Maybe that ' s the case in a liberal bubble , but the stats don ' t bear that out . l e s b i a n s m o r e a c ceptedbysocietythangaymen Even as society has become more accepting of homosexuality overall , longstanding research has shown more societal tolerance for lesbians than gay men , and that gay men are significantly more likely to be targets of violence . That research also has found that it ' s often straight men who have the most difficult time with homosexuality and particularly gay men says researcher Gregory Herek . <| sep |> I really suggest finding a therapist . As hard as it might be to admit , you might be an alcoholic . Reading this , of course , I don ' t have a ton of information , and I am not a doctor , but all your fallbacks seem to have started with alcohol . You did it once , you can do it again .