Glad to hear you are getting help . I hope all goes ok <| sep |> It weighs high up there with other factors . It ' s not the number one thing but it ' s important enough it ' d be difficult to justify everything else without it . Similar in depth to personality . <| sep |> My older brother almost died in an accident he was in a paddle boat and got hit by a drunk driver on a jet ski in the back when I was 7 , and my little brother was 5 . We saw him being loaded into an ambulance and then hooked up to several machines in the ICU . For about 2 years , LB had terrible night terrors . And that was from ONE incident ! Your sister ' s other kids are watching their baby brother , who they ' re probably mightily protective of , go through torture . She ' s ruining all 4 of their lives . I realize you ' re CF and can ' t stand her , but are you an active aunt ? They could probably use a good adult influence and some attention right now . Something tells me that your sister is probably only concerned with baby these days .