It ' s no problem . It ' s nice to feel like someone gets it . You get people saying they know how you feel all the time but they really don ' t until they ' ve been through losing their dad . I don ' t recall posting a cat picture , but I have two of those and three dogs so I could have a long time ago lol <| sep |> My god they come out with new patches often , don ' t they ? <| sep |> My thoughts are with you on this journey . You do not sound like a massive loser . You sound like someone with a kind heart . As hard as it is to do the best thing you can do is step back and not enable your brother . Do not give him any support unless he makes positive steps on his own . This will be painful for you but is best for him . Now go do something you enjoy and make it all about you ! You and you parents have earned it .