<story><title>I would like closure, but I&apos;ll take honesty</title><url>https://freddiedeboer.substack.com/p/i-would-like-closure-but-ill-take</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>worik</author><text>&amp;gt; I have asked that people consider that I deserve neither total condemnation nor total exoneration.&lt;p&gt;This.  In a lot of circles I move there is a tendency to &amp;quot;total condemnation&amp;quot;.&lt;p&gt;We can be better to each other.  When we do not deserve it is when we need it the most.&lt;p&gt;Peace, love, respect foster peace, love and respect.  &amp;quot;Total condemnation&amp;quot; might make the condemner have some temporary good feelings, but does no good for anybody  beyond that.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>unreal37</author><text>Also, &amp;quot;To those of you who are not people I harmed in my psychotic episode in August 2017… what is it you think I owe you?&amp;quot;&lt;p&gt;There seems to be this tendency that people who only learned about something 5 minutes ago get outrage and demand retribution. Like it&amp;#x27;s a reflex.&lt;p&gt;The mob has vigilante tendencies. Let&amp;#x27;s go write an email to someone&amp;#x27;s employer and demand that they fire them. Millions of people band together and demand justice. For what?</text></comment>
<story><title>I would like closure, but I&apos;ll take honesty</title><url>https://freddiedeboer.substack.com/p/i-would-like-closure-but-ill-take</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>worik</author><text>&amp;gt; I have asked that people consider that I deserve neither total condemnation nor total exoneration.&lt;p&gt;This.  In a lot of circles I move there is a tendency to &amp;quot;total condemnation&amp;quot;.&lt;p&gt;We can be better to each other.  When we do not deserve it is when we need it the most.&lt;p&gt;Peace, love, respect foster peace, love and respect.  &amp;quot;Total condemnation&amp;quot; might make the condemner have some temporary good feelings, but does no good for anybody  beyond that.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>kempbellt</author><text>&amp;gt; This. In a lot of circles I move there is a tendency to &amp;quot;total condemnation&amp;quot;.&lt;p&gt;Which, ironically feels more like a bipolar approach to resolving a problem. Are they &lt;i&gt;good&lt;/i&gt;, or are they &lt;i&gt;bad&lt;/i&gt;? Is it &lt;i&gt;legal&lt;/i&gt;, or is it &lt;i&gt;illegal&lt;/i&gt;? Are they &lt;i&gt;right&lt;/i&gt;, or are they &lt;i&gt;wrong&lt;/i&gt;? Do we &lt;i&gt;punish&lt;/i&gt;, or do we &lt;i&gt;praise&lt;/i&gt;?&lt;p&gt;There seems to be this strange generalized assumption that &lt;i&gt;people&lt;/i&gt; are bipolar, and &lt;i&gt;they&lt;/i&gt; are the problem. Completely ignoring the fact that society itself demonstrates some seriously bipolar tendencies. Many times, suggesting &amp;quot;either&amp;#x2F;or&amp;quot; solutions to problems that would really benefit from more nuance.&lt;p&gt;Sometimes the best answer is: ¯\_(ツ)_&amp;#x2F;¯</text></comment>