Asking people out . Every time . I ' m pretty solid with everything else life throws at me , but all the self esteem and confidence regresses when it comes to asking someone out . <| sep |> If you like them like that no problem , I was just answering because you said you haven ' t find a way to fill them without looking obvious . <| sep |> Uniqueness is hard because chances are , while two genuine people aren ' t likely to share all the same views any unique quality of a single person will be found inon other people too . I think what makes a person unique is when they have the confidence to be genuine and really live their truth as corny as that sounds . I personally find it somewhat simple to spot these people because they are unapologetic and a lot of times don ' t seem to fault other ' s who they perceive to be the same way even when their own points disagree . I don ' t know if that helps or makes sense . TLDR I think a genuine acceptance of self , respecting other people trying to live their truth even if a person disagrees with their idea so long as the other person ' s truth is not rooted in the oppression of someone elseviolence towards another human , and just a real confidence not douchebaggy shallow asshole confidence and a step above faking it till making it . To me this is what makes people shine .