but , since lord hobart was now the head of the family , she spent much of her social time with the daughters of other members of the male council-and what those girls were saying was obscene : respectable witches defer to wiser , more knowledgeable males ; blood males should n't have to serve or yield to queens because they 're the stronger gender ; the only reason queens and black widows want the power to control males is because they 're sexually and emotionally incapable of being real women .