This is a messy situation , but you ' re not your family ' s emotional janitor so it ' s not your job to clean it up and make everyone love one another . Your job is to take care of yourself , and once that ' s done try and help your mom . I ' d maybe talk to your dad about the visits , that you don ' t think they ' re productive . <| sep |> no new mode <| sep |> Didn ' t realise it was a reflection and I thought you opened a portal to another dimension . <| sep |> You can ' t leave it like that dude <| sep |> Here is another angle that would be a great solution . I was listening to a story about inmates taking classes in prison . I think the return rate was reduced by 16 % fpr those that took high school classes and higher for college courses . The courses were hard to get into because of funding . My point is if it costs Texas $ 20 k then for every 3 inmates that does not go to prison would pay the salary of a teacher in a local school . If they increased the number of teachers in poor schools and fewer kids ended up in prison it would be a win win . If more teachers in prisons keeps more released inmates from coming back that is a win . I sounds like a plan that will pay for itself .