Submarine SO here . My SO was deployed last year and from the day his sub left to the day they pulled into a port two months later , I didn ' t hear from him at all . No emails . No phone calls can ' t do that on a sub no text messages . Nothing . Then he was in port for a couple of days and right back out they went for another month . That time around I got emails . Essentially within the 6 months he was gone , I got maybe a month worth of communication . First couple of months were really rough and we were both at each other ' s throats . He didn ' t feel it necessary to make me his number 1 priority and I was constantly pissed at him for not contacting me as soon as he could . We made it through and I ended up moving into his place while he was gone on the deployment . Now we live together .