Can both parents have the same roles at home? There are two roles, the provider and the caregiver. Someone has to figure out how to provide for the family, or the family will die. This is a great pressure that can require fortitude, creativity, assertiveness, logic and rationality, determination and composure. Someone needs to be available to care and nurture and look after the babies, or the family will die. This, requires more patience, empathy and understanding. The routine and simple childcare and housework simply must be done, so it is of great advantage if the caregiver receives some help from their partner.