The only way to get comfortable with each other is to have a good open relationship now . Your parents messed up your chance at that through childhood , don ' t let them keep interfering now . Your dad left him when he was a baby . Theres nothing evil or dangerous about a baby . Their reactions to him now are out of selfishness . Keep your parents out of this . Talk to your other brother about it too since you say they ' ve had an ongoing dialogue for a while and it seems to be going well . <| sep |> A new neck workout more like it P <| sep |> This is so true . <| sep |> Go study for your 9 th grade US Government Constitution exam , hun . <| sep |> Wow I have the exact same relationship with an INTJ . It ' s the best thing ever , and I don ' t want anymore at the moment , but it ' s also scary having no security on something so valuable . However , this is never something that crosses my mind when I ' m actually with him so I think it ' s okay . He ' s very cynical and pessimistic about relationships and marriage , but I know that that ' s only because he can ' t come to terms with a lot of what he ' s feeling . I ' m pretty confident that if he wanted to be with someone forever , it would be me . I just don ' t think he ' ll ever get to that point .