all things taken into account , the family lore indicates that mary beth was loved and respected by her family , and that she did not dominate people 's lives or decisions , except to pressure them towards some show of family loyalty , and that , in spite of a few noteworthy mistakes , she picked excellent candidates for business ventures from among her kindred , and that they trusted her and admired her and liked to do business with her she kept her outlandish accomplishments secret from those with whom she did business , and possibly she kept her occult power secret from others , too , and she enjoyed being with the family in a simple and ordinary fashion .