, however have to remember not to make any distinction between him and the rest of
YES, we should obey the messenger. Those who accept the Quran accept the order from
When God told Muhammed in the Quran, "Today I completed your religion for you",
It is very interesting to know that God gave us this prophecy in the Quran and told us the messe
"...this is not a fabricated Hadith, this (QURAN) confirms all previous scriptures,
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السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
اللهم صلي على نبينا محمد و على آله و صحبه و سلم
I would like to add more questions and want Haris to answer you.. OK?
2- WHY was every prophet sent just to his people while prophet Muhammad peace be upon him was sent to the whole mankind?
3- Why is his book the Quraan the last book kept from changing?
4- Why does Allah took the covenant all the prophets and messengers from Adam to Jesus, peace be upon him peace be upon him to believe in the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him.
3.81 Behold! God took the covenant of the prophets, saying: "I give you a Book and Wisdom; then comes to you an apostle, confirming what is with you; do ye believe in him and render him help." God said: "Do ye agree, and take this my Covenant as binding on you?" They said: "We agree." He said: "Then bear witness, and I am with you among the witnesses."
5- Why Does Allah make Islam, the LAST message and the ONLY accepted religion his message and you can not be a Muslims until you believe in him?
6- Why is it ONLY prophet Muhammad who will take the BIGGEST shafa' and all people will go to him at the end after going to all of the prophets peace be upon them?Narrated Abu Huraira: We were in the company of the Prophet at a banquet and a cooked (mutton) forearm was set before him, and he used to like it. He ate a morsel of it and said, "I will be the chief of all the people on the Day of Resurrection. Do you know how Allah will gather all the first and the last (people) in one level place where an observer will be able to see (all) of them and they will be able to hear the announcer, and the sun will come near to them. Some People will say: Don't you see, in what condition you are and the state to which you have reached? Why don't you look for a person who can intercede for you with your Lord? Some people will say: Appeal to your father, Adam.' They will go to him and say: 'O Adam! You are the father of all mankind, and Allah created you with His Own Hands, and ordered the angels to prostrate for you, and made you live in Paradise. Will you not intercede for us with your Lord? Don't you see in what (miserable) state we are, and to what condition we have reached?' On that Adam will reply, 'my Lord is so angry as He has never been before and will never be in the future; (besides), He forbade me (to eat from) the tree, but I disobeyed (Him), (I am worried about) myself! Myself! Go to somebody else; go to Noah.' They will go to Noah and say; 'O Noah! You are the first amongst the messengers of Allah to the people of the earth, and Allah named you a thankful slave. Don't you see in what a (miserable) state we are and to what condition we have reached? Will you not intercede for us with your Lord? Noah will reply: 'Today my Lord has become so angry as he had never been before and will never be in the future Myself! Myself! Go to the Prophet (Muhammad). The people will come to me, and I will prostrate myself underneath Allah's Throne. Then I will be addressed: 'O Muhammad! raise your head; intercede, for your intercession will be accepted, and ask (for anything). for you will be given. "
Sahih Bukhari, [60:236]
.... OK answer these and will add more in sha Allah.
Edited by Full of Hopes - 06 February 2010 at 8:26am
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اللهم صلي على نبينا محمد و على آله و صحبه و سلم
To reject the Hadith is to reject the Quran for all practical purposes"Anyone who disobey Allah and His Messenger has wandered off into manifest error." Suratul Ahzaab 33:36
"He who obeys Allah and His Messenger has already achieved a splendid triumph." Suratul Ahzaab 33:71
For the past fourteen centuries Quran and Sunnah have been the twin undisputed sources of Guidance for Muslims. In every
generation, Muslims devoted the best of their minds and talents to their study. They learnt both the words and meanings of the Quran through the Prophet s.a.s and made an unprecedented effort in preserving them for the next generation. The
result: the development of the marvelous � and unparalleled � science of Hadith, one of the brightest aspects of Muslim
What does it mean to believe in a Prophet except to pledge to follow him?Then something happened. During the colonial period, when most of the Muslim world came under the subjugation of the
And so the teachings of the Prophet s.a.s have always guided this Ummah. Nobody, in his right mind, could or did question this practice.
West, some "scholars" arose in places like Egypt (Taha Hussein), India (Abdullah Chakralwi and Ghulam Ahmed Pervaiz)
and Turkey (Zia Gokalp), who began questioning the authenticity and relevance of Hadith. It was not that some genius had
found flaws in the Hadith study that had eluded the entire Ummah for thirteen centuries. It was simply that the pressures
from the dominant Western civilization to conform were to strong for them to withstand. They buckled. Prophetic teachings
and life examples � Hadith � was the obstacle in this process and so it became the target.
Another factor helped them. Today most Muslims, including the vast majority of the Western educated Muslims, have meager knowledge of Hadith, having spent no time in studying even the fundamentals of this vast subject. How many know
the difference between sahih and hassan, or between maudu and daif? The certification process used in hadith transmission? Names of any hadith book produced in the first century Hijrah, or the number of such books? A majority would probably not be able to name even the six principle Hadith books (Sihah Sittah) or know anything about the history of their compilation. Obviously such atmosphere provides a fertile ground for sowing suspicions and doubts.
They sometimes call themselves Ahle Quran or Quranists. This is misleading. For their distinction is not in affirming the Quran, but in rejecting the Hadith. The ideas of munkareen-e-hadith evolve into three mutually contradictory strains.
The first holds that the job of the Prophet s.a.s was only to deliver the Quran. We are to follow only the Quran and nothing else, as were the companions. Further, Hadith is not needed to understand the Quran, which is sufficient for providing guidance.
The second group holds that the Companions were required to follow the Prophet s.a.s but we are not.
The third holds that, in theory, we also have to follow Hadith but we did not receive Hadith through authentic sources and therefore we have to reject all Hadith collections!
Internal contradictions are a hallmark of false ideologies.
How can anyone hold the first position yet profess belief in the Quran while it says:
"And We have sent down unto You the Message so that you may explain clearly to mankind what was sent down to them, and so that they may give thought." Suratan Nahl 16:44
And this:
"Allah did confer a great favor on the Believers when He sent among them a Messenger from among themselves, who rehearses unto them the Signs of Allah, purifies them, instructs them in Scripture, and teaches them Wisdom, whereas previously they had been in plain error." Surah Al-e-Imran 3:164
How can anyone hold the second position (limiting the Prophet hood to 23 years) yet profess belief in the Quran, while it
"We did not send you except as Mercy for everybody in the universe." Suratul Anbiya 21:107
"And We have not sent you (O Mohammad) except as a giver of glad tidings and a warner to all mankind."
Suratus Saba 34:28
The third position seems to have avoided obvious pitfalls, yet in reality it is no different. It agrees that we need Hadith, but then goes on to claim that Allah did not provide what we need for our guidance.
The following are some of the statements normally made by Hadith rejectors.
The Reliability of Sources:
"We accept Allah's Word that He has protected the Quran from corruption, but why should we accept the words of the
Hadith collectors? Are they as infallible as Allah s.w.t?"
This makes you wonder whether the Hadith rejectors realize how we received the Quran. For we have received both the Quran and the Hadith through exactly the same channels. The same people transmitted this as the Word of Allah s.w.t and that as the word of the Prophet s.a.s. Even the verse claiming that the Quran will be protected came to us through the same people. Through what logic can anyone declare that the channels are reliable for the Quran and unreliable for Hadith? On the contrary the Quranic promise of protection must apply to Hadith as well for there is no point in protecting the words but not the meanings of the Quran.
Were Ahadith Written Down For The First Time In The Third Century Of The Hijra?
