<story><title>How to parent more predictably (2018)</title><url>https://www.jefftk.com/p/how-to-parent-more-predictably</url></story><parent_chain></parent_chain><comment><author>sambeau</author><text>My most valuable piece of advice for parents is to keep your children informed about your plans for the day, especially things about to happen soon, and bear in mind that kids have their own plans and time schedules (and don&amp;#x27;t wear watches).&lt;p&gt;For instance, if you are about to go out, give them fair warning and a few reminders. Especially the all-important: if you need to save your game, you need to do it now.&lt;p&gt;Similarly, if kids are taking turns with toys, your kid might be patiently waiting their turn. To be suddenly yanked away before their turn will, quite rightly, feel like an injustice. I used to tell them all that if its someone&amp;#x27;s turn coming up that they should get to have it before we leave. Kids are usually fair in these circumstances.&lt;p&gt;These simple rules meant my kids never had leaving tantrums, and rarely had tantrums at all.</text></comment>
<story><title>How to parent more predictably (2018)</title><url>https://www.jefftk.com/p/how-to-parent-more-predictably</url></story><parent_chain></parent_chain><comment><author>laserlight</author><text>&amp;gt; Similarly, don&amp;#x27;t make commitments unnecessarily. Instead of &amp;quot;I&amp;#x27;ll go downstairs and get your bear&amp;quot; maybe &amp;quot;I&amp;#x27;ll go downstairs and look for your bear.&amp;quot; While with adults we understand that when a person says they&amp;#x27;ll do something they mean they&amp;#x27;ll put in a reasonable effort and may fail if the task is surprisingly difficult or if factors outside their control intervene, [...]&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#x27;m not sure adults understand it either. Many times, I&amp;#x27;ve seen managers calling out a team member for not delivering by the time that they told they would. So, I started to add a caveat to almost everything I say about the future: “I plan to [...]”.</text></comment>