They come in pints ? <| sep |> Disclaimer childfree chick . It sounds like you ' ve been 100 % upfront on the same childfree page as each other the entire relationship up until now . As such , is isn ' t you who will have denied her a child ! If she has decided only at this age late 30 s to have a child , then really , it is she who has denied herself . This is pretty late in the biological game to make a life decision like that . She has not left herself much time , though it ' s not impossible if one ' s determined has $$$. This must be really painful for you , you ' ve spent 15 years building a life with this person they have just pulled the rug out from under you here . I think you also have a right to feel a bit betrayed too ! Has she said she is counting on you to change her mind ? Have you discussed how she plans to get pregnant raise a baby i . e is this child to be with you , or is she thinking sperm donor , adoption , find another bloke soon etc . She must understand this is a dealbreaker conversation , you can ' t have 12 a baby . You guys need to talk this out today decide how to proceed . Please talk to your wife hope you can reach a decision you ' re both at peace with , whatever that may be .