And I forgot to mention, one year we cancelled our meticulously planned UK vacation because the senior partner couldn't handle the deal he &  my husband were working on and it hadn't closed yet.  In hindsight, we should have just gone and let the partner twist in the wind.  You pay your dues and  ignore a lot along the way.  He didn't take any of it too personally.  He recognized it for what it was: the cost of admission to the 'club' and insecurity on the part of the senior partners who didn't dare be different.