Happy Thanksgiving ! not a dye <| sep |> Thank you , and you ' re welcome It was a story that I ' ve been meaning to tell but never quite got around to doing . Once I started seeing more posts about bad trips I kinda decided to throw it out there to show that even if things don ' t go as planned in the moment things will turn out for the best overall <| sep |> I get agitated when he wants to talk about something privately , because I know that I ' m not going to agree with what he ' s saying but without Advance warning on the topic I don ' t I don ' t have a way to be prepared . I really don ' t like situations I have no script for . My friends understand this , so when they do want to talk to me about something I ' ve done that was a problem , they let me know about it in advance . They say something like hey you did this thing and I ' d like to talk about that later . They give me time to be ready . Thinking about this makes me realize all over again how great my friends are . I realized recently that all my problems with my boss are the ways he reminds me of my mother . He seems to gas light but honestly he just has that horrendous memory . He uses other people to be the bad guy . He reads neutral things as negative almost every time . I ' m trying to learn to separate him from my mom so that I don ' t get incredibly defensive when he does these things . I ' m also trying to learn to not be incredibly defensive with my mother .