Regarding: "Basically what you’re arguing is that the only people competent to consider pedophilia are pedophiles."
- More to the point: unless one speaks with others about what they think and for what they suffer one, especially a bishop,  can not say that one knows enough to speak for them or about them.
- Yes, this includes talking to sex addicts, alcoholics, mentally disturb people, sociopaths, psychopaths, as well as house husbands, working women, single adults and so on.