all the old rules are out the window . Most men arent sure what they want , and they dont even know what they are allowed to do . Its too easy to accidentally offend someone . When men do decide they want a girlfriend , they tend to just play the numbers game . You will not , of course , get the girl you want . but you can ask out like 100 different girls and then pick out of the ones who agree . If you are waiting for a guy to pursue you then sorry but this is a very old fashioned tradition and its totally dead . This is a relic of the old days where a woman was expected to eventually concede to the proper gentleman suitor , so long as he is persistent . These days that behavior is called stalking . <| sep |> As a woman I think I can speak for the rest of women on here that me nor my IUD would touch that with a 10 fit pole .