I personally do not know the will of God in any particular case. I do know what the Church, to whom Jesus Himself said “Who hears you, hears Me” and “I will send the Paraclete to guide you in all truth” and so on in the Gospels, teaches.

I know that the Author of Life has commanded “You shall not commit murder”.

If there is some gray there, it appears to be missing.

Yes, dogma warps our “natural sympathies”. Pagans commit murder, abortion, theft, incest, and so and so forth.

If our “natural sympathies” are correctly warped by dogma, we will do none of those things.