I think that certain political persuasions throw around charges of racism willy nilly . <| sep |> Raptors were 96 last year and finished with 56 wins and an ecf appearance <| sep |> Don ' t compare it to his sister . Focus on you . Maybe he took thanks , we ' ll think about it , instead of OMG , thank you so much ! to mean we don ' t really need your help . Also , he might not approve of the idea that you are planning something you can ' t afford . He might be willing to contribute , but he doesn ' t want to support making plans that you can ' t afford . You said that FH ' s sister is more put together . My parents are very generously helping me , but we made sure we physically have the money for everything we are doing . While you might not agree with him , he has the right to use his money the way he wants . Maybe your fiance can approach him with a clear budget and proof that you ' ll be able to afford everything else ?