So the same . Got it <| sep |> I ' ll take sweeper for reg plus 1 key value in add <| sep |> We are all Hoskings , thank God this blog is here to let u all know . Brb moving to the regions . <| sep |> Not even remotely investment related <| sep |> I don ' t need scorer , 4 2 c 1 for striker last offer <| sep |> Hey , black people matter too . EXTREMISM ! REVERSE RACISM ! SAVE THE WHITE RACE ' S PLACE ! <| sep |> What do you mean by that ? Not sure I follow . <| sep |> Even good friends we can keep at an arms length of our feelings . Yeah we have room to improve on being emotionally open as an INFP myself I also really hate opening up to friends about my problems , I ' d rather shoulder the burden myself and help everyone else out in a very silly selfsacrificing martyr sort of way . We ' ve come a long way though he used to dodge direct personal questions or give excessively vague answers , now he will voluntarily talk about personal stuff with me . While I love people who are open books , I also love the slow unraveling of a person ' s inner workings and honestly think it ' s one reason I ' m attracted , haha . East Asia correct me if I ' m wrongI live in East Asia right now but we are both expats . Idk much about the ideologies of his church as it ' s a nondenominational organization so that could mean a strict ideology or no ideology , it really varies by church . So let me ask why limit to christian men if many of the customs aren ' t important to you ? Several reasons 1 I believe in God and I try and base my life around what I think God wants me to do . A lot of the times that just means focusing on how I live my daytoday life , but sometimes it means hmm I ' m getting a lot of signs that I should move halfway across the world on a whim . If I dated a nonChristian I highly doubt they would be cool with me saying God tells me to quit my job and take an unpaid internship in Burundi ! ! Sometimes God asks you to do things that seem deeply illogical at the time hey I ' m in the midst of that right now but in the past those things have always worked out for the best or at least taught me really important lessons . But an atheist would probably try and talk me down from doing crazy stuff if my only reason was because God said so . I don ' t want a husband who would look down on my intellect in these cases . 2 I believe that overall life goals , as well as the definition of love , are different between Christians and nonChristians . Again I aim to do what God wants and by Jesus ' s definition that includes a lot of discomfort and unhappiness on Earth . if you ' re comfortable on Earth , only ever living in peaceful areas , saving your wealth for yourself , talking with only others who are welloff and similar to you . well , you ' re doing it wrong . We are called to be selfless and to work for those who are hated and marginalized . I definitely think a lot of people do not have this same perspective most people just want to be comfortable . The Christian definition of love as well ties into understanding God ' s love . The kind of love and faith it takes to commit yourself to trusting God , I feel , is immense . Not going to lie , it ' s not easy . The love on both sides , from God and towards God , needs to be trusting and unconditional and forgiving . and I think that just the depth of what most secular people understand to be love is far more shallow than someone who has spent their life dealing with the ups and downs of being a follower of Christ . Biblically , love is described as a mutual submission , which involves both people working for the other ' s needs rather than their own . Loving God is the same way . In fact I ' m a big believer in all religions worship the same God and such , and a good example is that the word Islam actually means submission . The very core of their religion is about how to love God , basically by putting your life in God ' s hands . And so loving your significant other requires that same level of trust , surrendering your own doubts and fears and giving yourself to them completely . Whereas the secular definition of love is more like well we get along really great . 3 I want my kids to be raised Christian , and I think it needs to be a message reinforced by both parents . Of course I wouldn ' t force my kids to follow the religion forever , or disown them from not believing , but from what I ' ve observed there is a much greater chance of maintaining one ' s faith if both parents force you through church up until age 18 . What happened in my church was most parents let their kids choose to stay or go when they were like 13 . Yeah of course every 13 year old is going to choose to sleep in on a Sunday morning , but that isn ' t what ' s best for them . I myself was agnosticatheist at that time . But to have the church supporting you throughout your development as a teenager , to have a place to act as a second family and to answer your spiritual and moral questions , it ' s incredibly important and beneficial particularly at that age . You don ' t learn religion in school and I would like to keep it that way , thank you very much , so you need to be educated in religion on your own time . It ' s one thing my kids will not have free will on , and I expect my husband to support me in that . 4 I actually think I would be more open to dating a nonChristian religious person far more so than an atheist . I think I have more in common with Muslims than atheists . Though to clarify , I DO think I could very well fall for a nonChristian if I allowed myself to date one . It ' s why I don ' t even want to take the risk . I don ' t want to get four years into the relationship , love him , but then have that as the only dealbreaker . A good friend is in that situation right now and I don ' t really know what to tell her . Her boyfriend ' s all yeah whatever I ' ll come to church with you but it ' s really not the same as both parents strongly believing in something and passing that on to their kids , and I think it dilutes the message . And to know that he will never truly understand one of the driving forces behind her morality and life choices is pretty tragic . Anyways , sorry if the above got a bit dogmatic and super long lol . I ' m sure I have a long way to go to reach any of these ideals , but it ' s the philosophy . Now I just have to figure out how to say this stuff to an ENTP without him flipping the hell out D Probs have to break it into very small pieces haha . Realz b 4 feelz .