What are the certs ? <| sep |> which some say I am too young to knowThese people are stupid and hold outs that you will have kids they can interact with . The other people are people you don ' t know and think having kids makes life meaningful If anything its the opposite . For starters , you are young . This means you shouldn ' t want kids . Lots of people who would tell you that you are too young to know are the same people who would support you having kids right now . Why are you worried about rushing having children ? Also , adoption is a viable thing to do in future if you and your spouse can ' t conceive due to age . just maybe I could put up with a tiny useless human for herThis is an irreconcilable difference . I would honestly be saying Do you want to completely take care of the child with out help from me at all ? Because if you don ' t , we shouldn ' t have kids . I ' m 29 , I ' ve realized if I have kids it will be some time after I ' m 40 , have a retirement plan I don ' t have to put any more money in order to retire , a house with no mortgage , have traveled as much as I want , own most of the things I want if not all , and done all the things I want to . If I don ' t manage this by 40 , then it will be 50 , and so on . I ' ve accomplished quite a few of my goalsI ' ve seen kids flat out ruin some peoples lives . I ' ve seen not having kids save other peoples lives . My sister has 5 kids , and shes fucked for life . She has no hopes of ever doing anything she wants to , she just has to sit there and support her kids . I remember back when she had one , and it took her finances from her effectively having all the money she could ever want She made 15 . 50 an hour at 18 to having not nearly enough . As per her own account it felt more like she had money for bills , food , her car , and her kid . I didn ' t have kids , I make almost no money , and I ' m perfectly fine . I have money to spend on myself . I couldn ' t make this up if I tried , but I have married friends who have one or two kids who make 25 dollars an hour combined with their spouse but are far more broke than me , and I make just over minimum wage .