"There are many reasons why some would oppose SSM for instance aside from homophobia."

Here's the deal: when you support candidates who want to deny me my chance at having access to those 1138 rights, privileges, and benefits that come with civil marriage guaranteed to all U.S. citizens under the Equal Protection Clause of the 14th amendment to the U.S. Constitution, you are indeed being homophobic. And guess what? You don't get to decide what constitutes homophobia and what doesn't. Since I'm on the receiving end of your bigotry, I DO! Deal with it.