I ' m about a month out of a mentally abusive relationship . He ' d actually made me think that I was abusive , and he broke up with me . I won ' t lie and say that I was perfect far from it . But he straight up said things that weren ' t true , such as that I physically hurt him whenever I ' d got insecure . I did intentionally hurt him once , which I deeply regret , but other than that I did not . I ' ve also been talking with my therapist to change the unhealthy behaviors I had . Luckily it was only 9 months into the relationship , and while I wouldn ' t say he was particularly controlling , he was hypocritical and had anger issues . Despite the signs of mental abuse , I didn ' t recognize it until after the relationship . We ' d been talking , as we ' d wanted to still remain friends , and it came up that he wanted government and public schools promoting Christianity . I politely disagreed with him , and did my best to remain respectful , but when I said that what he wanted was special treatment , he got very angry . He said that I was attacking his faith and saying that he didn ' t have the right to try and spread his beliefs , and said to not talk to him for a while . I ' d literally said nothing bad about Christianity and explicitly said I thought it was alright for people to try and share their beliefs in their personal lives , and that I didn ' t care if government or school officials were openly Christian , and I ' d said I didn ' t want government or public schools promoting any other belief either . So I was trying to clear up any misunderstandings and he was being snipey with me for this when I was trying to resolve things calmly . So I finally said What I meant was that I don ' t think government or public schools should promote any belief , and doing so is special treatment , whether it ' s Christian or not . I meant no disrespect to your faith in particular . I apologize it came across that way . and then he finally calmed down and apologized for getting so heated . A couple days later , I went to bring up with him that he had some problems with getting too angryjumping to conclusionetc , as there had been incidents during the relationship where he ' d done this . Again , I did my best to be polite and specified that I was not doing this out of anger or hatred . Apparently , he felt that his reaction to what he felt was my disrespect of his religion was justified . He was upset with me for randomly bringing up his flaws even though he ' d said when I was dating him that if I had an issue with someone , to bring it up with them . He asked me how he scared me , so when I brought up stuff that had happened in the relationship , his reaction was just we ' re not together anymore . Well , obviously , but I was showing how you scared me . He then tries to pin it on me holding grudges , even though , as I ' d said previously , I wasn ' t saying this out of anger or hatred . Then he tried changing the past on me , saying that one time when I ' d said he ' d gotten in my face , he said he didn ' t get in my face . The thing is , a different time , earlier when we were dating , he ' d claimed to not even remember what happened that incident at all . That was a different time when I ' d mentioned his issue with overreacting and he took it to mean that I thought I was always right . He also thought my saying that maybe he should try not let his anger get to him so much was me telling him not to be so emotional , and sarcastically said don ' t be so scared . don ' t be so emotional in response . The thing is though , he ' d literally said those things to me in the relationship . So anyways , after seeing his hypocrisy and lies , I thought back more on the relationship , and came to see that he ' d been mentally abusive to me , which my therapist confirmed when I talked to her about this . He would make me feel crazy , make fun of me , blame me for things he did , he ' d make me scared to tell him how I felt , and so on , especially his inability to handle acknowledging his problems . So now I ' m starting to recover and just not give a shit about him . Also , he started dating a new girl like 3 weeks after the breakup , after he ' d starting flirting with her about a week after at the latest . Not only that , but he tried to hide the fact that he was dating her from me . But the fact that he picked someone else to be with so soon after makes me think he never really cared about me but instead just having someone to worship his dick .