That ' s the million dollar question no one can seem to get a clear answer for . I was just told to find my retention guy and ask him . <| sep |> Dammit . You just reminded me that my ex was supposed to draw me nude years ago . But she took the pictures and never did the drawing . I really wanted that drawing . <| sep |> when someone has a mental illness , back away and throw in the towelThat ' s not what they are saying . They are saying that if someone is institutionalized because of mental health issues , then that person needs to focus on getting better . You need to be able to be supportive towards her without needing anything in return right now , because she is not in a place to be there for you . If you can ' t accept that she needs to focus on herself instead of you for a while which is understandable , then yes you need to step back . If you don ' t you will grow more resentful towards her which is bad for both of you .