No you missed the larger, interior point.  It's not mere difference.    It's more serious and more interior, likely reflecting a division/rift/disorder between the will and the intellect, or a subservience of either of these faculties to the emotions/passions.

We really do need authors who can get into these more substantial and spiritually grounded topics..vs..what we have here which is just too common skipping across the surface spouting "difference" and words like "racism, sexisism..blah blah.), parrotting some protest sign they saw!

There's an illness or a sadness in the soul, and it's caused by something interior, some "incontinence" (in the philopsophical sense of the term) is rearing its head.

But this isn't the place to think through and discuss these things.