You know , I went through this phase of I only want her to be happy , and if that means removing myself from her life then so be it . But then I reached a point where I realized that she has to own this . She was the one who emotionally checked out , she was the one who wouldn ' t try to fix us , she was the one who handed me a grade for all of my efforts to fix things failing . This is all on her . OP , I don ' t know all of your story , but don ' t beat yourself up too hard . You ' re the one who is on here trying to heal , trying to better himself . On the other hand , what ' s going to happen to her next relationship ? Keep your head up , brother . <| sep |> He actually choked away a 13 loss in the NBA finals . <| sep |> Whatever you say , little guy .