I don ' t care what states decide what . Battleground states ALREADY decide the entire election . And they have different wantsneeds , but they are also severely outnumbered so . <| sep |> Nobody even called the cops ! Apparently fun felony <| sep |> you ' d be an idiot to cop that shite <| sep |> She didn ' t single out the working class . She simply acknowledged the phenomenon of white privilege . Making this out to be some sort of insult against white people is part of the problem . Try to understand it . <| sep |> Have you read this sub ' s rules ? I ' m here to vent , not to be criticised . I don ' t know if you even read my post . You don ' t think that objectively , losing a child is worse than maybe not getting a house sold though you don ' t need the money from it ? Really ? Even so , I don ' t disregard her sadness , it may be genuine , but that is not the point . The point is I made perfectly clear to her that I need time alone , I set boundaries , and she disrespected them . It ' s not really a game of whose loss is worst , it ' s a matter of me yet again bending to what ' s important to her , and her not respecting what ' s important to me . If she was a genuine person with any empathy for me she would not have to threaten and manipulate me to forget my sadness for hers . She would comfort me for my hard time and then share her own current hard time . If she had asked me nicely to come visit it would have been a different situation altogether . About the money , no I didn ' t have to take them , but what do you know about my financial situation ? Our inability to cover bills and food , our debts growing every day , our apartment losing power , having to take loans from friends , having to choose between buying food and gas , being unable to move to a decent apartment in a decent area , all this are the reasons my SO and I decided we can ' t start a family now no matter how much we want to . I have lived on water and crumbs at times in my life rather than accepting any money from my family , it ' s something I hate and dread to do . The fact that I ' m accepting this money now is living proof for just how bad our financial situation is . If I can get money that will keep the debt collectors of our backs for two more weeks that is time that I can buy , or choose to descend even further into poverty . The fact that my Mom offers this money only when it ' s suitable for her and sister , and not say two month ago when we scraped together change and skipped dinner to buy a pregnancy test is I think statement alone that this isn ' t normal behavior from a supposedly supportive parent . She offers it only because she knows I ' m in a situation where I swallow my pride rather than endure another day of obsessing where I ' m going to find my next meal . So because I don ' t decline money the one time it ' s offered to me and I really need it , I ' m not allowed to feel sad about doing it ? If you know how N ' s manipulate with everything from feelings , guilt , monetary possessions and sweet talk , you would know its not always easy to say no , even as a perfectly adult person , because the N ' s trigger our buttons and know exactly how to keep us doing what they want well into our adult lives . Maybe comparing my grief with my sister ' s came off as equally N behavior . I can understand that and it wasn ' t how I intended to put it . That was my mistake if I didn ' t make that clear enough . I am just frustrated that they would compare them to begin with as I feel again belittled and like a child . The fact that I ' m a 29 year old adult going along with this was one of the reasons I feel so fucking bad right now . If you wanted to achieve pointing that fact out to me , I can assure you that fact is perfectly clear to me and my whole mind is screaming it to me since the second I woke up this morning . A person doesn ' t just become emotionally stable and automatically adult because of the digits in their age . That ' s one of my struggles to grow into a functioning adult so thanks for minimizing all the work I ' ve done with that . My worst fear is becoming N or acting like these people that ruined my life . Maybe you ' re coming from a place of concern but I want you to know that I was saddened greatly to read that . Please respect other N survivors . It took a lot of courage for me to even start a discussion here out of fearing responses exactly like yours . So I think you ' re the one that needs to take a good look at this sub , unless you are only here to doubt and judge everyone that are asking for help .