Please stop with the "real" men don't do x thing, it insinuates that proper, nice, "normal" men  can't be rapist, batterers or abuse children. It reinforces the "monster myth," that it is scary outliers that harm women, not possibly your co-worker. It also makes it hard for victims to come forward, because people don't believe them b/c so-in-so is a "real" man and he wouldn't do that. Please no more "real" men thing - it harms victims.