You misinterpreted me . I don ' t feel attracted and aroused thinking of the hole , I get aroused and attracted at the person surrounding the hole , the hole itself does nothing to me . I prefer the flirting before foreplay , foreplay and afterplay more than sex itself . I think that ' s an issue myself that I don ' t enjoy sex as much as the idea of a physical connection . Also , I ' m fairly certain I ' m herteroflexible I think that ' s the term . I ' ve had some good experiences with both teams . However , I think I ' m pretty heteroromantic . Thanks for the long explanation though , people on this sub are amazingly open and supportive , that really suprised me positively . I thought this sub would be filled with people that would be here looking for a fap story , but it ' s quite the opposite . I ' m sure there are SOME that do , but most are here to learn or to help .