I ' m so sorry for what happened to your wife . I don ' t know what rules were in place in 1987 . Whatever they are , or were , they are inadequate and abhorrent . I do feel , however , that as exjw ' s we have to be factually correct in order to give Watchtower as little leverage as possible to criticize . The current ' Shepherd the Flock ' book for elders does allow a minor to be accompanied but , again , that ' s not to say they do . <| sep |> Caitlyn has got to be on top here . I haven ' t played against a Lucian in a while but I remember GB Luc bending me over game after game and not using lube on that lightslinger either . <| sep |> Suicide hotline . How can I convince people to go on living when I haven ' t convinced myself ?