<story><title>Repeat Yourself, a Lot</title><url>https://tomtunguz.com/why-you-should-repeat-yourself/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>thatsamonad</author><text>A somewhat related approach that I’ve found incredibly useful in my career is repeating what -others- have told you back to them, a lot.&lt;p&gt;It’s honestly amazing to me how much mileage I’ve gotten out of simply saying, “I heard you say X about Y. Does that sound right to you?” a couple of times during discussions just to make sure that everyone is clear that we’re all discussing the same thing.&lt;p&gt;It seems like “common sense” to clarify your understanding of someone else’s communication but I haven’t run into very many people who actually take the time to do it.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>__turbobrew__</author><text>Repeating what others said back to them is called “mirroring” and is an effective technique for not only confirming your understanding but also showing others that you are actively listening.&lt;p&gt;I recommend reading “ Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It” by Chris Voss if you are interested in conversation tactics.</text></comment>
<story><title>Repeat Yourself, a Lot</title><url>https://tomtunguz.com/why-you-should-repeat-yourself/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>thatsamonad</author><text>A somewhat related approach that I’ve found incredibly useful in my career is repeating what -others- have told you back to them, a lot.&lt;p&gt;It’s honestly amazing to me how much mileage I’ve gotten out of simply saying, “I heard you say X about Y. Does that sound right to you?” a couple of times during discussions just to make sure that everyone is clear that we’re all discussing the same thing.&lt;p&gt;It seems like “common sense” to clarify your understanding of someone else’s communication but I haven’t run into very many people who actually take the time to do it.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>SilasX</author><text>Similarly, if you missed a part of what someone said, repeat back everything you did hear as part of the question. It confirms you were listening and avoids an excessively long or rephrased answered.&lt;p&gt;For example, &amp;quot;We reviewed &amp;lt;garbled&amp;gt; and found the events hadn&amp;#x27;t been logged.&amp;quot; -&amp;gt; &amp;quot;You reviewed what and found the events hadn&amp;#x27;t been logged?&amp;quot;</text></comment>