Be a good listener . Become genuinely interested in what others have to say . When people realize you are truly listening to what they are saying without judgement , then they will reveal their best to you . That being said there will always be people who are just negative . If you are willing to look at another person ' s behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person , then you will , over a period of time cease to react at all . Yogi Bhajan <| sep |> Promoted to what ? ??<| sep |> I thought I was on the wrong Sub for a sec . <| sep |>~~ The problem with condi mesmer is that it relies on confusion and torment , which requires mobs to attack and move for those condis to do most of their damage . Mobs tend to attack at a slow rate , so confusion doesn ' t do a whole lot of damage . It ' s more useful on bosses but even then , some bosses have really low attack rates . ~~~~ I think they use condi mes on Matt because staff can clear ice patches with burns and that they use power chrono on everything else . ~~~~ Your main job as a chronomancer is to provide quickness and alacrity . If you don ' t do that , you might as well bring a class that does actual DPS . ~~ Edit , 9 days later I happily swallow most of my words . I stole the condi gear from my necro and tested it in fractals . While I wouldn ' t recommend it for thrash mobs , it is good for bosses . lvl 97 thaumanova was a breeze . So what I do is that I run with a normal power chrono for the thrash , because focus pulls and CC are incredibly useful . Then I switch to condi for bosses . It is still lower DPS than other classes , and might result in lower overall party DPS , but on it ' s own , it ' s good enough to use on bosses .