I don't think they need to die outside either.  That being said, people want to see people appreciate and better themselves when asking for help.  When you take help for granted, human nature makes people stop helping you.  They worked hard for their money and spare time that you ask of them, and when you use it as a handout instead of a help-up, people no longer want to use these things to help you.  As for the alcoholics, when you are raised in a household with severe alcoholism, you learn that you cannot fix the problem.  At some point you have to let go or it will destroy you and everything around you.  Ask the loved ones of any alcoholic if enabling is helpful to anyone.