You said above: "Why is it that when you label something/someone as racist it is OK but when someone else with a different perspective does the same thing you go ballistic?"

Isn't "going ballistic" a euphemism for extreme anger?  Doesn't your above statement attribute this to me?  See, this is the problem I have with such in-denial, "whitey-can-do-no-wrong", self-deluded hypocrites:  you're simply dishonest.  "Standing by" your comments rather than acknowledging your error when it's demonstrated to you is dishonest and denotes lack of integrity.  Therefore you merit no respect.  Sorry.