I'm still pretty conflicted. Very much having cut my teeth on online discussions via BBSes (sometimes very light moderation, but some ops didn't care very much. However, since people were often local, and might see each other IRL, things didn't devolve to the equivalent of Pepe memes and death threats and general Klan/Nazi white supremacy garbage and "jokes" about shoving people in ovens like you see in the conservative backwaters of the 'net now) and Usenet, I generally dislike the heavy-handed moderation and nanny filters of many commenting systems of today. But I do get it-without at least SOME moderation, the truly awful right-wing swamp creatures tend to take over with Nazi garbage and Pepe memes and push everyone else away.

Trying to make it "family-friendly" and filtering out the "naughty" words is something I don't agree with for obvious reasons. What I find really toxic is the constant lying by the right, and I consider that uncivil. If I must vote, I'll vote the lying down.