Don ' t drop your phone <| sep |> My previous boyfriend had parents who were more interested in swinging than raising their kids . He had no concept of housekeeping or healthy eating habits . With the eating , he wanted to change for the end result of becoming skinny , but wasn ' t willing to commit to healthy habits . He would complain to me about he didn ' t understand how he was fat . When I would suggest basic changes like portion control and introducing fresh produce into his diet , he wasn ' t receptive and had excuses . It ' s really difficult being in a relationship with someone with such low selfesteem who wants you to magically solve a problem only they can solve . With the cleaning , I would drop hints about it needing to get done . He literally lived in the dirtiest house I have ever seen . When I housesat for him while he was on vacation , I cleaned it for the first time in half a year . I even bought him cleaning supplies so he could maintain it . When he got back from vacation , he told me that it was nice , but he was just going to let it go to shit again . The food and cleanliness themselves weren ' t just the issue . It was that he had such low standards . He put in minimal effort in all aspects of life , including work and school , which made me realize that he was holding me back from better opportunities .