Think of those poor firemen and first responders.  The image of those charred young people will be in their minds forever.  
It is a sad, sad situation in Hawaii that many of the accidents reported in the news are a single-car crashes.  In other words, they were driving at a very high rate of speed and the concrete pillar, tree, wall - whatever -  jumped out in front of them.  People you are raising reckless youngsters.  Face it now and try to change the pattern or you might end up raising your grandchild alone too.