No. 
If YOU want to calmly talk to someone who's fine with waving a swastika-embossed Confederate (Battle) Flag in one hand and a gun in the other, you go ahead and do that - better yet, do it at a rally and on camera. See if that solves anything. Just because you yourself are now so far removed from any strife or conflict that you forgot you lived in Idaho for a while (was it 'civility' that magically dislodged the various racist groups there?), doesn't give you the right to pretend there's not a good reason for any coarseness you hear about secondhand among the lesser classes.
Civility is a coward's justification for creating false equivalencies between an oppressor and a victim; it's too often been used to justify calm, when calm only benefits the side that ISN'T terrified for their life. It's a terrible fire extinguisher.
You may have been dreaming once, Clark, but now you're in a waking dream. And this article makes it seem like you don't want to wake up anyway.