How can I get my husband to listen to my needs and talk to me?
I tried telling my husband I was depressed, and he ignored me. He said "you're always sad or depressed." And he picked up his phone and ignored me. I said, "Please don't exaggerate, that isn't true." And he said, "Whatever babe. You just want to be sad."  How can I get through to him so he will take me seriously?
Gwendolyn Nelson-Terrywww.GwendolynNelsonTerry.com
It can be hard for husbands to hear that their wife is unhappy. By nature men tend to be more of the fix it type. So if they are sad, they fix it. If their wife is sad, they fix it. He may feel helpless to help you and that may be why he is saying those things to you. It's not that he doesn't care or that he doesn't take them seriously, he might just have no idea how to help. I would start by making an appointment to talk with a therapist about your sadness. Meeting with a therapist may help you to learn some tools and strategies that can help you to manage some of the sadness you are feeling. A therapist can also help you to gain some understanding and insight into why you might be experiencing sadness. Depression is not something you have to sit with, therapy can help. Once your husband sees that you are being proactive in addressing your sadness/depression he will probably be more open to listening to you and supporting you. He might start to have ideas and input on how you two can work together to change some of the situations or things that might be holding you bakc.
Saya mencoba memberi tahu suami saya bahwa saya depresi, dan dia mengabaikan saya. Dia berkata "kamu selalu sedih atau depresi." Dan dia mengambil ponselnya dan mengabaikan saya. Saya berkata, "Tolong jangan berlebihan, itu tidak benar." Dan dia berkata, "Suka hati, sayang. Kamu hanya ingin merasa sedih." Bagaimana saya bisa membuatnya mengerti sehingga dia akan menganggap saya serius?
Sulit bagi suami untuk mendengar bahwa istri mereka tidak bahagia. Secara alami, pria cenderung lebih suka memperbaiki situasi. Jadi, jika mereka sedih, mereka akan memperbaikinya. Jika istri mereka sedih, mereka juga akan memperbaikinya. Dia mungkin merasa tidak berdaya untuk membantumu dan itu mungkin sebabnya dia mengatakan hal-hal itu padamu. Bukan berarti dia tidak peduli atau tidak menganggapnya serius, mungkin dia hanya tidak tahu bagaimana cara membantumu. Saya sarankan untuk membuat janji berbicara dengan terapis tentang kesedihanmu. Bertemu dengan terapis mungkin bisa membantumu mempelajari beberapa alat dan strategi yang bisa membantumu mengelola kesedihan yang kamu rasakan. Terapis juga bisa membantumu mendapatkan pemahaman dan wawasan mengapa kamu mungkin mengalami kesedihan. Depresi bukanlah sesuatu yang harus kamu hadapi sendirian, terapi bisa membantu. Setelah suamimu melihat bahwa kamu proaktif dalam menangani kesedihan/depresimu, dia mungkin akan lebih terbuka untuk mendengarkanmu dan mendukungmu. Dia mungkin mulai memiliki ide dan masukan tentang bagaimana kalian bisa bekerja sama untuk mengubah beberapa situasi atau hal yang mungkin menghambatmu.