Damned if you do , Damned if you don ' t . Online , guys kick off because they never get a response , stating they only want to have some response even if it is a rejection . Then other guys kick off if you do the latter , stating that you are rejecting them only to get insulted and verbally abused . Online interaction are a mine field . Ignoring messages receives abusive , responding receives abuse . it is so tiresome . The typical you are not hot enough , you are ugly anyway , I was doing you a favour , is the standard reaction to rejection . Then the verbal abuses that are boringly predictable ugly , fat , pig , Slut , whore , Bitch . sigh . we will need to educate young women in the pitfalls of internet communication by preparing them for the abuse and manipulation tactics such as negging , to protect them . Also , we need to educate young men on how not to act online , how to be graceful , charming and a gentleman with respect , honour and dignity . not to lash out at women online . It is a sad state of affairs the internet world we live in today . just really sad .