Who gives a shit ? <| sep |> At the pub and I ' m the only one watching the game <| sep |> You do not need to apologize . This is a perfectly reasonable conversation to have and frankly I wouldn ' t be responding if I didn ' t find it interesting . That being said , Seneca was wrong . Yes , in many situations it is better to cool off before you respond . But in many others it is just as important to show someone that you are angry with what they did . Not in an uncontrolled or abusive way , but in an honest and real way . Furthermore , we often do have the ability to control or more accurately influence the situation like when we are dealing with someone who cares if they have hurt us . Meaning , if they know how much it bothered us they will change their future behavior . But it all comes down to the concept that feelings are ultimately not what is negative . Anger has its place , so does sadness . Learning how to express these feelings in healthy and constructive ways is part of the process of becoming a healthy and complete human being .