Such a cutie ! <| sep |> Maybe it explains the lightning bolt xD <| sep |> If you wouldn ' t want to date someone like you , why would you expect anyone else to ? I don ' t . Or is your original post not a list things you think are holding you back from dating someone ? Isn ' t it ? I feel like I ' d be dateable if I fixed my weaknesses , and those are some of them . If you think you are happy not being in a relationship , maybe your original post should be I don ' t care to be in a relationship . I think I ' d be happy in a relationship , but I think the current me wouldn ' t be satisfying for a partner , so I ' m not really focusing on any relationships atm . If you do care do be in a relatonship , don ' t expect it to fall out of the sky . I don ' t . Honestly , jacksclevername ' s post tells you everything you need and in particular your response that you ' re just too much of a glutton and lazy to work on your weight really rubs me off the wrong way . Yeah . I don ' t like it , and I ' m trying to eat less and stuff , but as of now I ' m a pile of undisciplined shit . I ' m working on improving it . Forgive me for the lack of modesty , but I am the kind of girl guys like you tend to fall for normal weight , reasonably attractive , dress well , but also like anime and video games and a bunch of other typical nerdy stuff like board games and DD . I am not saying this makes me more special than other girls , but everyone wants someone goodlooking and who shares their interests . I have had people like you be interested in me and be frustrated that I wasn ' t interested back , but you have to realise that the way you portray yourself to the world shows how much you care about them and how much you care about you . I realise that very fewnone would be attracted to me , so I don ' t really fall head over heels and expect others to do the same . You say you have high standards , but I hope you ' re not expecting your highstandard people to lower theirs . I don ' t . You want someone who is fit , dresses acceptably and can be a companion in your hobbies , and maybe a couple of new adventures ? You need to work on making yourself the kind of person those people would want to date . I know , and I will . More importantly than any of that , why wouldn ' t you want to be the best version of you you possibly can be ? You ' re young and the time to start is now . Every day you can be a little bit better , and be proud of who you are and worthy of your own love . I try . Thank you for your advice , and thanks your comment !