They ' re both just absolutely insane . How did we get so lucky ? <| sep |> Same ! I was very happy when he did . <| sep |> What doesn ' t mean that ? <| sep |> And your gums are bleeding <| sep |> If he ' s really taking a stand then is he paying her when she hounds him ? If he does , then he ' s not following through on his stand and it ' s probably why she keeps doing it . <| sep |> I just had an idea on how to deal with the situation . How about you buy a fine perfumed bar of soap or more than one that ' s packaged nicely . Put a ribbon around it or something and bring it with you the next time you go to visit . Give it to them and say something along the lines of I noticed you ran out of soap so I thought I ' d bring you some or Here ' s a little gift , I hope you like the scent . It will cost a little and they probably still won ' t use it but at least you ' ll have some soap for yourself when you ' re there to visit and you don ' t have to ask any questions that would make you feel uncomfortable . I don ' t know if that would work for you but since you ' re giving them a gift they can ' t say that you ' re rude when you drop the subtle hint D