Yes John I believe you are right.  What I'm pondering is how to dial back the level of violence we've normalized via war that we've compelled countless individuals both military and civilian to 'accept' as a new norm such that they can not return to living with that level of violence that is associated with war.  ie PTSD, returning to combat because civilian life no longer is livable, the destruction of families, the acceptability of collateral damage of the ruination of large swatches of civilization to uninhabitable voids.

I also include here a link as to how the American Friends Service approaches nonviolence... much can be learned  https://www.afsc.org/key-issues