I ' m talking about wilderness . You have to go through a swamp and cross a river just to access it . I ' m not talking about growing on your neighbours acre of land he grows vegetables on . <| sep |> You ' re right that there is a sickness here , its so wide ranging that it means parents and instituions are so stretched or otherwise confounded by so many political or financial problems that its the people without confidence , money or power that suffer . But if your child is assaulted with a fence pailing why would he be out and about until the problem is sorted ? We expect children to deal with things we would not tolerate in our own lives , there is almost always another option . <| sep |> With my uni friend immi , because i am feeling well when he is with me