Sounds right to me <| sep |> Don ' t worry , we ' re getting walled again . <| sep |> Uh no you are borderline sexist because you can ' t seem to realize that men can have long lastings effects from abusive relationship just like women can . Amber ' s past abusive behavior doesn ' t absolve Gary of responsibility for his present day actions , but they do explain them . Acting like Gary has no reason to hold resentment towards Amber and worry about his child when she is around the woman who abused both of them is just foolish . Like I ' ve said Gary is far from perfect , but portraying Amber as a victim when she abused him and their child is wrong on so many levels . The things Amber did to him were truly terrible and it pisses me off when people like you try to act like it doesn ' t matter since he was passive aggressive manipulative towards her and it happened years ago . Idk about you , but I would much rather have a partner who is manipulative rather than someone who beats me and degrades me as a person on a daily basis .