This post of your reveals your continued difficulty on a couple of fronts.

I've pointed out in successive posts with you the matter of priorities.  I reminded you of the "order of charity" in fact as a way to integrate and harmonize all our temporal actions in the world.

At the top of the pyramid of charity is love of God, for the sake of God alone (not for what God can give us).  A pure love, loving God (and doing His will) for no reason other than He desires it, and deserves it from us.

So all our thoughts, words, actions, desires should have as their end, Him.

Next up is our family, our spouse, our children, extended family.  

Our love for our family (read: sacrifices, not mere feelings of "love") should actually have God as their intention.  We should love our family, again, because of God!  So this makes our sacrifices "easier" in a sense, because they have the highest motive imaginable.  Integrality. 

So the answer to everything must begin with God, not de-souled sociology.