It most likely will be set at a specific time every weekend we ' re just trying to find the best times for everyone ! <| sep |> Hi There . I am the caregiver for my wife who is dying from pancreatic cancer . This doesn ' t make me any kind of expert , but you might find solace in knowing that what you are going through is pretty typical of someone in our position . Sometimes knowing you are not alone helps to validate in an odd way . This might be especially true for those of us who don ' t have a close network of friends and family to lean on . The emotional rollercoaster is hard to cope with . I can relate to everything you said , especially the nothing part . I have deleted several lines of text as I try to explain the not feeling , but nothing seems to sound right . I sometimes wonder if I am trying to adjust to some state of being that I can ' t quite calibrate to . Don ' t be afraid or guilty of making things easier on yourself . You have to find a new normal , and it probably won ' t look like anything you imagined it would be . Your mom needs to be comfortable , but that doesn ' t necessarily mean it comes at the cost of everything else . Planning will be a bitch , mostly because they won ' t tell what to expect except in general terms . Nausea , lack of appetite , sleeps a lot , etc . will only get you so far . I am rambling as I try to find the words to express myself without making you freak out . I tend to be rather pragmatic in my approach at life , but realize this doesn ' t work for everyone . If you would like to talk more , even to just vent please send me a private message .