<story><title>For Men Who Hate Talking on the Phone, Games Keep Friendships Alive</title><url>https://kotaku.com/for-men-who-hate-talking-on-the-phone-games-keep-frien-1835277944</url></story><parent_chain></parent_chain><comment><author>papeda</author><text>As for many things, there&amp;#x27;s a nice Knausgaard quote about this:&lt;p&gt;&amp;gt; That’s what distance does; when the time between conversations gets longer, intimacy diminishes, the little things connected to one’s daily life lose their place, it seems odd to talk about a shirt you just bought or to mention you’re thinking of leaving the dishes until morning when you haven’t spoken to a person for two weeks or a month, that absence would seem instead to call for more important topics, and once they begin to determine the conversation there’s no turning back, because then it’s two diplomats exchanging information about their respective realms in a conversation that needs to be started up from scratch, in a sense, every time, which gradually becomes tedious, and eventually it’s easier not to bother phoning at all, in which case it’s even harder the next time, and then suddenly it’s been half a year of silence.&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#x27;m a guy and I like phone calls to friends, but I let them wander organically with little pressure. Of course, my friends and I have lives where it&amp;#x27;s not a big deal to set aside an hour or two for meandering conversation, and not everybody does. But wandering conversation is such a high-utility activity for me that I&amp;#x27;m happy to do so. At any rate, it beats watching Netflix or whatever by a mile -- I remain confused by how many people say they have no time for friends but also consume a &lt;i&gt;bunch&lt;/i&gt; of solo entertainment. I guess if your free time comes in unpredictably scheduled half hour blocks it might simultaneously be hard to plan hangouts and easy to watch TV, but I don&amp;#x27;t think most people have that kind of life, outside of maybe certain sets of parents of young children?</text></comment>
<story><title>For Men Who Hate Talking on the Phone, Games Keep Friendships Alive</title><url>https://kotaku.com/for-men-who-hate-talking-on-the-phone-games-keep-frien-1835277944</url></story><parent_chain></parent_chain><comment><author>JeffL</author><text>I was playing a Moba with my brother almost every day, talking on voice while we played.  I had to quit because the Moba was really sucking up all my drive and free time, but after quitting, I really missed talking with my brother.  I started playing again for that reason, but had to quit again, because in the year and a half I was playing that game, I really got nothing done other than have lots of fun and piss off my wife.  Of course I never call my brother on the phone otherwise, I have no reason to.  I have a really hard time finding a middle ground, but the social aspect of gaming is definitely one of the strong positives for me.</text></comment>