That ' s a whole lot of crazy ! It ' s amazing that anyone would believe this con man . <| sep |> It ' s not the cp that counts . It ' s how often you struggle <| sep |> I ' m a 14 G and GG when I haven ' t fed in a while and they do fit me , but I agree the sizing is confusing <| sep |> For me the answer has always been perspective . When I was 16 a fire destroyed almost everything from my childhood . That was seriously difficult to go through . I started hoarding what I could because there is no way to get back family photos , the stuffed animal your dead grandparent gave you , etc . Then when I was in my late to 20 s , yet another fire destroyed everything again . Same reason too , which basically devastated me . What little surrivived fit in one medium sized box . I still struggle with letting go of an object and I have been known to crash into almost disproportionate depression when trying to sort or organize objects that I either received or gave to my SO . I have found that the best way for myself to cope with the losses was the use of perspective and technology . First I have to remind myself that nothing is forever . Morbid I know but having suffered through two fires I understand very plainly just how true and fast it can happen . Then I , along with my SO , will either take pictures or video of said object . We then back it up online , because there is a better chance at the memory surviving if there was yet another tragedy . I then try and accept the loss of the physical object . not easy . But then I realize that my SO , family , etc will be in my head or digital format as long as the digital world exists . As I said , I still struggle with this . But , it is getting easier and easier as I remind myself that memories can be captured . I may forget the smell of my favourite book , tshirt , etc . But I can remember how I got it and other memories that went with it . Hang in there . It does hurt at first , but over time . It becomes an object brought up in conversations that brings a smile instead of heartache . For the objects that still haunt you , you can try and embrace the fact that those objects existed in the first place and then consider going out and either getting new objects for what is happening now , or going to happen in the future . Just take care to know that it can lead to hoarding .