I don ' t think he learned his lesson . IMO , it wasn ' t conveyed in any way that he learned anything . <| sep |> Hmmm . the only other thing I ' ve got is that people seem to think that a boy first is ideal , so they guess that way . ? But that can ' t be quite right , because lots of people told me I was having a girl when I was sure it was a boy my husband ' s father is one of six boys , all of whom have nothing but boys , so he can ' t make girls , right ? . and they were right . <| sep |> My wife is originally from Pakistan . She moved here to the states when she was 3 . I met her after high school and we dated for a few months . I was joining the U . S . Army and so I asked her parents if I could marry her because we were madly in love . Her dad said yes and her mom said no because she wanted her to marry a Pakistani man . Fast forward several months . I graduate basic training and airborne school . Constantly in contact with her . Her parents start threatening her if she doesn ' t break it off with me . They go on a vacation to Pakistan to visit family . Little did my wife know that they were taking her there to marry a person she never met or knew . She was threatened and forced to marry the man . She spent two weeks with him and his family after the marriage before coming back to the states . She was home for a week and told her parents she was leaving for class still went to college here in California . She left and went to the airport . Flew to the state I was stationed in . I picked her up . We talked to legal and because the marriage license wasn ' t recognized here in the states we were legally allowed to be married . We married and she was in contact with family that was a supporter of her in Pakistan and they arranged for a divorce and after several months she got papers from Pakistan saying she was divorce from the guy . We ' ve been together 12 years now . Married for 11 years . Madly in love and have two children . My wife went through several years of therapy because of what her family did . Eventually her parents gave up and accepted me and her and are the best grandparents to our kids . Her mom even calls me her son now . We have never talked the situation over with them though . It ' s something in the past that is never brought up .