from 1929 , she attended mass daily at our mother of perpetual help chapel on prytama , gave generously to the church and all its organizations , and though she carried on a private war with mayfair and mayfair over the administration of antha 's money , she was always extremely generous with her own she lent money freely to any and all mayfairs who had need of it , sent modest gifts for birthdays , weddings , christenings , and graduations , attended funerals , and now and then met with cousins outside the house for lunch or tea .