A few months ago, I had public safety concerns in my parent's old neighborhood (suspicious Asians peaking into cars, wierd people peaking into the homes, etc). I organized a few neighbors and work with a few community groups to find a solution. During this time My parents kept discouraging me from doing these things. They kept saying things like "dont get involved" "nothing will ever be solved", "noone cares and your efforts are useless", "dont be the leader of the group"... and this is the same problem i get from other asian people in other neigbourhoods. I ignored my parents beta defeatist advice.