Annie, you continue to either mis-read or over read.

Parishes are fine.  They serve a function, a limited function.  They must not be come the center of our religious life or experience.

The center of our life and the center of our religious experience is our ordinary day.

We must not compartmentalize our Catholicism to the parish.  The parish must not become our home..where we do "religious stuff".

We go to our Church to receive the Sacraments....Sanctifying grace.   The parish exists to provide these to us.  The parish also provides - or should provide useful formation - allowing us to get closer to God and His truth, giving us "tools of good struggle" (how to pray, how to form our conscience in light of a coherent set of moral norms, how to engage in apostolic conversations, how to understand Scripture, how to understand Church teaching, history, how to better parent, how to sanctify life and death, etc.).