When you need to preface something in all caps . <| sep |> No one is going to read this , but I cannot stress enough how hard it is to calmly hold on to someone while they help you . When you are drowning and someone saves you , you will feel like you are still dying and holy shit , just getting above water long enough to get the air out of your lungs feels like the right idea , but you will easily drown the person saving you . I very nearly drowned when I was younger so I vividly remember how it felt . When you read Calmly hold on read it instead as You will feel like you ' re still drowning and dying but YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT THAT and hold on to the person saving you . Don ' t save yourself while they save you . They will pull you to shore or to shallower waters , you have to trust them and not pull them under you while you stress for air .