<story><title>A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem</title><url>https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/04/marriage-problems-fight-dishes/629526/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>MrFantastic</author><text>It&amp;#x27;s ironic to me when women choose successful ambitious men to marry and then complain these same keep striving to climb up the corporate ranks.</text></item><item><author>beckler</author><text>About 10 years ago, I had a internship at Newell Rubbermaid. As part of the experience, the entire group of interns across all the brands got to have lunch with the CEO and basically ask him anything we wanted.&lt;p&gt;At some point, someone asked about his biggest regret. We all expected some business blunder, but he said that he was offered an executive position by Kraft to lead their Asian segment, and that his wife really did not want him to take the job because it would require them to move to that region. He regretted not listening to her, because it ended up being the catalyst that dissolved their marriage.&lt;p&gt;We were all stunned silent, and you could tell that he was genuinely remorseful and so vulnerable in that moment. There are only a handful of moments in that internship that I vividly remember, but that was by far the most impactful one.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>xyzzyz</author><text>Marrying a successful and ambitious 20-something in no way commits one to be fine with the same ambitious person uprooting family’s life a decade or two later and moving to the other side of the world. Family is about shared sacrifice for its well being, and sometimes (in fact, usually) one needs to sacrifice their career for the family. That’s life.</text></comment>
<story><title>A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem</title><url>https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/04/marriage-problems-fight-dishes/629526/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>MrFantastic</author><text>It&amp;#x27;s ironic to me when women choose successful ambitious men to marry and then complain these same keep striving to climb up the corporate ranks.</text></item><item><author>beckler</author><text>About 10 years ago, I had a internship at Newell Rubbermaid. As part of the experience, the entire group of interns across all the brands got to have lunch with the CEO and basically ask him anything we wanted.&lt;p&gt;At some point, someone asked about his biggest regret. We all expected some business blunder, but he said that he was offered an executive position by Kraft to lead their Asian segment, and that his wife really did not want him to take the job because it would require them to move to that region. He regretted not listening to her, because it ended up being the catalyst that dissolved their marriage.&lt;p&gt;We were all stunned silent, and you could tell that he was genuinely remorseful and so vulnerable in that moment. There are only a handful of moments in that internship that I vividly remember, but that was by far the most impactful one.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>ksdale</author><text>Marrying a successful, ambitious man does not, in any way, mean that a woman should defer completely to every single career decision a man makes. I&amp;#x27;m sure this executive&amp;#x27;s schedule was already plenty demanding without the burden of moving to another country.</text></comment>