It was never a date rape song . Our ridiculous outrage culture just had to find something to be outraged at that wasn ' t there . <| sep |> How do we differentiate between a series of very fortunate events among way too many examples of people being shot and a miracle ? when things that should be physically impossible happen <| sep |> Im sorry you have to deal with that . I wouldn ' t say that you should completely cut them out of your life just not spend your time and money shopping for them . You can still greet them warmly at holidays and spend time with them as a family member . If they ask why there is no present , you could say well , I didn ' t think that you liked my presents so I just decided to come see you instead . In any case , I hope you have a good holiday .