This is so true . The MOST dangerous time in an abusive relationship is right AFTER the abused partner leaves . If someone tells you they are being abused , but fear for their kids , or that they stay because they ' re afraid she will kill them if they don ' t . believe them . The automatic advice is to just leave . But it is impossible to know if your abuser will be lazy and just forget about you and start fucking someone else best case scenario , or will go into a full psychopathicnarcissistic rage . If you know someone being abused , don ' t just tell them to leave . Ask what you can do to help them feel safe . Tell them you trust their gut instinct , and they should , too . Tell them you will be there for them no matter what they decide .