I have a bad selfesteem as well . I have a nice self studytherapy book , one exercise is to keep daily track of all good things you do . You have to be very easy with that . Could be today I brushed my teeth . Or I didn ' t buy that chocolate bar , or I made a healthy meal today , or said hello to someone . You have to write them down during the day . Take it easy ! it takes time to fix it . If you ' re Dutch I can look up the title of the book . Maybe it is in english as well but you have to remind me on that <| sep |> Don ' t quote me on this but I think this post might be run by bots . <| sep |> So then start going for long term instead of short ? <| sep |> It ' s damned cold tonight . Hurry up and let ' s see what you ' re made of .