Yeah, yeah...favorite accusation by those most guilty of perpetuating what they simplistically and inaccurately call 'racism'.  I'll give your criticism all the consideration it deserves.  Starting with ignoring the stupid ancillary questions.

Donate to the Gross family for what?  For Murphy's college education after killing that young Bethel woman and leaving her kids orphans?

And no, by the same principal elucidated by Jesus (alayhis-Salaam), I'm not going to boast about alms-giving.  I'm not looking for 'approval' from you.  I gotta answer to a Higher Power.  Thanks anyway.