Making keeping friends is extremely difficult . Luckily I stayed in touch with people from high school and I also became friends with my brother ' s friends . If I didn ' t have that , which is still hard for me to maintain , I wouldn ' t know what to do . But since I do , I might have some insight . Making friends is hard . Keeping them is a lot of work , especially if you like don ' t like the same things . But it ' s really important to put effort into relationships I know my first instinct is to think ' if that person wants to be friends with me then they will ' but everybody needs to be putting in effort consistently for a long time . Another piece of advice I have is to hang out with the friends of people you know if you get the opportunity go to happy hour with your coworkers , hang out with your cousin ' s friends , meet people through other people at big events like weddings or parties . It ' s mostly just putting in a lot of time , the longer you ' re friends with someone the more likely you are to stay friends with them and more likely to meet their friends . It ' s a lot easier to find someone to be close with when you have more options . Not sure if this was helpful , honestly I still feel kind of lonely sometimes too . It ' s hard to find people like us .