If it ' s mostly for first dates , or as you mentioned in one of your comments , after parties , then don ' t end up in a bed with them that night . You can end a date with a kissMO but cut it off there . Don ' t go back to either parties apartmenthousewhatever . Not only will you avoid that situation , you will plant some positive thoughts in their head . Instead of them thinking why didn ' t he want to sleep with me ? , it ' ll be more along the lines of that ended well , I ' d like to see him again to try and push things along <| sep |> Fiance shoots down valid options to leave while saying he wants to leave . Actions speak louder than words . Your misery is apparently not enough for him to pick a happy place elsewhere over the comforts of living with mommy . That ' s what I ' m seeing here at least . Edit I missed the video games and not paying rent part . Heed the words of the umadpiratebippy , for she is wise . You landed yourself a mommy ' s boy . Commiserations . Now get out asap for your own sanity . With lots of luck , the boy will wake up and grow into a man . Maybe .