Maybe id need to look at them GT Ghouliant <| sep |> Anger and frustration will not help your friend , it will make her scared to reach out to you . She is not putting you through anything , she is having a crisis that has nothing to do with you . If our relationships were enough to save our loved ones almost none of us would be here on this sub . Mental illness is not a rational reaction to one ' s life or relationships , it just doesn ' t work like that . Directing her to the suicide hotline was the right thing to do and so was telling her mom to check on her . Your friend needs therapy but you can ' t force her into it . If you are able to talk to her about it in a way that doesn ' t blame her for being mentally ill say basically what you told us . That you ' re worried about seeing the same things in her that you saw in your other friend . If you can ' t talk to her about it that ' s totally fine , just be there for her and I agree with the other commenter that you should consider seeing someone yourself .