"All abusers are sociopaths?"  Rather BROAD brush you paint with!  Not true at all. Many are wounded souls as a liberal bleeding heart type should recognize.  There will always be some that abuse a system.  That doesn't make the system the problem and God has permitted the cross, so CARRY it.  I see you admit the cynicism.  It hurts you.  Forgive.  God has a plan.  Yes, I can see God condemning someone who rejected His efforts to help and acted on their own.