You are implying that animal rights are the only reason people are vegetarian . <| sep |> Can someone give me some thought out advice to tell Jerry tomorrow ? I need something substantial that will make him consider Yeah honey , you ' re right , I will try and help you out a little more . Both of us are on our own roads it seems . Guess what ? I ' ll probably end up doing all of this stuff by myself because I care about our guests , and I love my husband . I just wish I had some help . Why should Jerry help you ? If he refuses to lift a finger you ' ll do exactly what he wants . You teach people how to treat you . And you are teaching your husband to treat you like crap . He actually got angry at you for not being willing to play caterer to his friends and his cousins he invited over ? Here is what I would suggest . You make the dinner for the couple tonight that are your close friends too . Then , you completely leave providing food for his cousins and his college friend to him . Just because you love a man doesn ' t mean you have to be his Mommy because poor little toddler can ' t have friends over without your help making snacks . I literally know multiple elementary school students who can handle providing snacks for their guests or even making simple meals like burgers or sandwiches for their guests . Btw , these are boys . If he wants snacks for the game he can buy or make them . Wtf ? ??? For his college friends , he can either cook himself , eat out , or order pizza or something . He will not agree to this . He may whine , argue , or try to guilt you don ' t feel bad ! . Here ' s the thing you don ' t need your husband ' s permission not to do work he created for you . Just don ' t do it . Making Thanksgiving and dinner tonight is more then half the work anyway . The Saturday and Sunday guests of his are his less then half the work . He can do it or not , but you won ' t . If you are feeling extra kind , do tonight ' s dishes for him . If you think you will be tempted to do things for him if you see them not getting done , go to the party . Warn him in advance . Ignore tantrums .