How can I stop being jealous of my best friend's boyfriend?
My best friend and I've been really close for almost three years. She lives in the UK, and I live in the US. Ever since her boyfriend flew from Oregon to Scotland, I've been angry at him. Ever since he came into her life, he took her away from me. My best friend would always say sorry, and I'm sick of it.
Sherry Katz, LCSWCouples and Family Therapist, LCSW
You are definitely in a frustrating situation.Your friend and the boyfriend are doing what is natural for couples who are in the early stage of their relationship. Being almost inseparable to the point of overlooking friends, is understandable as long as it doesn't continue for long enough that friends feel hurt.If you feel you would like to one more time tell your friend that you miss your friendship with her and would like her attention, then do so.After expressing your needs as much as possible and if the result doesn't change, then the sad conclusion is that your friend is willing to give you less time and energy than you require from her.
Teman terbaik saya dan saya sudah sangat dekat selama hampir tiga tahun. Dia tinggal di Inggris, dan saya tinggal di AS. Sejak pacarnya terbang dari Oregon ke Skotlandia, saya marah padanya. Sejak dia datang ke dalam hidupnya, dia menjauhkan teman terbaik saya dari saya. Teman terbaik saya selalu minta maaf, dan saya muak dengan itu.
Anda pasti berada dalam situasi yang membuat frustrasi. Teman Anda dan pacarnya melakukan apa yang alami bagi pasangan yang berada di tahap awal hubungan mereka. Menjadi hampir tidak terpisahkan hingga mengabaikan teman, dapat dimengerti selama itu tidak berlangsung cukup lama sehingga teman merasa terluka. Jika Anda merasa ingin sekali lagi memberi tahu teman Anda bahwa Anda merindukan persahabatan Anda dengannya dan ingin perhatiannya, maka lakukanlah. Setelah mengungkapkan kebutuhan Anda sebisa mungkin dan jika hasilnya tidak berubah, maka kesimpulan yang menyedihkan adalah bahwa teman Anda bersedia memberikan waktu dan energinya lebih sedikit daripada yang Anda butuhkan darinya.