<story><title>Are you nice or kind?</title><url>https://haleynahman.substack.com/p/42-are-you-nice-or-kind</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>reggieband</author><text>&amp;gt; Stand at a flight of stairs in the NYC subway with a stroller. Someone will grab the other end, help you carry the stroller, and then walk away without saying a word.&lt;p&gt;This is one of my enduring memories of NYC as I saw this precisely play out first hand. A tiny woman with a massive stroller arrived at the base of the stairs and the guy walking in front of her glanced back then gave the slightest nod before reaching down and grabbing the front axle. She overhead pressed the stroller handles, they climbed a couple of flights and at the top of the stairs he put his end down. Not a word exchanged, not even a thanks, they just went their separate ways. It was so smooth, almost choreographed, I don&amp;#x27;t believe the woman even broke stride.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>MetallicCloud</author><text>We had a similar experience when living in NY with two small children.  People would always offer to help, but one time in particular a woman grabbed the front of the stroller and started helping me down the subway stairs, then she looked back and said &amp;quot;Could you please go faster, I&amp;#x27;m running late&amp;quot;.  She was in no obligation to help us in the first place.  We got to the bottom and she ran off to a train.&lt;p&gt;I found New Yorkers are always happy to lend a hand when needed.</text></comment>
<story><title>Are you nice or kind?</title><url>https://haleynahman.substack.com/p/42-are-you-nice-or-kind</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>reggieband</author><text>&amp;gt; Stand at a flight of stairs in the NYC subway with a stroller. Someone will grab the other end, help you carry the stroller, and then walk away without saying a word.&lt;p&gt;This is one of my enduring memories of NYC as I saw this precisely play out first hand. A tiny woman with a massive stroller arrived at the base of the stairs and the guy walking in front of her glanced back then gave the slightest nod before reaching down and grabbing the front axle. She overhead pressed the stroller handles, they climbed a couple of flights and at the top of the stairs he put his end down. Not a word exchanged, not even a thanks, they just went their separate ways. It was so smooth, almost choreographed, I don&amp;#x27;t believe the woman even broke stride.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>prmph</author><text>Wow, something very similar happened to me when I first came to America to study from Ghana and landed in NYC. Struggling with my luggage up a flight of stairs from the subway station, a young lady grabbed the other end of my heaviest bag, helped me up with it, and left without saying a word.&lt;p&gt;Cool to hear this is not uncommon. This incident is indeed also one of my most enduring memories of NYC.</text></comment>