I love this so much . Thank you , I wish more people realized this . So sick of being accused of being a rinser any time I mention that my SD have always give me my allowance long before we are intimate , and that it is never contingent on that . Sex and money have always just been background noise in my arrangements to what is usually a really fun and diverse relationship . They genuinely enjoy spoiling and providing for me and investing in my future , and I genuinely enjoy spending time with them . Nowadays so many men ' s view of what they want in an arrangement is the very straightforward sexmoney PPM , and then chastise anyone who is different . I just feel that it ' s a little hypocritical because they are very open about the fact that their driving force is sex , yet any woman who is openly money motivated is looked down on or called a rinser .