The very existence of a huge library of Hadith, the only one of its kind among the religious of the world, assures us that our
expectation that Hadith � the embodiment of Prophetic explanation of the Quran � must have been protected is not in vain.
To dismiss all that as later day fabrication requires lots of guts � and equal parts ignorance.
Were ahadith written down for the first time in the third century of Hijra? Not at all. Actually hadith recording and collection
started at the time of the Prophet s.a.s.
Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al 'As r.a sought and was given the permission to write everything he heard from the Prophet s.a.s:
Sayyidina Abdullah ibn Amr s.a.s reports: "I used to write everything I heard from the Messenger s.a.s as I wanted to
preserve it. The Quraish forbade me, saying: 'Do you write everything that you hear [from him] and the Messenger is a
human being who sometimes speaks in anger and joy?' [i.e. he may say something under the influence of emotions that
may not be worth writing.] So I stopped. Then I mentioned this to the Messenger s.a.s. He pointed with his fingers to his
mouth and said: "Write! By the One in Whose Hands is my life! Nothing proceeds from here except the truth." � Abu Dawood, 3161
He produced Sahifa Sadiqa, which contained more than six thousand ahadith.
Anas ibn Malik r.a, who spent ten years in Prophet's household, not only recorded the ahadith but also presented them to the
Prophet s.a.s and got corrections. Abu Hurairah r.a. had many volumes of his collections and even produced smaller compilations for his students. Prominent Hadith scholar Dr. Mustafa Azami has shown in his doctoral thesis that in the first century of Hijra many hundred booklets of hadith were in circulation. By the end of the second century, "by the most conservative estimates there were many thousands."
Off course most of these books do not exist today. They were simply absorbed into the encyclopedic collections that
emerged in the third century. One manuscript from the first century was discovered in this century and published by Dr.Hamidullah. It is Sahifa Hammam ibn Munabbah, who was a disciple of Abu Hurairah r.a. It contains 138 ahadith.
Muhaditheen knew that the ahadith of this Sahifa had been absorbed into Musnad Ahmed and Muslim collections., which
have been published continuously since their third century debut. After the discovery of the original manuscript it was naturally compared with the ahadith in Muslim and Musnad Ahmed that were thought to have come from that Sahifa. And what did they find? There was not an iota of difference between the two. Similarly Mussanaf of Abd Al Razzaq is extant and has been published. As has been Mu'ammar ibn Rashid's al-Jami. The recent appearance of these original manuscripts should bring the most skeptical into the fold of believers.
Salat And Hadith Rejectors
"The Messenger s.a.s may have elaborated on items like mode of salat. Such hadith is probably from the Messenger s.a.s and should be obeyed. But we cannot believe the rest of the ahadith."
The Hadith rejecters have a particularly difficult time explaining how to offer salat if we are to throw away the Hadith.. So
they offer concessions like the one quoted above. But we don't need a favor for Hadith about salat (coming from the same
books and the same narrators who are declared as unreliable). We need an answer to this question.: If the Quran is the only authentic source of Guidance, why did it never explain how to offer salat, although it repeatdly talks about its importance, associating it with eternal success and failure? What would we think of a communication that repeatedly emphasizes a certain act but never explains how to perform it? There are only two possibilities. Either it is a terrible omission (and in that case it cannot be from God) or another source for the how-to information is provided and it is a
terrible mistake for any recipient to ignore that.
Some Hadith rejectors have realized the difficulty of their position on Salat. But they have made a claim that is even more ludicrous, namely that the Quran gives details on how to offer salat. "A Careful reading of the Quran reveals that we are to get our salat from the Masjid al Haram [the continuous practice at Makkah since the time of Abraham]," says one proponent, "specifically the place of Abraham (Muqam-e-Ibrahim)." Let us leave aside all those practical questions about such a fluid answer. Whose salat? When? Are we to follow anyone and everyone we find praying at Maqam-e-Ibrahim. How are those offering salat there to determine the proper way of offering it? How do you resolve their differences? In his enthusiasm in proposing this innovative solution, this proponent even forgot that the Quran says the following about the
salat of mushrikeen (polytheists) at the Masjid al Haram:
"Their prayer at the House of Allah is nothing but whistling and clapping. (its only answer can be) "Taste chastisement because you blasphemed." Suratul Anfal 8:35
The Sahih And The Gospels
"Hadith is the same as the Gospels of Christianity. Indeed the time span between the death of the Messenger and the compilation of the Sahihs was almost the same as that between the departure of Jesus a.s and the compilation of the Bible. How can Muslims accept one and reject the other?"
Regarding the comparison of the Sahih with the Gospels, let's listen to Dr. Hamidullah.
"The compilation of the Gospels, their preservation and transmission from one generation to the other, has not taken place
in the way which governed the books of hadith� We do not know who wrote them, who translated them, and who transmitted them. How were they transferred from the original Aramaic to Greek? Did the scribes make arrangements for a faithful reproduction of the original? The four Gospels are mentioned, for the first time, three hundred years after Christ.
Should we rely on such an unauthentic book in preference to that of Bukhari who prefaces every statement of two lines with
three to nine references?"
"Allah s.w.t has protected only the Quran � not Islam � from corruption."
To say that Allah s.w.t. promised to protect only the Quran but not Islam is being as ridiculous as one can get. Let's ignore the obvious question regarding the point of this Heavenly act. The question is if Islam has been corrupted and its true teachings have been lost, how can anyone claim to be its follower?
Moreover the quran says:
"Anyone who desires something other than Islam as a religion will never have it accepted from him, and in the Hereafter he will among the losers." Surah al-eImran 3:85
How are we to follow the religion acceptable to Allah s.w.t if it was not to be protected?
The Commnts Of Dr. Maurice Bucaille
"Dr. Maurice bucaille finds that Sahih bukhari is as unscientific as the bible"
Dr. Maurice Bucaille earned the admiration of many Muslims because of his study of some scientific phenomena mentioned in
the Quran and his testimony based on that study the Quran must be the book of Allah. However he is not a Hadith scholar
and it is unfair to drag him into this discussion. His account of history of hadith compilation contains many errors, for
example the claim that the first gathering of hadith was performed roughly forty years after Hijra or that no instructions were given regarding hadith collection. He questions about a dozen or so entries in Bukhari that he thinks deal with scientific matters. Even if that criticism were valid, would it be sufficient ground to throw away the 9082 toital entires (2602 unique ahadith) in Bukhari? He himself does not think so for he writes. "
The truth of hadith from a religious point of view, is beyond question."
The Hadith Regarding The Sun But even his criticism is of questionable value. Consider the hadith about the sun: "At sunset the sun protrates itself underneath the Throne and takes permission to rise again, and it is permitted and then a time will come when it be about to prostrate itself�it will seek permission to go on its course� it will be ordered to return whence it has come and so it will rise in the West." His criticism: This implies a notion of a course the sun runs in relation to the earth." Bucaille fails to
understand the real message of this hadith. It was not meant to teach astronomy. It's clear message is that the sun is the slave of Allah, moving always through His Will. The Hadith brings out that message very powerfully so that even the most illiterate bedouin can understand it fully.
Even today astronomers, when calculating the time of sunrise and sunset, use a mathematical model in which the sun revolves around the earth. If that is acceptable for scientific work as it makes calculations easier, why is it questionable when it makes communication easier?
Also there are other ahadith which clearly demonstrate a scientific fact beyond the knowledge of the times but Bucaille has
failed to take notice. For example the hadith about solar eclipse:
"The sun and moon are two signs from the Signs of Allah. They are not eclipsed on account of anyone's death or on account of anyone's birth, but Allah sends them to strike fear in hearts of His servants." Bukhari 990
The eclipse had coincided with the death of the Prophet's s.a.s son. A false prophet would have tried to exploit the occasion.
