<story><title>Silence is golden, especially when you need to say something important</title><url>https://ubiquity.acm.org/article.cfm?id=3310318</url></story><parent_chain></parent_chain><comment><author>hathawsh</author><text>This advice is certainly correct for public speaking, but for conversation, I&amp;#x27;ve observed that saying &amp;quot;uh&amp;quot; and &amp;quot;um&amp;quot; is actually a good habit for most people. They convey clearly that you intend to speak soon. Without them, others interrupt or assume you&amp;#x27;re not listening. It&amp;#x27;s quite understandable that people would bring that good habit to a new context where it&amp;#x27;s surprisingly counterproductive.</text></comment>
<story><title>Silence is golden, especially when you need to say something important</title><url>https://ubiquity.acm.org/article.cfm?id=3310318</url></story><parent_chain></parent_chain><comment><author>cimmanom</author><text>This is very different in oratory vs. conversation, especially depending on the conversation style of the people you&amp;#x27;re speaking with.  In some conversations, if you don&amp;#x27;t put in an &amp;quot;uh&amp;quot; or &amp;quot;um&amp;quot; when you pause, you&amp;#x27;ll immediately be assumed to be done speaking and will be interrupted.</text></comment>