Like , in the past I would just go down on him for fun even if he was tired . I don ' t do that anymore because it ' s just not fucking fair . Agree . Any questions ? If not , leave this idiot . You ' ll be thankful to yourself . We also got into a huge argument over the book She comes first because his immediate reaction was , Why can ' t he come first ? Fuck I was so mad . He said he understood where I was coming from but still won ' t read the fucking book . He says he wants to read it , but he hasn ' t . This textbook enforcement of equality in the bedroom is toxic . Women take more time to reach the peak . Some call it unfair , I call it a joyride . But that man of yours is absofuckinglutely not in a situation to bring this shit up . So don ' t blame yourself . The onus for this situation is clearly on him . Move on with your life and waste no more time on him .