Maximum smugness is get married and have no ring . When people ask you why no ring , tell them you took the money that would have been wasted on a worthless rock and bought computers , or a trip or something . <| sep |> I bet I know which one is the top in that relationship <| sep |> Haha I do neither , I work locally and I get more than enough of my fill of Greenwich locals already <| sep |> They look straight to me . <| sep |> Pack of rabid dogs incident . <| sep |> are there a bunch of competing networks around you ? <| sep |> You don ' t need to have a MOH if it doesn ' t feel right to you . Just make sure if you go this route , you make it clear to your bridesmaids that you ' re not choosing a MOH . My sister was in a wedding where the bride was having a hard time picking a MOH , and basically agonized through the whole planning process as to which girl she should choose . It caused awkwardness between the bridesmaids , and she never did end up picking anyone . This also caused some logistical problems on the day of . You sound like you have all that figured out , and everyone has a clear role . Wishing you luck and a beautiful wedding day ! 3