There is an epic political struggle in Kurdish society going on in Turkey , Syria and Iraq between progressive forces and regressive forces . For now , in SyriaRojava the progressive forces hold power and dominate the agenda . In Turkey , the state arms the regressive forces and jails the progressives , while we speak . In Iraqi Kurdistan , regressives hold the power but are under progressive pressure . mec . org 20150817 k u r d i s t a n s p o l i t i c i z e d s o c i e t y c o n f r o n tssultanisticsystemietaIn my view , we should give utmost support to the progressive forces , and shun the regressives . This does in particular mean confronting Turkey over its misguided approach . <| sep |> As everyone has said , you are under no obligation and it doesn ' t have to be rude . However , I think this might be an occasion where a little white lie is warranted to spare her feelings , especially if it ' s someone you won ' t see again . I would make it more about you having reconsidered the concept of FWB for yourself , saying that it ' s nothing personal about her even if that ' s not exactly true , there ' s no reason to crush her confidence just because you two didn ' t have the chemistryexperience you hoped for . There are lots of reasons people don ' t feel FWB would work for them they ' re concerned about developing feelings , they want to focus on variety , etc . It sounds like you ' re a good guy who wants to respect her feelings while ALSO recognising your own needs , which is 100 % a positive thing but it also seems like the situation the kind little white lie was made for .