Just because u don't agree with how folks parent doesn't make them unfit.  In my opinion many of u parents who haven't disciplined your kids well, & give them everything with little checks/balances are the problem. Its why some of these kids focus on sex, pot, makeup, theft etc.  I've met parents who couldn't tell you where there kids were or who they were hanging out with (even tho they thought they knew) I watched a girl in our courtyard make out with 3 diff older teen boys & she was only 13. So obviously what some of the non spanking gen parents are doing ain't working.  I grew up in a household more violent than yours JuJu but I chose to discipline my children properly without going so far in the opposite direction of my mom that I let my environment affect the kind of parent I would become. Most discipline can easily be attributed to taking away privileges & speaking with your kids but not all. Some of these kids should of had their butt whoop maybe they wouldn't have become thugs