but I also work full time and go to school full timeAha , I see the issue now you ' re young and idealistic , and unfamiliar with the real world . You want what YOU want , and you think your partner should want that , too and you ' re confused that he wants something else . and if it ' s about cumming , they can masterbate , as woman can as well . Hang around a while and keep reading , and you will see that most LL partners strongly object to their partners masturbating , considering it disrespectful and embarrassing . Because masturbation is to some minds , absolute proof that the LL partner isn ' t taking care of her partner . The REAL insult is when the LL partner is masturbating while the HL partner is completely ignored .