Losing that much weight also means he probably has better circulation now . Meaning he notices that he ' s cold sooner . <| sep |> Gotta say this post is a huge trigger for me . I feel for ya oneLegOut The Door . Both DW and I are out of the church , but that hasn ' t helped intimacy one little shitbit . Going on four years ago now I gave up and decided that I don ' t want it if you don ' t , so guess what ? We don ' t . I like intimacy . I like sex . I like just snuggling . If I don ' t initiate , it ain ' t happening and I got so damn tired of being , playful , romantic , helpful , whatever else you can think of only to be rejected time after time after time . I think all the men and women who like intimacy but are married to someone who doesn ' t should have a big convention and swap . I am so tired of being married to someone I am virtually incompatible with . Sigh ! Sorry for the rant . I feel for ya Buddy .