Electric car record <| sep |> Insert tab A into slot B <| sep |> yes , you are right , it actually ruined the whole movie for me . Imagine a guys saying oh , by the way , I have a genetic condition that means all of our kids will suffer and die before they could reach 18 . I needed to make some very hard moral decisions about reproduction , but I was a gentleman and I chose not to bother you with the weight of that decision , so I just took care of it myself and left you in the dark . Have fun raising them ! It ' s awful , but I guess the mystic aura of motherhood was just supposed to make it all right . The freedom to reproduce is a human right , but intentionally creating a brand new human being just so it can be cute while it suffers and gradually loses all its hopes for even reaching adulthood is incredibly selfish , even with a partner who gave informed consent . Now in the movie she might supposedly know that the girl thought her life was still worth it , but how well can one know these things about a different human being anyway ? The movie make us feel as if choosing to not have that kid would have been equivalent with killing an existing one , but by this logic every missed opportunity to reproduce were just as monstruous anyone not spending their life with reproducing like a rabbit is pseudokilling alternativetimeline kids , too . Why didn ' t she have another five kids after the one with cancer ? Are choices possible in this universe or not ? It doesn ' t make much sense . also , the it can ' t be changed because Time theories don ' t hold . If all points in time are equal , then either noone could ever make any decisions , or we could be just as free all the time . The heptapods knew they will need help in the future , so they came and made an investment in humanity . The future has no problems influencing the present in the case of the chinese general , too . People ' s decisions matter , in this movie , so talking openly would have been just as possible as any of the other decisions everybody made . If only the past were allowed to affect the future , then all the aliens would have been killed by humanity . If there is no rule preserving the timedirection of causality , then informing the guy would have been perfectly possible . also , if the magic power of transcending time would have been really caused by learning the writing , then the guy would have been able to do it too he participated in the whole process along with her , but I guess it would have upset their lazy subtext of manly science vs womanly e m o t ionintuitioncommunication as if linguistics weren ' t a science , so here we are . As a woman who is good at unemotional mathematics dear movie , telling me that my feminine irrationality is actually superior to men ' s logic won ' t make me like your essentialist discourse any better .