That's the difference... I would tell nobody that their loss was any less than somebody else's. But you would tell them "hey your child was blown up my hateful bigots, but cheer up because cancer, heart disease or overdose would have got her eventually anyway, it's just an unfortunate fluke, get over it."... See how that goes over. And seems terrorism victims are made almost every day lately, pretty soon you might know one.. try your line then.