A fabricated hadith would require scientific knowledge on part of the fabricator that did not exist then.
To reject the Hadith is to reject the Quran for all practical purposes. The idea was concocted as a means of undermining the Quran while on the surface affirming faith in it.
It is time those who were misled by it out ignorance threw away this of our colonial past into the trash bin of history where it belongs.
And whoever seeks a religion other than Isl�m, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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To you two brothers, I advise by the name of Allah and then the name of prophet Muhhamed peace be upon him and the name of the truth.. and the name of brotherhood to repent to Allah/God and be back to His way.. Stop obeying your nafs and Shaytan, cause he will leave you alone on that day and say, keep away from me, I just told you something and you believed me:
14.22 And Satan will say when the matter is decided: "It was God Who gave you a promise of Truth: I too promised, but I failed in my promise to you. I had no authority over you except to call you but ye listened to me: then reproach not me, but reproach your own souls. I cannot listen to your cries, nor can ye listen to mine. I reject your former act in associating me with God. For wrong-doers there must be a grievous penalty."
6.153 Verily, this is My way, leading straight: follow it: follow not (other)
paths: they will scatter you about from His (great) path: thus doth He command you. that ye may be righteous.
Believe me,, it is so easy for us to be mislead if we are away from Allah and his prophet's peace be upon him way.. Just keep asking Allah every prayer to guide you into the truth and keep you on it.
Edited by Full of Hopes - 06 February 2010 at 8:49am
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Salams all,
This is very interesting.
And I have to say I agree with Haris.
Muhammed (pbuh) was a messenger. He had the authority from Allah, as did all prophets from Adam, to spread the truth. No other human being after Muhammed has that authority. So hadiths and sunnahs are, as far as I am concerned, only words of man, not Allah. This is the big difference between Muhammed(pbuh) and scholars etc.
It is not necessary to know what Muhammed's life was like at all. This was not his purpose. We know very little, other than through scriptures, what any of the prophets were like. As messengers it is not necessary. THe fact that they are messengers of Allah is sufficient for us to accept that they are chosen men of Allah. If we cannot accept them on this alone then we show we have little faith in Allah, and that we doubt His word.
TBH any muslim who needs to rely on a hadith spoken of by many conflicting sources shows that they do not trust the Qur'an is perfect and complete. Again I say, Islam does not need to contain a biography of the Prophet(pbuh) THe Qur'an is enough...and I have often said so.
Well done Brother Haris. I commend you for your openness on these matters discussed here.
So sorry FOH, Haris, Uri and myself do not feel we need to repent on the grounds that we follow all messengers, and Allah's word before Muhammed and ending with him when the Qur'an was revealed. We are not being mislead. We follow the Qur'an... it is all that Allah needs us to do.
(scholars are not chosen to be messengers. They are just human like you and me, and they all vary on their ideas.)
some of us are a lot like cement:- all mixed up and permanently set
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
اللهم صلي على نبينا محمد و على آله و صحبه و سلم
Please sister Martha, I know you very well and have so much respect to you.. Please do not reply without having enough knowledge about the post and the author, otherwise Allah will ask you about EVERYTHING. this man Haris REFUSES the whole Hadith and Sunna. Please read his other posts.
I replied to him, just to make sure that everyone here is aware of this BIDA'A (false belief).
Now, I am glad that I did my job of telling people here that this idea of rejecting Hadith is not in Islam at all. NO ONE can say he is a Muslim while he rejects the half of Islam. I do not have enough time for more. I pray that Allah guides the lost.
Edited by Full of Hopes - 06 February 2010 at 1:21pm
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Two homicides in the family
Mike Chew and Alex Monter talk about the same things as do many other newlyweds - buying a bigger house, raising a family.
Mike, a brawny guy with blue eyes and a ponytail, is the dreamer who wants "to have 10 kids, win the lottery and buy an island."
Alex, blond with brown eyes, is the cautious spouse who brings the conversation back to earth. Maybe two kids, she says.
Mike, 37, is a union electrician, glad to be working again after a prolonged period of unemployment. Alex, 36, works as an underwriter at The Hartford.
Their hopes and dreams are intact, despite what Alex calls "the two elephants in the room." By cruel coincidence, each lost siblings to homicide.
Alex's older half-sister, 46-year-old Paige Bennett, was shot and killed by her husband of three weeks on June 2, 2009, in Norwich. Alex and Mike had to break the news to Paige's three children.
Incredibly, the fates weren't finished with Mike and Alex.
"I thought the worst had already happened, then it happened again," Alex said.
Mike's younger brother, 25-year-old Matthew Chew, was fatally stabbed on Oct. 29, 2010, after being jumped by six teenagers as he walked home from his job at a New London restaurant.
Mike broke the news to his sister and then called his parents, who live in California.
This time of year is difficult, but they try to enjoy the holidays.
"They wouldn't want us to be miserable," Alex said. "We're still here. If it happened to me, I wouldn't want my loved ones to be miserable for the rest of their lives."
"It's easier said than done," Mike added.
By the time they exchanged marriage vows on East Matunuck State Beach in Rhode Island in the fall, in an "elegant and casual" ceremony that Alex had planned, they had more than a decade of mutual history that included Mike's deployment to Iraq in 2003. They met in 1998 when they worked together at Newport Creamery in Mystic. Their romance became official on Sept. 11, 2001, of all days.
Nothing prepared them for the sudden and senseless deaths of their siblings and the feelings they would experience in the aftermath.
Alex, having been through one homicide, served as "the rock" for the family after Matt Chew's murder. Staying busy helped. But she became increasingly anxious in the weeks and months that followed, to the point where she would panic if Mike were late coming home. They installed an application on their phones that lets her "stalk" Mike by tracking his movements.
Mike avoids talking about his brother's murder.
"The more I'm around it, the more it upsets me," he said.
A gregarious man who refuses a handshake in favor of a hug, he struggles to be the "carefree dude" that people think he is, he said, and his rage and grief are never far from the surface.
"My biggest struggle is how to contain and accept and deal with those emotions," he said. "Everything's broken, not like it's supposed to be."
The "elephants in the room" make for awkward encounters with acquaintances who don't know what to say. Alex says others stay away altogether as a result of what she calls "murder cooties."
Life before
Mike grew up in a Navy family that eventually settled in Ledyard. He loved nothing more than playing a game on PlayStation with his little brother Matt. Growing up in Preston, Alex planned on becoming a psychologist.
They moved in together in January 2002. They were sitting down to Valentine's Day dinner on Feb. 14, 2003, when Mike got the call that he would be deployed to Iraq with the Connecticut National Guard's Norwich-based 248th Engineer Co. Mike's brother, Matt, moved in with Alex while Mike was away.
"I'm glad we were able to have that time together," she said.
Mike returned from Iraq in May 2004 in time to see Alex get her master's degree in psychology from Southern Connecticut State University. Over the next few years, Mike's parents and sister, Mindy Fowler, moved to California. Mike bought a small house in Mansfield and watched out for his little brother, who had moved to New London, where he flourished as an artist, DJ and pizza cook.
"I remember being so nervous," Alex said of Matt living in the city. She said she was closer to Mike's little brother than she was to Paige, who had moved out when Alex was just 5 or 6. Still, they were always together during holidays and other family gatherings.
"She lived in a different world than I," Alex said. "I was very conservative. She was free-spirited."
The last time Alex saw Paige was in the spring in 2009, when Paige showed up late and with a bruise on her face to her daughter's baby shower. Paige said she had been hit by a futon. Alex didn't believe her.
