Because I ' ve been able to spend a lot of time with her as a friend , I know things about her personality that I don ' t want in a girlfriend . Instead of assuming other people can ' t have opposite gender friends , maybe you should consider that this person has a quality that you would feel is a deal breaker . You should naturally be attracted to a person of your desired gender with all the qualities of a good partner . If you don ' t consider those people to be potential life partners , then you ' re an idiot . Or lying to yourself and everyone else . <| sep |> How ' s the fit on that ? TTS or what <| sep |> We weren ' t paying for influence . We were paying them to operate AusAid funded HIVAIDS , TB and Malaria programs in PNG and Indonesia . People still don ' t seem to understand that CF and CHAI operate frontline aid services .