Good question . you must first acquire the sense of muscular relaxation . have a sense of what your body feels like when you are emotionally calm and stable for example when you are alone and doing yoga , or when you are doing some bag work with ease and lightness . Once you are familiar with this sensation , you will learn how to replicate this feeling at will . Over time as you practice it over over and over again , you will understand the causes and effects of relaxation at a deep level . About the pelvic tilt , yes you are to consciously control it . at first . Over time it will become second nature , because biomechanically it is the natural way to perform the kick . <| sep |> That ' s a overpay bud , Plus I ' m not getting rid of the BMs for a BM that looks bad imo . Sorry