~~ 12 might be the greatest thing ever ~~ No , 20 might be the greatest thing ever <| sep |> Do you have a car ? <| sep |> Welcome to being loved and cared for I know it ' s weird , but I think you ' re just going to have to work on doing two things 1 . Trust it . Trust that it ' s real . Trust that they mean it . 2 . Be confident about your limits . This is hard , but it ' s perfectly ok to say Thank you , but no thank you . Be kind about it , be firm about it , be clear that you love that they ' re offering but that you ' re not in need right now . I ' m really sorry that you ' ve never really had anyone be kind and welcoming to you like this before . I ' m in a similar position , so I appreciate how weird it is to try and get used to it . But if you can bear in mind that there is nothing bad happening , that the situation is fine , and that it ' s perfectly ok for you to want what you want and to feel how you feel then you ' ll do just fine .