<story><title>Be a thermostat, not a thermometer (2023)</title><url>https://larahogan.me/blog/be-a-thermostat-not-a-thermometer/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>deisteve</author><text>While the article has some good points about the importance of emotional intelligence and awareness, I&amp;#x27;m skeptical about the idea that we can simply &amp;quot;choose&amp;quot; to be thermostats. Humans are complex and emotional creatures, and our emotions can be triggered by a multitude of factors beyond our control. The article&amp;#x27;s suggestions, while well-intentioned, feel like a form of emotional labor that can be exhausting and unsustainable. Can we really expect people to be constantly &amp;quot;on&amp;quot; and aware of their emotional impact on others?</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>bfung</author><text>&amp;gt; I&amp;#x27;m skeptical about the idea that we can simply &amp;quot;choose&amp;quot; to be thermostats.&lt;p&gt;Well, it’s like most things, it takes practice and time to be good at it if natural talent isn’t there.&lt;p&gt;Sure, things out of our control can trigger emotions, but one incredible ability of humans is to rationalize those emotions and act in more constructive ways than to immediate react back.&lt;p&gt;It can be quite liberating and fun to understand and process these things, much like understanding code and data structures in order to recombine them into things you want to achieve.</text></comment>
<story><title>Be a thermostat, not a thermometer (2023)</title><url>https://larahogan.me/blog/be-a-thermostat-not-a-thermometer/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>deisteve</author><text>While the article has some good points about the importance of emotional intelligence and awareness, I&amp;#x27;m skeptical about the idea that we can simply &amp;quot;choose&amp;quot; to be thermostats. Humans are complex and emotional creatures, and our emotions can be triggered by a multitude of factors beyond our control. The article&amp;#x27;s suggestions, while well-intentioned, feel like a form of emotional labor that can be exhausting and unsustainable. Can we really expect people to be constantly &amp;quot;on&amp;quot; and aware of their emotional impact on others?</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>theultdev</author><text>It&amp;#x27;s less emotional labor and less exhausting the more you are aware of your emotions.&lt;p&gt;You can recognize the stimuli and rationalize it before becoming upset.&lt;p&gt;The more you do it, the easier it becomes and the less stressed you become.</text></comment>