you can just well , sort of blend in if anyone asks you who you are , which they probably wo n't , just say stella invited you ask to speak to me but for god 's sakes do n't say anything about townsend and do n't say the name of your whatever you call it ' 'talamasca ' 'yes1 now please listen to what i 'm saying there 'll be hundreds of people there , white tie to rags , you know , and do be discreet just come up to me , and when you kiss me , whisper your name in my ear what is it again ? '