TESTIMONY_GIVER:
  Thank you.   I think rejecting me caused him very very deep conflict and grief, because I know that he really loved me.  And he did not treat me harshly.  He was still generous, he would give me vegetables from his garden and so on, but there was this big barrier between us.   He was never again able to respond to me warmly and freely.   My mother also loved me, and she was kind to Maboya and she really tried to treat him as a welcome grandson.   She also could not come to terms with my choice.   Her first commitment, understandably, was to my father, because he was her partner, and because my visits really upset him, I could only make an occasional prearranged visit.   So ... (inaudible) ...