The entity that constitutes what we call "God" is not a person and has no gender.  It is not a "he" or a "she," although many think it is a old man in a log, flowing robe walking around on a cloud somewhere with a couple of stone tablets in "his" hands, and that "he" commands that we suffer, since not-a-single one of us is perfect.  Suffering is something we inflict upon ourselves.