Good trade for you <| sep |> You let the kid find out on his own . Heshe comes to you eventually and asks you to give it straight . You tell them congrats , you ' re a big kid now . Most children will think back and appreciate what their parents did to keep it a secret . Anyway , I agree , in most cases this can easily be a life lesson . And sometimes strengthen the bond between child and parent . <| sep |> Thank you for the answer and the manual ! <| sep |> I just wanted to clarify that I feel like I ' m doing the same thing , but it ' s being dismissed for the wrong reasons . It probably came off as aggressive , but you and I both seem passionate about resolving misconceptions about our buddies . <| sep |> Haha therapy with Emily .