My exhusband was there , so it wasn ' t really a topic of conversation . <| sep |> It ' s not just personal experience , it ' s having read up on or analyzed polymory . I ' m just saying it should be requirement if youre seeking council , not just for a venting session . Yes , you can have general conversations with anyone . <| sep |> As a black womxn , I ' ve imagined the scene many times before something similar to Russell Crowe in the Academy Awardwinning film , Gladiator , as he wanders through a wheat field running his hands through his ripe , golden crop at a slightlyslower film speed and backdropped by beautiful grading that really makes the clouds ' pop '. There ' s a bit of the HBO series , The Leftovers , in there as well where people just vanish , but not boring as shit as that was with too many weirdos in monochromatic clothing . Except , in the movie in my head , I ' d be running my fingers through long weeds in the gardens of boardedup Constantia villas , choosing the one that best suits my nail polish or whatever . I can see my ancestors roasting marshmallows next to the peagreen coloured pool . I ' ll need to get someone in to sort that out . Inside the empty houses , whole families , who missed their flights back to Europe because traffic was so bad on the bloody N 2 , have considerately allowed themselves to pass on to the next life , giving up their homes up to the rightful owners , by forcefeeding their children and grannies a mixture of overpriced pet food and bank statements that has expanded and burst within their little white bellies . Not sure what to do with them yet but they stink and can ' t hang around my new living room .