Yeah I have a 144 hz monitor , and thanks . I play this game all the time and I ' m on a pretty serious team so it ' s worth the investment . <| sep |> Maybe she has some fantasies or something that you can do for her . Relationships are givegive , or best that way , at least . Make it about doing something for her , not about trading her fantasy for yours . When you go out of your way for her , she ' ll recognize that . Talking about what you want is better received when she ' s pleased . Maybe she ' ll watch porn with you , let her choose if she ' s that bold . Also , she probably has huge anxiety built up about this . She ' s fearful , she ' s afraid , she ' s judging herself based on expectations that she thinks she ' ll fail at . Women are adventurous , just afraid of being judged and pressured . Maybe ask her to tie you down , blindfold you , and she ' ll feel less pressured when she has control . Best of luck !