Ugh , a lady in my office was making a video and literally said Come do the Harlem Shake , it ' ll be fun ! No . absolutely not . <| sep |> I ' m not really convinced about that theory . I don ' t think that when men are looking for sex is because is a compatibility gate , I think sex is just the final objective . But as happens with your theory we can ' t know what people are thinking , we would need some study and statistics . I also think that this difference on sexual behaviour on men and women in general is because of society and education . Women are educated to protect their gift , to be prude , to not sleep around or you ' ll be called a whore , not even dress too slutty or they will think you are going to sleep around and called a whore again , etc . Hell , I read the other day in rrelationships a man speaking about how his wife couldn ' t bring herself to have sex with him because she felt slutty even after being married . On the other hand , young virgin men are called losers , they are considered more successful the more women they sleep with , etc . So it ' s understandable that the behavior of women towards sex is much more conservative than men . Changing how we educate kids and people in general will eventually change the way women and men see sex and we could get to a situation in which both men and women can enjoy sex without the burden of shame and expectations . But I ' m being too idealistic lol .