Reforming our electoral system is part of the Liberals mandate . <| sep |> I completely understand where you ' re coming from . When my parents were married , my mother ' s uncle sent out letters saying that the marriage was illegitimate because of some feud with someone on my father ' s side of the family . My parents ignored him , but there was a drop in attendance at the wedding . The advice they got at that time is the same I want to give to you Relax . Feuds happen often in families , especially when the culture is such . It seems exhausting when you are caught in the middle . Prove by your actions and the way that you live your lives that his words are utter nonsense . What position does your BIL hold in the family ? Is he fairly richwell respected as an elder ? If he is , it may complicate things , but my advice remains the same . Don ' t complicate things by running to try and counter every last letter of his nonsense . Be the bigger person and do not escalate . It will only get him more riled up . Approach an eldercalmly to mediate with your BIL . Especially if you ' re worried about the impact on your younger sisters . And what happened to my mother ' s uncle ? When my parents became successful and happy , he ate his own words to come and see us . He wound up estranged from his closest relatives because of his exasperating behavior . My father ' s younger sister was married to another close family friend . Not every accusation needs to be reacted to . If anyone says anything to you directly , stay calm and explain things . He ' ll seem petty in comparison . Your wife ' s family already seems to understand the questionable character of your BIL if they are trying to avoid estranging your SIL from him . Your reputation seems intact to me .