I disagree . I think it ' s a good thing that he ' s going through this and expressing it here . If he weathers this barrage of emotions for this girl in his class and still feels for his fiance , then it ' ll be reaffirming that marriage is the right thing . However , if he cannot let go of these current feelings , then it ' s a sign that he just may not be ready for the commitment . That could potentially save some heartache for his fiance and him later , by understanding what is happening now . My recommendation would be to try and see if he can get into some type of counseling to help him through this . Being in a LDR makes it tough , then throw in the close proximity of a woman that sounds like he connects with in many ways . that ' s tough to deal with it ' s a swarm of confusing emotions . Talking it out with someone might help clear it up . Whatever the case , I hope the right solution is found for all parties involved and it ends up not being a solution filled with heartbreak and regret .