Wait, so today we're looking back 2000 years for context, but when we talk about homosexuality, we talk about how the culture has changed and the Church needs to change with it?  Thanks.

I've witnessed divorces, indeed, my sister was recently divorced.  They bounced around the idea of staying together, but she decided she just wanted to move on.  A few emails back and forth with a lawyer, and she's out dating living alone, and her adult kids split the holidays between them.  No doubt this bodes well for the marriages of her children.

So, yes, hoops are important.  And from the couple of annulments that I have also witnessed, the hoops aren't that hard to jump.