However, she testified that the father did not return home that night and never answered his pager because he had passed out in his automobile. In 1995, the mother had to take the younger son, who was an infant at the time, to the emergency room because he had a viral infection. She telephoned the father, who was at a bar, and he swore at her and refused to meet her at the emergency room. The father did not return home that night. In 1997, the father was arrested in Illinois and charged with driving under the influence ("DUI"). The mother testified that the father has befriended Jim Walker, who owns a bar in Mobile, and that the father frequents Walker's bar.
*258 The mother testified that she believedthe father was unfaithful to her with a doctor who was completing her residency under the father's direction. She stated that she received telephone calls from a hospital employee telling her of the father's affair. The mother testified that at the time of the father's alleged affair, she was pregnant with the younger son and her obstetrician discovered that she was infected with chlamydia, a sexually transmitted disease. The father denied being unfaithful.
The mother stated that she was very involved in all the children's activities. She testified that the older son plays soccer and baseball and that he was a member of an elite soccer team that traveled to out-of-town matches. The mother was the manager of the son's team and helped to coordinate many aspects of the