LFS:  Thanks for the clarification.  We've had many civil conversations and I'd like to see them continue.  I read the "get a grip" as rather insulting.  I'm now aware it wasn't so intended.  regards, Gary 

BTW:  I'm still concerned with Trump's statements regarding a "rigged" election and his refusal to pledge acceptance of the election results.  I feel there are some very extreme individuals supporting Trump who will read his comments as an "invitation" to violence.  That's scary ....