<story><title>I&apos;m an addict</title><url>https://tarunreddy.bearblog.dev/addict/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>bko</author><text>Do you have an alternative &amp;quot;point of life&amp;quot;?&lt;p&gt;Is it career? If so, that&amp;#x27;s pretty depressing. Happiness is a superficial emotion. If your loved one was &amp;quot;happy&amp;quot; spending his entire life playing fortnight in his parent&amp;#x27;s basement, would you be sad for him? Charity?&lt;p&gt;I don&amp;#x27;t know. Never found a meaning as compelling as having children.</text></item><item><author>tonguez</author><text>so life’s greatest winner is genghis khan</text></item><item><author>sizzle</author><text>I mean from a purely evolutionary perspective, the point of life is to pass on your genes to your offspring, so having kids would be winning at this game we call life…</text></item><item><author>alex_suzuki</author><text>I would strongly argue against having kids as a solution for &lt;i&gt;any&lt;/i&gt; of life‘s problems.
Kids are an incredibly demanding venture and can exacerbate existing problems.
Speaking from experience here.</text></item><item><author>katzgrau</author><text>They&amp;#x27;re just cliche ideas for how to fill the time. Anyone one who tries to break an addiction suddenly finds themselves with a lot of free time they don&amp;#x27;t know how to fill.&lt;p&gt;But on that note, have multiple kids AND get a pet. You&amp;#x27;ll never have a free minute again.</text></item><item><author>supernihil</author><text>I dont like the idea of replacing the time spend compulsively procrastinating with &amp;quot;learning a new language, getting a pet, going to the gym&amp;quot; is the right way.&lt;p&gt;I see the root cause (for me atleast (used to read HN and blogs for 4 hours everyday)) is that i cant stand being with myself.&lt;p&gt;During the last two months ive been trying to not panic when i&amp;#x27;m idle. And not take out my phone or read the nearest material i can lay my hands on.&lt;p&gt;Instead i try to accept the necesity of &amp;quot;falde i staver&amp;quot; (danish for &amp;#x27;falling out of presence&amp;#x27;). When i was a kid i would often just fall into this state and just defocus with my sight and let daydreaming take over.&lt;p&gt;Basically i have a war going against effectiveness. I hold unto my right as a mammal to be inefficient and sit drooling looking at trees.&lt;p&gt;My advice on &amp;quot;doing something&amp;quot; when you have day without plans is the following:
Bike in the forrest, coffee from thermos near the ocean, read newspapers at the library, talk to people at trainstations (the frequent hangouts are always open for conversations)</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>derangedHorse</author><text>&amp;gt;Happiness is a superficial emotion&lt;p&gt;A google definition of superficial is &amp;quot;appearing to be true or real only until examined more closely.&amp;quot;&lt;p&gt;I don&amp;#x27;t see how the definition of a type of emotion can be &amp;quot;superficial&amp;quot;. Presumably your usage of &amp;quot;happy&amp;quot; in quotes is not actually happiness if you decided to put it in quotes. If you meant it as him actually being happy then &lt;i&gt;someone&lt;/i&gt; could decide to be sad for him but that has nothing to do with &lt;i&gt;his&lt;/i&gt; own happiness. Instead it would just be someone arrogantly projecting their own sensibilities and worldview onto the fortnite player while thinking they know better sources of happiness (when really the causes are subjective and every person derives varying levels of joy in different ways).&lt;p&gt;Making kids a &amp;quot;point of life&amp;quot; can itself be seen as a last ditch effort to be happy. The thought that there&amp;#x27;s some purpose in life that points to procreating is arbitrarily chosen and is seemingly that way because people derive happiness from some idea of having a legacy or finding comfort in interpreting the potential continuous spread of dna as some proxy for immortality</text></comment>
<story><title>I&apos;m an addict</title><url>https://tarunreddy.bearblog.dev/addict/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>bko</author><text>Do you have an alternative &amp;quot;point of life&amp;quot;?&lt;p&gt;Is it career? If so, that&amp;#x27;s pretty depressing. Happiness is a superficial emotion. If your loved one was &amp;quot;happy&amp;quot; spending his entire life playing fortnight in his parent&amp;#x27;s basement, would you be sad for him? Charity?&lt;p&gt;I don&amp;#x27;t know. Never found a meaning as compelling as having children.</text></item><item><author>tonguez</author><text>so life’s greatest winner is genghis khan</text></item><item><author>sizzle</author><text>I mean from a purely evolutionary perspective, the point of life is to pass on your genes to your offspring, so having kids would be winning at this game we call life…</text></item><item><author>alex_suzuki</author><text>I would strongly argue against having kids as a solution for &lt;i&gt;any&lt;/i&gt; of life‘s problems.
Kids are an incredibly demanding venture and can exacerbate existing problems.
Speaking from experience here.</text></item><item><author>katzgrau</author><text>They&amp;#x27;re just cliche ideas for how to fill the time. Anyone one who tries to break an addiction suddenly finds themselves with a lot of free time they don&amp;#x27;t know how to fill.&lt;p&gt;But on that note, have multiple kids AND get a pet. You&amp;#x27;ll never have a free minute again.</text></item><item><author>supernihil</author><text>I dont like the idea of replacing the time spend compulsively procrastinating with &amp;quot;learning a new language, getting a pet, going to the gym&amp;quot; is the right way.&lt;p&gt;I see the root cause (for me atleast (used to read HN and blogs for 4 hours everyday)) is that i cant stand being with myself.&lt;p&gt;During the last two months ive been trying to not panic when i&amp;#x27;m idle. And not take out my phone or read the nearest material i can lay my hands on.&lt;p&gt;Instead i try to accept the necesity of &amp;quot;falde i staver&amp;quot; (danish for &amp;#x27;falling out of presence&amp;#x27;). When i was a kid i would often just fall into this state and just defocus with my sight and let daydreaming take over.&lt;p&gt;Basically i have a war going against effectiveness. I hold unto my right as a mammal to be inefficient and sit drooling looking at trees.&lt;p&gt;My advice on &amp;quot;doing something&amp;quot; when you have day without plans is the following:
Bike in the forrest, coffee from thermos near the ocean, read newspapers at the library, talk to people at trainstations (the frequent hangouts are always open for conversations)</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>throwawayboise</author><text>Why does there have to be a point? Just go with it.</text></comment>