Kid is probably a shitlord that doesn ' t have Bystander Intervention or Gender Based Analysis done either . <| sep |> Mine is a bit different because I said I was fine with it either way , as it was a backslide that led to feelings coming back up , and a mature discussion of the implications . So in that case , the truth was deserved , at least in my opinion , as there was very little to no incentive to lie as there would be no backlash from telling the truth . And I so disagree with your stance . If you care about someone and have been with them for an extended period of time they deserve the truth . If you ' ve been with someone for an extended period of time , you know them pretty damn well . Breakups always hurt , but knowing the truth of things and being up front with someone is so much less devastating than having them find out later and feeling shitty about it . You ' re straight condoning lying to someone , which is not the right solution in a situation involving a relationship . Trying to avoid having a blunt conversation with someone which might be hard is not mature , and the excuse you provide as a scenario which they would use to avoid having that conversation is absolutely not an excuse to lie to someone in such an obvious way that they ' ll find out later . It ' s a cop out .