Shit just get the wireless bluetooth speaker . Also known as the 9 pan . <| sep |> Updated the album so that it hopefully no longer breaks rule # 2 , sorry about that ! <| sep |> True . All the best OP <| sep |> Liking the same music as me . When I was a teenagerearly 20 s this was weirdly important . Now I don ' t know why that was . Also , physical attractiveness . I used to only be interested in the most attractive men I ' m a woman , btw , hello men but nowadays that ' s deprioritised . I still need to find them attractive in some way , but when I was younger I was really looking for a man to show off an accessory to make me look good but as I ' ve matured I ' ve let go of silly things like that . But I ' ve introduced dealbreakers that weren ' t there before , I guess because as I ' ve got older I ' m now looking for serious relationships and because I ' ve learned from experience . I ' ve mostly learned I ' m more vulnerable than I think I am and can ' t actually deal with unpleasantness even as a shortterm thing plus , why would I want to ? As a youngster , I would just roll my eyes at a man who seemed cold or critical , think they were a bit pathetic , but back then I thought all men were pathetic anyway so I didn ' t see anything unusual . I didn ' t really think they would be able to do me any harm . Nowadays , if someone seems cold and critical I ' m more aware of my own vulnerabilities so they have been moved from a bit pathetic to a bit pathetic and potentially capable of malice , so I specifically look for warmth and compassion in men now . I guess I ' ve gone from good looking but insecure men who might boost my social status among my teenageearly 20 s friends to never going to be a model , but a kind person I want to actually hang out with . I think that ' s just called growing up , isn ' t it ?