an older Korean minister who struggled in coming to terms with his gay son.

In this woman’s congregation was a JA lesbian woman who proudly told us about her two children, one adopted and the other through artificial insemination.

Next to me was Tad Aizumi, Marsha’s husband. Tad told me they had adopted two infants from Japan, a boy and a girl. After a number of years it became apparent the girl was not content with her sexual identity. After undergoing a radical transformation into a male, Aiden became subject to bullying in high school. He was able to graduate only after Marsha’s intervention. Marsha has written a book about her experience, which will be out in September.

Sitting on the other side of me was Eric Arimoto. (I use hisreal name with his permission. He says he has been out to his parents and friends since he was 19.) Our host, Andre Ting, who will be having meetings in his studio with Korean- and Chinese-speaking parents of LGBTQ children, has been to China to work with parents of LGBTQ kids there. He told the group how important it was, in talking to these parents, to not make them feel uncomfortable in dealing with their children.

At this point, Eric told of how he made his parents uncomfortable in telling them he was gay. Eric is a 40-something Yonsei. This revealed to us differences in the coming-out process ethnically, as well as generationally.

After the meeting I chatted briefly with the JA lesbian mother, who seemed quite pleased with the