When a military spouse is married to a military member for 19 years, to include before enlistment and after retirement, and that military member opts out by early retirement due to the number of 6 month deployments they had to take. The spouse is left home alone and has to manage a household by themselves the entire career.

Now the military retiree decides to divorce and move on with his/her life, that spouse is now left with nothing for their service/sacrifice in support of their country.  That spouse has their ID card taken from them and they lose all medical and commissary privileges. It's as if they never paid one price for the last 19 years. 

So my "problem" isn't about what she owes me. It's about what she owes the military spouses that get dumped by the military member once they finally come home.

So I hope you're happy now that you have been enlightened to my "issue". You seem very judgmental with your assumptions that I thought she owed ME something.