Riyad as-Salihin 526
Hakim bin Hizam (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "The upper hand is better than the lower one; and begin (charity) with those who are under your care; and the best charity is (the one which is given) out of surplus; and he who wishes to abstain from begging will be protected by Allah; and he who seeks self- sufficiency will be made self-sufficient by Allah." [Al- Bukhari] .
وعن حكيم بن حزام رضي الله عنه عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال‏:‏ ‏"‏اليد العليا خير من اليد السفلى، وابدأ بمن تعول، وخير الصدقة عن ظهر غنى ومن يستعفف يعفه الله، ومن يستغن يغنه الله” ‏(‏‏(‏متفق عليه‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏ 

‏(‏‏(‏وهذا لفظ البخاري، ولفظ مسلم أخصر‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