I hopped my first train very recently , so it would technically be my second train , hence my eagerness to get back on . Thanks for doing a background check to make sure I ' m green though <| sep |> No idea what his weight is , real or billed . But I had a similar thought watching this earlier , actually that he actually looked like he might be small enough to get away with it . Not that I think he needs the cruiserweights , but he could do good work there I think . <| sep |> Member when you were supposed to be 51 ? '<| sep |> From someone in the same shoes as you never lived with an N , I frequent this sub enough to understand that Ns have patterns they follow , and word their messages to feign empathy and understanding . Disclaimer I ' m not saying I ' m some sort of therapist or psychologist whose read and studied people with NPD , BPD , or sociopathspsycopaths . I ' m just a guy who reads a lot of this sub , sees the repetitive methods Ns use to make people doubt themselves and to open themselves up for more manipulation . Read through a dozen of these stories , you ' ll see how predictable some of these people the Ns can be . Take the time to reread the emails with your SO and see if at any point in the emails do the writers the Ns ever acknowledge the fact the your SO was treated poorly , or genuinely say they messed up . I promise you there will be denial on the writer ' s part . There will be deflection , gaslighting , just plain condescension on their part . If anything , with your SO ' s permission , post the emails with some edits to block out anything that can be used to identify someone here and let some of the people on this sub point it out for you guys . Back your SO up . You married her , trust and respect her decision to remain NC . If she hasn ' t heard of this sub , show it to her .