Are you stupid ? I hate to be so cruel and vicious about it , but are you legitimately stupid ? Having sexual fantasies and knowing the consequences of your actions are not the same thing . It ' s like this a child wants a piece of candy , you tell them no they throw a temper tantrum trying to get what they want right then and there . They don ' t consider that the action they have chose will have more consequences when they get home . You take them home spank them or ground them . They will often the same thing again expecting it to work . I am not saying a child can ' t be clever or even crafty learning to play on a parent to get more of what they want from them . I am saying they don ' t understand the nature of consequences for their actions .