This is KAT for Javale right ? Has to be <| sep |> Well , I mean . Asides from the couple of hundred people who park in these lots every day . <| sep |> They don ' t get much money that way <| sep |> There is a dichotomy in Western thought that mothers can ' t be sexy . That ' s somehow becoming a mom means that you cash in your sexuality for nurturing . The reality of the situation is nothing could be further from the truth . I think in many cases being a parent enhance is your sexuality because it allows you to think outside yourself in new and very interesting ways . It sounds like you ' re neither terribly promiscuous nor indiscrete . I think you sound like a very smart woman and if you are feeling differently I ' m sure it ' s only because of the expectations others put on you and not anything you ' re doing yourself .