The phone call
On a Tuesday morning in June that year, Alex got the phone call. Her mother, Sheila Monter, so distraught by the news of Paige's death that the police did not want to leave her alone, had given them Alex's phone number.
"They said, 'Your sister Paige was killed last night,'" Alex remembered. "My first thought was, 'Was it a motorcycle accident?' They said no. My next question was, 'Did her husband do it?'"
Mike, who was on his way to work, turned around and came home. They spent the day notifying family members.
Sixteen months later, on Oct. 29, 2010, Mike stopped by 2Wives Brick Oven Pizza to chit chat with his brother. While he was there, Mike called Alex and put Matt on the phone. Alex asked Matt to make them one of his signature pizzas, topped with Gorgonzola cheese and pears.
Later, at about midnight, Matt's girlfriend, Lindsay Krodel, called and told Mike that Matt had been jumped and was being airlifted to Yale-New Haven Hospital. Mike and Alex left for the hospital, with Mike "driving like a mad man." They called Mike's parents, Rick and Marilyn Chew, in California.
The Lifestar helicopter landed just as they arrived at Yale. Alex drove back to Canterbury to pick up Mike and Matt's sister, Mindy, who recently had moved back to Connecticut. Upon their return to the hospital, Mike told them that Matt "didn't make it."
They still wonder whether Matt's chances of survival would have been better if there were a trauma center closer to New London.
Life goes on
Mike proposed to Alex in July 2011. Marriage seemed like a foregone conclusion for the longtime couple, but he had been waiting until they had the right house and their lives were more stable.
"I threw my hands up and decided, I do love her, and it's never going to be perfect," he said.
He bought the engagement ring while vacationing in Hawaii with his parents and presented it to her along with a Kate Spade wallet and an assortment of trinkets during a reunion dinner at the Mill on the River in South Windsor. Thrilled with the trinkets, Alex almost missed the ring itself, which was nestled among a collection of sea glass and coral that Mike had brought home from the Pacific Rim.
"Go big or go home," he said, smiling at the memory.
Alex said she had been pushing for the wedding.
"I wanted both of our families to have something to look forward to," she said.
The event was as perfect as a wedding can be. It was a rainy day, but it cleared up in time for the ceremony. They wore white and looked as elegant as Alex had hoped. Mike personalized his look with tie-dyed socks and Grateful Dead cufflinks.
"He's very laid back," Alex said. "It's almost like we're opposites, but we balance each other so well."
"We're not opposites, we're complements," Mike said, "like the Yin and the Yang."
These days, the newlyweds follow the court cases of their siblings' accused killers from afar. Paige Bennett's husband, Chihan Eric Chyung, is awaiting trial for murder. Chyung does not deny that he shot Bennett but maintains it was an accident.
The lead aggressor in Matt Chew's death, 19-year-old Idris Elahi, is serving a 35-year prison sentence for murder. On Thursday, the last of the five other attackers to resolve his case accepted a plea offer from the prosecutor. The judge in the case has said she will schedule the sentencing hearings for all five on sequential days in February or March so that the Chew family may attend the proceedings.
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I've been trying to get back to the St. James Hotel in Cimarron, New Mexico for over five years now. In the fall of 2005 I was driving from Oklahoma to Taos via U.S. 64 and, on a whim, stopped for a few minutes at the old hotel. I immediately knew I wanted to spend some time there, but the road was calling and soon I had to get going. I bid the place adieu and vowed to return. Back then, I didn't know that the St. James is considered one of the most haunted hotels in the United States. All I knew was what I'd just read in an article tacked to a wall; that the hotel was built in 1872, that 26 people had been killed in the saloon alone, and that everyone from Jesse James and Buffalo Bill to Clay Allison and Zane Grey had spent the night. As it turns out, not all of those claims are necessarily true, but there's still more than enough verifiable history in the St. James Hotel to satisfy me.
When I posted about the ghost town of ELIZABETHTOWN, New Mexico awhile back, I mentioned Henri Lambert. Lambert, a Frenchman, had moved from Washington, D.C. to Elizabethtown in 1864 to try his luck at mining. Eventually he gave up on gold, however, and returned to his previous occupation as a chef.
Cimarron was indeed a wild place and the names of most of the people killed in or around the hotel between 1872 and 1884 are known, as are the names of the killers. Henri Lambert himself shot two people and, in the mid 1870's, it was apparently not uncommon to be asked, "Who was killed at Lambert's last night?" But it is worth considering that the notorious Texas gunfighter, rancher, and outlaw Clay Allison is credited with killing 11 people at the St. James Hotel, which means that, without Mr. Allison, the place would've been much less violent. Still, numerous bullet holes remain in the saloon's tin ceiling to bear witness to the rough times.
If you believe what's been written, you'd think that many (if not most!) of the major figures of the Wild West stayed at the St. James Hotel. Here it's often difficult to separate fact from fiction, but I'll try my best and, if anyone can further verify or deny these claims, please do so. First, it's said that Jesse James stayed at the hotel, but that's probably not true as there is no evidence that Jesse James ever came through northern New Mexico. Annie Oakley, also reported to have spent time at the St. James, never visited New Mexico at all. The story is that Annie Oakley was passing through with Buffalo Bill Cody while they worked on putting together a Wild West Show,
It's useful to know who really stayed at the St. James Hotel so that, in the event of a haunting, you can better guess whose ghost you're dealing with. Jesse James? Not likely. Henri's wife, Mary Lambert? Quite possibly, especially if you're in room 17 and there's an overpowering odor of rose perfume.
We spent the night in the Mary Lambert room, but I didn't notice any essence of rose. Right across the hall was room 18, and my girlfriend reported hearing creaking floorboards from that direction that kept her up some of the night. She was pretty spooked, actually. Myself? I slept very well, thank you. In the morning I peaked through a crack in the door to get a look at room 18. I could see some torn wallpaper with holes showing through the plaster and plenty of dust. Whatever is going on, that room hasn't been used for awhile.
Finally, to wrap up this epic post, the St. James hit hard times when the railroad cut off traffic along the adjacent Santa Fe Trail and the mines began to close. The hotel was bought and sold many times and, by 1985, had fallen into disrepair. But, in 1985, the St. James Hotel was fully restored and now, with a modern wing (those hoping to be haunted shouldn't stay in this section) and a large restaurant and bar, the place is once again the liveliest thing going in Cimarron. I'll get back again sometime, I swear.
Wanna stay at the St. James Hotel? Go HERE. But note that they don't take reservations on-line; you gotta call 'em. Information from this post came from wherever I could dig it up; pamphlets, fliers, wikipedia, etc. But NOT Philip Varney's ghost town guide. We'll get back to that next time.


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King's scientists, together with international colleagues, mainly from Europe and China, have officially launched the Good Practice in Traditional Chinese Medicine Research Association today at a conference in Leiden, the Netherlands. This will help researchers to explore age-old remedies in the search for tomorrow's new drugs and to further understand links between western and Chinese medicines.
The new Association will carry on the legacy and missions of the King's-led 'Good Practice in Traditional Chinese Medicine' (GP-TCM) consortium, the EU's first dedicated effort to coordinate traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) research, which is funded by the European Commission under its 7th Framework Programme (FP7).
King's scientists Dr Qihe Xu and Professor Peter Hylands were among twelve eminent scientists from seven countries and regions, elected as Directors of the new Association, having played leading roles in the FP7 consortium.
Professor Bruce Hendry, Professor of Renal Medicine at King's and a leading member of the consortium, said: 'The success of the King's-led EU FP7 programme on good practice in TCM research has provided a unique platform for the formation of this global Association and it is perfectly positioned to lead efforts to integrate the two great philosophies of medicine. I congratulate Qihe and Peter on their achievements in harnessing such a diverse and talented team.'
