these are gold . haven ' t laughed this hard at a comment chain in a while <| sep |> Man , people are really going above and beyond for karma these days . <| sep |> Yeah , a fair few commenters have mentioned that I ' ve been giving mixed signals . I do have to say though that it is helpful to me to get comfortable with someone I may end up sleeping with if I ' m able to be intimate with them before having sex , in a setting where I have some control over how far I want things to go assuming of course that things aren ' t also going further than they are willing to go too . So I guess that the solution lies in setting expectations earlier on to avoid misunderstandings and mixed signals . <| sep |> Read my other comments . I won ' t deny that some people are just way more exposed to body load than others that ' s obvious . Question is why . Since you and your brothers get the same reaction , it could be because you all experienced the same trauma as kids , or because you have similar eating habits or such . I ' m not saying that as an answer , just theories . Why do you think you all get it ? Genetics ?