` ::I was not asking you to decide who was in the right.  I am saying that I did not initiate the incivility.  Is it not incivility to accuse someone of stalking?  Or to accuse someone of bad faith w/o cause?  I cannot let a false accusation slide; sorry, but I have to respond to lies about me.   My initial response was to delete the response (for which I was blocked); then I posted an ``in-kind`` response.  I will try to respond more civilly, but I will respond to defamatory remarks. You ask that we disengage, and I would be happy to never encounter this other editor again, but he/she seems to have an almost Pavlovian urge to revert any edit I propose.  `