Hi, Rocky. One of the most important aspects of rites of passage consists in letting the rite define the terms of the event, not attempting to renegotiate the language and meaning to suit our own ideas. Once we do that, it's not a rite of passage as much as a political cause, like renaming a team the Chicken Hawks instead of the Jayhawks because we like KFC more than team sports. It all comes out as forced, no?