That does not , in fact , constitute the bulk of this conspiracy theory . Perhaps the first paragraph of the link already exceeded your reading comprehension . Alleging that the crux of the theory is what you are suggesting it is simply shows that you are continuing to make literally zero attempt to understand it . <| sep |> how was it so difficult for her to not get a match that didn ' t ask for dowry ? it wasn ' t difficult . she is greedy . wants high earner as groom , but she has nothing to bring to the table . Those guys who are ready to marry to her without dowry , she thinks , they don ' t bring enough to the table . The groom that she chose was result of the play of invisible hands of demand and supply . if he can earn and provide good lifestyle , he doesn ' t need any dowry . human greed is limitless . so your theory that the girl ' s parents pay for upward social mobilityyes . but isn ' t it also true that generally people marry within their own economicsocial group ? group range scope for upward mobility in which case , the scarcity of brides should depress dowry at leastthat is not how world works . Say boy B is the most eligible bachelor available . All eligible match for him say no to dowry . Then one of the girl say hey , I will pay 40 lacs . Boy marries her . Who wins here ? the girl who paid the dowry . Extend this game to macro level , and we have stable system , in which dowry is the norm .