Lauren, your thought process is pathetic.  Two kids squabbling over a toy, the smaller one fights back with whatever means possible.  And yet you project out one of million potential situations that your daughter may or may not ever happen many years later is just silly.  What happens to your thought process if Liam were a 2-yr old girl?
 The gender of the squabbling kids is irrelevant.  You should apologize to your husband.