Dr Qihe Xu, Senior Lecturer at the Division of Transplantation Immunology & Mucosal Biology in the School of Medicine at King's and Coordinator of the FP7 GP-TCM consortium, added: 'So far, the FP7 consortium has engaged more than 200 scientists and clinicians from 112 institutions in 24 countries in discussions about good practice in various aspects of Chinese herbal medicine and acupuncture research, culminating in recent best-practice guidelines published in the Journal of Ethnopharmacology.
'Founding the GP-TCM Research Association dedicated to promoting high-quality evidence-based TCM research through further developing, disseminating and implementing best practice is yet another important milestone and will prove to be a critical step towards sustainable development of TCM research worldwide.'
Professor Peter Hylands, Joint Head of the Institute of Pharmaceutical Science in the School of Biomedical Sciences at King's and Treasurer of the new Association, said: 'Thanks to successful fundraising efforts we are pleased that we are in a position to offer free membership for the year 2012 to all existing members of the consortium, as well as qualified scientists, clinicians and students.'
Founding President of the new Association, Professor Rudolf Bauer, University of Graz, said: 'We believe that the challenges of TCM research can only be solved in an interdisciplinary network, using the most advanced methodologies of the post-genomic era. The expertise of the FP7 GP-TCM consortium and the ideas of new members will enable us to develop and implement good practice in TCM research and to develop TCM in an integrated manner.'
Dr Tai-Ping Fan, University of Cambridge and Secretary-General of the Association, explained that they are in the process of registering as a not-for-profit organisation to fulfil the following 10 major objectives:
1. Continue the interactive network established by the FP7 GP-TCM consortium;
2. Promote discussion and implementation of good practice in TCM research and development, including the use of sustainably sourced materials;
3. Advocate high-quality evidence-based TCM research and development as well as its integration with conventional medicine;
4. Organise and co-organise scientific meetings;
5. Nurture young TCM researchers at different levels in an interdisciplinary approach, including BSc, MSc, PhD and post-doctoral programmes;
6. Facilitate collaborations and sharing of resources, expertise and good practice among members, industry and regulatory agencies;
7. Encourage collaborations with existing relevant societies, consortia and organisations;
8. Strengthen interdisciplinary, interregional and intersectoral collaborations in TCM research and development;
9. Perpetuate good practice in publishing TCM research outcomes;
10. Disseminate scientific research outcomes and latest developments in regulatory sciences to stakeholders, industry, professional groups and the public.
Professor De-an Guo, Chinese Academy of Sciences, China, and President-Elect of the Association, added: 'Membership of the Association is open to all those who are interested in the objectives of the Association and we are looking forward to fruitful international collaborations in an epic effort to deliver its objectives'.
For more information, please visit the Good Practice in Traditional Chinese Medicine website.


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So there this movie in theaters right now, featuring a bajillion celebrities, which is hoping to be the definitive New Year's Eve movie. And it's very cleverly titled New Year's Eve (of course). But heaps of cameos and the half-baked "anything is possible" romanticism are poor stand-ins for great scripts, hot chemistry, and classic lip-smacking NYE moments.
So, while the pressure is on to pucker up something serious, sometime around midnight, tonight, we reflect on our top five favorite New Year's Eve kisses, from the movies. Fortunately, not every one is a magical, perfectly crafted moment (though one definitely is), reminding us that an epic New Year's — for most of us anyway — can sometimes be more easily found on the silver screen than real life.


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The presenter covered a lot of territory in his day-long presentation, including statistics related to the link between memory and sleep. I couldn't remember the specifics of what he said (probably because, like many parents of children with autism, I don't get nearly as much sleep as I should), so I spent a few minutes Googling it this evening.
I found this article from ScienceDaily from June, 2005. It reads:
A good night's sleep triggers changes in the brain that help to improve memory,according to a new study led by researchers at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center (BIDMC).
These findings, reported in the June 30, 2005, issue of the journal Neuroscience and currently published on-line, might help to explain why children -- infants, in particular -- require much more sleep than adults, and also suggest a role for sleep in the rehabilitation of stroke patients and other individuals who have suffered brain injuries...
New memories are formed within the brain when a person engages with information to be learned for example, memorizing a list of words or mastering a piano concerto). However, these memories are initially quite vulnerable; in order to "stick" they must be solidified and improved. This process of "memory consolidation" occurs when connections between brain cells as well as between different brain regions are strengthened, and for many years was believed to develop merely as a passage of time. More recently, however, it has been demonstrated that time spent asleep also plays a key role in preserving memory...
"The MRI scans are showing us that brain regions shift dramatically during sleep," says (Matthew) Walker (PhD, Director of BIDMC's Sleep and Neuroimaging Laboratory). "When you're asleep, it seems as though you are shifting memory to more efficient storage regions within the brain. Consequently, when you awaken, memory tasks can be performed both more quickly and accurately and with less stress and anxiety."
The end result is that procedural skills -- for example, learning to talk, to coordinate limbs, musicianship, sports, even using and interpreting sensory and perceptual information from the surrounding world -- become more automatic and require the use of fewer conscious brain regions to be accomplished.
This new research may explain why children and teenagers need more sleep than adults and, in particular, why infants sleep almost round the clock.
But what might it say about children with autism? What might it indicate about their brain function, sleep cycles, and development?
Why do so many children with autism, like Bud, have trouble sleeping?
How do so many children with autism, like Bud, have extraordinary memories (and, as I have suggested before, what almost appears to be a diminished capacity to forget), in spite of often getting so little sleep?
And how much does their sleep deficiency account for the significant challenges that so many children with autism, like Bud, face with things like "learning to talk, coordinating limbs... (and)using and interpreting sensory and perceptual information from the surrounding world?"
Is there a causal relationship in here somewhere? And, if so, where is the chicken and where is the egg? What is the starting point? Does Bud's brain start as a system with enhanced memory, which then requires less sleep, which then has a negative impact on his language, motor, and sensory development, which then makes him more inclined to put his energy into his area of strength - his memory - which then makes him need less sleep, which then...?
Or does the process start somewhere else?
Or are all of these factors co-occurring but unrelated?
Or are they related, but not causal - are they all a function of a difference that exists in a particular area of the autistic brain?
Is research being done on this?


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LOS ANGELES – The coach was a little harder on his players than they were on themselves.
Not that the Sharks were OK with what happened Thursday night as they lost 6-3 and gave the Los Angeles Kings a breath of life in what could have been a sweep of their first-round series. But while players divided their responses between bounces not going their way and mistakes, Todd McLellan focused more directly on poor execution.
(The game story can be read here , by the way, if you haven't done that by now. There was a lot of back-and-forth, of course, but if you're looking for a turning point there was that power play in the second period when San Jose failed to score, the one with Kyle Clifford in the penalty box, the one when they had Jonathan Quick out of position more than once and didn't score. Joe Pavelski addresses that wide open net)
"I think we played good enough to win tonight," Joe Thornton said. "You know, just some weird bounces, but we played solid now we just go home and be in front of our fans and try to finish this thing off."
From Logan Couture: "We didn't forecheck the first two periods the way we wanted to, but we came back in the game, we had chances, tightened up a little on our d-zone and scored on a couple of our chances. Score could have been reversed so, we're still up 3-1, we have to go home and we have to win a game at home. We played well but we also made a lot of mistakes, and we'll go over that I'm sure tomorrow. We know we need to be better to beat that team, we know that they were going to be desperate tonight, they were and the first two periods they were better than we were, so in the third we played better and hopefully we'll start on time in Game 5."
Joe Pavelski agreed with the suggestion the fourth game is always the hardest one to win in a best-of-seven series.
