<story><title>&apos;The desire to have a child never goes away&apos;: The Involuntarily Childless</title><url>https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/oct/02/the-desire-to-have-a-child-never-goes-away-how-the-involuntarily-childless-are-forming-a-new-movement</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>yodsanklai</author><text>42, I don&amp;#x27;t want kids. People keep telling me that:
 I&amp;#x27;d be happier if I had one, that they thought like me until they had one, that they wished they had them sooner, or more of them and so on...&lt;p&gt;I like my life as it is now and don&amp;#x27;t feel the appeal for kids. Should I take the risk because everybody says so?</text></item><item><author>Dunan</author><text>Wasn&amp;#x27;t especting to see this kind of article referenced on HN, and it hit me hard.  I&amp;#x27;m 41, partner is too, and would give absolutely anything to have a child of my own.  She was never ready until just recently.&lt;p&gt;I can&amp;#x27;t even go an hour without thinking about it...</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>aidenn0</author><text>Two words: Hell No.&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#x27;m saying that despite having kids and being glad that I made that decision.  I&amp;#x27;ve seen way too many relationships destroyed because one or both of the couple were pressured into having kids that they didn&amp;#x27;t want.  It&amp;#x27;s not pretty.</text></comment>
<story><title>&apos;The desire to have a child never goes away&apos;: The Involuntarily Childless</title><url>https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/oct/02/the-desire-to-have-a-child-never-goes-away-how-the-involuntarily-childless-are-forming-a-new-movement</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>yodsanklai</author><text>42, I don&amp;#x27;t want kids. People keep telling me that:
 I&amp;#x27;d be happier if I had one, that they thought like me until they had one, that they wished they had them sooner, or more of them and so on...&lt;p&gt;I like my life as it is now and don&amp;#x27;t feel the appeal for kids. Should I take the risk because everybody says so?</text></item><item><author>Dunan</author><text>Wasn&amp;#x27;t especting to see this kind of article referenced on HN, and it hit me hard.  I&amp;#x27;m 41, partner is too, and would give absolutely anything to have a child of my own.  She was never ready until just recently.&lt;p&gt;I can&amp;#x27;t even go an hour without thinking about it...</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>paulcole</author><text>No! Why would you do something just because other people want you to do it, especially something that can&amp;#x27;t be undone like having a kid.&lt;p&gt;Misery loves company.&lt;p&gt;There&amp;#x27;s a discussion about the regret of having kids here:&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&amp;#x2F;item?id=16132955&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&amp;#x2F;item?id=16132955&lt;/a&gt;</text></comment>