We ' re not married but have been commonlaw for 6 years and we have a small child . I gave up on trying to find a Catholic spouse years ago I was just not in a social situation with many Catholics , and when I tried to attend church functions to meet people , it only seemed to be that there were families and seniors there , so not all that productive . Catholic school would have been a great place to meet someone , but my parents dissuaded me from being in a serious relationship when I was younger . I found my partner while we were both volunteering for something . There was a lot of unspoken understanding we just get each other . There was not really a lot of pursuing and things eventually fell into place . I ' m a practicing Catholic , and he was raised Catholic , but does not object to me bringing our son to church . So if you can manage the online dating , taking classes and volunteering , or just going out to bars as well too , you should do all that , and just be open with people that you meet , that you are Catholic and I believe that sooner or later you will meet someone who is either Catholic , or who is okay with you being Catholic . I think that being patient is overrated ! You should just get out and meet people . We prioritized having a child over getting married because I was 38 when we started our relationship . Being patient is great if you are 22 .