so you've taken me to task in a response to jade..(no prob with that - get's confusing and i have chewed on an undeserving tail or two. and jade knows it's not meant for her - i can guess with some certainty. if that's ok to speculate on..)
 not sorry. tired of being dissed and dinged because i know stuff. i can't stop that i am intelligent - no brag -it's a curse as much as a blessing. i have a respectable IQ and heard all my childhood what a disappointment i was to the whole educational system because i didn't "work up to my potential"  -"how could ANYONE read at a college level and not be able to do truly simple math?"  i was in special needs. i hear perfect pitch and can't sing a note on key. i designed the remodel of our home and then couldn't do the math to figure how wide the window shades needed to be cut. goes without saying an engineer put numbers to my design. i can't do simple +/- without a calculator.  i have to do ear bleeding math calculations to figure my kids ages.