`  == Lolo Jones edit ==  My name is Marilyn K. Hauk, better known as ``the family of Randy Essex.`` How do I talk to you privately?  The Des Moines Register sports writer who wrote the original story didn't bother to contact me, even though I lived in Des Moines at the time. Randy and I were married when we were Lolo's legal guardians for two years. I, too, am a professional, and had as much to do with her care as my husband. I also had worked at The Register. At the time of the story, I was in graduate school. I just want to set the record straight. At the time, I complained to Randy Evans, who is now editorial page editor for The Register. After our exchange, the woman who was editorial page editor accepted my guest editorial; a version of that editorial also ran on Salon. Had the sports writer contacted me for comment, I would have told him that the care for Lolo was more than just a roof over her head ... but instead a truly remarkable community effort involving many players. That was the gist of my guest editorial. I have grown weary of being referred to as ``the family of Randy Essex.`` That is very hurtful ... especially considering that Lolo and I are still in contact. I have a name too. How can we fix this? I'm not so much interested in being a Wikpedia editor as I am in setting the record straight. I am sorry if this is the wrong protocol. I would so appreciate your help. Thank you.MKH `