Turned out there was a few lrdimms when the rest where rdimms, I didn't notice originally that the two I tested where were one of each. Everything is working now since I removed the mixed memory.
I see other posts about bios updates, but I just updated mine recently, but I can't seem to get these sticks to work. Is there a place to confirm if they should work. I got a bunch of M393A4K40BB0-CPB0Q 32gb sticks for my pair of r630s I use in my lab, but I keep getting the message when trying to boot.  Looking at the sample configuration I would think it work work. These  are  2rx4 2133 sticks, which I have tested using 12 of them to match the 384 configuration on the below link, which was the smallest example with 32gb sticks.   [URL]      
Memory is detected but not configurable r630