I work a career I don ' t necessarily like but the schedule is awesome for being a parent . Had I been working a MonFri 8 to 5 I would ' ve just been a stay at home Dad . <| sep |> Like a straw for inhaling diarrhea vapor <| sep |> That ' s what happens when you only look at how a person looks on the outside forgetting that intelligence and character actually are a huge part of the equation . i . e . a recipe for a good night , nothing else . TBH this is the same for most guys , the average hot guy is usually a boring and self centered , douchebag . So , fundamentally , your approach is flawed . Generally speaking , people who look good need to work much less on developing their character and brain as their looks will usually be enough to get a good mate . This is of course a general philosophy and obviously there are cases where it is not so . Obviously , if outer looks have the largest weighting here , in the majority of cases one is limiting themselves to a pool of people who , through their life generally speaking of course , did not have to work as hard at getting what they want . Again , valid for both genders . Basically expecting intelligent arguments would be tantamount to adding another factor in the equation for which most of the candidates are not well prepared . Ergo , the above mentioned experiences .