Typical Vikings collapse incoming . Seasons over boys <| sep |> Yeah that ' s what I mean by a lack of empathy . A rich person voting to cut upper class taxes lacks empathy . A coal miner voting for someone who wants to dismantle the EPA lacks empathy . <| sep |> YES . I take so many things personally . Nmom was verbally abusive and I think that my low self esteem is to blame at times . I always feel the need to get defensive . My anger really isn ' t helping my current relationship that ' s for sure . So glad to see I ' m not the only one who has to deal with this . EDIT I also have a fear of turning into my Nmom so I ' m a people pleaser and avoid conflict mostly at the sake of my own mental well being . I have a tendency to over analyze situations and find problems where there aren ' t any .