STFU FilthyFrank <| sep |> You might be missing the main point of Stoicism , which is that what we have control over are our beliefs and judgments only . At least to me , situation can imply something external to oneself . For example , your situation might be that you missed your train and now must wait an hour for the next one . Stoicism does not suggest you do anything with those facts . After all , you can ' t control how often the trains run . What you can control is your reaction to missing your train . To use your situation , you live a good distance from work . Although it might feel as though moving there was under your control , it wasn ' t . After all , the house could ' ve been destroyed before you had a chance to buy it , or someone else could have outbid you , or the owners could have decided not to sell . What is under your control is the judgment This is too long of a commute . You could just as well say This is an enjoyable time to decompress from work . That ' s the point of Stoicism .