Commercial Fixed Wing
Flight Crew Multiengine; Flight Crew Air Transport Pilot (ATP); Flight Crew Instrument
Communication Breakdown
ATC Issue All Types; Conflict Ground Conflict; Critical; Deviation / Discrepancy - Procedural Clearance; Ground Incursion Runway
General None Reported / Taken
Human Factors; Procedure
We were vectored to the visual approach for Runway 8L. Per ATIS instructions; I had informed Honolulu Approach on initial contact that we would be unable to LAHSO. After being cleared for the approach; we were swapped to Honolulu Tower; and were given the instruction 'Cleared to land Runway 8L; hold short Runway 4L.' I informed the Tower Controller that we were unable to LAHSO; and that we had informed Approach Control of that fact. Aircraft Y; on the visual approach to  Runway 4R was then given the clearance to sidestep to Runway 4L and hold short Runway 8L (we later saw on the Jepp page that this left Aircraft Y; 3;700 feet to stop before our Runway). Touchdown on 8L was normal; about near the end of the touchdown zone due to gust additives. We had autobrakes 2 set per FDP data. As we were decelerating through approximately 80 knots; I took over control from the First Officer; and ATC suddenly gave us the clearance 'Aircraft X; hold short Runway 4L.' I told the First Officer 'Unable;' and transitioned to manual braking. The First Officer informed the Tower of this fact (I believe this transmission was blocked); and the Tower Controller told us 'Just stop right there' in an elevated tone. The First Officer responded 'We're doing our best; but we can't accept that LAHSO' and I stopped the aircraft via manual braking as quickly as possible at our landing weight of 304;600 lbs. We came to a stop just past Taxiway E; just prior to the Runway 4L LAHSO line. The Aircraft Y landing 4L appeared to be heavily braking; and just managed to stop before crossing onto Runway 8L. I would estimate the distance between the aircraft once stopped to be approximately 1;000 feet.
Pilot reported ATC instructing them to hold short of a runway due to a small aircraft landing on another runway.  Pilot advised ATC unable to LAHSO but did so.