Don ' t wanna be INTJ anymore . I ' ve got really bad news for you you did not choose to be an INTJ , you are an INTJ . You don ' t choose to be gay nothing wrong with being gay , you just are . You may find some aspects of your personality changing a little over time , as in what your priorities are in life , but not by a whole lot . You ' re in the rarest personality type . I ' m borderline INTJ INTP I found out the day before yesterday . It ' s not going to change more than that . You ' re not going to become an E when you ' re a hard introvert . I ' m struggling with that myself . But what you can do for yourself is look at the big picture which is easy for you , don ' t paint yourself in a corner . You ' ll do spectacularly badly for yourself . You need to look around and go out into the world . ufinalmeme ' s assessment is not wrong , but harsher than it needs to be well , we ' re INTJ , what else is new . Try this love yourself enough to go out into the world , meet people that you find inspiring , introduce yourself and start a conversation . I can ' t talk to people , they ' re boring . You have to give people a chance to surprise you in a positive sense . Everybody has a story . You ' re going to like some stories , you ' re not going to like other stories . That ' s life , don ' t feel down because you ' re hearing two bad stories in a row . Keep putting yourself out there , keep being challenged . You want to start yesterday though . You ' re 24 already . Most people make their lifelong friends a few years before your age . And , just to give you that nice , warm ' fuck me harder ' feeling it doesn ' t get better with age . The longer you wait , the harder it gets . If you don ' t make your friends early in life , it ' s going to become very hard to make them when you ' re a bit older . Other than that don ' t expect people to accommodate you , be at least clean , halfwaydecently dressed , don ' t stink and don ' t start recounting your life since your first memory to the first young lady who agrees to have a cup of coffee with you . Your secret weapons are going to be modesty and moderation . Don ' t insist on being smarter than her even if you are , don ' t insist on talking nonstop it is extremely tiring , for you and for her . Let there be room for quiet delight you know what I mean . But make it happen . Here ' s a good one make a plan . See it as a particular challenge that requires a particular kind of plan to make it work . And use that plan . A good plan is when she kisses you out of the blue , you can tell yourself Well , it was a good plan , but now we ' re going to do something different . And go with that . Women like a confident man . They do . They ' re not really into arrogant men unless they ' re very rich . Don ' t assume your superior intellect is going to win the day for you . To ' win ' yourself you have to enable her to win first . If you do that with the right person , you ' ll do fine . Also forget anything in the way of ' perfection ' when it comes to relationships . Humans don ' t do perfection , if you get ' wow , this feels really good ', that ' s your cue . Really good is perfect . Too many words , but I ' m actually working on that same issue , I can empathise with your conundrum . Good luck .