You can ' t change anyone besides yourself so stop trying to change him . Either come to terms with this cycle or end it . <| sep |> Here ' s his post about the cat with Assange . <| sep |> I know you ' re not religious , and I know a lot of people here aren ' t , but I am . I don ' t want to get into all the hocus pocus of beliefs in an afterlife and how dreams tie in , but I do believe they are ways we can connect with our loved ones . And even if that ' s all a lie ? Well , it gives me some solace and peace , which is what ' s important . So , really , the most important thing about this dream is what it means to you . I do hope that you ' re able to find some peace in this and know that your wife loves you and your children dearly and absolutely wants the 3 of you to have the most amazing lives possible . It ' s ok to hurt , and to keep hurting , but there is a beautiful life that she still wants for you .