The bread especially . Can ' t imagine going back to UK supermarket bread now . <| sep |> This is what happens without vetting and refugee camps . The Middle Easterners themselves stick refugees in camps because THEY KNOW what would happen if they let them run amok freely . The West needs to take a page from how their own region treats refugees , basically it ' s Yeah , you can stay , right HERE . The West can afford to take care of real refugees AND contain them whereas back home they rely on foreign aid , charity . the societies there don ' t tolerate government welfare for foreigners like the West . TREAT THEM SIMILARLY . <| sep |> My only experience with coming close to having a step child happened when I was very young . I resented the fact of her very existence at first , and by the end , when I broke up with her dad , I cried more about losing out on being in her life than I did about him . In a short year and a half , I grew to love that little girl very much . It ' s hard to say what would have happened had I stayed , married the dad as planned , had more babies . But , part of what I ' d looked forward to was having her as part of all that . She became , and has remained , my personal gold standard of little kid adorableness , and I named one of my children sort of in honor of her . I think it all really depends on the individuals involved , the circumstances , and lots of intangibles , but , no , I do not believe that a step parent has to feel that heart shattering , all encompassing , weak kneed love we feel for our own . Sometimes it happens , and sometimes it doesn ' t , but we do need to do our best by them .