Don ' t get me wrong I empathize with people when they are surprised , but I ' m not sorry for having my boundaries and I ' m not sorry that people who assumed I was a doormat they could walk all over get a rude awakening . I mean I empathize with them because I ' m a kind person but they made an unfortunate and mistaken assumption . Don ' t assume that people are doormats just because they don ' t want to fight over petty things . Just because someone is not trying to dominate you or constantly make you feel less than it doesn ' t mean they are a doormat , maybe they see themselves as equal to you and as neither superior nor inferior . I think it ' s a mistake to interpret someone setting a strong boundary on something as them being triggered . That makes it sound as if their boundary is part of a disorder or illness to be disrespected rather than respected . In reality it ' s healthy to have boundaries . As I said in another post the problem is that people mistake INTPs not constantly trying to get more power , not constantly aggrandizing ourselves but choosing our battles very carefully , for submissiveness and just giving in and being a doormat but that is their own unfortunate mistaken perspective . INTPs are not petty people , we let the small stuff go and focus our energy on the big stuff . When we choose to go to battle on something we decided that that mattered to us a long while ago and that we were prioritizing to fight for that .