He didn ' t silence anyoneReally ? He allowed people to talk but he decided what they said . That is silencing people . <| sep |> Also there ' s a chance one of my friends will see this and know who I am , if you do , add me back into the group chat so we can talk about it , please . Can you not contact your friends outside of this group chat ? Seems odd . Also , unfortunately OP , since you did not make a direct move but your friend did , unfortunately shit like that may occur . Best thing I could say is move on , learn from this and be more direct if you have feelings for someone . Also if your friends didn ' t know you had feelings for her , I wouldn ' t be upset at them . <| sep |> It ' s not evidence , it ' s a lecture , at an esteemed university , about this very topic . What ' s your obsession with being a condescending dick ?