There are fundamentals, and details. Neither sex could divorce. Names are secondary. "Risqué" stories? There was never any doubt that Muslim women are expected to be sexy for their husband, it was a big part of their "job description". Belly dancing and exposing skin is for men's pleasure, and prostitutes did that, not "respectable women", only women dancing among themselves did it. Interesting that those are what you consider major advantages for women...

How about the freedom to participate freely in society, in public space, being part of public celebrations like country fairs, court life, having an important role in religious institutions and life (women were founders of their own religious orders, stood side by side with men in church, etc.), hosting salons and dinner parties, accompanying their husbands when they traveled and meeting people from other societies, etc., instead of being hidden away with at most, an observer role behind a screen, seeing but not seen?