<story><title>For people with an abusive partner, lockdown means captivity</title><url>https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/mar/30/abusive-partner-lockdown-domestic-abuse-charities-women-home</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>Zenst</author><text>I&amp;#x27;m Stuck in a flat above heroin&amp;#x2F;crack abusers, they have dealers in all the time, abuse the victim card and keep getting away with it.  Police, council.... all just victimhood them and dispite over years and years of having hard evidence, they just ignore it.&lt;p&gt;Equally the partner of the women had a business, working and she got him hooked on the stuff, she&amp;#x27;s abusive, killing him and nobody over the years seems to care as she is for want of a better word - classic dark triad case &lt;a href=&quot;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&amp;#x2F;wiki&amp;#x2F;Dark_triad&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&amp;#x2F;wiki&amp;#x2F;Dark_triad&lt;/a&gt;&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#x27;ve suffered abuse, homophobic abuse and as I&amp;#x27;m not gay, it has been ignored.  Even malicious gossip about me being a peado, again all ignored by the powers that be and I&amp;#x27;ve done all the right things, tried so many times and been ignored.&lt;p&gt;Since lockdown they have guests all the time, dealers, really nasty people and yet, i&amp;#x27;m still ignored.&lt;p&gt;Housing association in question even gone out their way to protect them and she has driven so many people out of their homes due to her abuse and still is allowed to get away with it as she excels at playing the victim, lies and I could list endless examples, it just frustrates me how these people keep on being allowed to carry on.&lt;p&gt;So yes, very mindful of abuse, sadly the system seems to excel at enabling them.&lt;p&gt;Oh as for police, even had instances of them not only doing nothing, but informing the dealers who informed upon them.
Like passing on statements to her so she can show the dealers she didn&amp;#x27;t inform upon them and with that, lets them back in to the detrement of those who stood up.&lt;p&gt;So nobody dares do anything as they have lost faith in the police and all support.&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#x27;m now at stage that I need a good investigative reporter as I have recordings and other proofs as the police have failed me so many times that I&amp;#x27;ve lost faith in them completly.  As I have all support systems.&lt;p&gt;I have aspergers and have serious PTSD due to years of this abuse and need help getting the truth out there.&lt;p&gt;Sorry if this not best place to talk about this, but I&amp;#x27;ve tried and tried all the right avenues and only to be failed.&lt;p&gt;Also sorry that I can&amp;#x27;t bestow all the details as it is so painful and triggers my PTSD but I&amp;#x27;ll try.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>john_moscow</author><text>&amp;gt;So nobody dares do anything as they have lost faith in the police and all support.
&amp;gt;I have aspergers and have serious PTSD due to years of this abuse and need help getting the truth out there.&lt;p&gt;Here&amp;#x27;s one uncomfortable fact about our society that most people sort of feel, but don&amp;#x27;t usually express in words. Despite what people say, nobody gives a damn about others&amp;#x27; problems. People will tell you all kinds of kind and supportive words, because it makes &lt;i&gt;them&lt;/i&gt; feel good about &lt;i&gt;themselves&lt;/i&gt; being so kind. Nobody will go an extra mile and risk being attacked&amp;#x2F;sued&amp;#x2F;defamed, unless the problem starts seriously affecting &lt;i&gt;them&lt;/i&gt;. Please do yourself a favor and put together what other people said and what they have done so far, and you will find this as the most plausible model.&lt;p&gt;If you truly have Aspergers, think of this purely logically. How much time&amp;#x2F;effort have you put into getting the truth out there? What if you put the same effort towards simply moving elsewhere? Make sure you understand what neighborhoods&amp;#x2F;apartment types will have lower probability of the same problem. Also think of renting a detached house in the middle of nowhere and working remotely. It could cost comparably to a downtown condo, but you will get priceless peace and quiet.&lt;p&gt;It is sad, but there is no &amp;quot;getting truth out there&amp;quot; option. There is an option of fighting the windmills, hearing kind words from everyone, while still stuck in a lifestyle you hate. Or there&amp;#x27;s an option of being selfish, setting a goal that will help you and just you, and allocating every resource you have towards achieving this goal.</text></comment>
<story><title>For people with an abusive partner, lockdown means captivity</title><url>https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/mar/30/abusive-partner-lockdown-domestic-abuse-charities-women-home</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>Zenst</author><text>I&amp;#x27;m Stuck in a flat above heroin&amp;#x2F;crack abusers, they have dealers in all the time, abuse the victim card and keep getting away with it.  Police, council.... all just victimhood them and dispite over years and years of having hard evidence, they just ignore it.&lt;p&gt;Equally the partner of the women had a business, working and she got him hooked on the stuff, she&amp;#x27;s abusive, killing him and nobody over the years seems to care as she is for want of a better word - classic dark triad case &lt;a href=&quot;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&amp;#x2F;wiki&amp;#x2F;Dark_triad&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;https:&amp;#x2F;&amp;#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&amp;#x2F;wiki&amp;#x2F;Dark_triad&lt;/a&gt;&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#x27;ve suffered abuse, homophobic abuse and as I&amp;#x27;m not gay, it has been ignored.  Even malicious gossip about me being a peado, again all ignored by the powers that be and I&amp;#x27;ve done all the right things, tried so many times and been ignored.&lt;p&gt;Since lockdown they have guests all the time, dealers, really nasty people and yet, i&amp;#x27;m still ignored.&lt;p&gt;Housing association in question even gone out their way to protect them and she has driven so many people out of their homes due to her abuse and still is allowed to get away with it as she excels at playing the victim, lies and I could list endless examples, it just frustrates me how these people keep on being allowed to carry on.&lt;p&gt;So yes, very mindful of abuse, sadly the system seems to excel at enabling them.&lt;p&gt;Oh as for police, even had instances of them not only doing nothing, but informing the dealers who informed upon them.
Like passing on statements to her so she can show the dealers she didn&amp;#x27;t inform upon them and with that, lets them back in to the detrement of those who stood up.&lt;p&gt;So nobody dares do anything as they have lost faith in the police and all support.&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#x27;m now at stage that I need a good investigative reporter as I have recordings and other proofs as the police have failed me so many times that I&amp;#x27;ve lost faith in them completly.  As I have all support systems.&lt;p&gt;I have aspergers and have serious PTSD due to years of this abuse and need help getting the truth out there.&lt;p&gt;Sorry if this not best place to talk about this, but I&amp;#x27;ve tried and tried all the right avenues and only to be failed.&lt;p&gt;Also sorry that I can&amp;#x27;t bestow all the details as it is so painful and triggers my PTSD but I&amp;#x27;ll try.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>topbanana</author><text>You need to get the hell out of there. It can&amp;#x27;t be good for your mental health</text></comment>