My husband never let me drive in or through big cities before he died . We married young , and he was the better driver so he always did it . I ' ve been scared to drive in big cities because I was always told I couldn ' t do it , that I ' d wreck . I heard that for 23 years . It was a simple fact . My boyfriend works at various airports . He changes out radar systems to digital from analog . He ' s automatically in cities big enough to have airports , at least , and usually have to drive through bigger cities . I ' ve done it . Without a problem except some frayed nerves . Because he told me I could , he knew I could , and I believed him . I believed him when he said he believed in me . He gives me very precise directions , I have a GPS , and anywhere in the 17 states he covers , he believes I could make it as long as the drive isn ' t too long and that ' s more because he cares about my safety and the long drive than my skill as a driver . It ' s really something , being believed in . He gives me faith in myself .