all sorts of random memories come crashing down around me-my father asking me to sing for an asian diplomat when i was a child ; my father refusing to let me date any boys other than the sons of his influential friends ; my father getting me into law school when i was still undecided on my major ; my father introducing me to all the `` right friends '' in law school ; my father asking me to wear a nearly transparent dress and `` forget '' my underwear when i went with him to dinner on an oil tycoon 's yacht .