Success is getting what you want ; happiness is wanting what you get . - Dale Carnegie - - - - - - - - - - - - - - ------------------------- Dale Breckenridge Carnegie BornNovember 24 , 1888 ( 1888 - 11 - 24 ) Maryville , Missouri 1 DiedNovember 1 , 1955 ( 1955 - 11 - 01 ) ( aged 66 ) Forest Hills , New YorkOccupationWriter , lecturerNotable work ( s ) How to Win Friends and Influence People ( originally Carnagey until 1922 and possibly somewhat later ) ( November 24 , 1888 – November 1 , 1955 ) was an American writer and lecturer and the developer of famous courses in self - improvement , salesmanship , corporate training , public speaking and interpersonal skills . Born in poverty on a farm in Missouri , he was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People , first published in 1936 , a massive bestseller that remains popular today . He also wrote How to Stop Worrying and Start Living , a biography of Abraham Lincoln entitled Lincoln the Unknown , and several other books . One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people ' s behavior by changing one ' s reaction to them . From Wikipedia , the free encyclopedia - - - - - - - - - - - - - - ------------------------- 내 가 원 하 는 건 사랑 하 는 나 의 가족 , 친구 들 , 지인 들 이 주 는 이 행복 을 평생 동안 지켜 나가 는 거 야 성공 을 향해 평생 을 노력 해야 겠 는 걸 ~*