My dad was a hypochondriac , too , and liked to use his illnesses , real or perceived , to garner sympathy . I try not to go too much in either direction , I really try not to be the complainer type that makes dramatic statements about everything going wrong in life . His mental illnesses did rub off on me , though , particularly social anxiety and such , so I ' ve also been trying to struggle back against that . There are a lot of factors , but yes , behaviours such as this are often learned . <| sep |> I find comfort in the similarities between your innerjewishgrandma and my own mother ' s mexicanmama worries . Now I don ' t feel her concerns are such harbingers of doom <| sep |> It would just be my Facebook feed <| sep |> This can be construed as condescending a lot of the time . I don ' t see the attachment you sent Obviously you don ' t , it ' s not attached . They ' ll realize they didn ' t attach it . They know you don ' t have magic eyeballs that cannot see attachments . It sounds like a passiveaggressive way of pointing out their mistake .