Alexandra,
I agree with what you say, including the "I hope that I am wrong" part. 

The church has lost the hearts and souls of about two generations of Catholics now, especially women. Whereas society has been moving towards recognition, promotion and encouragement of the role of women in society, the church for about the last 50 years seems to be going out of its way to try to hold women in some perhaps idyllic/romanticized place that keeps them from power and influence in the church. Yet that "place" went out with the era of "Father Knows Best" kinds of TV shows. I think mothers have long held a HUGE impact of the faith direction of their family. And if that is really true, then it will be the loss of the hearts of women that will ultimately bring the church down. With each woman that walks away, she's likely taking a future family with her.

So I think a great place to start a dialog would be with women. I wonder what kind of discernment bishops are doing in prep for THAT dialog?