One of the comments mentioned that it ' s the controller that might be the source of the poor performance . <| sep |> Except getting a wife and kids isn ' t the solution to lives problems , is just a western social construct , if you look outside your bubble you could find people leading lifes with vast different objectives than have a family . There are people that live by their own in La Patagonia , there are Buddhist monks , fucking Isis fighters . These people are not thinking about Thanksgiving dinner with their families , they have other objectives and other meaning to their lives , extreme examples of course , but through human history is completely observable that not everyone was born to reproduce and have families , that is just how you are programed by your context .