You just tell them . That ' s all there is to it . There ' s no other way around it , there ' s no magic words , you just sit them down and say Hey , I have something important to say . Then you , as a family , can decide what you ' d like to do together like if your daughters want to meet him , if your wife would like to assist your ex and your son seek medical treatment , etc . That ' s about it . <| sep |> I always say this and it always gets me insulted but , please . Within reason , if you suspect cheating , report . Ideally , they will never ban someone unless it ' s absolutely unanimous that they are cheating . If they aren ' t , then they have nothing to worry about . <| sep |> Never enough good rockabilly in the world ! <| sep |> I just didn ' t know what I was going to do with myself and had started to semiseriously consider committing a crime serious enough for prison , merely so I could get taken care of and have all responsibility for myself removed . I actually think about this every day . I can ' t really deal with responsibility anymore and I ' m afraid I might fall through the system when my mom dies , whenever that may be . I suffer from depression , but I ' m so far gone that I ' m incapable of getting myself the help I need . The thought of a rehabilitation centre , where I get a normal , healthy daily routine , is very appealing . But I know getting an appointment with my doctor takes seven to twelve months right now . Rural areas here in Germany don ' t have many mental health professionals . And I ' m too ashamed for my lack of clothes to check myself into a mental health facility I ' m broke and currently own one pair of trousers and one that ' s ripped in the crotch area , and a handful of shirts . That ' s why there are only two thoughts that are comforting anymore prison , or death . May I ask how you managed to overcome your thoughts ?