What can I do about my family not accepting me as bisexual?
After I told them, they yelled at me.
Lauren Ostrowski, MA, LPC, NCC, BC-TMH, CCTP, CCHI tailor my therapeutic approach to each client's strengths and goals
That has to be incredibly difficult because you were very vulnerable and open about what you were feeling and I imagine the response was very hurtful.Here are a couple of things to do right now:Practice giving yourself some love. Bring your awareness to the room around you and some of the positive energy within you. As you become a bit centered, you're likely to be able to work through your emotions more easily.Surround yourself with people who do accept you. I'm hoping that you have friends or acquaintances who accept you as you are.You can also find some support here through this organization that often have events related to offering support: https://www.pflag.org/needsupport. I have not spoken with this organization directly, but they are often discussed in therapeutic trainings as a reputable organization.Related more specifically to your family, that change may take some time. There is often a large adjustment in families because of the huge variations in reactions and what each person thinks, feels, and believes.Consider talking with a local therapist about how to communicate more effectively with your family, as there are a lot of variables there, so it is difficult to give you specific ideas in this format.Remember, there are lots of people who accept you as you are right now.
Setelah saya memberi tahu mereka, mereka berteriak kepada saya.
Itu pasti sangat sulit karena Anda sangat rentan dan terbuka tentang apa yang Anda rasakan dan saya bayangkan responsnya sangat menyakitkan. Berikut beberapa hal yang bisa dilakukan sekarang: Latih diri Anda untuk mencintai diri sendiri. Bawa kesadaran Anda ke ruangan di sekitar Anda dan beberapa energi positif dalam diri Anda. Ketika Anda menjadi sedikit tenang, Anda kemungkinan dapat mengatasi emosi Anda dengan lebih mudah. Lingkupi diri Anda dengan orang-orang yang menerima Anda. Saya berharap Anda memiliki teman atau kenalan yang menerima Anda apa adanya. Anda juga dapat menemukan dukungan di sini melalui organisasi ini yang sering mengadakan acara terkait penawaran dukungan: https://www.pflag.org/needsupport. Saya belum berbicara dengan organisasi ini secara langsung, tetapi mereka sering dibahas dalam pelatihan terapeutik sebagai organisasi yang terkemuka. Terkait lebih spesifik dengan keluarga Anda, perubahan itu mungkin membutuhkan waktu. Sering ada penyesuaian besar dalam keluarga karena variasi besar dalam reaksi dan apa yang masing-masing orang pikirkan, rasakan, dan percayai. Pertimbangkan untuk berbicara dengan terapis lokal tentang cara berkomunikasi lebih efektif dengan keluarga Anda, karena ada banyak variabel di sana, jadi sulit untuk memberikan ide spesifik dalam format ini. Ingatlah, ada banyak orang yang menerima Anda apa adanya saat ini.