Wow . I ' m not here toffee much help . Was blown away by how similar situations were in . My brother is 34 , lives at home , has a horrible part time job graveyard shift , is single , depressed , and lost career wise . I ' m 24 and I ' ve started my own small business which evidently made things worse for him I guess he see ' s his younger brother taking action I have him work here and there because that bothered him taking orders from me . I understood it . Just wanted to help him . I have always been in a very similar situation like you . It ' s frustrating cause you want to see them succeed and find a path . My brother still hasn ' t . But I ' m hoping he does soon . I don ' t know if this will help but what I ' ve been doing is backing off the let me help you approach . I ' ve really just try to hang out with home be open and have fun . Then I try to share goals and inspire him . That ' s my main goal is to not boast about what I ' ve done or my career but really just to listen to him . Let him vent . Show him my ways and hopefully inspire him to get up and take action . Most important thing for dealing with a severe introvert is to not overwhelm them by always talking to them about there direction . Just talk and share thoughts . You have to have a soft approach to it . Be his friend and brother . Inspire him . And hopefully he will figure things out . I know I ' m not much help . Shoot were in the same boat but I hope our brothers figure it out ! Thanks for sharing !