func (l *PeerList) GetOrAdd(hostPort string) *Peer {
	if ps, ok := l.exists(hostPort); ok {
		return ps.Peer
	}
	return l.Add(hostPort)
}
func (l *PeerList) GetOrAdd(hostPort string) *Peer {
	if ps, ok := l.exists(hostPort); ok {
		return ps.Peer
	}
	return l.Add(hostPort)
}
// GetOrAdd returns a peer for the given hostPort, creating one if it doesn't yet exist.