`  ::::Thanks, and as a result I now find myself editing here a bit sooner than I should ). I agree that aiming for personal satisfaction is not usually going to work in case of disputes. But I will raise another issues that became more clear to me while I was blocked. When Dr. K told me not to criticize NYB because he was helpful to me during the block, it dawned on me that it's actually very difficult to give criticism while avoiding confrontation. E.g. the way AN/I works is that you actually need to specify what action you want to be taken. The whole culture on Wikipedia has evolved to the point that this is considered to be the way things should work. But I think this is the root cause of many of the conflicts between editors, it is the reason why not just AN/I but even ArbCom is seen as a venue that leads to ``too much drama`` which leads to problems not getting dealt with at an early stage; we tend to postpone that until they are so bad that drastic measures against editors need to be taken.   `