Are there still vacant excircuit city lots in cali ? <| sep |> I know our losses are very different , but I know what you mean here . My SIL knows about both losses , and after the first one she wrote me lots of supportive texts . This time , she hasn ' t said one thing to me . It ' s hard not to be upset about it . Last time we had told everyone I was pregnant so I had lots of eyes on me afterwards and lots of follow up from people seeing how I was , which was both nice sometimes and also made me feel under a microscope . This time hardly anyone knew so the responses have been almost nonexistent , but even more so is the absence noted from the people that do know in a time where I could absolutely use the support . Loss is so weird . I don ' t know why it ' s so hard for other people to acknowledge . It just makes me feel more broken that this is something that seems like we can ' t talk about like I should feel shame instead of support .