MR NGWENYA
I will say the situation at this stage is quite normal.  You will believe that people have forgotten the past, reconciled but one thing I can tell you,  I know of victims who still feel bitter and strong about what happened to them.  Their house being destroyed, their family members being killed.  I don't know what one could do with those you know.   It's so difficult, if you were there and you saw what happened to people but you were lucky you survived.  Sometimes you try and say to an old man, that happened, can we forget and forgive these people.   He says, maybe it's because it was not your child.