<story><title>What Happens to Us Does Not Happen to Most of You</title><url>https://www.sigarch.org/what-happens-to-us-does-not-happen-to-most-of-you/</url></story><parent_chain></parent_chain><comment><author>reuven</author><text>These stories upset me deeply.  But as much as they upset me, they surprise me.  And that&amp;#x27;s because until it was just recently, after 20+ years in the computer industry, that I discovered how pervasive such behavior is.&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#x27;m not happy that such stories take place.  But I am happy that a growing number of women are telling their stories, shocking those of us who were able to be blissfully ignorant of what was going on, and forcing us to realize just how poorly our female colleagues are sometimes being treated.&lt;p&gt;Let&amp;#x27;s even assume that 90% of the time, things are great for women in high tech.  How many women are willing to put up with even 10% (or even 1%) of their time dealing with such behavior?  I&amp;#x27;m not sure if I would.  And then we wonder why so many women aren&amp;#x27;t interested in technology careers, or leave after a short period of time.&lt;p&gt;I hope that these stories eventually end.  But in order for them to end, we need to hear more of them, to realize just how bad things are, and to make it completely unacceptable, in every way, for things to continue as they currently are.</text></comment>
<story><title>What Happens to Us Does Not Happen to Most of You</title><url>https://www.sigarch.org/what-happens-to-us-does-not-happen-to-most-of-you/</url></story><parent_chain></parent_chain><comment><author>MollyR</author><text>I don&amp;#x27;t like how they buried what I consider the lede.&lt;p&gt;&amp;quot;For the authors of this article, each negative story is overshadowed by dozens of positive experiences, where someone went out of their way to offer support, provide opportunities, and encourage us.&amp;quot;&lt;p&gt;I think this matters to encouraging both women and men. Yes, jerks exist. Sometimes its good people having bad days,  some people are monsters hiding under a veneer (ex Hollywood&amp;#x27;s Weinstein).&lt;p&gt;We need to stop dehumanizing each other, and understand all humans have the full expanse of positive and negative emotions.&lt;p&gt;Most people in technology are not bros, sjws, ceos, and whatever.&lt;p&gt;They are just people trying to get by.</text></comment>