Now this is important , he told me If you have a problem with me or something I say tell me and I will stop . Oh yes ? Forgive my skepticism when someone says this . and she lied to my faceThis says it right here . She was raised that way and that is how her country Korea works . Oh FFS ! I told her that she has been in America longer than she was in Korea , and she said that didn ' t matter . ExcellentAt one point my mother got so fed up that she stood up , yelled that she needed to go . She tore off her jacket and stormed out of the house . My dad blamed me for upsetting her . If this doesn ' t scream setup from your parents , I would think she might need to see a professional . but he tells me I am going to insult you because you hurt me . Well that didn ' t last long . At this point I knew I was done . I told my husband we had to leave . My parents yelled at me to stay , to sit back down but I continued to walk out . Excellent . I know I did a lot wrong . As soon as the yelling started I should have left . As soon as the guilt trips started I should have left . When my mom lied to me I should have left . With these kinds of meetings , you gather information as much as you provide it . It is better to at least see where your parents are coming from and how far they will go . You now know they will lie , guilt trip , and demand respect over all your emotions and boundaries , so don ' t think of it as wrong . Forewarned is forearmed . But at least I left when my dad blatantly disrespected me and insulted me . Perfect time to leave . I did cry at points when we were talkingI was getting yelled at but at least I didn ' t crumble and submit to them . A considerable victory ! Honestly , I am very sad . I guess I was naive , No its called common empathy that every relationship has give and take . Its a bit soul crushing when you discover this is not the case . All of us here have been there . And , the icing in the cake , I know my in laws especially my MIL do not like our decision . They have the same mindset about just dealing with family because FAMILY and I think it scares them that we are going against that idea . Absolutely . They have come to the realization that they can ' t do what your parents are doing either . Good luck and enjoy your thanksgiving .