I hate the last of us too . EDIT sorry <| sep |> hahaha , thanks for the laugh and the insight . it ' s good to hear there ' s men who are consistently into sex , sometimes I feel like the media is lying , due to person experience and bad luck . you hit the nail on the head with the road map of talking it out . I ' ve already tried that junk , everything remains heartbreakingly status quo every time . last time we talked it out I admitted that I was nearing the end of my rope , and floated the idea of him allowing me to get some on the side in whatever safe , controlled way makes him not feel threatened . He said he ' d think it over , and I believe him . but I dont know if I ' d be happy with that . I just want my actual boyfriend to want to do dirty things to me . any dirty things . I ' m not picky .