I think that everyone has this thought at some point in their lives , and I was certainly no exception . I think a lot of people are correct in that girls are attracted to different things . My advice would be to find a look that works for you . Ideally it would be one that ' s appealing in some sort of stylish way , one that you can maintain with relative ease , and one that you feel comfortable in . It really helped my dating game when I got my grooming in order . Personally I like to dress up in nicer cloths . They make me feel sharp and bulletproof , and I think that ' s worth way more than the fancy looks alone . I like either casual fancy with nice shoes , sport coats , and slacks or just straight up suits if I can get away with it . You ' ll be surprised how much more confident you ' ll be when you find your look . I get way more dates now than I did as a depressed dude with a mountain man beard in a Black Sabbath tshirt .