What about the excuse abusers & their supporters use that drugs made them do it, and the idea society should not incarcerate drug user 'victims'.  The recent death of a famous family father who murdered his son, with many saying that drug use was cause of the murder, suicide but digging deeper in the story the father had a history of physical violence on the estranged wife with a TRO & would not be surprised past violence on the son as well before he actually murdered his son.  It is not just the courts that need a change in attitude but family members & friends need to understand when they become aware of such violent tendencies within their own family members, pretending it will solve itself or abiding by the assailant who demands that family members/friends not get involved or 'rat' on their own family member can have fatal consequences.  Not blaming anyone as it is easy to armchair quarterback difficult tragedies but the point is it definitely needs to be discussed openly ....