Just grooming and fucking <| sep |> so many new items Oseems to be getting the hang of it tho <| sep |> No matter how much you prepare it still sucks balls . I hope for the best for you , but worst case , make the most of the time you have now . cliche i know <| sep |> I didn ' t want to have kids when I was in my 20 ' s . I really didn ' t . My girlfriend did , though , but we kept saying ' later , when things are more stable with our education jobs etc . ' it was fine , I didn ' t really think about it much . I ' m not really sure how it happened , but we ended up agreeing to start trying , and I never really looked back . I can say that I wasn ' t as into it as my thenwife was before my first daughter was born a little over three years ago . Once she started laughing , crawling , walking and just generally being fun to be with , I was completely convinced . I ' m happy my wife ' wore me down '. That said , I completely understand that some don ' t want kids , and I think it would be awful to try to pressure others into having kids if that ' s not what they really want that ' s how you get apathetic parents , and in the end , shitty kids and later on ditto adults . Why would anyone want that ? I understand you . I used to be you . Just don ' t think that you ' ll never change your mind it can happen . Kids are awesome , but so is not having kids I could argue for hours for both sides of that argument , no joke .