Mr. Kluttz,

I believe you are misinterpreting the quotation (which is most commonly attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt, but is also similar to an ancient Chinese proverb).
The quotation is in reference to taking action, making a change which improves upon the situation, as opposed to just complaining about a circumstance (and/or waiting for the circumstance to change on its own). It does not refer to the literal lighting of candles nor to palliative remedies which may make one feel better in the circumstance but do little to alter the underlying cause.
We all deal with crisis in our own way and I am glad that you have found yours, but it does not match the intent of the quotation.