He sounds genuinely oppressive . He doesn ' t value your autonomy , if he did he would have included you on the decision . I can ' t think of a more consequential decision it would be akin to him arranging your own marriage to him and skipping the proposal , just assuming you would consent . You should break it off unless you hate having any sense of independence . <| sep |> I have play with a close female friend almost every day and I have never seen this kind of trash sent to her . As others have said I highly recommend reporting those assholes . I guarantee we are not all like that . <| sep |> Really good deal if you ' r eyeing some of the stuff . Unfortunately , not many staples here . The shoe deals are great if they are what you ' re looking for .