Actually , they can pronounce Rs and Ls . It ' s the Japanese that has problems distinguishing the r and l sounds . <| sep |> This is true which makes me better off then most the people in this sub . I ' m not going to pretend it doesn ' t because I know that ' s unfair . However it doesn ' t mean I know how to socialize well . I met my bf in a weird time where I was very out going , he sort of killed that out of me and isolated me . I was stupid , and the relationship was abusive . Not oh no wouldn ' t listen to me . Like sexual , emotional mind games , ect . He got counseling , did a 180 over all . Things are different now but I didn ' t exactly meet someone who was flawless either . I was an easy target at the time and had nothing left . If I was to go back in the dating world if he left I honestly think I ' d be too dysfunction to start a new relationship and wouldn ' t want to burden anyone .