<story><title>It’s your friends who break your heart</title><url>https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2022/03/why-we-lose-friends-aging-happiness/621305/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>nus07</author><text>One of the things that I noticed that when I lived in India and England, I never felt lonely . It was more walkable and there was less of a comparing salaries and lifestyles and more of hanging out and ‘chilling’. Maybe I was younger . But moving to the US has been bad because how isolating it is - cannot get out of the house and walk to a place or a market or bar except NYC . Most social connections are around an activity like playing board games or running . No one wants to just hang out and talk without discussing jobs and salaries. People from different classes and jobs and lifestyles rarely mix . I do regret moving to the US from a social and friends perspective.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>shihab</author><text>I moved to a mid-seized US city 6 months ago for grad school and I wholeheartedly agree with you.&lt;p&gt;The bit about hanging out in particular surprised me. I live in such a beautiful neighborhood, yet I almost never see any people outside. People are either walking their dogs or going from their door to car. I never saw a group of child randomly running around, teenagers doing teenager things, or bunch of old people just hanging about- sights I&amp;#x27;m so used to. It&amp;#x27;s even more weird because these people are so friendly when you do get to interact with them.</text></comment>
<story><title>It’s your friends who break your heart</title><url>https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2022/03/why-we-lose-friends-aging-happiness/621305/</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>nus07</author><text>One of the things that I noticed that when I lived in India and England, I never felt lonely . It was more walkable and there was less of a comparing salaries and lifestyles and more of hanging out and ‘chilling’. Maybe I was younger . But moving to the US has been bad because how isolating it is - cannot get out of the house and walk to a place or a market or bar except NYC . Most social connections are around an activity like playing board games or running . No one wants to just hang out and talk without discussing jobs and salaries. People from different classes and jobs and lifestyles rarely mix . I do regret moving to the US from a social and friends perspective.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>lowwave</author><text>&amp;gt; Most social connections are around an activity like playing board games or running . No one wants to just hang out and talk without discussing jobs and salaries.&lt;p&gt;Think in major cities like NYC, LA, San Fran, London are like this. In some places in Seattle and Portland in some groups you will find more people like that ones your were hanging out in India. However, this is one of biggest problem of USA. People live to work, where else in Europe (or in India it seems also), people work to live. Think what you find in India is also true in many places in Europe. Especially in smaller cities.</text></comment>