<story><title>How to Stop Ruminating</title><url>https://www.sudarkoff.blog/p/how-to-stop-ruminating</url></story><parent_chain></parent_chain><comment><author>msaltz</author><text>In the book Getting Things Done the author explains that your brain is basically a really bad reminder system. So if it thinks there’s something you needs to do, it will basically keep reminding you of that thing at all times until you do it. So for each of these things, there’s what the author calls an “open loop”, and the brain keeps telling you about it until the loop is closed.&lt;p&gt;The way out, the author says, is to have a trusted system for storing information outside your brain. In that trusted system, you can write down what needs to be done for each open loop, and that basically closes the loop for your brain and it will stop reminding you of that thing all the time.&lt;p&gt;I still haven’t gone fully into doing it but my director at work swore by it, and the few times I tried it it was almost like magic. Even if you just pull out a todo app or notebook and for each of the things currently looping in your head, write down &lt;i&gt;only&lt;/i&gt; the next step you need to take regarding that open loop (and maybe what the desired outcome is - I can’t remember if that’s in the book or not). For me the first time I tried it it was magical - it turned out there were only 4 or 5 things total looping on my mind at the time and after doing this exercise my mind was basically blank - the reminder system stopped telling me there was something I needed to do for these loops.&lt;p&gt;I think for it to be sustainable you probably have to really make sure you follow up on the things you write down so that your brain actually trusts you’ll do the things you wrote down, but at least for me it worked really well as a short term hack on a few occasions. I really need to finish reading the book!</text></comment>
<story><title>How to Stop Ruminating</title><url>https://www.sudarkoff.blog/p/how-to-stop-ruminating</url></story><parent_chain></parent_chain><comment><author>Sakos</author><text>An important step for me was practicing mindfulness meditation. It&amp;#x27;s literally training the skill of recognizing your thoughts and being able to step back from them to observe. That distance is important for, say, figuring out what your triggers are or deciding how to handle these thoughts.&lt;p&gt;Honestly, everybody should be practicing mindfulness meditation and cognitive-based therapy. It&amp;#x27;s a powerful combination. Also, see a therapist. A decent one is worth their weight in gold. Even though I was practicing these things, it was clear it wasn&amp;#x27;t a perfect fix and adding a third-party perspective was a huge help in learning how to regulate my thoughts and emotions. Some things we simply can&amp;#x27;t solve completely on our own.</text></comment>