I cut down this tree in my backyard . Then I cut it into 8 ft 2 x 4 ' s and 8 ft 1 x 10 ' s . I then used that wood to build a treehouse in the nearest neighbor to the tree I cut down . They were the same type of tree . I likely killed the child or parent of one tree and then mounted it ' s dismembered carcass in it ' s parent or child . <| sep |> I usually say something along the lines of thanks for all the natives that died so we could have this meal my family and close friends get the joke , but if we have people over who haven ' t had thanksgiving with us before usually get shocked or uncomfortable <| sep |> While I agree this is unacceptable , I ' m wondering if a talk before might alleviate some worry . It sounds like the player has had adversarial DMs and they have carried that combative playstyle into other games . The player obviously doesn ' t trust the DM , but why ? Did he have a DM who constantly shifted values just to make them fail ? Is their past with DND one rife with terrible DMs ? Talking them through trust issues before the game starts might benefit everyone . If the player still demands you show your roll first , then punt them . They have no reason to not trust you and you tried working with them .