Lots of revealed truths were taken for granted for centuries before they were infallibly defined and so it is with the ordination of women, even Pope Francis agrees with his predecessors on this.
I have not read the TOB but the man who wrote it, St John Paul II, seems to have come to a different conclusion than you regarding the ordination of women.
There is no difference between dogma and doctrine (teaching) in the sense that doctrine can be changed and dogma can't. If a doctrine is true then it is infallibly taught.
Viri probati (approved men) are mentioned in Chapter III, 20, Lumen Gentium;
 "They [the Apostles] therefore appointed such men, [viros] and gave them the order that, when they should have died, other approved men [viri probati] would take up their ministry.(6*)"
The word 'vir' exclusively means man and Lumen Gentium is a dogmatic Constitution.