` *The easiest thing to do would be to just be as straightforward and honest about it as possible. Lying and keeping secrets never makes things better. It may be difficult but I assume she's going to have to find out eventually, so you might as well get it over with. She may not respond the way you want, but you should really listen to your mother. Chances are she actually does want and know what is best for you, perhaps even more than you do. Maybe you should stop acting out and try to find a boyfriend who doesn't live in California and who you don't need to keep secret. You don't have to listen to me, but if you don't, I'm sure you'll think back one day and say to yourself, ``wow, Swarm on Wikipedia was right.`` And when that day comes, I want you to imagine me typing out: ``I told you so.`` Good luck!   `