<story><title>How to Be Someone People Love to Talk To (2015)</title><url>http://time.com/3722418/become-someone-people-love-talk/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>onmobiletemp</author><text>Please stop, you are wrong. Im attractive and people hate me. Have you ever considered whats its like to be attractive? People are instantly jealous of you and hate you. And they make sure to lay judgement into you -- if you arent whip smart they will tear you down just like anyone else. I know ugly, average looking and good looking people who all do very well with people and in life. It comes down to your intelligence, not how you look. Please dont mutilate your face like a south korean teenager. Just like them you will find thay its not worth it.</text></item><item><author>xor1</author><text>I think the article severely downplays the importance of attractiveness. If the other party finds you attractive, the bar is lowered to the point of you simply being normal&amp;#x2F;average in terms of intelligence, wit, and whatever else you want to include in your definition of what makes a person &amp;quot;interesting&amp;quot;. You basically need to be a vapid idiot to give anyone a bad impression as an attractive person.&lt;p&gt;It&amp;#x27;s a huge factor. I&amp;#x27;ve started putting some of my big programmer bucks into improving my appearance before I hit 30, starting with braces (family couldn&amp;#x27;t afford them as a kid), eyelid surgery to fix some mild ptosis, and a nose job. I&amp;#x27;ve also started using sunscreen and moisturizer on my face on a regular basis.&lt;p&gt;The past few years have made me realize that your appearance only becomes more important as you age and progress in a white-collar career  -- not less, as I was led to believe as a child. This is especially disheartening to realize while working in CA&amp;#x2F;NYC tech, which have always been billed as one of the most meritocratic and progressive sectors. Getting into shape only takes you so far. I consider myself average now, but I want to be hot.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>xor1</author><text>&amp;gt;Please stop, you are wrong. Im attractive and people hate me. Have you ever considered whats its like to be attractive? People are instantly jealous of you and hate you. And they make sure to lay judgement into you -- if you arent whip smart they will tear you down just like anyone else.&lt;p&gt;Sorry, but I&amp;#x27;ve never seen anything like this happen after high school. Attractiveness is respected, especially if you can keep or improve it as you begin to age.&lt;p&gt;&amp;gt;Please dont mutilate your face like a south korean teenager.&lt;p&gt;If you&amp;#x27;re referring to the eyelid surgery, it&amp;#x27;s not THAT kind of eyelid surgery.</text></comment>
<story><title>How to Be Someone People Love to Talk To (2015)</title><url>http://time.com/3722418/become-someone-people-love-talk/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>onmobiletemp</author><text>Please stop, you are wrong. Im attractive and people hate me. Have you ever considered whats its like to be attractive? People are instantly jealous of you and hate you. And they make sure to lay judgement into you -- if you arent whip smart they will tear you down just like anyone else. I know ugly, average looking and good looking people who all do very well with people and in life. It comes down to your intelligence, not how you look. Please dont mutilate your face like a south korean teenager. Just like them you will find thay its not worth it.</text></item><item><author>xor1</author><text>I think the article severely downplays the importance of attractiveness. If the other party finds you attractive, the bar is lowered to the point of you simply being normal&amp;#x2F;average in terms of intelligence, wit, and whatever else you want to include in your definition of what makes a person &amp;quot;interesting&amp;quot;. You basically need to be a vapid idiot to give anyone a bad impression as an attractive person.&lt;p&gt;It&amp;#x27;s a huge factor. I&amp;#x27;ve started putting some of my big programmer bucks into improving my appearance before I hit 30, starting with braces (family couldn&amp;#x27;t afford them as a kid), eyelid surgery to fix some mild ptosis, and a nose job. I&amp;#x27;ve also started using sunscreen and moisturizer on my face on a regular basis.&lt;p&gt;The past few years have made me realize that your appearance only becomes more important as you age and progress in a white-collar career  -- not less, as I was led to believe as a child. This is especially disheartening to realize while working in CA&amp;#x2F;NYC tech, which have always been billed as one of the most meritocratic and progressive sectors. Getting into shape only takes you so far. I consider myself average now, but I want to be hot.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>im3w1l</author><text>Question for you and xor1. Are you talking about going from a 1 to a 5, from a 5 to an 8 or from an 8 to a 10?&lt;p&gt;My intuition is that at the deformed end of the spectrum, any improvement is going to be 99% positive and that it starts to become more of a mixed blessing as you approach perfection.</text></comment>