Bingo . Where ' s the joy in having a child if you ' re working so hard to sustain them that you miss 90 % of their childhood ? Further , how can you make the connection of having children joy if you yourself are on the brink of suicide , or have seen a number of friendsfamily commit suicide , due to the nearinsanity of stresses that pile on as you progress through school and then into adult working life in Japan ? While the quote from that article was about money specifically , I think that ' s just a toneddown way of saying having a child isn ' t going to be good for us or the kid . If you yourself aren ' t enjoying life , what could possibly be appealing about bringing another life into yours to share in the same miseries ?