had urinated on his exercise mat. The mother testified that in April 2002 the parties were on a trip to New Orleans for one of the older son's soccer matches. She stated that the father had been drinking and that the father called her an obscene name several times while the children were awake in the next room. The mother stated that the father shoved her against the door twice, leaving a bruise to her sternum. The father admitted being drunk and calling the mother the obscene name. The mother stated that the incident in New Orleans "was the straw that broke the camel's back," prompting her to file for a divorce in May 2002.
The mother admitted that after she had filed her petition for a divorce, shehad a three-month affair with Craig Ginsberg, the older son's soccer coach. The mother testified that at the time of trial the affair was over. The father presented evidence that the mother had spent 107 hours on the telephone with Ginsberg from October 2001 to December 2002, with the time dramatically increasing near the time she filed for a divorce.
Patty Norris, a teacher at the private school attended by the children, testified that she taught the younger son and the daughter. She also knew the older son because she has a child in the same grade at the school. She stated that she had *259 been a teacher for 25 years and that the mother was one of the best room mothers that she had ever had. She