Referral link spam <| sep |> No sir . You ' re just experiencing bias . It is nothing more than a shit test designed to weed out the meek . In my experience , 100 % of the girls I ' ve hooked up with via tinder ALL had the I ' m not here for casual sex line . They put that there for 2 reasons 1 . A . S . D . Anti Slut Defense is still ingrained in most girls even in our current culture . It hasn ' t fully melted away yet and as such , girls are hesitant to be on full display as the sluts they are . 2 . It ' s an easy out for any guy they don ' t find attractive but still want to get attention or cash from . This way they can easily ID the cucks , thirsty virgins , wannabe alphas et al and treat them accordingly . If you are on tinder 1 rule is king . The one who messages first is the one interested . If you find yourself ALWAYS having to message them first you should just delete the app as your experience will always be as described . It ' s really that simple . If you never get a message without sending one first , tinder will not work for you period as you will always be swimming against the tide . On the other hand , if you find yourself getting messages randomly and even forgetting conversations you had then tinder is EXACTLY what it claims to be . A simple hook up app . I don ' t initiate contact . If they want me they will respond within 24 hours no joke . When they do message me I hold nothing back , I call them on their shit , treat them like I would any random bloke and I don ' t mention sex at all . Pussy is a dime a dozen , if you don ' t have a personality I could care less . I go out of my way to avoid it in most cases as their personality is such a turn off I could care less what they look like naked . Still , within 4 or 5 messages I ' m getting the We should meet up and have some fun messages with a wink wink face . I ' m not even a Chad . My looks would rate 410 on most scales and I have no fucking job at the moment . I tell them this and the panties drop even quicker go figureTinder works as it is supposed to , it ' s your approach that is failing . Don ' t talk to them like you would on okcupid for starters . That shit signals to them that you aren ' t confident enough . This isn ' t PUA BS , it ' s simple biology . They are on a hookup app and are weeding out guys that tiptoe around that fact . They don ' t want you trying to get to know them . They don ' t want to actually know you . Any conversation that you attempt to start with ' dating and getting to know you ' type questions will have you unmatched rather quickly . They go to PoF and OKC for that shit . Here they want to be seen as angels but treated as vixens . That doesn ' t mean instantly showing them your cock either . Desperation is not attractive to either gender . Show them that you ' re cool and calm but not needy or wanting a GF . They really don ' t want to hookup with guys they could actually fall for , that isn ' t what tinder is for . Get that last part did ya ? Fact is most of your ' rejections ' on tinder could actually be because she felt more than just a lustful connection and since she was just there for lust and lulz you are shown the door . My friend was having the same experience as you even though he is phenomenally better looking than me , we ' re talking under wear model looks . He couldn ' t understand why . I looked at his profile and the few messages he ' d sent , the conversations that evaporated and one thing was abundantly clear . He was treating it like a dating app and just hoping the conversations would eventually be steered towards sex . Hello . Mcfly ! That ' s not how this works guys . Don ' t ask these girls how there day was . Be irrelevant and different . Make your first response to them something like So , banana pancakes for breakfast ? You ' ll be amazed at the results .