Pattyjane - "As a former officers wife".  Typical so typical, Officer's Wives do not have Rank nor Official U.S. Military Status, unless they disgrace the Service Member with Criminal, Lewd or Immoral Conduct., the Service Member is then told Poor Decision Making Process and Judgement of choosing that Spouse.

General_______ ___________ at Fort___________, had a Family Support Group Meeting at the Officer's Club, of Officer's Spouses, NCO Spouses, Enlisted Spouses.    After getting on stage behind the podium he looked at the crowd, and stated that he wanted all the Spouses in order of their Rank/Grade.    After about 30 minutes he announced, YOU DO NOT HAVE A RANK OR GRADE YOUR SERVICE MEMBER DOES, you are one big Family of (U.S. Military Unit) and it does not matter if Enlisted Spouses Help Officer's Spouses, NCO's Spouses are helped by Officer's Spouses, these are tough times for all of you.