I can speak in spanish . so if you want to talk <| sep |> So you are a pacifist and don ' t believe US troops fighting ISIS is worth it either . <| sep |> Yea , this isn ' t anything new . They ' ve been saying it ' s the full game in VR since at least E 3 . <| sep |> Gonna be incomplete <| sep |> I think the first step is definite a conversation . Understand where she is coming from . She is fairly young and may have fears about what being sexually active might imply , fear that you will push her farther than she is ready for , or many other possibilities . Accepting sexual favors can be easy because it is very passive . She does not have to take action and taking action can be scary . I would definitely emphasis being open and respectful about understanding why she feels that way . The more comfortable she feels about her boundaries being respected the more willing she may be to explore those boundaries . Have a conversation . Have lots of conversations . Communication is so important . Ask her how she feels when you pleasure her . If she relates to enjoying that kind of pleasure you can express your desire to feel similarly . Maybe she doesn ' t want to jump into exactly what you want right away but see if you can find a middle ground . If she makes no effort to listen , understand your side , communicate and attempt to find ways to improve the relationship . Then you may want to consider finding someone who is more willing to work with you and share in the effort of relationship .