OP , maybe your BF is a cheaty scumbag . Or maybe he ' s just a flakey dude with stacks of female friends who he hangs out with and chats to on the reg . You don ' t have to be OK with that . And he doesn ' t have to change to suit you . What is or isn ' t a dealbreaker is VERY different for different people . Do you want to put up with this ? Are you comfortable with all these female friends ? It sounds like the answer is no . In which case , it sounds like he isn ' t the guy for you . You keep talking about how sketchy he seems , do you want to spend your whole life wondering if he ' s banging other chicks ? Even if he ' s NOT , it ' s no way to live . This will continue to happen until he either breaks up with you for being on his case all the time , or you ' ll find out he is cheating , and he ' ll probably tell you it ' s your fault and you drove him to do it because you didn ' t trust him . I don ' t think there ' s a happy ending for you here mate , my advice is to move on .