'my parents wanted to help her , especially my mother but the entire family was disrupted i think what really finished it however was that they saw her out in the backyard one night with a man , and she would n't admit to it she kept denying it and they were afraid something would happen she was thirteen , i believe , and very pretty they sent her home ' beatrice recounted pretty much the same story to juliette milton 'i think deirdre looks too mature , ' she said but she would n't believe deirdre had lied about male companions 'she 's confused ' and beatrice was adamant that there was no congenital insanity that was just a family legend that carlotta had started , and one which really ought to be stopped beatrice went up to first street to see deirdre and take her some presents nancy would n't let her in .