I want my wife to be happy. If she decides she wants to be a stay at home mom, then we will do our best to adjust our budget to support that. If she wants to continue on with her career then I support that too. Who knows, I might try getting a new job that allows me to work form home so I can watch the kids. Life is full of ups and downs, so most of us don't have the kind of time you do to worry about imagined sexism from other people.