No, sorry you don't get to do that. You said the accused has his charter rights so he doesn't need that special handling. That same logic say the accuser doesn't need all that special care that you are talking about giving her. Your attempt to call it irrelevant is nothing more than ducking the meaning of your own words.
As to the attempt at emotional manipulation with the "daughter/sister/wife/mother" thing let me just say that since I am not sexist I would feel as bad for them as I would feel for the innocent "brother/father/son/husband" being accused. Apparently you don't feel that way.

I believe in equal treatment for all so the attempt to call wanting equal compassion for men  "axe grinding" is noted but dismissed. On the other hand you quite clearly have no compassion for men.