BEKI XABA
Firstly I would say that it was not necessary, that's the way I looked at it, for me to attend it and I did not as well think it was such a big event or funeral.  Secondly, I had other engagement and appointment that I had to attend to, to go fetch a child somewhere.  But after I realised that it would have been, it would be appropriate for me to attend the funeral, I then figured I should postpone the fetching the child, or go around it, and attend the funeral.  So that I had other committments that I had on that particular day, not that I was coerced or expected as much to go to the funeral.