Yea , and how often do Charr choose friends of other races over an actual warband ? Quite a lot actually . There are many groups like The Company which have the charr treating the group as a warband , so it isn ' t like DE and DE 2 . 0 are unique there , and that ' s not even counting charr in the Orders . Warband is not just some official listing and it isn ' t just being in a warband that is important . It ' s being with their warband . Charr will always choose their friends over a group labeled warband full of strangers . No , they actually don ' t . They act different in different moments which makes them alive , not abominations . I ' m not saying that there is only one way any race can act . I ' m saying that their actions and ways they act are defined by cultural views . Humans from Elona will act differently than humans from Ascalon just as in reality Americans will act differently than Australians in different situations . But with norn , asura , etc . they all live in only two cultures with their race , or Lion ' s Arch . And all the different ways that Marjory and Kasmeer and Canach and Rox act are within the cultural viewpoints and beliefs of their respected groups . And the reason was ? Was it something he could have undertstood later on when he started connecting with her again ? Not showing up after Borje ' s death is not really anything that could be excused , truth be told , and even if her fighting prowess showed to him why she wasn ' t around again , that in of itself wasn ' t the problem or wouldn ' t be for 99 . 99 % of norn it wouldn ' t really give a reason for why she never showed up once in his life . Honestly , knowing that he was robbed of the opportunity to have an actual mother after he juts started hoping that he could actually have a proper mother it ' s even worse than completely reconnecting with a person , since there ' s also euphoria present . You ' re thinking from a standard human cultural viewpoint , however . Celebrating a legend is literally celebrating what that person did while they were alive . It doesn ' t make death any less heavy of a thing as it is to us human . Mostly because we ' re actually sad of being robbed of the future moments with that person and not because the person biologically died . It isn ' t as heavy because norn heavily hold to if they did great deeds , they lived a good life and they should be proud of themselves as we are proud of them . That isn ' t to say it doesn ' t phase them of course it does . If it didn ' t then there wouldn ' t have been a memorial where we told off Eir ' s deeds . But it doesn ' t weigh as heavily as for humans . Because to norn , nothing is better than a glorious death . Similar to vikings , where it would be better to die young and in battle than old , wisened , and with many deeds behind them .