How to Act Cool Around Your Crush (for Girls)
If you want to act cool around your crush, speak slowly when you talk to them, since speaking quickly is a sign of nerves. To make your conversations more interesting and natural, ask him open-ended questions about his interests so he can't just give you a yes or no answer. For example, if he's in the swim team, ask him “How did your meet go last weekend?”. Whenever you're around him, remember to smile and make occasional eye contact, which shows you're confident and approachable. You should also remember to make time to hang out and have fun with your friends, because spending too much time following him around may make you seem obsessive. If you're already texting each other, wait a few minutes before responding to his messages, which shows him that you have a life of your own.
Accept your feelings for your crush. Don't try to repress your feelings or beat yourself up for falling head over heels. It'll only make you more jittery and nervous around your crush. Instead, accept the way you feel, and don't judge yourself. Tell yourself, “I really like Josh, and that's fine. He's a great guy. It doesn't make me weak or desperate.” Remember that your crush is a real person. They aren't a god or some superior alien life form. Try to notice the ways in which they aren't so perfect. Realizing that they're a person just like you can help you play it cool. Maybe your crush is afraid of heights or needs extra tutoring in math just like you. Don't judge your crush for their flaws. Instead, use them to help you relate to your crush. Speak slowly and take deep breaths when chatting with your crush. When you're nervous, it's easy for your words to run away from you. To look cooler--and to make sure your crush can actually understand what you're saying--take a deep breath and consciously slow your speech. It may sound weirdly slow in your head, but it probably sounds just right to your crush. Don’t wait if you want to approach your crush. Maybe you're at a party and you see your crush across the room. Take a deep breath, throw on a breezy smile, and approach them within three seconds. If you wait any longer, you could start overthinking the situation, get really anxious, and lose your cool girl mojo. Remember, if you don't put yourself out there, you may never move things forward with your crush. Go for it! Give them space. Sticking to your crush like glue can make you seem obsessed and desperate, which could scare them away. Show you're interested with a little bit of flirting and chatting, but don't spend every second of the day following them around. Make sure you hang out with your friends and have fun without your crush. Don’t respond to their texts immediately. If the two of you are texting, that's great! Things could be moving in the right direction. However, wait a few minutes before responding to some texts. You want to show them that you have your own fun life, and aren't hovering around the phone 24/7 waiting for their next text. Glance at them every so often but don’t stare. It's ok to steal flirty glances every now and then. It can actually give them a hint that you like them! However, staring for long periods of time will probably creep them out. Tell your friends to play it cool. If your friend group starts giggling and pointing whenever your crush walks by, it could make you embarrassed or uncomfortable. Ask your friends to act natural when your crush is around. Say, “Hey, could you guys stop pointing and giggling? It makes me feel uncomfortable, and I'm pretty sure it's making my crush feel weird, too.” Take time to do the things you love. If you feel your crush developing into a full blown obsession, stop and make sure you're still doing things for yourself. Your crush shouldn't be your whole world. Keeping a balanced outlook will help you stay cool, calm and collected around your special someone. Don't quit the soccer team so you can hang out with them after school, or join a club just because they're a member. Smile. Show those pearly whites around your crush, even if you feel like your insides are made of Jell-O. You'll look more approachable and confident. Flirt with eye contact, touch, and playful teasing. Flirting with your crush shows you're interested and confident. Make eye contact and touch them lightly on the arm or shoulder when you're talking. Throw in some playful teasing to tie it all together. Try a backhanded compliment, like “You're pretty good at tennis...almost as good as me.” Make sure it's clear that you're teasing. If your crush seems upset, back off. Ask them questions. To have a fun, cool conversation, ask your crush questions. Use open-ended questions, which are questions that can't be answered with a yes or no, to get them talking. You'll seem more confident, interesting, and likeable! If you know they're on the swim team, ask, “How did your meet go last weekend?” If they like to play the guitar, ask, “How did you get started with guitar?” Stand up straight. Pull your shoulders back, hold your head high, and look straight ahead. You'll appear cool and confident around your crush, plus you'll feel more confident, too. Give a casual hello when you pass them in the halls. You'll look relaxed and self assured. As a bonus, you'll get your crush's attention. If there's time, you can even have a quick, flirty conversation! 
Accept your feelings for your crush. Remember that your crush is a real person. Speak slowly and take deep breaths when chatting with your crush. Don’t wait if you want to approach your crush. Give them space. Don’t respond to their texts immediately. Glance at them every so often but don’t stare. Tell your friends to play it cool. Take time to do the things you love. Smile. Flirt with eye contact, touch, and playful teasing. Ask them questions. Stand up straight. Give a casual hello when you pass them in the halls. 