I think the line is a lot more grey than you are allowing for . What if they are responding to everything you are doing with passionate physical reciprocation ? Do you still need to stop and get verbal consent ? No . Ok , what if they are somewhat less passionate but still seem to like it ? Now what if they are slightly further down the scale ? The point is that there is no bright clear line that you can draw to define affirmative consent . So the party that goes along with it but secretly didn ' t want to has to bear some responsibility . <| sep |> Nie zdziwilbym sie jakby takie wlasnie farmy trolli tutaj operowalyA ja bym si bardzo zdziwi nie mamy wikszego znaczenia , nie opaca si . <| sep |> When player leaves early or comes late , his PC is there for equipment purposes only . This means that if rest of the party needs anything specific that this PC is carrying , it is at their disposal up to good taste so they don ' t get to eat all his rations etc . They have no access to his abilities , skills , spells or knowledge , he doesn ' t participate in combat or conversations and does not gain XP . I don ' t invent any excuse for the absence , it ' s mutually acknowledged that he ' s around even though he ' s not quite there and fall to slumber wakes from it when player leavesarrives . Don ' t make problems where there are none . One note on those who DMPC them . When I play , I absolutely refuse to let anyone else to play my character . It is mine and mine alone so DMPC is not an option that I want to use when I DM .