The staff I ' d paid low wages to keep prices low to get more people in the door . So , yes , it sort of is the fault of the customer . At least partially . <| sep |> I have labyrinth and slipstream . <| sep |> A small cafe near my office . I change up my order just enough to keep them guessing <| sep |> yeah this comment made me look at your profile , definitely a troll <| sep |> Cutting and running altogether might be jumping the gun , but I think you need to reassess your expectations for this relationship . There are kids involved and you ' ve only been with him for 8 months . of course he ' s prioritizing his kids and by extension , his relationship with their mother first . Maybe in time if your relationship becomes more serious he ' ll be willing to risk conflict in order to include you , but 8 months together isn ' t really very much when you ' re 40 . Maybe back off a little and give him space .