Looks like it ' s mass downvote time . On an alt <| sep |> If they ask , tell them . If you want to have an honest relationship with them and want to talk about things you want to talk about then do it . There is only two ways it can go they will accept it and you will feel relieved , or they won ' t accept it . That is not to say that they won ' t accept it for forever , they may come around eventually . But the point being is that you were honest , you told them and weight will be lifted off of your shoulders . You can control how you act , you cannot control how they will react . It might surprise you how they will respond and it may hurt how they will respond , but at the end of the day at least you will know how they think and feel , and you feel at the very least , free . I wish you the best of luck .