i don ' t know why you can ' t summon me . i don ' t know if i ' ll be able to help <| sep |> I myself did a ten year stint in the coal mines for trying to recycle a Dr . Pepper can . I ' ll never forget the sound of the concussion grenades coming through my window when the SWAT team came for me , or the noise their tank treads made as they rolled up the driveway . <| sep |> Or use a proper mug which is made of thicker materials that can withstand rapid temperture changes . Source my house is always at 60 or lower in the winter . <| sep |> grey Devil Horns ? <| sep |> This short , glib , answer ? I always find the quickest way to solve this problem is to move on to a new crush but then you may end up obsessive over this new person too , so . not idealThe longer answerThe only way you are going to move forward with this is if you accept that the two of you are never going to happen like that . To continue to hold out hope which , really , is what you ' re doing when you reflect on what was and keep seeing her with rose tinted goggles is only going to stunt your growth and keep you from living a full , enriching life . I speak from experience when I say I know it won ' t be easy . Everything just seems so . right , almost poetic , when you consider the two of you together . The allure is magnetic and consuming . Even worse , she gave you her attention and her love , just not the kind you were looking for . I ' m sure there have been times when you couldn ' t stop your thoughts from coming back to her , her , her , no matter what you tried . But in the end you can ' t have her . Not like that . So how do you deal ? Well , first you admit it . Tell yourself over and over again until it is imprinted on your skull , We will never be more than friends . We will never be more than friends . We will never be more than friends . Make it your mantra to repeat every time your thoughts drift backto her , or you when you get tempted to reach out , or those lonely nights when your bored or drunk and looking for a glimmer of hope . We will never be more than friends . By repeating this statement over and over , it will become easier to accept it as the truth you are trying so hard to accept . But that ' s just one piece of the problem . In true INTJ fashion , you will want to have some semblence of progress . At times like these , I find we all tend to thrive by way of relentless selfimprovement . Make yourself so good , so amazing , so attractive , so interesting and compelling , that the next time you find a girl you can ' t get out of your head it will happen , again and again , she won ' t say no to you realistically , this isn ' t totally in your control , but you are bettering the odds in your favor . I want you to really dig in and develop yourself to the point where you can look into the mirror everyday and think , Fuck yeah , I ' d date me . Whether it ' s hitting the gym , developing your values , finding purpose , building skills , getting money , or something else or all of the above , make it your mission to be a better and therefore more attractive person every day . Work hard for the love you will eventually give and the person or people who will be deserving of that love . Eventually you ' ll come to realize how much you ' re worth , and that the girl you ' re thinking of right now really isn ' t worth what you got because she doesn ' t want you . Also remember , you are young . SO young . The fact that you haven ' t gone to college yet means that you have barely seen a fraction of this wide world . You are going to have the opportunity to meet so many amazing people , and will change in ways that shall shock you . Don ' t let one girl get in the way of you living life to the fullest . Keep trucking on , keep fighting for the love story you deserve .