Did I make a mistake breaking up with a guy who said his ex-girlfriend will always be on his mind?
He was in love with someone years ago, and he still thinks about her time to time. He said, and I quote, "That relationship is definitely over. I love you, but that girl will always be in my mind." It just didn't feel like he appreciated all the things I've done to make him happy.
Sherry Katz, LCSWCouples and Family Therapist, LCSW
Trust your intuition on your conclusion about this guy.He may very well love you, only with the ex so prominent in his mind, it is possible your feeling of not being appreciated now, would multiply if ever the two of you needed to address a delicate topic.Since he is emotionally attached to the former gf, it is very likely he wouldn't be able to fully love you as much as you'd like and are already sensing.
Dia pernah jatuh cinta dengan seseorang bertahun-tahun yang lalu, dan dia masih memikirkannya dari waktu ke waktu. Dia berkata, dan saya kutip, "Hubungan itu jelas sudah berakhir. Saya mencintaimu, tetapi gadis itu akan selalu ada di pikiranku." Rasanya dia tidak menghargai semua hal yang telah saya lakukan untuk membuatnya bahagia.
Percayalah pada intuisi Anda tentang kesimpulan Anda mengenai pria ini. Dia mungkin sangat mencintaimu, hanya saja dengan mantannya begitu terngiang di pikirannya, kemungkinan perasaan Anda yang tidak dihargai sekarang, akan berlipat ganda jika kalian berdua perlu membahas topik yang sensitif. Karena dia terikat secara emosional dengan mantan pacarnya, sangat mungkin dia tidak akan dapat mencintaimu sepenuhnya seperti yang kamu inginkan dan sudah kamu rasakan.