I have seen the disease in its ugliest form, I have several family members who have been impacted by it. It is still their decision to drink. I understand that it is an ongoing problem for people who have the addiction, and will be for the rest of their lives. Ultimately they must make the decision to not drink, or if you think you might be at risk then never take the first drink. People must stop making excuses for others, and help the person own up to their responsibility to not abuse drugs/alcohol. While I have several friends and family who are recovering addicts, I do what I can to support them. While I have an occasional drink I never do it around them, or offer it to them. When they fall off the proverbial wagon I don't hate them, I do speak of it, and encourage them to get help and get back on the wagon.