There ' s a few factors at play . First and foremost it ' s because I don ' t really have an interest in being in a relationship for the time being . It might seem a bit heretical to say , but I ' d rather focus my time on doing other things than looking for , landing and maintaining a relationship with someone . I ' m not lonely enough to want to seek it out , and I ' m not prepared to invest the time and effort into becoming sufficiently attractive to have a reasonable chance on the relationship market . If the right person comes along and we hit it off , just by happenstance , then okay I ' d probably be interested in that , but the chances of that are remote enough that I ' d deem it highly unrealistic . Likely as not , the situation will change in the future . I may start feeling lonely or something . Whatever it is , it ' s going to have to be a powerful enough motivator to actively seek it out , and settle for something attainable , because if the status quo remains , I ' ll do fine without a relationship .