if you must get married, you MUST marry a virgin (or at least someone who has only had sex with you). furthermore, you cannot allow her to wear skimpy clothing in public, she can't have men friends, she has to shut down her social media, and you must be the bread winner, preferably, she works at home. you also need to have frame, emotionally AND philosophically, aka, she sees you as the smartest man in the room.