<story><title>How to Talk to People, According to Terry Gross</title><url>https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/17/style/self-care/terry-gross-conversation-advice.html</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>travisjungroth</author><text>Almost every single comment in here is critical of Terry Gross’s advice. I have to wonder, does anyone here have a 40 year career as an interviewer and millions of people tuning in to listen to them every week? In the face of uncomfortable advice it’s so easy to dig your heels in to your experience instead of thinking “maybe there’s something to learn here”.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>jdboyd</author><text>Terry Gross is an excellent interview and I enjoy her work very much.  However, the advice claims to be how to have better conversations. I&amp;#x27;m not convinced that interviewing and having better conversations are the same thing.  Further, I think some of the advice here is really more advice about interviews, and thus it is fair to be critical of the advice in a different context. Most of the criticism is really only on using &amp;quot;Tell me about yourself&amp;quot; as an ice-breaker.  If I don&amp;#x27;t like being asked that question, than it is entirely reasonable for me to wonder if it is the best opener to use in general social circumstances.</text></comment>
<story><title>How to Talk to People, According to Terry Gross</title><url>https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/17/style/self-care/terry-gross-conversation-advice.html</url></story><parent_chain><item><author>travisjungroth</author><text>Almost every single comment in here is critical of Terry Gross’s advice. I have to wonder, does anyone here have a 40 year career as an interviewer and millions of people tuning in to listen to them every week? In the face of uncomfortable advice it’s so easy to dig your heels in to your experience instead of thinking “maybe there’s something to learn here”.</text></item></parent_chain><comment><author>icebraining</author><text>But that&amp;#x27;s the thing: &amp;quot;talking to people&amp;quot; and &amp;quot;interviewing them&amp;quot; are not the same thing. It&amp;#x27;s not even clear whether Gross is actually talking about party conversations and such, despite what the article says.&lt;p&gt;Also, results are not all that matters; you can be a critic of the methods even if they bring the desired outcome.</text></comment>