The divorce rate has been declining , but is still high . It ' s nowhere near the 1 in 2 that people believe however . Ut was very high when divorce was legalized because it was finally availible for people to get out of bad marriages . A divorce isn ' t the ending of a happy marriage , it ' s the ending of a bad one . My parents divorce devstated me at first , but it was good for me in many ways . They fought all the time , and I was crying and afraid so often as a child from it it was truly terrible . That said , divorce is caused by many factors that need to be accounted for before a marriage is set in stone . Compatibility opposites attract is not true , it causes conflict of opinion and feelings , maturity are they ready for this level of committment , psychological issues do both parties or one of the two suffer from depression , anxiety , bipolar , etc . , money are both parties capable of supporting the lifestyle they want to live , and more . Some relationships are never going to lead to a healthy marriage , and end in divorce because of so many factors . Marriage can ' t be taken lightly in the sens that it is an expectation to be married at some point . You can get married within one year of dating or ten years of dating , but there can ' t be a pressure to commit on such a level since , a commitment of that caliber has to be completely mutual otherwise the foundation of the relationship may start to rust . Spending the rest of your life with one person exclusively is a bit of an unrealistic assumption that we put plenty of faith in . To be married for 50 plus years is wonderful , but in the world of today that isn ' t necessarily something many folks want furthermore , it ' s less forced on them by dogmatic belief in a sanctity of marriage in comparison to a more logical approach to desiring a marriage with someone you feel an everlasting love towards .