So you ' re going to make a spiteful statement about the employer by stiffing your server ? This is what I don ' t get . Many states have a tipped wage , meaning the server makes a couple bucks an hour from the employer , and depends on their tips to make a living . If we were to offset that and pay the server a healthy living wage , your the cost of your meal would drastically increase anyway . Most restaurants here are very affordable as it is . Honestly I think it ' s a great system . It motivates servers to do a good job . If the service sucked from your server and because of your server , tip accordingly . <| sep |> The best advice I can give you on that is don ' t join a guild to make friends . Join a guild because a friend invited you . I ' ve been a part of my repped guild for over a year now , but it got started because I was talking to someone about random things in LA , and she invited me into their guild at the time . I took a break and came back , they had left that guild and I just followed suit . Been in the new one ever since with no problems . Just try to increase your random interactions beyond commands of where to go and what to do . Get involved in map discussions , and have random conversations with other players . If you find ones you really get along with , ask to join their guild . Edit Also of note , always keep in mind that once you join a good guild , if all you do is whisper the players you want to talk to , you ' ll never feel connected . You ' re gonna have to be constantly active in guild chat discussions . Try to avoid being rude or condescending to random guild mates . This cause you to make more connections in the guild that you didn ' t have before , and leads you being included in things more often by default .