Something you should do if you can is to home school your kids at least during middle school since this is a dangerous point in your children's life. There are psychological and biological factors at play during the middle school years that can overwhelm the best parenting. In a nutshell: Girls reach puberty earlier than boys.  Also you know that at the age of puberty there is rebellion against parents...it used to be that middle school was not a bad idea. Girls who were awakening sexually but very immature where seperated from the more mature high school boys. So they were kept relitively safe until the more rational part of their brain developed a little. Enter school integration and boys who not only reach sexual maturity earlier, many of them have also been held back a grade level or two. So now you have 12, 13 and 14 year old girls in a classroom with muscular big boys who are pumping out testosterone and pheromones beat the band. add to this a heaping helping the disrespect for teachers and you have a recipe for disaster.