Like I say to the criminals (take accountability for your life choices) we should also assume the same for non criminals as well.  Take responsibility for your life choices.  

If you chose not to go to college or enlist in the military then you are the product of your own personal choices don't whine now because you made poor choices. 

I chose to enroll in college, take student loans and spent the next 8yrs after graduation paying them off.  We all MAKE our OWN choices in life.  I encourage my kids to do what my parents told me to do.  Either you're going into the military or you're going to college you have no other options.  That's been my families motto for the past 4 or 5 generations.  My parents didn't believe in welfare not even parent supported welfare meaning we had to pay our own way.  We weren't millionaire welfare babies that got money from mommy or daddy.  My parents were middle class but taking college off their shoulders and onto mine took stress off them as well.