"They're desperate and they want to play," he said. "We came out a desperate team early. We had our chances. We were on him. A breakdown here or there and they found a goal or two. We responded though and it was a game the whole way through and they came out at the end."
From McLellan's perspective, again it wasn't about the goals the Sharks didn't get, it was about the ones they gave up.
"I didn't like our net play, simple as that. I thought we had some intensity to our game and I thought we were as desperate as they were, but we didn't execute anywhere near the way they did," the coach said. "When we go back to the goals it's quite easy to pinpoint some of the mistakes that we made and for us to have success moving forward, that has to get cleaned up quickly.
"When I say net play," he added, "I don't mean our goaltender. I better make that really clear, I'm not talking about our goaltender. I'm talking about the goaltender, the d-men, the forwards down low and the secondary chances we gave up. I'm definitely not talking about one individual with pads on."
****Kings coach Darryl Sutter made the right moves before Game 4, moving Dusting Brown from the third line to the first and dropping Justin Williams into Brown's vacated spot on the third. Will be interesting to see what, if anything, McLellan does in Game 5 to counter that or simply bolster his own team's performance.
****More that could be written, but I've got a plane to catch.
The Sharks are practicing today and @CurtisPashelka will be handling the Merc coverage. I'm back on the case Saturday for Game 5.


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Body Of Missing Maine Mom Found In New Hampshire — So Sad
Authorities have discovered the body of Krista Dittmeyer, whose 14-month-old child was found abandoned in her car.
Devastating news. The body of Maine mother, Krista Dittmeyer, 20, whose 14-month-old daughter Aliyah was found abandoned in her Nissan Sentra on April 23 was found in a pond near the New Hampshire ski resort where her car was discovered.
"We are treating this as a suspicious death," New Hampshire Assistant Attorney General Jane Young tells The Portland Press Herald.
The strange case began when toddler Aliyah was found alone, but unharmed inside the Nissan, which was parked in Conway, N.H., 90 minutes away from Krista's hometown of Portland, Maine, with the engine running, a door open and the hazard lights flashing.
Police were shocked by the entire situation, unable to believe that Krista would willingly leave her baby daughter or disappear on her own accord. Conway N.H. police Lt. Christopher Perly says there was no evidence that Krista was suicidal or suffering from any sort of mental illness.
There are no suspects in the case, considering there were no witnesses or surveillance video that would leave behind any clues. Police have reportedly brought no one in for questioning yet.
Sad news for Krista's family and her baby Aliyah. We hope authorities are able to find out more information regarding her death.
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Last month, I discussed using the grounded conductor to ground and bond a separately derived system. In this issue, I discuss using the grounded conductor to ground and bond the distribution panel in a structure when supplied from switchgear in a substation or another structure.
History of using the grounded conductor for grounding
At one time, the National Electrical Code (NEC) required the grounded conductor to be used to ground and bond the distribution panel in a structure supplied from a panel located in another structure. This conductor could also be used as a neutral conductor. An equipment grounding conductor could only be used to ground and bond the noncurrent-carrying metal parts in a panel located in another structure when an exception to the main rule was applied. Application of this exception required the neutral to be isolated.
Beginning with the 1999 NEC, the Code specified the grounded conductor could only be used as an equipment grounding conductor, bonding conductor or neutral conductor. There could be no parallel current paths from one structure to another. Each edition of the NEC changed this rule until the grounded conductor could only be used as an isolated conductor. However, in existing installations, the grounded conductor can be used to perform three functions as outlined.
Grounding separated structures
Section 250.142(A)(2) permits the grounded conductor to be used to ground and bond on the supply side or within the enclosure of the first disconnecting means located in the separated structure only in accordance with the provisions in 250.32(B) Exception.
Grounding electrode
A feeder supplying a structure must have a grounding electrode installed at the structure supplied from the feeder. Such electrodes must be connected according to the provisions listed in Section 250.32(B) or (C). Where there is no electrode at the structure, a grounding electrode must be installed as outlined in Sections 250.50 (A)(4) through (A)(8).
Sizing the grounding-electrode conductor
Note that the grounding--electrode conductor must be sized from the size of the feeder conductors. For example, if the feeder conductors are 600 kcmil copper conductors, the grounding-electrode conductor is 1/0 copper as required by Table 250.66. Warning: the grounding-electrode conductor must not be selected from the rating of the overcurrent device protecting the feeder conductors.
Connecting grounding and grounded conductor
To properly isolate the grounded conductor (neutral) and bond the equipment grounding conductor to the panelboard enclosure that is installed in structure two, the installer must adhere to the requirements in Sections 250.24(A)(5) and 408.40.
Sizing the grounded conductor
When the grounded conductor is used as a neutral, it must have enough capacity in amperes (A) to supply the neutral load as calculated in Section 220.61. Exception 2 in Section 215.2(A)(1) permits the neutral conductor to be calculated at 100 percent instead of 125 percent of the load. Section 310.15(B)(5)(c) does not consider the neutral to be a current-carrying conductor if the major portion of the load on the neutral is not of the nonlinear type. Section 400.5(A) defines a major portion such as when the nonlinear load is more than 50 percent. Designers can refer to the Example 3(a) in Annex D to help understand how to perform calculations of sizing the neutral conductor at 100 percent of the neutral load. Note the explanatory material that covers the neutral conductor termination to the bus bar in the panelboard. Therefore, the neutral has no responsibility to trip or open an overcurrent-protection device, so the 80-percent or 125-percent rule does not have to be applied.
Sizing the equipment grounding conductor
The equipment grounding conductor must be sized from the rating of the overcurrent--protection device ahead of the feeder conductors. For example, a 450A overcurrent-protection device will require a 2 AWG copper equipment grounding conductor selected from Table 250.122. This conductor is used as a bonding conductor to bond all noncurrent--carrying metal parts and service as an effective path for fault to travel over, if a ground fault should occur.
Grounding with a single branch circuit
The NEC does not require a grounding-electrode conductor and grounding electrode to be installed at a structure supplied from a panelboard located in another structure. In other words, the equipment grounding conductor run with the branch circuit conductors is used to ground and bond the noncurrent--carrying metal items in the second structure. This permissive rule is found in the Exception of Section 250.32(A)
Except as permitted for existing installations that were designed and installed by previous NEC editions, the grounded conductor must not be used to ground and bond the noncurrent-carrying metal parts. This documentation can be reviewed in section 250.32(B)(1).
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Cook the Book: Mahogany-Glazed Chicken Wings
Listeners of The Splendid Table know that host Lynne Rossetto Kasper has, let's just call it, a passion for all things Italian. But only the most devoted fans of the show know that she got her start teaching not Italian but Chinese cooking.
These Mahogany-Glazed Chicken Wings from the just released The Splendid Table's How to Eat Weekends were surely inspired by this early love for Asian flavors.
Cooking my way through How to Cook Weekends, it's becoming more and more clear that Lynne and her producer Sally Swift not only put out a great radio show but excel in recipe writing. The steps for making these sticky-salty-sweet-and-sour wings are laid out in a manner that's both comprehensive and informative, the sort of recipe that leaves cooks with no lingering questions and a plate of truly spectacular wings.
Beginning with a flavor-packed marinade, these wings are pierced in several places to ensure both crisp skin and meat that's full of big soy-plum-hoisin-garlic flavor. Instead of slow-baking these wings right on the baking sheet, they are placed on a rack, allowing for the skin to bake up to a Peking duck-like sticky crunch.
