If she was actually attractive , she might have gotten away with it . <| sep |> TBH , this keeps me from getting close to people in friendships , too . I have enough of my own problems , I can ' t be the constant emotional support and encouragement of another person . It seems like there are so many people ' coming out ' as having thisandsuch mental issue or problem . On one hand , I think it ' s good to raise awareness that mental issues are super common , but on the other , bigger hand , I hate it because it always seems like a plea for attention and reassurance . I want all relationships to be equal , I ' ve had too many and too many with close family members that end up with the other person being a constant sponge or vacuum for sympathy and support . Too much take , too little give . I don ' t have time for people who feed off of attention and need it like they need oxygen .