I love your last line I want everything I do in my wedding to have a meaning , nothing is just because . This is so on point for me . Every time I say I ' m not doing something , someone says But it ' s always donethat ' s the way it ' s done . And that TOTALLY grinds my gears . I do NOT care if that ' s the way EVERYONE else has done it . If it ' s not special or meaningful or important to me , it goes . Biggest thing is flowers , I think they are SO expensive and they die quicklyare wasteful , so I ' m just not having them , for the aisle , for the alter , for bouts and corsages , and especially not for a bouquet . As a result , I ' m not having a bouquet toss , it always made me uncomfortable , so I ' m not passing that tradition on . And I agree with you on the cake , so I asked my mom to make my favorite cake from my childhood and I asked his mom to make his favorite cake as the groom ' s cake . Huge price saver and something that is just not that important to me to have a baker make a huge , expensive cake for . You asked for traditions we are doing , but I could only think of the things I am happy to do away with for the sake of simplicity and emphasizing the point of the day the marriage .