Conversely , don ' t hold a door open , ignore and look annoyed , ask a homeless person how they ' re doing no need to change this as it will most likely anger them anyway , leave no tip , flip someone off in traffic , hit on the lady with the screaming kid in the store , the list goes on . These things cost you nothing and might make an otherwise good day a little bit worse for someone else . It may seem like a silly tip , but I think a lot of us take for granted just how much fun it can be to spread misery around . I know I do . <| sep |> Where I think you went wrong is assuming this is literally what everyone wishes to be . There are bad people out there . There are alot of people who could care less and plenty more who actively do bad . When you meet enough people on both sides you really begin to see your own place in the spectrum . John came from a different time and place than us and I ' m he encountered his fair share of folks who weren ' t quite aiming for good .