Well , birthday candles are the extent of most people ' s fire experience . <| sep |> They never used the light , so . OrandThey ALWAYS change the bulbs , everytime , all the time . For you . Because they love you . And do everything for you . Edit . Add words <| sep |> The Wind Fish in name only , for it is neither . <| sep |> What does that title even mean ? <| sep |> At least Scyther has a gen 2 evolution . Fucking Jynx . <| sep |> Make it in the shape of a ferris wheel , that ' ll get Dougie Ford on board . <| sep |> I don ' t know how the chow could be described as excellent if it has a little sawdust in it . <| sep |> Ah cool . 2 jz ' s go like a shower of shit . good move <| sep |> They also set the goalposts for themselves and expect you to make their goals . She didn ' t move the goalposts , she just threw obstacles in the way . Is the family functioning well and everyone ' s organised and on time ? GOOD ! Let ' s subscribe to a ton of weekend activities just to make sure that there is a huge backlog of shit to do that doesn ' t get done , then bitch that nothing gets done ! Baiting you , typically with an innocuous , albeit sometimes sarcastic rhetoric or commentary . Yup , it ' s actually one of the worst tactics for me . I ' d feel pain in my frontal cortex if I say nothing back at her . I still do have an urge to talk back at her , but I keep reminding myself that it ' s a trap . almost always disguised as innocence or jokes . She ' d do a fake giggle after every sentence when she ' d make those condescending observations about what she didn ' t like , even if she was talking down on me . I was so fucking blind to it really . Now when she does it , I can ' t help me think How the fuck did I miss that for so many years ? Destructive Conditioning and it ' s a doozy . Oh boy did my wife work hard on that one , but I never really believed her . I ignored her and hid my bad habits . Video games after the kids go to sleep ? Oh she thinks it ' s a bad thing and I ' m a bad husband ! Whatever bitch , I ' ve told her since the beginning that it was NON NEGOTIABLE . I never believed her for that one . I just thought she was trying to impose old school mommy rules on me . It was also one of the first things that made me snap out of it . One night I was being extra cautious to hide that I was playing games and I thought Why the fuck am I doing that ? I ' m a grown adult father . It was one of the recent key moments where I started looking at my wife differently , just before I found out about BPD . Another thing was marijuana . It did me a lot of good , got me to stop drinking , got me to lose weight I swear ! and got me to really feel good about myself no need to get high , just a tiny bit works great . She hates it ! Ya . she hates it that I stopped drinking . She didn ' t criticize me for my drinking . Thanks honey for enabling my bad habits ! Relaxing . HA ! If I sat on the sofa by myself for too long , I was being lazy . She ' d say something along the lines of Can you do SOMETHING ! ?, not that she takes 3 hours to fold one basket of laundry while watching her shows . Being on a diet . She hates it that I eat differently than the rest of our family . She even buys me fast food on Fridays and tries to make me have a guilt trip if I don ' t eat it . She ' d say I bought you this food because I love you and you won ' t eat it ? ! She made me not have any female friends since very early on . She said I was BAD for talking to other women . I believed she was just being jealous and gave up on female friends . Now . well I don ' t have time for friends