keep this up here please . <| sep |> This might be the second <| sep |> Terrence Williams TD <| sep |> I think the main thing is to start taking care of yourself . People usually take this to mean bubble baths and stuff , but I mean really take care of yourself , even from yourself . So stop blaming yourself or thinking negative thoughts about yourself . It also means stop letting your mind dwell on that person or what you have lost in that relationship . Our minds enjoy doing this a lot , so it ' ll entail actively training your mind to not do something it really enjoys . Easier said than done , I know . . . Focusing on self improvement will help keep your mind away from the dark places . So find a new hobby , preferably one that involves a whole new set of people . I know that as introverts , we prefer not to be around people , but at times like these , I think we need the social company of people who are not connected to the person you had to let go of . If you ' re in school , join a new club with a group of people you wouldn ' t normally talk to or if you ' re out of school , try a cooking class or a random dance class or something . Crafts usually help a lot , too , I believe there is science that suggests that crafting somehow rewires the brain after trauma knitting always leaves me feeling really calm and content . In my opinion , the best thing you can do for yourself right now is start working out or work out more or find a new activity . Set actual fitness goals for yourself , this is more about showing up than about being good at it . So , sign up for a 10 k , if you ' ve never ran before and spend weeks training for it daily . This will give you sense of purpose outside of that person and will leave you feeling so accomplished . And all the endorphins and stuff that comes from exercising will leave you feeling great on a daily basis . I would also suggest taking a social media break , to avoid scrolling through old pictures and things that remind you of that person , but mostly because I feel like when we ' re down about someone something , social media lets us live in the past or in other peoples ' lives instead of in our own present , which is necessary for letting go of someone . That brings me to my next suggestion , which is to start meditating . You can find an app like Headspace or youtube videos and put in 10 minutes a day or so to help ground you and keep you living in your present reality instead of in your head . The only other thing I can think of right now is to do stuff to take care of others . Volunteer or show your friends more kindness than usual or do something kind for random strangers just to be kind . The more kindness we show , the better we feel , even if they don ' t show appreciation . Or if you ' re not ready for people , you can walk dogs at the local animal shelter this was one of the best decisions I ever made . Or if you ' re not an animal person , get a plant to take care of so that you have something to nurture , besides memories of that person . . . Other than that , it sort of just takes time . I don ' t how to fall out of love , I have only ever learned to live with the feeling and move on . Also , you may not be able to track your progress immediately it ' s a gradual thing like the seasons changing . There will be really cold days and then some sunny days and then more cold days and then some sunny days , until spring finally sets in fully . Don ' t give up , you ' ll get there in due time Sorry for rambling , hope there was something useful somewhere in there haha