<story><title>How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger</title><url>https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2019/03/13/685533353/a-playful-way-to-teach-kids-to-control-their-anger</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>emmanuel_1234</author><text>This kind of article is inspiring, but also makes me depressed at what a shit parent I must be and all the various ways I&amp;#x27;m screwing up with my kids head, despite trying my best, out of my own imperfections and ignorance.&lt;p&gt;Scary.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>oarsinsync</author><text>The joy of parenting is that we get to learn from the mistakes our parents made with us, while dreaming up ingenious new ways to screw our own kids up.&lt;p&gt;The key is just to try and do the best you can. Try not to worry too much about what other people are doing.&lt;p&gt;Your parents were likely just as imperfect and ignorant as you are, albeit in their own ways. If they were able to get you to a point where you&amp;#x27;ve got these kinds of concerns doing it yourself, you&amp;#x27;ve probably turned out ok, and your kids will too.</text></comment>
<story><title>How Inuit parents teach kids to control their anger</title><url>https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2019/03/13/685533353/a-playful-way-to-teach-kids-to-control-their-anger</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>emmanuel_1234</author><text>This kind of article is inspiring, but also makes me depressed at what a shit parent I must be and all the various ways I&amp;#x27;m screwing up with my kids head, despite trying my best, out of my own imperfections and ignorance.&lt;p&gt;Scary.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>m_mueller</author><text>I have a 3yo myself and I think it&amp;#x27;s all a trade-off, there&amp;#x27;s no such thing as perfect parenting. Old cultures tend to land in a local optimum.&lt;p&gt;That being said I&amp;#x27;d consciously not move to an average US town as I think there&amp;#x27;s too much fear spread, it doesn&amp;#x27;t fit my own culture of giving children space&amp;#x2F;responsibility as early as possible. Depending on community reaction that can be impossible - not just in many parts of the US but also in Southern Europe for example. There tends to be much more support from the wider family there however.&lt;p&gt;Another local optimum I&amp;#x27;ve seen in Japan where almost everyone is incredibly well behaved but almost no-one learns to think outside the box. Eh. I say choose what you think works and try to choose a community supporting it, within the options you have.</text></comment>