If you need some time away or alone , just do it . play busy , have no time . they ' ll give up . they ' ll also be happy when you become available again . you don ' t have to meet if you ' re not in the right mood . ppl get that . if you need new friends , make new friends . it feels good sometimes . it ' s refreshing . What i mean is that it can be made softly and does not have to be a total reset but rather a partial migration . Regarding you being a destructive person , you can ' t run away from yourself . you must forgive yourself and try to behave in a way that is more aligned with your values . Maybe have you been in destructive relationships without you being the bad guy ? cut those specific contacts loose , not everyone in your life . Basically , it has to aim at growth and not escape .