How to Eat Weekends includes wine pairing notes for many of the recipes in the book, and for these wings, Lynne took the opportunity to highlight her love of Italy by way of suggesting a bottle of Nero d'Avila or Salice Salentino for these wings. The two warm, Southern Italian reds both have the body to stand up to the bold Chinese flavors. And on a another pairing note, I opted to serve mine with some quick pickled bánh mì-style cucumbers with rice wine and sugar, since every good wing deserves a crunchy veggie counterpoint.
As always with our Cook the Book feature, we have five (5) copies of The Splendid Table's How to Eat Weekends to give away this week.
Adapted from The Splendid Table's How to Eat Weekends by Lynne Rossetto Kasper and Sally Swift. Copyright © 2011. Published by Clarkson Potter. Available wherever books are sold. All Rights Reserved
- Yield:4 to 6
- Active time: 10 minutes
- Total time:12 to 48 hours refrigeration in marinade; 2 hours oven time
- ½ cup hoisin sauce
- ½ cup soy sauce
- ¼ cup honey
- ¼ cup Chinese plum sauce
- ¼ cup dry sherry
- ¼ cup cider vinegar
- 6 large garlic cloves
- 3¼ to 4 pounds chicken wings, rinsed and pierced in several places with a paring knife
In a blender or food processor, purée the hoisin sauce, soy sauce, honey, plum sauce, sherry, cider vinegar, and garlic. Reserve ¼ cup of the marinade for basting the wings. Combine the remaining mixture with the chicken wings in large plastic bags and refrigerate for 12 to 48 hours.
Preheat the oven to 325ºF. Line a large shallow baking pan (a half-sheet pan is ideal) with foil. Set a large cake rack inside the pan. Arrange the wings on the rack, trying not to stack them so they can all caramelize evenly.
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Any chippies on this group? or anyone who has made pine stand for tanks, after some knowledge on some do's and dont's
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Posted 07 April 2017 - 10:07 PM
Not a chippy but I've done a few 2 tier 4 foot stands and worked construction my whole working life so I'm better than handy.
Make sure you get straight timber. Particularly for the length of the tank.
Make sure everything is square, plumb and level.
Best practice is to make sure that weight bearing horizontal and transversal timbers are sitting on verticals. Nothing can fail that way.
I'm not a fan of drawing before I start building but it would probably be a swell idea if you aren't terribly experienced.
From memory I think I used 70x35s.
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Shows u step by step on how to do diy stands
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Posted 09 April 2017 - 02:12 AM
Build it so that the weight is pushing it together and transferring it down into the ground, not pulling it apart.
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Posted 22 June 2017 - 07:57 PM
How did you go mate? , cabinetmaker by trade and planning on getting a new 5x2 soon and making my own stand and cabinet. From the date of your post i gather that you have started if not finished, happy to help with advice if needed
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Hi every one new club member I am a chippy or close to one just build my hood one of a kind
Going to put mat white paint in side to reflect the light a little more
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One of the largest of the 'big cats', the mammals (Panthera tigris) is an instantly recognisable animal and an iconic symbol of conservation. Nine different subspecies of this charismatic carnivore are recognised, three of which became extinct in the latter part of the 20th century: the Bali (P. t. balica), Javan (P. t. sondaica) and Caspian tigers (P. t. virgata). The remaining subspecies are the Siberian (P. t. altaica), South China (P. t. amoyensis), Sumatran (P. t. sumatrae), Indochinese (P. t. corbetti), Malayan (P. t. jacksoni) and Bengal tigers (P. t. tigris) (4).
Readily distinguished from other large felids as the only striped cat, the mammals generally has a distinctive reddish-orange to yellow-ochre coat with a white belly and black markings (2). The characteristic dark, vertical stripes patterning the body vary in their width, spacing, and length, and whether they are single or double stripes (5). The pattern and distribution of the stripes is unique to each tiger (2), with no two individuals exhibiting the same stripe pattern (5).
The mammals's chest, throat, muzzle and the insides of its limbs are white or creamy, and there is usually a white area above the eye which extends onto the cheeks. A white spot is also often present on the back of the ears (5), and the male tiger usually has a prominent ruff on the head (2). The long tail is ringed with prominent dark bands (5).
The different subspecies vary in their body size, coat colour and markings, with the Sumatran tiger being the smallest and darkest, while the Siberian tiger is the largest and palest subspecies (6). However, markings and coat colour can overlap between subspecies, and individuals from different subspecies can not always be differentiated on the basis of their appearance alone (7).
Extreme colour varieties are occasionally seen in the wild, such as whitish-grey tigers with chocolate stripes (2). However, while this colour variation is popular with zoos, it is not of conservation significance (2).
Like the other big cats, the mammals is a formidable predator. It is exceptionally well adapted for hunting large prey, with short, heavily-muscled forelimbs and long, sharp, retractable claws (2). It also has a long, slender body, a short, thick neck and broad, powerful shoulders to capture and subdue its large prey (5). The skull is foreshortened, increasing the force that can be exterted by the powerful jaws and enabling the tiger to deliver crushing bites to its prey (2) (5).
The mammals is a predominantly solitary creature (2), spending the majority of the year living and hunting alone (5). Generally, the tiger will occupy and defend a territory against intruders of the same sex. The male tiger has a larger territory that overlaps the territories of several females, with whom the male tiger will then mate (2). Individual tigers mark the boundaries of their territory with urine and scrapes, and scent is sprayed onto trees, bushes and rock faces. Faeces and scrapes are also left along trails and in conspicuous places throughout the territory to advertise to other tigers that the area is occupied (2).
Scent marking allows the tiger to communicate with other individuals within its range, and provides information on its identity, sex and reproductive condition (5). During oestrus, the female advertises to the male that they ready to breed by vocalising more frequently and increasing the rate at which they scent mark (2) (5).
Mating occurs throughout the year and the female gives birth to a litter of around two or three cubs after a four month gestation period (4). The cubs are born in a den, which may be a rock crevice, cave, thicket of vegetation or a shallow depression in dense grass (5). At birth, the cubs are small, blind, helpless and entirely dependent on the female's milk, although they grow quickly, increasing almost four times in size within the first month (2) (5). The cubs learn to hunt and kill from around six months of age but remain dependent on the female for at least 15 months, after which time they will disperse to find their own territory. The mammals reaches sexual maturity at three to five years old, but it may take longer to establish a territory and begin breeding (2).
The mammals is a 'stalk and ambush' predator, with its stripy coat providing effective camouflage in tall grass and forest (2). Hunting mainly occurs at night and its principal prey consists of deer and wild pigs, although the tiger preys on a variety of other animals and will also eat carrion (4). The tiger is capable of taking prey much larger than itself, including water buffalo, small elephants and rhinos (1). Unlike other species of cats, the tiger is a competent swimmer; it will readily enter the water, and can frequently be found lying half-submerged in streams and lakes in the midday heat (4).
The range of the mammals once extended throughout central and southern Asia, from eastern Russia as far west as eastern Turkey (1) (4). However, in the past 100 years, the tiger has lost more than 93 percent of its historic range and it has now disappeared from southwest and central Asia, from the Indonesian islands of Java and Bali, and from large areas of southeast and eastern Asia (1).
Today, the tiger survives in scattered and fragmented populations in 13 countries, from India to Southeast Asia, and in Sumatra, China and the Russian Far East (1) (4).
The mammals occurs in a wide range of habitats, from tropical forests to tall grass jungles, encompassing coniferous woodlands, mangrove swamps and dry thorn forests (4). In general, however, the tiger requires dense cover, access to water and sufficient large prey (2) (4).
This species occurs over a range of altitudes, and has been found up to elevations of 4,500 metres in Bhutan (1).
The tiger is classified as Endangered (EN) on the IUCN Red List (1) and is listed on Appendix I of CITES (3).
