This is the worst thing . <| sep |> Because I ' ve been hurt too many times and will never get used to heartbreak . Because the women I have the most in common with are the ones I strike out with the most . Because I ' m so kind and considerate that women find me way less attractive for that reason . Two different women who never met each other , told me that to my face . Because I ' ve been hurt so many times by women who lied to me even with good intentions that I ' ve developed trust issues . Because of my constant state of introspection . On the one hand I ' m confident with who I am and what I can bring to a relationship . I do , as so many people advise , love myself first . On the other hand , I would love once and for all to figure out and fix whatever ' s broken in me that keeps getting me dumped . Because I feel so embarrassed that figuring out the secret to love seems like rocket science in a world where other people get together all the time with seemingly little effort .