OCCG,
While theres some truth in what you say, you're missing one of the biggest components of what it means to be a human, and to be a Christian.

One need not have experienced war "on the front" to appreciate and learn from those who have.  There are TWO really big pieces that create the bridge that allows us to be human.  The first is that we listen and learn from others.  The second, is that if we've not personally had the experience, even as we learn, we still hold those who HAVE had that experience with deference FOR that experience/wisdom.  Yes, i know that a formal education is a means to share some of that experience, and to become an "expert."  But all it can do is share the experience: not the wisdom, nor respect.

THIS is where the bishops got in trouble.  No, they did not need to be married, but they categorically rejected the counsel of those who WERE married, and disrespect them by continuing to refuse their wisdom.  The doc on MASH was empathetic.  At least he tried.