I keep seeing this , but don ' t they have archives about what is changed ? I doubt they could do what you imply . <| sep |> He might have , and now is actively trying to cause you emotional damage making you feel unwanted , undeserving , insecure , etc . so that you try to win back his affections andor grow to expect that as how you should be treated . Or he might be treating you like this because he ' s no longer invested in the relationship and is trying to get you to break up with him . Or he could be angry at you and trying to punish you for it , without telling you why he ' s angry or acting like a grownup . Are any of those options a reason to stay with him ? Whichever it is , the point is that he ' s treating you like crap and is okay with doing that . You love him , you were with him for two years , so I can see why you might want to give him a chance to shape up , but . well , I don ' t think he ' s going to , or he would have already . I think the conversation you might need to have is less why are you doing this and more yeah , I ' m not going to have a boyfriend that acts like that to his girlfriend .