There are special rules for grandparents and weird aunts and uncles! But I want to say this, which is more about parents, but applies a little bit: As an elementary teacher I have some time to sit in the school hall comforting parents who are leaving their children in school for the first time ever. Many are crying, trying furtively to catch a glimpse of their child in the class, and they find it pretty well impossible to leave. I have sympathy for them of course; but with respect I firmly try to help them to leave, saying "Believe me; your child knows you are still here, and unhappy, and they may feel confused and guilty because of it. They know you love them, you said good-bye, and now it's really important for you to walk away."  The way this little parting goes could set the tone for the rest of a little life. What I'm saying is: give them all your love, but try not to become dependent on them. They are dependent on you! Live your life — they will follow :o)