Not sure if already asked but can you scan or target it ? <| sep |> These links are updated now . Auto update should work again . <| sep |> Oh sorry , I didn ' t mean to rag on the semi driver , just describe the situation . I ' ll edit my descriptions to make it clear that it was just unfortunate traffic that caused it . It was a little messy traffic situation , just not anyone ' s fault . <| sep |> Yeah that was bad <| sep |> I am sorry , that is a huge downer , but can I play devil ' s advocate and offer some advice ? For the first few years after I became veg , I had a few holiday meals pretty close to this with my own family . My family is very classic rural saltoftheearth ' Murica types . When I went veg , they were pretty much bewildered . Like you , I was very quiet and nonconfrontational about my beliefs and I think that it took a few years for them to even remember I was vegetarian , at least in a meaningful way . So when they cooked the green bean casserole , they added ham and bacon , because that ' s how they always made it , and they just weren ' t thinking about my newish diet . I had to learn to be a little forward about being veg and just ask , Does this have meat in it ? Is anyone bringing a vegfriendly dish ? I tried not to be rude , but I tried to also delicately remind family that I didn ' t eat meat . Now , your husband probably didn ' t forget , so I don ' t know what is problem was , but maybe his family did genuinely forget . Even though you ' ve been veg for 18 months , that ' s not very long for people who you only eat with every now and again . The second obstacle I had with my family was that they didn ' t consider things like chicken broth , lard , or a bit of bacon crumbles as meat . I realize it sounds silly , but I could absolutely see my grandma making vegetarian potatoes specifically for me with chicken broth a few years ago . Chicken broth to her was broth , not meat . They just had a different idea in their minds about what vegetarian was . One of my cousins just went vegan and they ' re going through it all over again learning that no , a pie with no eggs but with a buttery crust is not vegan . So , I don ' t know your inlaws . Maybe they did sabotage your Tday . Some people are dicks . BUT , I would consider if maybe you were a little too softspoken about your vegetarianism and if they have a very weak understanding of what being veg actually even means . Maybe they just forgot or misunderstood .