FELICIA AZANDE DLODLO
I would be very grateful if the Commission would help us, not just me and my child, but all the many victims of apartheid.  You know I do really support your decision to have this counselling because I think we need to talk, we need to get it out of our systems, be given the chance to cry which many people have not done, because they thought, if I cry I'm selling out the movement, it means we are weak, and I've since learned through my experiences overseas that you've got to cry.
 I never cried for instance at my husband's funeral because I thought if I cry, I'm going to make quite a number of people happy and I don't know whether they are spies or not at this funeral, so I had to force myself to hold back the tears which thing, I can see now, was quite dumb. We don't do that.  So I do believe that I'd like the Commission to help us get over what has happened.  And quite a lot of children are suffering because we find that maybe one parent cannot cope on her own, so we really need that help.  We are not here for the money, we are just here because we know that, had our partners survived, we would have a better standard of living than we do right now.
 On the second question, I believe it would be nice if we could have a monument for all our fallen heros.  I remember my husband used to say to me when we were in Angola, so many of our people died there, we just had to bury them in shallow graves because all of us were running away. He did not know what we were going to tell their families some day when we get back to South Africa and they ask us, where is my child? Because then he'd have to point to some bushes somewhere there in Angola which he cannot even remember himself. So it would be nice if there was a monument. Sometimes when we miss our partners it is a bit difficult to go to Swaziland, we cannot afford it but if we had a monument we would go to it and just cry and show our children, and also so that our children will know just by looking at this monument just what a painful history this country has undergone so that we don't repeat the same mistakes again.
 Another thing which I discovered when I was in Britain, which was, I think, mentioned by Amnesty International, was that they wished human rights to be a subject that was taught in school, so that the world would never again repeat the atrocities that it has done. I think it is very appropriate in the South African context, because it is so easy to forget what has happened in the past.