but when all the many descriptions of mary beth 's love of wine , food , music , dancing , and bed partners are considered , one can see that she behaved more like a man of the period than a woman in this regard , merely pleasing herself as a man might , with little thought for convention or respectability in sum , there is nothing too unusual about her behavior if one sees it in this light but of course people at the time did not see it in that light , and they thought her love of pleasure to be rather mysterious and even sinister she deepened this sense of the mysterious by her casual attitude towards what she did , and her refusal to attach importance to the shallow reactions of others more than one mayfair close cousin begged her to 'behave ' ( or so the servants said ) , and more than once mary beth shrugged off this suggestion .