<story><title>What it feels like to be bullied out of a job you love</title><url>https://www.justworktogether.com/blog/this-is-what-it-feels-like</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>FeistySkink</author><text>Unfortunately being on-call 24x7 is the base expectation at big companies, from my experience. And since most people seem to go along with it, standing up to it leads to you being bullied out.&lt;p&gt;Edit: and being on-call just means free overtime.</text></item><item><author>ilc</author><text>My most recent boss, who was DAMN good, got his shit done etc... taught me one very important life lesson.&lt;p&gt;Stop at the end of the day.  Pick a time, or a number of hours you&amp;#x27;ll work... and stop.&lt;p&gt;Close the laptop for work use, and that&amp;#x27;s that.&lt;p&gt;Pick it up tomorrow.  Have a boundary.&lt;p&gt;Yes, I really like my current company.  But that small boundary of stopping my day&amp;#x27;s work every day.  Not carrying my work like a cross... Makes it so when things swing to and fro at work, my head is much more level. Even if you are on a roll and in the flow... consider closing the laptop when you lose your current flow.&lt;p&gt;Then go do something else!  Play a video game, knit a sweater, take a walk, fly a kite, hug someone you love...&lt;p&gt;That&amp;#x27;s your time.  Use it and enjoy it!&lt;p&gt;If you feel guilty, remember... Rest is critical to performance.  The sooner you realize this, the happier you will be at work, and outside of work.&lt;p&gt;Source: Engineer of 25+ years, who has seen many things... And many stupid things :)</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>ilc</author><text>It isn&amp;#x27;t free, you price it in day 1.  There&amp;#x27;s a reason thsoe firms pay absurdly high.&lt;p&gt;Also: Boundaries still apply.  When on-call, you deal with being on-call.&lt;p&gt;For a small firm, 24x7x265 on-call happens, but if you are getting called constantly, it is up to you to get the quality issue and toil fixed.&lt;p&gt;For a large firm, if I&amp;#x27;m put on 24x7x365 call, I&amp;#x27;d be asking for a LARGE premium.&lt;p&gt;If it is once every 5+ weeks, that&amp;#x27;s supporting prod.  You do your week in the rotation... But that doesn&amp;#x27;t mean you are working hard that week.  If anything I&amp;#x27;d shorten my hours while on-call, so I have the energy to respond to an emergency.&lt;p&gt;Life is a marathon.  Not a sprint.</text></comment>
<story><title>What it feels like to be bullied out of a job you love</title><url>https://www.justworktogether.com/blog/this-is-what-it-feels-like</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>FeistySkink</author><text>Unfortunately being on-call 24x7 is the base expectation at big companies, from my experience. And since most people seem to go along with it, standing up to it leads to you being bullied out.&lt;p&gt;Edit: and being on-call just means free overtime.</text></item><item><author>ilc</author><text>My most recent boss, who was DAMN good, got his shit done etc... taught me one very important life lesson.&lt;p&gt;Stop at the end of the day.  Pick a time, or a number of hours you&amp;#x27;ll work... and stop.&lt;p&gt;Close the laptop for work use, and that&amp;#x27;s that.&lt;p&gt;Pick it up tomorrow.  Have a boundary.&lt;p&gt;Yes, I really like my current company.  But that small boundary of stopping my day&amp;#x27;s work every day.  Not carrying my work like a cross... Makes it so when things swing to and fro at work, my head is much more level. Even if you are on a roll and in the flow... consider closing the laptop when you lose your current flow.&lt;p&gt;Then go do something else!  Play a video game, knit a sweater, take a walk, fly a kite, hug someone you love...&lt;p&gt;That&amp;#x27;s your time.  Use it and enjoy it!&lt;p&gt;If you feel guilty, remember... Rest is critical to performance.  The sooner you realize this, the happier you will be at work, and outside of work.&lt;p&gt;Source: Engineer of 25+ years, who has seen many things... And many stupid things :)</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>parker_mountain</author><text>&amp;gt; being on-call 24x7 is the base expectation at big companies, from my experience&lt;p&gt;Your experience is atypical.&lt;p&gt;&amp;gt; standing up to it leads to you being bullied out&lt;p&gt;Make them try.</text></comment>