Finding out you are just a tool/provider for a romantic partner will cause anxiety and depression. But once you accept it life becomes much easier. Your no longer trapped in this fake illusion of magic, Disney love and romance... living for their approval of you. Having an attractive man or woman on your arm is a lot of work and your always at risk of losing them if your performance isn't up to their standards. This also causes anxiety and depression. So what are you really missing out on by not having this shit (and it is shit) in your life. Play the lotto...your odds are better and it's a lot cheaper. Just be free and single for a while