harmony, very well said.  please do what you feel is right, just like what your sister felt.  coming home to give back to your community is a honorable thing to do.  yes, you might make more money living and working on the mainland, but happiness is worth more than money.  life is short, being happy is what counts.  money may bring happiness but it also may bring sadness.  plus your family lives on Kauai and you get to see and interact with them.  I know you love them and they are getting older and spending time with them now is very important, plus if you have grandchildren it will be happiness for them to be able to play and connect with them.