Shut . The , Fuck , Up . Warne . <| sep |> I don ' t agree . These roles allow you to mentorteach new teachers impacting more students on a much larger scale . As a former AP it does get disheartening dealing with the bad students daily . <| sep |> Seeing your post before bed , so I can ' t dedicate much time to answer all your questions with great detail . But I can relate a lot to this guy . It sounds like right now your mind is a whirlwind . His mind is probably more like a frozen lake . That ' s not to say it isn ' t burning deep down , but that part probably won ' t reach you until it ' s died down and he wants to express after the fact . Your concern is reasonable and not unwanted . But a whirlwind will have little effect over a frozen lake . Just be patient , keep showing your support , but try not to be overbearing . He ' s likely a little of both processing and depressed right now , but wants to and is capable of dealing with it on his own . Maybe that ' s not best but it ' s probably how he wants to handle it for now . He will thaw eventually . What you did was not objectively right or wrong and one could justify it either way . But it happened and now you have have to let it play out . You ' re on the right track . Smothering him probably won ' t actually hurt , but it ' s one more thing to worry about anxiety while he is sorting his feelings . That ' s just my perspective though . Do what feels right . My girlfriend often handles things . less than how I would prefer . But it ' s that difference in mindset that is one of the reasons I love her and why we work . Sometimes she does know best after all , despite me getting in my own way . Rarely has she made it worse , but that ' s happened as well . All in all , good luck .