"When we have hurt another person, we cannot normally presume forgiveness, only the injured party can offer it to us as a gift."

But what if you are the person who has been deeply hurt, injured, and you offer forgiveness and it is rejected?

Or, what if you are the hurt person and by the time you come to the point of knowing to offer forgiveness you can not because the person who hurt you is dead.

There is no consummation of your forgiveness to the person who hurt you.  There is no reconciliation.  There is only a constant ache at having been deeply hurt.

I'm sure there are many people in these two situations, yet we never see nor hear anything in the way of counsel for them and the constant hurt they bear.