Every parent to be makes the choice they feel is in the best interest for the unborn baby, the children and family they already have. Having a child with extreme medical needs is a huge commitment and impacts every aspect of the entire household. Life simply does not stop when one child needs special and frequent medical care. The other children still have to be fed, clothed, taken to school, sports, music & helped with homework. Middle of the night ER visits and hospital stays affect the whole family. Not every parent is able to handle a child with special medical needs. If the parent becomes unable to cope with their grief, then you risk losing that parent as well. As a parent, we wish we could magically protect our children from pain. Even when treatment is medically necessary, it is always  heartbreaking to watch your child suffer. Not choosing to proceed takes love, strength and courage. There isn't an easy or simple answer, both have pain & love that last forever. Prayers 4 Sky.