I hear you and respect where you are coming from. And do agree with you. Really! My female students -- one particular circle of them -- are brash, naïve and have yet to enter into a serious relationship (I think). But I do like them so very much, their honesty and transparency with me and with the class. Honesty, of course, is often in the wrong; but in a class on social justice and literature it has a greater magnifying glass (for issues dealing with race, gender, sex, etc.) than reticence and silence. But thank you, dennism. Sincerely.