I was the same way . I now have two . 3 12 yr old and 10 month old . They definitely change your life but it ' s for the best . I always put them first . There ' s no reason not to . They are so innocent and need you . Talk to them . Read to them . Play with them . It ' s amazing how fast they grow , how fast they learn , and how quick time flies by . Cherish it all . If you ' re scared , that ' s great , bc it shows that you care . Just love them and they ' ll love you back . My advice to you are these three things . 1 take pics but more importantly take videos . Videos allow you to hear and see the action . 2 always put a second diaper under the one you ' re changing . 3 don ' t lose your temper or patience . There ' s no reason . What ' s it going to help if you do ? Just be calm and everything will be ok . Oh and 4 Just breathe . Congrats and welcome to the club .