<story><title>Show HN: Monica, an open-source CRM to manage friends and family</title><url>https://monicahq.com</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>danielvf</author><text>My uncle died suddenly this year. He was unbelievably caring - and not just to family - but to everyone he ever met. His funeral was jam packed with everyone from homeless people to executives of multi-billion dollar companies.&lt;p&gt;I always thought that his ability to always have you, and whatever you had last talked about with him, on his mind at any moment was some kind of supernatural gift. I was surprised to find out at his funeral that he actually kept an excel spreadsheet of everyone he met and what they needed and were going through. He reviewed this constantly.&lt;p&gt;It didn&amp;#x27;t lessen his genuine love for everyone, just let him be a little more super human.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>binarypaean</author><text>I feel like him doing that with a spreadsheet is more impressive than having some kind of photographic social memory.&lt;p&gt;He cared about people enough to make familiarity and kindness a discipline and habit that he lived. Despite many of our apps, life hacks, and &amp;quot;social medias&amp;quot; we miss the simple insight; social kindness is rooted in just giving enough of a damn to have a discipline for it. Any tool is secondary.</text></comment>
<story><title>Show HN: Monica, an open-source CRM to manage friends and family</title><url>https://monicahq.com</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>danielvf</author><text>My uncle died suddenly this year. He was unbelievably caring - and not just to family - but to everyone he ever met. His funeral was jam packed with everyone from homeless people to executives of multi-billion dollar companies.&lt;p&gt;I always thought that his ability to always have you, and whatever you had last talked about with him, on his mind at any moment was some kind of supernatural gift. I was surprised to find out at his funeral that he actually kept an excel spreadsheet of everyone he met and what they needed and were going through. He reviewed this constantly.&lt;p&gt;It didn&amp;#x27;t lessen his genuine love for everyone, just let him be a little more super human.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>jackarg</author><text>If you want to become a generous person such as him, when do you know when you&amp;#x27;ve reached a limit in compassion? Would someone like your uncle ever think, for someone who is excessively rude, uncaring, disagreeable, unfriendly: &amp;quot;he is not worth my time, I should move on?&amp;quot;</text></comment>