lol I just saw the video on the front page . <| sep |> The way you are going about this is very well and your reasoning for not wanting to being the guy she left for is justifiable . Here are some notes I like to give you . Are there things you can do ? Just like you said you don ' t want to be the reason for the break up . Well you can ' t be simple as that , it is not like you went up to the guy and said it for her . She is the one that must have the strength to do that . Then it is not wrong to help her in the journey , give her questions to ask herself . She is wanting answers , well before answers you must have questions . What does she mean by no one else ? If the boyfriend was cheating , then how much respect or loyalty for her does he really have ? Why would he threaten his own life ? Is this even a healthy relationship to be in ? Does the boyfriend help her to pursue her own goals in life ? Does she see him 10 years down the road ? Or 20 ? Or 50 ? Ask her what she even thinks about dating ? I may be rambling but when you ' re date someone cause you like them . Well you having interest in that person . That later would turn into love , and you ' ll being invested with time , money , and other characteristics . Then one day there will come a time that you would say I can ' t be without this person . Again I may be rambling and don ' t take my advice by heart but I hope I opened a thought in your mind . Also don ' t stress about THERE relationship , all you can do is give advice and hope for the best .