WHO ' S THAT POKEMON ? <| sep |> we all know that YOU ' RE the culprit OP <| sep |> No problem , you had the best intentions 3 Your analogy totally makes sense for people who really are trying , it ' s just from personal experience soemtimes people say they feel one way then act in a way that completely contradicts their words . Example , even though my family is super duper liberal , I am told We love you , we accept you no matter what etc . Then theyll say things like they don ' t want another lesbian in the family , or that lesbian relationships are unhealthy including mine , or insist my girlfriend is just a FWB thing and invalidate our relationship . I tell them what they ' re saying is ignorant and try to correct them , but they just don ' t care . People have to have a will and be wanting to understand . Usually when people have that will they usually understand pretty damn quick actually ! There totally are well meaning people that unknowingly say or do offensive things that would like to be taught different . I know as a white person that ' s how I feel when it comes to racial issues I wanna know if I do anything hurtful so I can understand and empathize better . Sadly these days empathy is just not valued at all . So for waht it ' s worth I appreciate you trying to spread a little empathy around