<story><title>How I Fell in Love with a Schizophrenic</title><url>http://asserttrue.blogspot.com/2013/01/how-i-fell-in-love-with-schizophrenic.html</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>guylhem</author><text>I&apos;ll cast a dissenting opinion.&lt;p&gt;Do you really, honestly think the author will be happy - and for long (say more than 2 years, after the initial thrill of doing something odd and new)?&lt;p&gt;It does not looks like a sane relation to me, but more like a relation based on needs - such as the need to &quot;save&quot; someone (frequent with young upperclass women) or such as a profound emotional need to display love.&lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;&quot;I&apos;ll throw myself in front of a bus for her if she wants it&quot;&lt;/i&gt; - this doesn&apos;t looks like a good thing to say about a relationship - especially about a relationship with someone hearing voices who might recommend such things.&lt;p&gt;Are normal persons (or life) so boring that one needs to import another person problems - especially unfixable problems given the state of our technology regarding schizophrenia?&lt;p&gt;(my cousin has a severe form and spends most of his time in various institutions)</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>gaustin</author><text>I was diagnosed with schizo-affective and bipolar disorders when I was 19. I was on disability until I was 26 (I am now almost 31), even though I worked part time as a software developer through that entire period.&lt;p&gt;I&apos;ve managed to live a pretty &quot;normal&quot; life so far, even with my health issues. I have both Bachelor&apos;s and Master&apos;s degrees. I&apos;ve been with my wife for 5 years so far. I&apos;ve held down jobs pretty well, with ever-increasing levels of responsibility. I have healthy hobbies that take quite a bit of attention but do not become overriding obsessions.&lt;p&gt;My wife and I have different struggles than most other couples. She is most definitely not with me because it&apos;s novel, nor to &quot;save&quot; me or any other sort of co-dependent nonsense.&lt;p&gt;Schizophrenia may not be fixable, but it is controllable to a degree and with care it doesn&apos;t have to mean a life in institutions or a life without a satisfying career.</text></comment>
<story><title>How I Fell in Love with a Schizophrenic</title><url>http://asserttrue.blogspot.com/2013/01/how-i-fell-in-love-with-schizophrenic.html</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>guylhem</author><text>I&apos;ll cast a dissenting opinion.&lt;p&gt;Do you really, honestly think the author will be happy - and for long (say more than 2 years, after the initial thrill of doing something odd and new)?&lt;p&gt;It does not looks like a sane relation to me, but more like a relation based on needs - such as the need to &quot;save&quot; someone (frequent with young upperclass women) or such as a profound emotional need to display love.&lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;&quot;I&apos;ll throw myself in front of a bus for her if she wants it&quot;&lt;/i&gt; - this doesn&apos;t looks like a good thing to say about a relationship - especially about a relationship with someone hearing voices who might recommend such things.&lt;p&gt;Are normal persons (or life) so boring that one needs to import another person problems - especially unfixable problems given the state of our technology regarding schizophrenia?&lt;p&gt;(my cousin has a severe form and spends most of his time in various institutions)</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>leamsisetroc</author><text>As someone who is in love with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. Your general idea... the way the author is handling the relationship won&apos;t make him happy in the long run.&lt;p&gt;That phrase you highlighted (&quot;throw myself in front of a bus&quot;) also impressed me when I read the post. It tells me that the author himself should get some help.&lt;p&gt;If there&apos;s something I&apos;ve learned after more than a year of being together with someone with a mental problem is that you need to take care of yourself before you can take care of somebody else, otherwise you&apos;re both going to drown in problems.</text></comment>