La'amea, I always back up what I say with a citing, or a an actual quote.  I am sorry that you take it as belittling, but the truth will out.  You are upset because of false narratives and preconceived notions that you chose to believe that have NO factual historical credence.  
I have personally read over 300 books from the Hawaiian Collection in the library at the UH.  When statements are made that I know to be factually incorrect I simply state the truth, letting the cards fall where they may.
Mark Twain said, "You are about as happy as you allow yourself to be."
No one "stole" your freedom.  You live in the freest country on Earth, with far more freedoms that anyone had living under a Monarchy. 
Using any measure, the Polynesian-Hawaiians are far better off today than then. More Polynesians live today than ever lived under a Monarchy or before.  Over 550,000 across the U.S., and more own property, homes, and businesses than ever before.
Don't worry be happy.