The comments in this woman's letter that bother me the most is where she says "This includes my husband's ex. This I do not want. Do I have to let her come to my home?" This to me is an entirely selfish ridiculous response. That woman she refers to has lost a child. She certainly isn't going to the new wife's home to pursue her husband or encroach on her territory. It's just a stupid way to think of a funeral. The world doesn't revolve around her and her obvious insecurities in her marriage. Maybe I am harsh but as a Mom the very idea that a new spouse would try to keep the biological mother who was a part of that child's life the whole time away is awful horrendous and offensive  to me.