Subspecies: the South China tiger (Panthera tigris amoyensis) and the Sumatran tiger (Panthera tigris sumatrae) are classified as Critically Endangered (CR); the Siberian tiger (Panthera tigris altaica), the Indochinese tiger (Panthera tigris corbetti), the Bengal tiger (Panthera tigris tigris) and the Malayan tiger (Panthera tigris jacksoni) are classified as Endangered (EN). The Bali (Panthera tigris balica), Javan (Panthera tigris sondaica) and Caspian tigers (Panthera tigris virgata) are all classified as Extinct (EX) (1).
Human activities are the principal cause of declining mammals numbers. Hunting was a major cause of mortality in the past, both for trophies and as part of organised pest control measures (4). Poaching and illegal killing, for example by livestock owners, remains one of today's major threats to the survival of this species, particularly with the growing demand for tiger bones in Oriental 'medicine' (8).
The demand for remedies made from tiger parts has grown due to increasing affluence in Asia, and laws preventing international trade in tiger parts are largely ignored. Hong Kong is the main importer of tiger products, with tiger bone the most used part. The bones are crushed to be used in anti-inflammatory drugs for rheumatism and arthritis, among many other uses. The trade in tiger skins is also increasing (9).
Habitat loss has occurred throughout much of the mammals's range and is now severely threatening its survival; as land becomes rapidly developed to meet the increasing demands of the Asian population (4), tiger populations become isolated in remaining fragments of wilderness and ultimately die out (2). The tiger's natural prey species have declined in numbers due to over-hunting, which has led tiger's in some areas to turn to domestic livestock as a source of food, inevitably causing conflict with local farmers (4).
Of the six surviving subspecies of mammals, the futures of the South China mammals and the Siberian tiger seem particularly bleak. Recent extensive surveys resulted in no sightings (7). India has the greatest number of tigers, but even the Bengal tiger population is estimated at no more than 2,500 individuals (1) (4). The combined global figure for all remaining subspecies is currently (in 2011) estimated at between 3,200 and 4,000 tigers (1).
The mammals is included on Appendix I of the Convention for International Trade in Endangered Species (CITES), meaning that a quota system limits the legal exports of tiger parts and derivatives (1) (3). TRAFFIC (the trade monitoring arm of the WWF and IUCN) monitors the level of international trade of tiger products and brings it to the attention of the relevant authorities (10).
The Indian government established Project Tiger in 1973 (11), with the aim of conserving the country's mammals population. Within India there are currently 21 mammals reserves, although these are increasingly threatened by human pressures on the land (4). The key to the survival of the tiger is the maintenance of large tracts of adjacent habitat, but protection of this species is complicated by its man-eater reputation and by the threat it poses to livestock (2). The involvement and commitment of local people will be vital for the future sustainability of this most regal of cats.
During 2010, the tiger was the focus of substantial conservation effort and investment, culminating in an unprecedented pledge by the 13 tiger range countries to effectively double the number of wild tigers by 2022. To achieve this goal, each of the countries in which the tiger remains will carry out actions to effectively preserve, manage, enhance and protect tiger habitats, and to eradicate poaching, smuggling and illegal trade of tigers. They will also cooperate in transboundary landscape management and in combating illegal trade. The range countries also pledged to engage with indigenous and local communities to work towards the restoration of the tiger to its former range (1).
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How do we know that "the one" is, the one? Frankly, isn't it all too much pressure? Being a missing piece of a puzzle, magic and stars, confetti in the air et al. I do not believe in "the one". Atleast not in the romantic sense, no. I do believe in having a soulmate. Or many of em' idiots, if you are anything like me. Every single one of those soul sisters / brothers / friends / friends with benefits / ex's / that virtual entity you have never met, but felt a connection to. I truly believe in the magic of finding your own people - ones you can be completely insane & also uncharacteristically sane with.
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I was sitting at work, a wee bit tensed about a big presentation I was supposed to make. Ironically, it was supposed to be a "fun" presentation. In the middle of the day, I heard a guy coming out a cabin directly behind me say loud enough for me to hear ".... Nadal is the best thing that's happening in tennis right now!" Before I could stop myself (dammit woman!) I turned in my chair, to face this complete stranger, and add in what I think was a slightly annoyed voice, "Please! Nadal will never be Federer."
[Pretty much everyone knows this story, thanks to it being in my wedding card. No kidding, check this. We are awesome like that. Its pretty much the short version of how we got together. Continuing further, is the long version.]
I got back to my work, desperate to finish it within time because I did NOT want to stay back late that day. Earlier that day, this other guy I had been hanging out with over the last few months, had had flowers delivered to the office. Seriously. This was 2011 and I was getting flowers delivered for me. I was fucking thrilled. Said guy had formally "asked" me out for dinner that night, and I intended on not carrying my work with me when I met him. After all, this was the first time I was officially going to go out with someone in a long fucking time.
Know how sitcoms and well meaning books and magazines say, that before you find the "one", you have that one last romance that is a total and utter disaster? Yep. This was the one. Little is to be said about aforementioned romance, because it fizzled out soon. It was my second proper relationship, and at the end of it, I was.... really angry! I was so angry that sadness did not kick in for one second, before I wanted to throw something heavy around and break things. Which I think I did. Like what the fuck is wrong with the damn universe?! I was so done with rom-coms, and flowers (cringe), and chocolates and shit. So. Done.
So for a brief few days, I was no heels all sneakers, hair pulled up, barking into faces, getting more work done than ever workaholic. Did not take long for Nutties (tennis guy, for people who haven't yet caught the drift) to ask me over messenger why I looked like I was on a warpath, I said, and I quote, "Look, I am crazy. I have deep emotional baggage, I apparently drive the men in my life to near madness. I am so DONE with intense relationships, from now on, I declare that I am staying clear off men until I am like 30!"
About 10 months later? Engaged! Another 6 months hence? MARRIED. So much for sweeping declarations, right Marshall*? :P
*what up smooth HIMYM reference!
I have often been asked, why did I marry so young? I have always been told that I am by far the most-likely-to-try-comething-crazy, superbly impulsive, decidedly anti-family and annoyingly bratty wild child. After my previous trysts with romance, I was never too keen on commitment and all that jazz. So why now? Why so soon? Why this guy? What happens next? Why do we seem so perfect? (lol!)
Anyone who says marriage is easy, is probably not having enough fun. :P Okay kidding. Mine isn't easy. But through it all, here is this guy who has been my rock though so much, that I am an entirely new person. My best friend told me a while ago, that it looked like I had matured overnight. I laughed and said it was the side effect of being in major debt. :P (Buying a house is shit. Don't do it. Live off rent forever.) But its true.
We dance in hallways in the middle of the night. We crack lame jokes and watch sappy TV shows on Sundays in our jammies and eat left over fish curry until we pass out from bliss. We plan trips, we get drunk, ahem-high-cough with friends and party on like we are 16. We bicker like an old married couple of silly things like the laundry or his gazillion socks lying around the home that I like kept neat and tidy. We photograph together, late movies is our thing. He watches his matches and I write. We cuddle with the boys. On some nights, we act like a bunch of kids on a sleepover and talk about utterly random things in the darkness, ranging from religion to parallel universes. This is literally as good as it gets yes?
Nutties has done many amazing things for me - ranging from something simple like flowers to something so symbolic like holding me in the middle of the night, while I was having a mother of all meltdowns, sobbing like an idiot about how life is not working out for me (which it totally is, but I overthink everything!).. and telling me that no matter what, he will always, always, have my back.
In some ways, this moment perfectly describes us, so in conclusion, I leave you with this.
~ Annie.
P.S.S.: I have way too many people on my FB so I am not too worried about my name out here. If you are going to add me, do drop a message so I know who you are :P
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