LW1: I am approaching old age myself, and reading your letter prompted me to ponder my own situation, and what I'd want my daughter to do. She also lives in another state, a few hundred miles away. I understand your mother's point of view. I too have moved more times than I wanted to. My home is paid for, I love it, and would fight the devil himself if I had to, in order to stay in it. When (more than if) it was no longer safe for me to stay in my home, I think I would like to try some kind of service where they visit and look in on me, at least initially. I wouldn't like someone living in, and an assisted living facility would infuriate me most of the time. I guess I'm just too set in my ways. Also, they have those monthly services that give you a monitoring device, many that can detect a fall, or help with another type of emergency at the press of a button. Maybe your mother could try those options first.