<story><title>Dating While Dying</title><url>https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/24/opinion/sunday/dating-while-dying.html</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>kick</author><text>The author&amp;#x27;s post after realizing things had gotten too severe:&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;apainintheneck.com&amp;#x2F;2019&amp;#x2F;11&amp;#x2F;16&amp;#x2F;the-worst-thing&amp;#x2F;&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;http:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;apainintheneck.com&amp;#x2F;2019&amp;#x2F;11&amp;#x2F;16&amp;#x2F;the-worst-thing&amp;#x2F;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;p&gt;† The author&amp;#x27;s obituary:&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;www.nytimes.com&amp;#x2F;2019&amp;#x2F;12&amp;#x2F;04&amp;#x2F;obituaries&amp;#x2F;josie-rubio-dead.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;www.nytimes.com&amp;#x2F;2019&amp;#x2F;12&amp;#x2F;04&amp;#x2F;obituaries&amp;#x2F;josie-rubio-de...&lt;/a&gt;</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>twodave</author><text>&amp;quot;The enemy&amp;#x27;s gate is down&amp;quot; is a subtle Ender&amp;#x27;s Game reference, and it&amp;#x27;s beautiful in this post. This person&amp;#x27;s life expectancy is not oriented in the usual way, so the phrase becomes a call to re-establish norms and consider life in a way that suits the present reality. This isn&amp;#x27;t just a lesson to be learned by the dying, either.</text></comment>
<story><title>Dating While Dying</title><url>https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/24/opinion/sunday/dating-while-dying.html</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>kick</author><text>The author&amp;#x27;s post after realizing things had gotten too severe:&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;apainintheneck.com&amp;#x2F;2019&amp;#x2F;11&amp;#x2F;16&amp;#x2F;the-worst-thing&amp;#x2F;&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;http:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;apainintheneck.com&amp;#x2F;2019&amp;#x2F;11&amp;#x2F;16&amp;#x2F;the-worst-thing&amp;#x2F;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;p&gt;† The author&amp;#x27;s obituary:&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;www.nytimes.com&amp;#x2F;2019&amp;#x2F;12&amp;#x2F;04&amp;#x2F;obituaries&amp;#x2F;josie-rubio-dead.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;www.nytimes.com&amp;#x2F;2019&amp;#x2F;12&amp;#x2F;04&amp;#x2F;obituaries&amp;#x2F;josie-rubio-de...&lt;/a&gt;</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>claudiawerner</author><text>For me it&amp;#x27;s rather curious that people place such a high value on finding an SO even when dying. This seems to speak to one (or two) things: that it is a tragedy to have lived and never been in love, and that having someone with you in the pain and the last period of your live is very highly valued.&lt;p&gt;It makes me think of all the people who don&amp;#x27;t have a terminal disease but still never manage to find someone. Their case, while sad, is perhaps not as tragic.</text></comment>