<story><title>I won over $55M in the lottery, but didn’t tell my friends or family</title><url>https://www.marketwatch.com/story/i-won-over-55-million-in-the-california-lottery-but-didnt-tell-my-friends-or-family-did-i-do-the-right-thing-11625001363</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>TheMerovingian</author><text>I don&amp;#x27;t think you need to win the lottery to be in this situation. Imagine having a cushy job in a FAANG company, where your base salary is probably more than what your parents make combined. It is in my case.&lt;p&gt;I made the mistake of telling them (roughly) what I earn and it definitely has changed the way they interact with me. I get remarks about my &amp;#x27;wealth&amp;#x27; and that I can easily drop $10K on something frivolous. I get other remarks that compare their hard job to my &amp;#x27;easy&amp;#x27; job that has catering and long lunch breaks. No one asks how my mental state is. No one asks whether I take my work home with me at the end of the day. No one asks how many hours I put in. All they see is a family member that will drop a ton of cash on a nice vacation or a larger house.&lt;p&gt;Word of advice: don&amp;#x27;t tell your family how much you make either.</text></item><item><author>thepasswordis</author><text>Not that much, but I did make a ton of money in crypto.  Similar thing: bought a house, also bought myself a nice car.&lt;p&gt;I didn&amp;#x27;t tell any of my friends, but did mistakenly tell one of my parents, who then felt it necessary to share this information with the rest of my family.&lt;p&gt;If you make a bunch of money: I would highly recommend not telling people.  The &lt;i&gt;will&lt;/i&gt; treat you differently (not in a good way).</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>mbesto</author><text>&amp;gt; Word of advice: don&amp;#x27;t tell your family how much you make either.&lt;p&gt;YMMV. I don&amp;#x27;t have any immediate family members who are at risk for monetary issues (luckily) and I have not had any issues with them knowing how much I earn. I&amp;#x27;m also lucky that my family has been taught the value of a dollar since I was little. Not everyone has that advantage so I can definitely see why the default advice should be &amp;quot;don&amp;#x27;t tell them&amp;quot;.&lt;p&gt;My dad&amp;#x27;s sisters and some cousins on the other hand...ya...they don&amp;#x27;t need to know.</text></comment>
<story><title>I won over $55M in the lottery, but didn’t tell my friends or family</title><url>https://www.marketwatch.com/story/i-won-over-55-million-in-the-california-lottery-but-didnt-tell-my-friends-or-family-did-i-do-the-right-thing-11625001363</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>TheMerovingian</author><text>I don&amp;#x27;t think you need to win the lottery to be in this situation. Imagine having a cushy job in a FAANG company, where your base salary is probably more than what your parents make combined. It is in my case.&lt;p&gt;I made the mistake of telling them (roughly) what I earn and it definitely has changed the way they interact with me. I get remarks about my &amp;#x27;wealth&amp;#x27; and that I can easily drop $10K on something frivolous. I get other remarks that compare their hard job to my &amp;#x27;easy&amp;#x27; job that has catering and long lunch breaks. No one asks how my mental state is. No one asks whether I take my work home with me at the end of the day. No one asks how many hours I put in. All they see is a family member that will drop a ton of cash on a nice vacation or a larger house.&lt;p&gt;Word of advice: don&amp;#x27;t tell your family how much you make either.</text></item><item><author>thepasswordis</author><text>Not that much, but I did make a ton of money in crypto.  Similar thing: bought a house, also bought myself a nice car.&lt;p&gt;I didn&amp;#x27;t tell any of my friends, but did mistakenly tell one of my parents, who then felt it necessary to share this information with the rest of my family.&lt;p&gt;If you make a bunch of money: I would highly recommend not telling people.  The &lt;i&gt;will&lt;/i&gt; treat you differently (not in a good way).</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>version_five</author><text>What you describe is true of many successes I find. Lots of people look at it as if you got some unfair or lucky break. Maybe that is true for the lottery, but for things like good grades, good job, wealth, or even access to leisure time (for example having time to exercise), many get defensive instead of being happy for the success. I&amp;#x27;ve done it to, to some extent it&amp;#x27;s human nature, but it&amp;#x27;s something to try and avoid.</text></comment>