I think you ' re overdoing it . <| sep |> Make great again <| sep |> Thanks for this heads up ! !<| sep |> I ' m a mixed race adoptee , half Asian and half white . Long story short my adoptive family is actually very racist and I moved out of my home when I was 16 to live with my boyfriend who was Asian . I did this to find a sense of identity becuase I was treated differently my whole life and experienced alot of racism . My adoptive family would just keep looking the other way , and as soon as I could talk I remember asking them where I was from . In truth it messed me up greatly to grow up and not know where I was from . I got called a gook and a chink and I couldn ' t even say with certainty if that even applied to me . More often than not I was teased for being Hispanic . When you actually know who you are , it is easier to recognize the racist intentions of other people , but when you grow up unsure of your own race it just throws you into a messed up tailspin . Find out as soon as possible for your child . He needs to know his identity as soon as he can becuase otherwise he may grow up denying , hating , or downright feeling ashamed of not knowing who he is . It took me a decade to finally feel okay in my skin and I ' m still not , as I dont actually know where exactly my birthfather is from , and it doesn ' t help my adoptive parents just tried to push me to pass for white . It was surreal when I was 7 and being told I was Asian , it was like having a rug ripped out from under me and the whole world both making more and less sense . Even if his birth parents won ' t tell you , just get a DNA test for him and let him choose how he identified and support that and find ways for him to connect to the community he closely identifies with .