I would place the emphasis on discernment rather than on individual experience and information. Those two can be rather limiting if one grows up in a narrow minded family with helicopter parents. Discernment requires one to go out and seek information, seek experience and then process it in a mature way – with deep spiritual contemplation (of which compassion is the main element I do think God is concerned with the function of sexual organs, people born with sexual orientation not matching the reproduction function of sexual organs is the engineering of God. Given the high numbers (1 in 10, may be the result of personal denial, the actual proportion might be higher)- it was no small matter. Perhaps we are being told that love in its purest form is not connected to a selfish desire to perpetuated your DNA, but to give to another person with for no apparent reason than love. Or perhaps it is a way of making parents available for orphans….