Treating someone nicely and adopting a slightly more nuanced look at reality is not the same as ignoring objective reality. And whilst yes there are some very loudmouth brats out there who are just looking to fight a good chunk, if not most, of transfolk just want to live in peace where they don't feel as anxious all the time. It's not like muslim immigrants who all want to destroy you, trans people are just born different and want to live in peace.