But if we didn ' t want men to chase us , that would mean we ' re rejecting them because we actually don ' t want to date them . Inconceivable ! <| sep |> They don ' t really have a choice . Sure they do . If the people they are protecting are in Trump Tower they have to also be in Trump Tower . They need agents in Trump Tower , they don ' t need to live and operate out of Trump Tower . <| sep |> That is spectacular to hear ! Thank you for sharing and congratulations ! <| sep |> Doing this will jam the paneling and cause seasonal cracking . <| sep |> Well he was the OC of an Ohio State team that beat Alabama in the playoff a couple years ago . <| sep |> Teething forever , please , no . <| sep |> The problem is , you are hearing these commentsattempts at contact from a normative perspective a loving person reaching out to a lost loved one , with the intent of expressing caring . That is not what your wife is experiencing and you would do well not to try to talk her away from her perspective because all you would be showing your wife is that you really don ' t get it and she can ' t rely on you for unconditional support . Do you believe your wife ' s truth about her Nfamily ? Do you think she ' s overexaggerating ? Have you really seen the damage she has endured at the hands of her Nfamily ? If your wife had escaped from a kidnapper and told you she never wants to be near them again and that she never wants to see them again , would you think her kidnapper , trying to contact her , was just trying to be friends ? Would you expect her to accept the kidnapper ' s friendly overtures ? If you finally convinced your wife that the kidnapper wasn ' t reaaalllly that bad and she should let bygones be bygones . would you still want to put your children in the same room as the person who did so much harm to your wife ? Why would you think they ' d be any different with kids ? They would actually be worse because kids are reliant on the adults to do the right thing by them . Why would you trust your children with someone who already has a lengthy history of abusing your wife ? If you really want to help your wife and your kids , you need to stop thinking that breaking boundaries that your wife has set isn ' t that bad and is coming from a normal motivation . It is not and your wife is 100 % right to feel frustrated and angry with the repeated breaches of her boundaries . They are telling her yeah , we don ' t actually care what you want , we ' re doing it anyway . How would you feel if your coworker kept leaving inappropriate love notes in your desk each day and bringing home baked muffins and leaving them in your locker . You ' re married . You aren ' t interested . You don ' t think work relationships are appropriate . You ' ve told your coworker this but they take no notice and keep leaving the notes and muffins . You start to get really disturbed by this because it is unasked for and unwanted . You try talking to a few coworkers . They say Huh ! Wish someone would care enough about me to do that or What ' s the problem ? It ' s not like they ' re trying to have sex with you in the printer room ! . And you realise these people don ' t see the intent behind these gifts and the pathological arrogance behind them I want to do this and you won ' t stop me ! ! I will keep doing this until you accept them ! ! What do you do ? Do you see your wife ' s position now ?