My parents are always like , OMG you are so skinny , you should eat more , bla bla . the problem is that I am not skinny , but everybody in my family is just obese , like really everybody is between 80110 kg maybe more . When I gained weight this year due to moving to another country and eating lots of unhealthy food and basically losing my control , nobody even told me that I gained weight . And I didn ' t realize it until one friend of a friend of mine was shocked when she saw me for the first time in like a year . She couldn ' t believe how much weight I gained and she really made me feel like a piece of s that day . After that , I went home directly to my scale to realize that I gained around 9 kg without even noticing it . I mean , of course , my clothes weren ' t fitting me anymore the way the used to , but I really thought it was due to the new dryer silly me . And OMG how hard it was to lose them , I still have 2 more to go back where I was one year ago . Anyway , listen to yourself , if you are not happy with your weight , lose it , if you are super ok with it just maintain , it should be your choice . And people around you love you anyway and try to protect you somehow , but sometimes they overexaggerate .