I just watched the black go out of stock <| sep |> Turn it upsidedown . <| sep |> I ' m open to any of the above , but the second is what I ' m most interested in . Dating someone without actively trying to settle down . I ' m just not at a stage in my life where I am looking to marry someone in the next few years . If it does work out long term , that ' s great , but I ' m not seeking that out . I think it ' s best to just be straightforward about what you want and state it directly . You can ' t stop other people from thinking negatively of you if you ' re looking for a hookup or thinking negatively of you if you want to wait some chunk of time before having sex . These people aren ' t who you ' re looking for , so it ' s better to find out so you can move on .