HahahahahHa McAfee is our new QB <| sep |> It ' s not abnormal at all , that user is projecting some personal issues onto the grieving process . Nobody goes from seeing someone they care about to creepily harassing a corpse except necrophiles and even then necrophiles probably still grieve normally . <| sep |> The articles I read were between 2 and 3 weeks old . <| sep |> PROMOTE THAT MAN TO QB 1 <| sep |> I really just want a 3 rd monitor for browsingvideo game purposes . but I doubt I ' m going to buy one or receive one . as I ' m encouraging my family to not buy me anything this holiday season . fluttergift <| sep |> I FUCKING LOVE YOU PAT <| sep |> You ' re right . It ' s a common reflection shared here . Nobody cares about the journey . they just care about the end product . Nobody cares about the preparation of the dish . they only want the food . People might think you ' re strong , smart , successful , whatever but the second you start going on about your little Greek Tragedy in getting there they lose admiration . It ' s argued that women do not like to see weakness in men . If you tell them about your weak moments and struggles in achieving whatever that woman said she admires then there ' s a chance that you ' ve negated her admiration by associating yourself with weakness in explaining what it took . If she asks how you got there sum it up with one word or combos of words like discipline , dedication , persistence , etc . Words that may convey the struggle when you read between the lines . Do that and let them leave it up to their imagination . That ' s probably the best strategy . She ' ll probably think of you as a fucking savage that did what he had to do to get it done . Not a guy that may have struggled , had moments of doubt , or perhaps even cried or went into a furious rage to the point that they wanted to quit and forget it all . I always kinda hated that saying nobody is perfect . It ' s true but there ' s still moments of excellence in the world that go on for years when people are really the best at what they do . There ' s a difference between being consistent in the things you do with ease like what you ' re describing and then there ' s pure excellence . Both take practice . Both take a journey . Both take dedication . Both take sacrifice . But I think what sets apart the good confident consistent person and the person capable of pure excellence is madness . obsession . and pure relentlessness . Personal example was when I ended a 6 year relationship after graduating college . I was broke , still living with my parents , and knew the endgame hypergamy before I knew that term or what TRP was about . I lost almost all my friends . Made new ones but I was pretty much outcast from the old group . Of course I ' d see pictures online of my old friends hanging out with my ex . Even though I had a college degree . I just couldn ' t find a job doing the same thing as my post graduation internship advertising . Eventually , I decided to do landscaping . Manual labor . Wasn ' t bad but it was hard . Some of the more solid friends that stayed around during this time would tell me when they ran across my ex . She asked about you . Told her what you were up to and she was like LANDSCAPING ? ?? all surprised . When you ' re in a dark place you tend to take things the wrong way and assume the worst so I took it as her making fun of me and looking down on me . Then the day came when I finally got a real job where I could use my degree . I felt like I had shit to prove so I went all in 100 %. Won top performer in my training class . After training the only thing I could think of was kicking ass and taking names . Being the best . Which I became . quickly ranked number one against everyone for performance , metrics , all that . Then the day came when I saw a picture on Facebook . It was my ex ' s new boyfriend . Which . by the way . was a guy who had basically gotten hired and graduated training the same time I did at the exact same company . Thing is that he was basically an authority level above me getting twice the pay . It was a service center so think of it as I ' m the guy taking the call , getting the facts , and doing all this stuff until a transaction needs to be made that is outside my authority . Then I transfer the call and deliver the info to people like my ex ' s new boyfriend who give the green or red light on if the transaction can be made . What ' s funny is that I had no clue they were dating when I was getting top performer awards and high ranks in this intensely driven shit to prove mindset . No clue who the guy was . I even introduced myself to him at a local bar once before I found out they were dating . Typical hey bro we work together wassup type of intro . I ' d try and be friendly in the halls and he ' d act all cold . Just thought eh probably just a prick and got back to the grind . But , once I saw that picture and realized what was up I basically took it to another level . I would show up early and read the same training manuals that he had to while in training . I ' d go home and research the industry , nuts and bolts , everything about it . Then I ' d start to break down our processes , software , and do things like troubleshooting initiatives , process improvements , training people so they could get on my level and basically all this other shit completely beyond my job title . Got to the point where they ' d send executives from home office just to sit with me , talk , see what I do . Then they started sending me on business trips to fix problems and all this other stuff aimed at improving the organization . There were moments of awkward exchanges between us . All in all I just kept the attitude of I run this bitch not you juxtaposed with my natural humor and cool head that makes me a pretty likable person . Not that I was a rock star but more like respect from people recognizing what I was trying to do so that our call center would beat out the other call centers and be # 1 . Eventually he left . but what I ' m getting at is that I was on another level that I ' ve never been on before . It wasn ' t spite . It wasn ' t to be better or more superior than him . It was pretty much a sense of madness to become known as this fucking madman grinding genius beast that ' s probably gonna run the entire company one day . Long story short . what I ' m getting at is that I really think achieving pure excellence compared to getting out of one ' s comfort zone and becoming consistent at things requires a sense of madness . Love sports so this pretty much sums it upjAzMlbl 3 Eqw