they invited amanda out to lunch her first day , and in those forty-five minutes amanda had learned not only that rachel had put the na**d pictures she 'd found of her ex-husband 's mistress on the memorial website of said mistress 's late mother and that mei struggled with thrush , but also that rachel had survived - and possibly started - a house fire in college that had killed two of her roommates and that mei had three separate , eye-watering anecdotes about circumcised men .