Gravy Train just trynna link up <| sep |> Well you met Jess and Caylea . <| sep |> A girl will know if you ' re inexperienced without you having to actually tell them you ' re inexperienced . They will judge it by your body language and how you appear to be nervous when things escalate . She will know this even if you ' ve talked once . I ' m not going to pretend no girl is going to be turned off by inexperience . I ' m not going to tell you every girl is going to be intrigued by the idea of being your first . But some girls will . I can tell you that from my own experience and some girls saying the same . She probably doesn ' t even realize that she ' s turned off by inexperiencePossibly , but the point here is that you shouldn ' t take what they say at face value . If they said they didn ' t like how that guy kissed it probably has little to nothing to do with how that guy kissed . By extension , don ' t think that if you can ' t kiss properly it means they won ' t like you . It ' s a pretty clear red flag if nobody else has ever wanted to be with a guy . It ' s only a red flag if she has already decided that she doesn ' t like you . If she likes you she will actively make excuses for you . She will say that it ' s because you ' re just a little shy and need to be brought out of your shell , or because you focus too much on your career , or you just haven ' t found the right girl , or whatever she needs to say to reconcile the fact that the guy she ' s attracted to is a virgin . I think it ' s more of a way to say I ' m frustrated that I can ' t meet a guy I like without taking responsibility . I ' m not the problem , it ' s everyone else . A little column A , a little column B , but mostly the ego boosting thing . Again the point is not to take everything they say at face value , and to know that they aren ' t expressing their true feelings on the matter . That doesn ' t change the fact that they all live in this world where I ' m only an occasional visitor . True , but what are you going to do ?