<story><title>Live near your friends</title><url>https://headlineshq.substack.com/p/issue-no-029-live-near-your-friends</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>danmostudco</author><text>Tim Urban has a similar post on this called “The Tail End”, noting that by the time we get to adulthood we often have used up the vast majority of time spent with loved ones - particularly with parents and siblings.&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;waitbutwhy.com&amp;#x2F;2015&amp;#x2F;12&amp;#x2F;the-tail-end.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow noreferrer&quot;&gt;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;waitbutwhy.com&amp;#x2F;2015&amp;#x2F;12&amp;#x2F;the-tail-end.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;p&gt;My brother and I read this and were touched by it; we lived on opposite coasts and since we were kids always loved hanging out with one another. The idea that in our current arrangement we had already depleted MOST of our time together was a bitter pill to swallow.&lt;p&gt;For years we batted around the idea of living closer to each other. One day we just pulled the trigger and did it. It was enormously inconvenient, took a ton of logistical planning for our respective families, jobs and so on; but we ended up with houses within walking distance of one another and went from seeing each other and our immediate families maybe 10 days a year to 300+. We have accepted going forward it may limit our career options relative to when we lived in top tier American cities but the happiness we gained in the process is more than worth it.&lt;p&gt;I’m still not 100% sure the experiment will work out, but making the adjustment to live closer to family has substantially increased my mental health and emotional well-being. If you have close friendships and have ever talked about this seriously, I’d encourage you to consider what you might be gaining or losing in your current setup. It’s not for everyone but worth exploring!</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>philipkglass</author><text>Due to unrelated and unexpected events, my mother, my sister, my sister&amp;#x27;s husband, and my wife&amp;#x27;s sister have all moved to within a few miles of my family within the past year. Previously they were all living in a different state from us. My father is dead, but having the rest of my close family nearby has made me so much happier. I wasn&amp;#x27;t unhappy before, but this much better yet.&lt;p&gt;I realize it&amp;#x27;s not a happiness booster in every circumstance. My wife moved a thousand miles specifically so she never had to suffer her mother again.</text></comment>
<story><title>Live near your friends</title><url>https://headlineshq.substack.com/p/issue-no-029-live-near-your-friends</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>danmostudco</author><text>Tim Urban has a similar post on this called “The Tail End”, noting that by the time we get to adulthood we often have used up the vast majority of time spent with loved ones - particularly with parents and siblings.&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;waitbutwhy.com&amp;#x2F;2015&amp;#x2F;12&amp;#x2F;the-tail-end.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow noreferrer&quot;&gt;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;waitbutwhy.com&amp;#x2F;2015&amp;#x2F;12&amp;#x2F;the-tail-end.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;p&gt;My brother and I read this and were touched by it; we lived on opposite coasts and since we were kids always loved hanging out with one another. The idea that in our current arrangement we had already depleted MOST of our time together was a bitter pill to swallow.&lt;p&gt;For years we batted around the idea of living closer to each other. One day we just pulled the trigger and did it. It was enormously inconvenient, took a ton of logistical planning for our respective families, jobs and so on; but we ended up with houses within walking distance of one another and went from seeing each other and our immediate families maybe 10 days a year to 300+. We have accepted going forward it may limit our career options relative to when we lived in top tier American cities but the happiness we gained in the process is more than worth it.&lt;p&gt;I’m still not 100% sure the experiment will work out, but making the adjustment to live closer to family has substantially increased my mental health and emotional well-being. If you have close friendships and have ever talked about this seriously, I’d encourage you to consider what you might be gaining or losing in your current setup. It’s not for everyone but worth exploring!</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>HeckFeck</author><text>I like this idea.&lt;p&gt;I am far from most of my friends and live in a city for work reasons. There are more activities and everything is a lot more accessible. Definitely more promise in the air. That said, I am living alone and feel it. It&amp;#x27;s not healthy.&lt;p&gt;I do want to be nearer friends and (some) family but ironically I think there are fewer relationship opportunities back in the sticks, plus there are attitudes and people in my home town I really don&amp;#x27;t miss.&lt;p&gt;I agree with your conclusion - but when younger and single it is difficult to know exactly what to do. Being single being a big problem, and the day to day work from home isolation the other.</text></comment>