Being gay allows a woman to focus on what she actually cares about in a relationship. Men, too, I guess. Meeting up for no-strings sex in a bookstore bathroom? That's gay men. Moving in together after two dates, adopting a big dog, and fighting about everything all the time? That's lesbians. If you get a straight woman to be your casual sex fwb is you are making her act more like an open person. Similarly, a woman who gets a man to be a relationship kind of guy is turning him into a more relaxed person.