Welp . I guess I ' m a teenage girl <| sep |> What message was there ? Or are you talking about the being kicked back to supremes main page <| sep |> I normally come a little early and help finish the cooking while my SiL sets the table at my inlaws . I ' m normally in charge of packing the leftovers into containers and then I take over drying for whoever is washing the dishes normally BiL , Husband or SiL once that ' s done . I ' m super close with my mom so we just kind of do everything together to get ready for a big dinner and clean . Even for a normal meal I always just hung back and helped , or I would at least stay for company if it was a one person cleanup job . My sister was never in the kitchen before or after she ate , she wouldn ' t even help set the table . Her husband is the worst I don ' t think I ' ve ever seen him be helpful , he just eats everything and leaves . At my house it ' s I cook you clean 95 % of the time . My husband is a vegetarian so when I cook meat I do those dishes myself . It ' s not hard to have basic respect for people .