Lauder was a fair linguist, as she added a knowledge of Latin and Greek to that of several modern languages, the latter of which she spoke fluently.
After completing her education, she worked as a linguist, and taught at Whitby Ladies' College, in Whitby, Ontario.
She married Abram William Lauder, a teacher, in 1856 and they moved to Toronto where he studied law.
He became a prominent barrister in that city, where he affiliated with the Conservative Party, serving for several years as a member of the Ontario Legislature.
During this time, Lauder became a philanthropist and member of the Woman's Christian Temperance Union (WCTU) movement.

The Lauders had one child, the pianist, William Waugh Lauder, for whom she was the sole teacher until he was eleven years old.
She was obliged to assume the entire direction of his musical education.
For this, she travelled extensively, residing in Great Britain, Germany, France and Italy, and visiting many parts of Europe, accompanied by her husband and son.
During her residence abroad, she formed the friendship of several musical celebrities and authors, and, armed with an introductory letter from the widely known author and musical critic, Oscar Paul, of the Royal Conservatorium der Musik in Leipzig, she took William to Sachse-Weimar, where he studied with Franz Liszt.
According to Pauline Pocknell, William was the only Canadian pupil of Liszt.
At the invitation of Liszt, Lauder took William to perform in Rome.
There, she was presented at the royal court to Umberto I and Queen Margherita, and was honoured with private audiences with the queen, and invitations, both in the Quirinal Palace and the Palace of Capodimonte in Naples.
Lauder was also presented, with her son, at the papal court to Pope Leo XIII.

Extensive travel was the inspiration for Lauder to publish various books, including My First Visit to England (1865) and In Europe (Toronto, 1877).

Enthused after spending time in the Harz in summer, she collected material on local folk tales with the help of German novelist Gustav Freytag and wrote Legends and Tales of the Harz Mountains in Germany, published by Hodder & Stoughton.
The 1881 work was dedicated to Queen Margherita, who presented Lauder with her royal autographed portrait.

Of this book, The Westminster Review stated:
Lovers of old German stories will thank 'Toofie Lauder' heartily for having collected together so charming a volume of Legends and Tales of the Hartz Mountains.
Whether the name 'Toofie Lauder' signifies a lady or a gentleman we have no means of guessing, but we should fancy that the graceful style of the book comes from a woman’s pen.

"Toofie" was a fictional character in at least one of Lauder's works, and was also used as a pen name.
She published many literary articles and poems under the pen name, as well as a number of volumes of poetry.
She wrote a tribute poem upon the death of Empress Elisabeth of Austria, as well as poems honoring Queen Victoria, King Edward, and King George.
She also wrote lyrics for several songs, including "Britain, We Stand by You", "The Last Night and its Vision, "Birdie's Reply : To a Wee Bird Trying to Fly", music by Arthur Uvedale,  and "Alone - The Queen's Lament".
Lauder was a fair linguist, as she added a knowledge of Latin and Greek to that of several modern languages, the latter of which she spoke fluently. After completing her education, she worked as a linguist, and taught at Whitby Ladies' College, in Whitby, Ontario. She married Abram William Lauder, a teacher, in 1856 and they moved to Toronto where he studied law. He became a prominent barrister in that city, where he affiliated with the Conservative Party, serving for several years as a member of the Ontario Legislature. During this time, Lauder became a philanthropist and member of the Woman's Christian Temperance Union (WCTU) movement. 
The Lauders had one child, the pianist, William Waugh Lauder, for whom she was the sole teacher until he was eleven years old. She was obliged to assume the entire direction of his musical education. For this, she travelled extensively, residing in Great Britain, Germany, France and Italy, and visiting many parts of Europe, accompanied by her husband and son. During her residence abroad, she formed the friendship of several musical celebrities and authors, and, armed with an introductory letter from the widely known author and musical critic, Oscar Paul, of the Royal Conservatorium der Musik in Leipzig, she took William to Sachse-Weimar, where he studied with Franz Liszt. According to Pauline Pocknell, William was the only Canadian pupil of Liszt. At the invitation of Liszt, Lauder took William to perform in Rome. There, she was presented at the royal court to Umberto I and Queen Margherita, and was honoured with private audiences with the queen, and invitations, both in the Quirinal Palace and the Palace of Capodimonte in Naples. Lauder was also presented, with her son, at the papal court to Pope Leo XIII.
Extensive travel was the inspiration for Lauder to publish various books, including My First Visit to England (1865) and In Europe (Toronto, 1877). 
Enthused after spending time in the Harz in summer, she collected material on local folk tales with the help of German novelist Gustav Freytag and wrote Legends and Tales of the Harz Mountains in Germany, published by Hodder & Stoughton. The 1881 work was dedicated to Queen Margherita, who presented Lauder with her royal autographed portrait. 
Of this book, The Westminster Review stated:
Lovers of old German stories will thank 'Toofie Lauder' heartily for having collected together so charming a volume of Legends and Tales of the Hartz Mountains. Whether the name 'Toofie Lauder' signifies a lady or a gentleman we have no means of guessing, but we should fancy that the graceful style of the book comes from a woman’s pen.
"Toofie" was a fictional character in at least one of Lauder's works, and was also used as a pen name. She published many literary articles and poems under the pen name, as well as a number of volumes of poetry. She wrote a tribute poem upon the death of Empress Elisabeth of Austria, as well as poems honoring Queen Victoria, King Edward, and King George. She also wrote lyrics for several songs, including "Britain, We Stand by You", "The Last Night and its Vision, "Birdie's Reply : To a Wee Bird Trying to Fly", music by Arthur Uvedale,  and "Alone - The Queen's Lament".
Maria Elise Turner Lauder