If it was just a preference then you would see a normal distribution pattern for it . Normal distribution is not what you mean , but I get your point . A preference is like hair color . No one dates or does not date over a single preference . That ' s a weak preference . A strong preference would be I don ' t date fat chicks , and those can definetely be red flags on their own . Am I now discriminating against fat women because I won ' t date them ? That ' s a better example than homosexuality , tbh . Being ethnic or ethnic looking automatically puts a man in the bottom 80 % of attractiveness according to studies done on female dating choices . Other people rant about women hating white males and leaving them for ethnic people . Who should I believe now ? This is not true of men . Men are willing to date women of any colours . I ' m pretty sure that at least in areas where most people are white that ' s not the case , or that being ethnic would at least cost a woman 3 points on most men ' s scales . Feel free to disprove with stats from a mostly white background . And again , nothing wrong with that . Women of colour aren ' t entitl 3 d to sex either . homosexuality is an orientation not a preference . Yeah , I know the difference , just couldn ' t think of a different example so I used that . My bad . Don ' t think that homosexuality is a choice either , even though a gay aquaintance of mine said so . Don ' t really believe him .