Not one jot or tittle of what you said alleviates my major beef with professional "victim's advocates". With very precious few exceptions, they have a philosophy that allows the problem to fester, and their goal is not healing and resolution. Their goal is slander and spite.....even if the accusations are not true. 

Professional "victim's advocates" gave the five people in the Ratigan/Finn case absolute silence, and the Prosecuting Attorney gave them a free pass. In this case, as in most cases, the head of a sitting bishop and the scandal and notoriety of it all was far more important to them than resolution and the truth of the matter. 

Those five people had the opportunity to stop Ratigan dead in his tracks long before Finn heard one word of it. The same scenario has played out in similar cases.....more than the professional "victim's advocates" will admit.  That inconvenient fact renders your last paragraph meaningless to me.