Women often look for good provider men for commitment and financial stability after dating jerks, engaging in promiscuity, and having children they want provided for. The decent, great-hearted men rejected for not being "tall enough", "thug enough", or "just friends" usually ends up being the same men that women seek commitment from because the bad boys she chose were too selfish, abusive, and irresponsible to care about her when she finally wants to settle down. Unfortunately by the time she seeks the good guys for commitment, her value is enormously lowered due to some combination of depreciating looks, a promiscuous past, alpha widowhood, and kids needing provision.