Well it ' s easy when you ' re just pulling from the list of people who have kissed your ass the most . <| sep |> My method is to beat it rationally . When I have anxiety with something , I try to rationally determine if that anxiety is helpful or harmful . So far it has all been harmful . Furthermore , the things I ' m afraid of are trivial . That satisfies my Ti need to categorize things , and when I realize my anxiety is back , I can quickly remember that I ' ve determined that it is absurd , and so I can break out of it . Once a fear has been trivialized , like I don ' t actually care how random people in the mall think I look , even if I do look weird , which I don ' t , then it really has a hard time sticking and it falls away . As thinkers we don ' t have much success with beating anxiety by feeling good , as others can . I personally need to base things on fact before I can truly accept an idea .