Compromise . Tell him you ' ll go out the next day with him but today you can ' t because of X excuse wash haircleaningdo nails . Maybe he ' ll understand the need to maintain aesthetic . He should feel okay with going out by himself if he ' s meeting up with others , so maybe dig into that and see what the issue is . ESTPs need to be spoken to in their language , they ' re really not good at putting themselves in other people ' s shoesAlso since you brought it up , I don ' t understand the whole let me bring you along and then ignore you the whole time thing . several ESTPs have done this before and I don ' t get why . I don ' t think it ' s malicious but its freaking weird . <| sep |> Yeah , games like bowling , pool , darts and many more have a lot of beer flowing around them . It just suits certain sports . Few sports are more relaxing than walking around the woods with your friends throwing stuff , joking , enjoying some friendly competition and not being hassled by people .