I feel completely alone in my marriage
I have been married for 11 years. Within the past 2 years we have drifted far apart. We coexist together but there is very little personal interest in each other. I often feel that my husband has "friends" at work that he is more emotional invested in than me. I feel very alone and just uncared for. Is there anything I can do to feel reconnected?
Laurel FayMarriage and Relationship Expert
I'm sure you've tried to talk to your husband, but if not, could you? Have a conversation with him about him and his life, his work, etc. See if he relaxes and opens up to you, even a little bit. Don't try to have a heavy conversation or even unburden yourself to him during this first conversation - just try to be light-hearted and focus on hearing him. It's the first step towards getting your needs met too, and ending any emotional standoff that might have come about between you.
Saya telah menikah selama 11 tahun. Dalam 2 tahun terakhir, kami telah jauh terpisah. Kami hidup berdampingan tetapi ada sangat sedikit minat pribadi satu sama lain. Saya sering merasa suami saya memiliki "teman-teman" di tempat kerja yang lebih dia perhatikan secara emosional daripada saya. Saya merasa sangat sendirian dan diabaikan. Apakah ada yang bisa saya lakukan untuk merasa terhubung kembali?
Saya yakin Anda sudah mencoba berbicara dengan suami Anda, tetapi jika belum, bisakah Anda? Ajaklah dia berbicara tentang dirinya dan kehidupannya, pekerjaannya, dll. Lihat apakah dia bisa rileks dan membuka diri kepada Anda, bahkan sedikit. Jangan mencoba untuk mengadakan percakapan yang berat atau bahkan membebani diri Anda kepadanya selama percakapan pertama ini - cukup berusaha bersikap ringan dan fokus pada mendengarkannya. Ini adalah langkah pertama untuk memenuhi kebutuhan Anda juga, dan mengakhiri kebuntuan emosional yang mungkin terjadi di antara kalian.