Mormon purity culture is just toxic but I guess you already knew that . I converted as a teen and left before I hit my twenties but even so it screwed me up a bit . There is a reason gay Mormons are committing suicide at such a high rate . The so called church is in the midst of a reckoning and a large part of it has to do with how they treat gays and lesbians within the faith . Elizabeth S m a r t s m a r t i s s p e a k i n g outagainstthemormonchurch . html has been making some really interesting and heart wrenching talks about how the churches focus on sexual purity is so harmful to victims of sexual violence . I hope her perspective if nothing else helps those who have been in similar situations . Because a lot of people feel worthless after something traumatic like that . Being told you actually , even at no fault of your own , by people you look up to is absolutely devastating .