It ' s a tough one . But you need to make a decision . The more you allow this to go on , the more you enable this behavior . Sex is an integral part of any relationship and never let anyone tell you different . A woman who denies her spouse sex is a future ex wife or a cheated on woman . Period . If the marriage is important to you than you declare sex as a non negotiable . You cannot be in this without the physical intimacy . <| sep |> Yeah I agree , if there ' s an unexplained pay gap then sure , investigate it . But what I don ' t like is the incorrectdishonest use of the 72 c to the dollar stat that ' s thrown around . If I had to make a bet I ' d say it ' s related to women being less aggressive when it comes to pay negotiations which is possibly social conditioning more so than people just implicitely deciding to pay someone less because they have a vagina .