<story><title>Show HN: Dating Ring (YC W14) – We do the work, you do the dating</title><url>https://www.datingring.com</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>potatolicious</author><text>I see some pessimism in these comments, but IMO one needs to consider the problem from both genders (assuming we&amp;#x27;re talking about straight dating exclusively for a sec).&lt;p&gt;The problem with OkCupid is that the experience is &lt;i&gt;horrendous&lt;/i&gt; for women. While the men would love to have choice, and &amp;quot;unlimited&amp;quot; matches, in reality this only means one thing:&lt;p&gt;Spam. Spam spam spam spam spam spam. More spam.&lt;p&gt;The success of Tinder should be in large part attributed to the fact that the basic interaction model removes spam. Men will swipe right on the majority of &amp;quot;matches&amp;quot;, making women the actual gatekeepers of conversation - and this model works, though you obviously lose a lot of nuance and depth along the way.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>nether</author><text>Women have far more choice on OkCupid, it&amp;#x27;s the men who do not:  &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.alternet.org/why-online-dating-sucks-men&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;http:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;www.alternet.org&amp;#x2F;why-online-dating-sucks-men&lt;/a&gt;&lt;p&gt;She talks about how easy OkCupid is for women, how she recommends her female friends to try it out, but how she also dissuades her male friends from trying it. Because the site is so difficult for men.</text></comment>
<story><title>Show HN: Dating Ring (YC W14) – We do the work, you do the dating</title><url>https://www.datingring.com</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>potatolicious</author><text>I see some pessimism in these comments, but IMO one needs to consider the problem from both genders (assuming we&amp;#x27;re talking about straight dating exclusively for a sec).&lt;p&gt;The problem with OkCupid is that the experience is &lt;i&gt;horrendous&lt;/i&gt; for women. While the men would love to have choice, and &amp;quot;unlimited&amp;quot; matches, in reality this only means one thing:&lt;p&gt;Spam. Spam spam spam spam spam spam. More spam.&lt;p&gt;The success of Tinder should be in large part attributed to the fact that the basic interaction model removes spam. Men will swipe right on the majority of &amp;quot;matches&amp;quot;, making women the actual gatekeepers of conversation - and this model works, though you obviously lose a lot of nuance and depth along the way.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>tuxidomasx</author><text>&amp;quot;one needs to consider the problem from both genders&amp;quot;&lt;p&gt;Exactly. I think Tinder&amp;#x27;s model is more aligned with how men and women meet IRL. As a guy, my modus operandi is to present myself as a high-valued man to everyone and have the women pre-select me so I can start the interaction.&lt;p&gt;How men use Tinder: &lt;i&gt;like&lt;/i&gt; &lt;i&gt;like&lt;/i&gt; &lt;i&gt;like&lt;/i&gt; &lt;i&gt;like&lt;/i&gt; &amp;quot;Oops, I wanted to see the rest of her pictures&amp;quot;&lt;p&gt;How women use Tinder: &lt;i&gt;nope&lt;/i&gt; &lt;i&gt;nope&lt;/i&gt; &lt;i&gt;nope&lt;/i&gt; &lt;i&gt;nope&lt;/i&gt; &amp;quot;Oops, he was cute&amp;quot;&lt;p&gt;Its the 80&amp;#x2F;20 rule-- 20% of the guys will get most of the likes from the girls.&lt;p&gt;With all that repetition, I think there must be an even better model for matching people up...</text></comment>