Funny that . Mathias Cormann is saying the exact opposite in The Australian . If there were only some way they could get their stories straight . <| sep |> My thoughts are twofold . Source have taken the delicate frlowers from two men , and have had lots and lots of good and bad sex with all sorts of people in between . 1 Have an explicit conversation beforehand about what you ' re going to do . Are you just going to kiss until he ' s hard , then put his dick in you ? Are you going to stroke him a little ? Are you going to have some oral sex ? What is offlimits ? Will he ejaculate inside you ? What should he say to you if he suddenly feels like he needs to stop ? Use the words penis and vagina and ejaculate . It ' s not very sexy , but forming a game plan and a plan B and an escape plan is something every couple should do the first time they bone . 2 Check in while you ' re doing it . If you make a new move say you planned this out , and you rub him along the length of your vagina before insertion do it slowly , make eye contact with him , and ask is this okay ? How are you doing ? And be prepared to stop at any moment for any reason . You ' re going to have a great time , and I ' m happy for you guys .