ok ! ! thanks <| sep |> Look at the establishment you represent . When it all comes to a head . I ' ll look you up . <| sep |> Admins are going to be a bit busy today and for some time because of uspez . <| sep |> Well , that ' s a tempest , isn ' t it ? Call SIL as soon as you can . Tell her ' Just answer me yes or no , I am asking because I ' m concerned Do you want me to step in when everyone starts railing at you ? Simple yes or no , I ' m leaving if I do or not up to you . That way she can just simply say ' YesNo ' and not let on what you ' re asking . You can then ask her if she wants you over now , not later . I like to have permission if I ' m going to bat in the fam dynamic like that . If she says yes , she needs you now , choke it up , go early and go to bat for SIL . LET YOUR HUBS KNOW YOU ' RE TIRED OF EVERYONE GANGING UP ON SIL . Leave the areakitchengo lie down as necessary . If she says no , or she can handle it , send Hubs on his way with kidlet and cook in your own stress free kitchen .