Ina farawa da sunan ubangiji mahaliccin dukkkanin halittu tsira da aminci su kara tabbata da dawwama ga fiyayyen halitta Muhammad da iyalansa tsarkaka
Bayan haka: hakika zabar aboki ko abokiyar tarayya wani abu ne da ke motsawa cikin zuciya dukkanin matashida matashiya da suka isa aure suka kai ga nunar hankali da tunani, wannan zabe yana bukatuwa zuwa ga dokn bincike da zurfafa tunani domin kansa ne samun farin ciki cikin baki dayan rayuwarsa ya dogara, tunanin yaya zan zabi abokiyar zama ko abokin zama na dimauta dukkanin masu niyyar aure, wadannan sharudda da siffofi suka zama lazimi dole abokin tarayya ta ya cika gabanin zabarsa ko zabarta, wanne abu ne ma'aunu da sikeli cikin zabar abokin zama, wanne matakai na larura da rayuwa auratayya za ta doru kansu?
Mihwari: cikin wannan mihwari yayi bayanin hadafin yin aure, shine cewa miji ya samu nutsuwa da matarsa ita haka ta nutsu da mijinta da ma'anar samun kwanciyar hankali, wannan yana bukatar a samu kauna da jin kai a tsakanin juna.
Saboda haka wadannan sune mihwarori na gaba-gaba cikin samun ingantacciyar zamantakewar auratayya da kyakkyawar makoma, sai dai cewa kafin aure mene ne ma'aunai cikin zaben aboki ko abokiyar zama da siffofinsu da kuma abinda shari'ar muslunci tayi bayani da hadisan Imamai (as) ?
Unwani na farko shine riko da addini, unwani na biyu kyautata zamantakewa da juna, saboda wannan ne ma manzon Allah (s.a.w) ya zantar damu wadannan siffofi biyu, riwayar ta ambaci cewa akwai wani mutum ya zo wajen Imam Bakir (as) da ya bashi labarin kan irin wahalar da yake ciki da tsanani wajen samawa diyarsa miji, sannan ya ambaci sinfofin da suka dabbaku kansa matsayinsa na uba ya kuma fatan ace irin wadannan siffofi ko da kadan sun dabbaku kan wanda zai bawa diyarsa, sai Imam (as) ya bashi amsa da cewa na fahimci dukkanin lamarin diyarka lallai ka sani cewa ba zaka ka samu mutum misalinka ba, saboda ka daina duba cikin hakan, Allah yayi maka rahama, ka sani lallai manzon Allah (s.a.w) yace:
Shin shui riko da addini ya kunshi kyawawan dabi'u? sakamakon yayi nufin bayyana mana cewa abin bukata shine sauya riko da addini da bayyanar da shi da cikin alakar ma'aurata ta yau da gobe, riko da addini bai wadatarwa cikin fatar baki kadai da da'awa ko kuma cikin tara kakkausan gemu da yawan sallah da azumi, saboda miji nagari shine wanda wadannan sharudda biyu ke tabbatuwa cikinsa, sai dai cewa ya zamo dole mu waiwayi takalifin miji da rawarsa cikin abinda ya rataya da ciyar da iyalinsa da tsayu kan jagorantar iyali, wadannan al'amura ne biyu cikin da'irar wajiban da suke kan miji
Ankarbo daga manzon Allah (s.a.w) cewa yace: tsara cikin aure shine wanda a kasance mai kame kai kuma yake da iko.
A dabi'ance, akwai wasu siffofin da ake da bukatarsa gwargwadon yadda daidauku da indsa mahallan rayuwa mabanbanta da juna, alal misali matashiya yar jami'a adaidai wannan lokace akwai wani saurayi da bai iya karatu da rubutu ba ko kuma ace yana can kasa da ita a matakin karatu, gaskiya ni bana bata shawarar ta aure shi, saboda zata jin kuntatuwa cikin rayuwarta ta yau da gobe sannan shima zai dinga jin kaskantuwa a gabanta bisa fifikon da take da shi kanta, sai dai hakan bai nufin wannan bai dace da wata yarinyar ba da siffofinta ka iya kasancewa mai ilimi ta kuma dace da mustawansa. to a iran wannan muhalli zai kasance mafi alheri mazaje gareta.