Religions would have much to contribute to a discussion of sexual morality in this way: to foster the attitude that sex and other physical interactions are wrong when they are uncaring, dominating, exploitive, and manipulative; but that they are beautiful and powerful ways of expressing caring, affection, commitment, and togetherness. But the Church will not make this contribution to a mature discussion, because it gets all wrapped up in its obsessions condemning just about any physical affection—sometimes I think it extends even to holding hands in the minds of some clergy—and thereby misses the real point of sexual morality that our society struggles with: the use of sexual and physical expressions for unloving, selfish purposes.